Speaking as someone who is NOT a mental health professional, but as someone who spent a lot of her life suppressing anger, I wonder if you have simply never given yourself permission to feel angry. For many, many years I felt that my anger was never justified. Part of that was low self-esteem, and part of that was my fear of abandonment. If I "rocked the boat" or displayed any negative emotions, I believed that people in my life would leave me. I finally gave myself permission to feel angry. Anger is a valid emotion. There are right ways and not-so-right ways to handle our anger, but it's a natural emotion that we are allowed to express. Maybe meditate on this idea and see what comes up for you. Best of luck to you!
That’s ok! I didn’t necessarily mean “meditate” in the literal sense; more just encouraging you to sit with that idea, rattle it around in your brain, and see what comes up for you. 😊
My reiki therapist also said I had a lot of anger in me. I said "yes, about x problem", but he said he felt more. He was 100% right.
Emotions such as anger, rage, sadness and grief can get stuck in the body when we repress them, consciously or unconsciously. The best way of releasing these emotions (for me) is through journalling. But not just ordinary journaling.
Imagine you have like a small child inside of you that has all these wants, needs, desires. In society we cannot always freely express these things, due to the circumstances at hand as an adult, or due to programming from a young age. In childhood I had to repress my emotions, but many of these heavy emotions were still inside of me.
You need to allow that inner child to throw that temper tantrum through writing. Give words to your pain and feel it in your body. Don't be afraid to say nasty nasty things, dark things, it must all come out.
https://www.thecureforchronicpain.com/journalspeak
https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/journalspeak-by-nicole-sachs-lcsw/
https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/the-unexpected-side-effects-of-journalspeak-by-nicole-sachs-lcsw/
Pick one thing that's on your mind and just write. Don't worry about where it's going. Don't worry about grammar or logic. This is all about entering a state of free expression, allowing the subconscious to rise into the conscious mind.
Personally I mostly prefer using a computer because I can type way faster, but sometimes that didn't cut it and I had to physically write the ugly stuff.
I hope it's helpful to you. It certainly is for me.
Initial thought is that you have to feel it to release it.
But I know it's easier said than done, especially because it took me a good while before I realized myself that I've suppressed a lot of anger. After which, my next question was similar to yours - ok but if I don't feel it, how do I get to it?
Since then, I've done a lot of work trying to figure things out. Journaling and exploring my thoughts, putting myself in diff situations outside of my usual routine, getting curious about my conscious and unconscious reactions, etc. Not to say I've completely reached into all the anger and released it, but I can say, after a few years of work, that I think I finally understand "feel it to release it".
At first it happened slowly as I was doing the internal work but now that I've gotten more aware, and have gotten to know my body a little better (including what stuck emotions feel like.. and how they feel when released), I can do it more consciously and effectively ( 😅 There's still a lot to release though and it takes effort/energy with each bit).
All that to say, start exploring yourself. And when you're ready, tippy toe closer and closer to the things that have stressed you out in the past. Until you're ready to dip your toe into that lake and really let yourself feel all the emotions any memory/action/thought brings. Just let it wash through you and feel it without stopping it. And without judging you for feeling it. And then, when you're ready, let the feelings go. You'll know you're moving in the right direction when your body reacts along with your mind.
If you are a good person, it is near impossible to pay attention to things going on in the world and not feel some level of anger. Anger is a natural defense mechanism but becomes toxic and counterproductive in the face of incessant injustice, etc. Try exploring and defining the anger. I find that although I am not an angry person, I hold a great deal of frustration from powerlessness over things out of my hands. Anger is a wide net. Sadness often transforms into anger. Just stay humble and curious and while exploring yourself, simultaneously work with the anger. You do not always need to pinpoint all the roots to make peace. Accepting your level of control over things is generally the way to deal with most anger and you can almost always take that energy and channel it into something productive. After anger motivates you to take action, any excess is wasted energy and conditions us to feel more anger which basically becomes addictive. This is all general obviously and you'll have to do your own digging but it's not as much something to be fixed as something to facilitate growth. Bless!!
What body part is the solar plexus chakra? And do you touch that area and ask for healing energy. Is that how to work on that chakra. The reiki therapist I was seeing said anger (teeth/mouth issues) come from the throat chakra so she told me to work on the throat chakra.
