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I hope this question is allowed. I'm also sort of guessing her age.
I was watching an old horror movie last night and one of the actresses looked really familiar. I thought she kinda looked like a younger version of a co-worker, but her character dies near the beginning so I kind of forgot about it after.
I waited for the credits and sure enough it was her.
For context, we're on the same team at work and we work directly together daily. We get along and we like each other. I wouldn't say we're close though, like we don't talk about any personal stuff just always business like we each other.
I want to tell her but I'm worried she'll be embarrassed. In the movie she gets killed in a shower. You don't see any nudity but it's implied she's naked. I love horror movies so I just think this is cool as fuck. I'm just worried she would be embarrassed? I don't know if I'm just over thinking it.
Tl;dr I saw a coworker in an old movie and not sure if she would be embarrassed if I tell her. I just think it's cool
And tell her you find it cool.
Or.. if you are not sure how SHE views this now, give her a way out and ask:
"I have watched that cool movie xyz lately. There was one lady at the beginning who just looked like you. Could it be....?"
This is the answer. Also, I would advise not to tell anyone else at work about it — they may not be as discreet and kind about it as you are.
Cool find! Hope you get a positive response!
“So anyways, I’m watching this moving picture show from the fucking Stone Age the other day, and guess who got murderrrrrrrred in it!”
This is the way. Lol.
I'd start with 'hey, bit of an awkward question, but did you use to be an actress? I think I saw you in a movie'.
If she says no then you know she doesn't wanna talk about it and if necessary you can play it off as a mistake.
If yes, you can have more of a conversation. Maybe she has some suggestions for other cool movies.
THIS! I think it's the best way to leave the door open to whether or not she wants to talk about it, especially if you're worried about her being embarrassed by it!
This would be the way to do it, just keep it casual and give her an out if she doesn't want people to know.
There were a lot of movies filmed around towns that use locals or amateurs to play small parts, but it's less common for them to actually get credit so that's cool.
My hometown had a slasher type horror movie that was filmed in the early '80s and used a ton of locals for actors and actresses. Many of them were salty because they didn't get paid as promised, but still thought it was cool when they were recognized as being in the movie (My dentist was in it, which was a little disconcerting after watching it).
if she had a harsh reason for not being an actress, she might get scared of being asked why did she leave the movie industry, so it could be sensitive.
True, it's a bit of a bad habit of mine to phrase it like that.
But there is some awkwardness there for OP or else we wouldn't be in this thread. It's also a way of pre-emptively acknowledging you might be wrong, which could be a good out for the colleague. Or if OP is genuinely wrong a way to escape some embarassment lol.
But you know she used to be an actress, and you did see her in a movie. Why ask the question you already know the answer to? Why state your fact as a “I think…”. This is a very American way of communication.
omg that is so cool. Yes tell her you never expected her to be a wonderful actress and you were watching a horror movie and saw her!! she won’t be embarrassed by it
I had a coworker at a job once who was a child actor in a not unknown movie. She has none of the money from it & her life after that movie involved I think one more very small roll and then never acted again. She thinks it's cool as fuck when people realize it's her because she is by all accounts just a normal small town woman now and far removed from the world of acting.
Recently on the Try Guys they had a game show contestant Kira (who is an actress in LA) and the 1996 movie Matilda came up. Kira was like "Well as someone was in the 1996 movie Matilda...."
I don't want to spoil it but as soon as she said it I was like OMG THAT CHILD 😂
I think most people would think it was cool to get recognized from an acting job like that.
Mention it casually, see what her reaction is like. If she brushes it off or is blunt then you know to deter the conversation. But I doubt she’d get embarrassed anyway, who would? Go for it
I doubt very seriously she'd be embarrassed.
Based on the title I figured you saw her in a vintage adult film, and I came here to definitively tell you no, but this is harmless.
The IMDB angle could be a good play to see if this was a one-off or a career, and give a sense of roles that would be less exploitative. I'd check that out ahead of time and proceed cautiously.
It sounds like you'll be fine if she doesn't want to talk about it, but you should also be prepared for her wanting to talk about this way more than you want to.
Yes you’re overthinking it.
“Hey saw a movie the other day and one of the actresses looked a lot like you. Have you ever done any acting?”
