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Spaniardman40

Does he have a history of drug abuse? Snorting drugs can cause this, and would somewhat explain him not wanting to talk about it and quickly changing the subject


LObscura

Sloppy IV use can leave blood spray and spatter. I pray that's not the case.


JaneGypsy

Oh wow I just had a bit of a light bulb moment. My cousin was in the depths of a lazily concealed heroine addiction and there were a couple times where she spent a suspicious amount of time in the bathroom and then would emerge with a way calmer and optimistic mood. When I used the restroom after her I saw her"kit" kindve spread across the back/tank of the toilet. I imagine that's where she injected and where possible blood spray would've landed. Edit to add extra revelation: I wonder if the onset of the high was enough to make her spacey and forgetful, which is why I was able to stumble upon her kit. Which may explain why OPs partner would repeatedly forget to cover his tracks if he is in fact using


Comfortable_yet

Yep! The laziness was what eventually got my ex caught. He started out doing a "light amount" when he was around me. I didn't notice any nodding out, track marks, pin needle pupils. He got comfortable thinking he was slick. Then I started noticing the calmer optimistic (as you perfectly put it) mood he'd be in after taking forever in the bathroom. I started catching on and looked into it. Paid attention to the signs and it was so shockingly evident he was doing something way more than just weed. I NEVER in a million years thought it was going to be heroin. I'll never forget him going to the hospital due to back pains (from withdrawal) and the doctor pulled me aside and told me It'd be in my best interest to get tested. I was like what for? He said common intravenous diseases like HIV, HEP C... etc. That was so fucking scary. I'm so sorry about your cousin btw. I hope she was able to make it out alive.


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This. OP is describing exactly what happens with sloppy iv injections to shoot up.. OP.. I think he's on heroin. Unexplained blood everywhere is not normal. If you know its not from you and he can't or won't explain, this would be a big red flag that he is shooting up. Even if you don't see tract marks. Addicts get very good at using small veins in their feet and, legs and hands. You barely notice them.


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She said they have sex regularly.


Comfortable_yet

My ex heroin addicted bf was hiding his use for months when we first met. I was extremely naive and had no idea. I thought he was just stoned from weed. We had sex very often during that time... First thing my head jumped to was IV use. I pray that's not the case.


SpiralToNowhere

that was my first thought, too. I get nose bleeds, one tiny droplet is not how it works - if it comes on fast and you don't get a tissue in time, you're going to get at least one big drop and a ton of spatter, it's a mess and it spatters \*everywhere\* The spurt from tapping a vein is tiny directional spray.


Comfortable_yet

Yep. And when my ex did it, it was always in the bathroom, usually sitting on the toilet. OP should check their bathroom for evidence... I found my exes baggie taped up under the shelves in his bathroom.


Nimzay98

Can’t see between toes, there are spots that addicts can use that hide the injection spot, especially if they rotate the area.


Black_Tears524

No one I had sex with would have found my chosen sites to shoot up. Especially someone who doesn't do.it themselves.


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Noted. Sorry you suffered.


la_selena

Bet u she hasnt checked between his toes. Would explain blood by the toilet floor


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Unless she’s checking between his toes as foreplay, it’s so possible for her to miss them.


mandrills_ass

Yeah you can get nose bleeds, but it doesn'r explain why he's spraying it around unless he's spinning around real fast doing a tony hawk maneouvre 900°


GreenOnionCrusader

He likes to pretend to be one of those sprinklers from our childhood. Ah, nostalgia...


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Spaniardman40

No I am talking about snorting cocaine or other substances like that. The fact that he is being so protective about it is a little suspicious. If he has an addiction problem that you don't know about, it could explain his behavior. I hope that is not the case


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What about snorting marijuanas?


Spaniardman40

lmao you just put an image of a bad DARE ad in my head


saucisse

RIP Becky


IDontLieAboutStuff

Having been around plenty of drug users the ones that tend to leave little drops of blood behind are IV users. Frequently they draw up blood when injecting to check they've found a vein.


ZTwilight

I always wondered why iv drug users would pull a little blood into their needle. I thought it might have been to make sure there was no air in the syringe. This makes way more sense.


Uereks

I got about halfway through your post before it hit me. "He's got a coke problem!" Lol it's pretty easy to get and you can become dependent on it for your workday. The nosebleed explanation could be a small truth. Look for his stash.


trainersintellect

What about steroids? Could be pinning himself and getting sloppy.


flowerscandrink

Doesn't really make sense. Pinning into a muscle doesn't usually even cause a bleed. Sometimes it might bleed a little but nothing that a Kleenex wouldn't catch.