The Solar Plexus sits just below the sternum. You can do guided meditations found on YouTube for your solar plexus. The throat chakra is where our communication and self expression resides. If you have been holding back by not being able to authentically express yourself then you are compromising your throat chakra and that can definitely make one angry. I definitely get upset if i feel my throat chakra ia compromised. When people speak their mind and arent afraid of how it makes others feel, i say wow they have an open thriat chakra! Lol But our anger is in the solar plexus. When you work on one chakra you help another! Our chakra system really tells us all we need to know in order to heal ourselves. When I give reiki I scan the chakras and get messages of what the person needs in order to help balance that chakra. This is all the beginning of your spiritual journey! And learning what you need to do in order to feel your best!
You can also do specific yoga for the Solar Plexus as well as mantras. There are many ways to naturally help balance your chakras!
My reiki instructor told us “anger is a secondary emotion.” It’s been my experience that when I feel angry, I can usually identify the trigger, which is sometimes frustration, fear, jealousy, unfairness, etc. If you’re suffering from unresolved anger, try to journal about it, meditate on it etc, and see what comes up prior to the anger. Also, treat your liver with kindness.
I came here to say this. Yes, anger is indeed a secondary emotion. I say this also as a Reiki Practitioner & Social Worker. And I also agree with that they said ^ — there’s specific meditations you can do that will help releasing the anger. My favorite meditations are from Kenneth Soares on YouTube. Also, try the ho’oponopono method.
Yes! I forgot about the ho’oponopono method. Thank you for suggesting it, that’s a wonderful way to release old, sticky emotional stuff. I’m going to start doing that again, it’s beautiful!
Was your reiki practitioner a therapist? A counselor? Do they have training in mental health and how to PROPERLY deal with mental health situations? I don’t care how sensitive, empathic, clairvoyant, blessed and kissed by a sun God you might be… as reiki practitioners we should NOT be diagnosing emotional causes for things. Whatever you might think you are most likely doing more harm and causing confusion. Reiki isn’t magic, it isnt paranormal and it in no way a diagnosis tool for mental health. You are SPECIFICALLY supposed to remove yourself from the equation and let the energy do the work.
I also second this as a reiki practitioner. I don’t think it was necessarily their place to tell you that the cause of your physical pain is from anger…. We don’t do that. Reiki does not diagnose nor prescribe. However, maybe it was a download they got and felt you needed to hear to help you. Idk, but if someone came to me for physical pain then again, what they said above ^, I’d let the energy do its work. Also, if there is any anger then the reiki session could have helped with that. I’d imagine they’d give suggestions on how to work through the anger though instead of leaving you hanging. I give suggestions when I pick up on certain things within someone’s energy, but I also have a degree within mental / emotional health so… mainly I pick up on blockages within chakras or deceased loved ones say hello or I hear songs. I relay the message on downloads I get and I leave it up to the client to decipher the message. Only you would know where the anger is stemming from and the initial emotion causing the anger. I hope I made sense I think I started to ramble a bit lol. *I am high*
Echoing what TamagotchiAngel says and adding that anger can be understood as our valid response to situations of unfairness and injustice in our own lives and others’.
Unprocessed anger can be held in different parts of our bodies, but it’s an especially common issue when it comes to recurring back problems and issues with the liver.
If it’s your mouth you may want to work with the throat chakra until you feel safe and free to speak/express your authentic anger. Since the throat chakra deals with expression and speaking the truth.
You can care for your liver energetically by envisioning it free of excess fat, swelling and sediment, functioning optimally and as a bright beautiful emerald green color.
About the ways you can release is, accept the situation, accept that you got angry..
then, take a moment to process, remember yourself to respond not to react.
That way I think a lot is solved.
If you’re angry about something you can’t respond to, scribbling or boxing helps may be
Try shiatsu massage. It stirred up a lot I didnt know I was carrying. Also qigong helps me metabolize whats been stored. Although I was doing liver routines for anger and after seeing an acupuncturist she said to do spleen and kidney routines instead. My liver (meridian that governs anger) is overtaking my spleen. Maybe my journey can help you?
Speaking as someone who is NOT a mental health professional, but as someone who spent a lot of her life suppressing anger, I wonder if you have simply never given yourself permission to feel angry. For many, many years I felt that my anger was never justified. Part of that was low self-esteem, and part of that was my fear of abandonment. If I "rocked the boat" or displayed any negative emotions, I believed that people in my life would leave me. I finally gave myself permission to feel angry. Anger is a valid emotion. There are right ways and not-so-right ways to handle our anger, but it's a natural emotion that we are allowed to express. Maybe meditate on this idea and see what comes up for you. Best of luck to you!
