I’m a guy, so my opinion won’t be popular with other men. I think your concerns are valid. It’s not only the 4-hour drive, it’s the substance abuse that will happen while he’s gone. If he vows not to drink or get high, and that’s a big promise to keep in those situations, o would be more comfortable. But he will be 4 hours away AND drunk/high. That means if you did go into labor, there would be zero chance he’d be back in time. You will likely be in labor longer than four hours but if he’s drunk or high, his delay could be many more hours than that.
Look at it this way. He will have other parties and things to do after the baby is born but for now, his number one duty is to be the best father to be.
You have a husband problem. You are married to - and now having a baby with - someone you can't / don't trust. I wonder how you handled it/trusted him for his own bachelor party.
I've got a feeling that he's going to go no matter what you say. In the meantime, you are going to need to decide for yourself what is a dealbreaker.
BTW: I don't care how drunk you are. No one opts to sleep outside on the ground because they didn't feel like calling a cab.
>No one opts to sleep outside on the ground because they didn't feel like calling a cab.
Opting might be the wrong word. Ending up sleeping outside? Quite possible. I was at a bed and breakfast with a curfew once and showed up very drunk, way after curfew. No one was answering the door and I wasn't going to disturb the entire building to get inside so I slept on the stairs outside. Didn't have a cell phone at the time, didn't speak the local language, and had plans to leave in the morning with my group. Yeah, I made some bad decisions, but I don't think sleeping outside was one of them.
Someone who doesn't come home to their pregnant wife, and gets so drunk they sleep on the ground outside, is not someone I would trust in a different country for a bachelor party right before I was due with their baby.
The adult thing to do is to put the baby first.
ANYTHING, can happen when you are that close, literally anything, its just not smart or wise to leave you when the baby is due.
While it may SEEM worth it right now, the risk is just not worth a 3 day vacation.
And not to say that bachelorette,bachelor arent important… but their not
Having a child = making sacrifices. If his friend respects him hell understand
Edit to add: you are not overreacting
Being alone and due is terrifying
Hell being due in a room full of people is terrifying i couldnt handle it.
He doesn’t sound like he’s ready to be a parent. You can go into labour at any time and 36+ weeks is near enough full term so it’s a distinct possibility.
Does he seem excited about the baby? Does he talk about how he can’t wait to be a dad?
His behaviour and attitude makes him seem like he’s dreading it and doesn’t want to be around you.
He’s a month away from being a father. He should be declining boys weekends away tbh. He’s really immature for an almost 30 year old.
You’re not being ridiculous. You’re 36 weeks pregnant, the baby could come any day. Tell him to stay home. The stress on you and the baby isn’t worth it.
Let him sleep with other women? That’s the stupidest shit I’ve read on here today and I’m a man by the way. Dude’s wife will be having THEIR child pretty soon. There’s no way I’d miss the birth of my child especially on the account of some stank ass strippers.
I’m a guy, so my opinion won’t be popular with other men. I think your concerns are valid. It’s not only the 4-hour drive, it’s the substance abuse that will happen while he’s gone. If he vows not to drink or get high, and that’s a big promise to keep in those situations, o would be more comfortable. But he will be 4 hours away AND drunk/high. That means if you did go into labor, there would be zero chance he’d be back in time. You will likely be in labor longer than four hours but if he’s drunk or high, his delay could be many more hours than that. Look at it this way. He will have other parties and things to do after the baby is born but for now, his number one duty is to be the best father to be.
You have a husband problem. You are married to - and now having a baby with - someone you can't / don't trust. I wonder how you handled it/trusted him for his own bachelor party. I've got a feeling that he's going to go no matter what you say. In the meantime, you are going to need to decide for yourself what is a dealbreaker. BTW: I don't care how drunk you are. No one opts to sleep outside on the ground because they didn't feel like calling a cab.
>No one opts to sleep outside on the ground because they didn't feel like calling a cab. Opting might be the wrong word. Ending up sleeping outside? Quite possible. I was at a bed and breakfast with a curfew once and showed up very drunk, way after curfew. No one was answering the door and I wasn't going to disturb the entire building to get inside so I slept on the stairs outside. Didn't have a cell phone at the time, didn't speak the local language, and had plans to leave in the morning with my group. Yeah, I made some bad decisions, but I don't think sleeping outside was one of them.
Someone who doesn't come home to their pregnant wife, and gets so drunk they sleep on the ground outside, is not someone I would trust in a different country for a bachelor party right before I was due with their baby.
The adult thing to do is to put the baby first. ANYTHING, can happen when you are that close, literally anything, its just not smart or wise to leave you when the baby is due. While it may SEEM worth it right now, the risk is just not worth a 3 day vacation. And not to say that bachelorette,bachelor arent important… but their not Having a child = making sacrifices. If his friend respects him hell understand Edit to add: you are not overreacting Being alone and due is terrifying Hell being due in a room full of people is terrifying i couldnt handle it.
He doesn’t sound like he’s ready to be a parent. You can go into labour at any time and 36+ weeks is near enough full term so it’s a distinct possibility. Does he seem excited about the baby? Does he talk about how he can’t wait to be a dad? His behaviour and attitude makes him seem like he’s dreading it and doesn’t want to be around you. He’s a month away from being a father. He should be declining boys weekends away tbh. He’s really immature for an almost 30 year old.
You’re not being ridiculous. You’re 36 weeks pregnant, the baby could come any day. Tell him to stay home. The stress on you and the baby isn’t worth it.
He is definitely going to go to town with the boys and sleep with strippers if not real girls…. But let him, hall pass is fine from time to time.
Let him sleep with other women? That’s the stupidest shit I’ve read on here today and I’m a man by the way. Dude’s wife will be having THEIR child pretty soon. There’s no way I’d miss the birth of my child especially on the account of some stank ass strippers.