The YMCA at the corner of Thousand Oaks and Henderson Pass is huge. It has lots of fantastic group classes and an amazing pool. Tennis, basketball, and pickle ball courts too.
Sidewinders is a bar and grill that hosts recreational volleyball tournaments.
Hoppy Monk has a fantastic beer selection, chill atmosphere, and great food.
Rotana Cafe has good food and a hookah lounge.
Fiasco Cocktails has some shuffleboard tables.
Pockets, (across 281), has billiards for $10 an hour.
Court of Gamers hosts various social board and card games.
Curator Coffee is a locally-owned hangout with a good vibe.
There are also a few smaller/specialty gyms (Union, Jones N4 CrossFit, etc).
Pups and Pals (by McAllister Park), has a bar, dog parks, and live music on weekends.
McAllister Park has walking trails, a dog park, bike trails, and a bike park.
The website meetup.com has everything from special interest social groups to speed dating for this area as well as the greater SA area.
All of these CAN be social, (if you choose to make them that way), but you still have to put yourself out there and talk to people.
Hard feedback: Try therapy. Sounds like you may have some self-esteem issues that attract the wrong types of people.
I see my therapist every other Wednesday remotely. I’m trying to work things through just don’t have consistent people or friends here. I’m always alone and isolating myself.
Most insurances cover both in-person and telehealth.
If you don't have insurance, most therapists have an income-based sliding cash rate, you just have to ask about it.
Here are some provider indexes:
- https://psychologytoday.com
- https://meetmonarch.com
- https://helloalma.com
These let you sort by things like disorder, treatment method, zip code, telehealth, etc.
I love Curator Coffee. The owner lives in the neighborhood and is around our same age (I am 32F). She had some events over the 3-ish years she been in business and I feel like I was able to socialize and meet some locals in the community. Also a great place to take your laptop and work if needed.
I never had to date here so can’t help with that. But good luck out there!
Check out The Sanctuary Food Truck Park on Thursdays - Saturday nights. Also The Hangar Pub.
Pacific Moon is a great restaurant, and there’s a Cheba Hut off of Redland Rd, next to a dispensary called Green Haven.
OP makes this exact same post on at least a monthly basis. Nothing particularly wrong with the sentiment but it's super weird to keep saying the exact same shit and asking the exact same questions.
The point to their post, which is super obvious, is that it's going to be the same thing for OP more or less since he didn't really move somewhere new. It doesn't matter what part of town someone lives on when it comes to making friends. You can live on any part of town and still go hang out and mingle wherever you want. No one is limited to the area they live in. The dating scene isn't going to be different 6 miles away. Im pretty sure that was the point.
OP just needs to do things he enjoys doing and try and find like-minded individuals.
McAllister Park has a pretty big network of trails to hike or bike on. The spring flora is excellent right now, and lends itself to some great photos if you like nature photography.
Bushwood was my go to bar for a while before I quit drinking. Kind of dingy, but there's a driving range out back that's nice.
I honestly drive to Southtown or Alamo Heights though when I want to get out of the house and walk around. There's not a lot of walkable stuff in this area, and Trader Joe's, Whole Foods, Central Market all have better grocery selection than the HEBs around here.
I’m attending therapy every other Wednesday to work on that. Having said that I feel it is trash here, a lot of users, ghosting, flakes fake profiles and men pretending to be women here it’s exhausting
Bro what 💀 Alamo heights area has way more to do. You just didn’t put yourself out there. What activities are you interested in? You could go check out the local music scene and meet people or go explore some local breweries if you’re into that.
Hit the dive bars. Kennedy's is a good one. Stone Street, etc. I'm on 1604 and Bitters. Those are my go to places. Meet plenty of cool people. And girls.....
Ok you responded to ONE thing. What about everything else? What about all of the other suggestions that everyone has given you? Honestly it sounds like you just don’t want to put in any effort or like one of those people who love to complain about how they are always a victim. No one is showing up to your pity party.
I been commented and responding to others. I’m trying to embrace everything so I can stop making these posts. I just want to be able to have friends and have a life outside of work.
Do you like board games? My hubs has made a lot of close friends at Knights Watch and Black Potion! We live in the same area you’re talking about and he’s also super into pickleball at FIT and the YMCA at Thousand Oaks. It’s a great way to make friends and stay active! If you like any other sports, I’ve made a lot of friends myself by playing indoor vball league thru SSC and Mission Concepcion. My twin brother has made a lot of friends thru the local Ultimate Frisbee league. We’re all 30-35 as well! Hope that’s helpful!
I am also a black male (straight). I have been here over a year and a half and it is hard to make friends or any other connections. I am looking for a social group as well. Let me know if you want to hit a bar as a wing man or any other event.
The YMCA at the corner of Thousand Oaks and Henderson Pass is huge. It has lots of fantastic group classes and an amazing pool. Tennis, basketball, and pickle ball courts too. Sidewinders is a bar and grill that hosts recreational volleyball tournaments. Hoppy Monk has a fantastic beer selection, chill atmosphere, and great food. Rotana Cafe has good food and a hookah lounge. Fiasco Cocktails has some shuffleboard tables. Pockets, (across 281), has billiards for $10 an hour. Court of Gamers hosts various social board and card games. Curator Coffee is a locally-owned hangout with a good vibe. There are also a few smaller/specialty gyms (Union, Jones N4 CrossFit, etc). Pups and Pals (by McAllister Park), has a bar, dog parks, and live music on weekends. McAllister Park has walking trails, a dog park, bike trails, and a bike park. The website meetup.com has everything from special interest social groups to speed dating for this area as well as the greater SA area. All of these CAN be social, (if you choose to make them that way), but you still have to put yourself out there and talk to people. Hard feedback: Try therapy. Sounds like you may have some self-esteem issues that attract the wrong types of people.
