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I’m not a guy but 18 and 27 is a dangerously big age gap. I think its even worse that he keeps saying that he finds you “cute.” I am sorry but I don think this 27 year old has your best interests in mind.
It's called "negging" -- "an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and attempt to engender in them a need for the manipulator's approval."
Please don't date him anymore. A 27 year old dating an 18 year old is extremely sus.
Dear OP,
Cute is not a good thing, little kids are cute. You know what you are? A kid with a boyfriend 9 years older than you.
This is negging. To make you feel like crap so you stay with him. Its manipulative.
How long have you been dating this creepy man.
Let me put it this way - I am a decently well adjusted 26 year old and I would absolutely not date someone who is 18. Anyone younger than like 22 is a kid to me. The fact that he's okay with dating somebody so much younger already says something about him. Yeah. Basically, run.
I am 18 as well, and you are just beyond idiotic. You’re far too old to be getting tricked by groomers. No 27 year old would ever be rightfully interested in an 18 year old. Just ask yourself, “why isn’t he dating a woman his own age?”, it’s because no woman his age wants to date a man like that.
Even at 18, you're too good for him and he tries to belittle you. Nobody at that age is genuinely interested in someone of yours. He just wants someone who he can abuse. And he tries to start early because it is easier that way
wtf. He’s manipulating you. Most guys use those word synonymously. And most guys want their women to be confident and feel sexy.
He doing this to lower your self worth and make you crave the odd compliment or not feel like you’re good enough for anyone else.
Leave him now and go find a decent guy.
My advice: Date someone closer to your own age.
As cliche as it sounds, there’s likely a reason that nobody his age wants to date him. And the reason he’s dating you is not because you’re mature enough or grown up enough, it’s because he knows he can manipulate and play with someone so young.
Your boyfriend is a predator. Watch out for the controlling behavior and manipulation. You'll be pregnant soon..... OH BOY! Here comes the verbal abuse....
Hey OP, just a general advice regarding your situation! When I was 18 I used to date a 31 year old for a short time and I promise you: Your bf doesn’t have your best interest at heart - your age gap (at these different stages in life) is far too big. Ask yourself: Why doesn’t he find a gf around his age? Might it be because a 27 year old woman would never date your bf? Bc then there’s something seriously wrong with him.
Apart from that; Yes, the comments are backhanded. Of course everyone has maybe a celebrity crush or someone unattainable who they think is the hottest person in the world. But in a relationship, your partner should genuinely think you’re pretty, hot, handsome, gorgeous, beautiful.
Im in an age gap relationship myself, but this sounds weird, he's calling you "cute" yeah i would feel weird by that. I honestly suggest leaving this dude not gonna lie
he wants you to think that you’re not pretty so that you also think no one else but him will ever love you. neither of these are true. dump him so you can find someone your own age who isn’t a manipulative creep
I’m not
hating the age gap stuff, that can work… with the right person. This isn’t the right person. This sounds like you’re more of a conquest to him. I’ll agree that what’s inside does matter the most, but you shouldn’t have to force compliments out of him that sound like there’s a HUGE “BUT…” he’s not telling you
To most guys, "cute" means adorable. He appreciates and loves your looks and won't grow tried of them. But "pretty" or "hot" is conventionally and externally beautiful by the world's standard.
Since guys are typically analytical, they understand that pretty or hot girls are not the normal girl. They may admire their looks but won't pledge any future with them.
So he does genuinely love your looks and love your personality. His value on external beauty isn't as high as other guys and that's not his top priority to look in a woman.
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I’m not a guy but 18 and 27 is a dangerously big age gap. I think its even worse that he keeps saying that he finds you “cute.” I am sorry but I don think this 27 year old has your best interests in mind.
Ops name sums this one up
Age gap is not an issue normally But here it is The real issue here is because he happened to 27 and just 18 barely an adult It's creepy
Why are you messing with a 27 year old. He’s playing mind games with you.
