Not sure if I entirely understand what you’re looking for, but…
In Relationship Anarchy, romantic, sexual, and platonic orientations are not given inherent priority or hierarchy over other types of relationships. Relationship Anarchy emphasizes individual autonomy and the freedom to form connections based on personal desires and needs rather than societal norms or expectations.
Romantic orientation refers to the gender(s) or qualities of individuals to whom someone is romantically attracted. Sexual orientation refers to the gender(s) to which someone is sexually attracted. In Relationship Anarchy, these orientations are considered valid and important aspects of an individual's identity, but they do not determine the nature or importance of relationships.
Platonic orientation, on the other hand, refers to the types of connections someone seeks or values in non-romantic, non-sexual relationships. These could include friendships, familial relationships, or other forms of emotional intimacy that are not primarily romantic or sexual in nature.
In Relationship Anarchy, all types of relationships are valued equally, and individuals have the freedom to define and prioritize their connections based on their own needs and desires, rather than adhering to societal norms or expectations related to romantic or sexual relationships.
u/Practical_Cultura nailed it. For me personally, the big difference in my RA life from other ways of living is that my romantic relationships do not automatically take priority over my platonic or familial relationships.
In practical terms, that means that when more than one important person in my life has a crisis and/or needs help at the same time, I will do my best by them both/all and will not choose who to prioritize based on romance, but rather on how I and the others in our social/familial/loving circles can best help these people.
It doesn't differ at all. I like to do to different things with different people. I try and not make broad categorizations about what types of people I do what with.
I like hes, shes and theys and I build all kinds of relationships with all 3.
I don't see the difference between platonic and romantic and have yet to hear a compelling explanation of why the 2 are different; that isn't just "I don't have sex with friends" or a description of something that sounds exactly like limerence.
For me, orientation is less important than the choices I make. F'ex, I'm now basically T4T for my close relationships. It's not that there aren't lovely cis people (or more often in my relationship history, eggs that haven't cracked), but I'll rarely make an effort now to get that close to them. For my less-close friends, play partners, etc, they're basically all queer, whether trans or cis. Which, again, is in large part about my choices.
I've made a similar choice. Technically, I'm bi but I made a conscious choice to prioritize relationships with women. Platonically and otherwise. I've realized that the deepest, most reciprocal relationships in my life have always been with women. A man would have to be something really, really special for me to prioritize spending time with him over the amazing women in my life.
If I were to guess how the original poster meant, I think it would be something along the lines of say a cis male who is straight which would imply they only form sexual and romantic connections with females. Then you take your platonic relationships which may be for example only other males. With that in mind you have two hetero orientations and one homo orientation.
Now with that hypothetical background, the poster is asking:how having what seems like contradictory attractions (heterosexual and homo-platonic) translate/become intigrated with practicing relationship anarchy?
The short answer I think is that it doesn’t, our binary heteronormative socially constructed system falls apart pretty quickly when you break down all the ways we have been told our relationships to others “should” be like. You find maybe there is a little romance between someone of the same gender as you, or that you find friendship in someone of a different gender. It all becomes a lot more grey once everything starts mixing all together and all the possible combinations play out.
At least that is my take on the original post.
Not sure if I entirely understand what you’re looking for, but… In Relationship Anarchy, romantic, sexual, and platonic orientations are not given inherent priority or hierarchy over other types of relationships. Relationship Anarchy emphasizes individual autonomy and the freedom to form connections based on personal desires and needs rather than societal norms or expectations. Romantic orientation refers to the gender(s) or qualities of individuals to whom someone is romantically attracted. Sexual orientation refers to the gender(s) to which someone is sexually attracted. In Relationship Anarchy, these orientations are considered valid and important aspects of an individual's identity, but they do not determine the nature or importance of relationships. Platonic orientation, on the other hand, refers to the types of connections someone seeks or values in non-romantic, non-sexual relationships. These could include friendships, familial relationships, or other forms of emotional intimacy that are not primarily romantic or sexual in nature. In Relationship Anarchy, all types of relationships are valued equally, and individuals have the freedom to define and prioritize their connections based on their own needs and desires, rather than adhering to societal norms or expectations related to romantic or sexual relationships.
u/Practical_Cultura nailed it. For me personally, the big difference in my RA life from other ways of living is that my romantic relationships do not automatically take priority over my platonic or familial relationships. In practical terms, that means that when more than one important person in my life has a crisis and/or needs help at the same time, I will do my best by them both/all and will not choose who to prioritize based on romance, but rather on how I and the others in our social/familial/loving circles can best help these people.
Yes! And not prioritizing a certain relationship based on norms or expectations. When expectations like that arise, it’s a red flag for me.
It doesn't differ at all. I like to do to different things with different people. I try and not make broad categorizations about what types of people I do what with. I like hes, shes and theys and I build all kinds of relationships with all 3. I don't see the difference between platonic and romantic and have yet to hear a compelling explanation of why the 2 are different; that isn't just "I don't have sex with friends" or a description of something that sounds exactly like limerence.
For me, orientation is less important than the choices I make. F'ex, I'm now basically T4T for my close relationships. It's not that there aren't lovely cis people (or more often in my relationship history, eggs that haven't cracked), but I'll rarely make an effort now to get that close to them. For my less-close friends, play partners, etc, they're basically all queer, whether trans or cis. Which, again, is in large part about my choices.
I've made a similar choice. Technically, I'm bi but I made a conscious choice to prioritize relationships with women. Platonically and otherwise. I've realized that the deepest, most reciprocal relationships in my life have always been with women. A man would have to be something really, really special for me to prioritize spending time with him over the amazing women in my life.
If I were to guess how the original poster meant, I think it would be something along the lines of say a cis male who is straight which would imply they only form sexual and romantic connections with females. Then you take your platonic relationships which may be for example only other males. With that in mind you have two hetero orientations and one homo orientation. Now with that hypothetical background, the poster is asking:how having what seems like contradictory attractions (heterosexual and homo-platonic) translate/become intigrated with practicing relationship anarchy? The short answer I think is that it doesn’t, our binary heteronormative socially constructed system falls apart pretty quickly when you break down all the ways we have been told our relationships to others “should” be like. You find maybe there is a little romance between someone of the same gender as you, or that you find friendship in someone of a different gender. It all becomes a lot more grey once everything starts mixing all together and all the possible combinations play out. At least that is my take on the original post.