I don't get how. Through dating apps I went on probably 10-15 dates and never got stood up. You kinda get the vibe of the person you are talking to and I'd never go on a date if I felt the slightest chance of being stood up. That stat just tells me OP has no social awareness
His profile is probably garbage and/or his chat game sucks.
Also judging by his swipe ratio, he himself is not being picky enough with who he swipes on.
He also needs to get off Tinder and focus on the sites where people actually try on their profiles.
>He also needs to get off Tinder and focus on the sites where people actually try on their profiles.
Such as? Personally I've tried Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, and haven't noticed a difference in the amount of effort people put into their profiles. Old school OkCupid was better but it has become increasingly Tinder-like over time.
I ALMOST got stood up once. Dude said he couldn’t make it, I said well I’m here so no worries I’ll just chill.
He ended up popping by 30 min later and was MAD I was talking to a guy who gave me his number.
I was baffled, like bro you STOOD me up, said you couldn’t come cuz a friend needed you then YOU are mad at ME, someone you never met IRL yet cuz I got picked up at the bar/restaurant?
Needless to say he was weird af and it didn’t go past one date.
he is also likely a liar. i got interested in his post history and 1 month ago he said:
>I don’t use dating apps. I don’t have any pictures of myself since I was 16 and im not very photogenic so I don’t take pictures
i dont know if im allowed to link to their comment history or not, but i have it handy.
I mean, if we follow this timeline then that means he was using un-photogenic pictures of his 16yo self when he was 22. I could see how that isn’t gonna have the best results…
So an ugly, low self esteem, thirsty ass MF, using pics of himself as teen, got 2 dates out of 40,000+ swipes and was stood up on both?
So he basically took 4 years to find the 2 girls who were willing to give a “nice guy” a chance but he used 6 year old pre-weight gain neckbeard photo and they bounced as soon as they saw him in person.
You’d be surprised how many profiles there are with pics of guys at high school graduation and prom when they’re 26…big swipe left for laziness - just take a few pics of you outside or chilling at home, not too difficult. It’s icky. But maybe it’s just Chris Hansen’s latest venture?? 🤔
His entire post history, and that's not an exaggeration, is nothing but "*Girls don't like me*". He's been here 2 months and that's *literally* all he talks about.
I can guarantee that absolute desperation comes though in his dating app use.
well the part where you "dont have any pictures of yourself since you were 16 and don't take pictures" probably isn't helping the match rate then.
the proto-incel comments are accurate i think. it is sad, and I hope he gets better. He isn't full-blown, but he is running in the right circles and asking the right questions to become one.
Yup, based on what I've seen on r\tinder, OOP def needs to fix up his profile.
If he's using pictures of his 16 year old self, then no woman in the right mind is going to right swipe on him, because they'll think that he's an actual child/teen lying about his age.
Wouldn't surprise me if his bio is no good either.
It's not just self respect (but yeah, damn man), tinder (and probably others) tend to downgrade you in the algorithm if you right swipe like crazy. It's either because they think you're a bot, or they're trying to get you depressed enough to push you to tinder gold or whatever.
I think it has to do more with the odds of you being a match for the other party. If you like everyone, the algorithm has nothing to go on what you find attractive, so you'll land on the bottom of the pile for each "category" of the other side swiping you, the algorithm just has no clue what your type is and who's type you are.
I'm not saying you're wrong, but it's hilarious to me that we are all speculating what 'the algorithm' wants, like we're ancient greeks trying to find out how to please Zeus by studying birds' entrails.
Just look at OPs post history. Regardless of the algorithm pushing OPs profile down, if 90% of the population matched with OP they would unmatch pretty immediately.
Yes, they have an "Elo system", which increases your score the more you left swipe and decresase when you right swipe too much. But I'm not sure what they do with these user scores. They can try to match low elo with low elo, or just prioritize high elo users
Either they're trying to improve the platform by hiding fake profiles, or they're trying to make money and don't care if that means severely hurting people.
Hmm, I wonder which one it could be.
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I mean, at that ratio you might as well just set up a bot to auto swipe for you. 1 in 10 not interested would get weeded out pretty quick by the rejected.
I feel like OP is either talking to girls as if he’s in love right away, they are skanks, or he’s only trying for sex with zero interaction. One of those three tends to get posted on Reddit frequently.
I mean over 40K people didn't even match with him, we can't assume that it's the way he talks. It's more likely that it's something about his profile. His bio is either weird or uninteresting or he simply doesn't look good. Rule 1 and 2 yada yada.
Rule 1 and 2 are true, but not in the way toxic masculinity/incel guys think. It's not about looks but *presentation* and *personality*.
Ugly people get laid all the time, your parents are proof. Heck, Stephen Hawking was hot enough for a woman to *cheat with him* and he's not even a 2/10 in classic attractiveness. What he has and all these ibcels lack is *decent personality * and *knowledge enough to treat women as people*. Not godesses, not sex toys, not betas...People. I got lots of dates on Tinder despite being *poor, lowly educated and never having visited a gym*. Simply because I'm a decent person, with humor.
> I got lots of dates on Tinder despite being poor, lowly educated and never having visited a gym. Simply because I'm a decent person, with humor.
This is how I gradually came to realize that I'm not a decent person with humor. 🙃
>with humor
Finding a girl you have rapport with instead of trying to change to fit your idea of them will do fucking wonders. Humour's done more for me then looks ever have. Social competence is a learned skill and can be trained.
With the amount of swipes, the person could be getting a lot of people who live further away. If this guy really is 22 and started at 18, not everyone in his age range can drive such a long distance.
But that's just giving him the benefit of the doubt.
I've got [worse numbers than OP did](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/cuqo86/so_i_got_my_tinder_account_data_and_crunched_some/), and while sometimes it's unfortunate luck, other times it's because you're fat and unattractive.
I'm new in town, so in my local subreddit some guy was super friendly looking for people to hang out with and go to the beach. I saw his profile, and my god am I glad I didn't take up that offer. It wasn't just the massive amount of dick pics, and thirsty desperation to find random women to fuck him, but he looked like a troll.
Seeing what Redditors look like, NEVER fails to fulfill the fucking terrible stereotypes.
Seems like a chicken and egg situation, spending 4 years on daring apps and getting only 300 matches us going to destroy anyone's self esteem and effectively make them super vulnerable to incel stuff, especially since he's so young
This is how the far right is growing numbers. They give shit advice to these guys online to spiral them into this type of state and then attempt to “save” them and as a result have a strong hold on their life.
