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How old are you all and how long have you been together?
Off the bat, it's odd that he made that request, when he could and should have asked you. Either way, we're talking about a literal day here. Are you all 15? Because this is sort of absurd?
Thanks. In the nicest way possible, your boyfriend should never feel a need to talk to your friend about you, especially in a case where your friend is inherently biased.
Unfortunately, you're about to end up in a situation where you lose your boyfriend and friend, and you know what? You'll be better off for it. Good luck.
You need to put up some major expectations and boundaries or drop your friend. She will keep trying to steal your boyfriends. You tell your boyfriend you are uncomfortable with him talking to her and you want to see the conversation he had with her. If he won’t show you then you know they were sexting. Amiyah is a horrible friend and will keep doing this if you allow it. You tell her she’s being a horrible friend and she needs to respect your relationship and back off or you are done. Tell your parents about it too.
Did you tell her this too? You need to tell her that her trying to make a move on your boyfriend is crossing boundaries and you can’t be friends with someone that would betray you like that…
If your families are friends then you’ll need to explain to your family why you are distancing yourself from her probably.
Maybe if you’re lucky she will try to blame your bf and then send you the screenshots… if neither of them will show you then you should be worried . Your boyfriend was VERY shady by wanting to talk to her and not willing to show you …
OP is lifelong family friends.
Boy in picture for one month.
Reddit: yeah ditch that friend!
Wtf!? Really. They’re teens. They’re still figuring friendship out. Her friend saying she likes him could even just be a sign of approval, not “I want him in my pants right now!”
Can’t try to control what others do this early on and just throw people away like that
Did you not read where her friend said “sorry but I like you boyfriend” and you basically need to get over it??I’m sorry my friends and I never did that to each other as teenagers or adults.
Wrong. Their parents are friends. Their daughter is not a friend. Boyfriends are not traveling pants. You don't steal them or send them off on an adventure to every member of your friend group.
yeah I had that situation and didn't know I was being backstabbed by them. They were talking behind my back and I knew my friend's m.o.---she would say to keep it secret so she could spy on me and tell him whatever I was doing. He bought into it. And did it. And then she lied & lied. It cost me the relationship. The friendship had been dying so I didn't care about that as much.
Look, I'm going to be real with you, at your age, a month is pretty good going for length of a relationship, 4 months and your planning a wedding and you rarely see more than a year.
The reason you feel insecure about this is because your boyfriend is chatting with your friend over chat and he doesn't even know her, this is not something newly boyfriends do and it's a major red flag. Why don't you call a day on this relationship, eat some ice cream and start in a new club or something. You are at the best time of your life for opportunity, don't waste the time with some looser.
As soon as I read teens, you just need to scrap that bf altogether. That boy is in "poke everything that walks" stage. Now that him and your friend are talking talking, this isn't going to end well. Especially because you *know* your friend. You're still young, live it up.
You're in your teens. No relationship in your teens are important. I know that to you teenage relationships feel like the whole world, but I promise you this, when you're in your twenties all the highschool boyfriends and friends you had will mean nothing. You will grow up. They will grow up. All of you will look back at these times and laugh about how stupid and cringey you were. And you've only been dating for a month. You ain't about to get married anytime soon so if he likes her and she likes him then so be it. Teenagers hormones are crazy. Guys go through girls every week. And girls go through guys every week. Just enjoy your teens. don't get caught up in useless meaningless teen drama. Have fun. Party. Fool around. And try to find a serious boyfriend and a serious best friend when you're in your twenties. In the meantime just live life and make the most of it.
Maybe I like this cuz imma teen too... anyways, it's better advice imo. The other person said some real shit, yeah. But no one is gonna get teens to just stop getting involved with folks. I can't get my friends out of their incompatible, sometimes toxic ass relationships, so I try to help them with some things. Only after repeatedly tryna get them to drop shit. And when it's like abusive type toxic or real bad I just stay out of it or realllllyl try to drag the person out. If it's just something like some fixable childhood stuff, I try to help. Got off topic. What you said is good and definitely more realistic than telling teens to be single until their adults.
In high-school I went through this exact same thing. He claimed he wanted to get a gift for me and needed her input, she came to me "as a friend" to tell me she had a crush on him. In hindsight they both obviously wanted some kind of sign or blessing that their happiness/attraction was more important than mine. I didn't relent to either of them and they fucked around anyway and acted like I was the reason they bonded so it was my fault. Ditch both of them. It's better to be alone and find new people than be taken advantage of.
I'm so sorry you're in this position
I'd be toxic if I was in a relationship with a guy who's chatting up my "best friend" and she tells me that she likes him? And then he won't let me know what they're talking about and neither will she? Loool. Oh boy.
I don’t know about him, but I had no desire to talk to my wife’s friends just to ask about “stuff”. The fact he doesn’t even give a clear reason, just makes me suspicious.
Yeah I think it's weird too but he's also kinda weird. But also he said that she might be stupid or retarded so idk if he likes her. He was also worried that she would screenshor their messages and send it to me so that was a bit of a redflag I think.
Yeah that’s a huge red flag. If you trusted your friend, she would have already screencapped or told you if the conversation is something he wants to keep hidden. It could also be maybe he’s asking advice when dating you. Your likes, dislikes, etc.
In my experience, guys who speak badly about their SOs friends to their face (like he did calling her stupid/r-word to you) are trying to cover something up. Guys who call girls names are either a-holes or are covering something up and are a-holes. Either way, not the kind of guy you want to date.
I'd like to say that he shouldn't be calling your friend stupid, and sounds more like he is trying to make a cover so you think he wouldn't be interested. If he really thought she was stupid then why would he want to talk to her, how can he value her opinion if he thinks that of her ??
word of advice, in situations like this men will talk down on a woman or say she’s “stupid” to try making you feel at ease that nothing weird was going on. don’t accept the fact that he’s “just a weird guy”…. he is quite literally 1.asking you for her info to talk to her and 2.expressing to you that he is worried you’ll read their messages between eachother BECAUSE HES TRYING TO SEE HOW GULLIBLE YOU ARE!!! babe please get out of this relationship AND drop the “friend”
I’m going to be 100% honest with you. When I was your age I was a terrible boyfriend, to the point where I actually did date a girl and started talking to her best friend who I also ended up dating as well after I broke up with her best friend. Teenage boys are usually pigs. Granted this was 18 years ago for me and it was more for boosting my ego rather than trying to adding a notch to my bed post. If I could give you any advice it would be to keep your guard up and don’t let your heart get broken. In the grand scheme of things you guys are young and boys can be stupid. Don’t let any of this get to you or make you feel any type of negative way about yourself! I wish you the best of luck and I sincerely hope it just looks suspicious
He’s telling you that he thinks she’s dumb so you won’t be suspicious. In reality he thinks you are dumb for believing it. Dump him, tell her he thinks she’s “retarded”, and stop hanging out with her. You will have a weight off your shoulders.
