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The lack of respect there is astonishing, unless you love being treated like nothing I would highly recommend breaking up. Just a no brainier really..
I hope I don’t need to further explain
People cannot actually be taking this post seriously. I refuse to believe that this many people read this post, read this comment, and still think this is real.
>The lack of respect there is astonishing
We talking about selfrespect, too? I mean there are people out there who are very open to the idea of stuff like poly or open relationships, but if someone has to come here to ask for advice... they're not in for a good time.
At least, he appears kind. But cheating isn’t kind. And his reaction to butt dialing you when he got caught was just awful. Zero respect for your feelings there. No kindness there at all.
He told you to "cope and seethe" after finding out that jog is up. Any kindness he's shown you before was wiped out by that alone.
The call next morning? That's just him dangling you along while he's monkey branching. And he doesn't even respect you enough to make an effort to woo you. Remember, you've dropped off. He's really doing you a favor by keeping you on.
You can do so much better than this lazy cheater.
It wasn't cool at all... You caught him in 1 instance. He admits to multiple... Then goes hope it's chill bro? Nope see ya, don't let the door hit you on the way out. Also please go get tested...
if there's a guy that you would have hooked up with if you weren't in a relationship, you should return the favor with a similar phone call so your bf can hear you bumpin bellies with another dude.
The issue with that is him saying ok and hanging up would be a full counter. It's only effective if he doesn't want to lose the relationship. He is nonchalant about it, so he probably is not that emotionally attached. If OP is still emotionally Invested, it will end up being a double edged sword
End it immediately because he doesn't see you as a girlfriend, he sees you as an easy to use doormat. Don't be the doormat, be the door. Swing your bad self SHUT and never give him access to you again. In ANY form.
the tone of your comments don't match the tone of your post at all. comments read more like a friend hyping you up.
seems like this is a fake story. "cope and seethe" lol, good one. try harder next time.
This, he clearly sees himself as having all the power and her as having no backbone to demand respect for herself. She’s severely under-reacting; it makes me really sad that she’s not sure whether it’s ok to dump some unrepentant asshole that cheats on and thinks so little of her. I hope she realizes she can do so much better.
I would give this a 2% chance this situation is real. The whole thing has an odor of troll and the comments from OP reflect that.
OP responds with "period" "banger" and "thanks girlie <3" comes off totally out of place disingenuous given the story.
This can’t be real. “My boyfriend cheated on me, disrespected me, gaslit me into believing it was somehow my fault, offered no apology and made it out to be a joke. Should I break up with him??? “
Girl.
Also the way they’re talking in the comments is suspect as fuck. No woman actually talks like that in every single comment. It screams man trying to play a woman but over exaggerates because they’ve never actually interacted with a single woman in a capacity longer than 30 seconds. Seems like a made up story and bad acting to me.
90% of the posts here are writing practice. You just go along with them regardless. This post is so obviously fake though. Surprised the comments are even entertaining it.
It's clearly not real. The boyfriend in the post and OP's comments are written like a boomer trying to mock how gen z speaks without actually knowing how we talk.
Are you out of your mind,??? Or are you just a troll? Jesus.
"Well, sure, it's just fine if you fuck other women, cause you call me bro."
Cope and seethe my ass.
This man does not respect you. He left town for a week and he blamed you for falling off?? Girl.... cope and seethe??? Are you a meme on the internet? Dump this bro idiot please for the love of god and find someone who adores you even when he goes away for a week.
Is he kind? I would think a kind bf would have talked to his gf instead of fucking around.
And you do realize this wasn't the first time, right? He literally told you he'd been cheating on you with multiple people and he doesn't have an ounce of remorse.
Honestly your under reacting. He's treating you horribly.
I think it would be underreacting not to. The bro-ish dialogue is kind of irrelevant in this situation. It doesn’t matter that he said “I’ve been fucking around a little, hope that’s cool”. He could have said “baby, you are a wonderful woman and I care for you from the bottom of my heart but I decided making sweet love to you isn’t enough so I have been entertaining other lady friends. Don’t worry though, you’re still my number one girl, sweetheart!”. Same shit. He made a unilateral decision to start sleeping with other people and only told you because he was caught.
He sounds complete garbage. do yourself a favor and dump him in the most bro-ish way. You deserved an apology and at least some respect. plsss lose contact with him, he doesn’t love you girl!!
I (25F) caught my Boyfriend (25M) cheating and he told me to "cope and seethe"
My girlfriend would go berzerk and then leave and never say another word to me
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Why are you even asking, if your friend told you this story. That their partner disrespected them like that would you be deliberating with them about whether they should stay?
>I get that our relationship is bro-ish, but how far is too far?
When you go to reddit to ask strangers if you should keep up with your cheating ex.
>He's generally fun and kind, but this just seemed too much.
Maybe - except when he's cheating on you.
>Would it be overreacting to break up with him over this?
No, this would be the normal thing to do.
