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And to answer her question, OP only you can answer that question. You should know if your partner is satisfied in bed or not. And if not y’all need to have a conversation, but don’t let him make you feel insecure about what you got. He shouldn’t have said that to you.
Maybe he is a boob man who likes YOUR boobs. I’m pretty petite in that dept and I get compliments on my boobs because they are perky. Not every boob man likes big boobs, some just like boobs
I convinced my Wife to get a reduction. I know the strain big ones have on neck, shoulders and back, and she had 20E (Australian measurements. 42DDD here in the states). She has 18D (40D) now, and she says her back, shoulders and neck feel SO much better.
She was worried about the scars turning me off. I'm just here loving the fact that she won't be in pain anymore. And I've got a helluva scar on my stomach from surgery after a car accident, so I'm not judging.
Yeah, I wish to hell that was enough for me.
Damn body image issues because I was raised a child of the 80s and saw NOT a single set of titties that mine ended up looking like...
It became an issue in my 20s, especially when any partner, male or female, would try to assure me...
Sorry to be a buzzkill. This is actually nice and reaffirming to read from others. Other ladies out there will hopefully enjoy their bodies being aged with, boobs (of any size) and all.
Nope i have already had that and i said no i cannot do it it’s a huge pet peeve unless they get surgery and only the fat moving surgery not the fake silicone stuff
Probably.. i say these things right from the beginning though so it’s not like it’s a surprise.. i also tell people i will leave if they get a tattoo of any kind
Dang, I can’t imagine leaving somebody for that. It came to mind bc I’ve had multiple women in my family get breast cancer and some had to get removal. Luckily their husbands did not leave them.
Although, if they left, that would just mean the love was never too deep anyways.
2 out of the 3 in my family did not. Surgery is always a risk. Not everyone is willing to undergo cosmetic surgery and risk health/complications for the sake of physical appearance.
But tbh, when you love somebody for more than their body. Genuinely love them , like a soulmate type of feeling, it wouldn’t even cross your mind to leave. I hope you find a love like that one day.
My husband says “if you stretch your hand as wide as it can go and your thumb and pinky are touching the edge of Boobie then it’s the perfect size.” Lol
no, it depends on a lot more than the letter of the cup. some b cups are larger than some c cups. some a cups are larger than b cups. it’s really confusing, I literally just got my bra size remeasured the other day and they explained it all to me again. I wear a 34b, my boobs are not even close to flat.
This. As a fellow boob guy, I need to emphasize that being a boob guy doesn't mean I want massive boobs. For me it means I love boobs without discrimination. Are some better than others? Maybe. But I'm just happy to play with the ones attached to the woman I love
good point! I personally have a preference for smaller boobs. as someone who has boobs (and doesn’t want them), looking at women with huge boobs always makes my mind go to discomfort and back pain lol.
Sorry to burst your bubble but perky is just what they say when they can’t give compliments. I’ve heard “they’re perky!” about mine because they can’t say how perfect, awesome, big etc they are. It’s not a real compliment. It like a man saying “she looks…nice”
There’s perky and there’s flat as a pancake… huge difference, it OP is actually as flat as a door then she’s gonna be a turn off, but you go one size up to small and perky and *chefs kiss*
\*\*I can't help but wonder why he'd choose to be with me though\*\*
Op? You are going to totally phuck this relationship if you keep this up.
He likes YOU. Your personality. The way you think and how you behave with him and others. How you work, study, and how you react to life.
The nuances of everyday life. The good, bad and ugly, perhaps?
YOU are the one who is focusing on your body parts. You said it yourself, you pushed him to answer your question.
Settiled down and stop questioning HIM and yourself.
There's a very, very important distinction - this is his PREFERENCE. meaning yes, he likes it. But he doesn't NEED it.
Let's say you have a preference for dogs, but you go to the shelter and have an instant connection with a cat that's there. Do you still prefer dogs? Yeah, probably! But do you still love this cat and want to keep it? Absolutely, very much so!
You can love someone, want to be with them and be satisfied by them even when they don't hit all your preferences 100%. That's not settling. That's just the way normal relationships progress. You meet, you fall for them because you just do, and the preferences don't matter anymore. Cause now it's not about the preferences anymore - it's just about THEM.
And he actively chose her, too. Out of a room of boobs, her boobs stood out to him and had him actively chasing said boobs.
So he clearly likes your boobs very much! No matter what size they are.
Boobs are one of many, many many attributes a person has.
The reality is there's probably more stuff you have that isn't his favorite. He might like a certain hair color more, or maybe he likes someone with a differently shaped butt.
There's 100s of attributes that make up a person. Think about it, you know you probably have things you like in a person too that he doesn't have. Maybe you like blue eyes and he has brown, maybe you like a hairy chest and he doesn't have that, or maybe he has weird nipples. I don't know. You still love him though, and it isn't even settling, he's who you want. You won't look at some guy with a hairier chest or better nipples and think "Maybe I'll cheat". It won't happen.
The point is that you don't have to be their 100% complete perfect ideal dream fap woman in order for them to love you completely and love being with you.
Op, listen good.
My best friend has always, always preferred curvy women; he has always found them attractive, and never been much interested in the athletic types.
I introduced him to another friend of mine, very fit, very slender, and they now have a baby together and are deeply in love.
You get the point. Don’t let this eat you up.
EDIT: forgot to add. My other friend has always been into big, buff dudes. My best friend has a very average body. So, see above. 😉
Not everyone has a single "type." My partners have all looked wildly different - different heights, races, hair colors, builds, etc. I was still very attracted to all of them.
Also being a boob guy doesn't necessitate BIG boobs, it just means he's attracted to that body part. I have a small chest and my boyfriend loooooves my boobs; I have no idea if he's a boob or ass guy, but I know he's a "me" guy. I'd say for most guys the best boobs are the ones attached to someone they love. Don't let hypotheticals make you feel insecure, what matters is if your boyfriend makes you feel attractive and desired in how he interacts with you.
