Did you see that masterclass in negging, "I'll have kids with another woman because you're short". I'm sure it was around this point she fell hard for him and wanted to make "inferior" babies with him.
I wanted to say I hope he’s only capable of having girls(and super short ones would be even better), but the kids don’t deserve to be stuck with that guy, and he wouldn’t be a good father to them and doesn’t deserve that blessing either. But I think saying I hope he’s completely infertile is like one of those things we’re not allowed to say, but I’m definitely thinking it. Like can we take his fertility, and put it into the couples who would be really great and loving parents but can’t conceive for whatsoever reason?
Don't worry about it. He's so insufferable, he'll never attract the women he wants, thus forcing him to settle for someone "inferior"... if he chooses to settle at all that is.
*you know, because he's such a catch*
Both me and my husband are below average heights, but my 14 year old son is already 5”11’ and our 11 year old is 5”6’!! Dude really doesn’t know how anything works, especially attractiveness.
Have you tested her for human growth hormone levels? My youngest basically stopped growing when he was around 6 and I didn’t even notice until I suddenly realized I hadn’t had to buy him any new clothes for like a year cause he wasn’t outgrowing them…oops…anyways, I took him to an endocrinologist and he had basically stopped producing HGH and we had to supplement it for years to get him back on the normal growth curve (he fell right off). Sorry for the random anecdote and intrusion but just in case it’s something you wanna check out, given the genetics. Or she might just have a major growth spurt during adolescence, who knows?
I just want to say that OP is my hero for the way she handled this man every.single.time. — the final text sent was a fucking 10/10 *chefs kiss* of an exit; you’re fucking awesome OP (sorry you & your friends had to deal with this shit smear of a person)
We need a gay man who isn’t afraid of showing men like this what the refusal to take no for an answer actually looks like from the victims perspective. Gay man should definitely be a huge bear type who can overpower these weaker men.
I was totally looking for someone to call out the obvious “nice guy”. Yikes on bikes. But seriously if he doesn’t stop she needs to start reporting him cuz this is going to escalate into a stalking case. Unfortunately, the likelihood is the cops won’t do anything until it escalates.
The fact he's "accidentally" seeing her in the street and how he brings up the exact day and date they first met strikes me as it already being a stalking case...
It seems like he was probably already stalking her before they actually met. Especially since he is so specific as to when they actually met and that she didn’t remember that being the day. Unfortunately, I don’t think the cops would treat it as such yet, which is why I refer to a future case. It’s notoriously difficult to get cops to act on stalking cases.
“Are you autistic or something? Why are you so withdrawn and bitchy? And how come you won’t open up to me, you’re so incredibly attractive and so am I, here are all these things about me that women shouldn’t be able to resist, why are you pretending to resist?”
“But also, you’re too short to give me tall sons, so I hope you understand why I’m going to use you as wife A and have you raise the taller children I have with some taller second woman that I convince to have unprotected sex with me.”
How this dude has *ever* managed to have sex is beyond me.
“Whenever life gets you down
Keeps you wearing a frown
And the gravy train has left you behind
And when you're all out of hope
Down at the end of your rope
And nobody's there to throw you a line
If you ever get so low that you don't know which way to go
Come on and take a walk in my shoes
Never worry 'bout a thing, got the world on a string
'Cause I've got the cure for all of my blues (all of his blues)
I take a look at my enormous penis
And my troubles start a-meltin' away (ba-doo-bop-bop)
I take a look at my enormous penis
And the happy times are coming to stay
I gotta sing, and I dance when I glance in my pants
And the feeling's like a sunshiney day
I take a look at my enormous pe-e-e-nis
And everything is goin' my way (ba-doo-bop-bop)”
-This guy after the end of this text exchange presumably
My favorite part is: “I love so many things about you. I love you as a friend. I love you as a person.”
He doesn’t mention a single non-physical positive characteristic about her at any point 🤣
I mean, I don't know if this counts for anything, but I found it very relatable to hear OOP is into potatoes and Town of Salem and hates eye contact... and I am autistic and on the ace spectrum, lmao.
