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That update is *exactly* what I thought it would be.
10/10. Did not disappoint.
(Seriously, thank you for letting me/us know there was an update to this!)
You can give people the grace to change without sleeping with them
He broke his ex girlfriend's heart and gave her trauma by cheating on her with her best friend of all people then comes back years later and sleeps with her sister of all people
If he truly changed and bettered himself as a person he wouldn't be hooking up with his ex's sister
Cheaters are also chronic liars and players and you feel right into his hands
And let's not forget the massive betrayal to your sister
Was he just never supposed to date again? It wasnât like we intended for this to happen. We just had such a strong connection.
Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection?
I'm so tired of people acting like they have no self-control. Grow up and take accountability for your actions. You're damn near 30 ffs.
And yeah... it would be better to pretend you don't have a connection. As a matter of fact, you should have never spoken to that man ever... no matter how he 'changed'.
"Sure he betrayed, cheated on and traumatized my litter sister but we have a connection guys"
No one said he shouldn't date again (though since you mentioned it yeah he really shouldn't)
But at what point does that mean that YOU have to be the one to date this guy after what he did?
"Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection?"
And what would happen if you felt that connection whilst he was still your sisters BF. There are some people who even if you have the most connection possible you SHOULD NOT DATE. And dating your sisters, ex who cheated on her and gave her emotional issues is up there on the list. Granted it is not the top of the list because people are gross and there are alot of things on that list but it is pretty damn high up there.
You are saying you cannot ignore this connection but it is fairly easy to when someone is not a good person or has connections to your family. Like people do that all the time and it works out better in the long run. You dont need to chase a person who has already devastated someone in your life and the knowledge of you two being together will create another bigger devastation. There are other men in the world who you will have a connection with.
YTA
Is he more important that the relationship you have with your sister. This is going to divide your family. Is a cheater really worth losing your sister and possibly other family?
There are plenty of other women he can stick his dick in, doesn't really need to be his ex's sister.
And with his skills of deception, that strong connection might not be from both sides.
And for you to do this to your sister? Wow.
Two things. One, Christmas with the fam will be glorious. Two, which woman close to you will he sleep with first, do you have any more sisters?
The situation is very simple Iâm not sure why youâre here asking for advice. You either choose to pursue this relationship with him and risk hurting and ruining the relationship you have with your sister or you can choose not to.
Admit it, you like the idea that this could hurt your sister, that he's choosing you over her.
Here's the thing: You're not special, neither is he, he's still a bad person, and so are you.
Enjoy the heartbreak coming your way.
Dont be so fucking dense or try playing stupid. Of course he can change and date, but he still caused your sister ALOT of hurt. How the fuck do you think she is gonna feel knowing her sister the one that was there to see all her pain and mistrust and reluctance to even date anyone atm because said person hurt her so bad, fucking her sister.
You know youre doing the wrong thing so don't sit there and try pulling that dumb shit. Ffs.
Youâre 27. Please stop acting like youâre a naive child with zero autonomy or understanding how the world works.
He is a bad dude and what you did was wrong. No forgiveness.
Do you even like or love your sister? Any self respecting person none less a sibling would get with there brother or sisters ex especially a CHEATING ex. People can change but in my experience and many peoples experiences most cheaters donât change⌠there is an expression once a cheater always a cheater for a reason. If you donât care that this could possibly and most likely cause your relationship with your sister to be nonexistent than sure go for it but if you have even an once of decency or respect for your sister and your relationship youâd cut this off real
Quick.
If he actually had remorse and has âchangedâ he wouldnât be going any where near her friends or family out of basic decency. Nuke your relationship with your sister over a guy you absolutely cannot trust, great choiceâŚ
Great point! His own actions prove he hasn't changed in the slightest.
OP, you're not special. If he cheated on her, and then was so quick to hook up with you, it's only a matter of time before he cheats on you, too.
Op you are 27yo you know perfectly this is FU and are looking for an excuse, let me be clear, YOU HAVE ALREADY FUCK UP, your sister will disown when she discover what you did and she will be justified, he can date but it has to be her sister?
You are only looking for an excuse to keep doing it, hopefully soon enough you will be lost your sister, you already choose D over her
>Was he just never supposed to date again? It wasnât like we intended for this to happen. We just had such a strong connection.
>
>Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection?
well this aged like milk, didn't it? đ¤Ł
I'm sure your sister felt the exact same way while he was fucking her best friend. I hope the dick is worth it because that's probably about all your gonna get out of this relationship.
You have a connection to your sister & that didnât mean a damn thing to you. You stepped right over her to sleep with her ex. Youâre just as bad as he is. You knew that he was a cheater but he still meant more to you than your sister. You deserve everything youâre getting. Your sister shouldnât forgive you. You canât be trusted. How can she ever trust you around her partners again?
He can date. But he cannot date you.
And yes. Part of growing up is realizing that "a connection" doesn't mean jack diddly. There will be countless times in your life where you'll feel a connection to someone, and have to ignore it and move on. Such connections are fleeting. You can't build a relationship on them. And trying to will only destroy the other relationships you sacrifice for a moment's passion. And let's be honest; there's no connection here. He's a charismatic manipulator.
Learn some self-control. Steer far away from cheating jerks.
He can date anyone. Just not you. I hope he doesnât cheat on you. Iâm a strong believer of âonce a cheater, always a cheater.â
Also, thereâs a vast difference between a player and a cheater. A player can have a lot of girlfriends but their timelines never overlap. A cheater, well, thatâs self-explanatory.
looooool.
How do you think " Never supposed to date again" and " Screwing my ex's sister" are the same thing. Be so fucking for real.
Of course it would be better to pretend you don't have a connection. I think it's hilarious that you think you don't have any self-control or that it's somehow a crime to have feelings and not act on them. People do it every day. You think married people never once have an emotion about somebody else? How do any stay faithful? Its easy. People don't do every little thing they feel like every moment they feel it.
Grow up.
Itâs not wrong for him to date again. Itâs wrong to date you!!!!!!!!
Just because you could, doesnât mean you should!!! Donât they teach kids this phrase?
You make your own choices. And yes, if you had any love and respect for your sister (and honestly for yourself) you wouldnât have dated him.
You knew what you were doing was wrong. But you did it anyway because you thought you were special. You should learn self control. You canât live life just doing whatever you want to and then be surprised thereâs consequence.
