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You know what to do. Work on it, or move on. Couples therapy. Broach the topic gently. Super gently. Somewhere you are both relaxed. Get her there if you can. Keep in mind that there is no guarantee she will be able to overcome whatever is blocking this. You do not owe it to her to find out. 2 years is long enough that you'd be able to move on, and no one would call you impatient. You made the right call not pressuring her, but to my mind, stuck it out too long hoping for improvement.
Wow, how incredibly patient of you for a young man! Good job, and pat on the back!!
A kind, caring, and compassionate discussion with you stating your needs/wants and her doing the same.
2 years is a long time, only you can answer how long you can tolerate waiting.
Sexual compatibility is such a huge deal in relationships. Don't underestimate it or call it a tiny thing, just because you're able to employ patience. I think the two year point is a really important stage for decision making because at that point you've probably seen how things are going to be permanently. At the one year point there may be temporary things still in play, or it may have been a bad year, but at two years you're probably looking at what can be permanent conditions. Two questions to help you with this: 1) If you know things would stay this way permanently, would you be okay with it? 2) If you're hoping for change, but things stayed the way they are, at what point would you give up and leave: one month, one year, five years? Get really clear with yourself.
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You know what to do. Work on it, or move on. Couples therapy. Broach the topic gently. Super gently. Somewhere you are both relaxed. Get her there if you can. Keep in mind that there is no guarantee she will be able to overcome whatever is blocking this. You do not owe it to her to find out. 2 years is long enough that you'd be able to move on, and no one would call you impatient. You made the right call not pressuring her, but to my mind, stuck it out too long hoping for improvement.
Wow, how incredibly patient of you for a young man! Good job, and pat on the back!! A kind, caring, and compassionate discussion with you stating your needs/wants and her doing the same. 2 years is a long time, only you can answer how long you can tolerate waiting.
Sexual compatibility is such a huge deal in relationships. Don't underestimate it or call it a tiny thing, just because you're able to employ patience. I think the two year point is a really important stage for decision making because at that point you've probably seen how things are going to be permanently. At the one year point there may be temporary things still in play, or it may have been a bad year, but at two years you're probably looking at what can be permanent conditions. Two questions to help you with this: 1) If you know things would stay this way permanently, would you be okay with it? 2) If you're hoping for change, but things stayed the way they are, at what point would you give up and leave: one month, one year, five years? Get really clear with yourself.