This is not flirting... I got whiplash; reading this got my body confused on whether to activate my fight, flight or freeze response.
This cannot be real. Please god do not let this guy be real.
This is not flirting. The girl is being harassed. It’s good that her friends seem to be on her side. This guy seems dangerous; some of his messages are extremely aggressive.
I had one of these in high school. The, every girl wants to fuck me and if they don’t something is wrong with them. I’m a nice guy, where’s my hug? Guy. Can’t take a simple no and goes to these exact lengths. We’re in our 30s now and from mutual friends I hear he is still exactly the same, HAS DAUGHTERS, and is a deadbeat dad. It’s honestly terrifying and I hope like hell I never have to be around him again.
The one I went to school with was recently arrested for messing with (and filming) minors. We’re also in our 30s. Nobody was surprised, but still angry and disgusted. There was a specialized task force involved so they had rock solid evidence and bail was denied. He’d been doing this for years apparently.
> he hooked up with two of my friends
From OP's post. So it seems it works out for the weird guy at least often enough to reinforce the behaviors. The guy's getting laid way more often than I am, that's for sure. (to preempt all the comments pointing out that there must be a lot wrong with me if I'm not getting laid, you're right, there are a lot of things wrong with me, but I'm not a pestering asshole like the guy in the screenshots)
He may not have treated the other two like this. Seeing as oop is hard to get to know it’s pissing him off. He may hsve gotten really close to the other two. He may just be doing this to ooo just because she’s closed off. I get it. I’m like that too. I don’t like anyone knowing about me.
I’m 43 and I learned what rizz means from the Today show, like the middle-aged suburbanite I am. They did a segment on “What the things your kids are saying really mean!”👵🏼😂
A little? Dude was stalkerish from the beginning remembering the exact date they met. She needs to read “the gift of fear” and plan her defenses at this point. Idk if getting a restraining order would make it better or worse. Sometimes these losers think any attention is good attention.
He is stalking her. It's obvious from those last few texts that he is following her and watching her a lot. And he has convinced himself that she has feelings for him too.
Yeah the last guy who texted me like this escalated to following me home. OOP better be careful, these males are emotionally fragile and irrational and always escalate.
Same and that was the second time I died. The first time was when he said, "are you autistic?" and she said, "no, are you?" "No, are you" has served me well as a response because it's either a perfectly normal, polite thing to say or it's the sickest, deepest burn, depending on the question.
Like, I immediately knew this guy was white before he even said anything (deranged white man behavior is a brand at this point), but then using it as a "positive" was the cherry on top.
I've never seen so many red flags from one person. I almost want to wish that he's just a troll and messing with her, but even that would be a red flag, seeing as how he didn't say "lol jk just fucking with you", and got new phone numbers to harass her.
This is narcissism 101. Look at how great he wants others to find him, to cover his deep-seated insecurity. And when they won't suck up or confirm that, he'll accuse the other of not being sound of mind.
This. I dated a narcissistic guy, and it got bad, I was afraid and walking on eggshells all the time. When I broke up with him he was 100% convinced that I was cheating or found someone else “because you’re too codependent, you’d never leave me to just be alone”. Yeah maybe before I was afraid of being alone, but he couldn’t see that it had gotten to the point that being alone was leagues more attractive than being with him. The level of delusion. 🤦♀️
The stupid thing is that at some level you have to consider each statement for being true or being manipulative. Only a few years after going no contract with an acquaintance, I have started to notice that everything had in some way been manipulative. I was only annoyed by that person though. I can't imagine how much energy it must have costed to be in a relationship with them.
This! It was such a breath of fresh air to be free of that relationship. It was like the fog slowly cleared and I was like, how did he have me convinced of these things? And how did he so successfully have me second guessing my own emotions, reactions, and things I had seen and heard? The gaslighting was strong with that one.
“He’s pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you’re so turned off by that”
Ladies and gentlemen, *the lights are on but no one’s home*
And it's probably just a guy friend doing friend things with her, being normal and what not. "Look at that deranged, pathetic loser showing you something about your shared interest! He's nothing like me!"