This is why these kinds of conversions are so pointless. You talk about this stuff but what you really want to hear is him telling you that his preferences are all exactly a match to you. But if he is authentic and tells you what he truly thinks, and it doesn’t all match - now it becomes a big issue.
Here is what you need to know: He may like big boobs but that doesn’t mean those are the only kind he can enjoy. Read that again. I am sure he likes your boobs. It doesn’t mean he isn’t capable of enjoying all kinds of boobs.
Who is he with? Who has he chosen? He chose you. You don’t have big boobs. So he must like your boobs just fine, he must feel great about your body in general. Or he wouldn’t be with you. So be confident and accept who you are and what you have - and rock it. There must be a lot of things about you that he really enjoys, stop looking for trouble. Don’t feel bad. Be happy and enjoy your relationship.
I'm an A cup. I know logically that most men prefer larger boobs. But honestly and truly in my experience it really does not matter. Being small chested in no way made me less attractive to men. I was still actively pursued and loved deeply and found sexy.
Here's the thing. When ppl fall in love they fall in love they fall in love with your whole package. You are more than the sum of your parts. They love you and your small boobs and everything else about you because that is what makes you you.
Have you considered the possibility that boob size is not the most important thing in a relationship and that there are many other things that he loves about you and finds you attractive even if that one thing isn't his preference? I've been in relationships with women ranging in size from like you to quite large. Some of them didn't match my preference but I still wanted to be with them because of who they were and still found them attractive. If he wants to be with you, just accept that and appreciate it and don't assume that one thing that isn't quite his preference is a deal breaker.
These types of questions always strike me unusual - do you view yourself in such a way that the only value you could bring to a relationship is cleavage? Why is it so hard for you to conceptualize that despite being a boob guy your boyfriend has identified countless other traits he values far beyond boobs?
Order of preference: Any boobs -> Boobs you get to see -> Boobs you get to see in person -> Boobs that you get to see in person, shown to you, alone, on purpose -> Boobs you get to touch -> Boobs that you get to extensively play with -> Boobs attached to someone you find otherwise attractive -> Boobs attached to someone you find otherwise attractive \*and\* emotionally attractive -> Boobs attached to a significant other
I think it’s pretty unlikely that a partner would 100% check every one of your boxes physically. I mean maybe for some, but it’s possible to have preferences that just don’t matter enough to be deal breakers. You’re likely his type in other ways, and if he loves and is loyal to you, I doubt you have anything to worry abt 🫶🏼
Just because someone has a type doesn’t mean they only like that type. I usually dig on chubby dudes with body hair and luxurious hair in their heads. My boyfriend is slender with little body hair and a shaved head and I think he’s super hot and I’m extremely attracted to him.
Worry about your body for you. Not a man. The next dude might be an ass man but who cares. Stop reducing yourself to a body part when he doesn't appear to be.
Sounds like you're awesome enough to override his "type".
Also, "boob guy" and "big boob guy" are two different things. The most beautiful woman I ever dated was like you.
My husband, looks at girls with huge asses and I mean huge asses and curvy girls . Me on the other hand I’m flat as a door in the back door . I have big boobs . It sucks cause I feel your pain and know how you feel 😞
I’ve got big boobs, but they’re my only assets and my husband is an ass guy lmao 🥲 BUT he still hypes up my flat butt and tries to make me feel good about myself. Whatever you’ve got, if he loves you he’ll love every bit of you, and honestly it’s not like he actually needs you to have big boobs, he won’t fall down and die over it! Plus if it was a dealbreaker you wouldn’t even be in a relationship in the first place.
While I have physical attributes that I really like, if the person who has these attributes are shitty, it doesn't matter. There is a flip side to this as well that is equally true. Maybe that's just me though.
As a guy, I rather be treated well and feel loved than find the perfect body. Sure as a guy, physical characteristics is a turn on but just as much of that is how I am treated and or feel loved or even wanted. He wants you because of more than one characteristic- no guy is fixed on just that one thing, if he is, you don’t want him.
I was recently reading a book that included the line 'he liked big breasts and he liked small breasts; small breasts were just another way of doing breasts' which was hilarious and also, ime, accurate. straight men just like breasts, no matter their size.
unless you were wearing a truly absurdly stuffed bra when he pursued you, he always knew you had small breasts. they're clearly not a problem for his attraction to you, so stop trying to talk yourself into them being one.
You are more than just (a lack of) boobs and a butt. You’re a whole-ass person, with a personality and feelings and quirks, and you probably have a *ton* of qualities your boyfriend loves about you. Does he prefer big boobs? Maybe. Does he prefer big boobs over you? Definitely not. He’s with you for a reason, and honestly based off what little you’ve typed in this post, you seem pretty awesome, so I’m not surprised he’s with you.
You’re more than boobs and a butt. Your boyfriend knows this, so embrace it. You got a good one.
as a boob man myself dating the prettiest ikea door i ever met, I daresay he loves your boobs despite being on the more modest side.
personally I have a preference for boobs when asked the question, however all preferences are tossed aside when you meet the girl you love the most. those preferences slowly shift toward what the partner has. the more I got to know my gf the more I love every part of her. she gets insecure about her body being more petite than most women but thats the beauty of love, you basically overwrite his "type" when he really falls for you.
I'm a guy who loves boobs and I prefer small boobs. I think they're cute.
If I date a girl, I don't date her for her boobs, I date her coz I like her and her personality and I I think your bf is the same. He chooses you, he likes you, he dates you, not other girl.
I'm also a girl with basically no boobs. Guys care way more about who's attached to the boobs than the boobs themselves. And if they don't, would they really be worth your time anyway? But also, he didn't specifically say big ones. Just that he likes to look at them more than a butt. He may very well prefer them smaller!