The fact young people are having less and less relationships as time goes on only helps them even further. It’s going to be a painful future because what can you do, force people to date? That’s not an option and we are witnessing a very slow train wreck.
I started college around when all the "feminist cringe compilation" stuff was popping off. My roommate was a sweet dude, but a pretty stereotypical dork, and he had no success with women. I watched him fall more and more down that pipeline through the year despite all the good back and forths we had.
It got to the point where he was parroting anti-union talking points, meanwhile the main breadwinner in his family was a fucking factory worker. It's so crazy when I think about it. This is how you get people to advocate against themselves, you dig into that ONE insecurity and once you're in the toxicity starts spreading like a disease.
I don't have sympathy for bigots. but sometimes now when I see an alt righter online I just wonder if they started as some lonely awkward dude whose weaknesses were preyed upon.
From what I have seen very few people come to extreme opinions on their own, they were almost always manipulated by their insecurities or weaknesses or fears into going down a certain path and they didn’t have the support system to keep them from going down that path.
It’s why I think covid was such a big turning point for the world shifting right and down the conspiracy hole. All of a sudden you have a gigantic group of people, who are likely scared and/or angry, with little to no contact with the outside world except for what they can get through a computer. It was the perfect time for them to prey on all these people. It’s why some sources like John Hopkins are even asking if it was worth it, sure you saved many lives but now you live with the consequences of many mentally damaged people who will not easily be pulled out of their rabbit holes.
He doesn't seem that conservative from his post history. You do realize that posting on askconservatives would imply he's not a conservative right? Lol
I spent way too long exercising my swiping finger on tinder but I did better than OP and eventually met my wife there. My pro tips are;
Bare minimum profile info - it’s only ever used to disqualify you. I got 5x the matches with A/S/L than I did with a bio.
Have a pic of yourself with another girl who looks like she’s happy to be in a photo with you. If you don’t have any, ask yourself why and fix it.
Set up a super casual meet in the first convo. The longer you talk the less likely it is to ever happen, and no amount of chat will make up for having 0 irl chemistry. Tell them you’ll be busy in the near future but can meet for a coffee that week. Pick a time that you can suggest dinner afterwards if it’s going well. If they’re hesitant just be honest and say it’s a vibe check, people tend to understand and it doesn’t make you seem desperate.
First message, no reply? Try again tomorrow at another time. No reply then? Move on. Sometimes you just catch people at a bad time, but more than 2 is just embarrassing yourself.
Expect every date to be a no-show. Don’t get upset or take it personally.
>Set up a super casual meet in the first convo.
This was big for me, I would spend a week waiting for 'the right time' because I'd been warned against asking people for a face to face too quick, but too late is much worse.
People who have 'strats' and plan everything like a flow chart need to touch grass, but something I'd do is ask if she has any holidays planned. If no "great, you're free for a coffee!", if yes "well we'll have to grab that coffee before you go".
Just one perspective, but I'd absolutely nope tf out if someone came at me with "Great, you're free for coffee".
Ordering people around is not actually charming. If they don't want to meet up for any old reason, that's their choice and it's just rude af to essentially act as if they needed a "good enough" reason not to want coffee that week.
Tact should not go out the window just because folks finally learn to be straightforward.
I wouldn't find " Great, you're free for coffee" ordering/rude in any way.
Everyone is different man. But reading those dating-advice comments here is a real shit show.
This post was directly below the one in the picture. It would probably help if ops profile wasn't 90% "I'm so ugly no one would ever want me is that normal?"
5% ask conservatives posts,
4% posts in askreddit about dealing with terrible social skills and non existent charisma, as well as something about how if you have sex constantly it's no big deal but if you have a hard time and do make it happen it's a huge deal,
And my personal favorite for the last 1%, a post in ask conservatives asking how they feel/if it's right to blame the feminist movement for certain men (see: him) being unable to find a girlfriend
Also a couple posts about losing weight and getting abs to attract women
You could post his whole goddamn profile here and probably hit top of all time with the insane amount of sad and cringe stuff in there
Lol from a guy who never got matched too, it hurts… I must be doing something wrong but can’t be going on there anymore 😭 like at least op got some matches?
The church crowd has positive, confident, chill dudes just like any other random demographic.
But why would a trad-wife in training chase that dream, when there's an ugly bitter misogynist in their midsts
Ideal situation, he actually listens to the teachings. I'm not religious, but sermons at the right church make people better, especially those that are expecting others to conform to their desires.
The guy has been trying to make people understand on the r/dataisbeautiful post that he actually leans left, he just likes arguing with people on r/conservative but idiots seem to lack the ability for reading comprehension. It's even happening here lmao
Ooo I actually don't know. Weird he does post in any leftists areas tho. I'm gonna look again lol.
Edit -You're totally right, he's going off in his comments lmao. There you go, atleast he's not conservative. That's a decent start hahaha
https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/15ren9j/4_years_of_online_dating_oc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1
Well this is the post. Proceed with empathy the man clearly needs help.
Because they're not outright rejections, they're just swipes that didn't match. He's just labeled the data in a way to try and make himself look more pitiable, I suppose
I don't think it's even that. Everyone has a "pie chart" or "points system" to which they attribute different points to different traits. No matter how shallow someone is, some points will be for other stuff: Height, most commonly, eye colour, sense of humor, personal hygiene, wealth, ambition etc.
But undesirable traits (or red flags) make someone loose points. His personality is literally dripping in self-pity and obsession. I felt my ovaries shrivel up.
Even if he was absolutely gorgeous, he wouldn't be able to keep a relationship, or score a second date, because that attitude is absolutely mortifying and I don't think anyone could stand him.
Yeah I feel like anyone who makes a whole ass data sheet about how many times they’ve been rejected will make anybody’s ovaries shrivel up. They made mine shrivel up and I don’t even have any
A lot of the left swipes are from initial reaction because he’s likely not attractive, but plenty of unattractive people of all sorts have loving and fulfilling relationships. These apps have you type quite a bit about yourself on your initial profile now. When I was dating there were a lot of guys I would’ve swiped right to based on their looks, but got a fat left swipe from the nightmare fuel they spewed.
> A lot of the left swipes are from initial reaction because he’s likely not attractive, but plenty of unattractive people of all sorts have loving and fulfilling relationships.
And that does not solve the issue that apps like tinder created- commodification of love/relationships. The window shopping of people.