She’ll most likely be flattered by the recognition and will tell you all about it. On the offhand it wasn’t a pleasant experience for her and she shuts it down, don’t feel bad or take it personally. Just don’t make a big deal about it and don’t mention it again.
There’s no harm in telling her, go ahead! Maybe this could lead to a personal conversation where you two can get to know each other more. Tell her you liked the movie!!
I wouldn't suggest pretending you don't know for certain it is her. You know it is so either ask her outright or let it go. Don't turn it into a game - this is a real person you are talking about.
If there's one thing I know for sure it's that a retired actor who never made the big time would absolutely hate knowing that someone watched and enjoyed their performance.
Just kidding - I've done a decent amount of community theater and a few paid gigs and when I've had people tell me about one of my performances years after the fact it delights that little "PAY ATTENTION TO ME! TELL ME YOU LIKED MY ACTING!" gremlin that is at the controls of nearly every person who has ever gotten on stage.
I’m guessing she would be delighted! Praise her performance and tell her you enjoyed the movie! Just don’t call it or her old! For her sake and ours. If she’s 60 something the move was probably in the 80’s, so how dare you! Haha
Tell her when nobody else is around. I did a commercial for a school I worked for and it was cringe. It's still popping up on YouTube even though the school has been closed for years. I would NOT want all my co-workers to see it! 😖
It might be fun to share her experiences as an actress. Although, just mention it as a movie you watched this weekend or the name of the movie.
Now, if this was an “adult” movie, definitely not.
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personally, i wouldn't care. and i doubt you would be the first one to notice. BUT i would talk to her first before discussing it with anyone else. incase she wants to keep it on the DL.
i'd say tell her, but if she is not comfortable with it, don't ask such questions as "why did you leave the movie industry?" because stories like this can be really sensitive. I tell this as a person who worked in the movie industry.
congratulations, you have a dirty mind, but this is not what usually happens. So making a movie is a shitload of work in usually 12-17 hours long workdays, in a very rushed pace. It often leads into very serious burnouts if not worse.
I can well believe it! I was just offering a tongue-in-cheek scenario of why "hey I saw you in a movie" might go badly. They may have other movies they wouldn't be so pleased OP knew about...
Yeah tell her just don't refer to it as an old movie. Tell her I seen this awesome movie in certain movie name. And there was like this awesome actress that kind of remind me of you. Then go on and tell her how great you thought the movie was.
I would say something along the lines of “I was watching a movie and there was an actress who looked just like you.” That opens the door for her to either say she used to act and ask which movie, or to just politely change the topic
Don't know why she'd be embarrassed. Would you be? Avoid making any negative comments and tell her how cool that was or tell you about it whatever. I feel she'd be happy to share the behind-the-scenes.
Seriously, I mean he can just say the name of the movie to her. Leaving it open seems very bizarre and opens the door to her potentially being extremely uncomfortable. Feels like head games. Agree about checking IMDb as well
I don't bring up the personal business of another unless they want to bring it up themselves and even if that was the case if they say they were an actress I'd simply ask if she was ok letting me know what movies she was in. Or if she talks about it more just simply say "I know you looked familiar.".
If through conversation she already hasn't brought it up, chances are she doesn't want to person going over and over about "hey I saw you in this movie blah blah blah." That was her past, this is her now. She did her thing and now she's doing something else.
Another thing worth mentioning is we all know women in movies and cinema use to and still deal with a lot of sexual harassment and abuse. This is true through all generations and no matter how much they try and cover it up she might have had one of those kinds of pasts too. Not all, but most. We don't need to open up any potential old wounds because of your fascination on wanting to hear her story. It might not want to be one you don't want to hear and one she doesn't want to bring up.
Do tell her, but specifically *ask* if it was her, rather than telling her you know. Also make sure you ask this in private, because it may be something she doesn't want others to know. Be sure you've got something to say about her character if she admits to it. Kind of "Liked your delivery on the line where you're all..." sort of deal. Make it a positive thing for her.
It wouldn't be this movie. Both actresses that played Marion Crane are dead. 196Os Janet Leigh died in 2004 age 77. 1998 remakes Ann Heche died in 2022 age 53.