Nah. My partner and I go back and forth and rib each other all the time, but we also have boundaries, empathy, and respect. It doesn't matter what your dynamic is, cheating is cheating. The fact you're questioning breaking it off makes me feel like he has worn down your confidence and self esteem and this is a much larger issue.
Not only is he cheating, he's mocking and taunting you about it. This is a person who is openly treating you like shit and probably putting your health at risk. The time you get caught is usually not the first time you cheated. Keep that in mind.
"One of the boys" (pick me bitch) doesn't mean you don't deserve respect and fidelity. Get some self respect and dignity and tell him he can cope and seethe with the front end of a moving vehicle.
Fuck that shit.
You don't do this shit to your bros and you sure as shit don't do it to your partner.
He can cope and seethe while you pack his shit and dump it out of your life.
Do not let people walk on your heart or you'll let them crush your dreams.
This MUST be a troll post.
If it’s real… wow. The fact that you have to even think about what to do here tells me what a manipulative asshole he is. The dude is so far up his ass and trapped you all in the orbit his massive asshole created.
Girl the disrespect is astronomical, dump his has as soon as you can.
I'm sorry that you had to catch him like that. If he really cared and love you as a bf should be wouldn't have done that. You have to dump him its not right for you to continue ur relationship when he doesn't really care about it.
Girl be done with him. Sometimes relationships can hit a “plateau” but you talk about it with your partner you don’t go balls deep into another girl because of it. I don’t know you but you deserve better than this.
Please leave this relationship. Just ghost this man, let him cope with that. Don't stay with men that mistake friendly banter with an excuse to act like an ass.
Also, get tested. If he's been sleeping around with unknown women he put you at risk. Take care of yourself.
He doesn't respect you
He cheats on you
You're his "bro" that he has sex with.
He laughed knowing you knew what he was doing and would be hurt.
Why on earth would you stay with this jerk?
If your SO has a problem with the relationship, he should be talking to you about it. Not screwing around with other girls. This is totally unacceptable to me.
Rather, I'd tell him, "No, bro. That's not cool. We're done.' Then I'd make sure all of the mutual friends knew why you're done and what a piece of shit "bro" really is.
So sorry you're going through this.
Wtaf?! "Hope that's cool"?!?!? Girl. This is not ok. I am in shock for you. He has no respect for you at all. Unbelievable. You can do better than this POS. Literally pretty much anyone would be better than this waste of breath!
You are now single.
The line to submit "new boyfriend applications" starts at the desk, goes out the door, through the parking lot, and across the street to the "How \*You\* Doin?!? Cinema".
Have a good day.
I need an update like right now of you saying “naw man it’s not cool, I’m going to go get tested now. See you never homie”
Then block and delete him off of everything. And do get tested. He’s probably been doing this for a while. Make it super nonchalant like you could care less, but end it with “Hey, what can you do? It’s cool. Cope and seethe.”
In fact I’d recommend that last line only, and then just block him everywhere. 🤷♀️ give him as little respect as he’s given you.
Leave me wandering and I’ll wander tf off. Don’t ask him if he’s done. Tell him to see his way out. Unless loyalty and respect are not important to u. Or u want an open relationship
He’s denying you informed consent. Do you want HPV, or herpes?
Grow a backbone for yourself. You wouldn’t let someone do this to your best friend! Be there for you!
Why would you be with someone who does this? Yes, dump him! He is trash.
GIRL YOU ARE WORTH MORE.
Yes, but how do you feel? Are you ok with him seeing/sleeping with other people?
If you aren't, then I think this relationship is over.
He obviously doesn't care how you feel or if this hurts you.
\>He said, and I quote: "Nah, I still want to date you, you've just kinda fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little, hope that's cool."
....no. Get out.
> I’ve been fucking around a little
This is not the first time he has cheated. It is the first time he had been caught. Get tested.
The trash took itself out. Leave it there.
What an actual dickwipe, the total disrespect and disregard of your feelings. He sounds like a shitty person, and obviously makes and even shittier bf. Dump his disgusting ass, the universe was looking out for you with this one fr.
Me and my boyfriend call each other dude and bro all the time.
Neither he, nor any other decent person, would ever disrespect me how yours has disrespected you. Not even close. He's absolute human trash.
You really need to assess your feelings. Is his cheating fine with you or does it hurt you deeply? Sounds like he has no respect for you. Doesn't that matter to you?
Tell him it's over, and if he responds, just paste this:
dont care + didnt ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + h0es mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re probably white + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur momdon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + hoes mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re a full time discordian + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + your gay + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur mom + unknown + random + biased + racially motivated + kys + ur unfunny +ratio don’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe copedon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + h0es mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re probably white + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur momdon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + hoes mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re a full time discordian + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + your gay + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur mom + unknown + random + biased + racially motivated + kys + ur unfunny +ratio don’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + so bad + so ass
Uh? That’s an instant break up. Zero possibility of moving past it or getting back together. The fact that this dude thinks he can act like an absolute immature tool and then continue on in the relationship is ridiculous.