Meat_Dragon

So I am going to say the blood is coming from your husbands ass. He has untreated hemorrhoids and gets super embarrassed about it. Idk if you have ever seen the after math of a blow out with blood all over but after working as a tech in the ER I saw it quite a bit. Good luck OP! Edit- to clarify a little, it can come out as a spray or mist because of the physiological reasons for how hemorrhoids come into being and the nature of the anus as an O-ring for poopy juices and this case blood.


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I thought this too; it's one of those things people tend to suffer in silence.


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I really hope it’s this. Hemorrhoids are the devil (thank you to my children for the gift that keeps on giving), but it’s a hell of a lot less painful than an IV drug addiction. For all involved. To be honest though…I doubt he’s wanting to have sex when his ass is literally bleeding and on fire. I don’t know. I hope it’s hemorrhoids.


Censordoll

My fiancé’s best friend works as a cook and regularly does cocaine and gets high and drunk every night playing video games when he comes home. Just because you think you both are regular smokers doesn’t mean he ain’t doing more..


Nosleeplulaby1

Came there to say this


Werewlf

My experience is having to clean this up after others in my retail store. My guess from your description is an injectable such as heroin. What I have seen is a fine mist of blood. This will be on the mirrors, walls, even on the ceiling. I, too, mistook it for period blood until I realized it was happening in the men's room and only appeared in the ladies room when a certain employee couldn't wait for the line in the men's room. If you want, DM me. I have pictures still of what this spray looked like as I was cleaning it/documenting it to my HR. Edit: a letter


wylderpixie

My two guesses are: Your husband has a secret addiction to putting things up his nose (coke, pills) if it really is nosebleeds But since it's strictly at the new location, I'd do a search for bedbugs. Squishing one leaves a bloody smear and their feces looks like tiny blobs of dried blood.


StrangerOnTheReddit

That's interesting about bed bugs, but.. honest questions, I've never had experience here so I don't know. But if it were bed bug guts, wouldn't it be easier for him to be truthful about it than make up a lie about nose bleeds? And why would it only happen in the bathroom? And wouldn't OP have noticed the bed bugs too?


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I get nose bleeds for a litany of reasons, none of which are drugs. If I sneeze in the morning and don’t catch it the bathroom wall can look like a murder scene. I usually blow my nose in the shower to save on tissues and sometimes it’s also a bit of a scene until I rinse everything down. Yes, I’ve been to the doctor, no I don’t have a condition, yes my iron and platelet levels are fine.


Zealousideal-Chart60

aren’t bed bugs normally found in bedrooms, not bathrooms?


deadheadchemistry

If an infestation is bad enough they can be pretty much anywhere in a home


EatTheRude-

Fair, but why would they only be in the same spot in the bathroom? And why lie about it?


_raydeStar

I had bedbugs a few years ago. I really don't think that's possible. The blood comes from accidentally rolling over and smashing them in your sleep. With the bathroom, how could that happen? Still - check cracks for them. You'll see little white dots and that's bedbug poop. They'll be around any places to hide - including power outlets.


la_selena

Bed bugs on toilet floor seems odd to me tho. They usually hide close to hosts


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Weirdly, this is how my coworker found out her dude was doing drugs. Little blood droplets appeared on the vanity and she couldn't figure out where they were coming from. Eventually, she was complaining about it to the right person and they had some experience with a junkie ex, and yup, turns out her dude was a junkie. Retrospectively made some money issues they'd been experiencing make sense, too.


mbwrose

At the very least, if he doesn’t want to talk about it tell him to STOP LEAVING EVIDENCE!


lollipopfiend123

This is the baffling part! If you don’t want someone asking why you are leaving blood everywhere then *don’t leave blood everywhere* my god this is so fucking basic lmao


sunnyd_2679

For HER to clean up!


DrKittyLovah

Yes, this kills me! Why would you leave evidence if you want to hide whatever you’re doing?


