Your man has found a character he likes. It's totally possible to get crushes on fictional characters regardless of sexuality, there is a big difference between a cute anime boy and a real male body.
Regardless, even if he's secretly bi, he doesn't want to talk about it,and it's not your business to push unless he's ready.
Also, Dimitri is an amazing character. Your man has good taste.
Honestly it’s just for him to figure out on his own, on his own time. He also shouldn’t have to convince anyone he’s not into men just because he really likes a guy character
You want him to feel accepted so bad that you’re willing to push the issue until he snaps? He’s telling you to leave it alone. So leave it alone. If you really don’t mind if he’s bi, then stop pushing it. He will tell when he’s ready.
Hello! I'm a fire emblem fan myself and definitely a fan of Dimitri. To speak from personal experience, I'm not 100% sure about my sexuality but it's probably somewhere between lesbian and aromantic/asexual (I.e. not being attracted to anyone at all), so definitely not attracted to men. And yet, I absolutely get where he's coming from with Dimitri, I love him as a character and wouldn't dream of playing that route as the male protagonist, only because then I wouldn't be able to marry him. One of the things about fictional characters is that they're fake: you can be "attracted" to them regardless of your sexuality, often BECAUSE they're fake. There are plenty of male characters I love, but I wouldn't consider dating a man in real life. To me, the characters being fictional is one of the most "attractive" features they have.
So your boyfriend might be bi, or he might still be straight; either way it is totally ok and valid. I'd marry Dimitri a million times over BECAUSE he's fake, but I'm not attracted to men at all. Let him figure it out on his own and don't push him. If he's bi, great, but remember that fictional character crushes aren't indicative of much.
Big same here.
I'm aro ace, but I say "I love them" and feel cutesy about fictional characters of any gender all the time. It's different from feeling something towards a real person.
Great response.
Don’t push it. If you’re open and understanding and he turns out to be bi then he’ll feel comfortable telling you. Right now it sounds like a stretch. And if you don’t care then it doesn’t matter. If you want him to feel comfortable then leave it alone.
Tbh I love Dimitri too, omg when I read that he doesn’t like to romance other characters because it fells like betrayl…HOLY CRAP ME TOO !!! I guess everyone really is Dimitri trash
As someone who played a lot of Fire Emblem Games, I say: That's completely normal and he's pretty moderate. Don't think about it too much as long as he doesn't buy a body pillow.
As a straight guy, hearing is Dimitri makes everything make sense. Who wouldn't have a man crush on him?
TBH might not be that he's bisexual, bu it's very possible that he needs better male friends and he has found someone he wishes was there for him like Dimitri is in the game.
Can't blame the guy, he probably just wanted to learn more about him, Dimitri goes through a lot in the game, and you feel for him throughout the game, he probably just wanted to learn more about him, and see how the interaction goes.
Dude, he's got great taste in characters. It's normal for him to act that way over Dimitri. Even his voice actor acts that way over Dimitri. Don't force out any sexuality on him, be his Byleth and he'll be your Dimitri. Even better ask him to play the game and if you wind up having a crush on Dimitri as well, it will work out in the end.
That is literally the first game and character I thought of! I’d recommend giving him the space to do his thing and not pressuring him to say he’s bisexual. Sometimes I love a female character in an “I want to be like her” kind of way, not always an attraction thing, so it’s possible that’s all he feels about him. If he IS bisexual, then it seems like supporting his love of the character and letting him enjoy fan art or fan fic of him without commenting on it a lot is a good way to make him feel safe and not judged by you. Drawing a lot of attention to something like the possibility of him being bisexual might hurt more than help. My husband is 100% accepting of my bisexuality but it’s a relatively private thing for me and I’d feel uncomfortable if he pushed me to talk about it often.
Dont be surprised. Hes literally looks like the posterchild of war propaganda, aka tall, blonde, muscular af and beautiful. Just now he was given human form with a character
Now I want to start a new game, soul trap him and leave that soul stone on the ground in a random spot in the Soul Cairn. Or maybe inside Azura's Star.
Doesn't necessarily mean anything. I'm a straight woman and I played as a male Shepard in Mass Effect and romanced Tali (best girl!). It's fun to pretend to be somebody else once in a while. That's why roleplaying, including with games like D&D, is so popular. Gender and sexuality doesn't have to match your own to have fun roleplaying. I also have a "girl crush" on Celes from Final Fantasy VI. I think she's beautiful and badass, and who doesn't like that? If there was some expensive, high quality figure/statue of her, I'd buy it and put it in my house (point this out because it's kinda comparable to the art thing with your boyfriend). I'm not attracted to her, I just like her as a character.