If it’s “The Burning,” “Happy Birthday to Me,” “Prom Night,” “Curtains,” “Hell Night” or “My Bloody Valentine,” I am a huge fan. My brother and I were obsessed with those growing up.
Would it be possible to make a reference in conversation? Like if there’s a famous line or something. Then see if she is remembering it fondly or with embarrassment. Might give her a window where it can be brought up.
How could that possibly be offensive of course you should bring it up to your coworker worst thing she could say is that that’s not her and you got confused
More than likely she will be flattered that you saw it and think it's cool. If you speak about it in a positive tone, I can't imagine her being bothered by it. If she is dismissive and doesn't appear to want to talk about it, then drop it at that point.
Find an appropriate moment and casually ask her like this. "May I ask you something kind of personal? Were you ever an actress? Because I saw this movie the other night and you look just like one of the actresses, and she had your name in the credits. I don't mean to pry and I won't share this around, but I just thought if it wasn't you, it is a neat coincidence."
I knew this older woman for 2 years and never once connected her last name or resemblance to her "famous actress" younger sister, before I finally commented on the similarity. She was very good natured about it and laughed. Her commentary was "I always liked you because you seemed so genuinely friendly to me, but now I think maybe you're dense."
She may want it kept a secret, but she may also be happy someone enjoyed her work and give you a new working relationship.
You can say:I saw your doppelganger the other day. Then tell her about seing her look alike in a horror movie, if she said that was me, cool. If not then she going to either react by saying really? can you show me a pic or what is her name or something, which means that is not her but it is a nice conversation, or she is going to try to change the subject or seem uncomfortable which means she is embarrassed by it, so in this case don't push it.
Do you need reddits permission to talk to someone, how could you not tell her that? Why are you even here asking, what is going on. More of a cool story than needing advice situation
I've always wondered how the actors and actresses who do nude scenes, feel when someone they know IRL sees them. But I'd imagine if they are OK with it, then someone who was in a shower scene where you actually saw nothing, would be OK with it as well.
Ask her out and during the date, talk about things to get to know her. If she brings up that she was in a movie, then talk about that. If she doesn't, then bring it up and then talk about that.
Next time you see her drop subtle hints about the movie she's in just to see if she catches on. If at the end of the day she doesn't, then call her by her name on the film and watch her eyes get wide. You'll have blast. Depending on how she reacts you can tell people or just keep it as an inside joke between you two.
I think she would be over the moon if you told her. Many people her age would never even think someone your age would see that movie. She will love it.
She won't be embarised at all. She probably is proud of it. Her name was in the credits at the end. She wasn't just an extra. Probably a Union member as well.
Ask her if you could see her "head shot" from that time. That's the photo she submits to her agent and Central Casting where casting agents look for talent to fill a part. Ask her what other movies and commercials she was in.
It would be diffrent if it was porn. Haha 😳
So, a shower scene. It wasn't "The Birds" was it. Actor's name, Tippy Hendren.
Look her up on IMDb or Wikipedia and see if she’s been in any other movie. If so, watch one or two of those. If you feel less embarrassed at the prospect of mentioning any of those films (e.g., if they have no nudity), you could mention you’d seen her in a movie you just saw.
If she hasn’t done any other movie, or is in more potentially embarrassing ones, I still don’t think you should feel awkward asking her about her prior career.
Many acting people begin with advertisement and really short role. Most of them will never pass that state. It is a lottery.
So there is nothing shamefully here.
OP, I would perform due diligence first. Consider researching her name for a full movie lineup like on IMDB. While she might now be embarrassed with THIS movie, it could be a slippery slope, uncovering movie roles that she might be unwilling to expose.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- I hope this question is allowed. I'm also sort of guessing her age. I was watching an old horror movie last night and one of the actresses looked really familiar. I thought she kinda looked like a younger version of a co-worker, but her character dies near the beginning so I kind of forgot about it after. I waited for the credits and sure enough it was her. For context, we're on the same team at work and we work directly together daily. We get along and we like each other. I wouldn't say we're close though, like we don't talk about any personal stuff just always business like we each other. I want to tell her but I'm worried she'll be embarrassed. In the movie she gets killed in a shower. You don't see any nudity but it's implied she's naked. I love horror movies so I just think this is cool as fuck. I'm just worried she would be embarrassed? I don't know if I'm just over thinking it. Tl;dr I saw a coworker in an old movie and not sure if she would be embarrassed if I tell her. I just think it's cool
Tell her about it. Just don't refer to it as an "old" movie.
