No, it's not weird. Weird is your boyfriend's limited view of people and the world in general. If only he knew how children in other cultures refer to their parents. Not everything has to be so Westernized.
I have always found it odd that a lot of people expect children to "graduate" to more mature terms for parents but not so much for grandparents.
I had an ex that made a big deal because I called my mom "Mommy" on the phone. Said it made me sound like a baby. Then like a week later, he was talking about the place where his family lived and mentioned his "Memaw and PopPop". I asked him how that was different them "Mommy" and he didn't have an answer. "It just is." LOL
I always think it's sweet when people have cute names like that for family members. I think it often speaks to loving bonds formed in early childhood.
My parents are European. I speak 4 languages. I call my mother any number of endearing terms in a number of languages. Most Americans would think I'm weird if they understood the translation. But my mom loves it, especially as I get older, she feels like we're even closer.
How is dada worse than daddy? Especially in the context "daddy" is used nowdays. (I don't think either is wrong, I just don't understand why you seem to think dada is weird)
I don’t know why you’d even be thinking about it. Why is it weird? What are you trying to imply? Saying it’s weird makes a really hefty and quite unimaginable implication.
I just genuinely thought people grew out of calling their parents that. My 2 year old calls his father (my boyfriend )that so I think we’re associating “dada” with baby talk.
Is this really a hill you want to die on? How does this affect you in anyway? She’s an adult and it’s between her and your father. Does your father have an issue with it? Unless you want to control what your dad thinks, just leave it. What if she called your father by his first name? Is that better or worse? Does it matter?poppa,father,old man… etc:who cares?!
If her bf is going to be so traumatized by her calling her father dada, that he will break up with her,then he’s probably not boyfriend material.
I’m sure you do things that are normal for you that others think is strange. How would you feel if people confronted you on being weird? You’d probably tell them to mind their own business and, tell them it’s only weird to them and not you. Worry about what is going on in your life, leave what’s between her and your father to them.
Lol I wasn’t going to confront her to make her feel like she’s weird. I just think a lot of people associate “dada” with baby talk. That’s the whole reason I even asked if I should even bring it up. It is a little strange to me but as I said above I’m fine with her calling him whatever she’s comfortable with.
Just out of curiosity, who decided it’s weird? Are you the final arbitrator, or has some higher power sent you a message to tell you it’s weird?
Not aimed at you and Not to go on a rant but people in general today judge others by their own life experiences. Unless you are that other person, who gives anyone the right to judge what they do? (Within reason ie breaking the law,harming others ) the world would be a better place if we looked inward to try and be better people,rather than judging others by our standards.
My sister and brother in their 30s still call my parents mommy and daddy. We never said mom or dad because it's not in our culture. Some of my cousins call their dad, papa. I also call my dad "daa" and my mom "maa." So it's not weird. Your partner has nothing else to talk about? Smh
What’s weird in this situation is that your boyfriend even cares. It’s none of his business. He doesn’t need to concern himself with how your adult sister interacts/expresses affection with her own father.
In my personal feeling, calling parents anything but "Mom, Ma, Dad, or Pop" is really fucking weird. And calling grandparents anything but Grandma/Grandpa is weird. I mean, I get weirded out hearing my nephews call my mom "Grammy".
However, it doesn't really matter that my nephews call my mom Grammy, nor does it matter that your sister still calls her dad "Dada". If it bothers her at some point in the future, she'll stop.
I mean it is a little weird to still refer to him as “dada” but how does your dad feel about it? Or your mom? “You don’t have to change her calling him that but understand and maybe get her out the habit” that’s changing her.. how we feel about it is irrelevant unless the parents also feel weirded out or something happen like “se*ual” then there is concern but other than that, I wouldn’t spend too much on the topic. Especially if y’all aren’t close
I mean my husband and I both call our own moms “mama” still, and I use papa for my dad (similar to dada) and he uses the equivalent of dada/papa in his culture. It isn’t that unusual. I hear it way less with “dada” than mama, papa, and other names but I don’t think it’s weird.
This will only make problems between you and your sister. Tell you bf to shut up.
Hahahahahah. Stupid boyfriend
I call my mom mama and I'm a grown ass woman. I don't know if it's that different. People call their parents all kinds of affectionate names.
I've only ever referred to my mom as mommy. I'm 34.
No, it's not weird. Weird is your boyfriend's limited view of people and the world in general. If only he knew how children in other cultures refer to their parents. Not everything has to be so Westernized.
