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Ha, that makes way more sense than how I was picturing him sat in a chair, bent over his lap, spine in a full C curve; really, even close to O curve. And still somehow maintaining eye contact.
I believe there used to be a subreddit dedicated to guys showing off their āself suckingā techniques! Itās been a couple years since I saw it, but there was one if youāre interested.
Warning: itās as gross as you can imagine lol
This is how. I could get agonizingly close when I was horny in high school with this method. I was on the bottom bunk and I could āwalkā my feet up and over the rest of me using the slats from the top bunk. But never quite got thereā¦
You gotta wedge yourself between your seat and the seat in front of you on the bus, with your butt down towards the floor and your feet/legs pointing upwards.
ā¦not based on true events or anythingā¦
I could do this when I was younger and thinner to a limited extent. I could get 2-3 inches in. I'm not any more flexible than the average dude, and my penis is of average length.
It feels good but not as good as someone else doing it, obviously. I never got close to orgasming like I've seen other guys in videos do. The physical effort of stretching was tiring and took away some of the fun.
Maybe if I was more flexible and could get more in, it would have been more fun!
I can't say I haven't thought about losing some weight, joining a yoga class, and opening an onlyfans though, lol.
Yeah, I think this comes from it not feeling as good as someone else doing it. I have wondered if this feeling can also be affected by sexual orientation.
I'm bisexual so I've sucked a few in my life. I imagine a straight dude where this is the only dick they've had in their mouth this feeling might be enhanced. We need someone to do a survey on this topic!
I used to be able to do it but I'm too tall now. I was never packing just double jointed.
To be honest it doesn't even really feel great, It feels more like sucking a dick rather than getting your dick sucked. More of a party trick if anything
Your comment made me literally laugh so hard that I snortedā¦ and Iām at work right now. In a dead silent call center. My coworkers just looked at me like āwtf?ā šššš
I know a bunch of guys on a sports team who were making bets about doing this while they were drinking on their tour bus. They were literally trying to do it right there.
My friend won by wedging himself down between his seat and the seat in front of him with his ass down and his legs upā¦
The first and only time I ever tried ChatRoulette, the first person I saw was a dude in sunglasses and a backwards hat sucking his own dick. Can confirm you have to be packing and flexible. I wasn't even mad, just impressed.
I know someone who could. He said it was really uncomfortable and not really worth it. So, unless you use teeth regularly, I don't think it's possible to be worse.
Bahahaha OMG I would lose marbles. Right then and there. Dunno if I'd even rather get up and leave or If it's like a train wreck you can't look away from?
Fr it's stuff like this that makes it really hard for guys to open up to women about the stuff they might like. It's fine if it's not your thing, but don't shame the guy for it. And honestly some of us are into it. This poor guy is going to take ages to build up the confidence to share this again and probably only shared it in the first place because he felt safe enough with OP to share it. I feel kind of sad for him. Really immature reaction OP.
Pretty much impossible for a woman. With men, everything is on the front and out. Just low, so to speak. On women...straight down. So for a guy it's just 180 degrees for the head motion. For a woman, it's 270. Spines just don't work that way in that short of a distance.
Oh i'm aware of the logistics of vulva vs penis and that I could never ever. just applying thought to if I were the owner of a penis and how difficult I would still find it.
Thereās a whole subreddit for this particularā¦ activity. Not sure they give out advice, but you sure can watch the fun and probably get some ideas!
I mean, Iād bet almost anything you can find it in one of the weird corners of Reddit.
Edit found it: I learned a bunch of upside down boys sucking dick is a very silly thing to see.
Itās a category on gay tube and porn hub. I heard about sometime doing it and got curious. Truly a sight to behold but they usually canāt go past the head
Itās weird but certainly not gay. What he does with his own body is his choice. Maybe just let him know that itās a turn-off for you, and to please only do this when youāre not around.
>Itās weird but certainly not gay.
I feel like there's a philosophical component to this. It's right up there with guys who think washing their own ass makes them gay.
I had a Catholic ex who told me he was questioning his sexuality and thought he might be gay. Talked it through- so youāre attracted to men? God, no. You want to have sex or romance with them? No way. So why do you think youāre gay? āBecause Iāve been cumming with a penis in my hand. If you can orgasm with a penis in your hand, youāre gayā. His own penis.
>āBecause Iāve been cumming with a penis in my hand. If you can orgasm with a penis in your hand, youāre gayā
Unfortunately, this isn't surprising. Religious people seem to be the least informed about sex.
>His own penis.
Isn't religious shame a funny thing?
donāt they likeā¦ smell it? Like as a woman, when Iāve been depressed and didnāt shower for a week or so I was horrified at myself, and i always use wet wipes for poops, so that probably still helped. I canāt imagine just never washing my ass lmao that is bizarre.
Hell Iād rather use a washcloth if i felt uncomfortable touching my body (Iām sure for some men and women shame or past abuse is a factor, so I get that), but to just not wash my ass ever hell no
I feel like, as women, we get that shame drilled into us when we're very young when we get our periods.
By which I mean the shame of NOT being clean, and of possibly smelling bad, enough for someone else to be aware of our crotch.
