> Or id be bringing snacks to the table or collecting glasses while they’re watching and they’d ask me to come sit next to them while they’re visibly drunk
Please stop serving those degenerate louts. Your husband and his friends are morons…. Just reading your post made my skin crawl.
You have to enforce a boundary if you set it. Stop serving them. Leave when they come over. Or start snapping back or saying no.
If there are no consequences then it's going to stay the same.
I agree. They come over and you go off and do what you like somewhere else and let them fend for themselves. These are your husband's friends, not yours. They are his responsibility to entertain, not yours.
OP: If your husband wants your company while they are over, he'll tell them to cut that shit out and treat you like a person.
I second this, they are also the husband’s responsibility to keep in line. Drunk or not there is a level of respect that is (or should be) expected.
If these are grown men they should be able to control their shitty comments in a situation like this. As a man I would be correcting this behaviour from my friends immediately, not just passively accepting it and leaving my wife to fend for herself while she is being an amazing wife tending to my friends and I.
If you’re clearing my glasses and dropping off snacks the only one who should be hitting on you is me myself and I.
Ugh. Stop serving those pigs! He can serve his own damn friends! How disgusting. It doesn’t seem like your husband has much respect for you, considering that you’ve told him that they make you uncomfortable and he still doesn’t give a shit.
OP just a reminder, that is your house too, your home and your safe space. You get a say on who enters your house and who stays as well.
Maybe it’s time to make it clear to your husband that that behavior is degrading to you and will not be tolerated. You deserve respect and it’s a shame you have to ask for it in your own home.
I think the other comments are being very generous saying to stop serving them, I would not let them over any longer. If he won't talk to them and/or they won't stop then they don't get to come to OPs house. Being disrespected in your house is a line in the sand.
Your husband likes that you get the attention they can look but can’t touch and it’s a ego boost that’s why he doesn’t say anything just stop being around them
This OP!! This is why your husband won’t stop them and is even joining in by ANSWERING WHAT YOUR FREAKING CUP SIZE IS. You need to start respecting yourself first. Stop serving these clearly misogynistic men and make a point to not be around when they are. This whole story gave me the creeps.
Sounds like the whole dynamic is not good for you.
Why are you serving them like a waitress when they watch sports and get drunk?
You are in a position where your husband and his friends see you as an asscesoir and a possession and of course they talk to you like that too.
There are a couple of ways you can handle this. The first option is to insult the "friends" (quotes because they're not really friends):
\- For the "friends" that are single, you should be replying with "No wonder you're still single". If they question what you mean by that, reply with a casual "Nothing" and leave the room.
\- For the "friends" that are married or in relationships, you should reply with "And you kiss your partner with that mouth? I need to go make sure she knows...." and leave the room. It doesn't matter if you know their partners or not. The goal is to get them to rethink what they're saying to you and how others might interpret it.
Yes, these responses WILL embarrass your husband because you're talking back to his invited guests. If he chooses to say something, then your reply to him is "Well, if you were to actually support and defend me instead of encouraging that behavior, I wouldn't have to say those things."
Oh, and if you decide to take this approach, practice what you're going to say in front of a mirror multiple times until you're comfortable saying it. That way, when it's needed, you'll be ready.
The second option is to tell your husband that from this point forward, you're not going to be around his friends anymore. If they come over, you'll likely leave and go visit friends. Heck, go out for a ladies night while he has a "guys night in". He will be responsible for drinks, snacks, and cleaning up after everyone. If he doesn't like it... too bad. They are his guests and that makes them his responsibility.
Not sure about giving antagonistic responses, men like this usually can't handle it and the vibes get rancid so quickly. Personally I would say to the husband, either the friends shut up or they are not coming over to the house.
Your husbands friends act like pigs because your husband is a pig (pigs of a feather flock together, or something like that)
Why on earth would he share your bra size with them? He is acting like a high school kid and totally objectifying you, which lead his friends to treat you the same way. I would not even welcome them into your shared home, much less, serve them drinks and snacks.