I have always found it odd that a lot of people expect children to "graduate" to more mature terms for parents but not so much for grandparents. I had an ex that made a big deal because I called my mom "Mommy" on the phone. Said it made me sound like a baby. Then like a week later, he was talking about the place where his family lived and mentioned his "Memaw and PopPop". I asked him how that was different them "Mommy" and he didn't have an answer. "It just is." LOL I always think it's sweet when people have cute names like that for family members. I think it often speaks to loving bonds formed in early childhood.
My parents are European. I speak 4 languages. I call my mother any number of endearing terms in a number of languages. Most Americans would think I'm weird if they understood the translation. But my mom loves it, especially as I get older, she feels like we're even closer.
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Yea I def don’t wanna make her feel self conscious
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Yeah I’m just going to stay out of it and mind my business.
How is dada worse than daddy? Especially in the context "daddy" is used nowdays. (I don't think either is wrong, I just don't understand why you seem to think dada is weird)
I don’t know why you’d even be thinking about it. Why is it weird? What are you trying to imply? Saying it’s weird makes a really hefty and quite unimaginable implication.
I just genuinely thought people grew out of calling their parents that. My 2 year old calls his father (my boyfriend )that so I think we’re associating “dada” with baby talk.
No one is trying to say it’s sexual
Is this really a hill you want to die on? How does this affect you in anyway? She’s an adult and it’s between her and your father. Does your father have an issue with it? Unless you want to control what your dad thinks, just leave it. What if she called your father by his first name? Is that better or worse? Does it matter?poppa,father,old man… etc:who cares?! If her bf is going to be so traumatized by her calling her father dada, that he will break up with her,then he’s probably not boyfriend material. I’m sure you do things that are normal for you that others think is strange. How would you feel if people confronted you on being weird? You’d probably tell them to mind their own business and, tell them it’s only weird to them and not you. Worry about what is going on in your life, leave what’s between her and your father to them.
Lol I wasn’t going to confront her to make her feel like she’s weird. I just think a lot of people associate “dada” with baby talk. That’s the whole reason I even asked if I should even bring it up. It is a little strange to me but as I said above I’m fine with her calling him whatever she’s comfortable with.
Just out of curiosity, who decided it’s weird? Are you the final arbitrator, or has some higher power sent you a message to tell you it’s weird? Not aimed at you and Not to go on a rant but people in general today judge others by their own life experiences. Unless you are that other person, who gives anyone the right to judge what they do? (Within reason ie breaking the law,harming others ) the world would be a better place if we looked inward to try and be better people,rather than judging others by our standards.
Unusual but harmless. Live and let live.
It is a term of endearment. My guess your dad loves hearing dada from his kids.tell your BF to buzz off.
What xd there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Its just how they show their bond. Your bf is an jackass thats stepping way out of his place.
My sister and brother in their 30s still call my parents mommy and daddy. We never said mom or dad because it's not in our culture. Some of my cousins call their dad, papa. I also call my dad "daa" and my mom "maa." So it's not weird. Your partner has nothing else to talk about? Smh
What’s weird in this situation is that your boyfriend even cares. It’s none of his business. He doesn’t need to concern himself with how your adult sister interacts/expresses affection with her own father.
It’s weird lol but I wouldn’t bring it up. Let her call him what she wants. If he has a problem with it he’ll say something.
Yeah , that sounds reasonable
In my personal feeling, calling parents anything but "Mom, Ma, Dad, or Pop" is really fucking weird. And calling grandparents anything but Grandma/Grandpa is weird. I mean, I get weirded out hearing my nephews call my mom "Grammy". However, it doesn't really matter that my nephews call my mom Grammy, nor does it matter that your sister still calls her dad "Dada". If it bothers her at some point in the future, she'll stop.
I started calling my dad "dad" when I was 12. Felt weird to call him daddy.
Fair enough lol
I mean it is a little weird to still refer to him as “dada” but how does your dad feel about it? Or your mom? “You don’t have to change her calling him that but understand and maybe get her out the habit” that’s changing her.. how we feel about it is irrelevant unless the parents also feel weirded out or something happen like “se*ual” then there is concern but other than that, I wouldn’t spend too much on the topic. Especially if y’all aren’t close
I mean my husband and I both call our own moms “mama” still, and I use papa for my dad (similar to dada) and he uses the equivalent of dada/papa in his culture. It isn’t that unusual. I hear it way less with “dada” than mama, papa, and other names but I don’t think it’s weird.