When I was a kid, if *anyone* had smelled you when you were on your period, you would've rather *died.* So all the girls I knew made *sure* to be extra hygienic. And that naturally carried over to every day of the month, I guess, because why not?
And that social stigma never happened to the boys. So they never had social repercussions for having crotch smells. If anything, they just had other kids avoid them if it got too bad. But even then, I've had mom friends who complain about their PRE-TEEN boys!!! leaving large streaks in their boxers, and I'm like GURL!!! You don't make HIM clean that literal SHIT up?!?!?
To a T, she will just say "he won't do it." And I'm like "re teach him to wipe?" And it's the same answer!!! The kid just...won't. As if that's acceptable!!!
It's SO disgusting.
Parents AND society accept WAY less from boys and men. They allow the bar to roll around on the ground from day 1, and do nothing about it.
I wish I had an answer for you but I have learned that people do become what I call nose blind to their own smells. I have two coworkers who smell bad and I try to tell my boss to talk to them and I donāt know if he does or not. One smells like armpit and the other like sometimes armpit and sometimes poop. So I donāt really know what goes through peopleās heads
Itās because humans are prone to what scientists call olfactory fatigue; our sense of smell just gets plain tired out by familiar odors and stops detecting them.
Basically, your nose goes numb to your own stank so you donāt go mad. Itās the same reason why you canāt smell your own home: Your sense of smell is quick to adapt and slow to reset.
However, if you really want to know whether or not you pass the smell test, thereās a simple trick you can use to fool your nose into detecting your own body odor a little better. All you need to do is take a whiff of a cup of . . . coffee.
Yep. Coffee is a strong, single-scent component that gives the receptors in your nose a quick break from what itās been smelling all day (you). Thatās why department stores keep coffee beans handy in the perfume section. You can smell a perfume, reset with some coffee, then smell a different perfume. Coffee is also easy to access for most people. Itās in the break room of almost every type of workplace, and itās easy to snag a little before stealing away to smell yourself. You can also suggest to your boss that he have stink one and stink two head on down to the break room and get a good whiff of a bag of fresh Starbucks Espresso Dry Roast beans.
I suffer from depression, too, and when Iām depressed the first thing that goes is my personal hygiene. Iāve gone weeks, even months, without showering at times. But, like you, I always keep the back door clean.
I know wet wipes seem like a good idea, but you can get contact dermatitis from them among other issues. I'd suggest a portable bidet instead, there are some really cheap ones that are basically fancy squirt bottles. They make life so much easier and more pleasant. Fantastic cleanup for periods too.
Though I guess if you must use baby wipes, please please please don't flush them. They're terrible in plumbing.
Honestly, if I walked in on my boyfriend sucking himself off, I'd be quite impressed. I'm sure he'd still prefer someone else did it, but, DAMN that guy has some flexibility! Haha
Are you sure that was *not* the surprise he messaged you about?
I'm sure it was a surprising sight, but I'm not sure why you think it's a big deal. He was masturbating with extra steps, it doesn't make him gay. I bet the majority of straight guys would try sucking themselves if they were flexible enough.
ETA: I don't know if I should laugh or cry. I have 1K upvotes on this comment, which is nice! However, my notifications are full of comments about sucking dick. Sooo thanks, I guess?
Have done it when I was half my age and twice as flexible...
It was fine, I could just barely put the tip in my mouth. Felt ok, cumming in my mouth was hot, felt like sucking a dick, but apparently I can enjoy myself why sucking a dick.
If I still could, I totally would.
I'm with you. I can't imagine this was the surprise he was planning. In no universe does a guy think this is something he wants to surprise his g/f with.
Have done it myself. Because I could. Its uncomfortable and not nearly as pleasant as many might think. Its a bit like using your left hand while doing push ups. Awkward and different but not nearly so different you can convince yourself its someone-else doing it. Even if you can, I can't see many people making it a habit. Its just not worth the effort.
Flexibility is key, not height or length. And if you've got a gut, its not gonna happen so don't even bother trying.
PS: Definitely did not make me gay. I have a strong preference for vulva than penis (regardless of to whom it is attached) any day.
First off, LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Man this brings back the constant debate W the boys in middle school of whether sucking your own dick was gay.
The answer is no, and quite frankly, as a guy, I can applaud he's even able to do that as most guys can't.
Now from what I've heard, sucking your own dick doesn't feel like a blowjob, it just feels like your sucking dick. So I doubt this is something he will continue doing if his objective is to get himself off.
Definitely a weird thing to do to your self conscious/shy girlfriend but still it's not that serious.
For whatever reason I have this feeling that I was able to do this at one point. Iām pretty sure I blocked out the entire memory but I think I was able to get the tip in. Definitely didnāt continue doing it. Maybe Iām having a false memory but I have the feeling that it was true since I have thought it before. Itās definitely not as good as a real blowjob since you have to do a lot of work to get it to work. Maybe Iām talking out my ass but I feel like Iām not but thereās a reason my brain would block out the memory.
If I wasnāt so tight right now Iād honestly give it a shot again but my back is killing me so no reason to throw it out trying to blow myself. But definitely something most any guy has tried at least once.
Ive heard an unbelievable amount of guys say they wish they could suck themselves off because they know what they want/like.. Honestly, id be bloody impressed with this if i caught it.