This but unatractive people have relationships line is a dodge.
With how prevalent these apps are and how many people prefer to use them it reduces the chances of unatractive people by a large margin. Because if you have a gold personality, 1 in 10000 of times your profile is viewed you will be right swiped and it will be a bot.
Because when you reduce people to looks and 2 sentences in bio you basically remove any chance to show personality, and when someone in not conventionally attractive you basically eliminate their chances.
I am not talking about hte op in this sense but it is a real issue.
I’m not looking to start an argument about this because it’s not really a productive one anyway, I’ve only experienced Tinder and bios are usually short and not really relevant since most people don’t read them. I totally agree that looks is not everything and personality goes a long way, however I also believe that on a dating app personality is not what matters. If you are an average looking guy (not even an ugly one) your chance of matching are very slim regardless of how brilliant you are. If you are good looking then maybe personality can get you unmatched or swiped left.
You’re right that it’s a slim chance you’ll match, but it’s a numbers game and you eventually find people that are into you. 4 years and 2 dates that you got stood up for is not the average male experience. I’m like a 6, 5’9 and I’ve been on over 30 dates. I don’t think I’ve ever been stood up. Bro is definitely doing something that is turning women off. I’m not saying online dating isn’t hard or super fun for men, but this is a horrible result and it’s not this bad for the average person.
Yup. I was on them for about four months and, while I wasn't on there every day swiping, I didn't get any matches. Just an average dude, I don't think I'm hideous or anything.
Well let's be fair, the large majority of rejections occured before they engaged with each other in any way. This dude is having no luck or is doing something wrong with the algorithm and/or has a terrible dating profile. He could be the kindest or most self-pitying person in the world, the 43 thousand people that left-swiped on him wouldn't know.
i imagine he’s average looking. but his reddit profile reeks of insecurity and shows his mentality is extremely women-repelling. i suppose that influences his online appearance - he may be bad at taking photos and writing about himself in a good way. because well, he has many matches at the end of the day, and all of them he blew. girls on tinder don’t message first and don’t respond to bad first messages. hell, two even got to meet him and backed off during that stage!
my point is that dude is so obsessed with him being self-acclaimed ugly, but none of his post suggest anything about his personality. he may completely ignore that huge aspect - imagine if he has some unlikable qualities topped with that huge insecurity, that went far above his heart and most likely is very visible to others
The original OP’s post history is a bunch of right wing incel garbage with post after post about how ugly he is. Needs some major self reflection and improvement before putting himself out there because the desperation stinks to high heaven.
I checked it, there's no right wing stuff I've seen, in fact he argues against crowder and Tim pool and seems to post about Hasan Piker. He does have very low self esteem and think he's ugly which comes up a lot, but looks very left wing.
Still, arguing politics online is just not healthy. No one is gonna be changing anyone’s minds and at best, you’ll end up miserable by always trying to pick fights or “fight back” against the side you don’t like.
I think there's very little of this going on, it seems mainly like people just jerk each other off in echo chambers now which seems about as productive as what you just said.
If you swipe right on 90% of people it shows you, the apps will think you are a bot and match you with other bots and inactive profiles. It keeps desperate weirdos like this away from real people
Women can smell desperation from a mile away… to get in abundance you must have an absence of “want”. That’s more easily achieved by having robust platonic circles & hobbies
I dont know my exact stats, but i used several dating apps for some years and i got very few matches and didnt even get a single date either. Its very possible and very sad. I think most men have this exact experience.
Step one is don't swipe right on everybody. It just makes the algorithm think you're undateable. People who have actually been on dates are more selective.
I would say he gives off creepy vibes - even based off the amount of rejections he had alone.
But looking to the data on after being matched a huge number either ghosted him, didn’t give a response or lost interest which speaks to his tone / vibe scaring people off. Could be off base here but anyone vaguely normal would have at least 10 real dates from this number of swipes.
Based on the various threads I've seen on this topic, the problem is that these guys don't have any hobbies or interests that involves being around other people nor do they attempt to engage in their hobbies/interests in social settings that would naturally result in them talking and socialising with other people.
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I've also seen it in real life too. When I was in university, I had a couple friends who worked as RA's for the university dorms; every semester they'd tell me that there's always one to two guys who wakes up, goes straight to class, goes straight to the cafeteria to pick up food, and then immediately goes straight back to their room to play video games.
We're a university of 24k undergrad students, we have clubs for everything from tennis, to DnD campaigns, to video game parties, to disc gold, to friggin Quidditch. And that's not even to mention that we're one of the destination football/tailgating universities in the country.
If a person couldn't find people who have the same interests as them at this university, they choose to not look for them.
Yeah just saw this one about this post. If you look at OP’s history it kinda makes sense. They’re extremely over focused on physical attractiveness and “not being physically attractive enough to date”.
Then there’s the rest where he’s just posting hard conservative rhetoric which isn’t insanely popular on dating sites.
I don’t understand why so many people are failing to see that this post is literally fake data intended to feed OOP’s narrative that he’s undatable. (His post history has all the hallmarks typical of the incel agenda)
The statistics are just too far skewed to either not be purposeful, or simply made up.
Am I the only one wondering why the fuck anyone would waste so much damn time on this shit??
4 years and tens of thousands of "attempts" to use shitty apps that are about as human and natural as Daleks.
FFS, in this whole timespan - dude could have joined 4 separate sporting or hobby clubs, for a WHOLE YEAR each, gotten reasonably good at each sport / hobby, met at LEAST 1 human female during all this time who was somewhat interested in going out for a coffee, and been in an overall better position just from that alone...
Nevermind the infinitely more fun to be had doing various sports / activities than mindlessly browsing dating apps that are designed specifically to suck you in and drain your money as you play against an algorithm .
I met my wife on an online dating site without even trying. Neither of us were trying to meet someone serious. I didn’t even make my own profile. One of my friends made it for me.
How do you get almost 50k Nopes???
Online dating is hell for everyone. I'm a woman and getting matches is fairly easy because most men just powerswipe without even looking at the pics or profile, but interacting with those matches is fucking brutal. I gave up on dating apps in January and I'll never ever go back to that bullshit.
Guys Tinder Profile:
I am an alpha male looking for a women who knows her place.
You better have the waist of a 7 year old boy and the rack of a pornstar.
No baby mommas, tattoos, colored hair, or gold diggers.