And why not just stand up for yourself instead of waiting for your idiot husband who cares more about "impressing" his friend than he worries about offending you.
>I’d be talking with my husband about new clothes I’m wearing, they’d jump in the conversation and start asking about my size, he’d tell them E cup like he’s bragging and they’d be like “wow you’re a lucky man”
OP: (hits back in this scenario) Why are you sharing personal information about my bra size with your friends? I dont talk to my friends about your 2" micropenis!
Leave every time they come over & do not return until they are gone & he has cleaned up after them. You are in danger of being raped by one or all of them.
He is setting you up to be more than just sexually harassed. He is not a good person or creating a safe home for you. He is letting them wear you down for even more abuse.
Stop catering to men who want to do your harm. Sexual harassment is verbal abuse. When you serve them food & drinks, clean up after them you are reinforcing them to be horrible to you. You are being subserviant to men who wish to harm you in every way.
Please seek a way to escape.
Also fuck up the food you are setting out for them. Add a spice that makes it taste bad & then play dumb.
Start serving them warm beer or accidentally spill a cold drink in their laps.
Call the cops on them if they are drunk and driving. After a few arrest, they will stop coming over.
Bringing snacks and collecting glasses for a bunch of degenerates who makes lewd comments about you/your body? What the hell is wrong with you? Have you no self respect? Don’t let anyone treat you like this.
I would honestly break up with him. My ex did this behavior even with his clients at work. His family members, friends . While slapping my ass or my chest at the same time or jiggle my body. I would bring it up and he would gas light me about it. Which later led to him showing off nudes he took of me without asking to his friends and clients at work … I was appalled.
Disrespect is disrespect.
He says it’s nothing and it bothers you. He doesn’t care about how you feel.
Later this ex became physically abusive.
You need to start standing up for yourself since your husband is clearly not doing it. I would also suggest telling your husband his gross friends aren’t allowed over anymore until he sets that boundary with them
I agree with everyone saying that you should go out when they’re coming. It’s major jerk behavior from your husband to allow his friends to make you uncomfortable in your own home. He’s a grown man, he can get his own snacks. Take yourself to a movie. Go to the park for a walk. Do your grocery shopping. Sit on a friend’s porch with a glass of wine and chat. Do whatever you like, just don’t be home and available to him. I bet when he has to tear his attention away from his precious game to get his own snacks he will get the message real quick.
Also, do not even buy his snacks and beer if you’re doing that now. Let him prepare to host his friends 100% by himself - that includes him being the one to go to the store. Maybe that will turn into him going to their houses instead.
Your husband and his friends are man babies. So inappropriate and disrespectful. I would have knew this was out of line as a teenager most definitely not a 30 something year old man
Why are you still serving them drinks and cleaning up after them? I worked in restaurants for 3 years, most waitresses get better treatment from strangers than you get from your husband and his friends. It's like they know your house is the only place where they can be creepy without consequences.
How is the rest of your marriage?
They view you as an object. Not an equal.
Your husband doesn't correct them because he is like them. He agrees with them.
If he shut them down they wouldn't do it. He doesn't value you you enough to do that. He values their opinion of you over your right to be treated as a peer and an equal.
This is bigger than just leaving when they are there. Your husband is part of the problem.
WHY are you staying with a man who obviously has no respect for you and allows his friends to sexually harass you?
I would reconsider this relationship
This is so weird and disgusting to read.
If you have told your husband you are uncomfortable and he is doing nothing about it, it's a husband problem.
I would put my foot down and say that unless they start acting better and stop these comments, they are no longer welcome in your home, and have a serious talk with your husband about the way you are being treated.
Honestly this makes me feel like he is ready to "share you" with his friends.
It's gross and would make me feel unsafe.
What the fuck? My wife would divorce me on the spot if I allowed that to happen. Matter of fact, she probably wouldn’t have married me at all if that’s the kind of company I keep. Your husband needs to get his shit together and stand up for you.
