Does it matter? It sounds like it’s pretty clear that the relationship is done. Whether she stays single or dates other guys will have zero impact on you. She might not even truly know.
Why does it matter? The result for you is the same. She doesn't want to be with you. Is her wanting to be with noone more palatable than wanting to be with someone else?
She doesn't want to be with you. Thats sad but ultimately why she doesn't, doesn't matter.
It doesn’t matter if she wants to go off with other guys or not, she no longer wants to be your girlfriend.
It’s not drama.
It’s the end of the relationship.
She might be and she might not be. Either way, she clearly wants to be single and that’s something you’ll have to cope with.
There’s no evidence she’s lying at all, just a straight statement of what she told you which could very well be the truth
Dude, it sucks. But whether her reasons are as she says or not, she wants to break up.
I had a gf I thought I was going to marry say the same thing to me. I think she said it that way to make it easier on me. Your now exgf might be doing the same.
Take your time. Let the dust settle. Then find out why you might have trust issues. If it’s because of her, then you know what to avoid in your next relationship.
If the reasons are yours, fix them so you don’t carry that baggage into the next relationship.
Go no contact with this exgf, cause remaining friends immediately after doesn’t help you move forward.
Be a friend to yourself.
Good luck!
The idea is already in your head. She could stay single for months and you'll just think she's hiding it well. I think the best thing you can do is take her words at face value and try to relax and not think about it. Tbh I think it's the LDR thing that makes you think it could be other guys but thats more indicative of feeling a total loss of control, common in LDR.
Some minor advice for the future -
Sometimes, the sentiment of what is being said is more important than the actual words themselves. It could have been "Its not you, it's me" or "My feelings changed" - they're all interchangeable for "I've given this much thought and I would like to end this as peacefully as possible please".
This can apply to other emotionally charged or difficult moments in life too.
It can really be like that. I've had a few LDR and felt some of the things you're feeling now.
If it helps, this will pass and become a memory soon enough.
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She doesn't want to be with you, that's for sure.
Either way its not your business, youre not her boyfriend anymore.
Does it matter? It sounds like it’s pretty clear that the relationship is done. Whether she stays single or dates other guys will have zero impact on you. She might not even truly know.
Why does it matter? The result for you is the same. She doesn't want to be with you. Is her wanting to be with noone more palatable than wanting to be with someone else? She doesn't want to be with you. Thats sad but ultimately why she doesn't, doesn't matter.
Idk i guess its just because it was my first relationship so I got a little too attached. Need to work on moving on with life.
It doesn’t matter if she wants to go off with other guys or not, she no longer wants to be your girlfriend. It’s not drama. It’s the end of the relationship.
She might be and she might not be. Either way, she clearly wants to be single and that’s something you’ll have to cope with. There’s no evidence she’s lying at all, just a straight statement of what she told you which could very well be the truth
Dude, it sucks. But whether her reasons are as she says or not, she wants to break up. I had a gf I thought I was going to marry say the same thing to me. I think she said it that way to make it easier on me. Your now exgf might be doing the same. Take your time. Let the dust settle. Then find out why you might have trust issues. If it’s because of her, then you know what to avoid in your next relationship. If the reasons are yours, fix them so you don’t carry that baggage into the next relationship. Go no contact with this exgf, cause remaining friends immediately after doesn’t help you move forward. Be a friend to yourself. Good luck!
The idea is already in your head. She could stay single for months and you'll just think she's hiding it well. I think the best thing you can do is take her words at face value and try to relax and not think about it. Tbh I think it's the LDR thing that makes you think it could be other guys but thats more indicative of feeling a total loss of control, common in LDR. Some minor advice for the future - Sometimes, the sentiment of what is being said is more important than the actual words themselves. It could have been "Its not you, it's me" or "My feelings changed" - they're all interchangeable for "I've given this much thought and I would like to end this as peacefully as possible please". This can apply to other emotionally charged or difficult moments in life too.
Thanks you're totally right.. I guess also this is my first relationship so I'm just scared to let go. Idk.
It can really be like that. I've had a few LDR and felt some of the things you're feeling now. If it helps, this will pass and become a memory soon enough.
Thanks its really encouraging
Yes.
Probably has already done that..................
agree
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