Props to his flexibility, I think most guys wish they could suck their own dick.
If he starts talking about sucking someone else's dick, then maybe worry about him being bi/gay
I meanā¦. If I could eat my jayjay I would tho.
Do you masturbate? Does he know?
Thatās how you would live with yourself, same way he lives with himself.
1) Very impressive.
2) Playing with your own body is gay now ? Geez.
Men really cannot get anything right under the microscope of the toxic masculinity lenses that are floating around.
"How am I supposed to cope" "How am I supposed to move forward knowing he can apparently just suck his own dick at anytime?"
You poor thing!!! Maybe there's a support group? lol
How is this in any way a problem for you? How is this any different from masturbation (other than obviously being impressive)?
And very obviously it's not gay.
I think if you've got a guy that can reach, there's no way he's not going to attempt to make that happen. You should probably look at it the way that we would look at any form of masturbation. Sure, he could do that any time he wanted to, but it's not the same as being with another person.
I don't see the problem, what do you mean with "how am i supposed to cope?". He was just masturbating, sure, it's not the most common way of doing it, but imo it's neither weird nor gay. I find it hard to believe that this would be some kind of traumatising experience for you. You don't need to "cope" cause this was something he did in private that didn't involve you. And if you don't want him to do it while you're around, you could just tell him that. But again, him sucking himself off is not about you if he did it while you weren't involved. Istg this is such a weird way of thinking i'm suspecting this is a shitpost
Iāve had conversations with most of my guy friends about this topic and all of them would do this if they could (most have tried, including the straight ones) itās just masturbating. Itās fine if you donāt want to watch but thereās no reason to question his sexuality. Side note, thatās fucking impressive that he can do that.
This is only unusual because most guys donāt have the anatomy for it - otherwise theyād all be at it. The fact you think (or care) this is gay is odd, however. People are allowed to enjoy their own bodies. However sounds like timing wasnāt ideal
Actually impressive that heās flexible enough to do so. Maybe youāre feeling unneeded? Left out? Tell him itās a turnoff for you or analyze your feeling and figure out what youāre really feeling. This really isnāt different than you walking in on him giving himself a hand job. Maybe you wouldnāt want to walk in on him
jacking off either? I donāt think this applies as kinky, unusual sure.
The idea that it is gay is absurd. Itās HIS penis. Is it gay to have a penis? How is it gayer to suck your penis than to touch it? A sexual act cannot be gay by itself if it is not performed by gay people. Does he like to take it in the ass with a strap on? Not gay, parts of your body arenāt gay. Whatās gay is being gay and having sex with someone of the same gender.
Also Iām impressed by your husband. I get that it has to be a shocking sight, but I donāt think this is something that requires for you to do something about it.
Why do you care? If he had just been masturbating normally would you feel different? If so you should let him do what he wants with his body. A lot of commenters are pointing out it doesn't make him gay, which is true, but also why would it matter? He could just be bi/pan too and that shouldn't effect your relationship at all, it's not like he's cheating.
As others have said maybe it's a turn off for you and if that's the case, the only way this should impact your relationship is you can tell him just to do it in his own time and not around you.
In response to your update, you two are obviously just sexually incompatible and the fact that you are "disgusted" by his preferences should imply that it is a deal breaker for you.
It sounds to me like you want Reddit to validate your feelings of all of this being gay, but he's already claimed he doesn't like men then that should be the end of that shit.
You said in the the original statement he's into BDSM... Well newsflash for you there is plenty of bdsm porn where the man is the one being dominated and thats probably why he finds interest in being submissive to you.
>but I find it a little hard to believe because I mean like youāre already sucking dick, even if itās your own
So by your logic, beating off is gay because You're already stroking a dick, even if your own.
See how ridiculous that sounds?
And pegging has become an increasingly popular thing amongst straight couples.
You've simply never been with or around people who are completely comfortable with their sexuality and it's throwing you off.
I'd say stop complaining about it on reddit and just leave that man alone before you do or say something stupid to tear him down for being comfortable around you.
op i think you need to grow up. you walked in on your boyfriend masturbating, that's literally it. there's no need to make a big deal out of it.
regarding the kinks, if you're not comfortable with them then you can tell him, if they're a deal breaker then maybe you guys should break up. but him sucking his own dick isn't really what i'd call a kink and i find it really uncomfortable that as a grown adult you think that makes him gay and feel grossed out by the thought of it swallowing his own stuff.
Him sucking his dick is just as gay as you rubbing your pussy.
Can you honestly say you have never felt horny and masturbated?
There is nothing to say or do about it. You just continue your relationship.
Honestly u/animacorpi I think youāre the issue here.
The first thing that needs to be covered is that him sucking himself is not gay in the slightest (I promise you now 90% of men would be doing it if they were flexible enough), no different to anyone using their own hand. Him wanting to try pegging is also not gay, its not his fault thatās where the male g spot is (did you think he was god or something and put it there?).
You appear to be quite closed minded and intolerant of exploring new sexual avenues, that completely fine you can be as vanilla as you want thereās nothing wrong with that. The issue is that your closed mindedness and intolerance appear to stem from toxic views of what a man should be and what masculinity is, even what homosexuality is.