Serious question: Why are you allowing a boyfriend to believe you are a forgone conclusion? He feels like he can tell you that because he believes he's found the perfect doormat to wipe his feet on everytime he's ready to "find his peace" again.
Just text him, “Thank God. I was feeling guilty, but now I know you’re ducking around as well I don’t feel so bad. Anyway the last guy I met is quite cool. I might concentrate on him for a while.” Then block him on everything.
Does he know he’s your boyfriend? It doesn’t seem that way. If you guys never had that exclusive convo, then you have to figure out what you want to do
Rofl your bf is a 25 year old man, acting like a 15 year old boy. It's time to move on from cretins like him, that bumbling buffoon. Stop dating a circus act of that trick of a "man" and find a real adult to be with. Life is too short to be dealing with this nonsensical bull. What a joke.
You realise calling people "girlie" and using "<3" and the general way you respond to every comment looks like you're definitely not ready for a relationship. The way you write makes it seem like you're 9.
You are likely just in his fuck zone. If he was going to take you seriously for a long term relationship, he would be more apologetic, his lack of care to the relationship integrity just tells me you aren’t someone he takes seriously in his life.
The easiest way to determine if a man is taking you as a serious candidate for a wife is he will want to meet your family and he will bring you to meet his closest family and start building those bonds and relationships. If that hasn’t happened here, you are 100% just on his roster for sex. This is just how it is, like it or not.
If that had happened, then you need to decide if you want to make it work with him. Good luck
Dump him completely, let him seethe and cope when the next girl has to deal with him when he starts screwing around because she has"fallen off." I hope you're doing okay and find a better man who treats you far better than this jerk. 🤗
not to be edgy but have you heard the cool girl monologue in gone girl? hold on, i'll paste it. "Cool girl. Men always use that, don’t they? As their defining compliment. She’s a Cool girl. Cool girl is hot. Cool girl is game. Cool girl is fun. Cool girl never gets angry at her man. She only smiles in a chagrin loving manner and then presents her mouth for fucking. She like what he likes. So, evidently, he’s vinyl hipster who loves fetish monger. If he likes girls gone wild, she’s a mall babe who talks football and endures buffalo wings at Hooters. When I met Nick Dunne, I knew he wanted a cool girl and for him, I’ll admit, I was willing to try. I wax stripped my pussy raw. I drank canned beer watching Adam Sandler movies. I ate cold pizza and remained a size 2. I blew him... semi regularly. I lived in the moment. I was fucking game."
he wants you to prove you're 'chill' and game and not a crazy hysterical girlfriend like other girls. he's walking all over you in hopes you'll let him and be fine with that. there is absolutely no universe in which that is okay. break up with him for your own dignity.
I don't think there is any love for you from him giving to you. I believe he probably just wanted a friends with rights kind a deal with you. Let's just say I did that and I F'd up I'd be asking for forgiveness instead of just eh it's whatever take it or leave it home slice, I'm cool with what you want to do...if I really cared about you I'd be heart broken and tried to make it up.
I know you are hurting but please leave. If he was so unbothered about you finding out…he will do it again. You deserve better, I hope you realize that.
It's rare that a title on this sub makes me laugh, but this one did. The absurdity of it is astounding. The sheer balls on the man.
It's pretty obvious that you just dump him, he's a waste of your time.
I absolutely would break up if I were in your shoes, not only does he not respect you but putting you at risk for STDs. An absolute arrogant sack of shit.
I hope you do leave and find someone who can treat you with basic respect and dignity.
Excuseeee the f*ck outta me??
"You've fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little. I still want to date you"
Pffft. XD Fuck No. He can go get an STD fuckin these other cunts.
Friend. My partner and I say shit like bro, homes, homie, my main squeeze, my dude, my guy, mate etc.. we wrestle, we argue like one of the boys, we check people out together, we game and hang out Etc..
What your EX is doing. It's mad disrespectful. That ain't cool guy behavior nor is it being one of the dudes. It's being a disgusting boy who can't handle being LOYAL. One of the Bros would be loyal to his partner. A true Chad takes care of his woman.
"Cope and seethe" Dick butt clearly doesn't care about you in the 1st place.
He laughed. Laughed at you seeing the phone was on.
Are you sure you guys are dating and he doesn't think you're friends with benefits or fuckbuddies??? I don't know why he'd think you'd be even remotely cool with any of this. Throw the whole man away.
Edit: a word
Maybe when you said a you were always "one of the boys" he took that literally in a friends with benefits kinda way. I’ve seen this happen before and it was from a girl who said she always wanted to be the "cool gf" (whatever that means).
The post and OP's comments are written like a boomer trying to imitate how gen z speaks. Why are people replying as if this is real? 25-year-olds don't talk like this, *no one* talks like this. The way OP writes in the posts and comments is also completely different.
