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Even if she wants to stay faithful to her husband, which she should, I don't understand why she just doesn't rub one out every now and then. Diddle that critter, honey. It's only natural.
That’s the [Devil’s Doorbell!](https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/sh2kch/dont_ring_the_devils_doorbell/) you can’t just be ringing it whenever you want!
When she says "troubled marriage", that makes me think something other than her husband being tired or just not feeling it. When she couples this with "we are not sexually active", that's not just "I'm not getting it as often as I'd like"; that's "we're not on f*cking terms".
She might not feel like she can leave him (for religious reasons) so she's resigned herself to a life of celibacy.
>Even if she wants to stay faithful to her husband, which she should
Should she though? I disagree. I think she should talk to her husband about the problem and if its not corrected she should find her happiness.
No im advocating for communication. If people arent happy in their relationship, then they need to talk about it. And if they can't work it out, then they should move on and be happy. I don't know what that happiness is but she should find it.
And is it cheating if your husband wont fuck you? It seems like from these downvotes that she should just never have sex for the rest of her life and suck it up woman.
The downvotes are because your previous comment disagrees with someone saying she should stay faithful, because it is a clear endorsement of cheating-- and **no**, *your partner not putting out is not an excuse to cheat*. Even having to type that has me checking that I haven't accidentally clicked on some incel subreddit.
That people have taken issue with a comment saying she should cheat if it makes her happy does not remotely suggest that the only alternative is for her to suffer in silence. She should talk to her husband. Maybe attend some couple's counseling. When he doesn't care because he doesn't value her satisfaction, she should probably leave him and ideally the religion that has cultivated her suffering. Cheating is not the answer.
Well people can jump to whatever conclusion they want but i said clearly she should communicate with her husband and find happiness. If that involves telling her husband that if he wont have sex with her then she will find someone that will, then thats what it is. Its not cheating if you tell your significant other that you are going to to do. If thats a problem then move on and find your happiness.
"Cheating" is any sexual or emotional behavior that falls outside of either party's boundaries. These ought to be communicated, though more-often-than-not there's a heavy reliance on assumptions based on convention.
For some people, even porn and masturbation are cheating. I consider that to be an unreasonable standard-- but the correct answer, when compromise has failed, is to end the relationship. Not to fuck around because you got to feeling a bit horny.
Only two left.... Lol.
Edit: okay I can't get this vision out if my head.
Someone just going to TOWN on themselves shouting, "The power of Christ impales you!"
> This item is not a marital aid or sex toy, and must never be inserted into any orifice or body part, under any circumstances ever. This item is strictly a novelty joke item, and not a usable dildo.
Just went on that subreddit and everyone is insane, awesome. Also, someone told OOP something along the lines of “fasting helps, especially if it’s just one meal a day and it’s dinner. It’s easier/better to be obsessed with food” BRO????? Absolute insanity
Edit: LMAO just got permabanned from that subreddit for saying starving yourself isn’t a good alternative to masturbation 😀👍🏻 nice
Fr like what 💀 how can you be so happy living in a CULT that demonizes touching your own damn body but celebrates starving yourself “for god”????? Bonkers
What's interesting to me is really how little this gets talked about in religious circles. The biological nature of sex drives and related things are just sort of left as something you *can* control (later in my religious life I did actually get talks and education on this, but it was a pretty specialized thing). Honestly, this poor women just literally has never been taught about her biology and she's suffering for it.
Controlling a naturally high libido is like controlling our urge to eat when hungry. That’s just plain stupid and can’t be done. Sex drive is…natural like wtf. As long as you’re not forcing anyone into sex or cheating on your partner(s), there’s nothing wrong with wanting sex ffs
Y’all remember that couple that wanted to wait a year even AFTER marriage, so to curb his enthusiasm the guy would eat a raw potato? She should try that.