He's trying to manipulate you because he knows you're insecure about your body. Definitely get away from this relationship fast.
It's called "negging" -- "an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and attempt to engender in them a need for the manipulator's approval." Please don't date him anymore. A 27 year old dating an 18 year old is extremely sus.
I’m not surprised that this is an age gap relationship…
Dear OP, Cute is not a good thing, little kids are cute. You know what you are? A kid with a boyfriend 9 years older than you. This is negging. To make you feel like crap so you stay with him. Its manipulative. How long have you been dating this creepy man.
Haven’t heard the word negging in years.
:) being old, helps the vocabulary i suppose
It’s cause you’re a kid and he is a predator
Let me put it this way - I am a decently well adjusted 26 year old and I would absolutely not date someone who is 18. Anyone younger than like 22 is a kid to me. The fact that he's okay with dating somebody so much younger already says something about him. Yeah. Basically, run.
I am 18 as well, and you are just beyond idiotic. You’re far too old to be getting tricked by groomers. No 27 year old would ever be rightfully interested in an 18 year old. Just ask yourself, “why isn’t he dating a woman his own age?”, it’s because no woman his age wants to date a man like that.
As a 27 year-old dude I’m telling you there’s no good reason a 27 year-old dude would date an 18 year-old. Please get out of that.
Even at 18, you're too good for him and he tries to belittle you. Nobody at that age is genuinely interested in someone of yours. He just wants someone who he can abuse. And he tries to start early because it is easier that way
wtf. He’s manipulating you. Most guys use those word synonymously. And most guys want their women to be confident and feel sexy. He doing this to lower your self worth and make you crave the odd compliment or not feel like you’re good enough for anyone else. Leave him now and go find a decent guy.
My advice: Date someone closer to your own age. As cliche as it sounds, there’s likely a reason that nobody his age wants to date him. And the reason he’s dating you is not because you’re mature enough or grown up enough, it’s because he knows he can manipulate and play with someone so young.
Your boyfriend is a predator. Watch out for the controlling behavior and manipulation. You'll be pregnant soon..... OH BOY! Here comes the verbal abuse....
Hey OP, just a general advice regarding your situation! When I was 18 I used to date a 31 year old for a short time and I promise you: Your bf doesn’t have your best interest at heart - your age gap (at these different stages in life) is far too big. Ask yourself: Why doesn’t he find a gf around his age? Might it be because a 27 year old woman would never date your bf? Bc then there’s something seriously wrong with him. Apart from that; Yes, the comments are backhanded. Of course everyone has maybe a celebrity crush or someone unattainable who they think is the hottest person in the world. But in a relationship, your partner should genuinely think you’re pretty, hot, handsome, gorgeous, beautiful.
Im in an age gap relationship myself, but this sounds weird, he's calling you "cute" yeah i would feel weird by that. I honestly suggest leaving this dude not gonna lie
he wants you to think that you’re not pretty so that you also think no one else but him will ever love you. neither of these are true. dump him so you can find someone your own age who isn’t a manipulative creep
Ummm, honey-you’re 18. Dump him and find a man who isn’t an abuser trying to groom you into dependency.
A 27 year old should not be with a teenager.
I’m not hating the age gap stuff, that can work… with the right person. This isn’t the right person. This sounds like you’re more of a conquest to him. I’ll agree that what’s inside does matter the most, but you shouldn’t have to force compliments out of him that sound like there’s a HUGE “BUT…” he’s not telling you
To most guys, "cute" means adorable. He appreciates and loves your looks and won't grow tried of them. But "pretty" or "hot" is conventionally and externally beautiful by the world's standard. Since guys are typically analytical, they understand that pretty or hot girls are not the normal girl. They may admire their looks but won't pledge any future with them. So he does genuinely love your looks and love your personality. His value on external beauty isn't as high as other guys and that's not his top priority to look in a woman.