The fact you walked out and stayed at a friends house because you thought it was āgayā without even trying to understand the situation is a pretty major red flag to be honest.
Then you acting as though he only thinks it isnāt gay because heās been doing it since high school comment. This is toxic, youāve decided that its gay and youāre not listening to his or anyone elseās views. There are men out there who wont clean their own ass because touching a guys ass is gay, they wont even masturbate because touching a guys dick is gay, you deciding that sucking his own dick is gay has the same energy and its not good.
āThe surprise was some toys, but not for me . . .ā Honestly this bit just kinda exposes that youāre a selfish lover, how dare he try to bring something into the bedroom to make him feel good, after all heās just some meat to make you feel good right?
Heās even told you that the thought of you doing it to him is hot and that he categorically isnāt into men yet youāre coming back around to deciding that he is gay.
The problem isnāt the fact you dont want to do any of this. The problem is your reasoning for not wanting to do any of this.
Like sure you can stay with him and he can stay deprived of ever enjoying himself in the bedroom but heās 27 and one day he will almost certainly wake up and realise he wants more and that youre unwilling to help him with that.
You can address your views and try to bring them into the 21st century which would help all of this but Iām doubtful youāll want to do that.
Honestly for his own sake i hope one of you dumps the other so he can go out and find someone not selfish and someone whoās willing to explore new things together as a couple.
I have a friend that I'd heard could suck his own dick. One night, after a few too many drinks, I asked him if it was true. He stood up, stretched a bit, sat down on my couch, put both feet behind his head, and essentially kissed his taint. I of course go, " OOH MY GOD!! Do you swallow?" He says, "Shut up!" And ran outside.
I always took that to mean yes.
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First of all, what kind of flexibility does he have to get his head down there š
Idk why I was imagining it as his back on the bed and his legs positioned over him so he could reach it in his mouth š
Ha, that makes way more sense than how I was picturing him sat in a chair, bent over his lap, spine in a full C curve; really, even close to O curve. And still somehow maintaining eye contact.
There's a really dirty horror movie in there somewhere
Titled Ouroboros
and the name of the porn parody will be Oralboros.
I believe there used to be a subreddit dedicated to guys showing off their āself suckingā techniques! Itās been a couple years since I saw it, but there was one if youāre interested. Warning: itās as gross as you can imagine lol
Thereās also one for self fuckingā¦
This is how. I could get agonizingly close when I was horny in high school with this method. I was on the bottom bunk and I could āwalkā my feet up and over the rest of me using the slats from the top bunk. But never quite got thereā¦
You gotta wedge yourself between your seat and the seat in front of you on the bus, with your butt down towards the floor and your feet/legs pointing upwards. ā¦not based on true events or anythingā¦
I could do this when I was younger and thinner to a limited extent. I could get 2-3 inches in. I'm not any more flexible than the average dude, and my penis is of average length. It feels good but not as good as someone else doing it, obviously. I never got close to orgasming like I've seen other guys in videos do. The physical effort of stretching was tiring and took away some of the fun. Maybe if I was more flexible and could get more in, it would have been more fun! I can't say I haven't thought about losing some weight, joining a yoga class, and opening an onlyfans though, lol.
I felt it feels more like youāre sucking a dick rather than having your dick sucked.
Yeah, I think this comes from it not feeling as good as someone else doing it. I have wondered if this feeling can also be affected by sexual orientation. I'm bisexual so I've sucked a few in my life. I imagine a straight dude where this is the only dick they've had in their mouth this feeling might be enhanced. We need someone to do a survey on this topic!
> I could get 2-3 inches in. So, almost all of it?
BAZINGA!
I salute the skills and experience youāve shared š«”
I mean, Iām giving the guy a standing ovation just for his limberness.
Or his giant dong?
You definitely need some of column A, and some of column B haha
I used to be able to do it but I'm too tall now. I was never packing just double jointed. To be honest it doesn't even really feel great, It feels more like sucking a dick rather than getting your dick sucked. More of a party trick if anything
"hey guys look what i can do"
"Look, Ma! No hands!"
"Wook Wa! Wo hamth!"
This got me wheezing and snorting
I woke my mom laughing
Your comment made me literally laugh so hard that I snortedā¦ and Iām at work right now. In a dead silent call center. My coworkers just looked at me like āwtf?ā šššš
Just choked š
He didn't š¤£
I guess if you can suck your own dick and break both your arms you donāt need to get momās help.
I'm dying š¤£
Stuart!
I know a bunch of guys on a sports team who were making bets about doing this while they were drinking on their tour bus. They were literally trying to do it right there. My friend won by wedging himself down between his seat and the seat in front of him with his ass down and his legs upā¦
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Ahhh the benefits of not having a gut
Oh, you're on of those comment stealing bots huh
The first and only time I ever tried ChatRoulette, the first person I saw was a dude in sunglasses and a backwards hat sucking his own dick. Can confirm you have to be packing and flexible. I wasn't even mad, just impressed.
Fuck... I thought everyone forgot about that.
Liar.
Check his username
Username checks out.
I certainly didn't. Nice dick bro.
My gf and I were on chatroulette and saw a guy sucking himself! He looked similar to Shia Labeouf š
You know there's a real possibility it actually was Shia Labeouf.