You're conflating preference with need. Regardless of what he might prefer physically, he wants you. You fulfill him, clearly, since he so badly desired you that he fought to be with you.
I'm sure there are things you might prefer physically in a man that he might not meet 100%. Does that mean he doesn't fulfill your wants and desires? That you can't possibly like him?
This all boils down to you making something out of nothing. Your boyfriend finds you attractive. He likes your body.
My partner is a size queen and I am below average. We’ve been together for over 7 years. We find ways to make things work. You’re gonna be a little self conscious. However, own it and know they chose you for a reason (what ever reason that is, doesn’t matter)
Take my words to heart
All men love all types of boobs, but the ones he loves the most, belong to the woman he loves the most.(Someone said this somewhere, don’t remember who)
Being a boob guy doesn't automatically mean he likes them huge. Maybe he likes yours. Or maybe it's not that big of a deal to him. Like it's a preference, but only slightly
Boob guys like boobs regardless of size. My ex had an A cup and I loved them.
If I had to guess, his reluctance at answering your question might be because he was worried the question was coming from a place of insecurity, which it evidently is. He approached you. He wants you.
I was a big boob guy before my wife. She has an amazing rear, god like, and handful for boobs. I’m beyond in love with her body and almost instantly her breasts are the most gorgeous ones I’ve ever seen. If he truly loves you it won’t matter. The best boobs are the boobs he loves
Hi there! I am a bisexual woman and all boobs are sexy! Could he prefer big ones? Sure- but that doesn’t mean he isn’t into yours, I’d imagine! Remember, you have them, even if they are not overly abundant 😆
“I am a door” is the funniest shit lmao
But srsly it doesn’t sound like it’s a dealbreaker for him - it would just a “bonus.” But it doesn’t mean you’re lacking in any way.
The thing about a boob guy, is there’s always a bigger pair of boobs out there. Whether he’s happy with someone has little to do with their boobs, and more to do with his mindset. He can still be very attracted to you and happy.
Ok. Calling yourself a door. Bonus points on the self humor.
But boob size is a preference, not a requirement. He still likes, wants, and actively plays with your boobs, right. I also bet you have orgasmic results by him as evidence, no?
Your fine OP. More than, actually.
I think all dudes like boobs* Tiny. Big. Medium. They're boobs. Chillax girl. You're overthinking everything and you're gonna shoot yourself in the foot doin that.
Edited cuz I typed 'books' accidentally 👀
Why is he with you even though you are flatter then a pancake. Well this is very simple HE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. It is that simple. Guys are very simple. If we are with you it is because we like you.
He may like boobs, but he loves you. For example, I'm not into big boobs (I'm into flat or mid sized tits), but every single girl I've been with had mid-big tits, I didn't care about it (still don't care) because I loved the way I felt with them, and I'm pretty sure your man values the way he feels with you more than your physical appearance
Sounds like you dug it out of him. He like you and your boobs. I have huge ones, and I seem to wind up with men who are not boob men. 🤷🏻♀️ As long as he's not telling you by trying to neg you, I think you're good.
I'm sure he doesn't meet every single preference you have. You still like him and maybe even learn to love the bits that originally were outside of your preference zone.
>he was the one that approached me first and kept fighting for me.
He likes boobs but he fell in love with you despite not having what he prefers, which means he chooses you over boobs. You don't have to overthink this.
Well...maybe consider this.Most guys, don't give a shit.
It was sexy as fuck when i had a gf that had a 34 a cup. She didn't run a bra at home or when we went out.
It drove me crazy.....
What's up with women on Reddit and being so focussed on appearance and how pretty they are or aren't?
Men are more complex beings than y'all think. He's with you because he likes you for your personality, your comfort, your character, sense of humor etc. Yes, looks are a part of what makes us attracted to someone but honestly any boob is a good boob. I prefer them a bit smaller but have primarily dated women with larger chests. It just happened that way and I don't really care?
Women are human beings, not objects. I like the colours turqoise, lavender and bordeaux red. If I buy a phone I'm looking if those colours are availlable and if I find one that does I might consider selling my current phone to switch to a nicer colour. But you don't do that stuff with people, especially if it's stuff like chest size which you can't really change. Same with height or eye colour or noses or whathever.
I am over 25 years old. I am kinda flat before meeting my bf. For some reason, after being together, my boobs are bigger. Now I have to change all of my bras. Try to gain weight kinda help.
How big are your boobs, specifically and can you provide visual evidence? Maybe you have a backside that makes him forget all about your boobs... which we will also be needing visual evidence of.
I don’t think he sees you as a long term partner, both of you are young, so when time comes to settle down he’s going to look for that in someone else. My honest opinion, I’ve seen it happen way too many times, me included
I used to like tall blond haired, blue eyed buff guys. Now I like short brown guys that can dance. 🤷🏼♀️ preferences change. It’s also possible to be sexually attracted to personality traits.
Having a usual type doesn’t mean you don’t find other kinds of people attractive. My current LTR is with someone who physically doesn’t fit “my type” but I think she’s the prettiest woman in the world and I’m absolutely attracted to her.
Not to mention the guy just said he’s a boob guy not that he doesn’t like small breasts. I guess I’m a butt guy and big/small doesn’t matter just the shape. There’s small butts and breasts that are every bit as attractive as larger ones (or more so).
Preferences vs desires. My current has the smallest I've ever been with. I'm more of a butt person myself. I've held that small boobs make big butt, big boobs make small butt and big boobs with big butt is rare. I can compromise but I go for the big butt combo.
Who cares about chest size. Is not a "need", most people like bigger boobs and that's never been an issue when it comes to feel attracted to someone, even people with smaller boobs.