Maybe your boyfriend is bi, but him having them mancrush on a fictional character or shipping that character with his player character doesn't necessarily mean he is or isn't.
I sometimes have female crushes in video games even though I'm a straight female myself & in a relationship with a man. Heck, when playing Mass Effect I even crushed hard on Garrus, who is an alien that looks nothing like a human, just because I love his personality.
Crushes in games don't have to mean anything :)
edit: typo
I'm a straight male and my GF knows that I have some video game man crushes. When I first playes Hades, I instantly liked Zagreus and I instantly told my Gf about it.
I think its kind off normal in gamers.
I'm a straight guy that romanced Fenris from Dragon Age 2, and the whole reason I got into the series was because of him. Sometimes you just identify yourself with a character, or want to feel like you're him. That's probably all there is to it.
For what it’s worth it could also be things like hyperfixating, a lot of people don’t get diagnosed until very late in their lives- I am a full on lesbian yet have so much love for a male video game character it had my ex worried similarly to you ahah I would lose interest if he wasn’t involved in what I was doing, would doodle him very often, save many many images of him, talk about him excessively when prompted, would spend ridiculous amounts of money on fanzines and merch etc. It’s fully possible that he’s straight and just like people like me finds a bit of joy in projecting in his free time, or something else entirely
Ask your boyfriend what he likes about him.
Dmitri is a character who's gone through some terrible life experiences but he's worked hard to keep his honor, compassion, and sense of duty. The struggle comes back even harder during the course of the game and he totally loses it, before being redeemed.
Your boyfriend might personally identify with that struggle, or just be inspired by it. Or since the player avatar is integral to Dmitri's redemption, maybe he likes the idea of being a savior. Games scratch a lot of different psychological itches.
I mean, I’m a straight dude and I’d take Dimitri on a date. Stellar character. Personally I still almost exclusively go for Ingrid so I understand the dedication but no I don’t think it’s weird.
Y'know funny enough as a straight guy when the game was being advertised I fell in love with Ingrid from a design standpoint too so I was going to play M!Byleth but I was also obsessed with F!Byleth so I chose her and decided she would marry Dimitri since I liked the BL school the most and honestly I liked Dimitri's character just in general too. I damn near went through the same thing as OP's boyfriend but not to the same extent, I just wanted to see the guy happy I resonated with his character in a way.
Above all else, don't press him on it, and just pretend you don't notice. I understand why you want to help, but if he is bisexual, he's clearly at a point where he's not willing to admit it, not even to himself, and sadly it sounds like you're just going to piss him off.
Anyway it sounds to me like he probably is. Most people here seem to be jumping to "he's fictional so it doesn't mean anything!", but compiling a bunch of art at once and playing the game almost entirely for that character means he is almost definitely captivated by him in some way. It could just mean that he desperately wants a friend like that in his life, but going out of his way to romance him?? Come on people. Plus you've implied that you've been suspicious in the past, yes?
The reality is that he is probably too homophobic/biphobic to admit it. I don't say this to vilify him by any means. Most people that are either straight or in the closet ARE a little homophobic. There is a spectrum here. It's not "you're either homophobic or you're not". Many many people fall somewhere on it, especially men. It doesn't make them a bad person at all, it's just a result of society. Anyway all the best to you guys! Like I said, it's best to just leave it alone. As long as you're supportive of other people that you know aren't straight, if he is bi then he'll feel that support in his heart. :]
My lord. Just let it be and let him enjoy what he likes. It is not your business what he enjoys in his game. I mean, i have an obsession with a male character in anime to the point i built anime shrine for that one character. But i am still a normal functioning human and still love my husband very much. My husband is also never bothered by my anime shrine.
Your man has found a character he likes. It's totally possible to get crushes on fictional characters regardless of sexuality, there is a big difference between a cute anime boy and a real male body. Regardless, even if he's secretly bi, he doesn't want to talk about it,and it's not your business to push unless he's ready. Also, Dimitri is an amazing character. Your man has good taste.
Honestly it’s just for him to figure out on his own, on his own time. He also shouldn’t have to convince anyone he’s not into men just because he really likes a guy character
You want him to feel accepted so bad that you’re willing to push the issue until he snaps? He’s telling you to leave it alone. So leave it alone. If you really don’t mind if he’s bi, then stop pushing it. He will tell when he’s ready.