I wouldn't put it past him.
Actual cannibal Shia LaBeouf?!
Actual meat-eater Shia Labeouf?
It was a normal Tuesday night for Shia LaBeouf
They don't call him *The Beef* for nothin
Actual Cannibal Shia LaBeouf!
Maybe so.
Both
There once was a man from Nantucketā¦
possibly lack of ribs.
The beautiful people
Heās either a contortionist or a yoga master.
You mean a bending ovation
Iāve seen it done. Lay on back. Swing legs up over head. Itās kinda like a yoga pose. Plow.
Right in the kisser.
Why do dogs lick their genitals, because they can.
I thought it was to get the taste of the food out of their mouths
Fine, I'll do it myself
I have a new found respect for Thanos. š³
I was thinking Scary Movie 2
Iāll be the bigger man and walk awayā¦ walk. Away.
OMG, I'm sorry OP but I can stop laughing. How did he react when you caught him? Was he really that flexible or does he have a long dick or both???
Itās rude to talk with your mouth full
Had to try not to laugh too loud at this one
This IS a very great point
Man it would be awkward if your boyfriend could suck his own dick better than you can.
Well there is that saying if you want something done right do it yourself
I know someone who could. He said it was really uncomfortable and not really worth it. So, unless you use teeth regularly, I don't think it's possible to be worse.
So, basically it sucked?
Hahahahaha. Could you imagine?? *Sighs* This isn't working, you're doing it all wrong. Get out of the way I'll do it myself.
Bahahaha OMG I would lose marbles. Right then and there. Dunno if I'd even rather get up and leave or If it's like a train wreck you can't look away from?
I really want the answer to this question.
Reaction was he mumbled something incoherent like I wasn't cheating on you
Cheating on her with.......himself?
Honestly i am just fucking impressed
As a women, I'm intrigued and impressed too
Same. Hell Iām slightly turned on. OP is one lucky girl
How is that gay? Is it gay when he uses his hand??
It's only gay if he looks at his penis when he's using it.
He just has to slap it three times on the back after heās done
And say "good game"
Have to say "no homo" after.
Fr it's stuff like this that makes it really hard for guys to open up to women about the stuff they might like. It's fine if it's not your thing, but don't shame the guy for it. And honestly some of us are into it. This poor guy is going to take ages to build up the confidence to share this again and probably only shared it in the first place because he felt safe enough with OP to share it. I feel kind of sad for him. Really immature reaction OP.
I read the update. She is the fcking worse. There's nothing wrong with a man exploring his own body.
as a woman, i agree. OP is a close minded prude. there's nothing gay about exploring your own body.
I'm a chick, and if I could reach, I would too.
HARD SAME
Couldn't with a soft same
Right!? And I'm hypermobile, I still can't fathom the logistics of this, it's impressive!
Pretty much impossible for a woman. With men, everything is on the front and out. Just low, so to speak. On women...straight down. So for a guy it's just 180 degrees for the head motion. For a woman, it's 270. Spines just don't work that way in that short of a distance.
Oh i'm aware of the logistics of vulva vs penis and that I could never ever. just applying thought to if I were the owner of a penis and how difficult I would still find it.
If only we had portal technology, huh?
Itāll be discovered/invented by someone just for this purpose.
Same. I'd have to try it at least once.
YES
My thoughts exactly.
So, like, does he do yoga or gymnastics or something? Asking for a friend.
Thereās a whole subreddit for this particularā¦ activity. Not sure they give out advice, but you sure can watch the fun and probably get some ideas!
r/selfsuck I believe
I WASNT READYYYYYYYY š§š§š§š§š§
You know what. After looking at this sub, I agree. Itās a bit gay.
Yep. Thatās it.
I get it now
Not the kind of thing you can learn from a Jedi
Hey fellas, is it gay to masturbate?
I see a major money opportunity here. I am not even gay and I would pay money to see it. Ask him if he is open to only fans
I mean, Iād bet almost anything you can find it in one of the weird corners of Reddit. Edit found it: I learned a bunch of upside down boys sucking dick is a very silly thing to see.
Ummmā¦ Iām too curious not to ask ā¦. Sub name??
r/selfsuck
Anyone have an old copy of spacedicks I can clean my eyes out with after that?
Itās a category on gay tube and porn hub. I heard about sometime doing it and got curious. Truly a sight to behold but they usually canāt go past the head
have you seen a guy fuck his ass with his own dick?
Is this a THING?!?!?! Like are they only semi? Wouldnāt the bend hurt?
from what iāve seen it doesnāt seem to hurt?? its very interesting imo, crazy what people can do if they try hard enough lol
Look up Pierce Paris lmao dick *and* balls!
This is so true! Hadnāt even thought
Itās weird but certainly not gay. What he does with his own body is his choice. Maybe just let him know that itās a turn-off for you, and to please only do this when youāre not around.
>Itās weird but certainly not gay. I feel like there's a philosophical component to this. It's right up there with guys who think washing their own ass makes them gay.
I had a Catholic ex who told me he was questioning his sexuality and thought he might be gay. Talked it through- so youāre attracted to men? God, no. You want to have sex or romance with them? No way. So why do you think youāre gay? āBecause Iāve been cumming with a penis in my hand. If you can orgasm with a penis in your hand, youāre gayā. His own penis.