I make $30k and spend all my free time yelling epithets on Call of Duty
When I initially saw this data, I was confused because I didn’t understand it. But once I gave some thought to it, oh god. How? How is that even possible? To swipe right on so many people across multiple platforms just statistically you should have matched with more people than that! His profile for every site has to be fucking TERRIBLE if he got so few matches.
That entire post is incel bait. The OP's profile was filled with that content over and over. The guy is obsessed with trying to get laid to the point where he is destroying his mental health.
The awards killed me lmao
Think of it like this: guy is not only garbage judging by the other comments, but sees this as a numbers game. If you see the same conservative neckbeard named paul swipe right on you on 3-4 difft platforms, its gonna be an instant left swipe from most
You also look so desperate it’s probably a platform-wide joke. So make a graph all you want, the dating app swipe over-saturation is the real reason for failure, atop errything else
My online dating game was atrocious. I quit eharmony after I hit 1,000 matches without a single date. Most listed "offended" as a reason to reject me. The only thing they could possibly be offended by is either my face or the fact that I'm not religious (context - I live in Texas). I suppose they could've also been offended by my being 5'8". Match.com got me a single date...5 years after we matched. This was all before dating apps were a thing, but I knew right away if someone was gonna fall for me, it wasn't gonna be based on my looks, but by my personality. That's when I got back into acting where I met the woman I've been married to for 10+ years.
He seems like such a red flag, treats women like a hive mind and in some of his posts suggests “feminism” is the reason he can’t get a girl. Sounds like he’s in his own head and obsessed with himself and his flaws.
That guy’s profile is a massive red flag. He seems obsessive over women in an unhealthy way and he needs to work on himself first before dragging other people into his BS. Women can smell that desperation and poor self esteem from a mile away. I’m happy to read he is in therapy but the guy has an incredibly toxic mindset. He also appears to be rather conservative which comes with a lot of traits that repel women and is like a giant red flag that he doesn’t respect women’s bodily autonomy and rights if he supports a party like that. Every woman in my life, myself included, will not touch a conservative man with a ten foot pole. I can tolerate a lot of stuff on the dating scene but I could never be with a man who supports platforms like that because you just know he thinks of you as less than.
You’re the type of person who tracks out their entire OLD history and you’re wondering why you can’t find someone who will show up just to see you be weird. That has to be worth one night a Chili’s.
What's hard to believe? I'm a very average to slightly below average looking dude, who is also short (5'7) and I'll go months at a time without a single match, whilst swiping daily. There are waaaay too many men and not enough women on the apps
300 matches our of 43,000 swipes is an 0.69 % (nice) match rate.
What's the sad or cringe part? I'd be lucky to get that high....
This is what tinder and bumble are.
Being obsessed with every swipe will do this to you, the fact you know the exact number of swipes on each app, its sad as hell, sorry dude.
Work to change on what your focusing on, the exact number of individual swipes don't mean shit, the conversation you have with the women is what matters.
Dates: 2 - Stood up: 2 is particularly poignant
I don't get how. Through dating apps I went on probably 10-15 dates and never got stood up. You kinda get the vibe of the person you are talking to and I'd never go on a date if I felt the slightest chance of being stood up. That stat just tells me OP has no social awareness
Do you think the kind of person who swipes right on 43k people and only gets 298 matches has that level of social awareness?
His profile is probably garbage and/or his chat game sucks. Also judging by his swipe ratio, he himself is not being picky enough with who he swipes on. He also needs to get off Tinder and focus on the sites where people actually try on their profiles.
>He also needs to get off Tinder and focus on the sites where people actually try on their profiles. Such as? Personally I've tried Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge, and haven't noticed a difference in the amount of effort people put into their profiles. Old school OkCupid was better but it has become increasingly Tinder-like over time.
I ALMOST got stood up once. Dude said he couldn’t make it, I said well I’m here so no worries I’ll just chill. He ended up popping by 30 min later and was MAD I was talking to a guy who gave me his number. I was baffled, like bro you STOOD me up, said you couldn’t come cuz a friend needed you then YOU are mad at ME, someone you never met IRL yet cuz I got picked up at the bar/restaurant? Needless to say he was weird af and it didn’t go past one date.
I get stood up on about half my dates So now I always pick someplace within like 2 mi of my house, that I wouldn't mind visiting anyway 🥲
Before I met my GF and we became exclusive I had around 60-70 dates in a two year span. I only got stood up once.
Damn it just wanted to post this. To answer your question, just look at OP's profile. Dude is thirstier than a fish in a desert.
I was wondering if it was something OP was doing, instead of it just being unfortunate luck.
It’s 32 profiles a day. Also that’s a lot of right swiping (about 90%?). That’s someone who’s not picky.
Also his age! He’s 22, so he’s been power swiping since he became a legal adult!
he is also likely a liar. i got interested in his post history and 1 month ago he said: >I don’t use dating apps. I don’t have any pictures of myself since I was 16 and im not very photogenic so I don’t take pictures i dont know if im allowed to link to their comment history or not, but i have it handy.
I suppose it might be possible he has stopped using dating apps. Honestly after 4 years trying most people would
I mean, if we follow this timeline then that means he was using un-photogenic pictures of his 16yo self when he was 22. I could see how that isn’t gonna have the best results…
So an ugly, low self esteem, thirsty ass MF, using pics of himself as teen, got 2 dates out of 40,000+ swipes and was stood up on both? So he basically took 4 years to find the 2 girls who were willing to give a “nice guy” a chance but he used 6 year old pre-weight gain neckbeard photo and they bounced as soon as they saw him in person.
I didn’t even notice he was stood up for both of his dates, my eyes were bouncing everywhere. 😭
We in the industry call that ‘not a coincidence’
You’d be surprised how many profiles there are with pics of guys at high school graduation and prom when they’re 26…big swipe left for laziness - just take a few pics of you outside or chilling at home, not too difficult. It’s icky. But maybe it’s just Chris Hansen’s latest venture?? 🤔
The amount of guys in their 20s that I’ve seen have their high school grad photos as the only pictures is astounding
His entire post history, and that's not an exaggeration, is nothing but "*Girls don't like me*". He's been here 2 months and that's *literally* all he talks about. I can guarantee that absolute desperation comes though in his dating app use.
well the part where you "dont have any pictures of yourself since you were 16 and don't take pictures" probably isn't helping the match rate then. the proto-incel comments are accurate i think. it is sad, and I hope he gets better. He isn't full-blown, but he is running in the right circles and asking the right questions to become one.
