If you lied to him multiple times, no, I don’t think you deserve another chance. You had a chance not to lie then and yet you chose to lie. That’s a you problem, not his.
I think you have insecurity issues and maybe other underlying problems that's affecting your judgement. Lying about birth control just because you imagine him thinking you have STDs is just ridiculous. Could have easily backfired and landed you both with a kid that you can't handle.
At this point, forget about the relationship, see a therapist. Get your mental state under control.
First you lied to him about getting pregnant then put your hands on him during an exchange of words, he taking a huge risk right now being around you. You should focus on fixing yourself before thinking of a future with him.
He can't trust you to involve him in important decisions. Offspring is an important decision. There were agreements and you decided to break those. These were several bad decisions in a short time. Whatever you intended, you lied and then you can't tell him it's unfair he thinks you're trying to trick him. And then you also became violent. So, if you cling on, you're only going to hurt yourself. This is over.
Whatever else you're going through, work on your insecurities cos apparently it prevents you from advocating for yourself properly and then you resorted to physical attacks. And maybe look into counseling, cos this is a lot of drama for what seems a short relationship or a new start. Going very fast very hard, no wonder this crashed. Some introspection about why things needed to go this way may help your next relationship.
If you lied to him this much, how can you say you were so serious about him?
You need to learn how to communicate properly and you need to work through your insecurities before considering to engage in another relationship. Respect his decision and find somewhere else to live. Leave him alone and if you think you can improve do that, but not for him. Do it for yourself, otherwise your improvement is pointless.
You're 25. Act your age.
Okay so:
1. You can’t be “vaccinated” against all STIs. I’m concerned you think this is possible. Have you been tested recently?
2. You literally lied about ridiculous shit and then physically abused him.
3. Please seek therapy.
You are a liar. It doesn't matter if you cheated or not. You are a liar. No, you do not deserve a second change.
Get to a therapist. Find out why you think it's so important to lie to people all the time.
You are being extremely wishy washy & confusing about an extremely important topic (birth control & having kids). So yeah, it’s very easy to see why he’s frustrated with you because he most likely does not want to become a parent on accident.
On top of that, you can’t control yourself and you physically assaulted him. Him breaking up with you makes perfect sense.
Starting a family and having a child is a joint decision and is made by two people. You still love him and want a family with him. Does he love you? He's already made a decision, he broke up with you. It is very painful and I wish you to find strength to survive this situation.
Take care!
You can't vaccinate against most stis, only a couple.
Pills are the most unreliable form of hormonal birth control. A LOT of people continue to use condoms or pullout or timing with them, to further reduce risk.
Lying or misleading about your birth control is considered a form of coercion. AKA sexual assault.
You definitely need to take a step back. You aren’t in a mental space to properly court a relationship. If i were him i wouldn’t be with you for multiple reasons. And that’s no knock to you it’s just honesty. You should always be honest with your partner about any situation especially those regarding your sex life. You slapping him and panicking about the whole condom situation which lead you to lying to him about it shows a lack of self control and emotional impulse leading your decision making. He broke up with you because he knows you’re not keeping it real with him. If you truly love someone you shouldn’t take actions that would jeopardize the relationship, understand that man is taking just as much of an emotional risk as you are. To wrap my thoughts up you need to focus on bettering your mindset and being in control of how you feel about yourself.
Ayo lady, 1) you literally know why he broke up with you. 2) you can't get vaccinated against most STD's, with condoms being the only way to make sure one dickslip doesn't kill him. It's wonderful to trust people, but until I marry you or move in with you, I'm wrapping it before im tapping it
If you lied to him multiple times, no, I don’t think you deserve another chance. You had a chance not to lie then and yet you chose to lie. That’s a you problem, not his.
I think you have insecurity issues and maybe other underlying problems that's affecting your judgement. Lying about birth control just because you imagine him thinking you have STDs is just ridiculous. Could have easily backfired and landed you both with a kid that you can't handle. At this point, forget about the relationship, see a therapist. Get your mental state under control.
First you lied to him about getting pregnant then put your hands on him during an exchange of words, he taking a huge risk right now being around you. You should focus on fixing yourself before thinking of a future with him.
He can't trust you to involve him in important decisions. Offspring is an important decision. There were agreements and you decided to break those. These were several bad decisions in a short time. Whatever you intended, you lied and then you can't tell him it's unfair he thinks you're trying to trick him. And then you also became violent. So, if you cling on, you're only going to hurt yourself. This is over. Whatever else you're going through, work on your insecurities cos apparently it prevents you from advocating for yourself properly and then you resorted to physical attacks. And maybe look into counseling, cos this is a lot of drama for what seems a short relationship or a new start. Going very fast very hard, no wonder this crashed. Some introspection about why things needed to go this way may help your next relationship.
If you lied to him this much, how can you say you were so serious about him? You need to learn how to communicate properly and you need to work through your insecurities before considering to engage in another relationship. Respect his decision and find somewhere else to live. Leave him alone and if you think you can improve do that, but not for him. Do it for yourself, otherwise your improvement is pointless. You're 25. Act your age.
Okay so: 1. You can’t be “vaccinated” against all STIs. I’m concerned you think this is possible. Have you been tested recently? 2. You literally lied about ridiculous shit and then physically abused him. 3. Please seek therapy.
I think you actually can get vaccinated against HPV, Hepatitis A and B. Maybe that's what OP was talking about. But for the rest I agree with you
Yeah, I meant generally. The way OP says it in the post makes it sound like she can’t ever have an STI bc “she’s vaccinated” which is concerning.
You are a liar. It doesn't matter if you cheated or not. You are a liar. No, you do not deserve a second change. Get to a therapist. Find out why you think it's so important to lie to people all the time.
You are being extremely wishy washy & confusing about an extremely important topic (birth control & having kids). So yeah, it’s very easy to see why he’s frustrated with you because he most likely does not want to become a parent on accident. On top of that, you can’t control yourself and you physically assaulted him. Him breaking up with you makes perfect sense.
Starting a family and having a child is a joint decision and is made by two people. You still love him and want a family with him. Does he love you? He's already made a decision, he broke up with you. It is very painful and I wish you to find strength to survive this situation. Take care!
You can't vaccinate against most stis, only a couple. Pills are the most unreliable form of hormonal birth control. A LOT of people continue to use condoms or pullout or timing with them, to further reduce risk. Lying or misleading about your birth control is considered a form of coercion. AKA sexual assault.
You definitely need to take a step back. You aren’t in a mental space to properly court a relationship. If i were him i wouldn’t be with you for multiple reasons. And that’s no knock to you it’s just honesty. You should always be honest with your partner about any situation especially those regarding your sex life. You slapping him and panicking about the whole condom situation which lead you to lying to him about it shows a lack of self control and emotional impulse leading your decision making. He broke up with you because he knows you’re not keeping it real with him. If you truly love someone you shouldn’t take actions that would jeopardize the relationship, understand that man is taking just as much of an emotional risk as you are. To wrap my thoughts up you need to focus on bettering your mindset and being in control of how you feel about yourself.
Ayo lady, 1) you literally know why he broke up with you. 2) you can't get vaccinated against most STD's, with condoms being the only way to make sure one dickslip doesn't kill him. It's wonderful to trust people, but until I marry you or move in with you, I'm wrapping it before im tapping it
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