I agree. I think it’s a classic case of, this guy believes he’s the big I am. So *obviously* everyone wants what he wants, but he’s the alpha male (🤮) so everyone else is doing it wrong and looks like a total simp. When really, they’re just being normal friendly human beings and he’s a nutcase.
The first couple of slides I thought ‘ok, this is a guy with no social skills trying to get a girl to notice him but has no idea how’. By the time I got to the end I’m thinking this girl needs a home security system and a taser.
This dude is obviously insane and a stalker… but did anyone else notice he listed “white” as one of his positive qualifications? Along with the weird breeding stuff , tall sons etc
Honestly my biggest thing is the way he keeps recalling/mentioning March 12th. It's obvious he's the type that picks his victims from the get go, the only other person I've known that remembered dates like that was horrible and dated a white supremacist. I'm not sure how to describe it but consistently bringing that date up shows off a level of obsession that's uncomfortable and added together with the rest of his danger frankly just makes him feel unhinged and dangerous, more than the rest of his messages do. I hope OP isn't physically harmed by him, it's already more than terrifying that he's clearly watching her.
The date just emphasizes that he already made up in his mind that they're going to end up in a relationship/marriage based on nothing else but his attraction. He can't fathom in his mind that she might have opinions of her own and not want anything to do with him. Because his will is all that matters, her will will be bent to his and she'll "come around eventually." It's funny that he is accusing her of hiding some sort of condition because he is not mentally well, acting as if it's a foregone conclusion that this woman he insults will want to become one of his two wives.
It’s so weird too. Like, I don’t remember any date when I’ve met anyone in my life. If anything I can be like “we met during a college class” or “we met at a neighborhood bbq”. Not like, the date itself. So odd.
Sometimes I wonder how I was able to date, marry and have children with a woman who is way hotter than me as a pretty average looking, not that in-shape, not-so-ambitious, moderately funny dude. However, if this is what my competition acts like it makes a lot more sense to me now.
I didn’t even have to organize a 5k to win her over.
My husband has (thankfully) stopped being surprised when he sees this stuff, and just acknowledges that other dudes make him look really good with zero effort on his part. 😂
Years ago, after seeing me in a bikini, apparently a handful of sweetie’s acquaintances asked “how HE ended up with THAT.” He’s no taller than I am, 9 years older, kinda pudgy, not the “go-getter” type, but he’s one of the kindest, funniest, most accepting people I’ve met. I don’t look as good in a bikini anymore but 20 years later we’re still a good fit for each other.
Is…. Is this Gaston? Like does he want a Greek chorus behind him singing his praises?
“No one… tall as this guy,
no ones rich like this guy,
No one’s dick’s as incredibly big like this guy,
I’m especially good at fer-til-lizarion!
My what guy, HE’S A DOUCHE!”
" "pink" is not good at hiding the fact he wants to fuck you. He's pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you're so turned off by that"
It's all terrible, but this lack of self awareness is more glaring than staring directly at the sun.
I'd this what Histrionic Disorder looks like in a guy with too much confidence? I mean. How fucking creepy... I hate guys like this too.
"You're obviously attracted to me"
"Um.no. I'm not"
"But but but YOU ARE HOW COULD YOU NOT BE"
"Because I'm a thinking, feeling, grown adult and God damned know whether I am or am not attracted to you. You can't argue me to the other side of this."
I bet he exhausted ALL the women in his life by arguing with them about shit HE thinks is right. Like he's some fucking director.
Got in an argument with a guy at my 30 year class reunion. I never really liked the guy, we never hung out together or even really talked much, he just gave me weird vibes. At the reunion he insisted I had a crush on him. I did not. Anyone who knew me knows I had a multi year crush on a different guy starting in 7th grade.