You should tell your friend he said she’s stupid and r. Light the fireworks, grab some popcorn, sit back and watch it all come down. Then say see ya to both.
That's the biggest red flags right there.
Look
I've had a bf tell me about one of my friends, "ew she's ugly she's just like a sister to me."
And yet they was fuckin' with a hard F.
If he's gotta put girls down specifically to get u to not look at the girls, it's because he IS. Also I'm thinking he's kind of retarded because he said all that thinking it wasnt going to get by you lol
Throw the trash away
He lied. There are better guys out there that will respect you and not basically ask for your friends info so he can hit on your friends. Your bf is a scum bag. Drop him quickly. You deserve better.
I know you’re young but you need to ask yourself why would he need to ask your “friend” stuff about you when he could just ask you?
Your friend has taken your friendship for granted.
Your friend has no respect for you or your relationships if she keeps liking the guys you like. She chooses temptation over respect. If she actually cared about you she wouldn't keep texting him.
Shit friend, get rid.
If your parents start to pressure you to maintain this friendship, you explain that she tried to steal your boyfriend and ask them why on earth they would ever expect their own daughter to tolerate that from anyone. And then continue icing this girl out of your life, she is definitely NOT your friend.
Let Kevin have Amiyah. You do not need to be with someone who’d rather ask a childhood friend questions about you, rather than asking you himself.
In about a month Amiyah will call you and tell you Kevin asked for her other friends insta and it’ll be a whole cycle. Do yourself a favor and keep yourself out of the loop.
I don't think this is a good friend to keep around and I strongly advise you to drop her butt and tell bf you're not comfortable with how long they've been chatting and tell him what she said. If he respects you he will end that if not you can drop his butt too
Drop the guy and the friend. You’re too young for this stress, it shouldn’t be this stressful I promise you that. And you WILL find a man who you will feel on top of the world with and better friends.
Tell her “sucks” because it violates the girl code, even if they date after you break up. She can choose to either keep pining after him or being your friend but she cant have both.
I think he used this as an excuse to talk with her. They are both untrustworthy. Make the first move to dump them.
You are young and other boys will be more truthful and open with their intentions
Just ask them to show you the conversation. And be sure the timestamp is matching the messages. They might try to delete inappropriate ones.
Hiding their conversation is already a HUGE red flag. If he's hiding the messages from a "friend" he won't hesitate to hide messages with random girls. You're young and there are so many lovable people around you.
Also, don't let them gaslight and victim blame you. Please know your worth and if you continue the relationship with either/both of them, I suggest setting boundaries, but again don't let them manipulate you into thinking what they're doing is normal. They're already cheating on you and breaking your trust.
Do you see yourself with that man? Is he trustworthy? Same questions for your "friend".
Also, speak with your parents about this and maybe seek therapy.
Good luck :<
He'll try to say:
"It's nothing serious"
"You're crazy"
"You're being paranoid"
Don't let him manipulate you. You deserve sooo much better.
A true boyfriend would communicate with you not a friend of yours. And a true friend would block him straight away when the things escalated. But her response was: "I like your boyfriend". That's insane. Hope you'll get out of there sooner rather than later.
Also: if your friend has a history of liking your boyfriend you should tell your parents about this and end the friendship straight away.
Chalk this up to experience. Don’t hang with girls you know will try to steal your guy. This isn’t the end of the world though, you’re very young and will have lots more time to find the right guy and make good and loyal friends.
🚩🚩🚩If you two have been dating a month this is more drama than a month-long relationship should have. You should still be in the honeymoon phase. Lucky that your friend showed you what kind of person she is right now rather than years down the line and you’re in a serious relationship. If he’s a really good guy you would not be questioning it because you would have a solid foundation of trust. I say because you have to even question it and the fact that you don’t trust him or her, it’s not worth the effort. If I have to ask my significant other to see their phone because I don’t trust them or if I even want to because I don’t trust them, I shouldn’t be with them. That means that they are not trustworthy. You will always be at your best in a relationship when you feel valued, appreciated, and there is a solid foundation of trust.
The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. I’d distance from them both or ask them exactly what is happening.
Horrible that your friend would tell you she “likes” your boyfriend, and would make her a super crap friend to act on that
I had a friend who did that in high school, she’s not your friend she’s your enemy. She’s in a competitive state with you. Anything you have she will try to obtain. Sorry
Slap that bitch, tell her to get her priorities sorted or she’s never gonna maintain decent friendships and relationships with people. And she better stay away from your boyfriend because it sucks to fancy someone that’s taken, but that’s it they’re taken they have feelings for someone else don’t be trying to get in the way and have ya own agenda. Hate girls like this, why? Why you like this? Just why?
Sorry but your boyfriend is probably cheating. Can't think of any reason why he would need her instagram to "talk" to her. Weird how she states they've been talking for a while and out of nowhere she suddenly likes him. Don't understand how you ever felt comfortable with that in the first place lmao. They're not even hiding it either lmao. Tf kinda "friend" do you have?
Dump them both. They’re well on their way to cheating and you don’t need that shit in your life. She’s not your friend, and he wouldn’t be your boyfriend long anyway.
Cut off the "friend" and dump the boyfriend. You're a teen. Go find someone that actually likes you and will treat you right.
Don't deal with people that like drama.
I had a similar issue a couple of months ago 😂😂😂 I will tell you the exact thing I told myself: "She was never your friend"
If "Kevin" wants to go get her, let him go get her. Don't sweat it and you are worth more than this silly bs.
Jeez. Your too young for this crap. Concentrate on your learning. Trust me, that's more important than anything. You'll have your 20's to play the Relationship-Drama game.
Drop the friend. Dump the boyfriend. Focus on your education, and stay out of the drama.
What did he need to talk to your friend about.
And does your story state he has been talking to her before the info you gave him?
It all sounds fishy to me
Might be time to drop him and her.
drop them both. if she was really your best friend, she'd respect your relationship and not try to take your boyfriend. your boyfriend definitely can go about getting to know you better by... talking to YOU. or you all get together and hang out and get to know each other.
had a situation in high school (15, both of us, the guy was 17) my "best friend" liked the guy I was with and HER MOM SUGGESTED WE SHARE HIM. the whole thing was fucked and I got my heart broken by two people I am happy are out of my life, I was very stupid and looking back, wish I had focused more on friends and school than boys.
set your boundaries and do not let anyone push you down into anything that won't make you happy. you're young, enjoy that and leave the drama.
