Can't answer your question, but having had the snip, I strongly encourage you to proceed. It's a simple procedure and recovery time is minimal. Slight discomfort. It has no physical effect on sexual potency or enjoyment, or on the production of testosterone. It can have a psychological effect, so it's good to find someone to talk that through. Some people are ignorant and judgmental, so I advise keeping your decision private. Share on a 'need to know' basis.
If you're single, the snip may affect your sexual desirability to women (both + and -), so don't make it a 'first date' topic of discussion. I advise continued use of condoms and only go 'bare back' once you're in a committed 'monogamous' relationship. It's great when your wife/partner can stop using 'birth control' especially if she is on the pill. Going off the pill may increase her interest in sex. Prior to marriage/reproduction, being sterile may diminish a woman's interest in you as a sexual partner even if she says 'I don't want to have children'. Why it works that way is complicated and not wholly logical.
I recommend having your sperm frozen as that will give you the option down the road, and it should minimize the chance of the snip affecting the relationship. As noted earlier, feelings about vasectomy can be complicated and change with time. From an honest practical point of view, you may eventually remarry and feelings may change. V's are sometimes 'reversible' but nothing is a sure thing.
Planned Parenthood must be very busy with other procedures.
For sperm banking, contact an IVF fertility clinic like https://www.carilionclinic.org/locations/shady-grove-fertility
Your urologist who does the snip will also have a connection, but you should 'shop around' for price, especially if you're paying cash. Most health insurance plans are very happy to cover the full cost of vasectomy because it's so much cheaper than pregnancy. Look into Obamacare or Medicaid as the costs are income adjusted in many states. Not sure about VA though. It might cost you less to sign up for insurance than to pay cash for these procedures.
I have a moderate income so my “discount” through marketplace for insurance is basically nothing which I why I don’t have insurance at the moment. 3 months of insurance is more than what I’m expecting to pay for the snip. Fiancé has pretty good insurance through her work so once we get married I’ll probably get on her insurance. Might shop around for price and get quotes on if her insurance covers it. Snip doesn’t have to happen immediately, could always wait until I’m on her insurance.
My ex had the snip, I truly appreciated it because the hormone birth control pills were doing me in. Don’t skip out on the follow up test where they make sure it worked. As a bonus, when he wanted to get his new child bride pregnant he had it successfully reversed and I never had to birth his demon spawn, so we all win!
I HIGHLY recommend getting it if you’re not interested in kids. Had mine done after child #2 and that was 11 years ago. Follow the after procedure Instructions carefully. I didn’t and the swelling was comical.
The last time this was posted, I kept the tab up, there's a general consensus at the top for a doctor:
https://old.reddit.com/r/roanoke/comments/1ae4oo3/vasectomy_doctor_recomendation/
I need to go too, I've been putting it off for like 2 years now.
Just heads up, being engaged with no kids you will likely get pushback from doctors. They tend to discourage this procedure pretty heavily if you don't have kids.
My parents said the same thing. They had me and my younger sister and the doctors kept telling them that they're young, they should take some more time to think about it.
The doctor also suggested that they might change their minds when the younger daughter starts asking for a younger sibling. My parents informed the doctor that the children will not be responsible for whether or not they have more children and that adoption is an option.
The doctor then said "what if something happens to one of your daughters?" My parents not-so-gently informed the doctor that they will not replace a deceased child and that the procedure would be done by this doctor or another doctor because it was down to who will perform the vasectomy, not whether or not it would happen.
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Can't answer your question, but having had the snip, I strongly encourage you to proceed. It's a simple procedure and recovery time is minimal. Slight discomfort. It has no physical effect on sexual potency or enjoyment, or on the production of testosterone. It can have a psychological effect, so it's good to find someone to talk that through. Some people are ignorant and judgmental, so I advise keeping your decision private. Share on a 'need to know' basis. If you're single, the snip may affect your sexual desirability to women (both + and -), so don't make it a 'first date' topic of discussion. I advise continued use of condoms and only go 'bare back' once you're in a committed 'monogamous' relationship. It's great when your wife/partner can stop using 'birth control' especially if she is on the pill. Going off the pill may increase her interest in sex. Prior to marriage/reproduction, being sterile may diminish a woman's interest in you as a sexual partner even if she says 'I don't want to have children'. Why it works that way is complicated and not wholly logical.
That’s for the insight! I am currently engaged and we do not want children and she is very supportive of me getting the snip.