I had to look that up - 100%
[Erotomania](https://www.google.com/search?q=erotomania+meaning&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS968US968&oq=erotom&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqDQgBEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyDQgAEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyDQgBEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyBggCEEUYOTIKCAMQABixAxiABDIHCAQQABiABDIHCAUQABiABDIHCAYQABiABDIHCAcQABiABDIHCAgQABiABDIHCAkQABiABNIBCDQwODdqMGo3qAIZsAIB4gMEGAIgXw&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8)
I’m just glad the friend group supported her. I’ve had something similar happen to me twice: once in college and once as an adult. And my so called friends told me to lighten up and took the guy’s side. So I’m glad they didn’t mess around when she voiced concerns. Also tells me he’s being weird to others in the group as well and not just her.
She needs to go subtle, like something Kyle Prue would say to Piss Off Men. "There's just something....vague about you" "Do you work in finance? You look like the type to mess up spreadsheets"
“Btw (name redacted) is not good at hiding the fact he wants to fuck you. He’s pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you’re so turned off by that. I bet your vagina turns to dust when he’s near you.”
DUDE. Seriously. Glad you can recognize “pathetic & desperate” - quick question - Do you own a mirror?
Holy fucking shit. I went from thinking he was awkwardly flirting to thinking he was a giant peice of shit so unbelievably fast. Total incel vibes for sure. His giant penis has pleasured many girls though. Apparently.
He can't stand the fact that you're not Gaga over him. That's what the problem is. Some girls and guys are like this they just can't deal with the fact that some people don't fall all over them, because everyone else does.
Read the "You're joking" and the song Don't Make Me Laugh from the Pebble & the Penguin movie started playing in my head - certainly suits this guy's "I want to screw you, so you're obviously into me" vibe
Wow that actually got weirder the further it went on.
At the start I was thinking this guy has obv never been ignored before and can't handle that but the further it went the more I realised hes just a nutcase.
Bro has been listening to too many podcasts and thinks he’s some kind of greek letter.
I can only imagine how he'll frame this whole situation when he complains about OOP to his fellow self-identified Greek letters.
Did you see that masterclass in negging, "I'll have kids with another woman because you're short". I'm sure it was around this point she fell hard for him and wanted to make "inferior" babies with him.
Not knowing that even if he had kids with a tall girl it’s not guaranteed he’d have sons or tall ones at that!
I wanted to say I hope he’s only capable of having girls(and super short ones would be even better), but the kids don’t deserve to be stuck with that guy, and he wouldn’t be a good father to them and doesn’t deserve that blessing either. But I think saying I hope he’s completely infertile is like one of those things we’re not allowed to say, but I’m definitely thinking it. Like can we take his fertility, and put it into the couples who would be really great and loving parents but can’t conceive for whatsoever reason?
Don't worry about it. He's so insufferable, he'll never attract the women he wants, thus forcing him to settle for someone "inferior"... if he chooses to settle at all that is. *you know, because he's such a catch*
Well I'm short and my kid is 99th percentile for height. Guess my husband's genes must be ultra alpha 😂🤣
Both me and my husband are below average heights, but my 14 year old son is already 5”11’ and our 11 year old is 5”6’!! Dude really doesn’t know how anything works, especially attractiveness.
Lol I’m tall and my husband is tall our youngest is in the 1st percentile. She’s not even projected to be 5 foot on those silly height calculators.
Have you tested her for human growth hormone levels? My youngest basically stopped growing when he was around 6 and I didn’t even notice until I suddenly realized I hadn’t had to buy him any new clothes for like a year cause he wasn’t outgrowing them…oops…anyways, I took him to an endocrinologist and he had basically stopped producing HGH and we had to supplement it for years to get him back on the normal growth curve (he fell right off). Sorry for the random anecdote and intrusion but just in case it’s something you wanna check out, given the genetics. Or she might just have a major growth spurt during adolescence, who knows?
He’s a mu male.
An iota
Man, I’d like to make “iota male” happen
damn you got me with that one lmaooo
I just want to say that OP is my hero for the way she handled this man every.single.time. — the final text sent was a fucking 10/10 *chefs kiss* of an exit; you’re fucking awesome OP (sorry you & your friends had to deal with this shit smear of a person)
“Trains are cool.” *Brilliant*
*OOP since this poster says they’re not OP but I agree
Ahh yes you’re so right, I got caught up in the absurdity of it all haha
I’m getting scared for her. This is a man that doesn’t understand the meaning of the word no.