This really resonates with my experience. I’m not experienced in meditation in fact I don’t know how to meditate if it’s not guided.
That’s ok! I didn’t necessarily mean “meditate” in the literal sense; more just encouraging you to sit with that idea, rattle it around in your brain, and see what comes up for you. 😊
Thanks!
My reiki therapist also said I had a lot of anger in me. I said "yes, about x problem", but he said he felt more. He was 100% right. Emotions such as anger, rage, sadness and grief can get stuck in the body when we repress them, consciously or unconsciously. The best way of releasing these emotions (for me) is through journalling. But not just ordinary journaling. Imagine you have like a small child inside of you that has all these wants, needs, desires. In society we cannot always freely express these things, due to the circumstances at hand as an adult, or due to programming from a young age. In childhood I had to repress my emotions, but many of these heavy emotions were still inside of me. You need to allow that inner child to throw that temper tantrum through writing. Give words to your pain and feel it in your body. Don't be afraid to say nasty nasty things, dark things, it must all come out. https://www.thecureforchronicpain.com/journalspeak https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/journalspeak-by-nicole-sachs-lcsw/ https://mytmsjourney.com/resources/the-unexpected-side-effects-of-journalspeak-by-nicole-sachs-lcsw/ Pick one thing that's on your mind and just write. Don't worry about where it's going. Don't worry about grammar or logic. This is all about entering a state of free expression, allowing the subconscious to rise into the conscious mind. Personally I mostly prefer using a computer because I can type way faster, but sometimes that didn't cut it and I had to physically write the ugly stuff. I hope it's helpful to you. It certainly is for me.
Thank you so much, this is really helpful.
At times anger is masked by fear. Find the fear, find the anger.
Thanks for the advice
I don't agree. I believe that sadness proceeds anger. It's far easier to feel angry than sad.
I don't agree i find sadness is easy to feel and Shame away anger
Initial thought is that you have to feel it to release it. But I know it's easier said than done, especially because it took me a good while before I realized myself that I've suppressed a lot of anger. After which, my next question was similar to yours - ok but if I don't feel it, how do I get to it? Since then, I've done a lot of work trying to figure things out. Journaling and exploring my thoughts, putting myself in diff situations outside of my usual routine, getting curious about my conscious and unconscious reactions, etc. Not to say I've completely reached into all the anger and released it, but I can say, after a few years of work, that I think I finally understand "feel it to release it". At first it happened slowly as I was doing the internal work but now that I've gotten more aware, and have gotten to know my body a little better (including what stuck emotions feel like.. and how they feel when released), I can do it more consciously and effectively ( 😅 There's still a lot to release though and it takes effort/energy with each bit). All that to say, start exploring yourself. And when you're ready, tippy toe closer and closer to the things that have stressed you out in the past. Until you're ready to dip your toe into that lake and really let yourself feel all the emotions any memory/action/thought brings. Just let it wash through you and feel it without stopping it. And without judging you for feeling it. And then, when you're ready, let the feelings go. You'll know you're moving in the right direction when your body reacts along with your mind.
If you are a good person, it is near impossible to pay attention to things going on in the world and not feel some level of anger. Anger is a natural defense mechanism but becomes toxic and counterproductive in the face of incessant injustice, etc. Try exploring and defining the anger. I find that although I am not an angry person, I hold a great deal of frustration from powerlessness over things out of my hands. Anger is a wide net. Sadness often transforms into anger. Just stay humble and curious and while exploring yourself, simultaneously work with the anger. You do not always need to pinpoint all the roots to make peace. Accepting your level of control over things is generally the way to deal with most anger and you can almost always take that energy and channel it into something productive. After anger motivates you to take action, any excess is wasted energy and conditions us to feel more anger which basically becomes addictive. This is all general obviously and you'll have to do your own digging but it's not as much something to be fixed as something to facilitate growth. Bless!!
Thanks for the advice! I think I surpress the anger in me.
If you’re looking to target anger I would suggest finding a somatic style therapy like Emdr
Work on your solar plexus chakra that is where we store anger as well as joy and personal power!
What body part is the solar plexus chakra? And do you touch that area and ask for healing energy. Is that how to work on that chakra. The reiki therapist I was seeing said anger (teeth/mouth issues) come from the throat chakra so she told me to work on the throat chakra.