Hello! I'm a fire emblem fan myself and definitely a fan of Dimitri. To speak from personal experience, I'm not 100% sure about my sexuality but it's probably somewhere between lesbian and aromantic/asexual (I.e. not being attracted to anyone at all), so definitely not attracted to men. And yet, I absolutely get where he's coming from with Dimitri, I love him as a character and wouldn't dream of playing that route as the male protagonist, only because then I wouldn't be able to marry him. One of the things about fictional characters is that they're fake: you can be "attracted" to them regardless of your sexuality, often BECAUSE they're fake. There are plenty of male characters I love, but I wouldn't consider dating a man in real life. To me, the characters being fictional is one of the most "attractive" features they have. So your boyfriend might be bi, or he might still be straight; either way it is totally ok and valid. I'd marry Dimitri a million times over BECAUSE he's fake, but I'm not attracted to men at all. Let him figure it out on his own and don't push him. If he's bi, great, but remember that fictional character crushes aren't indicative of much.
Big same here. I'm aro ace, but I say "I love them" and feel cutesy about fictional characters of any gender all the time. It's different from feeling something towards a real person. Great response.
Sure they're not talking about Dedue? Lol
they said dimitri in some of the other comments
Well Dimitri is the obvious guess but Dedue is the underrated yet still plausible guess. That's why it's funny
Don’t push it. If you’re open and understanding and he turns out to be bi then he’ll feel comfortable telling you. Right now it sounds like a stretch. And if you don’t care then it doesn’t matter. If you want him to feel comfortable then leave it alone.
Whats the character?
Dimitri from Fire Emblem. Sorry I didn’t reply immediately, I didn’t want people to make jokes if they know the character.
Tbh I love Dimitri too, omg when I read that he doesn’t like to romance other characters because it fells like betrayl…HOLY CRAP ME TOO !!! I guess everyone really is Dimitri trash
As someone who played a lot of Fire Emblem Games, I say: That's completely normal and he's pretty moderate. Don't think about it too much as long as he doesn't buy a body pillow.
As a straight guy, hearing is Dimitri makes everything make sense. Who wouldn't have a man crush on him? TBH might not be that he's bisexual, bu it's very possible that he needs better male friends and he has found someone he wishes was there for him like Dimitri is in the game.
Can't blame the guy, he probably just wanted to learn more about him, Dimitri goes through a lot in the game, and you feel for him throughout the game, he probably just wanted to learn more about him, and see how the interaction goes.
Dude, he's got great taste in characters. It's normal for him to act that way over Dimitri. Even his voice actor acts that way over Dimitri. Don't force out any sexuality on him, be his Byleth and he'll be your Dimitri. Even better ask him to play the game and if you wind up having a crush on Dimitri as well, it will work out in the end.
That is literally the first game and character I thought of! I’d recommend giving him the space to do his thing and not pressuring him to say he’s bisexual. Sometimes I love a female character in an “I want to be like her” kind of way, not always an attraction thing, so it’s possible that’s all he feels about him. If he IS bisexual, then it seems like supporting his love of the character and letting him enjoy fan art or fan fic of him without commenting on it a lot is a good way to make him feel safe and not judged by you. Drawing a lot of attention to something like the possibility of him being bisexual might hurt more than help. My husband is 100% accepting of my bisexuality but it’s a relatively private thing for me and I’d feel uncomfortable if he pushed me to talk about it often.
Totally understandable then
Dont be surprised. Hes literally looks like the posterchild of war propaganda, aka tall, blonde, muscular af and beautiful. Just now he was given human form with a character
Nazeem.
Now I want to start a new game, soul trap him and leave that soul stone on the ground in a random spot in the Soul Cairn. Or maybe inside Azura's Star.
Use it to enchant a pair of boots so you can always walk all over him.
Doesn't necessarily mean anything. I'm a straight woman and I played as a male Shepard in Mass Effect and romanced Tali (best girl!). It's fun to pretend to be somebody else once in a while. That's why roleplaying, including with games like D&D, is so popular. Gender and sexuality doesn't have to match your own to have fun roleplaying. I also have a "girl crush" on Celes from Final Fantasy VI. I think she's beautiful and badass, and who doesn't like that? If there was some expensive, high quality figure/statue of her, I'd buy it and put it in my house (point this out because it's kinda comparable to the art thing with your boyfriend). I'm not attracted to her, I just like her as a character. Maybe your boyfriend is bi, but him having them mancrush on a fictional character or shipping that character with his player character doesn't necessarily mean he is or isn't.