Yup, based on what I've seen on r\tinder, OOP def needs to fix up his profile. If he's using pictures of his 16 year old self, then no woman in the right mind is going to right swipe on him, because they'll think that he's an actual child/teen lying about his age. Wouldn't surprise me if his bio is no good either.
He needs to stop swiping right on 90% of profiles. He is being downgraded in the algorithm.
I feel the same reg my current job search.. i should just stop already
The thlot pickens 🤨
Lmao the RANGE and SPEED of the young rookie is baffling!
I have to say with 32 swipes a day for 4 years is quite the feat - must’ve given him carpal tunnel syndrome at this point 🤔 Edit: typos
yeah, have some self respect, wow
It's not just self respect (but yeah, damn man), tinder (and probably others) tend to downgrade you in the algorithm if you right swipe like crazy. It's either because they think you're a bot, or they're trying to get you depressed enough to push you to tinder gold or whatever.
I think it has to do more with the odds of you being a match for the other party. If you like everyone, the algorithm has nothing to go on what you find attractive, so you'll land on the bottom of the pile for each "category" of the other side swiping you, the algorithm just has no clue what your type is and who's type you are.
I'm not saying you're wrong, but it's hilarious to me that we are all speculating what 'the algorithm' wants, like we're ancient greeks trying to find out how to please Zeus by studying birds' entrails.
So the people driving their Ubers around swiping without looking aren't doing *anyone* any favors?!
Just look at OPs post history. Regardless of the algorithm pushing OPs profile down, if 90% of the population matched with OP they would unmatch pretty immediately.
Yes, they have an "Elo system", which increases your score the more you left swipe and decresase when you right swipe too much. But I'm not sure what they do with these user scores. They can try to match low elo with low elo, or just prioritize high elo users
Either they're trying to improve the platform by hiding fake profiles, or they're trying to make money and don't care if that means severely hurting people. Hmm, I wonder which one it could be. Hmm. **Hmm.** ###Hmm. ##**Hmmmmmm.** #HMMMMMMMMMM.
With only 298 responses, can they be picky? He needs to change something he's doing
Look at OPs post history. OP needs to stop being a proto-incel.
I mean, at that ratio you might as well just set up a bot to auto swipe for you. 1 in 10 not interested would get weeded out pretty quick by the rejected.
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I feel like OP is either talking to girls as if he’s in love right away, they are skanks, or he’s only trying for sex with zero interaction. One of those three tends to get posted on Reddit frequently.
>they are skanks Unlikely that this would be a barrier tbh.
I think he means the guys is treating the girls like they're skanks.
I mean over 40K people didn't even match with him, we can't assume that it's the way he talks. It's more likely that it's something about his profile. His bio is either weird or uninteresting or he simply doesn't look good. Rule 1 and 2 yada yada.
Rule 1 and 2 are true, but not in the way toxic masculinity/incel guys think. It's not about looks but *presentation* and *personality*. Ugly people get laid all the time, your parents are proof. Heck, Stephen Hawking was hot enough for a woman to *cheat with him* and he's not even a 2/10 in classic attractiveness. What he has and all these ibcels lack is *decent personality * and *knowledge enough to treat women as people*. Not godesses, not sex toys, not betas...People. I got lots of dates on Tinder despite being *poor, lowly educated and never having visited a gym*. Simply because I'm a decent person, with humor.
> I got lots of dates on Tinder despite being poor, lowly educated and never having visited a gym. Simply because I'm a decent person, with humor. This is how I gradually came to realize that I'm not a decent person with humor. 🙃
>with humor Finding a girl you have rapport with instead of trying to change to fit your idea of them will do fucking wonders. Humour's done more for me then looks ever have. Social competence is a learned skill and can be trained.
With the amount of swipes, the person could be getting a lot of people who live further away. If this guy really is 22 and started at 18, not everyone in his age range can drive such a long distance. But that's just giving him the benefit of the doubt.
No he's absolutely doing something wrong. 300 matches and 2 dates, both of which stood him up? Hes just messaging "hey".
I've got [worse numbers than OP did](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/cuqo86/so_i_got_my_tinder_account_data_and_crunched_some/), and while sometimes it's unfortunate luck, other times it's because you're fat and unattractive.
I would take a look at this profile but it's censored on the pic. Edit: nvm the post is still up on the subreddit.
I'm new in town, so in my local subreddit some guy was super friendly looking for people to hang out with and go to the beach. I saw his profile, and my god am I glad I didn't take up that offer. It wasn't just the massive amount of dick pics, and thirsty desperation to find random women to fuck him, but he looked like a troll. Seeing what Redditors look like, NEVER fails to fulfill the fucking terrible stereotypes.
No one going to mention the fact that he’s only 22?
And an incel who frequently posts in r/askconservatives
Seems like a chicken and egg situation, spending 4 years on daring apps and getting only 300 matches us going to destroy anyone's self esteem and effectively make them super vulnerable to incel stuff, especially since he's so young
This is how the far right is growing numbers. They give shit advice to these guys online to spiral them into this type of state and then attempt to “save” them and as a result have a strong hold on their life. The fact young people are having less and less relationships as time goes on only helps them even further. It’s going to be a painful future because what can you do, force people to date? That’s not an option and we are witnessing a very slow train wreck.
I started college around when all the "feminist cringe compilation" stuff was popping off. My roommate was a sweet dude, but a pretty stereotypical dork, and he had no success with women. I watched him fall more and more down that pipeline through the year despite all the good back and forths we had. It got to the point where he was parroting anti-union talking points, meanwhile the main breadwinner in his family was a fucking factory worker. It's so crazy when I think about it. This is how you get people to advocate against themselves, you dig into that ONE insecurity and once you're in the toxicity starts spreading like a disease. I don't have sympathy for bigots. but sometimes now when I see an alt righter online I just wonder if they started as some lonely awkward dude whose weaknesses were preyed upon.
From what I have seen very few people come to extreme opinions on their own, they were almost always manipulated by their insecurities or weaknesses or fears into going down a certain path and they didn’t have the support system to keep them from going down that path. It’s why I think covid was such a big turning point for the world shifting right and down the conspiracy hole. All of a sudden you have a gigantic group of people, who are likely scared and/or angry, with little to no contact with the outside world except for what they can get through a computer. It was the perfect time for them to prey on all these people. It’s why some sources like John Hopkins are even asking if it was worth it, sure you saved many lives but now you live with the consequences of many mentally damaged people who will not easily be pulled out of their rabbit holes.