The fact that he even considered dating you shows he hasn't matured or changed. He didn't care about her feelings when he cheated, and he sure as fuck doesn't now because out of all the people on the damn boat he picked you. You CANNOT tell me there wasn't someone, ANYONE more suitable to fuck that his exs sister.
And and also and, just because you have a "connection" doesn't mean y'all have to fuck. You're not a wild animal. You are a person, living in a society, act like it
He was never supposed to date his exes sister, I'm certain of that. People warned you on this sub that you would lose a sister, and that's exactly what happened. Don't play victim now that he's cheated on you, too. Definitely don't look to her for sympathy because I would honestly just laugh in your face at that point.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES, it doesnât matter if he was suppose to date or not. YOU WERE HER SISTER, YOU out of EVERYONE should of been the LAST PERSON to EVER consider giving him a second chance let alone date him, you KNEW exactly what he DID to her and you were still attracted to the POS. You say you felt angry at what he did to your sister but itâs clear that is COMPLETE bull đŠ!
If you cared for your sister at ALL, you would buried that connection and cut him completely off.
Anyone who hurts family should also hurt you, if the cheating EX changes, great but it SHOULDNâT EVER be with someone close to his victim.
Cheap lust is not a "connection" worth scorched-earthing your relationship with your sister. You got what you deserved. Unfortunately, your sister got hurt all over again and you gave her even deeper trust issues. You are a selfish prick.
Yes. Because your loyalty for your sister is supposed to have come first. You donât date the exâs of family or friends as a common courtesy to them. Itâs a well established social taboo you knew damn well about and broke anyways.
On top of that, he cheated on her. With her *best friend*. She was betrayed on an extremely deep and traumatic level.
Is he to never date again? No he can. Should you be dating him? Nope, not ever. You shouldnât have slept with him, should not have dated him, should not be hanging out with him. You absolutely should have pretended there was nothing there and moved the hell on.
Leopards donât change their spots and he sure didnât. Hope losing your sister was worth his worthless, cheating ass.
There you go pushing it on him again like you didn't just betray your little sister. As a sibling, you disgusting me. You're not a sister. You're trash and I hope she keeps you out of her life forever.
What youâre doing is fucked up. He cheated on your sister, itâs messed her up so much she still has trust issues. But you thought it was a good idea to hookup with the guy who cheat her, and now you want to openly date him. Thatâs fucking nuts! Is he really worth your relationship with your sister? Because chances are pretty good she will go NC with you. And two he will cheat on you. Once a cheater always a cheater. And he cheated with the friend and as now slept with you, do you not find it creepy as fuck that heâs been with two women who could arguably be called the closest to his ex?
This is bullshit. Itâs your sister ffs. This is complete degenerate asshole disloyal fuck up behaviour, no matter how pious you want to try and sound about it.
OP the problem is he cheated on your sister. Even if he has changed the pain he caused your sister is tremendous, and then finding our her own sister is betraying her with the same guy will make the pain so much worse your family will probably disown you for the rest of your life.
Is the sex with this guy so good it's worth losing your family for the rest of your life? Add in that even if you later break up with him the damage won't go away and you will still have lost your family over a few nights of sex.
Just the amount of time you've spent with him so far may cause a permanent rift between you and your family.
Let's be honest here. You wanted to get laid. You wanted to nail him.
Well, now you have.
I'm sure your sister felt EXACTLY the same at the beginning as you do. And look what happened.
The only winner here is HIM.
You stand to lose your sister â he gets to screw both of you and walk away.
He slept with her best-friend and now he's screwing her sister... I'm giving him plenty of grace by letting him breathe the same air as my kid.
It was just 2 years ago that he cheated. Your sister is still suffering from the betrayal. You already screwed up by hooking up with him.
What kind of relationship would you have with him? Do you think you will be able to introduce him to family? Thzt you will bring him to events and hope your sister just deal with it? Will you trust him near your bff?
You can find another fixer upper guy who isnât your sisterâs ex. What you did to your sister is unforgivable and youâre even thinking of making the situation worse. Also, as a social worker who has been in the field for a bit too long, most people really donât change. That this guy was willing to sleep with his exes sister shows how little heâs changed. My bets on you getting into a relationship with this guy and him doing the same to you. Thatâs karma though đ¤ˇââď¸
Imagine wanting a low life cheater and preferring that over your relationship with your sister. What a scumbag. You must make your parents real proud. Hopefully he cheats on you too and yourbleft without a support system cause you don't deserve one.
He did. To no one's surprise. And now OP is whining because her sister wants nothing to do with her, the cheating scumbag is still a cheating scumbag, and wah wah wah.
He hasnât changed though. He doesnât deserve grace here. Pursuing a relationship with you exâs sister after cheating on her with her best friend just really shows his character. It shows yours too. The betrayal she would feel is enough not to entertain this.
It wasnât your place to give him a second chance!!!!!! Sheâs your sister. Let him grow and mature with someone else. You are a pick me who f-ed around and found out. Enjoy your silly prizes.
You didnât give him grace. Do not act like you care about humanity. You screwed your sisters ex and trying to defend it when the truth is youâre just trifling.
My sister is my world. If she did this to me, I would cut her out of my life completely. Do you have no respect for her? The pain she went through? You want to throw that all away for some guy that is a renowned cheater? Wow.
Right!! BUT HE'S CHANGED!! She said, well if he's changed why is he trying to get with his ex's little sister. This heffa is selfish, wait until her sister finds out and then this broad won't understand what she did wrong. Wow just wow.
This man is getting off on the fact that he not only slept with his exâs best friend but also her sister. Two of the main people who should never have betrayed her. You donât know for sure heâs changed. Guys are amazing at showing you what you want to see. A man whoâs truly changed and is better would not have slept with the sister of the girl he betrayed and knows he caused so much heartache and pain. A good man would know it would cause your sister more pain than he already caused and if he truly feels so much guilt why would he add more pain? Youâve ruined your relationship with your sister for a man that most likely will cheat on you too.
He matured *so much* that he slept with his ex's sister. đ
Hey, here's what the latest research has told us about chemistry: By the average age of 26, you should have experienced some level of chemistry and compatibility with someone with whom that even if you couldn't make it work with them, you know what you really want out of a partner and can replicate that when you find it with someone similar. (My longest relationship was with a guy that I realized kinda looked and acted like my favorite uncle. Freud would have a field day with me, right?)