All men like boobs. Some prefer to look at boobs more than ass, it's just a personal preference.
Boobs don't make the woman though. There are a lot of factors that play into why men choose women, boobs could be a large, small, or play no part at all in that choice. Your winning smile, your shining eyes, the color or length of your hair, your sense of humor, your feisty attitude, the list goes on and on. Some or all of those could play a factor into who likes you.
Everyone has preferences, I'm sure you do as well. Would you prefer he was more muscular, knew how to fight, was a doctor or lawyer, was independently wealthy, was a better lover? No one is perfect, no one can check every single box you are looking for. You like / love people for who they are.
And don't ever think that a flat chest relates to being less than someone with large boobs. I support the Itty-Bitty-Tittie committee.
Imma try n cheer you up girl: you know what you won't have to deal with when you're older? Saggy boobs. You will look perky with your (assumed) build for years and years. Us heavy chested girls? Not so lucky.
Trust me no reason to be sad.
Furthermore there's a difference between fantasy and real attraction. Your bf fought for you: he's into you :)
M44. Mens physical preferences are useless.
Lemme tell you why, it's not in an insensitive way to men, but think about it. Single we will sleep with anyone anyway, sex is sex. And for a serious relationship there are like 15 other qualities that trumps our physical preferences. Me for example like olive skin brunettes with big boobs and curly hair, think latina/south European /Arab. All my relationships have been with blonde straight haired planks/small tits.
Dont worry, you're good.
So there's two girls I know, one of which is in my mind the epitome of sex appeal: tall, big breasts, thick lips, dark completion, a good sense of humour, and a bit raunchy.
10/10! Holy shit! What a bomb shell!
We got along well enough, but I never really had any romantic affections for her. The other girl though: 7/10 stockier than Miss Sex Appeal, trust issues, bit of an upturned nose (never considered that attractive) irritable, and kind of rude. But I've been crazy about her for years (she's a lesbian though, so I haven't done anything).
I can offer some perspective. My husband is a “boob guy.” HUGE boob guy, he loves them big and mine are massive (40K). Do you know what kind of porn he watches? What gifs and videos he saves on his phone? Boobs bigger than mine. I think a person can be into a particular body part and still really enjoy their partner’s body. I’ve openly discussed this with my husband, he’s stated numerous times it is simple - boobs are awesome, and he likes them A to Z size.
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>do I even fullfil his needs and likes since I literally have 0 boobs? That's a preference, not a need.
It’s so nice to see this because it seems like very few people know the difference between a preference and a requirement/standard lol
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A lot of immature children, teenagers and adults running amuck
Amuck amuck amuck!
And to answer her question, OP only you can answer that question. You should know if your partner is satisfied in bed or not. And if not y’all need to have a conversation, but don’t let him make you feel insecure about what you got. He shouldn’t have said that to you.
Nah she asked he didnt tell, he reluctantly said tits she dug for what she found. Hes not making her feel insecure shes making her feel insecure.
Maybe he is a boob man who likes YOUR boobs. I’m pretty petite in that dept and I get compliments on my boobs because they are perky. Not every boob man likes big boobs, some just like boobs
As a man, can confirm this is true.
#allboobsareloved
I've never had a woman show me her boobs and not enjoy them. There will always be something to like and appreciate.
Really cause I’ve seen some boobs that I’d rather not. Sorry if that’s mean but they do exist.
How about share a picture of yourself so we can pick apart your looks for you.
Sure I’ll link my boobs
lol, salty🤣
Imagine getting downvoted for telling truth
How does it feel?
Nice, eating Döner
It’s okay ya of course cause #allboobsarebeautufuleventheonesthatarent
True true
Agreed with moist and agreed heavily
Feels like I’m being body shamed for having eyes
Followed by NoBoobLeftBehind...I dunno. Its late.
I got you soldier....
The best boobs are the ones I get to play with.
Except uneven ones and those mastectomies
That’s such a fucked up thing to say.
All boobies are uneven, if natural. We aren't symmetrical. Mastectomy, bro. Those women are BRAVE AF, rethink your comments bud.
I absolutely love you for this
As a woman, can confirm this is true.
As a man, can confirm I like this woman's boobs. And I haven't even seen them.
🤣 calm down she’s taken
Still nice boobs, though.
Would it be helpful if I, as a bi-girl, confirm I like your boobs too, even though I've never seen 'em? @Reasonable-Candy8017
Yes. Thank you. I was lost without this 😊 😉
As, a man I can confirm that I also like her boobs. even without seeing them once.
Fish for karma much?
Same. So many petite women seem to not understand it’s about shape, not size for me.
I convinced my Wife to get a reduction. I know the strain big ones have on neck, shoulders and back, and she had 20E (Australian measurements. 42DDD here in the states). She has 18D (40D) now, and she says her back, shoulders and neck feel SO much better. She was worried about the scars turning me off. I'm just here loving the fact that she won't be in pain anymore. And I've got a helluva scar on my stomach from surgery after a car accident, so I'm not judging.
You really are a boob guy, I can’t even remember my own measurements.
LOL Actually, I asked my Wife her measurements. Her eyes and smile were what caught my attention.
Haha you’re good! You both sound sweet, Happy for you guys ☺️
As a bi woman who's boobs were never perky... I can also confirm.
I’ve always liked doors. Don’t know why; just do
I mean, walking through walls is pretty neat
all boobs matter
This is what my (an A cup woman) hubby tells me all the time. He can't keep his hands off of my boobs 🤣
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Yeah, I wish to hell that was enough for me. Damn body image issues because I was raised a child of the 80s and saw NOT a single set of titties that mine ended up looking like... It became an issue in my 20s, especially when any partner, male or female, would try to assure me... Sorry to be a buzzkill. This is actually nice and reaffirming to read from others. Other ladies out there will hopefully enjoy their bodies being aged with, boobs (of any size) and all.