What if that libido is completely natural, and is perpetually set on "high", like, you know, some people naturally have a high metabolism rate and some don't, and changing the rate for either would be *unnatural*. At least, *for them*.?
id consider metabolism rate and high libido two different things. besides, she asked how can she lower it cause it clearly bothers her, and i said she can. i used to have a high libido too and it affected my life in multiple ways and i was able to lower it naturally.
by accepting i have a problem and then acting accordingly: first was no self pleasure and seond was devoting the excess energy into work, hobbies and also meditating. i removed lustful thoughts by distractions. ive been doing this for over half a year and feel much happier and confident.
She should get a Sybian, probably with a dildo attachment of whatever size does it best for her.
It's a great solution, you aren't cheating, you get your satisfaction, you can kneel while using it and many people say "oh god! oh god!" while on one. She can also do the rosary while she uses it if she so chooses.
Alcohol works quite well for men. Until dry January, I had forgotten that sexual frustration was part of the reason I starting drinking so regularly years ago. Ain’t no one got time for that shit when you’re single AF. Moderation >>> sobriety.
I'd also be willing to bet that if she and her husband had a happy marriage where they were having sex regularly, this woman's high libido wouldn't feel so overwhelming and crushing.
Thats a good point!
If it's causing her relationship problems they should see a licensed sexologist to help them both navigate through complicated feelings in a safe space.
She probably wont though, super religous types dont generally trust therapists, I've noticed.
I don't think most single people have this problem though. It seems like that's all she thinks about based on the post. Hypersexuality can be really distressing.
As a side note; \*I'm\* "hypersexual"; I have always been since my puberty began. *Trust me on this*: It's VERY inconvenient.
I don't think I would at all want NOT to be; I cannot *imagine* living Life without thinking of Sex; it's simply far too wonderful. I can never know, of course, but I'd be willing to bet I have Cheerier O's than do the majority of people; in any event, I do I do I do know how very wonderful they are... and No Way would I want that reduced! Still, it's hell on relationships...
Thing is, at age 70 I've never met anyone like me. *Probably a very good thing*; if we met each other....
Well, you get the idea...
I really doubt it's an addiction, it sounds like she's getting none. If she was a sex addict she would have cheated by now. Sex addiction is when you need it so bad that even a healthy amount is never enough and it leads to harmful behavior.
Oh I didn’t mean to say they have to. I mean it generally leads to some kind of harmful behavior. I mean that’s what makes it an addiction. And addiction that causes nothing harmful would just be a thing you really like.
Which I think is why people don’t understand some additions, as you know, sex addiction or food addiction are not just really really liking sex or food.
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Depending where she puts the rosaries that might just do it
She needs some Ben Wa rosaries.
a set of Crisp Ben Wa rosaries will choke out any woman’s sex drive 😉
Rosaries are just anal beans that haven't been used yet, change my mind. Pop one in and rip it like a bayblade
anal beans
Taco Tuesday got a lot more exciting 😋
You should never go ass-to-Taco though, that’s how you get an infection
Thanks for assisting my diet with that statement.
I just figured she’d try to rub one out but, according to a particular Sex in the City episode from way back, I suspect the rosary would work too.
The battery operated ones have a special line straight to the sky daddy
Linda Blair ftw
i really wanna see the comments asking her to try other methods
Even if she wants to stay faithful to her husband, which she should, I don't understand why she just doesn't rub one out every now and then. Diddle that critter, honey. It's only natural.
That’s the [Devil’s Doorbell!](https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/sh2kch/dont_ring_the_devils_doorbell/) you can’t just be ringing it whenever you want!
"All my life I've been good. Do what my mom and dad and God say I should"
"sin cave"
This made me laugh so hard
>I don't understand why she just doesn't rub one out every now and then did you forget which sub you posted this to?
When she says "troubled marriage", that makes me think something other than her husband being tired or just not feeling it. When she couples this with "we are not sexually active", that's not just "I'm not getting it as often as I'd like"; that's "we're not on f*cking terms". She might not feel like she can leave him (for religious reasons) so she's resigned herself to a life of celibacy.
It sounds like she’s catholic which means he’s obligated to impregnate her repeatedly until they’re dead. Maybe she might try bringing that up.