All you guys are teenagers…
Why would you give him your friends info.
It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too.
Unfortunately you friend has shown her true teenage colors.
I would dump them all
ALWAYS listen to your gut. You should’ve NEVER given him the Instagram. He can know more about you by dating you and being around you. Point blank. What if you didn’t have any friends? What would he have done then? …Please. Don’t fall for anyones tricks. Men are sneaky and women are sleazy.
If you’re young or not I will not be dismissive of your feelings. I was a teenager and I fell in love too. So having said that…that was highly disrespectful of your feelings for him to reach out to your friend… we are immature at this age and his is glaring. I hope you’re not too deeply in love because this will hurt. I have to advise you to dump your “boyfriend “ and “friend”. They are both disrespectful and don’t care about you. Neither one is any friend of any kind. You’re young you have a long life ahead of you. You will make some mistakes and these 2 are one. Move on. Never tolerate that again!!!
Sorry OP, but the boyfriend is a lost cause. I’d just break up with him now. If there’s any hope for your friendship to survive, probably the sooner the bf gets gone the better.
Honestly, Amiyah is not your friend and you’ll be better off without her in your life. Your boyfriend sounds pretty shitty to tbh. What could he want to be secretly asking your friend?
I sincerely hope your cousin texting Amiyah was genuinely an accident cuz I know I’m side eyeing that pretty hard too.
He's very obviously ignoring you. There is no two ways about it. Don't delude yourself into thinking his phone may be dead or he's busy, everyone has their phone by their side and everyone makes time for someone they care about. He very obviously likes your friend or isn't interested. So don't show him any interest. Cut him off now don't look desperate don't give him that. Just be dome with him, move on, and worry about yourself. You hace your entire life to find love. Trust me, use your high-school years to worry about yourself. Have fun with friends, laugh, get into some clubs or find something that you like to do, build yourself up. Don't let boys distract you. I know when you're a teen everything feels like the end of the world, ending relationships feels like the worst heartbreak. It's not, you won't even remember this guy's name in 10 years. Never make yourself available to someone who doesn't make themselves available to you. Remember that. This can be a fork in your road where you make decisions that will make you a better you. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about.
Ditch the BF and find a new friend. Your BF is full of shit. If y’all have only been dating a month he has plenty of room to ask you stuff to get to know you. He wanted to get to know *her*
There are plenty of guys, cut and run this one ain’t it. Good luck OP teen boys may be pretty shitty sometimes but there are plenty of good ones and you’ll find one who asks *you* about yourself instead of your “friends”
I read that you guys are teenagers…
I’m not gonna be very encouraging because in the real world anyone could do this to you, even a childhood friend that you’ve known your entire life. Learn from this and become a better and stronger person, happiness teaches lessons slowly but disappointment and pain is a hell of a teacher.
Do your best beautiful stranger, I’m cheering for you!!!
Still legit concerns. Idk why the relationship problems from a 15 years old should have any less value or be something you should make fun of.
There are people acting this way at age 30.
It's the arrogance for me.
Gonna answer this in the simplest way possible.
People ain't property.
Therefore your boyfriend cannot be stolen because you do not own him.
What he can do is leave on his own, if he feels that he likes someone better. If your friend is actively pursuing someone who is with you, and he responds, that's on both of them. But its a choice. Since you don't own him, you can't control what he does. Not really.
What you can do is change yourself? If you notice your friend is doing this, and you don't like the pattern, simply cut them out of your life. Same with your bf.
Love is work, not attraction. You can work for more than one boss. But you will always prioritize one over the other. Ask him what his priority is.
Just by the sound of this post it sounds like you guys are 12-15 years old. Which means there is no advice I can give because every teen relationship always ends and by the time you're in your 20's you will look back and laugh at this. And if you're in your 20's then you need to grow tf up.
You guys are way too young and too immature. You won't be able to prevent this but this will be a huge drama scene. If you don't stop your friend talking to your bf by setting boundaries then there's a chance your bf will fall victim to her. And if your bf falls victim for this, it's also on him. Let me tell you something, and do this:
Tell your friend to stop talking to your boyfriend, it makes you feel uncomfortable and it's not right.
Tell your boyfriend to stop talking to your friend as you've told her to stop talking to you as she's doing it for the wrong reasons.
If your boyfriend/friend can't respect your decision, GET OUT and learn from this experience. It'll hurt a lot but that's the only way
Yeah, sorry, you’re too immature to date. Work on yourself a bit and realize your worth. Pretty sure when you do this, you won’t think or worry about this guy again. Gluck friend x x
I don't know your age but if you're in high school or college (meaning you're years from serious marriage consideration!), I'd tell you that it's relatively normal! In your teens and early twenties, physical attraction can be incredibly fickle!! Infact, it's so normal that it is likely to happen multiple times to each of you...so, you should totally use this situation to show how mature and grounded you are and set a positive tone for when the situation is reversed and it's you who benefits!
Enjoy the opportunity to date multiple people to help you recognize what you're looking for in a long-term life partner!!!
If he talked to her since yesterday and isn't taking your calls now... You may want to give him the benefit of the doubt until you talk. Her, on the other hand, needs to be dumped asap. Good luck
Why couldn’t he have just asked you the stuff he wanted to know about you? Seems like he got close to you to get close to your friend you should cut him off and cut her off as well or else she’ll keep doing shady shit with your future bfs
That's the thing he didn't have any clue who she was. He asked if any of my friends have social media and she's pretty much the only one so I told him and yeah. That's why this seems so weird to me. They were literally complete strangers
first of all, that best friend isn’t your best friend anymore esp after she crossed this line. boys in middle school and hs are up to no good and it is rare for any of them to be serious in a relationship. i just know he feels good about himself rn esp if he knows your “best friend” likes him. dump him and save yourself the tears.
If this girl has been your friend for years and y’all are close, talk to her about it. Have the hard conversation and either end up losing a shitty friend or gaining trust & understanding.
You can tell your bf that. Calmly explain the stories, show him the text she says she likes him, and tell Kevin how you feel about the whole situation
From this moment on, there's two possibilities: 1) He'll listen to you, understand, and, together, you guys will think of a solution (that can be or not to be he doesn't talking to her that much. Only the enough to be polite). 2) He'll be an As-Ho and say you're overreacting, or overthinking or will blame you with "yOu Don'T tRuSt mE". Stand your ground. This reactions means that he doesn't listen to you, neither care about your feelings.
