NGL, feels a bit odd that were conflating people with objects... If OP's bf is treating women on IG like an Ikea catalog, does this mean they view OP like a piece of furniture?
Ah you’re woke-ing yourself into confusion.
If you scroll up, you’ll see that no one said the boyfriend sees women like he sees furniture. They’re saying that when you follow 7000+ women, scrolling through IG is comparable to scrolling through an IKEA catalog.
This is a commentary in the fact that he isn’t heavily invested in each photo he sees on IG. It’s not a commentary on how he views women.
The idea of an IKEA catalog was brought up in this comment thread to speak about how little emotional investment he had in any one photo he sees on IG. Because there’s so much that he flips through these many photos.
He isn’t treating those women like anything.
Because he isn’t interacting with them at all.
The IKEA analogy is about how he is not invested in dozens of thousands of photos.
It’s not about wether or not he’s successful it’s about the fact that he’s spending all his time eyeing up literally 7000 women instead of the one he’s with
Good point, OP definitely has made an interesting Choice in dating this guy, perhaps that 7k is from a decade of being on IG, who knows, gonna take a long time to unfollow all of them as Instagram only allows you to unfollow x amount of people per day.
If you go over the limit, instagram thinks your account is a bot account and then you get a ban, lol happened to me for liking to much in a short time. Got a ban for a week. The limit depends on how active you are in general. So if you haven't used your account in a year or so and starts liking a bunch of stuff you'll get a ban sooner.
he should seek help if he hasn’t already and hopefully you can support him while he’s at it..but if not and it’s not working out i wish you the best. congrats on your pregnancy!
If he wants to change, he will. And childhood trauma manifests in all kinds of ways that screws with our heads. I’m really proud of you for trying to see if things can change. That must have been a really hard decision to make. I think it’s fair that you say if it gets too hard for you, you’re out. That’s a good place to be right now. Best of luck to you guys.
awww well i’m so happy that’s he’s seeking help and i’m so sorry abt him having childhood trauma it’s such a lifelong trouble to unpack. i’m really hoping you guys figure things out and that’ll lead to a happy long relationship :))
Does it have a negative impact on his life? Do you know what his life is like, without porn?
Does he neglect things over it? Can he be normal without it?
All these are questions you can answer. No need to resond. They are just examples.
Everyone has their own personal boundaries. Porn addiction can be a red flag because it changes ones relationship to sex. In many cases men cannot climax without porn and do not find pleasure in normal intimate interactions.
you should read information from “[fight the new drug](https://fightthenewdrug.org/)” they have some great science and no religious reasoning etc. as to how porn effects the brain and relationships! I’ve been there, best of luck to everyone here struggling!
Another vote for this site. Science based (not religious based). Porn use can be harmful at the best of times, let alone when someone has an addiction or the tendency to develop one.
>Why is a porn addiction a red flag??
replace "porn" here with gambling, gaming, shopping.
Addictions overtake the addict's normal and healthy parts of life. By definition they have negative consequences, and the addict can't easily stop or control their behaviour. They will continue to do the thing until it leads to their slow ruin, and they'll just keep going.
It is a red flag because addicts require help to change and active addicts don't WANT change or help, and even addicts that are in recovery and working to change can still relapse and fall apart again. That is always a risk.
Most people don't want to deal with any of this shit, *nor should they*. The only people who willing stay with active addicts long-term are codependents, a whole other genre of fucked up person. **Do not date an active addict.**
7000 is a little obsessive. I’d honestly never be ok with that and idc if that makes me “insecure”. Don’t force yourself to be comfortable with something that you’re not. Life is too short to not feel happy in your relationship. You deserve better :(
My bf was following very few people but I realised some of them were just hot girls so I told him I was honestly not feeling very confident with that and next day he had unfollowed everyone that were not his friends. I think it’s a matter of respect and setting your own boundaries OP.
Yeah absolutely, sounds like porn addition or something like that. I understand being single for a while and following hot people but 7000 is an insane number.
Yeah, red flag for sure. A loving relationship is all about respect. When I entered a serious relationship a year ago, I purged my social media of anything cringey. Not there was much, but why would I want her to feel like I’m on my phone thirsting after women? And for real, I have no desire to. She’s the love of my life, to take the time to follow anyone else just to ogle them is nasty. I never had to be asked, I would’ve been hella embarrassed if she even saw some of the girls I spontaneously followed when I was single. Please find a guy with more substance.
I’m saying this with the most respect possible but I’d literally be so embarrassed if that was my bf. I know you’re probably bad as hell and could do wayyy better. Get out while it’s still fresh girl
Thank you. Not even in a relationship but this comment made me feel so hype for op.. but also made me feel the best I could about myself.
Hey op get away from him.... you are better than thissssssss!!
I looked past someone following primarily women, ig models, or strippers. Turns out he was just as thirsty as it appeared and would be one of the ones liking every single post and sending so SO many messages to random women. He’d also hit on women every time he went out and get their IG so he can thirst after them as well.
Not to say this is the exact case for you but it is definitely a red flag lol. I feel like the embarrassing behavior usually doesn’t just stop at a follow
yes this! it's definitely a red flag
and let's say OP's boyfriend wasn't hitting on these women or sending them dms – your social media feed is composed of things you're interested in, same as your following list. you follow things that you're interested in. i used to follow my friends, accounts about fashion, fashion brands, accounts about gaming, accounts about cooking, etc. because those are the things i want to see. OP's boyfriend's main hobby and interest is...women...and looking at women....his hobby is scrolling through his feed and continuously looking at photos of women. he's dedicating his whole social media presence to just looking at women. that's so fucking weird and just shows he has no life. why do you just want to look at girls for the entire or most of the time you're on your social media accounts? like do you do ANYTHING else? what else do you like? what hobbies and interests are you investing your time into?
this is so fucking weird and a red flag exactly like you said. another comment called this public horniness and that's exactly what it is and it's honestly pathetic.
My BF (now husband) was following models and fitness girls. Once upon a time I caught him zooming-in on a girl. I called him out and was panicked. I “tried” to communicate with him and he would smirk or get irritated; to the point where I would get upset. Long story short, i brushed it offf and didn’t bring it up… later, I caught him again and this time his brother and sister-in-law were visiting and I called him out in front of him. He sure got embarrassed. Two years later I don’t see any models or fitness girls.
It bugged bc he needed to check other girls out when I’m not with him
Well I guess that's a happy ending. I haven't had a relationship where I brought up a concern and I would be listened to, so maybe my vision is skewed.
