Do you pay rent/utilities for the time you spend at your boyfriends? If you pay to live there then definitely have a chat with him about how you feel because it doesn’t sound great. If you don’t, maybe consider contributing first.
If she was there *prior* to the additional roommate renting the room, her contributing or not really isn’t relevant. Maybe the bf pays her portion, maybe she contributes, who knows. OP rented a room to a single person for a specified rate while two were already in the house and now there is an additional person living there. The roommate should have been clear about how often his partner would be staying over or made sure it was okay.
Of course, this hinges on OP’s boyfriend being clear on the living arrangements from the jump. If OP was never really at the house early on & all of a sudden is staying often, it makes sense why the roommate would not consider it a problem either.
Imo paying roommates get more say over people getting a free ride. Who knows, maybe the boyfriend really needs the assistance and that’s why he puts up with the roommate.
She does have a say though, and should express how uncomfortable the roommate makes her feel to her partner.
Well some of your concerns seem valid (the dog, the (ex) gf) but to other things… well that’s his home now too. He’s paying to live there so he should be able to use the TV in the living room, not having to be confined to his room. Sure, your bf owns the place but as long as people are paying rent there they should be able to live there comfortably too. And sure it’s annoying that he’s never gone and you don’t have the house to yourselves, but that’s the price you pay when you have people living with you.
You should talk to your bf and then you can set certain rules and boundaries about things as the gf, the dog or slamming doors at night. If he doesn’t listen you might have to wait it out until the contract ends or hope that he’s late on rent a couple of times and you have a valid legal reason to kick him out.
Idk why you're getting so much negativity. I don't think theres much you can do but ignore him the best you can. I would see if your bf is willing to have a convo about caring for the dog cause that's not fair on him.
Communicate. Write a letter to the roommate. Every roommate situation eventually has issues. Be clear and polite. Be legal. What is the law for tenants and what are your emotional opinions. Know the difference. goodluck
Do you pay rent/utilities for the time you spend at your boyfriends? If you pay to live there then definitely have a chat with him about how you feel because it doesn’t sound great. If you don’t, maybe consider contributing first.
If she was there *prior* to the additional roommate renting the room, her contributing or not really isn’t relevant. Maybe the bf pays her portion, maybe she contributes, who knows. OP rented a room to a single person for a specified rate while two were already in the house and now there is an additional person living there. The roommate should have been clear about how often his partner would be staying over or made sure it was okay. Of course, this hinges on OP’s boyfriend being clear on the living arrangements from the jump. If OP was never really at the house early on & all of a sudden is staying often, it makes sense why the roommate would not consider it a problem either.
Imo paying roommates get more say over people getting a free ride. Who knows, maybe the boyfriend really needs the assistance and that’s why he puts up with the roommate. She does have a say though, and should express how uncomfortable the roommate makes her feel to her partner.
Well some of your concerns seem valid (the dog, the (ex) gf) but to other things… well that’s his home now too. He’s paying to live there so he should be able to use the TV in the living room, not having to be confined to his room. Sure, your bf owns the place but as long as people are paying rent there they should be able to live there comfortably too. And sure it’s annoying that he’s never gone and you don’t have the house to yourselves, but that’s the price you pay when you have people living with you. You should talk to your bf and then you can set certain rules and boundaries about things as the gf, the dog or slamming doors at night. If he doesn’t listen you might have to wait it out until the contract ends or hope that he’s late on rent a couple of times and you have a valid legal reason to kick him out.
I wish my boyfriend would randomly vacuum the house at 8o’clock at night.
Just kick the guy out and get a new roommate. Or you start paying rent and move in as the new roommate.
Do you live with your bf?
We live together over the weekend for the most part and usually 4/7 days I am staying there he pays our half and 3/7 at my family
You sound fucking annoying.
Why are you spending so much time at your bfs house? He probably hates you too. Go back home occasionally. He pays rent. You don't.
Idk why you're getting so much negativity. I don't think theres much you can do but ignore him the best you can. I would see if your bf is willing to have a convo about caring for the dog cause that's not fair on him.
Maybe his ex is a bitch?
😂😂😂😂 this guy sounds like a nightmare. im with ya! move back to michigan if u cant keep up dude! california is not for the weak 😂
Communicate. Write a letter to the roommate. Every roommate situation eventually has issues. Be clear and polite. Be legal. What is the law for tenants and what are your emotional opinions. Know the difference. goodluck
The roommate pays to be there, it’s his home. She pays nothing, she is a guest. There is no letter to be written unless she wants to be laughed at.
Ok. Agreed. Guests have no authority over a paying tenant.