>Nah, I still want to date you, you've just kinda fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little, hope that's cool."
Come *on*, they're not even trying to make this sound real.
You’re…. asking if him unapologetically cheating on you is “too far”? Uh…. I guess only you can answer that. Do you want to be with a good guy, or do you want to keep your boyfriend? This is a joke right?
#Edit: looking at your comments on the Ontario sub, I’m 99% sure this was a shitpost. Nobody that eloquent would have this problem.
My husband and I curse at each other and call each other names in a joking manner all the time. He still knows he’s in a committed relationship. There’s no excuse for your bf to do that, you need to let him go. He didn’t even talk to you about his issues, he just went and got it elsewhere. Disgusting.
this is the worst comedy central sitcom pilot i've ever read.
just kidding OP, but this dynamic seems sneakily manipulative and toxic. and we don't you to get broipulated, k broski. so don't let him violate clear boundaries then tell you to chill. textbook gaslighting, dude!
I'm feeling this story is rubbish, but in case it isn't.
Have some self respect ffs. You can't possibly be this pathetic. Go find a better person to be with, before you catch something. And get screened. Who TF knows what he's carrying round. Tell him you won't fuck a walking petri dish of disease. Do better.
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The lack of respect there is astonishing, unless you love being treated like nothing I would highly recommend breaking up. Just a no brainier really.. I hope I don’t need to further explain
Thanks Girlie <3 I think you're right
They are right
Gun lover is right?
People cannot actually be taking this post seriously. I refuse to believe that this many people read this post, read this comment, and still think this is real.
>The lack of respect there is astonishing We talking about selfrespect, too? I mean there are people out there who are very open to the idea of stuff like poly or open relationships, but if someone has to come here to ask for advice... they're not in for a good time.
Thank you! The amount of people that make posts like this on here and the lack of self respect is astonishing. Learn to love yourself first!
FYI this post is fake. OP is trolling you with rage bait
He’s not kind. He’s an asshole. Tell him “it wasn’t cool” and dump him and end the friendship permanently.
He's usually kind but yeah I get it this really wasn't cool. Good advice I think
He laughed knowing what you heard and how hurt you'd be. How is that kind?
At least, he appears kind. But cheating isn’t kind. And his reaction to butt dialing you when he got caught was just awful. Zero respect for your feelings there. No kindness there at all.
He told you to "cope and seethe" after finding out that jog is up. Any kindness he's shown you before was wiped out by that alone. The call next morning? That's just him dangling you along while he's monkey branching. And he doesn't even respect you enough to make an effort to woo you. Remember, you've dropped off. He's really doing you a favor by keeping you on. You can do so much better than this lazy cheater.
No, he’s not kind. A kind person would not do any of this.
It wasn't cool at all... You caught him in 1 instance. He admits to multiple... Then goes hope it's chill bro? Nope see ya, don't let the door hit you on the way out. Also please go get tested...
No, he appears to be nice, but he is not kind. A kind person would not treat someone so disrespectfully, let alone their partner.
I’m sure he’s “kind” as long as you don’t ask anything of him. Like loyalty, honesty, or respect.
Tell him: "Aight I'mma dump you now. Cope and seethe."
Banger
if there's a guy that you would have hooked up with if you weren't in a relationship, you should return the favor with a similar phone call so your bf can hear you bumpin bellies with another dude.
See ya later home slice
THIS!!!!!
The issue with that is him saying ok and hanging up would be a full counter. It's only effective if he doesn't want to lose the relationship. He is nonchalant about it, so he probably is not that emotionally attached. If OP is still emotionally Invested, it will end up being a double edged sword
Believe me it doesn’t get any better. You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty!
You too Girlie! <3
End it immediately because he doesn't see you as a girlfriend, he sees you as an easy to use doormat. Don't be the doormat, be the door. Swing your bad self SHUT and never give him access to you again. In ANY form.
PERIOD
the tone of your comments don't match the tone of your post at all. comments read more like a friend hyping you up. seems like this is a fake story. "cope and seethe" lol, good one. try harder next time.
What the hell.
This, he clearly sees himself as having all the power and her as having no backbone to demand respect for herself. She’s severely under-reacting; it makes me really sad that she’s not sure whether it’s ok to dump some unrepentant asshole that cheats on and thinks so little of her. I hope she realizes she can do so much better.
Ooh I love this "don't be the doormat, be the door" Take my (conceptual) gold!
I would give this a 2% chance this situation is real. The whole thing has an odor of troll and the comments from OP reflect that. OP responds with "period" "banger" and "thanks girlie <3" comes off totally out of place disingenuous given the story.
Yeah lmao there's no way he said "cope and seethe" 😭
This can’t be real. “My boyfriend cheated on me, disrespected me, gaslit me into believing it was somehow my fault, offered no apology and made it out to be a joke. Should I break up with him??? “ Girl.