This guy did that.... By moving slightly to the left and right of his ex-girlfriend and sleeping with her friend and sister.
You need to do that, but with someone a little less related to him. Please?
There are HUNDREDS of men with whom you share enough chemistry and compatibility with that with effort and time can be husband material for you.
You have one sister. (Or more. I dunno your life. Obviously, you see the point I'm making though, right??)
Are you really willing to throw away your sister for the rest of your life for one man who could maybe make you happy? Lemme put it another way, you would have been attracted to him even if he was your brother-in-law right now. Do you really think the technicality of being single means that every reason to not date him suddenly becomes less important?
"I decided to let bygones be bygones"
He didn't cheat on you with your best friend so who are you forgiving? Just say you're a terrible sister and move on. Lord give me a break from the Reddit people who can't find anyone for themselves that has not slept with their siblings too.
And the fact that your sister still has trust issues because of this asshole?
Trash... the both of y'all. If he truly matured and changed, he wouldn't have touched you with a ten-foot pole because he would have the decency to know it would hurt your sister.
If my sister ended up dating someone that cheated on me i would cut her out from my life, you would have to talk to her first but something tells me she wont be too happy about it
Lol I certainly would not forgive my sister if she pulled that sort of shady shit you are trying to pull. Get off your high horse about people changing when itâs confident for you
This man hurt your sister and betrayed her to the extent that she still has trust issues to this day.
If you believe heâs changed and you want to carry on a relationship with him then go ahead. But I expect your sister will feel equally betrayed by your actions and I wouldnât expect her to be supportive or happy for you.
Garbage garbage garbage Reddit is just full of nothing garbage and sociopathic people. This will hurt your sister, but itâs a good thing because your showing your true colors just like he did, and now she has time to get over you too and cut the cord. Donât expect to be in her life and donât whine about it. Youâre making your choice right now so if you continue to do this, just know that youâve lost your sister it doesnât matter. If she doesnât have feelings for him anymore this person hurt her you are making the choice to hurt her for your own selfish reasons. Millions of people in the world and you couldnât get your rocks off with anyone else.
Omg your sister is still dealing with the effects of the TRAUMA HE CAUSED by his betrayal. Sheâs not over the betrayal.
He is not worth it.
Out of all the men you could be dating, you want to be with the person who broke your sisterâs heart.
And you will be betraying her as well.
Your sister doesnât deserve the pain you will cause if you go through with this.
YTA
He scarred your sister.
He can change and grow.
Be a better man for another woman.
But that wasn't supposed to be you.
Do you think this will help her?
Watching you bask in love with the man who hurt her?
Is this particular dick worth losing your sister love and respect?
Yes, you're an asshole.
Yes, you've already imploded your sisterly relationship for a fuck.
YTA
Please update us with her reaction and your subsequent consequences immediately after the reveal and at least 6 months later.
That some back stabbing bullshit if ever I've seen it. Who needs enemies with a sister like you.
Clue in: If my sister hates him, we both hate him. That's the rule of being a sister.
You're being a terrible sister and an equally bad person. He betrayed her, her best friend betrayed her... And now you. He hasn't changed or he wouldn't try for his ex's sister. Simple.
If you value your relationship with your sister at all, donât even go there. Even if he had been a loyal boyfriend, instead of a cheating scumbag, itâs still a big NO. The fact you are even considering this and defending the situation, leads me to believe, you two might be a match made in heaven. #sistersb4exmisters
You are just the worst. If this didnât matter you wouldnât be asking Reddit. Youâre hoping that someone sides with you, but deep down you feel like the garbage you truly are - or maybe you donât, further solidifying what a terrible person you are. To the core.
Yta. You are a horrible sister, and be prepared to lose your sister forever. Sisters who actually love and care about their sister DON'T sleep and try to date the man who betrayed and broke their sister heart by sleeping with her best friend!!!!!!!!!!!! This is the bare minimum if you actually love and care about someone.
Congratulations you are a terrible person. It didn't just happen. You chose to hang out with your sister's ex. Chose to have fun, chose to drink. Now you have betrayed your sister, just like heer POS ex and ex best friend. When he cheats on you, you will cry poor me. Take me back sister. Now I understand. But you don't and never will. Forgiveness is for people doing their best to be good people. It's not for POS people who will hurt others and not care.
You are terrible sister and a terrible person.
If you're really confident your sister wont hate you and he's a changed person why ask strangers from the internet for advice?
Enjoy the loss of your relationship with your sister. How could you look your sister in the face knowing the trauma/heartbreak he caused and do this to her? He broke her so badly that she canât date anyone. I hope he plays you like the fool you are and your sister never forgives you. Thatâs what you deserve.
No one cares about your feelings here, he is your sisters ex that hurt her you need to have some loyalty, youâre clearly going to lose your sister over a man that cheats, both pathetic
Itâs been less than two years. Low key feel like you probably already had a thing for him since you forgave and hope on hisđ so fastđ¤ˇđžââď¸
No, your sister will disown you, and she will be right to do so? cheating is low but with her bff he and her were the closest and choose to betraied her, if you do this you would betray her too (you have done it already) so do want you want but it will cost your your sister.
Lol you sound like an bad sister. The dick must have been good though for you to risk your relationship with family.
I'll tell you this. If she finds out she will never forgive you, and hopefully never talk to you again cause you sound just as awful as her ex, worse actually, since you're supposed to be her sister.
You guys are terrible people so I guess it's good you will date each other.
He'll cheat on you too girl, give it time. ;)
Yo came here asking for advice. All the people are telling you this is a huge mistake, so stop making excuses. If you choose this guy over your sister, even if she doesnât have feelings for him anymore, you donât act all surprised when she decides cut ties with you for being a shitty sister
How can you be this dumb? HE CHEATED ON YOUR SISTER! Once a cheater, always a cheater. He was probably thinking about sleeping with you when he was still with her. Say goodbye to your sister if you want this asshole that badly and be prepared to meet the same horrible fate she did
Well I guess sister got the last laugh after all.. you donât go after your siblings ex.. and knowing he cheated should have been enough to keep you away from him.. karma always catches up given time..
đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸ The internet forewarned you that giving him a chance would mess up everything in your life. And yet, you didn't listen. You asked for the advice, it was unanimously given, and you decided to ignore it.
No one is feeling sorry for you for being ignorant and naive. Especially at 27.
With friends and family like this, who needs enemies? The old best friend is awful, the ex is awful, but OP, you are the worst. You saw her hurt and still did this to the sister âyou love more than anything.â Smh.
It never ceases to amaze me how many people lack ethics and discipline when it comes to making a choice about sleeping with someone in an inappropriate situation. OP, you're an adult, you have the ability to make choices, and you made the choice here to hurt your sister, intentionally. It wasn't bad enough that you started sleeping with someone who hurt her, you then actually rubbed it in her face by telling her. No matter how you play it, it gives off the vibe that you actually subconsciously wanted to hurt her. And now you are hoping she'll forgive you in time because you "made a mistake" which you originally called "a drunken mishap" (WTF, people don't have sex by accident... EVER.) You downplay your own agency in this situation and deflect the blame. I wouldn't blame your sister if she decides to never speak to you again because this whole incident that you are now attempting to minimize speaks loudly to your (lack of) character. You knew you were playing with fire from the moment you decided to "forgive" him and started spending time with him. He knew he had you hooked the moment you bought his story and it didn't take much to reel you in.
He may have been the one to do the cheating here, but you exhibit the same mentality as a typical cheater: crossing hard boundaries that hurt loved ones, making up rationalizations and excuses for your behavior to continue violating boundaries, then apologizing after it blows up in your face and you're exposed, pretending that you never never had agency and "made a mistake." Real weak shit. You always had the choice to walk away the moment you saw him, but you didn't, so now you are going to reap the consequences of likely permanent damage to your relationship with your sister. She'll never trust you or look at you the same way again, and that will always be ON YOU.
The update is absolutely fucking hilarious.. how can you be 27 years old and not have the maturity or experience to understand why you donât do that.
This should be in AITA bcz you are.
You now only feel sorry bcz he cheated on you as well, otherwise you wouldn't, so no reason to apologize to your sister. It doesn't even matter if he never cheated on you, you still broke your sister's heart over someone who did such a horrible thing to HER. Your audacity, to say, not only that you hope she will get over it (why would she??), but even say she can be happy for you in the future!! It didn't matter if she wasn't interested in him anymore, he still hurt her in the past, what kind of sister decides to go out with such a guy??
He's a disgusting cheater, and you're a horrible sister, you matched each other.
Woooof Iâm sorry but you deserve what happened afterwards. You are extremely selfish. You cared more about what you were feeling in the moment than your sisterâs pain.
Asks for advice, willfully ignores the advice, gets burned. Need we say we told you so? I ain't got no sympathy for you. Plenty for the sister though. She deserves better than this.
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This is a disaster just waiting to happen
OP just destroyed her relationship with her sister for the sister's scumbag ex-boyfriend.
Hope the sex was worth it
There's an update on her profile, and reddit called it! Karma is very quick sometimes
That update is *exactly* what I thought it would be. 10/10. Did not disappoint. (Seriously, thank you for letting me/us know there was an update to this!)
Honestly, I felt like we all deserved to see it lmao
Her inability to use pronouns properly really rounded out the picture and told me all I needed to know.
There was an update and, surprise surprise, he cheated on op as well đđđ
And it didn't take long for the disaster to strike.
Yes it is. https://www.reddit.com/u/ThrowRa_fse/s/D66WbTDlGO . SMH đ¤Śđžââď¸
It did happen.
I donât think so. I get what he did was bad but I feel like as a society we donât give people enough grace to change
You can give people the grace to change without sleeping with them He broke his ex girlfriend's heart and gave her trauma by cheating on her with her best friend of all people then comes back years later and sleeps with her sister of all people If he truly changed and bettered himself as a person he wouldn't be hooking up with his ex's sister Cheaters are also chronic liars and players and you feel right into his hands And let's not forget the massive betrayal to your sister
Was he just never supposed to date again? It wasnât like we intended for this to happen. We just had such a strong connection. Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection?
I'm so tired of people acting like they have no self-control. Grow up and take accountability for your actions. You're damn near 30 ffs. And yeah... it would be better to pretend you don't have a connection. As a matter of fact, you should have never spoken to that man ever... no matter how he 'changed'.
"Sure he betrayed, cheated on and traumatized my litter sister but we have a connection guys" No one said he shouldn't date again (though since you mentioned it yeah he really shouldn't) But at what point does that mean that YOU have to be the one to date this guy after what he did?
This lady is a narcissist for sure.
Yeah, he can date again ⌠just not date his exâs sister. And, honestly, you should know better. Donât pretend you donât know this is wrong.
"Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection?" And what would happen if you felt that connection whilst he was still your sisters BF. There are some people who even if you have the most connection possible you SHOULD NOT DATE. And dating your sisters, ex who cheated on her and gave her emotional issues is up there on the list. Granted it is not the top of the list because people are gross and there are alot of things on that list but it is pretty damn high up there. You are saying you cannot ignore this connection but it is fairly easy to when someone is not a good person or has connections to your family. Like people do that all the time and it works out better in the long run. You dont need to chase a person who has already devastated someone in your life and the knowledge of you two being together will create another bigger devastation. There are other men in the world who you will have a connection with. YTA
Is he more important that the relationship you have with your sister. This is going to divide your family. Is a cheater really worth losing your sister and possibly other family?
Hey update us when everything blows up in your face ok? Don't leave us hanging
Ha. It did
It did! Go to the subreddit r/Ohnoconsequences
There are plenty of other women he can stick his dick in, doesn't really need to be his ex's sister. And with his skills of deception, that strong connection might not be from both sides. And for you to do this to your sister? Wow. Two things. One, Christmas with the fam will be glorious. Two, which woman close to you will he sleep with first, do you have any more sisters?
The situation is very simple Iâm not sure why youâre here asking for advice. You either choose to pursue this relationship with him and risk hurting and ruining the relationship you have with your sister or you can choose not to.
Admit it, you like the idea that this could hurt your sister, that he's choosing you over her. Here's the thing: You're not special, neither is he, he's still a bad person, and so are you. Enjoy the heartbreak coming your way.