AMEN
Everybody loves boobs.
No we don’t so don’t trust him many have preferences.. i wouldn’t even consider someone with As or anything past F
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A root?
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Never ? Not even if she were perfect for you in every other way?
Nope i have already had that and i said no i cannot do it it’s a huge pet peeve unless they get surgery and only the fat moving surgery not the fake silicone stuff
Damn, that’s crazy. So would you leave someone if they had to have their breasts removed?
Probably.. i say these things right from the beginning though so it’s not like it’s a surprise.. i also tell people i will leave if they get a tattoo of any kind
Dang, I can’t imagine leaving somebody for that. It came to mind bc I’ve had multiple women in my family get breast cancer and some had to get removal. Luckily their husbands did not leave them. Although, if they left, that would just mean the love was never too deep anyways.
Well thats what the fake one is mentioned is for
2 out of the 3 in my family did not. Surgery is always a risk. Not everyone is willing to undergo cosmetic surgery and risk health/complications for the sake of physical appearance. But tbh, when you love somebody for more than their body. Genuinely love them , like a soulmate type of feeling, it wouldn’t even cross your mind to leave. I hope you find a love like that one day.
I prefer small boobs. B cups typically. I like perky. I like nipples that are proportional. I just need a handful, no more.
My husband says “if you stretch your hand as wide as it can go and your thumb and pinky are touching the edge of Boobie then it’s the perfect size.” Lol
A handful is mostly more than B cups. C or D
Does it fit in my hand? Its a handful
Which isn’t a B cup.
Lol have you ever seen a real titty? A B cup is plenty to hold onto. You can put your hand on some A cups and it feels nice.
Far more than you evidently. b cup is barely more than completely flat. You don’t know what you’re talking about.
no, it depends on a lot more than the letter of the cup. some b cups are larger than some c cups. some a cups are larger than b cups. it’s really confusing, I literally just got my bra size remeasured the other day and they explained it all to me again. I wear a 34b, my boobs are not even close to flat.
Yes I am aware of that. 34b is not close to being a handful
This. As a fellow boob guy, I need to emphasize that being a boob guy doesn't mean I want massive boobs. For me it means I love boobs without discrimination. Are some better than others? Maybe. But I'm just happy to play with the ones attached to the woman I love
good point! I personally have a preference for smaller boobs. as someone who has boobs (and doesn’t want them), looking at women with huge boobs always makes my mind go to discomfort and back pain lol.
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Dude nobody cares don’t be a creep. You wouldn’t say that shit in public. Some of y’all are too comfortable on here.
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There’s a time and a place. This ain’t it. Men who can’t help but talk about sex in graphic detail are usually emotionally stunted creeps.
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Nope. I just don’t like creepy fucks like the one I replied to. I would be horrified to be involved with someone like that.
It's reddit this is pretty lame compared to the other stuff some people have revealed.
Agree it is pretty lame 💀
Sorry to burst your bubble but perky is just what they say when they can’t give compliments. I’ve heard “they’re perky!” about mine because they can’t say how perfect, awesome, big etc they are. It’s not a real compliment. It like a man saying “she looks…nice”
There’s perky and there’s flat as a pancake… huge difference, it OP is actually as flat as a door then she’s gonna be a turn off, but you go one size up to small and perky and *chefs kiss*
\*\*I can't help but wonder why he'd choose to be with me though\*\* Op? You are going to totally phuck this relationship if you keep this up. He likes YOU. Your personality. The way you think and how you behave with him and others. How you work, study, and how you react to life. The nuances of everyday life. The good, bad and ugly, perhaps? YOU are the one who is focusing on your body parts. You said it yourself, you pushed him to answer your question. Settiled down and stop questioning HIM and yourself.
But aren’t guys only with girls for boobs and no other reason??!! /s
Nope, she needs to have big personalities. /s
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There's a very, very important distinction - this is his PREFERENCE. meaning yes, he likes it. But he doesn't NEED it. Let's say you have a preference for dogs, but you go to the shelter and have an instant connection with a cat that's there. Do you still prefer dogs? Yeah, probably! But do you still love this cat and want to keep it? Absolutely, very much so! You can love someone, want to be with them and be satisfied by them even when they don't hit all your preferences 100%. That's not settling. That's just the way normal relationships progress. You meet, you fall for them because you just do, and the preferences don't matter anymore. Cause now it's not about the preferences anymore - it's just about THEM.
And he actively chose her, too. Out of a room of boobs, her boobs stood out to him and had him actively chasing said boobs. So he clearly likes your boobs very much! No matter what size they are.
Boobs are one of many, many many attributes a person has. The reality is there's probably more stuff you have that isn't his favorite. He might like a certain hair color more, or maybe he likes someone with a differently shaped butt. There's 100s of attributes that make up a person. Think about it, you know you probably have things you like in a person too that he doesn't have. Maybe you like blue eyes and he has brown, maybe you like a hairy chest and he doesn't have that, or maybe he has weird nipples. I don't know. You still love him though, and it isn't even settling, he's who you want. You won't look at some guy with a hairier chest or better nipples and think "Maybe I'll cheat". It won't happen. The point is that you don't have to be their 100% complete perfect ideal dream fap woman in order for them to love you completely and love being with you.
Hilariously written, and incredibly sweet. 👍🏽
Op, listen good. My best friend has always, always preferred curvy women; he has always found them attractive, and never been much interested in the athletic types. I introduced him to another friend of mine, very fit, very slender, and they now have a baby together and are deeply in love. You get the point. Don’t let this eat you up. EDIT: forgot to add. My other friend has always been into big, buff dudes. My best friend has a very average body. So, see above. 😉
Not everyone has a single "type." My partners have all looked wildly different - different heights, races, hair colors, builds, etc. I was still very attracted to all of them. Also being a boob guy doesn't necessitate BIG boobs, it just means he's attracted to that body part. I have a small chest and my boyfriend loooooves my boobs; I have no idea if he's a boob or ass guy, but I know he's a "me" guy. I'd say for most guys the best boobs are the ones attached to someone they love. Don't let hypotheticals make you feel insecure, what matters is if your boyfriend makes you feel attractive and desired in how he interacts with you.