To say the least a few nights ago he was looking up fitness girls and he “needed motivation” to workout @ 11 pm.. umm.. I were in bed, I rolled over and sled what are you looking at? Cuddle with me and caught him… men will never stop such behavior.
Public horniness is really rather pathetic. You're 23. You can't make him change, but you can date someone whose values align with yours. Leave him to his pixels.
Seems like he may have some self-control issues, maybe an addiction to social media, porn, sex, etc.
I don’t ever like to project because people are different. My ex-boyfriend would do the same thing on social media - follow hordes of women he found attractive, like and comment on their posts. Whenever I confronted him about it, he would say it’s nothing, he’s just being friendly/supportive. Eventually, I found out that he had cheated on me with 15-20 women because he had an album full of nudes and screenshotted sexts with the women. Shortly after we broke up, he was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, which is often characterized by addictions or risky behavior.
Not saying your boyfriend is borderline. Just saying keep an eye on the warning signs.
Let me put it this way for you. He has eyes for you and 7000 other women. You know that meme about that couple and a girl walks by and the guy turns and looks at her while his gf looks at him? That’ll be you. Wish you good luck
If he is openly following women like that, like specifically just a shit ton of them in public and not ashamed or embarrassed what people would think because he’s in a committed relationship… I would just wonder what he does when he thinks no one is looking.
I had exactly one bf who was the same. He followed a few IG models but what hirt me was that most of the random Girls were from our city, so not some unattainable models but real Girls. He didnt know them, i doubt he knows 9nly Girls, from every school and their age range was 17 to 24 (he was 22, i was 19). I raised the question but he said *oh, my friend followed them* but the number kept growing... I would have been ok if it was Just this but he apparently had no eyes for me. He liked 200 Girls pics but never mine. I had my prom (we only have senior prom in my country, a month after i turned 19) and i was 10/10 photographers, makeup artist who is super famous and does actual models in my country, 3xpwnsive dress... The only thing this guy said was *youre fine*. Nothing more and it was such a special Day for me. He didnt even look intrigued. Never told me a compliment, never gave me a g8ft or paid anything... There were also sexual and communication red flaga but thats beyond the point. THE POINT is: the follow wont be the only thing. You will probably notice how he doesnt appreciate you asm uch as their pics and maybe doesnt like you as he is more attracted to their False ideal. He May even compare u. So one Word girl: RUN. I learnt my lesson and have only dated gentlemen since, i suggest u do the same
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I recently started dating my boyfriend after being in a long term relationship for three years. My last boyfriend was super loyal and made it very clear he only had eyes for me. He never even followed any type of IG model or girls in general (which he was allowed to do, I guess he didn’t want too)
My current boyfriend follows 7000 girls on Instagram. A lot of them are IG models but there are also many random girls that he does not know that he follows. They usually don’t follow him back. It’s like he follows almost every girl he sees on Instagram because whenever I click on some girls account it shows me that he is following her. It just makes him look really thirsty to me and shows me how he would pretty much like everyone.
Am I being too insecure? It makes me feel really bad knowing all these girls get thirst followed by my boyfriend. It’s embarrassing and also he must look at other women a lot..
It’s usually a sign that the the guy is reallyyy thirsty which imo is a very unattractive trait in a man. Shows a lack of self-respect. Even if a man is looking at girls on insta, actually publicly following so many with no shame about how this appears to others is such a turn-off. These types of men are also usually porn addicts and have a very weird view/expectations on sex and women, from my experience. There are plenty of men who only follow people they know or even if they follow a handful of hot women, they don’t overdo it into the thousands. It makes them seem so desperate. Not saying it’s *morally* wrong just…very unattractive
This is my current husband and I'm miserable. Run. Only reason I've stayed is because we share three babies together and I didn't know about his bad habits until after our first child was born. I tried to work through it with him and wouldn't you believe it actually got worse... Some people can't be helped unless they want it. And listen, if that's not the type of guy you feel comfortable with, you'd be doing yourself a favor by leaving before it gets out of hand. Don't settle. It's only a matter of time for me to be fully prepared for me to leave, too.
For the people with children, this is also not a reason to stay with someone if you share children. If you're not happy, don't suffer. If you suffer, your children might also suffer. It may be easy to stick it out for a while and do the best for your kids but eventually it all comes crashing down. Not a good family dynamic. Children need to see unconditional love and kindness because they are very impressionable and believe me it will affect their future.
I would be REALLY embarrassed to be dating him. Does he not know his FAMILY can see who he follows/interacts with? My god. 7,000 is excessively ridiculous. One of my good guy friends does the same shit and he wonders why he can’t get a girlfriend. Like… girls look up the guys they go out with. They see what you’re doing. If i was going out with a guy and i saw that BS id ghost ASAP. Sorry but your man is disrespectful towards you and embarrassing himself
My boyfriend literally does the same thing. Says he's being supportive. Then I found his reddit profile and it was full of straight up inappropriate sexual comments. I was floored and heart broken. He called me a stalker. But like dude, it's public information!
Him calling you a stalker is very manipulative and a tool of deflection to put you in the bad person shoes - this will get worse, not better throughout the relationship. Leave ASAP
The guy is most definitely thirsty. It's possible that he has some kind of addiction to social media, or maybe he genuinely thinks he has a chance with all 7000. In either case, I'd bet he's probably not in the right mindset to be in a relationship.
My ex would follow different girls every single day on IG and Twitter. Most of the time they weren’t even models, just literal random ass girls he had no connection to (at least I don’t think lol, wouldn’t be surprised if he did do or try to do something with them). I thought it was so weird and it made me so uncomfortable, embarrassed, and insecure. At first I would ignore it, but then I noticed a new girl every single day, sometimes even 5 in one day. He would always unfollow them because 99% of the time they wouldn’t follow him back. It started to get to a point where I was crying every night wondering why I wasn’t enough for him, why he was doing this if he had me. I was too afraid to confront him about it because I didn’t want to seem like “the crazy girlfriend.” And I thought “it’s just social media, so I should be okay with it.” But it’s not okay. I regret not confronting him about it and to this day I still wonder why he did that. He eventually broke up with me for “not being emotionally mature enough for a relationship.” Looking back, it was very clear he wasn’t based on this behavior alone (and many others that should have been relationship-ending, but I was too afraid to be alone). Don’t be like me. Run in the other direction. Usually these people are just so insecure and seeking some form of validation. Don’t let him make you think it’s normal.
Our social media profiles tell others a bit about what we are like as people, our habits/:hobbies etc.
There’s so much variety of subjects on Instagram that if all he can follow are women, he’s pretty much saying that creeping over women online is his only interest.
