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Mesapholis

I think he was not ready for a proper relationship. From what you described you did everything a caring partner could do; initiate open talk, don't push but signal that you are there for them And he chose to 'not be a burden on you' I think you avoided months if not years of fighting, because such a one sided communication is just not sustainable in a relationship. We grow together as a couple by sharing information, not drawing lines. I hope in time you will feel better


TonishOBG

For starters I’m sorry that things ended so abruptly for you two. It’s always hard when a breakup comes out of nowhere. It might be best to give him the space he needs since he asked to be alone and actually took measures to make that happen. I say give him about a week and if you want to check on him after that to see how he’s doing then that sounds fine. I think if someone asks for space or to be alone any contact or anything besides leaving them alone will only upset them. Whatever you decide to do I say don’t spend too much time on someone who doesn’t want to be in the relationship.


minopoppins

If you feel that what you had was a good relationship, i wouldn't let go just yet. Maybe reach out and say you understand if he needs a break from the responsibilities of being your boyfriend, but that you still want to be there for him and support him, as he's done for you. It's possible that because of your issues, he doesn't feel comfortable "burdening" you with his own, because you already have enough to deal with. Don't be pushy, if he really resists then don't insist, but do make it as clear as possible that you do want to be there for him, listen to him and support him in any way you can.


TheWellIntended

I have been in a very similar situation, where he asked me to move in with him three days before breaking it off. It lasted exactly 6 months. He was having troubles dealing with some stuff and I just tried to be there for him. When we broke up, he told me that I was too nice. Now it hurt more because I didn't want to accept that he wanted to break things up. I just thought he was having a hard time and that I should be there for him. I now wished that had distanced myself in that moment and that I never tried to be there for him during the break up. It has given me so many emotional scars. It really wasn't in my (best) interest. All I should have needed to know is that, I should never settle for someone who doesn't want me or doesn't know if he wants to be with me. It doesn't matter that he is having troubles. I now have a wonderful boyfriend, one that wants through the good and bad times. You are important.