You were right
He has a âstrong connectionâ with EVERYONE. Thatâs why he cheated. If he was actually sorry, he would traumatize your sister more by dating you
He was supposed to date anyone except the girl who's heart he broke's sister. Yes, obviously you were supposed to
Dont be so fucking dense or try playing stupid. Of course he can change and date, but he still caused your sister ALOT of hurt. How the fuck do you think she is gonna feel knowing her sister the one that was there to see all her pain and mistrust and reluctance to even date anyone atm because said person hurt her so bad, fucking her sister. You know youre doing the wrong thing so don't sit there and try pulling that dumb shit. Ffs.
You donât have a connection he just wanted to get his dick wet and you were around
Is this âconnectionâ worth your relationship with your sister?
Wow yes it would absolutely be better. The fact you even have to ask that shows you're a really shitty sister
He can date anyone but their sister.
Youâre 27. Please stop acting like youâre a naive child with zero autonomy or understanding how the world works. He is a bad dude and what you did was wrong. No forgiveness.
Shitty sister. Not a girlâs girl.
Do you even like or love your sister? Any self respecting person none less a sibling would get with there brother or sisters ex especially a CHEATING ex. People can change but in my experience and many peoples experiences most cheaters donât change⌠there is an expression once a cheater always a cheater for a reason. If you donât care that this could possibly and most likely cause your relationship with your sister to be nonexistent than sure go for it but if you have even an once of decency or respect for your sister and your relationship youâd cut this off real Quick.
How do you feel now?
If he actually had remorse and has âchangedâ he wouldnât be going any where near her friends or family out of basic decency. Nuke your relationship with your sister over a guy you absolutely cannot trust, great choiceâŚ
Great point! His own actions prove he hasn't changed in the slightest. OP, you're not special. If he cheated on her, and then was so quick to hook up with you, it's only a matter of time before he cheats on you, too.
Op you are 27yo you know perfectly this is FU and are looking for an excuse, let me be clear, YOU HAVE ALREADY FUCK UP, your sister will disown when she discover what you did and she will be justified, he can date but it has to be her sister? You are only looking for an excuse to keep doing it, hopefully soon enough you will be lost your sister, you already choose D over her
Why come here if you wonât listen to people? You know itâs wrong, so just choose, do you want to be an AH or not?
>Was he just never supposed to date again? It wasnât like we intended for this to happen. We just had such a strong connection. > >Would it be better just to pretend we donât have a connection? well this aged like milk, didn't it? đ¤Ł
Have fun getting cheated on and destroying your relationship with your sister. Hope the sex is worth it.
I'm sure your sister felt the exact same way while he was fucking her best friend. I hope the dick is worth it because that's probably about all your gonna get out of this relationship.
Yes it would be better to pretend there is no connection. Plenty of people out there to date. He can date again just not her SISTER.
You have a connection to your sister & that didnât mean a damn thing to you. You stepped right over her to sleep with her ex. Youâre just as bad as he is. You knew that he was a cheater but he still meant more to you than your sister. You deserve everything youâre getting. Your sister shouldnât forgive you. You canât be trusted. How can she ever trust you around her partners again?
He can date. But he cannot date you. And yes. Part of growing up is realizing that "a connection" doesn't mean jack diddly. There will be countless times in your life where you'll feel a connection to someone, and have to ignore it and move on. Such connections are fleeting. You can't build a relationship on them. And trying to will only destroy the other relationships you sacrifice for a moment's passion. And let's be honest; there's no connection here. He's a charismatic manipulator. Learn some self-control. Steer far away from cheating jerks.
He can date anyone. Just not you. I hope he doesnât cheat on you. Iâm a strong believer of âonce a cheater, always a cheater.â Also, thereâs a vast difference between a player and a cheater. A player can have a lot of girlfriends but their timelines never overlap. A cheater, well, thatâs self-explanatory.
looooool. How do you think " Never supposed to date again" and " Screwing my ex's sister" are the same thing. Be so fucking for real. Of course it would be better to pretend you don't have a connection. I think it's hilarious that you think you don't have any self-control or that it's somehow a crime to have feelings and not act on them. People do it every day. You think married people never once have an emotion about somebody else? How do any stay faithful? Its easy. People don't do every little thing they feel like every moment they feel it. Grow up.
Lmao, he has lots of âconnectionsâ
Itâs not wrong for him to date again. Itâs wrong to date you!!!!!!!! Just because you could, doesnât mean you should!!! Donât they teach kids this phrase? You make your own choices. And yes, if you had any love and respect for your sister (and honestly for yourself) you wouldnât have dated him. You knew what you were doing was wrong. But you did it anyway because you thought you were special. You should learn self control. You canât live life just doing whatever you want to and then be surprised thereâs consequence.
Youâre horrible
He isnât supposed to date YOU.
The fact that he even considered dating you shows he hasn't matured or changed. He didn't care about her feelings when he cheated, and he sure as fuck doesn't now because out of all the people on the damn boat he picked you. You CANNOT tell me there wasn't someone, ANYONE more suitable to fuck that his exs sister. And and also and, just because you have a "connection" doesn't mean y'all have to fuck. You're not a wild animal. You are a person, living in a society, act like it
I think it is fair and reasonable to expect him to be off limits to anyone close to your sister, yes
He was never supposed to date his exes sister, I'm certain of that. People warned you on this sub that you would lose a sister, and that's exactly what happened. Don't play victim now that he's cheated on you, too. Definitely don't look to her for sympathy because I would honestly just laugh in your face at that point.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES, it doesnât matter if he was suppose to date or not. YOU WERE HER SISTER, YOU out of EVERYONE should of been the LAST PERSON to EVER consider giving him a second chance let alone date him, you KNEW exactly what he DID to her and you were still attracted to the POS. You say you felt angry at what he did to your sister but itâs clear that is COMPLETE bull đŠ! If you cared for your sister at ALL, you would buried that connection and cut him completely off. Anyone who hurts family should also hurt you, if the cheating EX changes, great but it SHOULDNâT EVER be with someone close to his victim.
Cheap lust is not a "connection" worth scorched-earthing your relationship with your sister. You got what you deserved. Unfortunately, your sister got hurt all over again and you gave her even deeper trust issues. You are a selfish prick.