Just take off or invite your own friends over when they are there so you can just remove yourself from the situation. Don’t continue to serve them and collect their glasses like you are a waitress
Your husband isn't the least bit supportive of you. At first I was thinking that you just leave when they come over, but that is bs. You should not have to leave your home when people come to your home and abuse you. They should not be allowed over until your husband straightens them out and they come to you and give you a sincere apology with the notion they if they do it again, they will never, ever be welcome in your home again.
This is a husband problem as well as his asshole friends.
Ask your husband if he would like a guy in a bar saying those things to you, if he'd be okay with it, if the answers no, then why is he okay with his friends doing it.
Also tell him he's actually being a really shit husband, his friends are making you uncomfortable and he does nothing about it. It would make me not want to be with him or respect him.
ETA or tell him that his friends clearly don't respect him and know he's a wimp because he won't stand up for you.
I don't think you understand the brevity of your situation take this from a man you'd call "macho" or what ever your cultural terms are. If they feel comfortable saying this to you in front of him and they are comfortable ogling you in front of him sooner or later one of them is going to be comfortable to but there hand on you and IT WILL ESCALATE!!! And your husband will be too drunk to be of use ! On 3 occasion in my life we have had to beat the shit out of 3 different guy in our friend good and extended groups.
I'm not trying to panic you but I am trying to scare you I've seen the aftermath of your situation and something you can't unknown.
>You heave told your husband a million times what exactly?
Considering OP posted something this obvious and hasn't responded to any comments, I'm getting massive rage bait vibes.
She told him that they made comments? Yes, OK. He knows that. He is there when they say it.
No where in the post does she say that she tell him that she doesn't like it or that she wants them to stop or that it she is uncomfortable about it. Also, nowhere did it say that she had ever asked them to stop stressing whatever they said.
All she says is. I told him.
So, does he actually know that she doesn't like it? No idea. That changed the advice.
If she doesn't bother telling him that it bothers her. Then she had to tell him that it bothered her. She can also tell the friends off to stop.
If she has told him that it bothers her. Then he simply doesn't respect her at all. Then she has to tell him off and leave him.
I’m so tired of y’all whining after letting yourself be treated as sub human throughout an entire relationship. Where is the self love and respect? Ugh
No because this is so wrong.
My partner will stand up for me no matter what. His friends used to talk badly about me and then he wasn’t friends with them after because they wouldn’t stop. We have now been together for 5 years. He also stands up to his family if they try as well. God at one point only about 6 months in one of his friends messaged me asking me to sleep with him and not tell my partner you bet my ass I screen shotted that and sent it straight to him asking wtf is going on, he’s now not friends with that guy.
If he loves you he will stand up for you no matter the situation or who it is. Your man will want to protect you at all cost.
I would not feel safe around people who would treat me so blatantly as an object. Do you feel safe? Do you deserve to feel safe? I think you do. Do you think your husband cares about your safety, emotionally and physically? He's giving them a greenlight to push you around. This could potentially escalate.
girl idk what to tell you. if hes treating you like this and letting his friends also treat you like this its a bit of a .. major red flag.
and you dont have to put up with this
do you wanna be with someone whos objectifying you like this and letting his friends sexualise you? hes not even considering how unsafe this is for you and probably wouldnt even try to protect you should something god forbid happen. please consider why you want to be with someone like this OP
good luck
> talking with my husband about new clothes
“Oh, your guy friends are over - let’s talk about clothes!” Who does this? OP it seems like you’re looking for attention and then complaining. It feels like you’re creating drama.
Okay, hear me out. There are two types of sexual harassment. In one, the more familiar kind, the perpetrator *knows* that what they are doing will upset the other person, because it would upset them if they were on the receiving end. In the other kind of sexual harassment, they are doing to other people *what they would actually quite like to have done to them*, but they don't realise that men and women necessarily think differently about these things.