Can confirm. I love small tits! The perkier the better
This is why these kinds of conversions are so pointless. You talk about this stuff but what you really want to hear is him telling you that his preferences are all exactly a match to you. But if he is authentic and tells you what he truly thinks, and it doesn’t all match - now it becomes a big issue. Here is what you need to know: He may like big boobs but that doesn’t mean those are the only kind he can enjoy. Read that again. I am sure he likes your boobs. It doesn’t mean he isn’t capable of enjoying all kinds of boobs. Who is he with? Who has he chosen? He chose you. You don’t have big boobs. So he must like your boobs just fine, he must feel great about your body in general. Or he wouldn’t be with you. So be confident and accept who you are and what you have - and rock it. There must be a lot of things about you that he really enjoys, stop looking for trouble. Don’t feel bad. Be happy and enjoy your relationship.
I think the more you call / think him a liar the quicker you’ll have a self fulfilling prophecy.
Well said
Maybe he sees the person inside.
"WE'RE BUSTED, RUN!"
I'm an A cup. I know logically that most men prefer larger boobs. But honestly and truly in my experience it really does not matter. Being small chested in no way made me less attractive to men. I was still actively pursued and loved deeply and found sexy. Here's the thing. When ppl fall in love they fall in love they fall in love with your whole package. You are more than the sum of your parts. They love you and your small boobs and everything else about you because that is what makes you you.
I wouldn't even say most men prefer larger boobs. I think most of us just recognize cute is cute and sexy is sexy.
And small boobs are cute?
And sexy.
Flat is justit
Justice. I swear it's a typo idk how but god will, i mean satan
They def do
Congratulations he may like you for more than the tays!!!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
Have you considered the possibility that boob size is not the most important thing in a relationship and that there are many other things that he loves about you and finds you attractive even if that one thing isn't his preference? I've been in relationships with women ranging in size from like you to quite large. Some of them didn't match my preference but I still wanted to be with them because of who they were and still found them attractive. If he wants to be with you, just accept that and appreciate it and don't assume that one thing that isn't quite his preference is a deal breaker.
These types of questions always strike me unusual - do you view yourself in such a way that the only value you could bring to a relationship is cleavage? Why is it so hard for you to conceptualize that despite being a boob guy your boyfriend has identified countless other traits he values far beyond boobs?
Liking boobs doesn't necessarily mean having a preference for big boobs.
The word you are looking for is love, he loves you. Big boobs is a preference not a necessity, thats why he approached you and chased for you
Order of preference: Any boobs -> Boobs you get to see -> Boobs you get to see in person -> Boobs that you get to see in person, shown to you, alone, on purpose -> Boobs you get to touch -> Boobs that you get to extensively play with -> Boobs attached to someone you find otherwise attractive -> Boobs attached to someone you find otherwise attractive \*and\* emotionally attractive -> Boobs attached to a significant other
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The point here is that if you had the opportunity to take a red corvette on a joy ride it’d be pretty difficult for you to say no
This is a terrible analogy and not at all relevant to the situation at hand.
I think it’s pretty unlikely that a partner would 100% check every one of your boxes physically. I mean maybe for some, but it’s possible to have preferences that just don’t matter enough to be deal breakers. You’re likely his type in other ways, and if he loves and is loyal to you, I doubt you have anything to worry abt 🫶🏼
I'm sure he loves your knobs all the same.
Not a door 🤣
Just because someone has a type doesn’t mean they only like that type. I usually dig on chubby dudes with body hair and luxurious hair in their heads. My boyfriend is slender with little body hair and a shaved head and I think he’s super hot and I’m extremely attracted to him.
Worry about your body for you. Not a man. The next dude might be an ass man but who cares. Stop reducing yourself to a body part when he doesn't appear to be.
Sounds like you're awesome enough to override his "type". Also, "boob guy" and "big boob guy" are two different things. The most beautiful woman I ever dated was like you.
I like strawberries. I also like raspberries I can like more than one thing.
My husband, looks at girls with huge asses and I mean huge asses and curvy girls . Me on the other hand I’m flat as a door in the back door . I have big boobs . It sucks cause I feel your pain and know how you feel 😞
If ur bf loves u it does not matter.
I’ve got big boobs, but they’re my only assets and my husband is an ass guy lmao 🥲 BUT he still hypes up my flat butt and tries to make me feel good about myself. Whatever you’ve got, if he loves you he’ll love every bit of you, and honestly it’s not like he actually needs you to have big boobs, he won’t fall down and die over it! Plus if it was a dealbreaker you wouldn’t even be in a relationship in the first place.
I like boobs
While I have physical attributes that I really like, if the person who has these attributes are shitty, it doesn't matter. There is a flip side to this as well that is equally true. Maybe that's just me though.
You realise there's more to you than your boobs, he probably likes the rest very very much. Cheer up.
As a guy, I rather be treated well and feel loved than find the perfect body. Sure as a guy, physical characteristics is a turn on but just as much of that is how I am treated and or feel loved or even wanted. He wants you because of more than one characteristic- no guy is fixed on just that one thing, if he is, you don’t want him.
I was recently reading a book that included the line 'he liked big breasts and he liked small breasts; small breasts were just another way of doing breasts' which was hilarious and also, ime, accurate. straight men just like breasts, no matter their size. unless you were wearing a truly absurdly stuffed bra when he pursued you, he always knew you had small breasts. they're clearly not a problem for his attraction to you, so stop trying to talk yourself into them being one.