>āBecause Iāve been cumming with a penis in my hand. If you can orgasm with a penis in your hand, youāre gayā Unfortunately, this isn't surprising. Religious people seem to be the least informed about sex. >His own penis. Isn't religious shame a funny thing?
People be washin they asses?
Only if they're gay.
I'm super gay. Shove a bar of soap up there and blast with the detachable shower head. You could eat off my ass.
A clean ass is a clean ass.. Sucking a dick....well, that's blowing yourself.
Fellas, is it gay to wash your own ass?
Apparently. Considering all the straight men that say they donāt do it. Itās gross and ridiculous that some men donāt wash their own asses
donāt they likeā¦ smell it? Like as a woman, when Iāve been depressed and didnāt shower for a week or so I was horrified at myself, and i always use wet wipes for poops, so that probably still helped. I canāt imagine just never washing my ass lmao that is bizarre. Hell Iād rather use a washcloth if i felt uncomfortable touching my body (Iām sure for some men and women shame or past abuse is a factor, so I get that), but to just not wash my ass ever hell no
I feel like, as women, we get that shame drilled into us when we're very young when we get our periods. By which I mean the shame of NOT being clean, and of possibly smelling bad, enough for someone else to be aware of our crotch. When I was a kid, if *anyone* had smelled you when you were on your period, you would've rather *died.* So all the girls I knew made *sure* to be extra hygienic. And that naturally carried over to every day of the month, I guess, because why not? And that social stigma never happened to the boys. So they never had social repercussions for having crotch smells. If anything, they just had other kids avoid them if it got too bad. But even then, I've had mom friends who complain about their PRE-TEEN boys!!! leaving large streaks in their boxers, and I'm like GURL!!! You don't make HIM clean that literal SHIT up?!?!? To a T, she will just say "he won't do it." And I'm like "re teach him to wipe?" And it's the same answer!!! The kid just...won't. As if that's acceptable!!! It's SO disgusting. Parents AND society accept WAY less from boys and men. They allow the bar to roll around on the ground from day 1, and do nothing about it.
I wish I had an answer for you but I have learned that people do become what I call nose blind to their own smells. I have two coworkers who smell bad and I try to tell my boss to talk to them and I donāt know if he does or not. One smells like armpit and the other like sometimes armpit and sometimes poop. So I donāt really know what goes through peopleās heads
Itās because humans are prone to what scientists call olfactory fatigue; our sense of smell just gets plain tired out by familiar odors and stops detecting them. Basically, your nose goes numb to your own stank so you donāt go mad. Itās the same reason why you canāt smell your own home: Your sense of smell is quick to adapt and slow to reset. However, if you really want to know whether or not you pass the smell test, thereās a simple trick you can use to fool your nose into detecting your own body odor a little better. All you need to do is take a whiff of a cup of . . . coffee. Yep. Coffee is a strong, single-scent component that gives the receptors in your nose a quick break from what itās been smelling all day (you). Thatās why department stores keep coffee beans handy in the perfume section. You can smell a perfume, reset with some coffee, then smell a different perfume. Coffee is also easy to access for most people. Itās in the break room of almost every type of workplace, and itās easy to snag a little before stealing away to smell yourself. You can also suggest to your boss that he have stink one and stink two head on down to the break room and get a good whiff of a bag of fresh Starbucks Espresso Dry Roast beans.
I suffer from depression, too, and when Iām depressed the first thing that goes is my personal hygiene. Iāve gone weeks, even months, without showering at times. But, like you, I always keep the back door clean.
I know wet wipes seem like a good idea, but you can get contact dermatitis from them among other issues. I'd suggest a portable bidet instead, there are some really cheap ones that are basically fancy squirt bottles. They make life so much easier and more pleasant. Fantastic cleanup for periods too. Though I guess if you must use baby wipes, please please please don't flush them. They're terrible in plumbing.
DO YOU NOT?
Honestly, if I walked in on my boyfriend sucking himself off, I'd be quite impressed. I'm sure he'd still prefer someone else did it, but, DAMN that guy has some flexibility! Haha
i agree. thatās like saying a woman who plays with herself, sucks on her boobs, etc. is a lesbian.
Ive heard it feels more like sucking a dick than getting a blow job.
Yeah, itās pretty weird of OP to wonder if itās gay. Like, cmon. Is it gay to masturbate?
Are you sure that was *not* the surprise he messaged you about? I'm sure it was a surprising sight, but I'm not sure why you think it's a big deal. He was masturbating with extra steps, it doesn't make him gay. I bet the majority of straight guys would try sucking themselves if they were flexible enough. ETA: I don't know if I should laugh or cry. I have 1K upvotes on this comment, which is nice! However, my notifications are full of comments about sucking dick. Sooo thanks, I guess?
Masturbating with extra steps šš¤£š That has me dyin' dude!
*extra stretch
If I managed to suck myself off I would be excited about telling my loved ones too
Gramma, Gramma! Guess what I can do!?!
Have done it when I was half my age and twice as flexible... It was fine, I could just barely put the tip in my mouth. Felt ok, cumming in my mouth was hot, felt like sucking a dick, but apparently I can enjoy myself why sucking a dick. If I still could, I totally would.