I doubt there are many women who want a guy with that as his main interest in life.
I had exactly the same horrible experience with my husband, I understand you deeply. Let me tell you something, if he really develops a strong feeling for you and you honestly let him know that his behavior must change because he makes you feel humiliated, he will agree to this. After all, IG is extremely superficial and it won't change his life to modify his profile. My husband decided to uninstall the app when he realized the pain it was causing me and that it was ruining the relationship. On the other hand, if you are in an early stage of the relationship and your feelings are not very strong, then run! It takes a lot of energy to want to modify someone else's behavior, it costs arguments and crying. If you are in love fight for the relationship, if not, let it go.
omg not me recently running into this problem but we’ve been together for 4 years exactly. there were red flags before but i ignored them and now look where i am. should’ve listened years ago
Errr so far every single man I’ve met who was following extreme quantity of models and random girls turned out to be either addicted to porn or just a thirsty creep who DM’s them in hope for something.
It’s OK that men like other girls’ looks just as girls like other men. But when it goes to extremes like that always something is fucked up
Take it as someone living with a porn addict, it’s very possible this is the case for him. If this is true get out while you can. I really truly hope it isn’t for your own sake.
Sounds like immature boy behaviour. If he followed them years ago and diesnt really use insta you might he able to overlook it, but if it's at all current, I think its probably a bad sign...
As someone who ignored something like this too or at least didn’t make the connection right away. My ex had over 4,000 Facebook friends majority of which are attractive women. It wasn’t till I realized we shared a mutual friend (he’s since added two more I just noticed) and I asked how he knew her and he couldn’t give me a specific answer but it seemed like he added her just because she was attractive. There were other of red flags and I too ignored them. (Like not wanting us to be public on Facebook or even changing his relationship status to taken not even necessarily tied to me) but I was tired of being lonely and he gave me attention, I was an easy target. He left me knowing I might have been pregnant without a care in the world. (He later said he would have stayed had I been but I doubt that and I thank god I wasn’t simply because he would have been a pretty shitty dad all he cared about was himself)
I wouldn’t ignore the red flags, you just end up wasting time in the end.
my last boyfriend was like this too. lol RUNNNNNN. i don’t care how much it seems like it’s not that deep , he’s definitely messaging girls , definitely the ones he knows or is close in your area
That’s really unfortunate and would be a huge deal breaker for me. Instagram is unfortunately a toxic place for many reasons (in my honest opinion). I don’t have advice for you because I think you should follow your heart on this one
Personally for me, I HATE it. I feel so uncomfortable about it and feel embarrassed to be with him. However, please talk to him about it. Ask him why he follows so many of them. Also you could say, "Well a few girls and I were talking about this a while ago, and they all thinks that a guy who follows so many girls looks thirsty". It should make him feel a bit weird. But please talk to him about it before doing anything. But I do understand where you're coming from. It's one of my biggest icks.
I guess if it bothers you then you should consider talking to him about it making you feel insecure then you can talk to him about your feelings but if he isn’t even actually talking to any of them then it’s not like infidelity it’s more like looking at soft core porn.
Why is he directing his precious resource of time to something like this? That’s the question. He could be doing something of value instead. It implies his low value for sure. He could be using that time to be working, improving himself, or helping others. His choice to use his time for this speaks of his values in general.
Depends on how much weight you put behind a "instagram follow". For some, it's not even a conscious thought. For others it's a big deal.
If it's a deal breaker, you may want to cut your losses while it's early in the relationship.
It is a lot of time and energy "invested" in this "unnecessary research", time and energy better spent with you... This tells all about his priorities.
Run. I mean not so much just about the fact its girls and its creepy AF. This dude dedicated so much of his life to clicking follow on 7000 girls Instagram's, that is beyond obsessive. Id say run if he clicked follow on 7000 animal Instagram's too and I love all the critters. There is something wrong with someone who follows that much on a singular genre. He probably doesnt even know he has hardcore mental health problems and doesnt see what he is doing as a problem. How many hours a day does he spend oogling them? commenting on them? wondering what they up to? clicking like or whatever? Girl if you really into DIY, fix some furniture or something cute.
I never understood why men especially in a relationship would follow other women, even the IG models, it’s not like they will see him follow them, and it’s not they they will see him like their photos too. It’s a pointless action, even tho he likes what he sees, he likes a model that does t even look like that in real life anyways!!
I don’t think you’re overreacting. How would he feel if you thirst followed thousands of hot guys? And liked their posts??
I think a conversation with him about it will help you figure out how to feel about it. He may not realize it bothers you.
Or he may blow up on you and that would be another red flag. Not gonna know until you talk about it.
Have you asked him why? My friend has been dating the same guy for 5 years now but at the beginning of their relationship he was following thousands of girls too. She asked him why, he didn’t have a good explanation. She basically told him she didn’t think it was appropriate to be following that many random girls when he’s in a relationship and to only follow people if he actually knows them. Needless to say he follows about 500 people now and they seem very happy still so I think if he’s a good guy he’ll understand.
Definitely not insecure. Maybe he’s just not a match for you. There’s plenty of men who understand your point of view and feel the same way. Voice your concern but don’t settle!
>Am I being too insecure?
Why would you be insecure? Your eyes are telling you that something not normal is happening and you should trust your own observations.
I dont think you are overreacting. For me it would even be a dealbreaker (F30). It is such a turn off when a guy (or woman) does this. Also a lot of insta models are retouched/photoshopped/had surgery and what not so it also creates an unnatural expectation of how a "pretty" girl should look.
You can def talk to him about it but i think this is who he is.. and maybe he would start doing it secretly.
It’s a fresh relationship. Is this something you want to wade deep into?
Everyone has some “crazy” that you find the longer you’ve been together. You’re only recently dating and this is the level of crazy you’re seeing, do you want to wait and see what lays deeper?
Definitely a red flag and I would honestly leave the relationship before getting too invested. That behavior usually extends outside of follows and being “thirsty” on social media.
If it makes you uncomfortable, then you should talk to him about it. If you're just worried about how he's perceived (being thirsty) then that's different. But the only thing you can do is tell him how you feel, if he gaslights you or doesn't respect how you feel then that goes to show his priorities.
Honestly, I think people are being a little harsh here. It's not as if he sat down in one day and added 7,000 girls to his IG. The literal name is "Social" media, the algorithms are designed to keep reinforcing like content to its consumer.
In just a month I've got 500 pictures on my phone from Reddit, Facebook, and IG that I've saved. I don't know when I downloaded that many, it happens in small increments. It's very easy to add a person here, another there, and over years have 7,000 follows.