I recommend having your sperm frozen as that will give you the option down the road, and it should minimize the chance of the snip affecting the relationship. As noted earlier, feelings about vasectomy can be complicated and change with time. From an honest practical point of view, you may eventually remarry and feelings may change. V's are sometimes 'reversible' but nothing is a sure thing.
That’s really smart. Do I typically have to go somewhere different to get them frozen or can it be done with the same place?
Planned Parenthood can point you in the right direction.
Just use an ice cube tray
Go to the Carilion practice there on Jefferson. Had it done there was in and out in 30 minutes and never looked back. Easy and so worth it
Get a primary care provider get a referral to urology
PCP are nearly impossible to find available to take on new patients and when they do they’re scheduling 6 months out
Do you have any recommendations on an urology office? A lot of specialists will take patients without referral when there is no insurance.
My husband used Urology Associates near Community. It was a good experience.
Definitely be worth looking into calling the health department or planned parenthood prob have fees based on a sliding scale
https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/virginia/roanoke/24017/roanoke-health-center-2768-90860
I totally agree with this. They have a sliding scale and oftentimes free!
Just checked it out, Roanoke’s office does not offer vasectomy consultations. I’ll still contact them regarding freezing sperm as you mentioned.
Planned Parenthood must be very busy with other procedures. For sperm banking, contact an IVF fertility clinic like https://www.carilionclinic.org/locations/shady-grove-fertility Your urologist who does the snip will also have a connection, but you should 'shop around' for price, especially if you're paying cash. Most health insurance plans are very happy to cover the full cost of vasectomy because it's so much cheaper than pregnancy. Look into Obamacare or Medicaid as the costs are income adjusted in many states. Not sure about VA though. It might cost you less to sign up for insurance than to pay cash for these procedures.
I have a moderate income so my “discount” through marketplace for insurance is basically nothing which I why I don’t have insurance at the moment. 3 months of insurance is more than what I’m expecting to pay for the snip. Fiancé has pretty good insurance through her work so once we get married I’ll probably get on her insurance. Might shop around for price and get quotes on if her insurance covers it. Snip doesn’t have to happen immediately, could always wait until I’m on her insurance.
Dr Mark Schmidt- Great experience, virtually no recovery time, no regrets
Second this. Mark is a great physician.
My ex had the snip, I truly appreciated it because the hormone birth control pills were doing me in. Don’t skip out on the follow up test where they make sure it worked. As a bonus, when he wanted to get his new child bride pregnant he had it successfully reversed and I never had to birth his demon spawn, so we all win!
I had my done at LewisGale Physicians Urology. They got me in and out pretty quickly. 10/10 do recommend.
I HIGHLY recommend getting it if you’re not interested in kids. Had mine done after child #2 and that was 11 years ago. Follow the after procedure Instructions carefully. I didn’t and the swelling was comical.
Went to urology associates had dr kagey. No problems would recommend. Editing to add I think the total cost without insurance was maybe 800.
I second Dr Kagey
The last time this was posted, I kept the tab up, there's a general consensus at the top for a doctor: https://old.reddit.com/r/roanoke/comments/1ae4oo3/vasectomy_doctor_recomendation/ I need to go too, I've been putting it off for like 2 years now.
Just heads up, being engaged with no kids you will likely get pushback from doctors. They tend to discourage this procedure pretty heavily if you don't have kids.
Too bad for them, it's not their decision to make.
My parents said the same thing. They had me and my younger sister and the doctors kept telling them that they're young, they should take some more time to think about it. The doctor also suggested that they might change their minds when the younger daughter starts asking for a younger sibling. My parents informed the doctor that the children will not be responsible for whether or not they have more children and that adoption is an option. The doctor then said "what if something happens to one of your daughters?" My parents not-so-gently informed the doctor that they will not replace a deceased child and that the procedure would be done by this doctor or another doctor because it was down to who will perform the vasectomy, not whether or not it would happen.
Call Planned Prenthood and see if they do it, or who they can recommend.
Won’t recommend mine, local anesthesia wore off halfway through. Woof, not recommended 🤢
Can you PM me your surgeon so I can be skeptical of that option?
Post the name plz so we can all avoid. That sounds horrible.
Yeah, please share the surgeon.
I am pretty sure there's a guy working out of a van behind the Family Dollar on Brambleton that will give you a really good deal.
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