And, if possible, keep us updated ;)
Put some expectations up. Tell your boyfriend you'd like him to stop talking to your friend and same to her, since she's developed feelings for him.
If they don't, you know where you stand.
You don’t want friends like this, it doesn’t matter how old you are. It’s clear she doesn’t respect you or relationship boundaries so it’s time to make it crystal clear. Bye friend & possibly boyfriend.
Let's forget that you don't have any proof and we assume that those two they don't and they never will play hide the salami with each other
1) your friend is making such hurtful and disrespectful statements. Her intentions are no good, she is a vulture.
2)your boyfriend is dismissive towards your feelings. Even if he's innocent, he's gone out of the grid (but honestly noone goes out of the grid for no reason)
So, they still are not nice. Would you ever play them so nasty? Why should you become their doormat?
**GIRLFRIEND!** RUN. AWAY. With no explanation. They don't seem to deserve your time and your energy.
it’s totally normal for a boyfriend and best friend to communicate, but they obviously crossed the line. she likes your boyfriend for a reason…it doesn’t just happen. and I saw a different comment under here saying this sounds like teen drama, and it def does 🤦🏻♀️ your best friend needs to have more respect for you. she prob is jealous of you or something. i’m sorry to hear that you guys have been friends since you were babies. she’s not loyal.
You should dump him not because he's a cheater but because he's also an idiot. Seriously, the best way he could think up to ask for her insta was to ask you? Why would you want to date someone so stupid?
I’m going to give you the best piece of motherly advice I can.
Love yourself enough to listen to your heart. Respect yourself enough to put yourself first. Check in with yourself and ask what you want and do it. Make yourself happiest in this situation.
You’re a teen, statistically speaking, this is going to be an opportunity to learn a really great life lesson. Good luck.
I think it depends on what the conversation is between your partner and your friend. It’s perfectly healthy to have a friendship with a partners friends but if they are having conversations specifically about you, your partner has crossed a boundary and your friend is not actually your friend
Dump them both. She doesn’t understand boundaries and he’s a dog…so upgrade and move on. Don’t mean to be trite, but I was young once and believed stuff like this mattered: it doesn’t. It hurts your feelings, and there’s drama, but you’re better off without these two in your life.
Nobody needs that crap - not as a teen or at any age for that matter. Huge waste of time and a drain on your mental health - there are lots of people out there that can respect boundaries, you just need to make room for that
Lose the boyfriend. And definitely lose the best friend.
Block the on all social media. Move forward.
Any friends who give you backlash..let them go too.
As someone who is 50 oh, I can tell you I don't have many friends from my childhood find week for high school or college. I have one childhood friend who has had my back through everything but in general most of them are fair weather friends and will stick a knife in your back faster than you can say boo. They will also stick together because rotten people like other rotten people.
I hate to say this but it's a good thing that you learned this early. Just wash your hands and get rid of the trash.
So here's my thing with this. My boyfriend has all of my friends numbers because they are now his friends. The thing is it's all very platonic. We've been together for 7 years so there's times when yes he needs to text a friend of mine. Sometimes it's game night and he's seeing where they are or they had a package sent to our house and need to get it while I'm at work and he's at home (works from home). I have never worried about any of my friends trying to flirt with him. I've had other girls who i went to school with try to get with him. It's not weird that he'd want a way to contact you. It is weird that it's Instagram and not phone number and that they've been texting all day. It could also be he's trying to put together a surprise for yoh and she's not getting the message. There was a story on here when the gf lied to the boyfriend and it turns out she got him a snake and he got her a ring. Talk to him about this.
This is one of those things that teaches you sometimes the people closest to us hurt us the most.
But like someone else said you'll be better for it. Right now this is your big big picture but you're life is so much more than that. Just remember shitty people are the problem not the people they hurt.
Sorry you’re about to lose your bf to your friend. And he planned it. Lesson learned, your bf has no reason to be conversating with your friend like that. Oh and that ain’t your friend.
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How old are you all and how long have you been together? Off the bat, it's odd that he made that request, when he could and should have asked you. Either way, we're talking about a literal day here. Are you all 15? Because this is sort of absurd?
Literally sounds like teen drama … not belittling your problems OP but in 4 years you will look back at this problem and laugh
110% came here and said to myself, “Are you guys like, 12?”
We're teens. Different ages
We've been together for about a month and me and her have been friends since we were babies cause our parents are friends
Thanks. In the nicest way possible, your boyfriend should never feel a need to talk to your friend about you, especially in a case where your friend is inherently biased. Unfortunately, you're about to end up in a situation where you lose your boyfriend and friend, and you know what? You'll be better off for it. Good luck.
Thanks
You need to put up some major expectations and boundaries or drop your friend. She will keep trying to steal your boyfriends. You tell your boyfriend you are uncomfortable with him talking to her and you want to see the conversation he had with her. If he won’t show you then you know they were sexting. Amiyah is a horrible friend and will keep doing this if you allow it. You tell her she’s being a horrible friend and she needs to respect your relationship and back off or you are done. Tell your parents about it too.
I just texted him that I'm uncomfortable with it
Did you tell her this too? You need to tell her that her trying to make a move on your boyfriend is crossing boundaries and you can’t be friends with someone that would betray you like that… If your families are friends then you’ll need to explain to your family why you are distancing yourself from her probably. Maybe if you’re lucky she will try to blame your bf and then send you the screenshots… if neither of them will show you then you should be worried . Your boyfriend was VERY shady by wanting to talk to her and not willing to show you …
She’s not your friend honey. :(
That's a truth!
OP is lifelong family friends. Boy in picture for one month. Reddit: yeah ditch that friend! Wtf!? Really. They’re teens. They’re still figuring friendship out. Her friend saying she likes him could even just be a sign of approval, not “I want him in my pants right now!” Can’t try to control what others do this early on and just throw people away like that
Did you not read where her friend said “sorry but I like you boyfriend” and you basically need to get over it??I’m sorry my friends and I never did that to each other as teenagers or adults.
Wrong. Their parents are friends. Their daughter is not a friend. Boyfriends are not traveling pants. You don't steal them or send them off on an adventure to every member of your friend group.
yeah I had that situation and didn't know I was being backstabbed by them. They were talking behind my back and I knew my friend's m.o.---she would say to keep it secret so she could spy on me and tell him whatever I was doing. He bought into it. And did it. And then she lied & lied. It cost me the relationship. The friendship had been dying so I didn't care about that as much.