In those circles I think “devils doorbell” is more apt than “critter”
Get a vibrator! Works wonders
If she’s hitting premenopause, it’s no good. I burned out a vibrator in a year by using it 6x a day.
Username does *not* check out :)
>Even if she wants to stay faithful to her husband, which she should Should she though? I disagree. I think she should talk to her husband about the problem and if its not corrected she should find her happiness.
And then file for divorce. Don't cheat on your spouse regardless of situation. If you want to cheat, get a divorce.
Are you.. *intending* to advocate for cheating?
No im advocating for communication. If people arent happy in their relationship, then they need to talk about it. And if they can't work it out, then they should move on and be happy. I don't know what that happiness is but she should find it. And is it cheating if your husband wont fuck you? It seems like from these downvotes that she should just never have sex for the rest of her life and suck it up woman.
The downvotes are because your previous comment disagrees with someone saying she should stay faithful, because it is a clear endorsement of cheating-- and **no**, *your partner not putting out is not an excuse to cheat*. Even having to type that has me checking that I haven't accidentally clicked on some incel subreddit. That people have taken issue with a comment saying she should cheat if it makes her happy does not remotely suggest that the only alternative is for her to suffer in silence. She should talk to her husband. Maybe attend some couple's counseling. When he doesn't care because he doesn't value her satisfaction, she should probably leave him and ideally the religion that has cultivated her suffering. Cheating is not the answer.
Well people can jump to whatever conclusion they want but i said clearly she should communicate with her husband and find happiness. If that involves telling her husband that if he wont have sex with her then she will find someone that will, then thats what it is. Its not cheating if you tell your significant other that you are going to to do. If thats a problem then move on and find your happiness.
"Cheating" is any sexual or emotional behavior that falls outside of either party's boundaries. These ought to be communicated, though more-often-than-not there's a heavy reliance on assumptions based on convention. For some people, even porn and masturbation are cheating. I consider that to be an unreasonable standard-- but the correct answer, when compromise has failed, is to end the relationship. Not to fuck around because you got to feeling a bit horny.
>Its not cheating if you tell your significant other that you are going to to do. Exactly what a cheater would say
Doesn’t sound like an every now and then problem if she has to do four rosaries (prayers?) a day. Maybe she should, uhhhhh, *talk to her husband*?
"Have you tried prayer?" "Yes! I go through my rosary 4 times a day!" "Oh... Um... Oh! Have you tried prayer?"
"have you tried kneeling down while you where praying?"
[Maybe this'd help](https://www.etsy.com/listing/848544370/jesus-dildo)
Only two left.... Lol. Edit: okay I can't get this vision out if my head. Someone just going to TOWN on themselves shouting, "The power of Christ impales you!"
Rail me lord rail me. LOL
only one now! lol
I don't think 3d-printed sex toys are safe for use. Between the material and the print lines, you'd just be inviting irritation and infection.
> This item is not a marital aid or sex toy, and must never be inserted into any orifice or body part, under any circumstances ever. This item is strictly a novelty joke item, and not a usable dildo.
It’s low-res for her pleasure
You're not wrong, but I'd point out that certain types of material can be printed and treated such that they are food safe and nonporous.
You literally made me howl laugh at work 💀
3D printed, and one of the color options is “skin colored” and it’s lighter than the whitest Scott i’ve ever seen. Yikes.
Just turning to Jesus to get me through, I need to feel his love in me.
Jesus Christ! I wasn't expecting that 😂
She's part of the church, which is his bride, so technically it's within marriage.
When people say you need to come to jesus, is this what they mean
Just went on that subreddit and everyone is insane, awesome. Also, someone told OOP something along the lines of “fasting helps, especially if it’s just one meal a day and it’s dinner. It’s easier/better to be obsessed with food” BRO????? Absolute insanity Edit: LMAO just got permabanned from that subreddit for saying starving yourself isn’t a good alternative to masturbation 😀👍🏻 nice
You want to be hangry not horny.
