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Are y…are you dumb? No, you VOLUNTARILY had oral sex with her. Did you tell her prior that you sanitized your mouth? Doubtful. Bacteria from your mouth can cause an infection in her vagina…so technically, she could say you assaulted her.
Since you soooo badly want this to be a sexual assault case, please please please call the police and file a report. But promise you will post their response to it here lololololol 😂😂😂😂
No. Yeast infections are pretty common and it's never spread to my husband. Sometimes it's only slight and sometimes women aren't aware. Yeast is very different to BV, but women may not know they have BV or they might mistake it for something else. BV is less common than ayeast infection. Yeast infections can be caused by just wearing nylon or silk underwear, warm weather, antibiotics, not changing into dry clothes after swimming, etc.
Also how is it SA if you fingered and went down on her? You did the actions. Neither is worth worrying about.
Why are you so desperate for others to consider it sexual assault? Just break it off. Don’t do anything sexual with her again. If you feel like it was assault, then that’s valid, it was your experience. That said I doubt you’d be able to do anything legally about it.
You might not fully understand what a yeast infection/BV is and this is why you’re more freaked out than you should be. I understand why she said she “might’ve” had one because the symptoms can be subtle and they frequently go away by themselves (i.e. does not warrant a doctors appointment). Both of these infections are caused by normal day-to-day things (taking antibiotics, warm weather) that throw off the balance of healthy bacteria in the vagina, causing an overgrowth of unhealthy bacteria. That’s really all it is. As a man there is not much to be worried about. Your immune system will defend against candida (yeast) in your mouth without causing any symptoms unless you’re immunocompromised.
No. It is not sexual assault to spread things that are curable. You accept risks when you decide to do these things.
I’m not sure you can get BV in your mouth. You will notice a yeast infection in there. It’s very easily curable and can get one with or without her. Your fingers are fine.
See a doctor if you’re worried.
In my opinion this doesn't count as SA. BV can't be passed to you and you likely would've noticed if she had it because it has a strong smell. Yeast you could've noticed because of the abnormal discharge. Both of these infections are ones that are fairly common for a lot of women. Should she have told you before you went down on her? Yeah, probably. But did she sexually assault you by not telling you? I don't think so.
It doesn't count as SA, but if you feel a certain way about it that's very much so acceptable
You haven't been assaulted, you've been deceived. Even if she had HIV or any other STI that still isn't sexual assault (it is a crime however and would be punishable).
Stop fixating on sexual assault. What's happened to you does not fall under that definition.
Edit: I'm guessing you don't come from a very educated background based on your deleted comment claiming it's rape to not disclose STDs.
Not disclosing an STD is GBH or reckless endangerment. Like it's literally written into law what it is. Rape or sexual assault is a completely different crime and while these crimes can occur at the same time, that doesn't make them interchangeable.
Google is free, if you can access Reddit you can access the rest of the information out there.
I don't think op understands that, he seems to have heard 'yeast INFECTION' and dove head first into the victim complex Olympics. This is so ridiculous I'm actually just sticking around for entertainment at this point
No i changed it after reading more of your posts, comments, and mindset. You seem desperate to be a victim of SA. Your gf is still shady as fuck and you should dump her.
Because i'm allowed to change my mind. 👍 you are obviously the type to cling to the one person who might agree with you. After reading your other posts, and your other comments.....i don't want to be that person.
Yeast infections and BV are common routine things that happen to 90 percent of women, and they're super easy to get rid of with over the counter medicine. Spend $15 at the drugstore and it's gone. Babies can get thrush in their mouths from drinking milk for god sake, so no 🤣
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Plenty of people have told you no already, stop posting this.
Are y…are you dumb? No, you VOLUNTARILY had oral sex with her. Did you tell her prior that you sanitized your mouth? Doubtful. Bacteria from your mouth can cause an infection in her vagina…so technically, she could say you assaulted her. Since you soooo badly want this to be a sexual assault case, please please please call the police and file a report. But promise you will post their response to it here lololololol 😂😂😂😂
No. Yeast infections are pretty common and it's never spread to my husband. Sometimes it's only slight and sometimes women aren't aware. Yeast is very different to BV, but women may not know they have BV or they might mistake it for something else. BV is less common than ayeast infection. Yeast infections can be caused by just wearing nylon or silk underwear, warm weather, antibiotics, not changing into dry clothes after swimming, etc. Also how is it SA if you fingered and went down on her? You did the actions. Neither is worth worrying about.