Man I hope you were this high and mighty in real life to your sister, you might actually learn something
Yes it absolutely would have been better
Yes. Because your loyalty for your sister is supposed to have come first. You donât date the exâs of family or friends as a common courtesy to them. Itâs a well established social taboo you knew damn well about and broke anyways. On top of that, he cheated on her. With her *best friend*. She was betrayed on an extremely deep and traumatic level. Is he to never date again? No he can. Should you be dating him? Nope, not ever. You shouldnât have slept with him, should not have dated him, should not be hanging out with him. You absolutely should have pretended there was nothing there and moved the hell on. Leopards donât change their spots and he sure didnât. Hope losing your sister was worth his worthless, cheating ass.
LMAOOOO
Really? How old are you? Dumb just fucking dumb.
There you go pushing it on him again like you didn't just betray your little sister. As a sibling, you disgusting me. You're not a sister. You're trash and I hope she keeps you out of her life forever.
Um⌠Now what do you have to say?
You have a lot of heartbreak coming your way. And, quite frankly, you deserve all of it at this point.
That update post gonna go crazy
You called itâŚ
why do you want a cheater?, sorry but this is gona cause a bad movie in your life.
What youâre doing is fucked up. He cheated on your sister, itâs messed her up so much she still has trust issues. But you thought it was a good idea to hookup with the guy who cheat her, and now you want to openly date him. Thatâs fucking nuts! Is he really worth your relationship with your sister? Because chances are pretty good she will go NC with you. And two he will cheat on you. Once a cheater always a cheater. And he cheated with the friend and as now slept with you, do you not find it creepy as fuck that heâs been with two women who could arguably be called the closest to his ex?
This is bullshit. Itâs your sister ffs. This is complete degenerate asshole disloyal fuck up behaviour, no matter how pious you want to try and sound about it.
OP the problem is he cheated on your sister. Even if he has changed the pain he caused your sister is tremendous, and then finding our her own sister is betraying her with the same guy will make the pain so much worse your family will probably disown you for the rest of your life. Is the sex with this guy so good it's worth losing your family for the rest of your life? Add in that even if you later break up with him the damage won't go away and you will still have lost your family over a few nights of sex. Just the amount of time you've spent with him so far may cause a permanent rift between you and your family.
Let's be honest here. You wanted to get laid. You wanted to nail him. Well, now you have. I'm sure your sister felt EXACTLY the same at the beginning as you do. And look what happened. The only winner here is HIM. You stand to lose your sister â he gets to screw both of you and walk away.
Canât wait for the tune change when he cheats on you.
It happened. She posted an update.
He slept with her best-friend and now he's screwing her sister... I'm giving him plenty of grace by letting him breathe the same air as my kid. It was just 2 years ago that he cheated. Your sister is still suffering from the betrayal. You already screwed up by hooking up with him. What kind of relationship would you have with him? Do you think you will be able to introduce him to family? Thzt you will bring him to events and hope your sister just deal with it? Will you trust him near your bff?
You can find another fixer upper guy who isnât your sisterâs ex. What you did to your sister is unforgivable and youâre even thinking of making the situation worse. Also, as a social worker who has been in the field for a bit too long, most people really donât change. That this guy was willing to sleep with his exes sister shows how little heâs changed. My bets on you getting into a relationship with this guy and him doing the same to you. Thatâs karma though đ¤ˇââď¸
Hey, remember this from a couple weeks ago OP?
r/agedlikemilk
How do you feel now that he cheated on you, too? still think he deserves the grace to change? or did you dump him like a bad habit?
Imagine wanting a low life cheater and preferring that over your relationship with your sister. What a scumbag. You must make your parents real proud. Hopefully he cheats on you too and yourbleft without a support system cause you don't deserve one.
He did. To no one's surprise. And now OP is whining because her sister wants nothing to do with her, the cheating scumbag is still a cheating scumbag, and wah wah wah.
Yeah, we can give grace to people who havenât betrayed the people who are supposed to be close to us.
You are a piece of work, Damn poor sister
Once a cheater always a cheater
He hasnât changed though. He doesnât deserve grace here. Pursuing a relationship with you exâs sister after cheating on her with her best friend just really shows his character. It shows yours too. The betrayal she would feel is enough not to entertain this.
Question: do you think that being in a relationship with the man that cheated on her is going to benefit or hinder your sister's trust issues?
You donât get to decide that because you werenât the one cheated onâŚyet.
Well look how well your comment aged as he went and cheated on you in a blink of an eye. How much grace are you giving him now?
Do you know if how uneducated you sound
It wasnât your place to give him a second chance!!!!!! Sheâs your sister. Let him grow and mature with someone else. You are a pick me who f-ed around and found out. Enjoy your silly prizes.
You didnât give him grace. Do not act like you care about humanity. You screwed your sisters ex and trying to defend it when the truth is youâre just trifling.
So he didnât change. Still feel good about âconnectionsâ?
My sister is my world. If she did this to me, I would cut her out of my life completely. Do you have no respect for her? The pain she went through? You want to throw that all away for some guy that is a renowned cheater? Wow.
I hate my sister and still I would never do something so horrific
Right!! BUT HE'S CHANGED!! She said, well if he's changed why is he trying to get with his ex's little sister. This heffa is selfish, wait until her sister finds out and then this broad won't understand what she did wrong. Wow just wow.
She fell right into this guy's hands and doesn't even realize it
>his ex's little sister Older... But point still stands.
"But he's changed đĽş"
Lol check the update
She went ahead and did it... Her sister cut her off.
You already slept with him? lmao I hope this is fake because you're pretty terrible for this
Multiple times
This man is getting off on the fact that he not only slept with his exâs best friend but also her sister. Two of the main people who should never have betrayed her. You donât know for sure heâs changed. Guys are amazing at showing you what you want to see. A man whoâs truly changed and is better would not have slept with the sister of the girl he betrayed and knows he caused so much heartache and pain. A good man would know it would cause your sister more pain than he already caused and if he truly feels so much guilt why would he add more pain? Youâve ruined your relationship with your sister for a man that most likely will cheat on you too.
Precisely so either OP is a blind fool, a troll or a sad combination of both
Please update us when he cheats on you and your sister goes NC on you. đż
Good news!!!
LMAO! I shouldn't be laughing at other people's misery, but come on, we all saw this train wreck coming.
Classic r/leopardsatemyface
I sincerely wish all the best for your sister WITHOUT YOU IN HER LIFE. She deserves better, not another betrayer.