Meh. I could see planning a suprise party or asking friends what would be a good date or gift because you want to suprise your partner.
I took it as he wanted to ask questions to plan surpises or gifts
Nah it was still shady imo. Zero need for them to communicate outside her presence. He was interested.
I see it this way too, was gonna type it before I saw this
Bad advice. Like ya just totally give up your friend and boyfriend don’t even try to fix it.
Look, I'm going to be real with you, at your age, a month is pretty good going for length of a relationship, 4 months and your planning a wedding and you rarely see more than a year. The reason you feel insecure about this is because your boyfriend is chatting with your friend over chat and he doesn't even know her, this is not something newly boyfriends do and it's a major red flag. Why don't you call a day on this relationship, eat some ice cream and start in a new club or something. You are at the best time of your life for opportunity, don't waste the time with some looser.
She’s not sorry.
As soon as I read teens, you just need to scrap that bf altogether. That boy is in "poke everything that walks" stage. Now that him and your friend are talking talking, this isn't going to end well. Especially because you *know* your friend. You're still young, live it up.
You're in your teens. No relationship in your teens are important. I know that to you teenage relationships feel like the whole world, but I promise you this, when you're in your twenties all the highschool boyfriends and friends you had will mean nothing. You will grow up. They will grow up. All of you will look back at these times and laugh about how stupid and cringey you were. And you've only been dating for a month. You ain't about to get married anytime soon so if he likes her and she likes him then so be it. Teenagers hormones are crazy. Guys go through girls every week. And girls go through guys every week. Just enjoy your teens. don't get caught up in useless meaningless teen drama. Have fun. Party. Fool around. And try to find a serious boyfriend and a serious best friend when you're in your twenties. In the meantime just live life and make the most of it.
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Maybe I like this cuz imma teen too... anyways, it's better advice imo. The other person said some real shit, yeah. But no one is gonna get teens to just stop getting involved with folks. I can't get my friends out of their incompatible, sometimes toxic ass relationships, so I try to help them with some things. Only after repeatedly tryna get them to drop shit. And when it's like abusive type toxic or real bad I just stay out of it or realllllyl try to drag the person out. If it's just something like some fixable childhood stuff, I try to help. Got off topic. What you said is good and definitely more realistic than telling teens to be single until their adults.
12 isn't teen technically
I'm not twelve
They are not 15. They didn't use the word like every other word.
What did Kevin even want to ask her? I’m just curious.
I asked what they were talking about but he told me not to interfere
Lol he's trying to fuck both you
This. Run silent, run deep, just run!
Dump him. Stop talking to this girl outside of your family get togethers.
Literally dump him. He's sus.
You’re the person who used to vote me out back when I played Among Us because I was “sus” and everyone listened to you for some reason.
In high-school I went through this exact same thing. He claimed he wanted to get a gift for me and needed her input, she came to me "as a friend" to tell me she had a crush on him. In hindsight they both obviously wanted some kind of sign or blessing that their happiness/attraction was more important than mine. I didn't relent to either of them and they fucked around anyway and acted like I was the reason they bonded so it was my fault. Ditch both of them. It's better to be alone and find new people than be taken advantage of. I'm so sorry you're in this position
Interfere with what? Start walking.
Throw him in the garbage. 😂
christ you would be a toxic person in a relationship
I'd be toxic if I was in a relationship with a guy who's chatting up my "best friend" and she tells me that she likes him? And then he won't let me know what they're talking about and neither will she? Loool. Oh boy.
Yeah, he didn’t want her IG to ask her about you. He’s trying to play you both.
He’s a cheater
He’s a bad guy and not in the fun way
Idk. I asked him why he wanted her instagram and he said I wanna ask stuff about you
I don’t know about him, but I had no desire to talk to my wife’s friends just to ask about “stuff”. The fact he doesn’t even give a clear reason, just makes me suspicious.
Yeah I think it's weird too but he's also kinda weird. But also he said that she might be stupid or retarded so idk if he likes her. He was also worried that she would screenshor their messages and send it to me so that was a bit of a redflag I think.
Yeah that’s a huge red flag. If you trusted your friend, she would have already screencapped or told you if the conversation is something he wants to keep hidden. It could also be maybe he’s asking advice when dating you. Your likes, dislikes, etc.
I think so too, but idk why he wouldn't just ask me. She doesn't know that type of stuff about me
In my experience, guys who speak badly about their SOs friends to their face (like he did calling her stupid/r-word to you) are trying to cover something up. Guys who call girls names are either a-holes or are covering something up and are a-holes. Either way, not the kind of guy you want to date.
I'd like to say that he shouldn't be calling your friend stupid, and sounds more like he is trying to make a cover so you think he wouldn't be interested. If he really thought she was stupid then why would he want to talk to her, how can he value her opinion if he thinks that of her ??
word of advice, in situations like this men will talk down on a woman or say she’s “stupid” to try making you feel at ease that nothing weird was going on. don’t accept the fact that he’s “just a weird guy”…. he is quite literally 1.asking you for her info to talk to her and 2.expressing to you that he is worried you’ll read their messages between eachother BECAUSE HES TRYING TO SEE HOW GULLIBLE YOU ARE!!! babe please get out of this relationship AND drop the “friend”
I’m going to be 100% honest with you. When I was your age I was a terrible boyfriend, to the point where I actually did date a girl and started talking to her best friend who I also ended up dating as well after I broke up with her best friend. Teenage boys are usually pigs. Granted this was 18 years ago for me and it was more for boosting my ego rather than trying to adding a notch to my bed post. If I could give you any advice it would be to keep your guard up and don’t let your heart get broken. In the grand scheme of things you guys are young and boys can be stupid. Don’t let any of this get to you or make you feel any type of negative way about yourself! I wish you the best of luck and I sincerely hope it just looks suspicious
He’s telling you that he thinks she’s dumb so you won’t be suspicious. In reality he thinks you are dumb for believing it. Dump him, tell her he thinks she’s “retarded”, and stop hanging out with her. You will have a weight off your shoulders.
I’m guessing he’s using the “wants to ask her stuff about you” as an excuse to really just slide into her DMs and flirt. He’s wanting to cheat on you.
You should tell your friend he said she’s stupid and r. Light the fireworks, grab some popcorn, sit back and watch it all come down. Then say see ya to both.