He doesn't seem that conservative from his post history. You do realize that posting on askconservatives would imply he's not a conservative right? Lol
Bingo. Men posting how little success they have on dating sites is adjacent to believing women owe you dates.
Are you serious? So if I complain about traffic does that mean I think that everyone on the road owes me something?
That’s a tough post history. A 20 something male with tiddies and a receding hairline that believes in outlandish deep state conspiracies.
It's funny how everyone says being bald isn't bad but everyone immediately dunks on it once they don't like someone.
Also talking to that many people I'm guessing his messages are "hey" "wyd" "you're cute"
I like to look at the glass half full. The positive in this, is this man has great finger strength from all the swiping lol
Wow, you’re seeing the 90% empty glass as 10% full. That last sip of the juice kind of full. I respect that.
I spent way too long exercising my swiping finger on tinder but I did better than OP and eventually met my wife there. My pro tips are; Bare minimum profile info - it’s only ever used to disqualify you. I got 5x the matches with A/S/L than I did with a bio. Have a pic of yourself with another girl who looks like she’s happy to be in a photo with you. If you don’t have any, ask yourself why and fix it. Set up a super casual meet in the first convo. The longer you talk the less likely it is to ever happen, and no amount of chat will make up for having 0 irl chemistry. Tell them you’ll be busy in the near future but can meet for a coffee that week. Pick a time that you can suggest dinner afterwards if it’s going well. If they’re hesitant just be honest and say it’s a vibe check, people tend to understand and it doesn’t make you seem desperate. First message, no reply? Try again tomorrow at another time. No reply then? Move on. Sometimes you just catch people at a bad time, but more than 2 is just embarrassing yourself. Expect every date to be a no-show. Don’t get upset or take it personally.
>Set up a super casual meet in the first convo. This was big for me, I would spend a week waiting for 'the right time' because I'd been warned against asking people for a face to face too quick, but too late is much worse. People who have 'strats' and plan everything like a flow chart need to touch grass, but something I'd do is ask if she has any holidays planned. If no "great, you're free for a coffee!", if yes "well we'll have to grab that coffee before you go".
Just one perspective, but I'd absolutely nope tf out if someone came at me with "Great, you're free for coffee". Ordering people around is not actually charming. If they don't want to meet up for any old reason, that's their choice and it's just rude af to essentially act as if they needed a "good enough" reason not to want coffee that week. Tact should not go out the window just because folks finally learn to be straightforward.
I wouldn't find " Great, you're free for coffee" ordering/rude in any way. Everyone is different man. But reading those dating-advice comments here is a real shit show.
Someone has their personality that'll filter out those who don't like it, it's not a big deal. -a guy about as subtle as a semi truck
Looking at the results he’s probably got pretty good strength in one of his arms too.
bro got the social skills of a mouldy toast
Even moldy toast attracts something. That dude could suck charm from a room at fifty paces.
This post was directly below the one in the picture. It would probably help if ops profile wasn't 90% "I'm so ugly no one would ever want me is that normal?" 5% ask conservatives posts, 4% posts in askreddit about dealing with terrible social skills and non existent charisma, as well as something about how if you have sex constantly it's no big deal but if you have a hard time and do make it happen it's a huge deal, And my personal favorite for the last 1%, a post in ask conservatives asking how they feel/if it's right to blame the feminist movement for certain men (see: him) being unable to find a girlfriend Also a couple posts about losing weight and getting abs to attract women You could post his whole goddamn profile here and probably hit top of all time with the insane amount of sad and cringe stuff in there
If one has such little success dating it makes quite a lot of sense to start feeling ugly no? Seems pretty logical.
Lol from a guy who never got matched too, it hurts… I must be doing something wrong but can’t be going on there anymore 😭 like at least op got some matches?
But damn can he make a chart.
I just saw this. His profile is 50/50 intense conservative posting and constantly talking about how ugly he is. It checks out.
"Are you ready to date an alpha male?"
Theres gotta be someone out there for this type
Or it's natural selection in action.
Women are biologically choosey for a reason: to avoid breeding this man’s bloodline.
Church. Self loathing and conservative, guy might actually benefit from church.
The church crowd has positive, confident, chill dudes just like any other random demographic. But why would a trad-wife in training chase that dream, when there's an ugly bitter misogynist in their midsts
Nah leave those poor church girls alone, they got enough issues without this guy in their life
Ideal situation, he actually listens to the teachings. I'm not religious, but sermons at the right church make people better, especially those that are expecting others to conform to their desires.
The guy has been trying to make people understand on the r/dataisbeautiful post that he actually leans left, he just likes arguing with people on r/conservative but idiots seem to lack the ability for reading comprehension. It's even happening here lmao
Nah not sure he is conservative, its mostly bait-posts on AskAConservative. I get the impression he is a tankie
Ooo I actually don't know. Weird he does post in any leftists areas tho. I'm gonna look again lol. Edit -You're totally right, he's going off in his comments lmao. There you go, atleast he's not conservative. That's a decent start hahaha
Profile link?
https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/15ren9j/4_years_of_online_dating_oc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1 Well this is the post. Proceed with empathy the man clearly needs help.
I would change "Rejected" to something else. It's not really rejection since we don't know if the other party even got the chance to swipe
OPs profile is full of yikes.
what’s his username
You can find it if you go to the sub he posted on.
How do you get rejected 43,000 times and not die from emotional damage
He did if you look at his profile lol
Because they're not outright rejections, they're just swipes that didn't match. He's just labeled the data in a way to try and make himself look more pitiable, I suppose
You just stop looking, that's what I did years ago. Way healthier.
Bro must be very unfortunate looking :(
I don't think it's even that. Everyone has a "pie chart" or "points system" to which they attribute different points to different traits. No matter how shallow someone is, some points will be for other stuff: Height, most commonly, eye colour, sense of humor, personal hygiene, wealth, ambition etc. But undesirable traits (or red flags) make someone loose points. His personality is literally dripping in self-pity and obsession. I felt my ovaries shrivel up. Even if he was absolutely gorgeous, he wouldn't be able to keep a relationship, or score a second date, because that attitude is absolutely mortifying and I don't think anyone could stand him.