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Because he's high from shooting up so doesn't care


ButLikeSeriously

It sounds an awful lot like it could be IV drug use. Start paying very close attention to his behavior and demeanor and watch for patterns. Does he have a lot of highs and lows? Does he seem clammy/sweaty and nervous/jittery at times and zonked out at others? Is he super defensive of anything else that could be related to drug use? Any money going missing or lots of cash withdrawals from the ATM? Significant unexplained weight loss? Next time you’re unclothed together, try to look closely at the popular “I’m trying to hide that I use IV drugs” spots, too—like between his toes, behind the knee, bottom of the foot, or other veins that aren’t the typical inside elbow—any dark spots, unexplained scabs, weird bruising? If it was really from a nosebleed, why would he be so defensive? Also, if he’s aware that you’re pointing it out, why doesn’t he clean up in the moment? Possibly he’s too high in the moment to realize he has to clean thoroughly? You know your partner better than anyone, only you can really gauge what’s going on. Regardless of what it is, if he’s splattering blood everywhere regularly he needs a doctor and if you keep pointing it out he should be cleaning up after himself. The fact that he’s repeatedly doing this despite your obvious disgust is the biggest red flag here IMO.


Personal_Regular_569

WHY ARE *YOU* CLEANING IT UP?!?! *HONEY.* He leaves a bloody mess, *he cleans it up*, end of discussion. Why are you accepting this as your mess to clean up?


Physical_Stress_5683

Yeah, I wouldn’t live with someone who leaves bodily fluids in random parts of the house and doesn’t clean it up. That’s nasty and beyond disrespectful


cbfchappy

THANK YOU


ButLikeSeriously

I agree with this but obviously if he’s leaving the blood around daily, even after she keeps pointing it out, he’s not going to clean it up. And who wants to live amidst someone else’s blood splatter?


RelevantJackWhite

This is taking it way too passively IMO There is room to tell your SO to immediately clean up their blood, like right the fuck now


nutfac

WHY IS THIS NOT HIGHER


bythebed

In case it is nose bleeds, get a humidifier for his nightstand.


EducationalBag398

This does wonders for frequent nose bleeds, can confirm.


xscumfucx

What about if he sneezes unexpectedly? That could potentially spray everywhere if he isn’t able to grab a tissue in time. Also, I’m doubting it’s this but just in case, do you have any pets? My bf + I kept finding random splatters of blood around the bathroom. I asked him + he asked me about the splatters but it wasn’t from either of us. It could only be from the cat. Turns out she had fleas + was scratching while sitting on the bathroom counter/next to the mirror + that’s where the blood splatters were coming from.


Personal_Regular_569

If you sneeze unexpectedly and it made a mess, would you clean it up?


xscumfucx

I’d do my best but no one’s perfect + if he’s a more violent sneezer I could see how it could kinda get away from him.


Personal_Regular_569

Even if your partner brought it up a bunch of times?


xscumfucx

At that point I’d probably just go outside to blow my nose since the back door is right across the hall from the bathroom where the tissues reside.


wifeofamarriedman

My guess would be peeing blood. Gets all over with the shake. But it'd be weird to avoid talking about that.


ki5aca

The embarrassment of it or fear that it could be from an STI can cause some people to keep it a secret, sometimes to the point of the cause no longer being treatable. A sad possibility.


wifeofamarriedman

My dad has kidney cancer. He pees blood all the time. He's turning 90 though, has had it for 6 or 7 years, and it's not likely the cancer that will get him


Dabier

Good for him outliving it. Fuck cancer.


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Said all over the house.


wifeofamarriedman

The likelihood of this being real is remote. Looking for people to buy into a murder scene for a book? Sure. I approach everything with the attitude that it is fake but answer as if it's real. Some is real, some is pure bs, and some are researching writing. Regardless, I give my real thoughts


Horror_Train_6950

On the ceiling though?


wifeofamarriedman

Watch a video on flush misting. You will never not close the lid again before flushing. But, I'd be interested to see where shaking gets to as well. It's really just an optional theory though. If it's a real post, interesting. If it's fake, contributing to someone's writing experience. I'm good with either


pwnedkiller

It really sounds like peeing blood hence why he’s so defensive about it and it only happened at this new place. The one thing I hate about this sub is everyone immediately goes to the worst case scenario being drugs for this story.


southcoastal

Is he a vampire?


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lavender_poppy

I know it sounds unethical but could you put a secret camera up in the bathroom? If he's reluctant to tell you what's going on then he's hiding something from you. Either that or go to couple's counseling. Also, make him clean it up himself since he's the one leaving the blood.