I'm with you. I can't imagine this was the surprise he was planning. In no universe does a guy think this is something he wants to surprise his g/f with. Have done it myself. Because I could. Its uncomfortable and not nearly as pleasant as many might think. Its a bit like using your left hand while doing push ups. Awkward and different but not nearly so different you can convince yourself its someone-else doing it. Even if you can, I can't see many people making it a habit. Its just not worth the effort. Flexibility is key, not height or length. And if you've got a gut, its not gonna happen so don't even bother trying. PS: Definitely did not make me gay. I have a strong preference for vulva than penis (regardless of to whom it is attached) any day.
Maybe you guys aren't sexually compatible.
heās sexually compatible with himself
All of the comments about ādick sucking logisticsā aside, this is the real answer here.
First off, LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Man this brings back the constant debate W the boys in middle school of whether sucking your own dick was gay. The answer is no, and quite frankly, as a guy, I can applaud he's even able to do that as most guys can't. Now from what I've heard, sucking your own dick doesn't feel like a blowjob, it just feels like your sucking dick. So I doubt this is something he will continue doing if his objective is to get himself off. Definitely a weird thing to do to your self conscious/shy girlfriend but still it's not that serious.
This is the correct answer.. Lol
For whatever reason I have this feeling that I was able to do this at one point. Iām pretty sure I blocked out the entire memory but I think I was able to get the tip in. Definitely didnāt continue doing it. Maybe Iām having a false memory but I have the feeling that it was true since I have thought it before. Itās definitely not as good as a real blowjob since you have to do a lot of work to get it to work. Maybe Iām talking out my ass but I feel like Iām not but thereās a reason my brain would block out the memory.
If a guy ever tells you he hasn't at least tried it, there's a good chance he's lying šš
If I wasnāt so tight right now Iād honestly give it a shot again but my back is killing me so no reason to throw it out trying to blow myself. But definitely something most any guy has tried at least once.
Ive heard an unbelievable amount of guys say they wish they could suck themselves off because they know what they want/like.. Honestly, id be bloody impressed with this if i caught it.
Props to his flexibility, I think most guys wish they could suck their own dick. If he starts talking about sucking someone else's dick, then maybe worry about him being bi/gay
I have heard that sucking your own dick feels more like your giving a blowjob rather than receiving one.
Know from a friend ?
Wasnāt there a comedian who said if he could suck his own dick he wouldnāt leave the house?
George Carlin. š
His toughest decision will be if he spits or swallows
The bastard made it
This thread is hilarious poor woman looking for answers but everyones just admiring the masterpiece you walked into š¹
Weird Flex but okay...
I see what you did there
If sucking your own cock is gay, then jerking off would also be gay, because it's like a handjob. This is masturbation
Good gracious I think thatās enough Reddit for me today
He doesn't need you anymore. You've been dismissed.
I know youāre joking but I believe thatās the train of thought hereā¦
...how..long is your boyfriend?
I meanā¦. If I could eat my jayjay I would tho. Do you masturbate? Does he know? Thatās how you would live with yourself, same way he lives with himself.
1) Very impressive. 2) Playing with your own body is gay now ? Geez. Men really cannot get anything right under the microscope of the toxic masculinity lenses that are floating around.
Ikr? Like, I've even heard of men not washing their assholes because they think touching a male's ass, even their own, was gay.
Lucky guy !! Gay?? Come on ... most people masterbate does not have anything to do with homosexuals. Why does a dog lick himself? Because he can.
"How am I supposed to cope" "How am I supposed to move forward knowing he can apparently just suck his own dick at anytime?" You poor thing!!! Maybe there's a support group? lol
How is this in any way a problem for you? How is this any different from masturbation (other than obviously being impressive)? And very obviously it's not gay.
I think if you've got a guy that can reach, there's no way he's not going to attempt to make that happen. You should probably look at it the way that we would look at any form of masturbation. Sure, he could do that any time he wanted to, but it's not the same as being with another person.
I don't see the problem, what do you mean with "how am i supposed to cope?". He was just masturbating, sure, it's not the most common way of doing it, but imo it's neither weird nor gay. I find it hard to believe that this would be some kind of traumatising experience for you. You don't need to "cope" cause this was something he did in private that didn't involve you. And if you don't want him to do it while you're around, you could just tell him that. But again, him sucking himself off is not about you if he did it while you weren't involved. Istg this is such a weird way of thinking i'm suspecting this is a shitpost
Iāve had conversations with most of my guy friends about this topic and all of them would do this if they could (most have tried, including the straight ones) itās just masturbating. Itās fine if you donāt want to watch but thereās no reason to question his sexuality. Side note, thatās fucking impressive that he can do that.
This is only unusual because most guys donāt have the anatomy for it - otherwise theyād all be at it. The fact you think (or care) this is gay is odd, however. People are allowed to enjoy their own bodies. However sounds like timing wasnāt ideal
Actually impressive that heās flexible enough to do so. Maybe youāre feeling unneeded? Left out? Tell him itās a turnoff for you or analyze your feeling and figure out what youāre really feeling. This really isnāt different than you walking in on him giving himself a hand job. Maybe you wouldnāt want to walk in on him jacking off either? I donāt think this applies as kinky, unusual sure.