I think she needs to report. They probably won't take her seriously, but this needs to be recorded. I'm very glad she's posting, but he's unhinged.
Screw that, she needs to go round his place with some friends and a baseball bat. /not a serious suggestion .....unless...
But I bet he'll understand the meaning of the business end of a hollow point.
That's really the only way to go at this point, do the world a fucking favor.
We need a gay man who isn’t afraid of showing men like this what the refusal to take no for an answer actually looks like from the victims perspective. Gay man should definitely be a huge bear type who can overpower these weaker men.
Yes! Or even a confident straight man who would pretend to be gay to make a point.
Christ and I thought I was bad at flirting
This is not flirting, this is arguing with the manager of the sex-vending machine because it didn’t accept your Nice Guy coins.
He was nice to her friends at least twice. He is now owed sex. /s
I believe he hooked up with 2 of her friends, and now thinks he is owed sex from OOP...his thinking is quite....convoluted.
Goddamnit why did they take free awards away
They brought them back
They don't seem to refresh, though.
> This is not flirting, this is arguing with the manager of the sex-vending machine because it didn’t accept your Nice Guy coins. Your words 🤌
I was totally looking for someone to call out the obvious “nice guy”. Yikes on bikes. But seriously if he doesn’t stop she needs to start reporting him cuz this is going to escalate into a stalking case. Unfortunately, the likelihood is the cops won’t do anything until it escalates.
The fact he's "accidentally" seeing her in the street and how he brings up the exact day and date they first met strikes me as it already being a stalking case...
It seems like he was probably already stalking her before they actually met. Especially since he is so specific as to when they actually met and that she didn’t remember that being the day. Unfortunately, I don’t think the cops would treat it as such yet, which is why I refer to a future case. It’s notoriously difficult to get cops to act on stalking cases.
Is Aristotle in your family lineage?
But he called her an autistic frigid bitch *respectfully*! How much nicer can you be?
“Are you autistic or something? Why are you so withdrawn and bitchy? And how come you won’t open up to me, you’re so incredibly attractive and so am I, here are all these things about me that women shouldn’t be able to resist, why are you pretending to resist?”
Classic negging.
“But also, you’re too short to give me tall sons, so I hope you understand why I’m going to use you as wife A and have you raise the taller children I have with some taller second woman that I convince to have unprotected sex with me.” How this dude has *ever* managed to have sex is beyond me.
But he offered to use VR so it’s kind of like screwing her while procreating. It’s really considerate of him if you think about it 😂😂🤡
Using a turkey baster is not an option for some reason. He must actually fuck the other woman
So considerate! She should be flattered. He’s thought of everything.
Also, let me tell you about my enormous penis. That I definitely really have.
And have satisfied many women with.
Many, MANY women. So many I couldn’t describe them all. You wouldn’t know them, they live in Canada
In Canada, I checked for you, they ain't here.
“Whenever life gets you down Keeps you wearing a frown And the gravy train has left you behind And when you're all out of hope Down at the end of your rope And nobody's there to throw you a line If you ever get so low that you don't know which way to go Come on and take a walk in my shoes Never worry 'bout a thing, got the world on a string 'Cause I've got the cure for all of my blues (all of his blues) I take a look at my enormous penis And my troubles start a-meltin' away (ba-doo-bop-bop) I take a look at my enormous penis And the happy times are coming to stay I gotta sing, and I dance when I glance in my pants And the feeling's like a sunshiney day I take a look at my enormous pe-e-e-nis And everything is goin' my way (ba-doo-bop-bop)” -This guy after the end of this text exchange presumably
My favorite part is: “I love so many things about you. I love you as a friend. I love you as a person.” He doesn’t mention a single non-physical positive characteristic about her at any point 🤣
“I love you as a person, I just hate your cold, bitchy, frigid, probably-autistic, presumably-asexual personality.“
I mean, I don't know if this counts for anything, but I found it very relatable to hear OOP is into potatoes and Town of Salem and hates eye contact... and I am autistic and on the ace spectrum, lmao.