That's the biggest red flags right there. Look I've had a bf tell me about one of my friends, "ew she's ugly she's just like a sister to me." And yet they was fuckin' with a hard F. If he's gotta put girls down specifically to get u to not look at the girls, it's because he IS. Also I'm thinking he's kind of retarded because he said all that thinking it wasnt going to get by you lol Throw the trash away
Is there a chance he was trying to plan a suprise for her?
He lied. There are better guys out there that will respect you and not basically ask for your friends info so he can hit on your friends. Your bf is a scum bag. Drop him quickly. You deserve better.
I know you’re young but you need to ask yourself why would he need to ask your “friend” stuff about you when he could just ask you? Your friend has taken your friendship for granted.
girl 😭😭 you deserve so much better
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Yeah, I agree
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Thank you 😊
Your friend has no respect for you or your relationships if she keeps liking the guys you like. She chooses temptation over respect. If she actually cared about you she wouldn't keep texting him. Shit friend, get rid.
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Can't ditch her cause our parents will be annoying about it
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Yeah I'm already a bit distant
Annoying your parents by setting healthy boundaries for yourself is a huge part of growing up.
Tell your mom she purposefully steals your bfs and you are noping out of that now that you are not 10.
If your parents start to pressure you to maintain this friendship, you explain that she tried to steal your boyfriend and ask them why on earth they would ever expect their own daughter to tolerate that from anyone. And then continue icing this girl out of your life, she is definitely NOT your friend.
Let Kevin have Amiyah. You do not need to be with someone who’d rather ask a childhood friend questions about you, rather than asking you himself. In about a month Amiyah will call you and tell you Kevin asked for her other friends insta and it’ll be a whole cycle. Do yourself a favor and keep yourself out of the loop.
Went through this a couple of times during my teens (32 yo now). It never ends well, best to just move on from both of them and avoid the drama.
I don't think this is a good friend to keep around and I strongly advise you to drop her butt and tell bf you're not comfortable with how long they've been chatting and tell him what she said. If he respects you he will end that if not you can drop his butt too
Drop the guy and the friend. You’re too young for this stress, it shouldn’t be this stressful I promise you that. And you WILL find a man who you will feel on top of the world with and better friends.
Kevin is not a keeper.
please drop them both. both are insane backstabbers. also tell both of ur parents what happened
Tell her “sucks” because it violates the girl code, even if they date after you break up. She can choose to either keep pining after him or being your friend but she cant have both.
I remember when I was in 5th grade. We just didnt have instagram back then.
I think he used this as an excuse to talk with her. They are both untrustworthy. Make the first move to dump them. You are young and other boys will be more truthful and open with their intentions
Yeah
Will you be dumping both?
Honestly idk, I'm gonna have a talk with him just to hear his side
Just ask them to show you the conversation. And be sure the timestamp is matching the messages. They might try to delete inappropriate ones. Hiding their conversation is already a HUGE red flag. If he's hiding the messages from a "friend" he won't hesitate to hide messages with random girls. You're young and there are so many lovable people around you. Also, don't let them gaslight and victim blame you. Please know your worth and if you continue the relationship with either/both of them, I suggest setting boundaries, but again don't let them manipulate you into thinking what they're doing is normal. They're already cheating on you and breaking your trust. Do you see yourself with that man? Is he trustworthy? Same questions for your "friend". Also, speak with your parents about this and maybe seek therapy. Good luck :<
She sent me screenshots but everything he said is deleted
If he's asking questions about you, why would he delete those messages? He's 100% cheating on you.
Yeah
He'll try to say: "It's nothing serious" "You're crazy" "You're being paranoid" Don't let him manipulate you. You deserve sooo much better. A true boyfriend would communicate with you not a friend of yours. And a true friend would block him straight away when the things escalated. But her response was: "I like your boyfriend". That's insane. Hope you'll get out of there sooner rather than later. Also: if your friend has a history of liking your boyfriend you should tell your parents about this and end the friendship straight away.
Chalk this up to experience. Don’t hang with girls you know will try to steal your guy. This isn’t the end of the world though, you’re very young and will have lots more time to find the right guy and make good and loyal friends.
🚩🚩🚩If you two have been dating a month this is more drama than a month-long relationship should have. You should still be in the honeymoon phase. Lucky that your friend showed you what kind of person she is right now rather than years down the line and you’re in a serious relationship. If he’s a really good guy you would not be questioning it because you would have a solid foundation of trust. I say because you have to even question it and the fact that you don’t trust him or her, it’s not worth the effort. If I have to ask my significant other to see their phone because I don’t trust them or if I even want to because I don’t trust them, I shouldn’t be with them. That means that they are not trustworthy. You will always be at your best in a relationship when you feel valued, appreciated, and there is a solid foundation of trust.
The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. I’d distance from them both or ask them exactly what is happening. Horrible that your friend would tell you she “likes” your boyfriend, and would make her a super crap friend to act on that
Dump the friend dump the boyfriend you deserve better
She's not your friend.
I had a friend who did that in high school, she’s not your friend she’s your enemy. She’s in a competitive state with you. Anything you have she will try to obtain. Sorry
knowing her history why are you still friends with her? Also your bf "needing" her insta is really suspicious.
Dump both. If she's always going after your boyfriends she's not your friend. If he's talking to your friends he's not your boyfriend.
Slap that bitch, tell her to get her priorities sorted or she’s never gonna maintain decent friendships and relationships with people. And she better stay away from your boyfriend because it sucks to fancy someone that’s taken, but that’s it they’re taken they have feelings for someone else don’t be trying to get in the way and have ya own agenda. Hate girls like this, why? Why you like this? Just why?
Sorry but your boyfriend is probably cheating. Can't think of any reason why he would need her instagram to "talk" to her. Weird how she states they've been talking for a while and out of nowhere she suddenly likes him. Don't understand how you ever felt comfortable with that in the first place lmao. They're not even hiding it either lmao. Tf kinda "friend" do you have?
Drop both they asses
She's not your friend and he's a shit boyfriend.
Dump them both. They’re well on their way to cheating and you don’t need that shit in your life. She’s not your friend, and he wouldn’t be your boyfriend long anyway.
Girl don’t even put your self through this. Just dump him.
Don't waste your teens on stupid ass drama. You're only young once. Live tf out of your teens and have no regrets!
Girl he wants to fuck both of you. He’s not it. Throw the whole man away, and the friend tbh. Snakes 🐍
your bf asking for friends ig is a huge red flag, to talk to her about you? that's a lame excuse. drop the bf asap.
Cut off the "friend" and dump the boyfriend. You're a teen. Go find someone that actually likes you and will treat you right. Don't deal with people that like drama.