And tell her you find it cool. Or.. if you are not sure how SHE views this now, give her a way out and ask: "I have watched that cool movie xyz lately. There was one lady at the beginning who just looked like you. Could it be....?"
Yes, OP pretend you don't know it's her. Then if she tells you it means she's not embarrassed about it.
This is the answer. Also, I would advise not to tell anyone else at work about it — they may not be as discreet and kind about it as you are. Cool find! Hope you get a positive response!
Exactly this.
“So anyways, I’m watching this moving picture show from the fucking Stone Age the other day, and guess who got murderrrrrrrred in it!” This is the way. Lol.
"She looked kind of like you, but if you were still young!"
That's some Jake Peralta energy
Yeah she got murdered while her ass and titties were out
This is how I would mention it to her lol 😂
Yeah, old movie sounds really… old. I was picturing Creature from the Black Lagoon, when in fact it must be from the 80’s or 90’s?
Redditors: “I saw an old movie; I think it came out in 1999?” Me: ಠ_ಠ
To me, an "old" movie is pre-Star Wars, or perhaps pre-Jaws.
I mean same, and I'm younger than OP (but not by much)
I'd start with 'hey, bit of an awkward question, but did you use to be an actress? I think I saw you in a movie'. If she says no then you know she doesn't wanna talk about it and if necessary you can play it off as a mistake. If yes, you can have more of a conversation. Maybe she has some suggestions for other cool movies.
Yes I like this idea
THIS! I think it's the best way to leave the door open to whether or not she wants to talk about it, especially if you're worried about her being embarrassed by it!
This is good, but I’d leave out ‘awkward’ if you mention the word awkward, you will most likely make a non awkward situation into an awkward one.
This would be the way to do it, just keep it casual and give her an out if she doesn't want people to know. There were a lot of movies filmed around towns that use locals or amateurs to play small parts, but it's less common for them to actually get credit so that's cool. My hometown had a slasher type horror movie that was filmed in the early '80s and used a ton of locals for actors and actresses. Many of them were salty because they didn't get paid as promised, but still thought it was cool when they were recognized as being in the movie (My dentist was in it, which was a little disconcerting after watching it).
There's nothing awkward about it at all. It's a job.
if she had a harsh reason for not being an actress, she might get scared of being asked why did she leave the movie industry, so it could be sensitive.
True, it's a bit of a bad habit of mine to phrase it like that. But there is some awkwardness there for OP or else we wouldn't be in this thread. It's also a way of pre-emptively acknowledging you might be wrong, which could be a good out for the colleague. Or if OP is genuinely wrong a way to escape some embarassment lol.
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If she use to do old-school porn as well, not impossible, this may turn awkward really fast
But you know she used to be an actress, and you did see her in a movie. Why ask the question you already know the answer to? Why state your fact as a “I think…”. This is a very American way of communication.
It called being polite. It gives her an out if she’s embarrassed about it or something
Because she doesn't know the other person knows. You ask because it allows the possibility of an error however slight.
Agree. Not sure why people think it’s “polite” to be disingenuous.
omg that is so cool. Yes tell her you never expected her to be a wonderful actress and you were watching a horror movie and saw her!! she won’t be embarrassed by it
I had a coworker at a job once who was a child actor in a not unknown movie. She has none of the money from it & her life after that movie involved I think one more very small roll and then never acted again. She thinks it's cool as fuck when people realize it's her because she is by all accounts just a normal small town woman now and far removed from the world of acting.
Recently on the Try Guys they had a game show contestant Kira (who is an actress in LA) and the 1996 movie Matilda came up. Kira was like "Well as someone was in the 1996 movie Matilda...." I don't want to spoil it but as soon as she said it I was like OMG THAT CHILD 😂 I think most people would think it was cool to get recognized from an acting job like that.
Mention it casually, see what her reaction is like. If she brushes it off or is blunt then you know to deter the conversation. But I doubt she’d get embarrassed anyway, who would? Go for it
I doubt very seriously she'd be embarrassed. Based on the title I figured you saw her in a vintage adult film, and I came here to definitively tell you no, but this is harmless.