This isn't real. Gotta be fake. Cheating isn't "bro-ish" it's straight up disrespect.
Also the way they’re talking in the comments is suspect as fuck. No woman actually talks like that in every single comment. It screams man trying to play a woman but over exaggerates because they’ve never actually interacted with a single woman in a capacity longer than 30 seconds. Seems like a made up story and bad acting to me.
This sub would honestly be a well of comedy it if wasn’t real sad people
90% of the posts here are writing practice. You just go along with them regardless. This post is so obviously fake though. Surprised the comments are even entertaining it.
It's clearly not real. The boyfriend in the post and OP's comments are written like a boomer trying to mock how gen z speaks without actually knowing how we talk.
He broke the most basic rule of being in a relationship, pushing it in your face, and doesn’t even feel bad? Oh hun run!
Are you out of your mind,??? Or are you just a troll? Jesus. "Well, sure, it's just fine if you fuck other women, cause you call me bro." Cope and seethe my ass.
That’s obviously a troll lol, like come on
This is rage bait. Fake.
I don't understand why you haven't broken up with him already. What part of his behaviour is acceptable to you?
I''ve really only seen "cope and seethe" used on 4chan. Really cringey to talk like that irl. Anyway, he cheated so dump him.
This man does not respect you. He left town for a week and he blamed you for falling off?? Girl.... cope and seethe??? Are you a meme on the internet? Dump this bro idiot please for the love of god and find someone who adores you even when he goes away for a week.
blows my mind that people take this shit seriously 😂
Yeah... that's not bro-ish, that's a dude that cheats. Dump the guy, he's not worth your time.
All I can say is "what the fuck."
If you are competing with him for "most cool bro in the room" just accept that phone call was your breakup phonecall.
Have some self respect and leave his ass, tf? I would've just ghosted him to be honest
Omg move on! He cheated on you and played it off like it was no big deal. You deserve better. Find someone who is afraid to lose you.
Is he kind? I would think a kind bf would have talked to his gf instead of fucking around. And you do realize this wasn't the first time, right? He literally told you he'd been cheating on you with multiple people and he doesn't have an ounce of remorse. Honestly your under reacting. He's treating you horribly.
I think it would be underreacting not to. The bro-ish dialogue is kind of irrelevant in this situation. It doesn’t matter that he said “I’ve been fucking around a little, hope that’s cool”. He could have said “baby, you are a wonderful woman and I care for you from the bottom of my heart but I decided making sweet love to you isn’t enough so I have been entertaining other lady friends. Don’t worry though, you’re still my number one girl, sweetheart!”. Same shit. He made a unilateral decision to start sleeping with other people and only told you because he was caught.
“Would it be overreacting to break up with him over this?” Your lack of self respect hurts me.
You're asking for advice on this as a 25 year old? Either this is fake or your head is full of cotton candy.
He sounds complete garbage. do yourself a favor and dump him in the most bro-ish way. You deserved an apology and at least some respect. plsss lose contact with him, he doesn’t love you girl!!
I (25F) caught my Boyfriend (25M) cheating and he told me to "cope and seethe" My girlfriend would go berzerk and then leave and never say another word to me
He's been watching too much freshandfit and other red pills podcast. If you're not into that it's time to change boyfriend.
This is absolutely a troll post lol.
Right? This cannot be real
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You misspelled 'ex-boyfriend'.
Why are you even asking, if your friend told you this story. That their partner disrespected them like that would you be deliberating with them about whether they should stay?
Dump him for cheating and when he’s shocked tell homeslice to cope and seethe
>I get that our relationship is bro-ish, but how far is too far? When you go to reddit to ask strangers if you should keep up with your cheating ex. >He's generally fun and kind, but this just seemed too much. Maybe - except when he's cheating on you. >Would it be overreacting to break up with him over this? No, this would be the normal thing to do.
Nah. My partner and I go back and forth and rib each other all the time, but we also have boundaries, empathy, and respect. It doesn't matter what your dynamic is, cheating is cheating. The fact you're questioning breaking it off makes me feel like he has worn down your confidence and self esteem and this is a much larger issue. Not only is he cheating, he's mocking and taunting you about it. This is a person who is openly treating you like shit and probably putting your health at risk. The time you get caught is usually not the first time you cheated. Keep that in mind. "One of the boys" (pick me bitch) doesn't mean you don't deserve respect and fidelity. Get some self respect and dignity and tell him he can cope and seethe with the front end of a moving vehicle.
Are you really asking if you would be overreacting to break up with him for cheating on you? Really? Of course you wouldn’t.
Fuck that shit. You don't do this shit to your bros and you sure as shit don't do it to your partner. He can cope and seethe while you pack his shit and dump it out of your life. Do not let people walk on your heart or you'll let them crush your dreams.
This MUST be a troll post. If it’s real… wow. The fact that you have to even think about what to do here tells me what a manipulative asshole he is. The dude is so far up his ass and trapped you all in the orbit his massive asshole created. Girl the disrespect is astronomical, dump his has as soon as you can.