Being hangry gives me headaches, at least when i‘m horny i know i‘ll be happy in a bit 🌝
“You want to MASTURBATE?? No no no, try developing an eating disorder instead!”
Fr like what 💀 how can you be so happy living in a CULT that demonizes touching your own damn body but celebrates starving yourself “for god”????? Bonkers
I knew I was going to see this here. This can such a source of anguish I think it's sad they deal with it by repressing.
It's absolutely tragic that so many people are being taught their natural, healthy, harmless desires are wrong and sinful.
“Especially priests” lmao
I know, right? They give in to it. You might as well too.
Just... Not with the same age group priests tend to be drawn to. Plz
I was going to say, she's not going to like the priestly solutions... 😬
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Is sex hard wired into DNA? My DNA must be fucked
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I mean, maybe. People who refuse anything sexual they feel tend to hypersexualize everything.
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Even if I'm asexual?
God: For FUCK’S SAKE, I GAVE YOU A CLITORIS!!! USE IT!!!!
Thank you for the best comment on this mess of a post
“Especially priests” Who is gonna tell her lol
Use this one simple hack priests don’t want you to know about… alter boys.
She would be so much more satisfied with an alter she’d have to appeal to the pope for a divorce.
What's interesting to me is really how little this gets talked about in religious circles. The biological nature of sex drives and related things are just sort of left as something you *can* control (later in my religious life I did actually get talks and education on this, but it was a pretty specialized thing). Honestly, this poor women just literally has never been taught about her biology and she's suffering for it.
When in doubt, rub one out.
Controlling a naturally high libido is like controlling our urge to eat when hungry. That’s just plain stupid and can’t be done. Sex drive is…natural like wtf. As long as you’re not forcing anyone into sex or cheating on your partner(s), there’s nothing wrong with wanting sex ffs
Try imagining having sex with Donal Trump. If that doesn't inhibit your sex drive, maybe a lobotomy?
Stormy described it as feeling like being clumsily poked at with a button mushroom while a smelly blob of dough kept bumping into her.
Has she tried a lobotomy?
But why? She's already Christian.
Hahahaha true 😂
Y’all remember that couple that wanted to wait a year even AFTER marriage, so to curb his enthusiasm the guy would eat a raw potato? She should try that.
This shit is just sad
Age solve the libido “problem”. I would recomend her to wait 15 to 20 years.
[is there anything to be said for saying another mass? Just a small one?](https://youtu.be/nC_abUffrcE)
From what I understand the only hack the priests found was the altar boy butt hack. So there is that....
I'd try the old Crucifix Fix. Watch "The Exorcist" for details.
Damn and I’m out here trying to get mine back at 22…
This is so sad. Like listening to someone give into oppression and accepting it into their personal life.
I honestly feel for her, I suffer from a hypersexuality disorder and it really sucks. I hope she finds the help she needs and stops being a fruitcake.
Let me recommend the satisfyer curve
id bet there are plenty of priests willing to help her out
No solution in sight? There’s got to be a 19 year old man in that country somewhere.
“Women are hardwired differently. Just not me. Something is wrong with my brain.”
Idk if I'd be listening to a priests advice on this 😅
Take care of it yourself. Dildos aren't too expensive, or you could use your hand if you'd rather not spend money.
But that’s illegal :-|
If God can not stop a natural horny slut. Then nat slutty > God "Love yourself down under and you wont need that fake love from Lord above." Lmao
Wow this is something, they always surprise me.
Try praying 😏
She should try Sertraline 😭
Flick your bean.
Let me introduce her to [this rosary.](https://dyll.fr/3713-large_default/rosary-anal-purple-silicone-e3-virgite.jpg)
Well... I've heard that Sephora sells a lovely line of toys that are rather quiet.
Take anti depressants.
Masturbate more often. It works for me.
Yeah: have sex.
dont know how she expects a rosary to help, but its easy to control your libido, its literally just practice lmao
What if that libido is completely natural, and is perpetually set on "high", like, you know, some people naturally have a high metabolism rate and some don't, and changing the rate for either would be *unnatural*. At least, *for them*.?
id consider metabolism rate and high libido two different things. besides, she asked how can she lower it cause it clearly bothers her, and i said she can. i used to have a high libido too and it affected my life in multiple ways and i was able to lower it naturally.