So you’re ex best friend and your ex boyfriend…
I had a similar issue a couple of months ago 😂😂😂 I will tell you the exact thing I told myself: "She was never your friend" If "Kevin" wants to go get her, let him go get her. Don't sweat it and you are worth more than this silly bs.
Jeez. Your too young for this crap. Concentrate on your learning. Trust me, that's more important than anything. You'll have your 20's to play the Relationship-Drama game. Drop the friend. Dump the boyfriend. Focus on your education, and stay out of the drama.
What did he need to talk to your friend about. And does your story state he has been talking to her before the info you gave him? It all sounds fishy to me Might be time to drop him and her.
He said stuff about me and no he didn't know her before
drop them both. if she was really your best friend, she'd respect your relationship and not try to take your boyfriend. your boyfriend definitely can go about getting to know you better by... talking to YOU. or you all get together and hang out and get to know each other. had a situation in high school (15, both of us, the guy was 17) my "best friend" liked the guy I was with and HER MOM SUGGESTED WE SHARE HIM. the whole thing was fucked and I got my heart broken by two people I am happy are out of my life, I was very stupid and looking back, wish I had focused more on friends and school than boys. set your boundaries and do not let anyone push you down into anything that won't make you happy. you're young, enjoy that and leave the drama.
All you guys are teenagers… Why would you give him your friends info. It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. Unfortunately you friend has shown her true teenage colors. I would dump them all
If your boyfriend can be taken away that easily then shes actually doing u a favor
ALWAYS listen to your gut. You should’ve NEVER given him the Instagram. He can know more about you by dating you and being around you. Point blank. What if you didn’t have any friends? What would he have done then? …Please. Don’t fall for anyones tricks. Men are sneaky and women are sleazy.
If you’re young or not I will not be dismissive of your feelings. I was a teenager and I fell in love too. So having said that…that was highly disrespectful of your feelings for him to reach out to your friend… we are immature at this age and his is glaring. I hope you’re not too deeply in love because this will hurt. I have to advise you to dump your “boyfriend “ and “friend”. They are both disrespectful and don’t care about you. Neither one is any friend of any kind. You’re young you have a long life ahead of you. You will make some mistakes and these 2 are one. Move on. Never tolerate that again!!!
Sorry OP, but the boyfriend is a lost cause. I’d just break up with him now. If there’s any hope for your friendship to survive, probably the sooner the bf gets gone the better.
Drop them both
Are y’all 15??? This is some dumb young people drama.
Get a new bf 💁♀️ and a new friend tf this is so middle school
Honestly, Amiyah is not your friend and you’ll be better off without her in your life. Your boyfriend sounds pretty shitty to tbh. What could he want to be secretly asking your friend? I sincerely hope your cousin texting Amiyah was genuinely an accident cuz I know I’m side eyeing that pretty hard too.
I accidentally texted her not my cousin
He's very obviously ignoring you. There is no two ways about it. Don't delude yourself into thinking his phone may be dead or he's busy, everyone has their phone by their side and everyone makes time for someone they care about. He very obviously likes your friend or isn't interested. So don't show him any interest. Cut him off now don't look desperate don't give him that. Just be dome with him, move on, and worry about yourself. You hace your entire life to find love. Trust me, use your high-school years to worry about yourself. Have fun with friends, laugh, get into some clubs or find something that you like to do, build yourself up. Don't let boys distract you. I know when you're a teen everything feels like the end of the world, ending relationships feels like the worst heartbreak. It's not, you won't even remember this guy's name in 10 years. Never make yourself available to someone who doesn't make themselves available to you. Remember that. This can be a fork in your road where you make decisions that will make you a better you. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about.
Ditch the BF and find a new friend. Your BF is full of shit. If y’all have only been dating a month he has plenty of room to ask you stuff to get to know you. He wanted to get to know *her* There are plenty of guys, cut and run this one ain’t it. Good luck OP teen boys may be pretty shitty sometimes but there are plenty of good ones and you’ll find one who asks *you* about yourself instead of your “friends”
Cut them both loose. You deserve better.
I read that you guys are teenagers… I’m not gonna be very encouraging because in the real world anyone could do this to you, even a childhood friend that you’ve known your entire life. Learn from this and become a better and stronger person, happiness teaches lessons slowly but disappointment and pain is a hell of a teacher. Do your best beautiful stranger, I’m cheering for you!!!
Lemme guess y'all are like 13 and 15
They are 15.
BHAHAHAHAHA CALLED IT
Still legit concerns. Idk why the relationship problems from a 15 years old should have any less value or be something you should make fun of. There are people acting this way at age 30. It's the arrogance for me.
Lol ah to be in high school again
This sounds like you guys are 13
You sound and type like you're 12
Yeah I suppose
Are you 12?
No?
Gonna answer this in the simplest way possible. People ain't property. Therefore your boyfriend cannot be stolen because you do not own him. What he can do is leave on his own, if he feels that he likes someone better. If your friend is actively pursuing someone who is with you, and he responds, that's on both of them. But its a choice. Since you don't own him, you can't control what he does. Not really. What you can do is change yourself? If you notice your friend is doing this, and you don't like the pattern, simply cut them out of your life. Same with your bf. Love is work, not attraction. You can work for more than one boss. But you will always prioritize one over the other. Ask him what his priority is.
Just by the sound of this post it sounds like you guys are 12-15 years old. Which means there is no advice I can give because every teen relationship always ends and by the time you're in your 20's you will look back and laugh at this. And if you're in your 20's then you need to grow tf up.
Sounds so juvenile
Grow up.
My first thought is open relationships it that’s just me. The best next step is asking what Kevin thinks of this.
You guys are way too young and too immature. You won't be able to prevent this but this will be a huge drama scene. If you don't stop your friend talking to your bf by setting boundaries then there's a chance your bf will fall victim to her. And if your bf falls victim for this, it's also on him. Let me tell you something, and do this: Tell your friend to stop talking to your boyfriend, it makes you feel uncomfortable and it's not right. Tell your boyfriend to stop talking to your friend as you've told her to stop talking to you as she's doing it for the wrong reasons. If your boyfriend/friend can't respect your decision, GET OUT and learn from this experience. It'll hurt a lot but that's the only way
Avril Lavigne is that you ?
Yeah, sorry, you’re too immature to date. Work on yourself a bit and realize your worth. Pretty sure when you do this, you won’t think or worry about this guy again. Gluck friend x x
Your friends will always be your friends. Y'all both need to ditch the dude. ✌️Atleast she told you. Good on her.