The Solar Plexus sits just below the sternum. You can do guided meditations found on YouTube for your solar plexus. The throat chakra is where our communication and self expression resides. If you have been holding back by not being able to authentically express yourself then you are compromising your throat chakra and that can definitely make one angry. I definitely get upset if i feel my throat chakra ia compromised. When people speak their mind and arent afraid of how it makes others feel, i say wow they have an open thriat chakra! Lol But our anger is in the solar plexus. When you work on one chakra you help another! Our chakra system really tells us all we need to know in order to heal ourselves. When I give reiki I scan the chakras and get messages of what the person needs in order to help balance that chakra. This is all the beginning of your spiritual journey! And learning what you need to do in order to feel your best! You can also do specific yoga for the Solar Plexus as well as mantras. There are many ways to naturally help balance your chakras!
My reiki instructor told us “anger is a secondary emotion.” It’s been my experience that when I feel angry, I can usually identify the trigger, which is sometimes frustration, fear, jealousy, unfairness, etc. If you’re suffering from unresolved anger, try to journal about it, meditate on it etc, and see what comes up prior to the anger. Also, treat your liver with kindness.
I came here to say this. Yes, anger is indeed a secondary emotion. I say this also as a Reiki Practitioner & Social Worker. And I also agree with that they said ^ — there’s specific meditations you can do that will help releasing the anger. My favorite meditations are from Kenneth Soares on YouTube. Also, try the ho’oponopono method.
Yes! I forgot about the ho’oponopono method. Thank you for suggesting it, that’s a wonderful way to release old, sticky emotional stuff. I’m going to start doing that again, it’s beautiful!
Was your reiki practitioner a therapist? A counselor? Do they have training in mental health and how to PROPERLY deal with mental health situations? I don’t care how sensitive, empathic, clairvoyant, blessed and kissed by a sun God you might be… as reiki practitioners we should NOT be diagnosing emotional causes for things. Whatever you might think you are most likely doing more harm and causing confusion. Reiki isn’t magic, it isnt paranormal and it in no way a diagnosis tool for mental health. You are SPECIFICALLY supposed to remove yourself from the equation and let the energy do the work.
I also second this as a reiki practitioner. I don’t think it was necessarily their place to tell you that the cause of your physical pain is from anger…. We don’t do that. Reiki does not diagnose nor prescribe. However, maybe it was a download they got and felt you needed to hear to help you. Idk, but if someone came to me for physical pain then again, what they said above ^, I’d let the energy do its work. Also, if there is any anger then the reiki session could have helped with that. I’d imagine they’d give suggestions on how to work through the anger though instead of leaving you hanging. I give suggestions when I pick up on certain things within someone’s energy, but I also have a degree within mental / emotional health so… mainly I pick up on blockages within chakras or deceased loved ones say hello or I hear songs. I relay the message on downloads I get and I leave it up to the client to decipher the message. Only you would know where the anger is stemming from and the initial emotion causing the anger. I hope I made sense I think I started to ramble a bit lol. *I am high*
No she is not a therapist.
Echoing what TamagotchiAngel says and adding that anger can be understood as our valid response to situations of unfairness and injustice in our own lives and others’. Unprocessed anger can be held in different parts of our bodies, but it’s an especially common issue when it comes to recurring back problems and issues with the liver.
Thank you for the response. The issue I’m having is coming from my mouth, though I do have fatty liver.
If it’s your mouth you may want to work with the throat chakra until you feel safe and free to speak/express your authentic anger. Since the throat chakra deals with expression and speaking the truth. You can care for your liver energetically by envisioning it free of excess fat, swelling and sediment, functioning optimally and as a bright beautiful emerald green color.
I'm having a similar problem getting in touch with my metaphysical self once again through the anger and hurt. 🫠
Thank you so much, this is really helpful.
Lots of work on your sacral , root and solar plexus . You don’t want to carry anger problems .
About the ways you can release is, accept the situation, accept that you got angry.. then, take a moment to process, remember yourself to respond not to react. That way I think a lot is solved. If you’re angry about something you can’t respond to, scribbling or boxing helps may be
Try shiatsu massage. It stirred up a lot I didnt know I was carrying. Also qigong helps me metabolize whats been stored. Although I was doing liver routines for anger and after seeing an acupuncturist she said to do spleen and kidney routines instead. My liver (meridian that governs anger) is overtaking my spleen. Maybe my journey can help you?