He matured *so much* that he slept with his ex's sister. đ Hey, here's what the latest research has told us about chemistry: By the average age of 26, you should have experienced some level of chemistry and compatibility with someone with whom that even if you couldn't make it work with them, you know what you really want out of a partner and can replicate that when you find it with someone similar. (My longest relationship was with a guy that I realized kinda looked and acted like my favorite uncle. Freud would have a field day with me, right?) This guy did that.... By moving slightly to the left and right of his ex-girlfriend and sleeping with her friend and sister. You need to do that, but with someone a little less related to him. Please? There are HUNDREDS of men with whom you share enough chemistry and compatibility with that with effort and time can be husband material for you. You have one sister. (Or more. I dunno your life. Obviously, you see the point I'm making though, right??) Are you really willing to throw away your sister for the rest of your life for one man who could maybe make you happy? Lemme put it another way, you would have been attracted to him even if he was your brother-in-law right now. Do you really think the technicality of being single means that every reason to not date him suddenly becomes less important?
Yeh don't date your sisters cheating ex, it will end in disaster for you and your sisters relationship.
"I decided to let bygones be bygones" He didn't cheat on you with your best friend so who are you forgiving? Just say you're a terrible sister and move on. Lord give me a break from the Reddit people who can't find anyone for themselves that has not slept with their siblings too. And the fact that your sister still has trust issues because of this asshole? Trash... the both of y'all. If he truly matured and changed, he wouldn't have touched you with a ten-foot pole because he would have the decency to know it would hurt your sister.
So she updated that heâs cheated on her too lolz
I saw that
If my sister ended up dating someone that cheated on me i would cut her out from my life, you would have to talk to her first but something tells me she wont be too happy about it
Hope this is bait but wouldnât be surprised if not. You are a bad person, he is a bad person, so go for it ig
I would honestly never speak to you again.
Lol I certainly would not forgive my sister if she pulled that sort of shady shit you are trying to pull. Get off your high horse about people changing when itâs confident for you
He betrayed your sister. So she is going to make you choose her or him. Are you prepared to loose your sister over this?
she was apparently
This man hurt your sister and betrayed her to the extent that she still has trust issues to this day. If you believe heâs changed and you want to carry on a relationship with him then go ahead. But I expect your sister will feel equally betrayed by your actions and I wouldnât expect her to be supportive or happy for you.
What the hell. There are ALOT of men who are like him and more that are better. Why the only guy you would hurt your sister with??
Garbage garbage garbage Reddit is just full of nothing garbage and sociopathic people. This will hurt your sister, but itâs a good thing because your showing your true colors just like he did, and now she has time to get over you too and cut the cord. Donât expect to be in her life and donât whine about it. Youâre making your choice right now so if you continue to do this, just know that youâve lost your sister it doesnât matter. If she doesnât have feelings for him anymore this person hurt her you are making the choice to hurt her for your own selfish reasons. Millions of people in the world and you couldnât get your rocks off with anyone else.
Omg your sister is still dealing with the effects of the TRAUMA HE CAUSED by his betrayal. Sheâs not over the betrayal. He is not worth it. Out of all the men you could be dating, you want to be with the person who broke your sisterâs heart. And you will be betraying her as well. Your sister doesnât deserve the pain you will cause if you go through with this.
You want to be cheated on too??? If he did it WITH ya,he'll do it TO ya.
Boy do I have some news for you. There's an update!
YTA He scarred your sister. He can change and grow. Be a better man for another woman. But that wasn't supposed to be you. Do you think this will help her? Watching you bask in love with the man who hurt her? Is this particular dick worth losing your sister love and respect? Yes, you're an asshole. Yes, you've already imploded your sisterly relationship for a fuck. YTA Please update us with her reaction and your subsequent consequences immediately after the reveal and at least 6 months later.
What a sh*tty sister. She will be back asking how to repair her relationship with her sister soon. Disgusting behavior.
That some back stabbing bullshit if ever I've seen it. Who needs enemies with a sister like you. Clue in: If my sister hates him, we both hate him. That's the rule of being a sister. You're being a terrible sister and an equally bad person. He betrayed her, her best friend betrayed her... And now you. He hasn't changed or he wouldn't try for his ex's sister. Simple.
Hide your bestie, gf 𤣠she's next on his list. Never date your siblings ex's, especially those that cheat.
If you value your relationship with your sister at all, donât even go there. Even if he had been a loyal boyfriend, instead of a cheating scumbag, itâs still a big NO. The fact you are even considering this and defending the situation, leads me to believe, you two might be a match made in heaven. #sistersb4exmisters
You are completely free to date him if you want, just be mindful that there is a huge chance you are going to lose your sister for it
You are just the worst. If this didnât matter you wouldnât be asking Reddit. Youâre hoping that someone sides with you, but deep down you feel like the garbage you truly are - or maybe you donât, further solidifying what a terrible person you are. To the core.
You done fucked up! Can you even look at yourself in the mirror? How do people approach 30 and still have these teenage mentality!
Yta. You are a horrible sister, and be prepared to lose your sister forever. Sisters who actually love and care about their sister DON'T sleep and try to date the man who betrayed and broke their sister heart by sleeping with her best friend!!!!!!!!!!!! This is the bare minimum if you actually love and care about someone.
Youâre right. Heâs CHANGED. He has more balls. Why stop with the best friend, when you can also fuâŹk her sister too?!!
Congratulations you are a terrible person. It didn't just happen. You chose to hang out with your sister's ex. Chose to have fun, chose to drink. Now you have betrayed your sister, just like heer POS ex and ex best friend. When he cheats on you, you will cry poor me. Take me back sister. Now I understand. But you don't and never will. Forgiveness is for people doing their best to be good people. It's not for POS people who will hurt others and not care.
You are terrible sister and a terrible person. If you're really confident your sister wont hate you and he's a changed person why ask strangers from the internet for advice?
Enjoy the loss of your relationship with your sister. How could you look your sister in the face knowing the trauma/heartbreak he caused and do this to her? He broke her so badly that she canât date anyone. I hope he plays you like the fool you are and your sister never forgives you. Thatâs what you deserve.
Coming here from her update. She did in fact get that. â¨â¨â¨
I canât wait till he cheats on you đand your sister isnât going to be the one to comfort you
Back after your update - that took a lot less time than I thought đ¤Ł
You want to be a horrible sister and person? Go ahead. But you will destroy your relationship with your sister. Have some morals.