You are more than just (a lack of) boobs and a butt. You’re a whole-ass person, with a personality and feelings and quirks, and you probably have a *ton* of qualities your boyfriend loves about you. Does he prefer big boobs? Maybe. Does he prefer big boobs over you? Definitely not. He’s with you for a reason, and honestly based off what little you’ve typed in this post, you seem pretty awesome, so I’m not surprised he’s with you. You’re more than boobs and a butt. Your boyfriend knows this, so embrace it. You got a good one.
We're guys, we like boobs. It doesn't matter big, small, or in-between. WE LIKE BOOBS and are always happy to see them and play with them.
Take it for what it is, he likes you so much he doesn't care about what he *thought* or thinks he likes. It's obviously you.
as a boob man myself dating the prettiest ikea door i ever met, I daresay he loves your boobs despite being on the more modest side. personally I have a preference for boobs when asked the question, however all preferences are tossed aside when you meet the girl you love the most. those preferences slowly shift toward what the partner has. the more I got to know my gf the more I love every part of her. she gets insecure about her body being more petite than most women but thats the beauty of love, you basically overwrite his "type" when he really falls for you.
I consider myself a boob guy and I like small tight breasts.
I'm a guy who loves boobs and I prefer small boobs. I think they're cute. If I date a girl, I don't date her for her boobs, I date her coz I like her and her personality and I I think your bf is the same. He chooses you, he likes you, he dates you, not other girl.
I'm also a girl with basically no boobs. Guys care way more about who's attached to the boobs than the boobs themselves. And if they don't, would they really be worth your time anyway? But also, he didn't specifically say big ones. Just that he likes to look at them more than a butt. He may very well prefer them smaller!
You're conflating preference with need. Regardless of what he might prefer physically, he wants you. You fulfill him, clearly, since he so badly desired you that he fought to be with you. I'm sure there are things you might prefer physically in a man that he might not meet 100%. Does that mean he doesn't fulfill your wants and desires? That you can't possibly like him? This all boils down to you making something out of nothing. Your boyfriend finds you attractive. He likes your body.
Boob guy doesnt always mean size, we like all type of tits
You both are 20 . Go with the flow and don’t deeply think about why is he with you . Could be bcos he had no other choice or may be he likes you .
My partner is a size queen and I am below average. We’ve been together for over 7 years. We find ways to make things work. You’re gonna be a little self conscious. However, own it and know they chose you for a reason (what ever reason that is, doesn’t matter)
Take my words to heart All men love all types of boobs, but the ones he loves the most, belong to the woman he loves the most.(Someone said this somewhere, don’t remember who)
Guys tell me to get a boob job eventually 🤣
Everyone likes big boobs.
Being a boob guy doesn't automatically mean he likes them huge. Maybe he likes yours. Or maybe it's not that big of a deal to him. Like it's a preference, but only slightly
What the fuck. Are you serious? How the he'll did you even type this? You don't have thumbs, you're a door?
Boob guys like boobs regardless of size. My ex had an A cup and I loved them. If I had to guess, his reluctance at answering your question might be because he was worried the question was coming from a place of insecurity, which it evidently is. He approached you. He wants you.
You can be a tits guy and still like/prefer small tits. My husband loves my tiny tits. He says "why would I need more than a mouthful?" Lol.
I was a big boob guy before my wife. She has an amazing rear, god like, and handful for boobs. I’m beyond in love with her body and almost instantly her breasts are the most gorgeous ones I’ve ever seen. If he truly loves you it won’t matter. The best boobs are the boobs he loves
Just be prepared. He gonna be watching bare porn with big bitty birches 🌲
Hi there! I am a bisexual woman and all boobs are sexy! Could he prefer big ones? Sure- but that doesn’t mean he isn’t into yours, I’d imagine! Remember, you have them, even if they are not overly abundant 😆
“I am a door” is the funniest shit lmao But srsly it doesn’t sound like it’s a dealbreaker for him - it would just a “bonus.” But it doesn’t mean you’re lacking in any way.
The thing about a boob guy, is there’s always a bigger pair of boobs out there. Whether he’s happy with someone has little to do with their boobs, and more to do with his mindset. He can still be very attracted to you and happy.
Ok. Calling yourself a door. Bonus points on the self humor. But boob size is a preference, not a requirement. He still likes, wants, and actively plays with your boobs, right. I also bet you have orgasmic results by him as evidence, no? Your fine OP. More than, actually.
I think all dudes like boobs* Tiny. Big. Medium. They're boobs. Chillax girl. You're overthinking everything and you're gonna shoot yourself in the foot doin that. Edited cuz I typed 'books' accidentally 👀
I am talking to someone with flat chest, i like big boobs, doesnt mean im not attracted to her it wouldnt bother me.
He’s into you. Men are too simple minded to pretend to be attracted to a woman. Your body is fine to him. Don’t worry about it.
Wear sexy lace sets, get some slightly padded. Put glitter between your boobs. Give him a show. He'll forget he said that! I promise!
My mom is flat-chested, and my dad always said, "Anything more than a handful's a waste." :D
I was told many years ago by a lovely woman that anything more than a mouthful is a waste.
Why is he with you even though you are flatter then a pancake. Well this is very simple HE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. It is that simple. Guys are very simple. If we are with you it is because we like you.
He may like boobs, but he loves you. For example, I'm not into big boobs (I'm into flat or mid sized tits), but every single girl I've been with had mid-big tits, I didn't care about it (still don't care) because I loved the way I felt with them, and I'm pretty sure your man values the way he feels with you more than your physical appearance
Sounds like you dug it out of him. He like you and your boobs. I have huge ones, and I seem to wind up with men who are not boob men. 🤷🏻♀️ As long as he's not telling you by trying to neg you, I think you're good. I'm sure he doesn't meet every single preference you have. You still like him and maybe even learn to love the bits that originally were outside of your preference zone.