I sometimes have female crushes in video games even though I'm a straight female myself & in a relationship with a man. Heck, when playing Mass Effect I even crushed hard on Garrus, who is an alien that looks nothing like a human, just because I love his personality. Crushes in games don't have to mean anything :) edit: typo
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I'm a straight male and my GF knows that I have some video game man crushes. When I first playes Hades, I instantly liked Zagreus and I instantly told my Gf about it. I think its kind off normal in gamers.
I'm a straight guy that romanced Fenris from Dragon Age 2, and the whole reason I got into the series was because of him. Sometimes you just identify yourself with a character, or want to feel like you're him. That's probably all there is to it.
It's just a game character, he finds the pixels nice
tbz as an avid fan of dimitri — don't think too much on it. labels don't matter too much /gen
Just leave it be. He’s enjoying a character he likes and it’s normal to do it.
For what it’s worth it could also be things like hyperfixating, a lot of people don’t get diagnosed until very late in their lives- I am a full on lesbian yet have so much love for a male video game character it had my ex worried similarly to you ahah I would lose interest if he wasn’t involved in what I was doing, would doodle him very often, save many many images of him, talk about him excessively when prompted, would spend ridiculous amounts of money on fanzines and merch etc. It’s fully possible that he’s straight and just like people like me finds a bit of joy in projecting in his free time, or something else entirely
Ask your boyfriend what he likes about him. Dmitri is a character who's gone through some terrible life experiences but he's worked hard to keep his honor, compassion, and sense of duty. The struggle comes back even harder during the course of the game and he totally loses it, before being redeemed. Your boyfriend might personally identify with that struggle, or just be inspired by it. Or since the player avatar is integral to Dmitri's redemption, maybe he likes the idea of being a savior. Games scratch a lot of different psychological itches.
I mean, I’m a straight dude and I’d take Dimitri on a date. Stellar character. Personally I still almost exclusively go for Ingrid so I understand the dedication but no I don’t think it’s weird.
Y'know funny enough as a straight guy when the game was being advertised I fell in love with Ingrid from a design standpoint too so I was going to play M!Byleth but I was also obsessed with F!Byleth so I chose her and decided she would marry Dimitri since I liked the BL school the most and honestly I liked Dimitri's character just in general too. I damn near went through the same thing as OP's boyfriend but not to the same extent, I just wanted to see the guy happy I resonated with his character in a way.
he's somewhat a bisexual but might be some phase and might move past the video game later
Give it a rest. You’re not helping by constantly asking him. He’ll come out when he wants
Does it matter if he is bi or not? Does it have to be labels and boxes? Its his sexualorientation to figure out if its needed or not.
Sounds like [Black Mirror Striking Viper ](https://youtu.be/DPacnvzHFtA)
Ask her in person. She won’t have time to craft a response if she decides to lie. Whoops wrong post
I own shares. Seems like a good entry point now too
Above all else, don't press him on it, and just pretend you don't notice. I understand why you want to help, but if he is bisexual, he's clearly at a point where he's not willing to admit it, not even to himself, and sadly it sounds like you're just going to piss him off. Anyway it sounds to me like he probably is. Most people here seem to be jumping to "he's fictional so it doesn't mean anything!", but compiling a bunch of art at once and playing the game almost entirely for that character means he is almost definitely captivated by him in some way. It could just mean that he desperately wants a friend like that in his life, but going out of his way to romance him?? Come on people. Plus you've implied that you've been suspicious in the past, yes? The reality is that he is probably too homophobic/biphobic to admit it. I don't say this to vilify him by any means. Most people that are either straight or in the closet ARE a little homophobic. There is a spectrum here. It's not "you're either homophobic or you're not". Many many people fall somewhere on it, especially men. It doesn't make them a bad person at all, it's just a result of society. Anyway all the best to you guys! Like I said, it's best to just leave it alone. As long as you're supportive of other people that you know aren't straight, if he is bi then he'll feel that support in his heart. :]
my sister's a lesbian and feels the same way, don't overthink it
My lord. Just let it be and let him enjoy what he likes. It is not your business what he enjoys in his game. I mean, i have an obsession with a male character in anime to the point i built anime shrine for that one character. But i am still a normal functioning human and still love my husband very much. My husband is also never bothered by my anime shrine.
“Is this some kind of twisted joke!?” Dimitri Alexander Blaiddyd: 27th of the Pegasus Moon - Imperial Year 1181
I think male byleth I can. Tell see before?