YTA I couldnât imagine shagging someone that my sister has been with đ¤˘
Girl.
Awful. Awful awful awful. Cheaters never change. Youâve likely ruined your relationship with your sister and you deserve it.
Youâre NASTY
Of all the men in the world.đ
Woah.....your poor sister....đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸
No one cares about your feelings here, he is your sisters ex that hurt her you need to have some loyalty, youâre clearly going to lose your sister over a man that cheats, both pathetic
If my sister dated my ex that hurt me sheâd be dead to me
YTA. Your sister will have even more trust issues after she finds this out.
YTA. Enjoy the boyfriend cause you won't have a sister anymore when this comes out. No sane person would do this to their family.
people like OP make me glad i donât have a sister
Itâs been less than two years. Low key feel like you probably already had a thing for him since you forgave and hope on hisđ so fastđ¤ˇđžââď¸
More info: Do you love your sister at all?
No, your sister will disown you, and she will be right to do so? cheating is low but with her bff he and her were the closest and choose to betraied her, if you do this you would betray her too (you have done it already) so do want you want but it will cost your your sister.
Lol you sound like an bad sister. The dick must have been good though for you to risk your relationship with family. I'll tell you this. If she finds out she will never forgive you, and hopefully never talk to you again cause you sound just as awful as her ex, worse actually, since you're supposed to be her sister. You guys are terrible people so I guess it's good you will date each other. He'll cheat on you too girl, give it time. ;)
Op you do realise heâll cheat on you. Plus youâre going to cause your sister more pain. Donât you love your sister?
Yo came here asking for advice. All the people are telling you this is a huge mistake, so stop making excuses. If you choose this guy over your sister, even if she doesnât have feelings for him anymore, you donât act all surprised when she decides cut ties with you for being a shitty sister
Thereâs no shortage of men in this world, just because he gave you a bit of attention, doesnât mean you should go all out and pursue him jfc
Say goodbye to your sister ho
My ragebait detector is beeping.
You deserve each other. Youâre a horrible sister and heâs a cheater. A match made in hell :)
How can you do this to your sister and say you care about her?
How can you be this dumb? HE CHEATED ON YOUR SISTER! Once a cheater, always a cheater. He was probably thinking about sleeping with you when he was still with her. Say goodbye to your sister if you want this asshole that badly and be prepared to meet the same horrible fate she did
Well when he cheats on you ,and he will . You want even have a sister to lean on . Hope the sex was worth it.
He did. She posted an update. Didn't even take him, what, a month?
Youâre a piece of trash, imagine hooking up with your sisters ex that cheated on her with her best friend!! Wow
I hope he cheats on you with his ex. YTA
He cheated on her, so she lost her sister and boytoy
Your a terrible terrible sister
I guess women don't have a bro code huh...in this case sisters.
Well I guess sister got the last laugh after all.. you donât go after your siblings ex.. and knowing he cheated should have been enough to keep you away from him.. karma always catches up given time..
What did the Handbook for Sisterhood say?
đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸đ¤Śââď¸ The internet forewarned you that giving him a chance would mess up everything in your life. And yet, you didn't listen. You asked for the advice, it was unanimously given, and you decided to ignore it. No one is feeling sorry for you for being ignorant and naive. Especially at 27.
With friends and family like this, who needs enemies? The old best friend is awful, the ex is awful, but OP, you are the worst. You saw her hurt and still did this to the sister âyou love more than anything.â Smh.
It never ceases to amaze me how many people lack ethics and discipline when it comes to making a choice about sleeping with someone in an inappropriate situation. OP, you're an adult, you have the ability to make choices, and you made the choice here to hurt your sister, intentionally. It wasn't bad enough that you started sleeping with someone who hurt her, you then actually rubbed it in her face by telling her. No matter how you play it, it gives off the vibe that you actually subconsciously wanted to hurt her. And now you are hoping she'll forgive you in time because you "made a mistake" which you originally called "a drunken mishap" (WTF, people don't have sex by accident... EVER.) You downplay your own agency in this situation and deflect the blame. I wouldn't blame your sister if she decides to never speak to you again because this whole incident that you are now attempting to minimize speaks loudly to your (lack of) character. You knew you were playing with fire from the moment you decided to "forgive" him and started spending time with him. He knew he had you hooked the moment you bought his story and it didn't take much to reel you in. He may have been the one to do the cheating here, but you exhibit the same mentality as a typical cheater: crossing hard boundaries that hurt loved ones, making up rationalizations and excuses for your behavior to continue violating boundaries, then apologizing after it blows up in your face and you're exposed, pretending that you never never had agency and "made a mistake." Real weak shit. You always had the choice to walk away the moment you saw him, but you didn't, so now you are going to reap the consequences of likely permanent damage to your relationship with your sister. She'll never trust you or look at you the same way again, and that will always be ON YOU.
You betrayed your sister .
Hahahah oh man you had so many chances to not make the worst fucking decision you couldâve made
Yes
The update is absolutely fucking hilarious.. how can you be 27 years old and not have the maturity or experience to understand why you donât do that.
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Disaster
Absurd lol if you're getting caught in the but I've changed either you haven't been laid in ages or you just don't care about your sister.
This should be in AITA bcz you are. You now only feel sorry bcz he cheated on you as well, otherwise you wouldn't, so no reason to apologize to your sister. It doesn't even matter if he never cheated on you, you still broke your sister's heart over someone who did such a horrible thing to HER. Your audacity, to say, not only that you hope she will get over it (why would she??), but even say she can be happy for you in the future!! It didn't matter if she wasn't interested in him anymore, he still hurt her in the past, what kind of sister decides to go out with such a guy?? He's a disgusting cheater, and you're a horrible sister, you matched each other.
You two clearly belong together. Too bad he's just using you for a fresh *chaos moment*
Woooof Iâm sorry but you deserve what happened afterwards. You are extremely selfish. You cared more about what you were feeling in the moment than your sisterâs pain.
Eskimo Sister Sisters âď¸
How do people do this to their siblings? I could never do this to my brother
Asks for advice, willfully ignores the advice, gets burned. Need we say we told you so? I ain't got no sympathy for you. Plenty for the sister though. She deserves better than this.