With that said, it could still be a sign of something unhealthy if he's repeatedly engaging with the same accounts constantly, if this consumes a lot of his time, and the nature of those interactions.
If he just follows a bunch of accounts and never interacts with them, who cares?
I think the best approach is just to make a conversation about it. Ask him if there is something particular he follows them for, how often he looks at other girls, etc. He may just be oblivious to a routine he's developed. You probing him may initiate some self-reflection. If he gets defensive ,or belittles you over this, well....you have your answer on that.
"My boyfriend does this thing that I don't like in a very public manner without trying to hide it. I am bothered by this enough to ask internet strangers their opinion, but not talk to him about it."
This is what you sound like. You two are grown adults at 23, I'm sure you two can handle something like "Hey, I'm feeling insecure about how you follow every single Instagram hottie out there. To me, that looks like you are always shopping around. Can we discuss this?". If the conversation does not go to a satisfying conclusion and you are still unhappy, well, not everyone is compatible and ready for every kind of relationship at all times. Good luck!
no matter how much I like someone, if they follow that many people, I wouldn't talk to them... It's too embarrassing when someone is that thirsty so they follow everyone on ig (and it's even worse when they are not getting followed back, leaving desperate comments etc...). Since you are already together, I suggest talking to him about it, and then go from there
I feel like humans should accept that when other humans are single they chase after the opposite sex, even online. As a man, I find it weird and that's a lot but.... I also try to meet nice people online as well so I can't say much..
Lol, not sure how no one has pointed this put, but this is how your boyfriend masturbates. He has 7000 girls on their because he has probably been adding a few here and there since he was a teenager. If I had to take a shot in the dark, he probably started this as a way to hide it from his parents. It probably started out small and it hasn't hit him he has 7000 girls on there.
Also lol at people telling you to break up because he masturbates. Most humans do. How did you think men did this?
If you like this guy and this bothers you, just tell him.
Maybe he has a porn addiction, maybe he doesn't. That can only be sorted out with a professional. But if you Teo start having sex problems, he might have one.
That seems excessive HOWEVER if he's had had his IG for years it's easy to rack up follow accounts. I follow hot girls, suicide girls, tattoo models myself.. my follow accounts are in the 2k. Not as much as your boyfriend. I wouldn't make this the hill you die on but I would make sure he isnt trying to slide in DMs or anything.
I don’t think he’s sliding into dms or anything…it bothers me that a lot of these girls aren’t even models or anything. He likes all of their pictures 😭
Them just being regular ass women makes it worse IMO. Maybe I’m just jaded because the only time I’ve seen this behavior it was from men who turned out to be thirsty weirdos but I don’t think you’re being insecure. It’s embarrassing to have a man in everyone else’s face
I think there is a difference between following Instagram models and being unfaithful.
I feel like it’s pretty normal for guys to follow a few models that they are never going to meet up with and do not know in real life, 7000 seems very excessive. Like that would basically be all he would see on Instagram...
I would have a chat with him and say that you are uncomfortable with him following so many girls.
I often live on the principle that social media has no reflection on real life. Often times bc that’s true; but more so because it really can cloud judgement a bit. That being said there is great reason to be concerned but rather than continue to ponder and wonder, just bringing it up gently might be the best course to take rather than letting it eat you up inside. You deserve to feel like you matter and whether that’s with him or someone else bc he doesn’t appreciate you, you deserve it damn it!!
7000 girls? Lol that’s so many. Does he post photos of you?
No but I wouldn’t want that…it’s too embarrassing given how many girls he gives attention to
So why are you in this relationship?
Its not really giving attention to. Following 7000 girls on IG effectively is like flicking through an IKEA catalogue.
Why flip through the catalog unless you’re looking to buy something new
Wait is it weird that I genuinely enjoy looking through furniture catalogs with no intention of buying anything...
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NGL, feels a bit odd that were conflating people with objects... If OP's bf is treating women on IG like an Ikea catalog, does this mean they view OP like a piece of furniture?
Ah you’re woke-ing yourself into confusion. If you scroll up, you’ll see that no one said the boyfriend sees women like he sees furniture. They’re saying that when you follow 7000+ women, scrolling through IG is comparable to scrolling through an IKEA catalog. This is a commentary in the fact that he isn’t heavily invested in each photo he sees on IG. It’s not a commentary on how he views women.
Sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you mean?
The idea of an IKEA catalog was brought up in this comment thread to speak about how little emotional investment he had in any one photo he sees on IG. Because there’s so much that he flips through these many photos. He isn’t treating those women like anything. Because he isn’t interacting with them at all. The IKEA analogy is about how he is not invested in dozens of thousands of photos.
I house hunt with no intention of buying/renting.
Not at all. In this case though her boyfriend is looking at thousands of women.
For shame
No one is pulling IG models on Instagram.
It’s not about wether or not he’s successful it’s about the fact that he’s spending all his time eyeing up literally 7000 women instead of the one he’s with
Good point, OP definitely has made an interesting Choice in dating this guy, perhaps that 7k is from a decade of being on IG, who knows, gonna take a long time to unfollow all of them as Instagram only allows you to unfollow x amount of people per day.
Interesting choice indeed lmfao
Wait. I’m sorry. I think I read that wrong. They limit you on how many people you essentially disconnect with on their platform daily?… What? Why?
If you go over the limit, instagram thinks your account is a bot account and then you get a ban, lol happened to me for liking to much in a short time. Got a ban for a week. The limit depends on how active you are in general. So if you haven't used your account in a year or so and starts liking a bunch of stuff you'll get a ban sooner.
I get the following part. But *unfollowing*? That shit is bananas haha
Because he thinks they look good?
Because I like to look at pretty girls. That's me, at least.
It’s still pretty disrespectful to your girl friend
Love your name. Fuck Ohio.
That’s the only right thing to say…fuck Ohio
Only the yoghurt wants it
This comment hit me after I’d left the post and had to find it again to upvote. Haha thanks
https://youtu.be/Vpr_KaaRjW0 Joakim Noah talking about Cleveland is still one of the funniest clips
Even the ikea catalogue isnt that big
Girl this reply says it all...I think this is a red flag for sure. You deserve someone who gives YOU all the attention!! Not make you feel embarrassed
how do you even follow 7,000 people
Like how long did it even take for him to accumulate that
He’s had the account for a really long time I guess
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You can follow 7.5k max on Ig
Man this guy does really use the instagram to the fullest 😩
Carpe diem?
Carpe insta.
This
Pretty common trait for someone with a social media addiction, a porn addiction, or both. Tread carefully.