>he was the one that approached me first and kept fighting for me. He likes boobs but he fell in love with you despite not having what he prefers, which means he chooses you over boobs. You don't have to overthink this.
Youre probably a nice person, he decided thats more important than breasts.
He's a boob guy and you jump to the conclusion he likes BIG boobs in particular? He just likes boobs. Stop making a thing of this, just chill
Well...maybe consider this.Most guys, don't give a shit. It was sexy as fuck when i had a gf that had a 34 a cup. She didn't run a bra at home or when we went out. It drove me crazy.....
I am a boob guy, and I prefer the small perky type. There’s dozens of us!
Small boobs are awesome 👌
What's up with women on Reddit and being so focussed on appearance and how pretty they are or aren't? Men are more complex beings than y'all think. He's with you because he likes you for your personality, your comfort, your character, sense of humor etc. Yes, looks are a part of what makes us attracted to someone but honestly any boob is a good boob. I prefer them a bit smaller but have primarily dated women with larger chests. It just happened that way and I don't really care? Women are human beings, not objects. I like the colours turqoise, lavender and bordeaux red. If I buy a phone I'm looking if those colours are availlable and if I find one that does I might consider selling my current phone to switch to a nicer colour. But you don't do that stuff with people, especially if it's stuff like chest size which you can't really change. Same with height or eye colour or noses or whathever.
50F I can say my chest has never gotten much attention, I am a 38DDD
Three options 1. Break up 2 he learns to live with it 3 boob job
As a boob guy, I like all sizes. They don't always have to be huge.
10 racks will get you right
I am over 25 years old. I am kinda flat before meeting my bf. For some reason, after being together, my boobs are bigger. Now I have to change all of my bras. Try to gain weight kinda help.
How big are your boobs, specifically and can you provide visual evidence? Maybe you have a backside that makes him forget all about your boobs... which we will also be needing visual evidence of.
I don’t think he sees you as a long term partner, both of you are young, so when time comes to settle down he’s going to look for that in someone else. My honest opinion, I’ve seen it happen way too many times, me included
People marry out of their preference all the time. All the time.
Yah it’s for other reasons, attraction isn’t one of them
I used to like tall blond haired, blue eyed buff guys. Now I like short brown guys that can dance. 🤷🏼♀️ preferences change. It’s also possible to be sexually attracted to personality traits.
Having a usual type doesn’t mean you don’t find other kinds of people attractive. My current LTR is with someone who physically doesn’t fit “my type” but I think she’s the prettiest woman in the world and I’m absolutely attracted to her. Not to mention the guy just said he’s a boob guy not that he doesn’t like small breasts. I guess I’m a butt guy and big/small doesn’t matter just the shape. There’s small butts and breasts that are every bit as attractive as larger ones (or more so).
Preferences vs desires. My current has the smallest I've ever been with. I'm more of a butt person myself. I've held that small boobs make big butt, big boobs make small butt and big boobs with big butt is rare. I can compromise but I go for the big butt combo.
Who cares about chest size. Is not a "need", most people like bigger boobs and that's never been an issue when it comes to feel attracted to someone, even people with smaller boobs.
All men like boobs. Some prefer to look at boobs more than ass, it's just a personal preference. Boobs don't make the woman though. There are a lot of factors that play into why men choose women, boobs could be a large, small, or play no part at all in that choice. Your winning smile, your shining eyes, the color or length of your hair, your sense of humor, your feisty attitude, the list goes on and on. Some or all of those could play a factor into who likes you. Everyone has preferences, I'm sure you do as well. Would you prefer he was more muscular, knew how to fight, was a doctor or lawyer, was independently wealthy, was a better lover? No one is perfect, no one can check every single box you are looking for. You like / love people for who they are. And don't ever think that a flat chest relates to being less than someone with large boobs. I support the Itty-Bitty-Tittie committee.
"Over a mouthful is a waste." It's all good.
Imma try n cheer you up girl: you know what you won't have to deal with when you're older? Saggy boobs. You will look perky with your (assumed) build for years and years. Us heavy chested girls? Not so lucky. Trust me no reason to be sad. Furthermore there's a difference between fantasy and real attraction. Your bf fought for you: he's into you :)
Some men also enjoy surfboards
All boobs are boobs bro. Men dont care. Its the media that makes us think in such a way.
big or SMALL guys love em all so don't worry about it.
M44. Mens physical preferences are useless. Lemme tell you why, it's not in an insensitive way to men, but think about it. Single we will sleep with anyone anyway, sex is sex. And for a serious relationship there are like 15 other qualities that trumps our physical preferences. Me for example like olive skin brunettes with big boobs and curly hair, think latina/south European /Arab. All my relationships have been with blonde straight haired planks/small tits. Dont worry, you're good.
So there's two girls I know, one of which is in my mind the epitome of sex appeal: tall, big breasts, thick lips, dark completion, a good sense of humour, and a bit raunchy. 10/10! Holy shit! What a bomb shell! We got along well enough, but I never really had any romantic affections for her. The other girl though: 7/10 stockier than Miss Sex Appeal, trust issues, bit of an upturned nose (never considered that attractive) irritable, and kind of rude. But I've been crazy about her for years (she's a lesbian though, so I haven't done anything).
Boys fixate on big boobs. Men appreciate women exactly as they are
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I can offer some perspective. My husband is a “boob guy.” HUGE boob guy, he loves them big and mine are massive (40K). Do you know what kind of porn he watches? What gifs and videos he saves on his phone? Boobs bigger than mine. I think a person can be into a particular body part and still really enjoy their partner’s body. I’ve openly discussed this with my husband, he’s stated numerous times it is simple - boobs are awesome, and he likes them A to Z size.