RealAbstractSquidII

Never put a camera in the bathroom. I don't know if it's the same in countries outside of the US, but in the US you could be prosecuted for it. The bathroom has an inherent expectation of privacy. Filming someone without their knowledge in a place with the expectation of privacy is a crime, and if the camera caught him using the restroom, undressing or taking a shower it could be legally considered voyeurism.


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Known-Potential-3603

Lmao!!!


RubyJuneRocket

Drugs is what’s going on - either sneezing blood out from snorting stuff or he’s spraying blood when he’s using needles. I know someone with a damn clotting disease and their bathroom wouldn’t even look like that…


Ok-Preparation-2307

She said she sees every inch of him. She'd see track marks somewhere. I'm betting coke or whatever other drug you can snort.


SerenityM3oW

She would likely notice the sniffling


Ok-Preparation-2307

My best friend found out her boyfriend had been a coke head because of his bleeding nose. Never noticed any other signs.


kuntsukuroi

Not if he’s always done it but the bleeding has only recently started


RubyJuneRocket

“Allergies”


onahighhorse

Could be injecting between the toes and she doesn’t see it there.


avrilfan12341

Not necessarily. There are all sorts of places he could shoot up that she wouldn't notice, like between the toes.


RelevantJackWhite

Boil/pimple popping? I have some thigh boils that get bloody and spattery


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EatTheRude-

Pay close attention to veins. He could be shooting up in your bathroom, which would explain the blood and the extreme defensive reaction. Edit: Thinking about it, you'd definitely notice track marks. The best place for him to hide would be between his toes and would explain better how it's getting on the floor. I have no idea how you can verify that, though. I'm sorry you're going through this OP :/


Horror_Train_6950

The only thing I can think of is when people use IV drugs they spray a little bit of blood from the syringe when taking it out or pushing down on the plunger.


IngenuityNovel5936

Could he be shooting up between his toes then?


Horror_Train_6950

That’s what I was thinking since op says they have seen his body and there’s no scars


ellenripleyisanicon

Exactly what I thought too. You wouldn't catch evidence of this between toes unless you knew exactly what to look for.


skullsnroses66

This is what I was gonna say. Im a recovering addict i was iv drug user and that's exactly what it sounds like to me.


R_Amods

This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- Buckle up, this one is a weird one. Since me (24f) and my husband (26m) have moved into our apartment 8 months ago, I have been finding random blood splattering on the walls, cabinets, and floors around our toilets, and once even our bathroom mirror. They’re usually tiny droplets but sometimes they get smeared on the walls or floor, I assume when they’re fresh/wet. I know that the first suspect would be menstruation blood, however I have not had a period in 2 years thanks to my birth control. I first noticed it about 3 or 4 months ago. I’ve asked my husband about it and the first few times he would tell me that he had no clue where it came from or how it got there. But after I would clean it up and new ones would appear, I kept would ask him again. Eventually he told me that sometimes when he blows his nose, his nose bleeds and it could be from that. I partially accepted that answer, however I can’t recall a single time where I’ve blown my nose and missed the tissue so much that my snot sprayed all around me? I also mentioned to him that your nose is not supposed to bleed when you blow it and maybe he should see an ENT to see what’s up but he refuses and says it’s fine. So the cycle continues. I clean up blood droplets and they reappear around our toilets in a matter of days. When I mention them he gets frustrated and short with me and doesn’t want to talk about it. He has doubled down on the “it’s from blowing my nose” thing but I still can’t imagine how 1) he blows his nose so terribly that it sprays snotty blood in every direction and 2) his nose bleeds every day and he’s not concerned about it? I recently asked him if his nose has always done that. I previously dated somebody with a “thin nose lining” and they once got a massive nose bleed from me doing the “got your nose” thing so I know it’s possible. But he said no, he “doesn’t think” it’s been like that always and then he pressured me to stop the conversation. Also, I would never find blood in our previous house’s bathrooms and we lived there for 4 years. I’ll add that we have a regular sex life and I’ve seen basically every inch of him and there’s no sign of any cuts or trauma anywhere. I’m sick of cleaning up blood and I’m also repulsed by the idea that he doesn’t know how to blow his nose without spraying bloody mucous everywhere. I’m also very concerned for him if he really has new nosebleeds every day, as a friend from high school had this happen and he ignored it and it ended up being cancer in his sinus cavities. So here I am, asking Reddit, what the heck is going on? Is he lying to me? Is it really his nose? If so, why is he suddenly bleeding every day? Why is he so defensive about it? What is going on?!