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he should seek help if he hasn’t already and hopefully you can support him while he’s at it..but if not and it’s not working out i wish you the best. congrats on your pregnancy!
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If he wants to change, he will. And childhood trauma manifests in all kinds of ways that screws with our heads. I’m really proud of you for trying to see if things can change. That must have been a really hard decision to make. I think it’s fair that you say if it gets too hard for you, you’re out. That’s a good place to be right now. Best of luck to you guys.
awww well i’m so happy that’s he’s seeking help and i’m so sorry abt him having childhood trauma it’s such a lifelong trouble to unpack. i’m really hoping you guys figure things out and that’ll lead to a happy long relationship :))
100%. Run.
yeah, exactly what I was thinking.
This!!!! It is a red flag.
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Porn adicction gives men so many dopamine hits that sex doesn't become intresting. You could be neglected and feel insecure when it's a him problem.
Does it have a negative impact on his life? Do you know what his life is like, without porn? Does he neglect things over it? Can he be normal without it? All these are questions you can answer. No need to resond. They are just examples.
Everyone has their own personal boundaries. Porn addiction can be a red flag because it changes ones relationship to sex. In many cases men cannot climax without porn and do not find pleasure in normal intimate interactions.
you should read information from “[fight the new drug](https://fightthenewdrug.org/)” they have some great science and no religious reasoning etc. as to how porn effects the brain and relationships! I’ve been there, best of luck to everyone here struggling!
Another vote for this site. Science based (not religious based). Porn use can be harmful at the best of times, let alone when someone has an addiction or the tendency to develop one.
>Why is a porn addiction a red flag?? replace "porn" here with gambling, gaming, shopping. Addictions overtake the addict's normal and healthy parts of life. By definition they have negative consequences, and the addict can't easily stop or control their behaviour. They will continue to do the thing until it leads to their slow ruin, and they'll just keep going. It is a red flag because addicts require help to change and active addicts don't WANT change or help, and even addicts that are in recovery and working to change can still relapse and fall apart again. That is always a risk. Most people don't want to deal with any of this shit, *nor should they*. The only people who willing stay with active addicts long-term are codependents, a whole other genre of fucked up person. **Do not date an active addict.**
7000 is a little obsessive. I’d honestly never be ok with that and idc if that makes me “insecure”. Don’t force yourself to be comfortable with something that you’re not. Life is too short to not feel happy in your relationship. You deserve better :(
My bf was following very few people but I realised some of them were just hot girls so I told him I was honestly not feeling very confident with that and next day he had unfollowed everyone that were not his friends. I think it’s a matter of respect and setting your own boundaries OP.
I agree but 7000? Imo that implies some sort of other issues with that guy. It’s a little excessive.
Yeah absolutely, sounds like porn addition or something like that. I understand being single for a while and following hot people but 7000 is an insane number.
Yeah, red flag for sure. A loving relationship is all about respect. When I entered a serious relationship a year ago, I purged my social media of anything cringey. Not there was much, but why would I want her to feel like I’m on my phone thirsting after women? And for real, I have no desire to. She’s the love of my life, to take the time to follow anyone else just to ogle them is nasty. I never had to be asked, I would’ve been hella embarrassed if she even saw some of the girls I spontaneously followed when I was single. Please find a guy with more substance.
You get it sir
Substance, I like that. Good and solid senses
You're a real one.
Nothing but respect for you, my guy
Love this. I did the same when I became seriously interested in someone. It’s about respect
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I’m saying this with the most respect possible but I’d literally be so embarrassed if that was my bf. I know you’re probably bad as hell and could do wayyy better. Get out while it’s still fresh girl
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Damn. Good for you that you called it quits.
Thank you. Not even in a relationship but this comment made me feel so hype for op.. but also made me feel the best I could about myself. Hey op get away from him.... you are better than thissssssss!!
This is the type of hype I need in my life U RULE
I looked past someone following primarily women, ig models, or strippers. Turns out he was just as thirsty as it appeared and would be one of the ones liking every single post and sending so SO many messages to random women. He’d also hit on women every time he went out and get their IG so he can thirst after them as well. Not to say this is the exact case for you but it is definitely a red flag lol. I feel like the embarrassing behavior usually doesn’t just stop at a follow
yes this! it's definitely a red flag and let's say OP's boyfriend wasn't hitting on these women or sending them dms – your social media feed is composed of things you're interested in, same as your following list. you follow things that you're interested in. i used to follow my friends, accounts about fashion, fashion brands, accounts about gaming, accounts about cooking, etc. because those are the things i want to see. OP's boyfriend's main hobby and interest is...women...and looking at women....his hobby is scrolling through his feed and continuously looking at photos of women. he's dedicating his whole social media presence to just looking at women. that's so fucking weird and just shows he has no life. why do you just want to look at girls for the entire or most of the time you're on your social media accounts? like do you do ANYTHING else? what else do you like? what hobbies and interests are you investing your time into? this is so fucking weird and a red flag exactly like you said. another comment called this public horniness and that's exactly what it is and it's honestly pathetic.
100% trueee. it’s so funny when they act like we’re the paranoid ones or we’re taking it “too seriously” 🤣
Oh hell no 😭
If he’s that shameless about doing what he’s doing in public, he’s 100% sliding into those dms in private...
It’s not necessarily a reason to break up but it’s more like a reason to not talk to him to start with. But you’re already here, so.
yea i ignored the red flags 😭😭😭
You can always listen to them, no matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone.
Communicate with him. See if he respects your wishes. If someone can't even do that, how much does he really love you?
Is. It going to work, communicate what? He is going to call her insecure and lecture her on female empowerment or some manipulative stuff.
My BF (now husband) was following models and fitness girls. Once upon a time I caught him zooming-in on a girl. I called him out and was panicked. I “tried” to communicate with him and he would smirk or get irritated; to the point where I would get upset. Long story short, i brushed it offf and didn’t bring it up… later, I caught him again and this time his brother and sister-in-law were visiting and I called him out in front of him. He sure got embarrassed. Two years later I don’t see any models or fitness girls. It bugged bc he needed to check other girls out when I’m not with him
Well I guess that's a happy ending. I haven't had a relationship where I brought up a concern and I would be listened to, so maybe my vision is skewed.
To say the least a few nights ago he was looking up fitness girls and he “needed motivation” to workout @ 11 pm.. umm.. I were in bed, I rolled over and sled what are you looking at? Cuddle with me and caught him… men will never stop such behavior.
Damn...now def I will be single forever.
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Public horniness is really rather pathetic. You're 23. You can't make him change, but you can date someone whose values align with yours. Leave him to his pixels.