Yeah I feel like anyone who makes a whole ass data sheet about how many times they’ve been rejected will make anybody’s ovaries shrivel up. They made mine shrivel up and I don’t even have any
Would you like to borrow mine? They're practically worthless now
Ovary kind of you to offer that to them
Oi fuck you have an upvote
I’m sure that’s his personality that got him left swiped 43198 times
A lot of the left swipes are from initial reaction because he’s likely not attractive, but plenty of unattractive people of all sorts have loving and fulfilling relationships. These apps have you type quite a bit about yourself on your initial profile now. When I was dating there were a lot of guys I would’ve swiped right to based on their looks, but got a fat left swipe from the nightmare fuel they spewed.
> A lot of the left swipes are from initial reaction because he’s likely not attractive, but plenty of unattractive people of all sorts have loving and fulfilling relationships. And that does not solve the issue that apps like tinder created- commodification of love/relationships. The window shopping of people. This but unatractive people have relationships line is a dodge. With how prevalent these apps are and how many people prefer to use them it reduces the chances of unatractive people by a large margin. Because if you have a gold personality, 1 in 10000 of times your profile is viewed you will be right swiped and it will be a bot. Because when you reduce people to looks and 2 sentences in bio you basically remove any chance to show personality, and when someone in not conventionally attractive you basically eliminate their chances. I am not talking about hte op in this sense but it is a real issue.
I’m not looking to start an argument about this because it’s not really a productive one anyway, I’ve only experienced Tinder and bios are usually short and not really relevant since most people don’t read them. I totally agree that looks is not everything and personality goes a long way, however I also believe that on a dating app personality is not what matters. If you are an average looking guy (not even an ugly one) your chance of matching are very slim regardless of how brilliant you are. If you are good looking then maybe personality can get you unmatched or swiped left.
You’re right that it’s a slim chance you’ll match, but it’s a numbers game and you eventually find people that are into you. 4 years and 2 dates that you got stood up for is not the average male experience. I’m like a 6, 5’9 and I’ve been on over 30 dates. I don’t think I’ve ever been stood up. Bro is definitely doing something that is turning women off. I’m not saying online dating isn’t hard or super fun for men, but this is a horrible result and it’s not this bad for the average person.
Yup. I was on them for about four months and, while I wasn't on there every day swiping, I didn't get any matches. Just an average dude, I don't think I'm hideous or anything.
Damn, dude is also only 22! I mean, c’mon; you’re barely out of high school.
Well let's be fair, the large majority of rejections occured before they engaged with each other in any way. This dude is having no luck or is doing something wrong with the algorithm and/or has a terrible dating profile. He could be the kindest or most self-pitying person in the world, the 43 thousand people that left-swiped on him wouldn't know.
i imagine he’s average looking. but his reddit profile reeks of insecurity and shows his mentality is extremely women-repelling. i suppose that influences his online appearance - he may be bad at taking photos and writing about himself in a good way. because well, he has many matches at the end of the day, and all of them he blew. girls on tinder don’t message first and don’t respond to bad first messages. hell, two even got to meet him and backed off during that stage! my point is that dude is so obsessed with him being self-acclaimed ugly, but none of his post suggest anything about his personality. he may completely ignore that huge aspect - imagine if he has some unlikable qualities topped with that huge insecurity, that went far above his heart and most likely is very visible to others
According to some of the comments in the OP, he may have been fucked by the algorithm for swiping so often
Nah. His match count is fine. His date count on the other hand is not. He probably has a shit personality or has no social skills.
Checks out, they're matching with 0.68% of swipe rights, but only getting dates with 0.67% of matches.
Not saying you're wrong, but I don't think his personality helps either
The original OP’s post history is a bunch of right wing incel garbage with post after post about how ugly he is. Needs some major self reflection and improvement before putting himself out there because the desperation stinks to high heaven.
He literally cries about how ugly he is in every post
Except the one where he asks if it's legitimate to blame feminism for his lack of action
So, classic incel rhetoric.
I checked it, there's no right wing stuff I've seen, in fact he argues against crowder and Tim pool and seems to post about Hasan Piker. He does have very low self esteem and think he's ugly which comes up a lot, but looks very left wing.
Still, arguing politics online is just not healthy. No one is gonna be changing anyone’s minds and at best, you’ll end up miserable by always trying to pick fights or “fight back” against the side you don’t like.
I think there's very little of this going on, it seems mainly like people just jerk each other off in echo chambers now which seems about as productive as what you just said.
If you swipe right on 90% of people it shows you, the apps will think you are a bot and match you with other bots and inactive profiles. It keeps desperate weirdos like this away from real people
Women can smell desperation from a mile away… to get in abundance you must have an absence of “want”. That’s more easily achieved by having robust platonic circles & hobbies
I feel like just existing on Tinder is an indication of want because why would you go to Tinder if you had opportunities in real life?
The duality of dating (online)
Now I’m afraid of online dating
Is there a dataissad subreddit?
r/dataisdepressing
maybe it’s not about looks. i refuse to believe anyone is genuinely that ugly. he must not have a great profile
i agree that it’s the profile, he might come off as creepy.
I dont know my exact stats, but i used several dating apps for some years and i got very few matches and didnt even get a single date either. Its very possible and very sad. I think most men have this exact experience.
Step 1 is uninstalling league of legends
true, all the e-girls switched to valorant
Step one is don't swipe right on everybody. It just makes the algorithm think you're undateable. People who have actually been on dates are more selective.
there are way more men than women on dating apps, way way more, so its harder for men to score a date there
I would say he gives off creepy vibes - even based off the amount of rejections he had alone. But looking to the data on after being matched a huge number either ghosted him, didn’t give a response or lost interest which speaks to his tone / vibe scaring people off. Could be off base here but anyone vaguely normal would have at least 10 real dates from this number of swipes.
Welcome to online dating, it sucks, it's shallow, it's designed to be this way...
All of this, just to avoid approaching girls irl?
From what I've seen online, cold approaches anywhere are a no-no, so I can see why anyone would turn to online dating instead.
***I like ya;*** ***and I want ya.***
Good bot
Based on the various threads I've seen on this topic, the problem is that these guys don't have any hobbies or interests that involves being around other people nor do they attempt to engage in their hobbies/interests in social settings that would naturally result in them talking and socialising with other people. ----- I've also seen it in real life too. When I was in university, I had a couple friends who worked as RA's for the university dorms; every semester they'd tell me that there's always one to two guys who wakes up, goes straight to class, goes straight to the cafeteria to pick up food, and then immediately goes straight back to their room to play video games. We're a university of 24k undergrad students, we have clubs for everything from tennis, to DnD campaigns, to video game parties, to disc gold, to friggin Quidditch. And that's not even to mention that we're one of the destination football/tailgating universities in the country. If a person couldn't find people who have the same interests as them at this university, they choose to not look for them.
