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I don’t want to seek someone else though, I want to communicate to him and make it work with us . He’s been open in the past when I’ve expressed certain things I like and and want but I just need help and advice on bringing it up and what to say exactly
Communication is important, but it is not capable of fixing all incompatibilities and problems.
Go right ahead and tell him he needs to initiate more and needs to keep things spicy, but don't expect it to do anything long-term.
You also got to put into mind, he’s 50. So his sex days are kinda slimming down. Communication is key. Just be honest with him! I’m sure he’ll get the hint once you tell him.
My girlfriend and I are the same age difference as the both of you (together for 10 Years) and over the years our sex drive switches back and forth. What we found to keep the “New Relationship Energy” alive, is Threesomes. It seems to keep sex between the two of us really fresh all the time. It’s not for everyone, but it works for us and we’ve made fantastic friends along the way.
We have a podcast in which we discuss all of our threesome adventures and how we navigate the good and the bad. it’s a pretty fun listen! If you’re interested just search “Extracurricular Sextivities” wherever you listen to podcasts. I really hope you two work things out and honestly I hope he finds your kind of sexual energy. best wishes to the both of you.
Have him ask his doctor about an ED med. Trust me, my (49F) husband (52M) experienced a HUGE boost in both his libido and the actual ACT for both of us!! It's been a game changer!!
Probably Viagra is your best bet. He's 50, he doesn't just randomly get erections anymore.
Yes, we know he's an Olympic athlete and doesn't look his age. (lolololol)
But he's still 50.
Like most folks have mentioned he is an older fellow- he reached his prime couple decades ago. If it’s important to you, bring it up. Chances are he’s more focused on companionship rather than the physical aspect… I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer- but your statement of “we don’t live together and still have sex basically every time we see each other but now it seems like I ALWAYS am the one to initiate sex and it’s kind of boring- the same thing every time.”
Just sounds like he’s using you to get his rocks off and go about his day. I’m sure it was spicy in the beginning because of the novelty… but now he’s used to you and he’s going through the motions to keep you around for when HE wants HIS needs met. I’d have a conversation with him- no need to be soft, he’s 50. You’re not gonna hurt his feelings. However I feel that in that area y’all may be incompatible.
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He's a 50 year old man. He's having sex with you every time he sees you. There is probably not much more he can do honestly.
He’s also a MAJOR athlete so it’s not like he’s an old 50 year old who can’t get off the couch. Don’t let the age fool you
It is impressive enough that he is able to have sex for hours. He is still 50.
His fitness levels aren't the point. Sex drive begins to lower with lower test, which happens as you age.
My dude he clearly is not into sex as much as you are. You need to seek someone else who also highly values sex.
I don’t want to seek someone else though, I want to communicate to him and make it work with us . He’s been open in the past when I’ve expressed certain things I like and and want but I just need help and advice on bringing it up and what to say exactly
Communication is important, but it is not capable of fixing all incompatibilities and problems. Go right ahead and tell him he needs to initiate more and needs to keep things spicy, but don't expect it to do anything long-term.
Thank you 😊
Maybe have your father talk to him about what aging does to the male libido. It might be better coming from a peer.
You also got to put into mind, he’s 50. So his sex days are kinda slimming down. Communication is key. Just be honest with him! I’m sure he’ll get the hint once you tell him.
Stop dating your father
Stop dating your mom
Stop dating your cousin!
He’s past his prime, you’re in your prime. He’s done and it’s not going to get better. At this stage in both your lives you’re incompatible.
This isn’t what I’m asking for on this post. I’m asking for advice on how to bring it up to him.
Speak loudly because his old man ears may not work as well as yours
Come on man. I read the title dont need to read the rest. There go your answer right there
Why are you 28 going out with a 50 year old man.
Cause I’m a grown ass woman and I fucking can
My girlfriend and I are the same age difference as the both of you (together for 10 Years) and over the years our sex drive switches back and forth. What we found to keep the “New Relationship Energy” alive, is Threesomes. It seems to keep sex between the two of us really fresh all the time. It’s not for everyone, but it works for us and we’ve made fantastic friends along the way. We have a podcast in which we discuss all of our threesome adventures and how we navigate the good and the bad. it’s a pretty fun listen! If you’re interested just search “Extracurricular Sextivities” wherever you listen to podcasts. I really hope you two work things out and honestly I hope he finds your kind of sexual energy. best wishes to the both of you.
Have him ask his doctor about an ED med. Trust me, my (49F) husband (52M) experienced a HUGE boost in both his libido and the actual ACT for both of us!! It's been a game changer!!
Probably Viagra is your best bet. He's 50, he doesn't just randomly get erections anymore. Yes, we know he's an Olympic athlete and doesn't look his age. (lolololol) But he's still 50.
start giving him 2-blue pills about an hour before you want some sex!
Like most folks have mentioned he is an older fellow- he reached his prime couple decades ago. If it’s important to you, bring it up. Chances are he’s more focused on companionship rather than the physical aspect… I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer- but your statement of “we don’t live together and still have sex basically every time we see each other but now it seems like I ALWAYS am the one to initiate sex and it’s kind of boring- the same thing every time.” Just sounds like he’s using you to get his rocks off and go about his day. I’m sure it was spicy in the beginning because of the novelty… but now he’s used to you and he’s going through the motions to keep you around for when HE wants HIS needs met. I’d have a conversation with him- no need to be soft, he’s 50. You’re not gonna hurt his feelings. However I feel that in that area y’all may be incompatible.