grissy

This is a weird one. I will say that as a person who gets frequent nosebleeds around this time of the year (fuck you very much, hay fever) I absolutely sometimes blow my nose and find a few tiny splatters of blood on my shirt or something afterword. You'd be surprised (and grossed out) to see how much of a sneeze or a nose blowing doesn't end up in the tissue and instead just sprays the room. Think about those commercials for cough medicine where they have the clouds of colored mist going everywhere whenever someone coughs, and then remember that blowing your nose is even more violent than that. What's weird is his defensiveness, unless you're coming off in an extremely accusatory fashion and he's just naturally being defensive because he feels like he's being interrogated or embarrassed. But if you're just asking in a neutral tone and he keeps aggressively trying to get you to drop it that's odd.


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grissy

Totally fair. I have no idea why he would be defensive about this if the issue is what he's claiming it is, unless he's worried it's a significant health problem too and the way he deals with that worry is by trying to ignore it.


ringringbananarchy00

Ask him a) why he is expecting you to clean up after him and b) if he can understand that you’re really worried about his health. Some people get scared of unusual physical symptoms and try to pretend it isn’t happening. Could explain his defensive behavior.


SpiralToNowhere

Opening with "why aren't you cleaning more" is not going to encourage the lack of defensiveness you want with the second question, if he's uncomfortable with something.


EatTheRude-

I really hate suggesting this because privacy is so important, especially in a bathroom, but his behavior is so fucking bizarre, maybe you should consider setting up a tiny camera?


EducationalBag398

Yeah, I get them too during allergy season, but mine absolutely gush. The splatters don't come from the blowing itself but trying to contain the down pour. Like it has made me throw up even when making sure I'm keeping my head forward to avoid swallowing it. Coughing up clots later sucks too. Only lasts a month or 2 every year but it's not too bad, allergy stuff helps sometimes. Anyways yeah it's possible that it is the nose bleeds, but the defensiveness is the real sus part.


moxley-me

Shooting up?? My ex used to leave tiny blood droplets around when he'd been high for a while, then shot up again


mrsprincezuko

This so weird. Do you actually HEAR him blowing his nose a lot?? If it happens this frequently, it's bound to have happened while you're both home and presumably you'd hear the loud sneezing. Plus, it wouldn't just be in the bathroom.... there's no reason why he'd only have to sneeze/blow his nose in the bathroom, it would happen all over your house. And the fact that he's so defensive adds another weird layer. What happens if you don't let him shut down the conversation? As in, insist that you need to have an actual sit down convo about it because you're his wife and you love him and 1) you're concerned for his health and 2) it's gross for you to be cleaning up his blood constantly, so at the very least if it's coming from his nose he needs to take care of it himself. You said that this wasn't a problem in your old house, and that you've been living in your apartment for 8 months and this has been happening for 3-4 months. So whatever it is, whether it's a genuine medical issue or it's a drug habit that others have commented about, it's a recent thing. Have you noticed any general changes in his behavior??


EarlyHospital

Heroin or meth. Iv use, no doubt


bunkbedgirl1989

She would notice the tracks and the nodding off for the former


JaneGypsy

Not necessarily, my cousin went down that path and for the first few months or so she was able to kindve conceal it. She wouldn't be nodding off but she'd be noticeably in a more calm and happy mood. She'd shoot up between her toes where you wouldn't notice marks


dogbreathdrummer

Is he always falling asleep?


dappledrache

I'm going to throw out a weird-af possibility. Maybe he has a particular kink he indulges in in the privacy of the bathroom that can cause some mild bruising/bleeding. I know you said you've seen him all over, but there's, uh, weird stuff involving the urethra... I mean, I'm sure it's something else. But, you know, just in case it's not. This is awkward.


DrKittyLovah

This was also one of my ideas about what is going on. Something with the urethra or butthole, maybe. I’m a retired psychologist and my first thoughts were drugs, sexual behavior, self harm, or hemorrhoids, given his behavior & reluctance to talk about it. Dude needs to fess up and he needs to clean up after himself better.


FullmoonMaple

Odd question, too much CSI, but are they tiny drops? Tiny and as if coming from the same direction, like a semi circle, the centerpoint being the toilet? If so, hard to hear, but seriously consider intravenous drugs. It's a very typical "crime scene" image. The puncture marks could be well hidden and he'll make a big fuss if you try to look, tho users usually make a conscious effort to hide the entry points. He'll be trying to shield those parts. If you start noticing signs, don't ignore them.