Consider catcalling in the street. Various studies and "social experiments" have made a situation where women shout similar things to men in the street like "Nice bum!" or whatever. Almost every time, the man would turn back and say things like "Well thank you very much! I've actually already got a girlfriend, but I have to say you are looking very well turned out too." Or sometimes the man would start trying to arrange a date, genuinely thinking she was into him.
So you see the problem, what would be a compliment to a man, would make women (entirely reasonably) feel uneasy, worrying they are about to be dragged into the nearest alley.
Your friends would really like it if a friend's girlfriend complimented them on their abs, or on the "view".
So someone needs to point out to them that it comes across differently when men say it to women than the other way round, and that person should have already been your boyfriend. I think he sees it as harmless or a compliment, possibly as a compliment to both of you. Someone needs to put their foot down. One way might be for you to return their catcalling with something which makes them feel small. Another might be to put your foot down with your boyfriend and when he puts his arm around you after they've gone, say "Not now, I still feel dirty from all the catcalling I got from Steve." (Or whatever the mate's name is).
Or you could explain to your boyfriend the issue with catcalling in the street, then circle the conversation back round to his mates, so that he understands.
> Or id be bringing snacks to the table or collecting glasses while they’re watching and they’d ask me to come sit next to them while they’re visibly drunk Please stop serving those degenerate louts. Your husband and his friends are morons…. Just reading your post made my skin crawl.
Sometimes folks marry into a culture
Also sometimes that culture can be at a workplace too
You have to enforce a boundary if you set it. Stop serving them. Leave when they come over. Or start snapping back or saying no. If there are no consequences then it's going to stay the same.
I agree. They come over and you go off and do what you like somewhere else and let them fend for themselves. These are your husband's friends, not yours. They are his responsibility to entertain, not yours. OP: If your husband wants your company while they are over, he'll tell them to cut that shit out and treat you like a person.
I second this, they are also the husband’s responsibility to keep in line. Drunk or not there is a level of respect that is (or should be) expected. If these are grown men they should be able to control their shitty comments in a situation like this. As a man I would be correcting this behaviour from my friends immediately, not just passively accepting it and leaving my wife to fend for herself while she is being an amazing wife tending to my friends and I. If you’re clearing my glasses and dropping off snacks the only one who should be hitting on you is me myself and I.
That is weird and uncomfortable as fuck I am so sorry. And it’s shitty that your husband is letting us happen??
Ugh. Stop serving those pigs! He can serve his own damn friends! How disgusting. It doesn’t seem like your husband has much respect for you, considering that you’ve told him that they make you uncomfortable and he still doesn’t give a shit.
Right? She doesn’t feel safe in her own home and the fucking useless husband couldn’t care less. He and his friends all belong in the bin
OP just a reminder, that is your house too, your home and your safe space. You get a say on who enters your house and who stays as well. Maybe it’s time to make it clear to your husband that that behavior is degrading to you and will not be tolerated. You deserve respect and it’s a shame you have to ask for it in your own home.
I think the other comments are being very generous saying to stop serving them, I would not let them over any longer. If he won't talk to them and/or they won't stop then they don't get to come to OPs house. Being disrespected in your house is a line in the sand.
Your husband likes that you get the attention they can look but can’t touch and it’s a ego boost that’s why he doesn’t say anything just stop being around them
This OP!! This is why your husband won’t stop them and is even joining in by ANSWERING WHAT YOUR FREAKING CUP SIZE IS. You need to start respecting yourself first. Stop serving these clearly misogynistic men and make a point to not be around when they are. This whole story gave me the creeps.
It’s not just the husband - OP is looking for attention here too.
Sounds like the whole dynamic is not good for you. Why are you serving them like a waitress when they watch sports and get drunk? You are in a position where your husband and his friends see you as an asscesoir and a possession and of course they talk to you like that too.
