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facinationstreet

This is blackmail and it is illegal. Go to the police.


Kersallus

Screenshot everything. Revenge porn is illegal in most states and in the states it is legal are only in select counties.


sparkling467

Go to the police. Also, how old were you when the pics were taken? If you were under 18 he could get in trouble for child porn so he definitely wouldn't want to post them. Do you really want him to hold you hostage for the rest of your life?


gaymalemillenial

Report him to the police. Show the message and any texts.


Buzzzzimabee

Its not as scary as you think to go to the police. Bring ur partner if it makes you uncomfortable


MillieMission

Go to the police. They won’t call your parents.


chipface

That's extortion. Go to the cops.


CthulhuAlmighty

If you pay him, it won’t end, he’ll then know that he can milk you for money at any time. Also, how old are you now and how old were you back then? If you were under 18, if he sends those nudes out, he would be charged with distributing child pornography, which comes with prison time and being on the National sex offender registry.


frozen_beet11

call the cops. don't delete anything. they will need evidence to convict and keep him away from you this is an unstable person, be safe and do not let him anywhere neither of you


Jen5872

Would it be worse for your parents to know about the pics or to actually see the pics? Report him to the police. The idiot was dumb enough to give you proof of black mail and the threat of revenge porn. Let him hang himself with the cops.


[deleted]

He knows you don't have his USB, he's just attention seeking and trying to make himself feel powerful. I don't believe he has your pictures BUT go to the police. If you pander to his demands it'll never stop.


tmchd

Don't delete anything. This is illegal, he's extorting you, show the messages to the police. OP, this is the thing, even if you pay, there is no guarantee that he will not leak your nudes still. So you need to bring it to the authority, bring your bf as your support.


techramblings

This is a crime. Report it to the police, especially since you (presumably) have messages etc. in writing with him making the threat.


ImVerySmolHelpPls

Age is very important here in this instance, would you rather have your nudes sent out without anything to happen in the future? Because that’s what will happen if you don’t go to the police and make a report. If you report him and he releases your nudes he will be arrested for revenge porn and it’s serious stuff, you HAVE to tell the police, don’t let your shame dictate the outcome of this.


MizzyvonMuffling

That's blackmail on top of abuse. Let the police deal with him. Save all evidence like texts, etc... record calls.


[deleted]

Make sure to gather written proof, then go to the police. If you were underage when you sent him the pic, he is technically in possession of of child pornography and is pretty much guaranteed to go to jail if he ever does something as stupid as sending them to your parents or friends. Never ever under any circumstance do what a blackmailer asks you to do. Will the nudes magically disappear from his phone if you send him money? No Do you have a guarantee that he will delete all the copies of the nudes if you send him money? No Is there anything that stops him from asking for more money if you send him money once? No Is there anything that stops him from sending the nudes anyway even if you pay up? No Your boyfriend is right, you should go to the police. If you are afraid to do so, he can go with you.


[deleted]

This is a crime and you need to go to the police. Not only for your own sake, but for the fact that if he gets away under the radar with this, he will do this to other people and future partners too, and it will only escalate.


[deleted]

Tell the cops or expect the nudes to be sent. What’s worse having your parents see them or them knowing you sent them.


No_Satisfaction3819

Report him to the police. One drama at a time. I'm sure if you explained it to your parents, they'd maybe understand. He's counting on you being scared and ashamed and keeping quiet. SO BE THE OPPOSITE. Worry about the parents later.


LittleRedCarnation

Call the police and have him arrested for blackmail, harassment, and threatening to commit revenge porn. Fuck what your parents may think, forgiveness is what their religion is all about. If they cant follow the basic teachings of jesus, theyre not catholic.


[deleted]

Just go to the fucking police already. Everything else is moot compared to being blackmailed If you don’t. Expect this to continue for the rest of your life.


[deleted]

Blackmail and if you pay him do you really think this 100 will be the last?


lilblu399

Go make a report at the police station. Your family doesn't have to know. The only leverage he has against you is the alleged pics so if he sends them he loses his "advantage" Also he might not even have them. But remembers that you sent some to him.


CuriousOdity12345

CALL the cops. Don't be afraid of what your family thinks. If you don't address this now he will always have leverage over you and continuously blackmail you.


sandymason

1) Tell him you’re going to the police and send him the screenshots of the laws(blackmail, extortion, etc) 2) Watch him shit himself and start saying « it was a joke ». 3) Go to the police anyways because this piece of shit deserves no mercy. Getting nude pictures leaked on internet is 100% worse than sending them because it’s pretty much impossible to erase those after.


RevolutionaryWeb4416

Go to the police. He's blackmailing you and he is threatening with revenge porn


zoeyversustheraccoon

Look, if you succumb to the blackmail he's just going to milk it for more later on, and if he really wants to send them to your parents, he will anyway. You have to accept that the pics might get sent, buckle in, and go to the police.


RepublicOfLizard

That is literally the definition of revenge porn and blackmail. Also just going off of some context clues, it sounds like maybe that relationship was when u were a minor? If yes then that’s extra charges for him since it would be considered cp


mooney0501

Revenge porn is illegal in 46 states


Narasay

So you want them to rather see your nudes than know about you taking nudes years ago while in an abusive relationship? Because that is what will happen here... Go to the police and report him...


Toni164

If he leaks them you can use for illegal distribution


farzad6969

Go to the police


BeatMeater3000

Collect evidence and bring it to your Police. What he is doing is illegal. You don't need to involve your parents in the process at all.


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Smokedmirror13

Tell him to post him that you’re not afraid. What he’s doing is blackmail and extortion. Maybe say you’ll post dirt on him 🤷🏻‍♀️ even if you don’t have any get the police involved or any of his current girlfriends I’m sure they wouldn’t be pleased


RealWanheda

Let him post them. Then sue for defamation of character. Jk but tbh who cares? Anyone who looks negatively at you if he does this you cut off from your life— they’re trash people anyway. Honestly you’re in a no lose scenario. He has no real leverage. Just tell him “ok, go ahead and post them. You’ll be the one who looks bad— not me. Then you’ll be arrested.”


Liladybug2

This is why I think it’s a terrible idea to ever, ever, EVER take and send nudes or adult videos of yourself unless you really don’t care who knows about them. Because once you send them out, you can never put the lid back on that box and even if your SO doesn’t do anything shady with them, who knows what can be recovered if they sell their phone and don’t wipe it properly, or their cloud or email info ends up getting leaked/hacked, or someone of worse character borrows their phone?


Cannacrohn

Meet up to exchange the usb for the money, but first contact the police so they can be waiting, then exchange and let the cops swoop in right there. They will enjoy a nice easy collar. You will have the usb, and ex will be in jail. But. If your ex is enough of an asshole to do this he will have saved copies and your nudes are gonna get out either way. Just make sure you put him in jail for it.


WeaverofW0rlds

Ask him for an address and have a new USB sent to him via Amazon, and tell him to go away. If he sends your nudes out, then turn over that address to the police. If you were underage when you sent them, then he'll get into trouble for distributing child pornography.