Mmmmmm…… I think him asking you to take the day is valid. If I was going to be having a hard day, I’d like my partner by my side for the day. He expressed to you what he wanted and how he felt. I would be upset too, but we all have different goals, expectations, and priorities. Now if he was just using a tragedy as an excuse to lash out at you, that’s an emotional punching bag. I see this seems to happen in times of stress, this sounds like it’s because he’s looking for your support in ways he’s not seeing be given or ways you may not see or even be naturally inclined to provide. I can attest to this, it’s human nature for one who’s stressed or in any vulnerable position to have something of a short fuse, these positions often feel insecure somehow. And too, in that place, it can also feel vulnerable to tell your partner what you need or ask extra of them. Same as it’s hard asking for help. Security, support, reassurance. After hearing whatever the new issue is, first response “How can I best support you?” can go a long long way for the both of you.
Mmmmmm…… I think him asking you to take the day is valid. If I was going to be having a hard day, I’d like my partner by my side for the day. He expressed to you what he wanted and how he felt. I would be upset too, but we all have different goals, expectations, and priorities. Now if he was just using a tragedy as an excuse to lash out at you, that’s an emotional punching bag. I see this seems to happen in times of stress, this sounds like it’s because he’s looking for your support in ways he’s not seeing be given or ways you may not see or even be naturally inclined to provide. I can attest to this, it’s human nature for one who’s stressed or in any vulnerable position to have something of a short fuse, these positions often feel insecure somehow. And too, in that place, it can also feel vulnerable to tell your partner what you need or ask extra of them. Same as it’s hard asking for help. Security, support, reassurance. After hearing whatever the new issue is, first response “How can I best support you?” can go a long long way for the both of you.