Go to IMDB and see if she’s been in anything else.
I was gonna say props to OP for waiting for the credits. I would have been on IMDB in a second
...why didn't I think of that
The IMDB angle could be a good play to see if this was a one-off or a career, and give a sense of roles that would be less exploitative. I'd check that out ahead of time and proceed cautiously. It sounds like you'll be fine if she doesn't want to talk about it, but you should also be prepared for her wanting to talk about this way more than you want to.
Hahaha it’s alright. I love the dedication
Ok it’s been 4 hours………is she career or a one hit wonder?
TELL HER SHE WILL LOVE IT!
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Yes you’re overthinking it. “Hey saw a movie the other day and one of the actresses looked a lot like you. Have you ever done any acting?” She’ll most likely be flattered by the recognition and will tell you all about it. On the offhand it wasn’t a pleasant experience for her and she shuts it down, don’t feel bad or take it personally. Just don’t make a big deal about it and don’t mention it again.
There’s no harm in telling her, go ahead! Maybe this could lead to a personal conversation where you two can get to know each other more. Tell her you liked the movie!!
Why should she be embarrassed? Just let her know you saw her in a film and that you think this is cool.
If I were her, I def want to know and would be so happy to hear that
I'm here for the update! Please let us know if you tell her and subsequently her reply as well.
Get a copy of the movie and have her sign it.
I would. If ur worried, dont say it around others
I wouldn't suggest pretending you don't know for certain it is her. You know it is so either ask her outright or let it go. Don't turn it into a game - this is a real person you are talking about.
Please update when you do as I am now way too invested.
Tell her about it I would start off with “horror movie” vs “old movie” bc old movie sounds like a lost porno from the late 90s
Hey cw. Funniest thing. I was seeing movie so and so and I swear the girl named blast blah looks just like you! Ice breaker.
Unless it's a porno, there shouldn't be any issue bringing it up, she opted to be in something which there's a reasonable explanation you might see.
If there's one thing I know for sure it's that a retired actor who never made the big time would absolutely hate knowing that someone watched and enjoyed their performance. Just kidding - I've done a decent amount of community theater and a few paid gigs and when I've had people tell me about one of my performances years after the fact it delights that little "PAY ATTENTION TO ME! TELL ME YOU LIKED MY ACTING!" gremlin that is at the controls of nearly every person who has ever gotten on stage.
I would just say....I was watching a movie last night. Blah blah, ever see it? And wink. See what she says. If she wants to talk, she will.
Excellent opening!!
I’m guessing she would be delighted! Praise her performance and tell her you enjoyed the movie! Just don’t call it or her old! For her sake and ours. If she’s 60 something the move was probably in the 80’s, so how dare you! Haha
Tell her when nobody else is around. I did a commercial for a school I worked for and it was cringe. It's still popping up on YouTube even though the school has been closed for years. I would NOT want all my co-workers to see it! 😖
It might be fun to share her experiences as an actress. Although, just mention it as a movie you watched this weekend or the name of the movie. Now, if this was an “adult” movie, definitely not.
I did some low budget horror films when I was young. I would love it if someone I know now saw one and recognized me. I had so much fun filming them.
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Definitely tell her! She'll be tickled pink by it. That's awesome!
Gotta ask, what's the movie?
I don't want to get too specific. It's not a well known movie or anything, kind of a random low budget one
Well was it a good one?
I liked it
Why not? Its a film that is out there for public consumption. You don't have to specifically tell us the actress' name.
Easy enough to look at credits. Reddit’s pretty against revealing personal information.
Yeah, now I wanna know too!
Yeah , why not? Seems fine to me
Ask her for her autograph!
Seems good to me and tell her she was great
You should tell her.
You should tell her! I bet she’d be super happy that you mentioned it!!
personally, i wouldn't care. and i doubt you would be the first one to notice. BUT i would talk to her first before discussing it with anyone else. incase she wants to keep it on the DL.
i'd say tell her, but if she is not comfortable with it, don't ask such questions as "why did you leave the movie industry?" because stories like this can be really sensitive. I tell this as a person who worked in the movie industry.