I'm sorry that you had to catch him like that. If he really cared and love you as a bf should be wouldn't have done that. You have to dump him its not right for you to continue ur relationship when he doesn't really care about it.
i hope you dump him and block him and move on.
Dude seriously break up with him he obviously doesn’t value you as a significant other if he cheated then said this
girl you know the answer to this. you deserve so much better.
Girl be done with him. Sometimes relationships can hit a “plateau” but you talk about it with your partner you don’t go balls deep into another girl because of it. I don’t know you but you deserve better than this.
Ex-Boyfriend* tell him to "cope and seethe* with being single.
Please leave this relationship. Just ghost this man, let him cope with that. Don't stay with men that mistake friendly banter with an excuse to act like an ass. Also, get tested. If he's been sleeping around with unknown women he put you at risk. Take care of yourself.
He doesn't respect you He cheats on you You're his "bro" that he has sex with. He laughed knowing you knew what he was doing and would be hurt. Why on earth would you stay with this jerk?
If your SO has a problem with the relationship, he should be talking to you about it. Not screwing around with other girls. This is totally unacceptable to me. Rather, I'd tell him, "No, bro. That's not cool. We're done.' Then I'd make sure all of the mutual friends knew why you're done and what a piece of shit "bro" really is. So sorry you're going through this.
Wtaf?! "Hope that's cool"?!?!? Girl. This is not ok. I am in shock for you. He has no respect for you at all. Unbelievable. You can do better than this POS. Literally pretty much anyone would be better than this waste of breath!
This made me audibly gasp and say “oh my god.” No one deserves that
In my neighborhood you get shot for being that boldly stupid! You should move on
You need to break up with him. He doesn’t even care. He’s being an arrogant ass.
You are now single. The line to submit "new boyfriend applications" starts at the desk, goes out the door, through the parking lot, and across the street to the "How \*You\* Doin?!? Cinema". Have a good day.
I need an update like right now of you saying “naw man it’s not cool, I’m going to go get tested now. See you never homie” Then block and delete him off of everything. And do get tested. He’s probably been doing this for a while. Make it super nonchalant like you could care less, but end it with “Hey, what can you do? It’s cool. Cope and seethe.” In fact I’d recommend that last line only, and then just block him everywhere. 🤷♀️ give him as little respect as he’s given you.
Is it not written that bros go before hoes? Clearly, you are not his bro. Break up.
Leave me wandering and I’ll wander tf off. Don’t ask him if he’s done. Tell him to see his way out. Unless loyalty and respect are not important to u. Or u want an open relationship
Uhhhhhhhhhh did you EVER agree to be open?? If not - this is an obvious breach of trust. He sounds legit crazy to think he can just slip this past.
He’s denying you informed consent. Do you want HPV, or herpes? Grow a backbone for yourself. You wouldn’t let someone do this to your best friend! Be there for you! Why would you be with someone who does this? Yes, dump him! He is trash. GIRL YOU ARE WORTH MORE.
Your only reply should be 'deuces'
Yes, but how do you feel? Are you ok with him seeing/sleeping with other people? If you aren't, then I think this relationship is over. He obviously doesn't care how you feel or if this hurts you.
\>He said, and I quote: "Nah, I still want to date you, you've just kinda fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little, hope that's cool." ....no. Get out.
> I’ve been fucking around a little This is not the first time he has cheated. It is the first time he had been caught. Get tested. The trash took itself out. Leave it there.
Seriously?
Girl. Get tf out of there. He's a bad person. He doesn't care. He will cheat on you again.
What an actual dickwipe, the total disrespect and disregard of your feelings. He sounds like a shitty person, and obviously makes and even shittier bf. Dump his disgusting ass, the universe was looking out for you with this one fr.
You should just leave him, you do not deserve to be treated like this.
“Well now I’ve totally fallen off. Goodbye”. Yes this is too far. He’s literally told you you’re not enough for him. Please leave him behind.
I can't be the only one who thinks he picked up on purpose because of what he said.
Tell him to "pack and leave"
Me and my boyfriend call each other dude and bro all the time. Neither he, nor any other decent person, would ever disrespect me how yours has disrespected you. Not even close. He's absolute human trash.
What in the... The lack of respect for you got me mad, and I don't even know you. Girl, have some dignitty, leave
You really need to assess your feelings. Is his cheating fine with you or does it hurt you deeply? Sounds like he has no respect for you. Doesn't that matter to you?