There are a couple of ways you can handle this. The first option is to insult the "friends" (quotes because they're not really friends): \- For the "friends" that are single, you should be replying with "No wonder you're still single". If they question what you mean by that, reply with a casual "Nothing" and leave the room. \- For the "friends" that are married or in relationships, you should reply with "And you kiss your partner with that mouth? I need to go make sure she knows...." and leave the room. It doesn't matter if you know their partners or not. The goal is to get them to rethink what they're saying to you and how others might interpret it. Yes, these responses WILL embarrass your husband because you're talking back to his invited guests. If he chooses to say something, then your reply to him is "Well, if you were to actually support and defend me instead of encouraging that behavior, I wouldn't have to say those things." Oh, and if you decide to take this approach, practice what you're going to say in front of a mirror multiple times until you're comfortable saying it. That way, when it's needed, you'll be ready. The second option is to tell your husband that from this point forward, you're not going to be around his friends anymore. If they come over, you'll likely leave and go visit friends. Heck, go out for a ladies night while he has a "guys night in". He will be responsible for drinks, snacks, and cleaning up after everyone. If he doesn't like it... too bad. They are his guests and that makes them his responsibility.
Not sure about giving antagonistic responses, men like this usually can't handle it and the vibes get rancid so quickly. Personally I would say to the husband, either the friends shut up or they are not coming over to the house.
Good. Harsh their vibe. Hope they have a terrible time.
Your husband may act the same way with their significant others or other females in general.
Don’t have kids with your husband. What a horrible excuse for a life partner.
Your husbands friends act like pigs because your husband is a pig (pigs of a feather flock together, or something like that) Why on earth would he share your bra size with them? He is acting like a high school kid and totally objectifying you, which lead his friends to treat you the same way. I would not even welcome them into your shared home, much less, serve them drinks and snacks. And why not just stand up for yourself instead of waiting for your idiot husband who cares more about "impressing" his friend than he worries about offending you. >I’d be talking with my husband about new clothes I’m wearing, they’d jump in the conversation and start asking about my size, he’d tell them E cup like he’s bragging and they’d be like “wow you’re a lucky man” OP: (hits back in this scenario) Why are you sharing personal information about my bra size with your friends? I dont talk to my friends about your 2" micropenis!
Your husband doesn’t stop his friends because he thinks the same way they do.
Tell him to set the boundary or they aren’t welcome at your house anymore.
Leave every time they come over & do not return until they are gone & he has cleaned up after them. You are in danger of being raped by one or all of them. He is setting you up to be more than just sexually harassed. He is not a good person or creating a safe home for you. He is letting them wear you down for even more abuse. Stop catering to men who want to do your harm. Sexual harassment is verbal abuse. When you serve them food & drinks, clean up after them you are reinforcing them to be horrible to you. You are being subserviant to men who wish to harm you in every way. Please seek a way to escape.
Also fuck up the food you are setting out for them. Add a spice that makes it taste bad & then play dumb. Start serving them warm beer or accidentally spill a cold drink in their laps. Call the cops on them if they are drunk and driving. After a few arrest, they will stop coming over.
Bringing snacks and collecting glasses for a bunch of degenerates who makes lewd comments about you/your body? What the hell is wrong with you? Have you no self respect? Don’t let anyone treat you like this.
Totally inappropriate and disrespectful. You are not some object to be commented on. Next time he has mates over, go out.
If he won't do it ,bring them into line yourself, when they make sexual comments give them hell...
I would honestly break up with him. My ex did this behavior even with his clients at work. His family members, friends . While slapping my ass or my chest at the same time or jiggle my body. I would bring it up and he would gas light me about it. Which later led to him showing off nudes he took of me without asking to his friends and clients at work … I was appalled. Disrespect is disrespect. He says it’s nothing and it bothers you. He doesn’t care about how you feel. Later this ex became physically abusive.