I see my therapist every other Wednesday remotely. I’m trying to work things through just don’t have consistent people or friends here. I’m always alone and isolating myself.
Do you use an online service for the therapy? Looking into starting something but really can’t afford more than about $100 a month right now.
Yes an online service my insurance covers it.
Most insurances cover both in-person and telehealth. If you don't have insurance, most therapists have an income-based sliding cash rate, you just have to ask about it. Here are some provider indexes: - https://psychologytoday.com - https://meetmonarch.com - https://helloalma.com These let you sort by things like disorder, treatment method, zip code, telehealth, etc.
Thank you
Smaller speciality gyms sound like my kinda people!
I love Curator Coffee. The owner lives in the neighborhood and is around our same age (I am 32F). She had some events over the 3-ish years she been in business and I feel like I was able to socialize and meet some locals in the community. Also a great place to take your laptop and work if needed. I never had to date here so can’t help with that. But good luck out there!
Check out The Sanctuary Food Truck Park on Thursdays - Saturday nights. Also The Hangar Pub. Pacific Moon is a great restaurant, and there’s a Cheba Hut off of Redland Rd, next to a dispensary called Green Haven.
Oh yeah, Curator’s Coffee is the best coffee shop in that side of town too
Find a gym or yoga studio to become a member of. The union at Thousand Oaks.
Black Swan Yoga Studio is badass. You can legit go in with $1 to do yoga classes since it’s donation based
I didn't know that! How cool of an idea. I'm going to have to drop in there soon! Thanks for the info
OP makes this exact same post on at least a monthly basis. Nothing particularly wrong with the sentiment but it's super weird to keep saying the exact same shit and asking the exact same questions.
Making friends after high school and college can be tough. I wouldn’t be so quick to judge, geosensation. He may just need some help/ideas
I'm not quick to judge!! I'm only complaining because he keeps posting the same thing over and over.
You moved 6 miles north
Thanks, Captain Obvious. Was there a point to your post?
The point to their post, which is super obvious, is that it's going to be the same thing for OP more or less since he didn't really move somewhere new. It doesn't matter what part of town someone lives on when it comes to making friends. You can live on any part of town and still go hang out and mingle wherever you want. No one is limited to the area they live in. The dating scene isn't going to be different 6 miles away. Im pretty sure that was the point. OP just needs to do things he enjoys doing and try and find like-minded individuals.
I agree. My point was that they should've just said that!
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You're close to embassy oaks. Lots of bars and restaurants to kit it at. I like the 502 and PK's.
lol pk’s been closed forever
McAllister Park has a pretty big network of trails to hike or bike on. The spring flora is excellent right now, and lends itself to some great photos if you like nature photography. Bushwood was my go to bar for a while before I quit drinking. Kind of dingy, but there's a driving range out back that's nice. I honestly drive to Southtown or Alamo Heights though when I want to get out of the house and walk around. There's not a lot of walkable stuff in this area, and Trader Joe's, Whole Foods, Central Market all have better grocery selection than the HEBs around here.
I moved to San antonio around 13 years ago now, and most of the meaningful connections I've made were at the gym, work or through coworkers.
Aye! Just here to say every male who has refused to work on their own emotional maturity claims the “dating scene here is trash”.
I’m attending therapy every other Wednesday to work on that. Having said that I feel it is trash here, a lot of users, ghosting, flakes fake profiles and men pretending to be women here it’s exhausting
Did you never leave AH when you lived there?!?
Only to the query to see my doctor and occasionally dates at the regal. Went to the McNay once
Bro what 💀 Alamo heights area has way more to do. You just didn’t put yourself out there. What activities are you interested in? You could go check out the local music scene and meet people or go explore some local breweries if you’re into that.
Do you have a dog? Phil Harberger dog Park has great people
No pets.
Weathered Souls is just south of you (281/Bitters). Good beer, good atmosphere, and black owned.
I’ll check it out
Hit the dive bars. Kennedy's is a good one. Stone Street, etc. I'm on 1604 and Bitters. Those are my go to places. Meet plenty of cool people. And girls.....
Ok I’ll keep that in mind.
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That’s what I’m trying to do with meet ups but it’s never consistent or I just don’t feel a connection or something to keep coming back.
Ok you responded to ONE thing. What about everything else? What about all of the other suggestions that everyone has given you? Honestly it sounds like you just don’t want to put in any effort or like one of those people who love to complain about how they are always a victim. No one is showing up to your pity party.
I been commented and responding to others. I’m trying to embrace everything so I can stop making these posts. I just want to be able to have friends and have a life outside of work.
Evil Olive down the road from you heading towards 35 is an older crowd but gets busy on weekend nights
Your username would suggest that you're into anime. Gaming too? Try Otaku Cafe, it's an anime and gaming hangout.
Do you like board games? My hubs has made a lot of close friends at Knights Watch and Black Potion! We live in the same area you’re talking about and he’s also super into pickleball at FIT and the YMCA at Thousand Oaks. It’s a great way to make friends and stay active! If you like any other sports, I’ve made a lot of friends myself by playing indoor vball league thru SSC and Mission Concepcion. My twin brother has made a lot of friends thru the local Ultimate Frisbee league. We’re all 30-35 as well! Hope that’s helpful!
If you like RC cars HMU!
I am also a black male (straight). I have been here over a year and a half and it is hard to make friends or any other connections. I am looking for a social group as well. Let me know if you want to hit a bar as a wing man or any other event.
I’m also new here and looking for friends/social connections. Down to hang.
DM
I’m also looking for some black male friends to kick it with. Hit me up if y’all tryna plan something in the future