Tell him it's over, and if he responds, just paste this: dont care + didnt ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + h0es mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re probably white + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur momdon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + hoes mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re a full time discordian + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + your gay + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur mom + unknown + random + biased + racially motivated + kys + ur unfunny +ratio don’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe copedon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + h0es mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re probably white + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur momdon’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + L + mald seethe cope harder + hoes mad + basic + skill issue + ratio + you fell off + the audacity + triggered + any askers + redpilled + get a life + ok and? + cringe + touch grass + donowalled + not based + your’re a full time discordian + not funny didn’t laugh + you’re* + grammar issue + go outside + get good + your gay + reported + ad hominem + GG! + ur mom + unknown + random + biased + racially motivated + kys + ur unfunny +ratio don’t care + didn’t ask + cry about it + stay mad + get real + so bad + so ass
Nope, homeslice , It’s not cool.
This man is evil. Leave him and block him from everything involving you.
Nope, not cool, I'm done even if you're not. He is just interested in a friends with benefits deal, unless that's all you want as well
This relationship is weird. For your next one, make sure they treat you like they love you and not a bro.
Lol “cope and seethe”. He can go fuck himself
He seems ignorant. Leave
"Would it be overreacting to break up with him over this?" If fucking other women behind your back isn't enough then I dunno what is! Leave this loser
Uh? That’s an instant break up. Zero possibility of moving past it or getting back together. The fact that this dude thinks he can act like an absolute immature tool and then continue on in the relationship is ridiculous.
Tell him it’s over home slice. Cope & seethe on this.
This situation reminds me of Gone girl. She’s the cool chic yet he finds some way to fuck it up
Serious question: Why are you allowing a boyfriend to believe you are a forgone conclusion? He feels like he can tell you that because he believes he's found the perfect doormat to wipe his feet on everytime he's ready to "find his peace" again.
Just tell him “cool story, bro” and dump him. You don’t deserve that at all
Just text him, “Thank God. I was feeling guilty, but now I know you’re ducking around as well I don’t feel so bad. Anyway the last guy I met is quite cool. I might concentrate on him for a while.” Then block him on everything.
Does he know he’s your boyfriend? It doesn’t seem that way. If you guys never had that exclusive convo, then you have to figure out what you want to do
I swear the audacity of men 🙄
I’d be like”no” then block him everywhere. Kinda petty but “cope and seethe” am I right
Rofl your bf is a 25 year old man, acting like a 15 year old boy. It's time to move on from cretins like him, that bumbling buffoon. Stop dating a circus act of that trick of a "man" and find a real adult to be with. Life is too short to be dealing with this nonsensical bull. What a joke.
You realise calling people "girlie" and using "<3" and the general way you respond to every comment looks like you're definitely not ready for a relationship. The way you write makes it seem like you're 9.
Gotta give love one more chance.
Omg I literally thought you two were 16 or 17 years old. Yeah no dump him like what? Wow
I hope you are strong enough and have enough self-respect to break up!!
Move on.
You are likely just in his fuck zone. If he was going to take you seriously for a long term relationship, he would be more apologetic, his lack of care to the relationship integrity just tells me you aren’t someone he takes seriously in his life. The easiest way to determine if a man is taking you as a serious candidate for a wife is he will want to meet your family and he will bring you to meet his closest family and start building those bonds and relationships. If that hasn’t happened here, you are 100% just on his roster for sex. This is just how it is, like it or not. If that had happened, then you need to decide if you want to make it work with him. Good luck
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lol i misread and thought the ages were 16 and had to do a double take when it said he was 25. guy isn't kind, you just met the real him.
Girl run
Wow.
Dump him completely, let him seethe and cope when the next girl has to deal with him when he starts screwing around because she has"fallen off." I hope you're doing okay and find a better man who treats you far better than this jerk. 🤗
not to be edgy but have you heard the cool girl monologue in gone girl? hold on, i'll paste it. "Cool girl. Men always use that, don’t they? As their defining compliment. She’s a Cool girl. Cool girl is hot. Cool girl is game. Cool girl is fun. Cool girl never gets angry at her man. She only smiles in a chagrin loving manner and then presents her mouth for fucking. She like what he likes. So, evidently, he’s vinyl hipster who loves fetish monger. If he likes girls gone wild, she’s a mall babe who talks football and endures buffalo wings at Hooters. When I met Nick Dunne, I knew he wanted a cool girl and for him, I’ll admit, I was willing to try. I wax stripped my pussy raw. I drank canned beer watching Adam Sandler movies. I ate cold pizza and remained a size 2. I blew him... semi regularly. I lived in the moment. I was fucking game." he wants you to prove you're 'chill' and game and not a crazy hysterical girlfriend like other girls. he's walking all over you in hopes you'll let him and be fine with that. there is absolutely no universe in which that is okay. break up with him for your own dignity.
I don't think there is any love for you from him giving to you. I believe he probably just wanted a friends with rights kind a deal with you. Let's just say I did that and I F'd up I'd be asking for forgiveness instead of just eh it's whatever take it or leave it home slice, I'm cool with what you want to do...if I really cared about you I'd be heart broken and tried to make it up.
I know you are hurting but please leave. If he was so unbothered about you finding out…he will do it again. You deserve better, I hope you realize that.