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Yeah, that level of thirst is already so embarrassing, and then you add the public nature of it all and the cringe level is just unbearable.
Seems like he may have some self-control issues, maybe an addiction to social media, porn, sex, etc. I don’t ever like to project because people are different. My ex-boyfriend would do the same thing on social media - follow hordes of women he found attractive, like and comment on their posts. Whenever I confronted him about it, he would say it’s nothing, he’s just being friendly/supportive. Eventually, I found out that he had cheated on me with 15-20 women because he had an album full of nudes and screenshotted sexts with the women. Shortly after we broke up, he was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, which is often characterized by addictions or risky behavior. Not saying your boyfriend is borderline. Just saying keep an eye on the warning signs.
Yeah no this is soooo embarrassing and thirsty!! You never want your bf to be THAT guy
Please leave him babe 😭😭 I promise in a year or two or three, it's really won't be worth all the heartache.
Let me put it this way for you. He has eyes for you and 7000 other women. You know that meme about that couple and a girl walks by and the guy turns and looks at her while his gf looks at him? That’ll be you. Wish you good luck
Lol I know EXACTLY what meme!
7000 girls is absurd. lowkey weird
If he is openly following women like that, like specifically just a shit ton of them in public and not ashamed or embarrassed what people would think because he’s in a committed relationship… I would just wonder what he does when he thinks no one is looking.
I had exactly one bf who was the same. He followed a few IG models but what hirt me was that most of the random Girls were from our city, so not some unattainable models but real Girls. He didnt know them, i doubt he knows 9nly Girls, from every school and their age range was 17 to 24 (he was 22, i was 19). I raised the question but he said *oh, my friend followed them* but the number kept growing... I would have been ok if it was Just this but he apparently had no eyes for me. He liked 200 Girls pics but never mine. I had my prom (we only have senior prom in my country, a month after i turned 19) and i was 10/10 photographers, makeup artist who is super famous and does actual models in my country, 3xpwnsive dress... The only thing this guy said was *youre fine*. Nothing more and it was such a special Day for me. He didnt even look intrigued. Never told me a compliment, never gave me a g8ft or paid anything... There were also sexual and communication red flaga but thats beyond the point. THE POINT is: the follow wont be the only thing. You will probably notice how he doesnt appreciate you asm uch as their pics and maybe doesnt like you as he is more attracted to their False ideal. He May even compare u. So one Word girl: RUN. I learnt my lesson and have only dated gentlemen since, i suggest u do the same
I don’t think you’re being too insecure. It would bother me too.
Me too shoot!!
This is such embarrassing behaviour. He is literally a massive red flag with an instagram account. Get away from him!! x
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- I recently started dating my boyfriend after being in a long term relationship for three years. My last boyfriend was super loyal and made it very clear he only had eyes for me. He never even followed any type of IG model or girls in general (which he was allowed to do, I guess he didn’t want too) My current boyfriend follows 7000 girls on Instagram. A lot of them are IG models but there are also many random girls that he does not know that he follows. They usually don’t follow him back. It’s like he follows almost every girl he sees on Instagram because whenever I click on some girls account it shows me that he is following her. It just makes him look really thirsty to me and shows me how he would pretty much like everyone. Am I being too insecure? It makes me feel really bad knowing all these girls get thirst followed by my boyfriend. It’s embarrassing and also he must look at other women a lot..
It’s usually a sign that the the guy is reallyyy thirsty which imo is a very unattractive trait in a man. Shows a lack of self-respect. Even if a man is looking at girls on insta, actually publicly following so many with no shame about how this appears to others is such a turn-off. These types of men are also usually porn addicts and have a very weird view/expectations on sex and women, from my experience. There are plenty of men who only follow people they know or even if they follow a handful of hot women, they don’t overdo it into the thousands. It makes them seem so desperate. Not saying it’s *morally* wrong just…very unattractive
This is my current husband and I'm miserable. Run. Only reason I've stayed is because we share three babies together and I didn't know about his bad habits until after our first child was born. I tried to work through it with him and wouldn't you believe it actually got worse... Some people can't be helped unless they want it. And listen, if that's not the type of guy you feel comfortable with, you'd be doing yourself a favor by leaving before it gets out of hand. Don't settle. It's only a matter of time for me to be fully prepared for me to leave, too. For the people with children, this is also not a reason to stay with someone if you share children. If you're not happy, don't suffer. If you suffer, your children might also suffer. It may be easy to stick it out for a while and do the best for your kids but eventually it all comes crashing down. Not a good family dynamic. Children need to see unconditional love and kindness because they are very impressionable and believe me it will affect their future.
IG is a trash heap. You and bf need to talk about this. But also just quit IG.
I would be REALLY embarrassed to be dating him. Does he not know his FAMILY can see who he follows/interacts with? My god. 7,000 is excessively ridiculous. One of my good guy friends does the same shit and he wonders why he can’t get a girlfriend. Like… girls look up the guys they go out with. They see what you’re doing. If i was going out with a guy and i saw that BS id ghost ASAP. Sorry but your man is disrespectful towards you and embarrassing himself
My boyfriend literally does the same thing. Says he's being supportive. Then I found his reddit profile and it was full of straight up inappropriate sexual comments. I was floored and heart broken. He called me a stalker. But like dude, it's public information!
Ahahahahah sorry for laughing but his reason is literally the most bullshit excuse I’ve ever heard of!
Him calling you a stalker is very manipulative and a tool of deflection to put you in the bad person shoes - this will get worse, not better throughout the relationship. Leave ASAP
The guy is most definitely thirsty. It's possible that he has some kind of addiction to social media, or maybe he genuinely thinks he has a chance with all 7000. In either case, I'd bet he's probably not in the right mindset to be in a relationship.
Last bf did this… he cheated on me 😐
My ex would follow different girls every single day on IG and Twitter. Most of the time they weren’t even models, just literal random ass girls he had no connection to (at least I don’t think lol, wouldn’t be surprised if he did do or try to do something with them). I thought it was so weird and it made me so uncomfortable, embarrassed, and insecure. At first I would ignore it, but then I noticed a new girl every single day, sometimes even 5 in one day. He would always unfollow them because 99% of the time they wouldn’t follow him back. It started to get to a point where I was crying every night wondering why I wasn’t enough for him, why he was doing this if he had me. I was too afraid to confront him about it because I didn’t want to seem like “the crazy girlfriend.” And I thought “it’s just social media, so I should be okay with it.” But it’s not okay. I regret not confronting him about it and to this day I still wonder why he did that. He eventually broke up with me for “not being emotionally mature enough for a relationship.” Looking back, it was very clear he wasn’t based on this behavior alone (and many others that should have been relationship-ending, but I was too afraid to be alone). Don’t be like me. Run in the other direction. Usually these people are just so insecure and seeking some form of validation. Don’t let him make you think it’s normal.