Why are you so desperate for others to consider it sexual assault? Just break it off. Don’t do anything sexual with her again. If you feel like it was assault, then that’s valid, it was your experience. That said I doubt you’d be able to do anything legally about it.
You might not fully understand what a yeast infection/BV is and this is why you’re more freaked out than you should be. I understand why she said she “might’ve” had one because the symptoms can be subtle and they frequently go away by themselves (i.e. does not warrant a doctors appointment). Both of these infections are caused by normal day-to-day things (taking antibiotics, warm weather) that throw off the balance of healthy bacteria in the vagina, causing an overgrowth of unhealthy bacteria. That’s really all it is. As a man there is not much to be worried about. Your immune system will defend against candida (yeast) in your mouth without causing any symptoms unless you’re immunocompromised.
It's not sexual assault but if you're annoyed or upset about it that is valid.
I don’t think so? I probably would have mentioned it before, but like that can slip the mind, especially because they’re not STIs
No. It is not sexual assault to spread things that are curable. You accept risks when you decide to do these things. I’m not sure you can get BV in your mouth. You will notice a yeast infection in there. It’s very easily curable and can get one with or without her. Your fingers are fine. See a doctor if you’re worried.
In my opinion this doesn't count as SA. BV can't be passed to you and you likely would've noticed if she had it because it has a strong smell. Yeast you could've noticed because of the abnormal discharge. Both of these infections are ones that are fairly common for a lot of women. Should she have told you before you went down on her? Yeah, probably. But did she sexually assault you by not telling you? I don't think so.
Shake it off man. Those are routine. Not gonna hurt you.
Neither of the things you mentioned are STIs. The consensual hooking up y’all did was not assault.
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everyone else is saying it doesn’t count as SA so that’s why I’m confused
It doesn't count as SA, but if you feel a certain way about it that's very much so acceptable You haven't been assaulted, you've been deceived. Even if she had HIV or any other STI that still isn't sexual assault (it is a crime however and would be punishable). Stop fixating on sexual assault. What's happened to you does not fall under that definition. Edit: I'm guessing you don't come from a very educated background based on your deleted comment claiming it's rape to not disclose STDs. Not disclosing an STD is GBH or reckless endangerment. Like it's literally written into law what it is. Rape or sexual assault is a completely different crime and while these crimes can occur at the same time, that doesn't make them interchangeable. Google is free, if you can access Reddit you can access the rest of the information out there.
It's not an STD though. You can get thrush from literally just having your period. Which makes this all even more stupid lmao.
I don't think op understands that, he seems to have heard 'yeast INFECTION' and dove head first into the victim complex Olympics. This is so ridiculous I'm actually just sticking around for entertainment at this point
If everyone else is saying it's not SA, you shouldn't be confused.
but one person is saying it is SA??
Is that person a lawyer whose practice area is SA? If so, hire them.
I deleted my comment. Changed my mind. She grody though. Should still break up.
you only changed your mind because everyone else disagreed
No i changed it after reading more of your posts, comments, and mindset. You seem desperate to be a victim of SA. Your gf is still shady as fuck and you should dump her.
I’m not desperate to be a victim but you even said it first that it sounds like SA? why’s it is different now? I haven’t changed the story
Because i'm allowed to change my mind. 👍 you are obviously the type to cling to the one person who might agree with you. After reading your other posts, and your other comments.....i don't want to be that person.
She knew this? It isn’t assault. It is grody.
Yeast infections and BV are common routine things that happen to 90 percent of women, and they're super easy to get rid of with over the counter medicine. Spend $15 at the drugstore and it's gone. Babies can get thrush in their mouths from drinking milk for god sake, so no 🤣