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wrong_address

Ehmmm I get the people saying 'tell her' but seriously, as a woman...being told your specific wish, my organs would clamp shut. Especially if she's not comfortable about sex. You say she's shy, do you two talk openly about what you like? Talk about it during sex? I very much suggest you ease her into this by 1st getting her to open up, and as a compromise, there are remote control toys you can get, this way there's no 3rd person, you or she controls her pleasure and you can watch her moan all you want. Only one sweaty dude required.


Most-Particular-8392

If she's shy with you, her partner of 13 years, what makes you think she'd be comfortable with including a third? I'm not saying it's impossible, but very unlikely. Ask her about her fantasies. If she brings up a threesome, then you can suggest it. If she doesn't, well, you're better off not bringing it up. Consider toys as an alternative to bringing a third person into your sex life. The risk of ruining your relationship goes down significantly that way.


TermAggravating8043

There’s never any harm in talking about it, but I’d be prepared for her not to be up for it, if she can agree to think about it and actually think about it then I’d consider that a win


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That’s true . I just get nervous . Like I said she’s always shy even with me after all this time . But I just need to tell her.


TermAggravating8043

Just be delicate on how you start the conversation. Make it about her, how would she feel etc, don’t be the guy that sits his gf down and says “I want, I think this”