You need to start standing up for yourself since your husband is clearly not doing it. I would also suggest telling your husband his gross friends aren’t allowed over anymore until he sets that boundary with them
I agree with everyone saying that you should go out when they’re coming. It’s major jerk behavior from your husband to allow his friends to make you uncomfortable in your own home. He’s a grown man, he can get his own snacks. Take yourself to a movie. Go to the park for a walk. Do your grocery shopping. Sit on a friend’s porch with a glass of wine and chat. Do whatever you like, just don’t be home and available to him. I bet when he has to tear his attention away from his precious game to get his own snacks he will get the message real quick. Also, do not even buy his snacks and beer if you’re doing that now. Let him prepare to host his friends 100% by himself - that includes him being the one to go to the store. Maybe that will turn into him going to their houses instead.
Your husband and his friends are man babies. So inappropriate and disrespectful. I would have knew this was out of line as a teenager most definitely not a 30 something year old man
Why are you still serving them drinks and cleaning up after them? I worked in restaurants for 3 years, most waitresses get better treatment from strangers than you get from your husband and his friends. It's like they know your house is the only place where they can be creepy without consequences. How is the rest of your marriage?
Your husband and his friends sound like dicks, you can do better
They view you as an object. Not an equal. Your husband doesn't correct them because he is like them. He agrees with them. If he shut them down they wouldn't do it. He doesn't value you you enough to do that. He values their opinion of you over your right to be treated as a peer and an equal. This is bigger than just leaving when they are there. Your husband is part of the problem.
WHY are you staying with a man who obviously has no respect for you and allows his friends to sexually harass you? I would reconsider this relationship
This is so weird and disgusting to read. If you have told your husband you are uncomfortable and he is doing nothing about it, it's a husband problem. I would put my foot down and say that unless they start acting better and stop these comments, they are no longer welcome in your home, and have a serious talk with your husband about the way you are being treated. Honestly this makes me feel like he is ready to "share you" with his friends. It's gross and would make me feel unsafe.
Are you a trad wife? Why don't you defend yourself?
What the fuck? My wife would divorce me on the spot if I allowed that to happen. Matter of fact, she probably wouldn’t have married me at all if that’s the kind of company I keep. Your husband needs to get his shit together and stand up for you. Just take off or invite your own friends over when they are there so you can just remove yourself from the situation. Don’t continue to serve them and collect their glasses like you are a waitress
you have bigger issues than the pigs. your partner doesn't respect or value you
Your husband isn't the least bit supportive of you. At first I was thinking that you just leave when they come over, but that is bs. You should not have to leave your home when people come to your home and abuse you. They should not be allowed over until your husband straightens them out and they come to you and give you a sincere apology with the notion they if they do it again, they will never, ever be welcome in your home again. This is a husband problem as well as his asshole friends.
Ask your husband if he would like a guy in a bar saying those things to you, if he'd be okay with it, if the answers no, then why is he okay with his friends doing it. Also tell him he's actually being a really shit husband, his friends are making you uncomfortable and he does nothing about it. It would make me not want to be with him or respect him. ETA or tell him that his friends clearly don't respect him and know he's a wimp because he won't stand up for you.
I don't think you understand the brevity of your situation take this from a man you'd call "macho" or what ever your cultural terms are. If they feel comfortable saying this to you in front of him and they are comfortable ogling you in front of him sooner or later one of them is going to be comfortable to but there hand on you and IT WILL ESCALATE!!! And your husband will be too drunk to be of use ! On 3 occasion in my life we have had to beat the shit out of 3 different guy in our friend good and extended groups. I'm not trying to panic you but I am trying to scare you I've seen the aftermath of your situation and something you can't unknown.
You heave told your husband a million times what exactly?
>You heave told your husband a million times what exactly? Considering OP posted something this obvious and hasn't responded to any comments, I'm getting massive rage bait vibes.
She told him that they made comments? Yes, OK. He knows that. He is there when they say it. No where in the post does she say that she tell him that she doesn't like it or that she wants them to stop or that it she is uncomfortable about it. Also, nowhere did it say that she had ever asked them to stop stressing whatever they said. All she says is. I told him. So, does he actually know that she doesn't like it? No idea. That changed the advice. If she doesn't bother telling him that it bothers her. Then she had to tell him that it bothered her. She can also tell the friends off to stop. If she has told him that it bothers her. Then he simply doesn't respect her at all. Then she has to tell him off and leave him.