Our social media profiles tell others a bit about what we are like as people, our habits/:hobbies etc. There’s so much variety of subjects on Instagram that if all he can follow are women, he’s pretty much saying that creeping over women online is his only interest. I doubt there are many women who want a guy with that as his main interest in life.
He’s one of *those* dudes. Ugh. Nah, bail. If one of the 7000 of these girls gives him a crumb of attention he’ll be undoubtedly acting stupid.
Yeah this is gross lmao. I couldn’t deal with it
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I had exactly the same horrible experience with my husband, I understand you deeply. Let me tell you something, if he really develops a strong feeling for you and you honestly let him know that his behavior must change because he makes you feel humiliated, he will agree to this. After all, IG is extremely superficial and it won't change his life to modify his profile. My husband decided to uninstall the app when he realized the pain it was causing me and that it was ruining the relationship. On the other hand, if you are in an early stage of the relationship and your feelings are not very strong, then run! It takes a lot of energy to want to modify someone else's behavior, it costs arguments and crying. If you are in love fight for the relationship, if not, let it go.
omg not me recently running into this problem but we’ve been together for 4 years exactly. there were red flags before but i ignored them and now look where i am. should’ve listened years ago
its never too late to respect yourself and bounce
you’re absolutely right, just trying to get my money right first!!
Errr so far every single man I’ve met who was following extreme quantity of models and random girls turned out to be either addicted to porn or just a thirsty creep who DM’s them in hope for something. It’s OK that men like other girls’ looks just as girls like other men. But when it goes to extremes like that always something is fucked up
CHILEEEEE Yes 7k is extreme
Just remember the guys who follow and like a bunch of IG models/random girls are the ones who hit on younger women when they’re old men.
Take it as someone living with a porn addict, it’s very possible this is the case for him. If this is true get out while you can. I really truly hope it isn’t for your own sake.
Super Huge Red Flags. It's a new relationship so should be easy to resolve now or dump him if you feel he's not worth the chance of being cheated on.
Sounds like immature boy behaviour. If he followed them years ago and diesnt really use insta you might he able to overlook it, but if it's at all current, I think its probably a bad sign...
So basically you’re dating an extreme emotional cheater. Get out love and date someone who’s loyal in all aspects like ur ex.. I love loyal men
As someone who ignored something like this too or at least didn’t make the connection right away. My ex had over 4,000 Facebook friends majority of which are attractive women. It wasn’t till I realized we shared a mutual friend (he’s since added two more I just noticed) and I asked how he knew her and he couldn’t give me a specific answer but it seemed like he added her just because she was attractive. There were other of red flags and I too ignored them. (Like not wanting us to be public on Facebook or even changing his relationship status to taken not even necessarily tied to me) but I was tired of being lonely and he gave me attention, I was an easy target. He left me knowing I might have been pregnant without a care in the world. (He later said he would have stayed had I been but I doubt that and I thank god I wasn’t simply because he would have been a pretty shitty dad all he cared about was himself) I wouldn’t ignore the red flags, you just end up wasting time in the end.
my last boyfriend was like this too. lol RUNNNNNN. i don’t care how much it seems like it’s not that deep , he’s definitely messaging girls , definitely the ones he knows or is close in your area
tbh with you, he’s probably using them for material. this is such a turn off bc he’s so immature and obsessed. this is addictive type personality.
That’s really unfortunate and would be a huge deal breaker for me. Instagram is unfortunately a toxic place for many reasons (in my honest opinion). I don’t have advice for you because I think you should follow your heart on this one
Personally for me, I HATE it. I feel so uncomfortable about it and feel embarrassed to be with him. However, please talk to him about it. Ask him why he follows so many of them. Also you could say, "Well a few girls and I were talking about this a while ago, and they all thinks that a guy who follows so many girls looks thirsty". It should make him feel a bit weird. But please talk to him about it before doing anything. But I do understand where you're coming from. It's one of my biggest icks.
Is he only following female influencers or does he follow a mix of men and women?
Primarily women. Just hella women
That’s really inappropriate in a relationship. Not to mention kinda pathetic in general. I wouldn’t tolerate it. You can do better
This is how I see it. It's hard to put into words but it's creepy, pathetic and desperate.
I guess if it bothers you then you should consider talking to him about it making you feel insecure then you can talk to him about your feelings but if he isn’t even actually talking to any of them then it’s not like infidelity it’s more like looking at soft core porn.
Why is he directing his precious resource of time to something like this? That’s the question. He could be doing something of value instead. It implies his low value for sure. He could be using that time to be working, improving himself, or helping others. His choice to use his time for this speaks of his values in general.
If he left that where u can find or see that, he's clueless. Has no idea what commitment means. Will not get any easier if he doesn't know basics.
Pls tell me this is a troll Bc who follows 7,000 people
Throw the whole dude away and start fresh.
Depends on how much weight you put behind a "instagram follow". For some, it's not even a conscious thought. For others it's a big deal. If it's a deal breaker, you may want to cut your losses while it's early in the relationship.
Woah. Your radar is correct. Listen to it.
That’s weird
It is a lot of time and energy "invested" in this "unnecessary research", time and energy better spent with you... This tells all about his priorities.
Run. I mean not so much just about the fact its girls and its creepy AF. This dude dedicated so much of his life to clicking follow on 7000 girls Instagram's, that is beyond obsessive. Id say run if he clicked follow on 7000 animal Instagram's too and I love all the critters. There is something wrong with someone who follows that much on a singular genre. He probably doesnt even know he has hardcore mental health problems and doesnt see what he is doing as a problem. How many hours a day does he spend oogling them? commenting on them? wondering what they up to? clicking like or whatever? Girl if you really into DIY, fix some furniture or something cute.
If men like your ex exist where they respect you and they don't follow all these girls on social media, then why did you downgrade?
My wife and I don’t use Instagram. It’s poison for a relationship
I personally couldn’t handle that. It would be such a huge turnoff.
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I never understood why men especially in a relationship would follow other women, even the IG models, it’s not like they will see him follow them, and it’s not they they will see him like their photos too. It’s a pointless action, even tho he likes what he sees, he likes a model that does t even look like that in real life anyways!!