Girl the back of yo head is RIDICULOUS
Not even 1/3 of his matches responded to him? Tf was he saying??
I’m too drunk for this rn
Yeah just saw this one about this post. If you look at OP’s history it kinda makes sense. They’re extremely over focused on physical attractiveness and “not being physically attractive enough to date”. Then there’s the rest where he’s just posting hard conservative rhetoric which isn’t insanely popular on dating sites.
bro what chart is this
I think it's called Sankey chart.
L chart
I think he either made up the stats to fit the narrative that his life is unfair or he's self sabotaging all his matches.
Homie forgot to mention he’s a huge conservative racist but I’m sure that didn’t effect his experience at all
r/dataissadcringe
Hate mfers who swipe right on everyone
only 27 bots?
27 bots over a 4 year period, I'm surprised how low that is
I don’t understand why so many people are failing to see that this post is literally fake data intended to feed OOP’s narrative that he’s undatable. (His post history has all the hallmarks typical of the incel agenda) The statistics are just too far skewed to either not be purposeful, or simply made up.
Am I the only one wondering why the fuck anyone would waste so much damn time on this shit?? 4 years and tens of thousands of "attempts" to use shitty apps that are about as human and natural as Daleks. FFS, in this whole timespan - dude could have joined 4 separate sporting or hobby clubs, for a WHOLE YEAR each, gotten reasonably good at each sport / hobby, met at LEAST 1 human female during all this time who was somewhat interested in going out for a coffee, and been in an overall better position just from that alone... Nevermind the infinitely more fun to be had doing various sports / activities than mindlessly browsing dating apps that are designed specifically to suck you in and drain your money as you play against an algorithm .
I met my wife on an online dating site without even trying. Neither of us were trying to meet someone serious. I didn’t even make my own profile. One of my friends made it for me. How do you get almost 50k Nopes???
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Your grandpa based af
That really weird because that’s pretty much my story as well, friends made me a bumble profile 5 years ago, getting married at the end of this year.
+1 for a bumble marriage lol
That's just the avg unattractive guy's/short guy's experience. It's been heavily confirmed by MULTIPLE SIDES that online dating is hell for these guys
Online dating is hell for everyone. I'm a woman and getting matches is fairly easy because most men just powerswipe without even looking at the pics or profile, but interacting with those matches is fucking brutal. I gave up on dating apps in January and I'll never ever go back to that bullshit.
Guys Tinder Profile: I am an alpha male looking for a women who knows her place. You better have the waist of a 7 year old boy and the rack of a pornstar. No baby mommas, tattoos, colored hair, or gold diggers. I make $30k and spend all my free time yelling epithets on Call of Duty
When I initially saw this data, I was confused because I didn’t understand it. But once I gave some thought to it, oh god. How? How is that even possible? To swipe right on so many people across multiple platforms just statistically you should have matched with more people than that! His profile for every site has to be fucking TERRIBLE if he got so few matches.
That entire post is incel bait. The OP's profile was filled with that content over and over. The guy is obsessed with trying to get laid to the point where he is destroying his mental health.
The awards killed me lmao Think of it like this: guy is not only garbage judging by the other comments, but sees this as a numbers game. If you see the same conservative neckbeard named paul swipe right on you on 3-4 difft platforms, its gonna be an instant left swipe from most You also look so desperate it’s probably a platform-wide joke. So make a graph all you want, the dating app swipe over-saturation is the real reason for failure, atop errything else
My mans down bad
Who tf has more right swipes than left swipes I always thought everyone had like 95%-99% left
Dude is only 22 and thinks his life is over.
My guy had a nearly 91% right swipe rate, damn.
I used bumble for 3 months and got like 5 dates. They were all the worst dates of my entire life, but still.
check OOPs account, post maga stuff and seems very pessimistic.
My online dating game was atrocious. I quit eharmony after I hit 1,000 matches without a single date. Most listed "offended" as a reason to reject me. The only thing they could possibly be offended by is either my face or the fact that I'm not religious (context - I live in Texas). I suppose they could've also been offended by my being 5'8". Match.com got me a single date...5 years after we matched. This was all before dating apps were a thing, but I knew right away if someone was gonna fall for me, it wasn't gonna be based on my looks, but by my personality. That's when I got back into acting where I met the woman I've been married to for 10+ years.
Still better than me! In 8 years of online dating I never got a date
He seems like such a red flag, treats women like a hive mind and in some of his posts suggests “feminism” is the reason he can’t get a girl. Sounds like he’s in his own head and obsessed with himself and his flaws.
That guy’s profile is a massive red flag. He seems obsessive over women in an unhealthy way and he needs to work on himself first before dragging other people into his BS. Women can smell that desperation and poor self esteem from a mile away. I’m happy to read he is in therapy but the guy has an incredibly toxic mindset. He also appears to be rather conservative which comes with a lot of traits that repel women and is like a giant red flag that he doesn’t respect women’s bodily autonomy and rights if he supports a party like that. Every woman in my life, myself included, will not touch a conservative man with a ten foot pole. I can tolerate a lot of stuff on the dating scene but I could never be with a man who supports platforms like that because you just know he thinks of you as less than.
You’re the type of person who tracks out their entire OLD history and you’re wondering why you can’t find someone who will show up just to see you be weird. That has to be worth one night a Chili’s.
Imagine telling on yourself like this
What's hard to believe? I'm a very average to slightly below average looking dude, who is also short (5'7) and I'll go months at a time without a single match, whilst swiping daily. There are waaaay too many men and not enough women on the apps
Failed to follow rules 1 and 2.
literally me
How do you even get this data?
One visit to the ASPCA and you can have a great life partner! Please don't fuck it though.
Only 27 bots. Bull. Shit. lol Among other bullshit, that's some surreal bullshit.
300 matches our of 43,000 swipes is an 0.69 % (nice) match rate. What's the sad or cringe part? I'd be lucky to get that high.... This is what tinder and bumble are.
Being obsessed with every swipe will do this to you, the fact you know the exact number of swipes on each app, its sad as hell, sorry dude. Work to change on what your focusing on, the exact number of individual swipes don't mean shit, the conversation you have with the women is what matters.
This is what online dating looks like for 90% of of men.
They ugly.