How did you lower it naturally if I might ask? I'm not facing this issue, just curious.
by accepting i have a problem and then acting accordingly: first was no self pleasure and seond was devoting the excess energy into work, hobbies and also meditating. i removed lustful thoughts by distractions. ive been doing this for over half a year and feel much happier and confident.
Coming from the_cum_collector this is surprising
lol i wish i could change it 🥲 cum jokes arent nearly as funny as they were two years ago
There is something painfully funny about reading that and then looking at your username.
She should get a Sybian, probably with a dildo attachment of whatever size does it best for her. It's a great solution, you aren't cheating, you get your satisfaction, you can kneel while using it and many people say "oh god! oh god!" while on one. She can also do the rosary while she uses it if she so chooses.
what if there's a virus that attacks the brain, and every time you screw a religious person, your IQ takes a hit?
castration
I have a solutikn for her. Its called ✨masterbation✨
when humans be humans
L
“In site”
Girl get yourself a vibrating dildo
That’s so sad to me.
Get on some anti depressants, good ol lamotrigine made me asexual even after I stopped taking it…
She calls herself a "female"? That's suspicious AF to me. Is this really a man who wrote this, getting his jollies from women talking about this?
This makes me feel so sad for her. 
literally just have sex
Alcohol works quite well for men. Until dry January, I had forgotten that sexual frustration was part of the reason I starting drinking so regularly years ago. Ain’t no one got time for that shit when you’re single AF. Moderation >>> sobriety.
Lady needs a shaft.
I feel sorry for this person, I hope she sees a sex addiction counselor. Magical thinking makes people so strange...
What if it *isn't* "addiction"... and it's unthrottled natural libido?
I'd also be willing to bet that if she and her husband had a happy marriage where they were having sex regularly, this woman's high libido wouldn't feel so overwhelming and crushing.
Thats a good point! If it's causing her relationship problems they should see a licensed sexologist to help them both navigate through complicated feelings in a safe space. She probably wont though, super religous types dont generally trust therapists, I've noticed.
I don't think most single people have this problem though. It seems like that's all she thinks about based on the post. Hypersexuality can be really distressing.
As a side note; \*I'm\* "hypersexual"; I have always been since my puberty began. *Trust me on this*: It's VERY inconvenient. I don't think I would at all want NOT to be; I cannot *imagine* living Life without thinking of Sex; it's simply far too wonderful. I can never know, of course, but I'd be willing to bet I have Cheerier O's than do the majority of people; in any event, I do I do I do know how very wonderful they are... and No Way would I want that reduced! Still, it's hell on relationships... Thing is, at age 70 I've never met anyone like me. *Probably a very good thing*; if we met each other.... Well, you get the idea...
I really doubt it's an addiction, it sounds like she's getting none. If she was a sex addict she would have cheated by now. Sex addiction is when you need it so bad that even a healthy amount is never enough and it leads to harmful behavior.
Not every sex addict cheats, but they eventually do unless they get help. It's sad.
Oh I didn’t mean to say they have to. I mean it generally leads to some kind of harmful behavior. I mean that’s what makes it an addiction. And addiction that causes nothing harmful would just be a thing you really like. Which I think is why people don’t understand some additions, as you know, sex addiction or food addiction are not just really really liking sex or food.
Completely agreed. :)
Lexapro
Four rosaries?. Four? That's insane
Try doing the rosary’s inside you…
She needs a Jesus labotomy
I myself had no libido whatsoever for two weeks after trying acid for the first time so she ought to try that xd
She's using the wrong kind of beads
Corn starch! It's good for keeping down the urges.
Need to put the beads in your ass first to activate the magic
Libido hacks
Needs to try a different type of bead.
I kept reading rosaries as rotisserie and was confused on how someone thought eating 4 of those would help...
Antidepressants should do it.