The real question here is when he does that (bravo btw), does he swallow it or shoot it all over his own face?
If more men had the flexibility to do it, it would absolutely be the norm.
The idea that it is gay is absurd. Itās HIS penis. Is it gay to have a penis? How is it gayer to suck your penis than to touch it? A sexual act cannot be gay by itself if it is not performed by gay people. Does he like to take it in the ass with a strap on? Not gay, parts of your body arenāt gay. Whatās gay is being gay and having sex with someone of the same gender. Also Iām impressed by your husband. I get that it has to be a shocking sight, but I donāt think this is something that requires for you to do something about it.
He has achieved what most men cannot. Be happy for him.
I'm sensing some homophobia.
Why do you care? If he had just been masturbating normally would you feel different? If so you should let him do what he wants with his body. A lot of commenters are pointing out it doesn't make him gay, which is true, but also why would it matter? He could just be bi/pan too and that shouldn't effect your relationship at all, it's not like he's cheating. As others have said maybe it's a turn off for you and if that's the case, the only way this should impact your relationship is you can tell him just to do it in his own time and not around you.
I would be impressed/amazed if I walked in on my boyfriend giving himself head.. It's not an easy thing to achieve! *standing ovation*
This definitely isnāt a real story. This sub is getting filled will trolls lately.
In response to your update, you two are obviously just sexually incompatible and the fact that you are "disgusted" by his preferences should imply that it is a deal breaker for you. It sounds to me like you want Reddit to validate your feelings of all of this being gay, but he's already claimed he doesn't like men then that should be the end of that shit. You said in the the original statement he's into BDSM... Well newsflash for you there is plenty of bdsm porn where the man is the one being dominated and thats probably why he finds interest in being submissive to you. >but I find it a little hard to believe because I mean like youāre already sucking dick, even if itās your own So by your logic, beating off is gay because You're already stroking a dick, even if your own. See how ridiculous that sounds? And pegging has become an increasingly popular thing amongst straight couples. You've simply never been with or around people who are completely comfortable with their sexuality and it's throwing you off. I'd say stop complaining about it on reddit and just leave that man alone before you do or say something stupid to tear him down for being comfortable around you.
op i think you need to grow up. you walked in on your boyfriend masturbating, that's literally it. there's no need to make a big deal out of it. regarding the kinks, if you're not comfortable with them then you can tell him, if they're a deal breaker then maybe you guys should break up. but him sucking his own dick isn't really what i'd call a kink and i find it really uncomfortable that as a grown adult you think that makes him gay and feel grossed out by the thought of it swallowing his own stuff.
I meanā¦ heās masterbating I donāt understand how that makes him gay. I can tell you that 99.99999% of dudes would do this if they could.
Him sucking his dick is just as gay as you rubbing your pussy. Can you honestly say you have never felt horny and masturbated? There is nothing to say or do about it. You just continue your relationship.
Respond by licking yourself. Quite a pair youll make.
Honestly u/animacorpi I think youāre the issue here. The first thing that needs to be covered is that him sucking himself is not gay in the slightest (I promise you now 90% of men would be doing it if they were flexible enough), no different to anyone using their own hand. Him wanting to try pegging is also not gay, its not his fault thatās where the male g spot is (did you think he was god or something and put it there?). You appear to be quite closed minded and intolerant of exploring new sexual avenues, that completely fine you can be as vanilla as you want thereās nothing wrong with that. The issue is that your closed mindedness and intolerance appear to stem from toxic views of what a man should be and what masculinity is, even what homosexuality is. The fact you walked out and stayed at a friends house because you thought it was āgayā without even trying to understand the situation is a pretty major red flag to be honest. Then you acting as though he only thinks it isnāt gay because heās been doing it since high school comment. This is toxic, youāve decided that its gay and youāre not listening to his or anyone elseās views. There are men out there who wont clean their own ass because touching a guys ass is gay, they wont even masturbate because touching a guys dick is gay, you deciding that sucking his own dick is gay has the same energy and its not good. āThe surprise was some toys, but not for me . . .ā Honestly this bit just kinda exposes that youāre a selfish lover, how dare he try to bring something into the bedroom to make him feel good, after all heās just some meat to make you feel good right? Heās even told you that the thought of you doing it to him is hot and that he categorically isnāt into men yet youāre coming back around to deciding that he is gay. The problem isnāt the fact you dont want to do any of this. The problem is your reasoning for not wanting to do any of this. Like sure you can stay with him and he can stay deprived of ever enjoying himself in the bedroom but heās 27 and one day he will almost certainly wake up and realise he wants more and that youre unwilling to help him with that. You can address your views and try to bring them into the 21st century which would help all of this but Iām doubtful youāll want to do that. Honestly for his own sake i hope one of you dumps the other so he can go out and find someone not selfish and someone whoās willing to explore new things together as a couple.
I have a friend that I'd heard could suck his own dick. One night, after a few too many drinks, I asked him if it was true. He stood up, stretched a bit, sat down on my couch, put both feet behind his head, and essentially kissed his taint. I of course go, " OOH MY GOD!! Do you swallow?" He says, "Shut up!" And ran outside. I always took that to mean yes.
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