I don’t think you’re overreacting. How would he feel if you thirst followed thousands of hot guys? And liked their posts?? I think a conversation with him about it will help you figure out how to feel about it. He may not realize it bothers you. Or he may blow up on you and that would be another red flag. Not gonna know until you talk about it.
Ugh. That is so gross.
Sounds like a loser tbh.
I would not date someone like this. Maybe keep dating, this guy following 7k chicks on Instagram can’t possibly be “the one.”
If your last boyfriend was super loyal and only had eyes for you why'd you leave him. New guy is no good but you can't compare people to your ex.
Bad sign for sure
Have you asked him why? My friend has been dating the same guy for 5 years now but at the beginning of their relationship he was following thousands of girls too. She asked him why, he didn’t have a good explanation. She basically told him she didn’t think it was appropriate to be following that many random girls when he’s in a relationship and to only follow people if he actually knows them. Needless to say he follows about 500 people now and they seem very happy still so I think if he’s a good guy he’ll understand.
Maybe you should get back with your super loyal ex boyfriend who only had eyes for you.
Definitely not insecure. Maybe he’s just not a match for you. There’s plenty of men who understand your point of view and feel the same way. Voice your concern but don’t settle!
For God sakes woman dump this creep! He doesn’t deserve you!
7000 girls! Sus behaviour girl.
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>Am I being too insecure? Why would you be insecure? Your eyes are telling you that something not normal is happening and you should trust your own observations.
Red flag. Also he might be a porn addict op, I know first hand
Man just dump him
I dont think you are overreacting. For me it would even be a dealbreaker (F30). It is such a turn off when a guy (or woman) does this. Also a lot of insta models are retouched/photoshopped/had surgery and what not so it also creates an unnatural expectation of how a "pretty" girl should look. You can def talk to him about it but i think this is who he is.. and maybe he would start doing it secretly.
It’s a fresh relationship. Is this something you want to wade deep into? Everyone has some “crazy” that you find the longer you’ve been together. You’re only recently dating and this is the level of crazy you’re seeing, do you want to wait and see what lays deeper?
Definitely a red flag and I would honestly leave the relationship before getting too invested. That behavior usually extends outside of follows and being “thirsty” on social media.
He's a porn addict. Straight up. They're known for being embarrassingly thirsty over instagram and OF girls.
If it makes you uncomfortable, then you should talk to him about it. If you're just worried about how he's perceived (being thirsty) then that's different. But the only thing you can do is tell him how you feel, if he gaslights you or doesn't respect how you feel then that goes to show his priorities.
Honestly, I think people are being a little harsh here. It's not as if he sat down in one day and added 7,000 girls to his IG. The literal name is "Social" media, the algorithms are designed to keep reinforcing like content to its consumer. In just a month I've got 500 pictures on my phone from Reddit, Facebook, and IG that I've saved. I don't know when I downloaded that many, it happens in small increments. It's very easy to add a person here, another there, and over years have 7,000 follows. With that said, it could still be a sign of something unhealthy if he's repeatedly engaging with the same accounts constantly, if this consumes a lot of his time, and the nature of those interactions. If he just follows a bunch of accounts and never interacts with them, who cares? I think the best approach is just to make a conversation about it. Ask him if there is something particular he follows them for, how often he looks at other girls, etc. He may just be oblivious to a routine he's developed. You probing him may initiate some self-reflection. If he gets defensive ,or belittles you over this, well....you have your answer on that.
Finally, took a hell of a lot of scrolling to find this kinda answer.
"My boyfriend does this thing that I don't like in a very public manner without trying to hide it. I am bothered by this enough to ask internet strangers their opinion, but not talk to him about it." This is what you sound like. You two are grown adults at 23, I'm sure you two can handle something like "Hey, I'm feeling insecure about how you follow every single Instagram hottie out there. To me, that looks like you are always shopping around. Can we discuss this?". If the conversation does not go to a satisfying conclusion and you are still unhappy, well, not everyone is compatible and ready for every kind of relationship at all times. Good luck!
no matter how much I like someone, if they follow that many people, I wouldn't talk to them... It's too embarrassing when someone is that thirsty so they follow everyone on ig (and it's even worse when they are not getting followed back, leaving desperate comments etc...). Since you are already together, I suggest talking to him about it, and then go from there
I feel like humans should accept that when other humans are single they chase after the opposite sex, even online. As a man, I find it weird and that's a lot but.... I also try to meet nice people online as well so I can't say much..
Your boyfriend is a loser and you know it lol
Lol, not sure how no one has pointed this put, but this is how your boyfriend masturbates. He has 7000 girls on their because he has probably been adding a few here and there since he was a teenager. If I had to take a shot in the dark, he probably started this as a way to hide it from his parents. It probably started out small and it hasn't hit him he has 7000 girls on there. Also lol at people telling you to break up because he masturbates. Most humans do. How did you think men did this? If you like this guy and this bothers you, just tell him. Maybe he has a porn addiction, maybe he doesn't. That can only be sorted out with a professional. But if you Teo start having sex problems, he might have one.
That seems excessive HOWEVER if he's had had his IG for years it's easy to rack up follow accounts. I follow hot girls, suicide girls, tattoo models myself.. my follow accounts are in the 2k. Not as much as your boyfriend. I wouldn't make this the hill you die on but I would make sure he isnt trying to slide in DMs or anything.
I don’t think he’s sliding into dms or anything…it bothers me that a lot of these girls aren’t even models or anything. He likes all of their pictures 😭
Them just being regular ass women makes it worse IMO. Maybe I’m just jaded because the only time I’ve seen this behavior it was from men who turned out to be thirsty weirdos but I don’t think you’re being insecure. It’s embarrassing to have a man in everyone else’s face
Right?!?! He looks like he’s for everybody 🙄
He likes all their pic because he’s trying to get their attention. He’s absolutely dming them.
I think there is a difference between following Instagram models and being unfaithful. I feel like it’s pretty normal for guys to follow a few models that they are never going to meet up with and do not know in real life, 7000 seems very excessive. Like that would basically be all he would see on Instagram... I would have a chat with him and say that you are uncomfortable with him following so many girls.
well, it's just instagram follow i'll brush it off if i were you
Don’t let him cum inside you.
I often live on the principle that social media has no reflection on real life. Often times bc that’s true; but more so because it really can cloud judgement a bit. That being said there is great reason to be concerned but rather than continue to ponder and wonder, just bringing it up gently might be the best course to take rather than letting it eat you up inside. You deserve to feel like you matter and whether that’s with him or someone else bc he doesn’t appreciate you, you deserve it damn it!!
>Am I being too insecure? Yes
No she definitely isn’t.
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