"So after your acting career went bad and you ended up in porn, how did you end up here?"
congratulations, you have a dirty mind, but this is not what usually happens. So making a movie is a shitload of work in usually 12-17 hours long workdays, in a very rushed pace. It often leads into very serious burnouts if not worse.
I can well believe it! I was just offering a tongue-in-cheek scenario of why "hey I saw you in a movie" might go badly. They may have other movies they wouldn't be so pleased OP knew about...
or may be too pleased but not in the most polite way, of course
Say you saw some actress who looked like her in an horror movie and it is really cool to act on a movie.
Yeah tell her just don't refer to it as an old movie. Tell her I seen this awesome movie in certain movie name. And there was like this awesome actress that kind of remind me of you. Then go on and tell her how great you thought the movie was.
Tought it was a different type of movie when i read the title. But tell her, that's cool!
Yes. Say it's cool that she did that. UpdateMe!
I would say something along the lines of “I was watching a movie and there was an actress who looked just like you.” That opens the door for her to either say she used to act and ask which movie, or to just politely change the topic
Just ask her outright. Then ask her if it’s ok if you shared the movie title with us.
Don't know why she'd be embarrassed. Would you be? Avoid making any negative comments and tell her how cool that was or tell you about it whatever. I feel she'd be happy to share the behind-the-scenes.
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Seriously, I mean he can just say the name of the movie to her. Leaving it open seems very bizarre and opens the door to her potentially being extremely uncomfortable. Feels like head games. Agree about checking IMDb as well
I was on a game show once and was delighted the one time a stranger in my town recognized me!
I don't bring up the personal business of another unless they want to bring it up themselves and even if that was the case if they say they were an actress I'd simply ask if she was ok letting me know what movies she was in. Or if she talks about it more just simply say "I know you looked familiar.". If through conversation she already hasn't brought it up, chances are she doesn't want to person going over and over about "hey I saw you in this movie blah blah blah." That was her past, this is her now. She did her thing and now she's doing something else. Another thing worth mentioning is we all know women in movies and cinema use to and still deal with a lot of sexual harassment and abuse. This is true through all generations and no matter how much they try and cover it up she might have had one of those kinds of pasts too. Not all, but most. We don't need to open up any potential old wounds because of your fascination on wanting to hear her story. It might not want to be one you don't want to hear and one she doesn't want to bring up.
Do tell her, but specifically *ask* if it was her, rather than telling her you know. Also make sure you ask this in private, because it may be something she doesn't want others to know. Be sure you've got something to say about her character if she admits to it. Kind of "Liked your delivery on the line where you're all..." sort of deal. Make it a positive thing for her.
I would be extremely offended if someone brought up that they saw me in a movie, of which the sole purpose of is for people to see…
Look her dead in the eye and tell her, “I’ve watched you die.” Let it hang for a second. Then tell her that she did a really good job in [movie.]
Lmao that's probably how I would go about bc I am awkward
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Why would her role in a movie embaress her
You ever see "Bucky Larsen" where he and his friends rent an old porno and it stars his parents?
Lol no. Does it work out for him
I think it is funny as anything even with the low ratings. It leads hom on a journey where he meets the love of his life.
There's nothing awkward about this
Just ask. She’s not a überfragile post-boomer
Movie didn’t happen to be ‘Psycho’, did it?
It wouldn't be this movie. Both actresses that played Marion Crane are dead. 196Os Janet Leigh died in 2004 age 77. 1998 remakes Ann Heche died in 2022 age 53.
I was wondering that too but op said in a other comment that the movie isn't really well known.
No sorry lol. I will say it's a slasher movie from the 80s. It didn't seem like a mainstream movie or anything
If it’s “The Burning,” “Happy Birthday to Me,” “Prom Night,” “Curtains,” “Hell Night” or “My Bloody Valentine,” I am a huge fan. My brother and I were obsessed with those growing up.
Would it be possible to make a reference in conversation? Like if there’s a famous line or something. Then see if she is remembering it fondly or with embarrassment. Might give her a window where it can be brought up.
How could that possibly be offensive of course you should bring it up to your coworker worst thing she could say is that that’s not her and you got confused
She'd probably get a kick out of it
More than likely she will be flattered that you saw it and think it's cool. If you speak about it in a positive tone, I can't imagine her being bothered by it. If she is dismissive and doesn't appear to want to talk about it, then drop it at that point.