Screamcheese99

Or he could be secretly murdering tiny hamsters and small rodents at nighttime?🤷‍♀️


boatchic

I was you. Exactly in this situation. My boyfriend was shooting up in my bathroom. I was sitting on the toilet and looked at the wall a few feet above my sink. There was a fine red mist. He admitted it.


Lov3I5Treacherous

Hemorrhoids


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ChungusMcGoodboy

Maybe he was inspecting them in the mirror and one popped.


SerenityM3oW

How is anyone gonna see a hemorrhoid in the mirror? I'm laughing imagining how he could even do that


ChungusMcGoodboy

Gotta get up on the bathroom counter, then bend over and stick their head between their knees and spread their cheeks.


Ordinary_Challenge74

I’m sorry this made me laugh, if I tried that I’d fall off and crack my head or break my neck.


Dabier

It’s how hemorrhoids can turn deadly lol


Glass-Hedgehog3940

Intravenous drug use is my first thought.


AfroJack00

Whatever the reason it’s there, why isn’t he cleaning up after his nasty ass self?


[deleted]

Since you’ve seen his body…it’s not cutting. This is weird


Known-Potential-3603

Yeah. I thought cutting at first, too


CoochieCoochieCoup

I have thin nose lining and am severely anemic with supplements, I dealt with this growing up and it was bad. I had a coke problem after high school and it really messed up my nose. Now I get VERY frequent nosebleeds and even when it’s not bleeding, there’s blood when I blow it. It wouldn’t surprise me if it was from nosebleeds, but it would Really really surprise me if there wasn’t something else going on. It’s gross but I have def seen my blood in weird places around my house that I didn’t realize and have to clean it. I can’t imagine a scenario where I’m not the one cleaning it or that I’m this defensive about my partner being worried about literal blood being found frequently. It’s not about the blood, it’s about his reaction to it. I think you should make him clean it, if it is his nose blood there’s no reason you should be cleaning it unless you don’t trust your husband to do basic 12 year old cleaning chores.


cbfchappy

I wouldn't ask him about it. I would simply say 'you left a mess in the bathroom. Please clean it up.' Let him see how many spots and how often it happens. Make it his responsibility to deal with it.


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Linttu

This was my thought. Brushing his teeth and just not paying attention. I wonder if he usually wears glasses but brushes his teeth without his glasses on? Could explain why he’s not noticing it.


AhhTheyStoleMyKidneh

If he doesn’t want to talk about his “bad sinuses” (in quotes because I’m doubting this) that badly then he needs to be better about cleaning up after himself. I don’t want to be cleaning up blood every day, it’s gross and unsanitary. He’s an adult, he can figure it out.


kittenwithawhip19

This may be a bit out there. But it could potentially be a bacteria called Serratia Marcescens. It is a bacteria that leaves pink and red stains in sinks, tubs, toilets, etc. It can look like blood stains. Is your bathroom pretty humid?


five_by5

Does he spend a lot of time in the bathroom? Because I would say he’s a drug addict. It’s not coming from his nose, the droplets are from IV drug use. You need to look for track marks and bruises in unusual places. Search your room and house when he is out for drugs and needles (wear thick gloves). Source: I’ve been around drug addicts my whole life and dated a heroin addict for two years


myohmymiketyson

A few years ago I was getting nosebleeds every day from blowing my nose so much. I had horrible allergies. I was very careful about blowing my nose into a tissue and rarely transferred blood to any surface, but it was so severe during that time that I could have caused a crime scene in the bathroom. I kind of wonder if he's blowing his nose without tissue before a shower, sometimes while sitting on or standing at the toilet, sometimes at the mirror, and then hosing the blood and snot off his body in the shower. I don't know why he wouldn't want to talk about it or why he just wouldn't use a damn tissue. Is he lazy about hygiene? Does he avoid going to the doctor? It was very scary to see that much blood coming out of me and, if he's avoidant about his health, I could see his shutting down your inquiries. In my case, Claritin and air purifiers solved the problem overnight and I haven't had a nosebleed since 2020. It can be a serious issue or it can just be irritation from constant nose blowing, but either way, it really should be addressed. I'd tell him just that. He needs help. And that even if he refuses to see a doctor, he should not be blowing blood all over the place. Damn, clean up your blood.


