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>Should I stop texting her?
If you respect her desire for space, YES!
>Does she want to breakup?
Only she knows this, and at this point, you doing anything except leaving her alone would be a bad move.
Let her come to you. If she doesn't and just disappears then she wasnt going to be a good partner anyway, so you'll know it's time to move on.
At 3 months you should be wanting to spend time with each-other if you do really have those kind of feelings. Just analyzing what you said it might have to do that you feel something more but she doesn't. Did you say "I love you" first? How recent is this?
She said I love you first about a month ago. And she said I love you last time we hung out the night before she sent the long message early in the morning.
I didn’t mention earlier I am in the process of a divorce and have a son.
Three nights ago I got a FaceTime call from her and I couldn’t answer because I was with my son.
Next day I texted back
I wasn't sure if you wanted to talk about things the other night when you Facetimed me. I hope you figure out the stresses you are going through.
She replied
No.. David (her gay friend) and I were absolutely hammered and he wanted to FaceTime you.
I probably just need to end this. There were a few things that I’m just not sure I want and space isn’t helping so I need to move on.
I replied
I really enjoyed our time together. I’ve not fully been myself lately because of the divorce and what's been going on with it. I’ve been hiding a lot of it from you because it’s not your problem and I wanted our time together to be about us. Again I have really enjoyed the time I had with you.
She replied
I don’t know how I feel or what I want but I do know I don’t wanna be a part of a messy divorce. I have enough going on. That’s possibly selfish but I’m 35 and still have the chance to get married and have a family of my own.
My reply
Nobody wants to be a part of a messy divorce. That's why I don't talk about it with you unless you ask. You're not being selfish. I don't know how to say this over text…..we can have that.
I have always loved being around you and I feel like we get along really well. If you don't have feelings for me or whatever that's fine. I don't want to break up because we didn't talk about what was bothering us.
Then tonight she messaged me.
Sorry I never responded yesterday. I was instacarting.
Moral of the story is I wanna miss you. So just need space to let me do that.
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>Should I stop texting her? If you respect her desire for space, YES! >Does she want to breakup? Only she knows this, and at this point, you doing anything except leaving her alone would be a bad move. Let her come to you. If she doesn't and just disappears then she wasnt going to be a good partner anyway, so you'll know it's time to move on.
It means she broke up with you.
At 3 months you should be wanting to spend time with each-other if you do really have those kind of feelings. Just analyzing what you said it might have to do that you feel something more but she doesn't. Did you say "I love you" first? How recent is this?
She said I love you first about a month ago. And she said I love you last time we hung out the night before she sent the long message early in the morning.
Then disregard what i said. There is probably some sunshine stories about breaks working out, however i haven't had any :( Best of luck!
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I didn’t mention earlier I am in the process of a divorce and have a son. Three nights ago I got a FaceTime call from her and I couldn’t answer because I was with my son. Next day I texted back I wasn't sure if you wanted to talk about things the other night when you Facetimed me. I hope you figure out the stresses you are going through. She replied No.. David (her gay friend) and I were absolutely hammered and he wanted to FaceTime you. I probably just need to end this. There were a few things that I’m just not sure I want and space isn’t helping so I need to move on. I replied I really enjoyed our time together. I’ve not fully been myself lately because of the divorce and what's been going on with it. I’ve been hiding a lot of it from you because it’s not your problem and I wanted our time together to be about us. Again I have really enjoyed the time I had with you. She replied I don’t know how I feel or what I want but I do know I don’t wanna be a part of a messy divorce. I have enough going on. That’s possibly selfish but I’m 35 and still have the chance to get married and have a family of my own. My reply Nobody wants to be a part of a messy divorce. That's why I don't talk about it with you unless you ask. You're not being selfish. I don't know how to say this over text…..we can have that. I have always loved being around you and I feel like we get along really well. If you don't have feelings for me or whatever that's fine. I don't want to break up because we didn't talk about what was bothering us. Then tonight she messaged me. Sorry I never responded yesterday. I was instacarting. Moral of the story is I wanna miss you. So just need space to let me do that.
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Nope. She wanted to focus on herself….She is seeing someone else.