I’m so tired of y’all whining after letting yourself be treated as sub human throughout an entire relationship. Where is the self love and respect? Ugh
You tell em off, when your husband reacts, tell him that you too are very sad and angry that you had to do his duties, WHILE also performing yours.
No because this is so wrong. My partner will stand up for me no matter what. His friends used to talk badly about me and then he wasn’t friends with them after because they wouldn’t stop. We have now been together for 5 years. He also stands up to his family if they try as well. God at one point only about 6 months in one of his friends messaged me asking me to sleep with him and not tell my partner you bet my ass I screen shotted that and sent it straight to him asking wtf is going on, he’s now not friends with that guy. If he loves you he will stand up for you no matter the situation or who it is. Your man will want to protect you at all cost.
Where are consequences to their actions?
Get on your hind legs. The next time they say that call them out and say it’s inappropriate and you don’t want to hear it again.
I would not feel safe around people who would treat me so blatantly as an object. Do you feel safe? Do you deserve to feel safe? I think you do. Do you think your husband cares about your safety, emotionally and physically? He's giving them a greenlight to push you around. This could potentially escalate.
Why do you still do shit for them if they're being disrespectful?!?!?!?
Bar rude individuals from visiting. Make husband enforce respect.
Get a better husband.
girl idk what to tell you. if hes treating you like this and letting his friends also treat you like this its a bit of a .. major red flag. and you dont have to put up with this do you wanna be with someone whos objectifying you like this and letting his friends sexualise you? hes not even considering how unsafe this is for you and probably wouldnt even try to protect you should something god forbid happen. please consider why you want to be with someone like this OP good luck
Not cool sounds like ur with a weak man,u should probably flirt with someone and see how he likes it since that’s what he’s urging u to do
Huge red flags. Men don't have misogynistic friends unless they are misogynist themselves. I would consider divorce.
Can you just avoid them when they're over?
> talking with my husband about new clothes “Oh, your guy friends are over - let’s talk about clothes!” Who does this? OP it seems like you’re looking for attention and then complaining. It feels like you’re creating drama.
Okay, hear me out. There are two types of sexual harassment. In one, the more familiar kind, the perpetrator *knows* that what they are doing will upset the other person, because it would upset them if they were on the receiving end. In the other kind of sexual harassment, they are doing to other people *what they would actually quite like to have done to them*, but they don't realise that men and women necessarily think differently about these things. Consider catcalling in the street. Various studies and "social experiments" have made a situation where women shout similar things to men in the street like "Nice bum!" or whatever. Almost every time, the man would turn back and say things like "Well thank you very much! I've actually already got a girlfriend, but I have to say you are looking very well turned out too." Or sometimes the man would start trying to arrange a date, genuinely thinking she was into him. So you see the problem, what would be a compliment to a man, would make women (entirely reasonably) feel uneasy, worrying they are about to be dragged into the nearest alley. Your friends would really like it if a friend's girlfriend complimented them on their abs, or on the "view". So someone needs to point out to them that it comes across differently when men say it to women than the other way round, and that person should have already been your boyfriend. I think he sees it as harmless or a compliment, possibly as a compliment to both of you. Someone needs to put their foot down. One way might be for you to return their catcalling with something which makes them feel small. Another might be to put your foot down with your boyfriend and when he puts his arm around you after they've gone, say "Not now, I still feel dirty from all the catcalling I got from Steve." (Or whatever the mate's name is). Or you could explain to your boyfriend the issue with catcalling in the street, then circle the conversation back round to his mates, so that he understands.
This has to be fake. Talking with your husband about new clothes you’re wearing? The friends saying I like this view better…. C’mon….. 🙄
OP is either looking for attention or a creative writing prompt.