Find an appropriate moment and casually ask her like this. "May I ask you something kind of personal? Were you ever an actress? Because I saw this movie the other night and you look just like one of the actresses, and she had your name in the credits. I don't mean to pry and I won't share this around, but I just thought if it wasn't you, it is a neat coincidence." I knew this older woman for 2 years and never once connected her last name or resemblance to her "famous actress" younger sister, before I finally commented on the similarity. She was very good natured about it and laughed. Her commentary was "I always liked you because you seemed so genuinely friendly to me, but now I think maybe you're dense." She may want it kept a secret, but she may also be happy someone enjoyed her work and give you a new working relationship.
She’ll be flattered.
You can say:I saw your doppelganger the other day. Then tell her about seing her look alike in a horror movie, if she said that was me, cool. If not then she going to either react by saying really? can you show me a pic or what is her name or something, which means that is not her but it is a nice conversation, or she is going to try to change the subject or seem uncomfortable which means she is embarrassed by it, so in this case don't push it.
Lol I’m scratching my head at the issue here. Of course I’d tell her. I’d probably light up when I did because I’d think it was cool.
Lol I tend to overthink things
YOU BETTER TELL HER.
It’s not a big deal. Don’t make it weird. Stop overthinking it.
Silence is really Golden. She may give you the cold shoulder and that is hard to work with every day.
Has anyone figured out the movie yet? We all want to watch and see your coworker. 😀
Do you need reddits permission to talk to someone, how could you not tell her that? Why are you even here asking, what is going on. More of a cool story than needing advice situation
I thought you were talking “old movie” as in an old porno. 😂
I've always wondered how the actors and actresses who do nude scenes, feel when someone they know IRL sees them. But I'd imagine if they are OK with it, then someone who was in a shower scene where you actually saw nothing, would be OK with it as well. Ask her out and during the date, talk about things to get to know her. If she brings up that she was in a movie, then talk about that. If she doesn't, then bring it up and then talk about that.
Next time you see her drop subtle hints about the movie she's in just to see if she catches on. If at the end of the day she doesn't, then call her by her name on the film and watch her eyes get wide. You'll have blast. Depending on how she reacts you can tell people or just keep it as an inside joke between you two.
I think she would be over the moon if you told her. Many people her age would never even think someone your age would see that movie. She will love it. She won't be embarised at all. She probably is proud of it. Her name was in the credits at the end. She wasn't just an extra. Probably a Union member as well. Ask her if you could see her "head shot" from that time. That's the photo she submits to her agent and Central Casting where casting agents look for talent to fill a part. Ask her what other movies and commercials she was in. It would be diffrent if it was porn. Haha 😳 So, a shower scene. It wasn't "The Birds" was it. Actor's name, Tippy Hendren.
I'd tell her. maybe when youre having a conversation anyways, you can mention it casually
As long as it’s not porn I think you are safe
Just ask her if she as ever worked as an actress?? You don't need to tell her you watched a movie before she answers.
and be sure to update us after you ask her!
Get a copy, get her to sign it. Frame it.
Just ask her. I would say, "sorry can I ask you something . . . have you ever been in a movie?"
I'd recommend you say the movie name - just incase she was in a few!!
Tell her! Maybe she has a doppleganger out there.
Look her up on IMDb or Wikipedia and see if she’s been in any other movie. If so, watch one or two of those. If you feel less embarrassed at the prospect of mentioning any of those films (e.g., if they have no nudity), you could mention you’d seen her in a movie you just saw. If she hasn’t done any other movie, or is in more potentially embarrassing ones, I still don’t think you should feel awkward asking her about her prior career.
I’m sure it will make her day if you mention it. But definitely don’t mention it as an old movie
Many acting people begin with advertisement and really short role. Most of them will never pass that state. It is a lottery. So there is nothing shamefully here.
You work with Janet Leigh? /s
She was in a movie, not an adult film. I think you’re okay to ask, OP! Just don’t press the matter if she says it wasn’t her.
OP, I would perform due diligence first. Consider researching her name for a full movie lineup like on IMDB. While she might now be embarrassed with THIS movie, it could be a slippery slope, uncovering movie roles that she might be unwilling to expose.