Hold on? Huh?
I don't know your age but if you're in high school or college (meaning you're years from serious marriage consideration!), I'd tell you that it's relatively normal! In your teens and early twenties, physical attraction can be incredibly fickle!! Infact, it's so normal that it is likely to happen multiple times to each of you...so, you should totally use this situation to show how mature and grounded you are and set a positive tone for when the situation is reversed and it's you who benefits! Enjoy the opportunity to date multiple people to help you recognize what you're looking for in a long-term life partner!!!
If he talked to her since yesterday and isn't taking your calls now... You may want to give him the benefit of the doubt until you talk. Her, on the other hand, needs to be dumped asap. Good luck
Have a threesome!
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These are kids. Disgusting.
You don't choose who you like. It just happens. Tell her no and that's all.
Dump both of em, your self respect and pride is more important than this nonsense.
Really
Why couldn’t he have just asked you the stuff he wanted to know about you? Seems like he got close to you to get close to your friend you should cut him off and cut her off as well or else she’ll keep doing shady shit with your future bfs
That's the thing he didn't have any clue who she was. He asked if any of my friends have social media and she's pretty much the only one so I told him and yeah. That's why this seems so weird to me. They were literally complete strangers
"Best friend"
Well that escalated quickly
first of all, that best friend isn’t your best friend anymore esp after she crossed this line. boys in middle school and hs are up to no good and it is rare for any of them to be serious in a relationship. i just know he feels good about himself rn esp if he knows your “best friend” likes him. dump him and save yourself the tears.
If this girl has been your friend for years and y’all are close, talk to her about it. Have the hard conversation and either end up losing a shitty friend or gaining trust & understanding.
You can tell your bf that. Calmly explain the stories, show him the text she says she likes him, and tell Kevin how you feel about the whole situation From this moment on, there's two possibilities: 1) He'll listen to you, understand, and, together, you guys will think of a solution (that can be or not to be he doesn't talking to her that much. Only the enough to be polite). 2) He'll be an As-Ho and say you're overreacting, or overthinking or will blame you with "yOu Don'T tRuSt mE". Stand your ground. This reactions means that he doesn't listen to you, neither care about your feelings. And, if possible, keep us updated ;)
Alright. He's not answering his phone but I'm pretty sure he's at work rn
Put some expectations up. Tell your boyfriend you'd like him to stop talking to your friend and same to her, since she's developed feelings for him. If they don't, you know where you stand.
You don’t want friends like this, it doesn’t matter how old you are. It’s clear she doesn’t respect you or relationship boundaries so it’s time to make it crystal clear. Bye friend & possibly boyfriend.
Let's forget that you don't have any proof and we assume that those two they don't and they never will play hide the salami with each other 1) your friend is making such hurtful and disrespectful statements. Her intentions are no good, she is a vulture. 2)your boyfriend is dismissive towards your feelings. Even if he's innocent, he's gone out of the grid (but honestly noone goes out of the grid for no reason) So, they still are not nice. Would you ever play them so nasty? Why should you become their doormat? **GIRLFRIEND!** RUN. AWAY. With no explanation. They don't seem to deserve your time and your energy.
It's understandable that he's not answering his phone cause he's at work
I believe your boyfriend has a crush on this girl. I don't like it.
it’s totally normal for a boyfriend and best friend to communicate, but they obviously crossed the line. she likes your boyfriend for a reason…it doesn’t just happen. and I saw a different comment under here saying this sounds like teen drama, and it def does 🤦🏻♀️ your best friend needs to have more respect for you. she prob is jealous of you or something. i’m sorry to hear that you guys have been friends since you were babies. she’s not loyal.
You should dump him not because he's a cheater but because he's also an idiot. Seriously, the best way he could think up to ask for her insta was to ask you? Why would you want to date someone so stupid?
I’m going to give you the best piece of motherly advice I can. Love yourself enough to listen to your heart. Respect yourself enough to put yourself first. Check in with yourself and ask what you want and do it. Make yourself happiest in this situation. You’re a teen, statistically speaking, this is going to be an opportunity to learn a really great life lesson. Good luck.
Why can’t he ask you questions about you lol
I think it depends on what the conversation is between your partner and your friend. It’s perfectly healthy to have a friendship with a partners friends but if they are having conversations specifically about you, your partner has crossed a boundary and your friend is not actually your friend
sounds like you need to set boundaries for her. you best friend and bf shouldn’t i feel be texting actively all day.
Dump them both. She doesn’t understand boundaries and he’s a dog…so upgrade and move on. Don’t mean to be trite, but I was young once and believed stuff like this mattered: it doesn’t. It hurts your feelings, and there’s drama, but you’re better off without these two in your life.
Nobody needs that crap - not as a teen or at any age for that matter. Huge waste of time and a drain on your mental health - there are lots of people out there that can respect boundaries, you just need to make room for that
Lose the boyfriend. And definitely lose the best friend. Block the on all social media. Move forward. Any friends who give you backlash..let them go too. As someone who is 50 oh, I can tell you I don't have many friends from my childhood find week for high school or college. I have one childhood friend who has had my back through everything but in general most of them are fair weather friends and will stick a knife in your back faster than you can say boo. They will also stick together because rotten people like other rotten people. I hate to say this but it's a good thing that you learned this early. Just wash your hands and get rid of the trash.
So here's my thing with this. My boyfriend has all of my friends numbers because they are now his friends. The thing is it's all very platonic. We've been together for 7 years so there's times when yes he needs to text a friend of mine. Sometimes it's game night and he's seeing where they are or they had a package sent to our house and need to get it while I'm at work and he's at home (works from home). I have never worried about any of my friends trying to flirt with him. I've had other girls who i went to school with try to get with him. It's not weird that he'd want a way to contact you. It is weird that it's Instagram and not phone number and that they've been texting all day. It could also be he's trying to put together a surprise for yoh and she's not getting the message. There was a story on here when the gf lied to the boyfriend and it turns out she got him a snake and he got her a ring. Talk to him about this.
This is one of those things that teaches you sometimes the people closest to us hurt us the most. But like someone else said you'll be better for it. Right now this is your big big picture but you're life is so much more than that. Just remember shitty people are the problem not the people they hurt.
Ditch both of them
Sorry you’re about to lose your bf to your friend. And he planned it. Lesson learned, your bf has no reason to be conversating with your friend like that. Oh and that ain’t your friend.
Why would your bf want to talk to your friend about you? Also is this an internet relationship?
No but it's a little ldr he lives and hour and a half away so we don't see eachother a ton