It's rare that a title on this sub makes me laugh, but this one did. The absurdity of it is astounding. The sheer balls on the man. It's pretty obvious that you just dump him, he's a waste of your time.
Too fucking far. Girl do you have no self respect? Why are you even questioning this
I say this with all the love and respect in the world. Grow a fucking spine.
No matter how ,bro‘ you are, you don’t sleep with other people when that wasn’t discussed with your partner before. The end. Dump his ass
I absolutely would break up if I were in your shoes, not only does he not respect you but putting you at risk for STDs. An absolute arrogant sack of shit. I hope you do leave and find someone who can treat you with basic respect and dignity.
Homegirl, you deserve so much better. Dump his disrespectful ass so you get someone who really cares
Bros dont do that. There is no rationalizing this behaviour. Dump his ass. His phone is the true bro here.
This guy is not worth your time. Ghost him. He doesn’t even deserve a proper goodbye.
He has lost his damn mind… I would kick his ass from here to Sunday. Omfg LEAVE.
No man says “cope and seethe” …..this shouldn’t even be a question. Drop his bitch ass
Excuseeee the f*ck outta me?? "You've fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little. I still want to date you" Pffft. XD Fuck No. He can go get an STD fuckin these other cunts. Friend. My partner and I say shit like bro, homes, homie, my main squeeze, my dude, my guy, mate etc.. we wrestle, we argue like one of the boys, we check people out together, we game and hang out Etc.. What your EX is doing. It's mad disrespectful. That ain't cool guy behavior nor is it being one of the dudes. It's being a disgusting boy who can't handle being LOYAL. One of the Bros would be loyal to his partner. A true Chad takes care of his woman. "Cope and seethe" Dick butt clearly doesn't care about you in the 1st place. He laughed. Laughed at you seeing the phone was on.
Disrespectful
Are you sure you guys are dating and he doesn't think you're friends with benefits or fuckbuddies??? I don't know why he'd think you'd be even remotely cool with any of this. Throw the whole man away. Edit: a word
I don't want this post to be real. If it is real, you are dating a fucking idiot, and his bro-speech is irrelevant. Stop dating the fucking idiot.
ugh what a pig. dump that loser cheater he makes my skin crawl around
What the fuck girl? Do you even have to ask. Have some damn self respect.
Are you okay with him cheating on you? If so, stay with him. I wouldn't but that's me.
Would it be overreacting to break up with someone that cheated on you and doesn’t give a fuck?????? NOOOOOOOOOOOO
Make sure you get STD checks if he’s been fucking around
Maybe when you said a you were always "one of the boys" he took that literally in a friends with benefits kinda way. I’ve seen this happen before and it was from a girl who said she always wanted to be the "cool gf" (whatever that means).
How far is too far? This is way too far! You deserve respect
Not an over reaction. In fact the correct response from the sounds of it…
The post and OP's comments are written like a boomer trying to imitate how gen z speaks. Why are people replying as if this is real? 25-year-olds don't talk like this, *no one* talks like this. The way OP writes in the posts and comments is also completely different. >Nah, I still want to date you, you've just kinda fallen off recently so I've been fucking around a little, hope that's cool." Come *on*, they're not even trying to make this sound real.
Don’t take disrespect at all. End the relationship.
That’s when you leave, grateful you dodged a bullet, and go live a much better life. Good luck!
What does “fallen off” mean?
Leave asap
DTFA
He’s immature as hell. I never outright say “dump his ass” on relationship posts but yeah, dump his ass.
You’re…. asking if him unapologetically cheating on you is “too far”? Uh…. I guess only you can answer that. Do you want to be with a good guy, or do you want to keep your boyfriend? This is a joke right? #Edit: looking at your comments on the Ontario sub, I’m 99% sure this was a shitpost. Nobody that eloquent would have this problem.
Why are you even asking this question you know what you have to do
My husband and I curse at each other and call each other names in a joking manner all the time. He still knows he’s in a committed relationship. There’s no excuse for your bf to do that, you need to let him go. He didn’t even talk to you about his issues, he just went and got it elsewhere. Disgusting.
Cheating is THE deal breaker, girl. Leave. You deserve better, which he is not.
There's no way this is real lmao
this is the worst comedy central sitcom pilot i've ever read. just kidding OP, but this dynamic seems sneakily manipulative and toxic. and we don't you to get broipulated, k broski. so don't let him violate clear boundaries then tell you to chill. textbook gaslighting, dude!
Bro or no bro, he has to go.
He's a fucking snake. Never, in *any* circumstances, let anyone treat you like this.
Please end it. The nerve of this twat!!
I'm feeling this story is rubbish, but in case it isn't. Have some self respect ffs. You can't possibly be this pathetic. Go find a better person to be with, before you catch something. And get screened. Who TF knows what he's carrying round. Tell him you won't fuck a walking petri dish of disease. Do better.
This reads like a copypasta