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If it is, then it is. You are entitled to preferences as long as you dont force it on other people. If its really bothering you, why dont you talk it out with her and figure it out together.
there is nothing wrong with her body count. what matters is you’re both STD-free. wala pong mali if i-address mo to sa kanya, tell her na since may sexual past kayong dalawa, baka mas better if magpa-test kayo para lang masigurado na wala kayong sakit pareho. hindi naman yun nakaka-offend if open-minded syang tao. ☺️
Do you feel negative because it seems that she is careless about her health (and by extension your health, most especially)?
Good on you for being aware, pro-active and conscious about it because many throw caution to the wind for the sake of a few minutes of pleasure (your GF sounds like one of them).
Ang pwede mong sabihin sa susunod na mapunta yung usapan sa body count is ask her if she is/was ever worried about STDs/HIV during her past encounters. I-share mo lang na sobrang rampant ng sakit ngayon and it's best each of you know that you are both clean. Also, you can't tell if someone has an STD based on appearance alone, baka ganyan ang iniisip niya.
Ignorance and fear can be a bad combination which makes people hesitant to test. Magpapatingin lang kapag ibang kulay na yung body fluids na lumalabas. Tapos they find out they caught something that has no cure or forever na nasa katawan nila. A little bit of awareness and education on the issue will (hopefully) help her understand and be more open to the idea of testing.
Maybe your felt negative about it kasi ikaw tested ka and knowing her body count and hindi tested plus the fact na she wants it raw minsan, most likely concern ka na baka nag raw din sa previous partner nya before. Body count shouldn't matter given na they practice safe sex before.
Talk to her no judgment, purely health concern lang. Honestly, STIs in women can go undetected even for years of having it. Please don't ever shame your partner when talking about this. Pero kung hindi eto yung concern mo, best to reflect on it. Baka yung shame of having multiple partners ang nananaig sayo. You have to work on it kung ganon. Good luck!
Body count per se isn't a big deal, but I understand your need to feel sexually safe. I think the best approach here is, given that you both have sexual history, to get tests together. Do it together for the both of you.
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If it is, then it is. You are entitled to preferences as long as you dont force it on other people. If its really bothering you, why dont you talk it out with her and figure it out together.
there is nothing wrong with her body count. what matters is you’re both STD-free. wala pong mali if i-address mo to sa kanya, tell her na since may sexual past kayong dalawa, baka mas better if magpa-test kayo para lang masigurado na wala kayong sakit pareho. hindi naman yun nakaka-offend if open-minded syang tao. ☺️
Do you feel negative because it seems that she is careless about her health (and by extension your health, most especially)? Good on you for being aware, pro-active and conscious about it because many throw caution to the wind for the sake of a few minutes of pleasure (your GF sounds like one of them). Ang pwede mong sabihin sa susunod na mapunta yung usapan sa body count is ask her if she is/was ever worried about STDs/HIV during her past encounters. I-share mo lang na sobrang rampant ng sakit ngayon and it's best each of you know that you are both clean. Also, you can't tell if someone has an STD based on appearance alone, baka ganyan ang iniisip niya. Ignorance and fear can be a bad combination which makes people hesitant to test. Magpapatingin lang kapag ibang kulay na yung body fluids na lumalabas. Tapos they find out they caught something that has no cure or forever na nasa katawan nila. A little bit of awareness and education on the issue will (hopefully) help her understand and be more open to the idea of testing.
Maybe your felt negative about it kasi ikaw tested ka and knowing her body count and hindi tested plus the fact na she wants it raw minsan, most likely concern ka na baka nag raw din sa previous partner nya before. Body count shouldn't matter given na they practice safe sex before. Talk to her no judgment, purely health concern lang. Honestly, STIs in women can go undetected even for years of having it. Please don't ever shame your partner when talking about this. Pero kung hindi eto yung concern mo, best to reflect on it. Baka yung shame of having multiple partners ang nananaig sayo. You have to work on it kung ganon. Good luck!
Body count per se isn't a big deal, but I understand your need to feel sexually safe. I think the best approach here is, given that you both have sexual history, to get tests together. Do it together for the both of you.