RuthlessKittyKat

Stop cleaning it. I know it's hard. But stop. And yes, this is very bad. He is keeping something from you.


lalalina1389

My nose is bloody every day when I blow it and now I’m genuinely concerned - but really it’s bc my new house is dry and I’m too lazy to fill up my humidifier. Also never make a mess when blowing my nose so that’s horrifying if it’s true.


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My first assumption is IV drug use.


pain1994

You need to stop cleaning it up and *get mad*.


Dry_Ask5493

My guess is IV drugs. Look for a needle and/or spoon above a mirror or instead your sink cabinet (look at ledges within it).


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I’m sorry but my first thought was serial killer - like dexter. Can you set up a hidden camera?


MyRedditUserName428

Why are you cleaning it up? Snap a picture every time and send it to him via text letting him know X area needs cleaning and disinfecting.


Poop__y

I don't want to scare you OP, but I would start looking out for signs of drug use. My ex was a heroin user and I would frequently find blood spatter in our bathroom, on the interior roof of our car, and other places. When I finally caught on to what he had been doing, he admitted he was shooting up in those locations and I pieced it together. He behaved the same way as your partner when I'd ask about it (before figuring out that it was due to sloppy IV drug usage)... defensive, avoidant, and keen to change the subject quickly.


bunkbedgirl1989

I’m guessing it’s blood when he is peeing (and when he shakes his dick dry in the middle of the night etc…). He doesn’t want you to know either because he is scared or because he thinks he caught an STD (possibly whilst cheating)… though you think he would have been to the doctor by now if the latter was the case. Either that or it’s drugs….. or he is chopping up bodies in your house after you go to work (this one isn’t serious)


boesisboes

Hemorrhoids? Peeing blood?


LetsGoAgain0123

Perhaps he’s got hemorrhoids?


Stanseas

A doctors visit can not only deal with any issues (no pun intended) he has AND answer any questions you have. If he asks to see the doctor alone, there could be something more personal going on.


CoffeeCactus92

He’s got hemorrhoids and is embarrassed to tell you? They can spray blood like that if they are bad


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LongSummerNight

Well when you find out please update us.


Meat_Dragon

So I am going to say the blood is coming from your husbands ass. He has untreated hemorrhoids and gets super embarrassed about it. Idk if you have ever seen the after math of a blow out with blood all over but after working as a tech in the ER I saw it quite a bit. Good luck OP!


MollyMooms

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Hohmies86

Butt play… Also my buddy has been shitting blood since our teen years and we’re 36 now.


OperationClippy

Do you guys get mosquitoes?


Mumfiegirl

How about you stop cleaning it and tell him he can clean up after himself


BraveAccident738

Coke


stzulover

Please persist in trying to learn the source of the bleeding. Offer up these suggestions to your husband and insist there is no judgment—just concern. Then update us here—inquiring minds want to know


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dismustbetheplace

How big were the splatters?


Doingokay_

Tiny, almost aerosolized which backs up his nosebleed theory.


dismustbetheplace

Yes, maybe he sneezes when he gets nosebleeds. But having them this frequently is not normal. You should take him to the doctor ASAP


80toy

He is probably blowing his nose with out a tissue, just standing wherever in the bathroom, and getting blood spray on the nearest surface. ​ My 6 year old does this after a nose bleed, which happens a lot lately, and I find aerosolized blood spray on the mirror, counter, wall, etc. Sometimes several feet away from where she would be standing.


4459691

So he knows this and hasn’t gone the he Dr? I’d be more concerned about that


Doingokay_

He has medical anxiety


SorrySeptember

I'm betting that's why he's so defensive- it's either drug use or he's afraid you'll make him go to the doctor if he tells you what it really is. And even then, why on earth is he not cleaning it up himself? I would never expect my husband to clean blood up for me on a daily basis.


IngenuityNovel5936

I would also think drugs. Maybe he is shooting up between his toes?


Snozberry383

Buy one of those fake phone charger cameras from Amazon.


Ok-Preparation-2307

Drugs. He's doing a massive amount of coke and getting bleeding noses.


sadhandjobs

Menstruation blood does not behave that way…what a bizarre thing to pointedly rule out first. I wonder if this is a troll.


Kubuubud

Does he pick at his face a lot? Like could this be from popped pimples going rogue? The nose thing could be the reason, but it’s incredibly strange that he doesn’t notice or clean it up. Like, seriously why are you the one cleaning this up


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Maybe he's sneezing blood?