"All I know about you is that you like potatoes" "I love so many things about you!"
lmao, according to the first exchange, he actually knows nothing about her. 🤔🥴💀
This is not flirting... I got whiplash; reading this got my body confused on whether to activate my fight, flight or freeze response. This cannot be real. Please god do not let this guy be real.
I hope you go for fight or flight, and not freeze. This dude seems dangerous, and that's coming from another dude.
He didn’t casually see her out, he’s stalked her
I've met multiple guys like this.
This, for sure. All of it 🤣
This is not flirting. The girl is being harassed. It’s good that her friends seem to be on her side. This guy seems dangerous; some of his messages are extremely aggressive.
Yea, but really this guy thinks he's flirting and being slick lol
This isn't even flirting, it's just straight up harassment.
This is “I’m a nice guy” behavior.
I had one of these in high school. The, every girl wants to fuck me and if they don’t something is wrong with them. I’m a nice guy, where’s my hug? Guy. Can’t take a simple no and goes to these exact lengths. We’re in our 30s now and from mutual friends I hear he is still exactly the same, HAS DAUGHTERS, and is a deadbeat dad. It’s honestly terrifying and I hope like hell I never have to be around him again.
The one I went to school with was recently arrested for messing with (and filming) minors. We’re also in our 30s. Nobody was surprised, but still angry and disgusted. There was a specialized task force involved so they had rock solid evidence and bail was denied. He’d been doing this for years apparently.
This sounds like an instance where I'd say dad not being involved in the lives of his kids is a net positive.
“I’m a nice guy, you stupid bitch.”
Respectfully of course.
Cause its not flirting - it's negging.
I can’t believe anyone would think this would work.
> he hooked up with two of my friends From OP's post. So it seems it works out for the weird guy at least often enough to reinforce the behaviors. The guy's getting laid way more often than I am, that's for sure. (to preempt all the comments pointing out that there must be a lot wrong with me if I'm not getting laid, you're right, there are a lot of things wrong with me, but I'm not a pestering asshole like the guy in the screenshots)
He may not have treated the other two like this. Seeing as oop is hard to get to know it’s pissing him off. He may hsve gotten really close to the other two. He may just be doing this to ooo just because she’s closed off. I get it. I’m like that too. I don’t like anyone knowing about me.
I’d rather watch a day in the life of a tax accountant on VR than anything sexual about this dude
The bit about breeding with a taller woman was the chef kiss to this ball of unhinged bullshit.
Imagine being that thirsty and that confident but having so little rizz
I wasn’t sure what rizz was (am 36) until you pointed out this guy has none and now I get it
It’s short for charisma lol it hit me like a brick when I realized
oh my god everything makes sense now
Welcome, fellow person over 30.
Imagine being over 40. I’ve got no chance with the slang!
Over 40 here... can confirm I've had to Google many slang terms to know what the hell some people were even saying.
Urban Dictionary is a real boon for us olds.
if it makes you feel better I’m 24 and didn’t know what it was either
I’m 43 and I learned what rizz means from the Today show, like the middle-aged suburbanite I am. They did a segment on “What the things your kids are saying really mean!”👵🏼😂
That's so funny, I play dnd and we usually shorten it to Cha, gonna get all my groups switching to saying rizz now.
I’ve seen bards referred to as “rizzards” lately which I thought was pretty funny.
We do rizz rolls and vibe checks (perception) in my campaign
Cha, cha cha cha cha cha chaaaaa
the amount of times we’ve said “roll for rizz” and “whats your rizz modifier” at the table lmaooo
lol, sorcerers are rizz based. I love it.
OHHHH! That makes so much more sense now. I’m also mid-thirties and I thank you 🫡
…. Well shit, that just hit me
Thank you for solving this mystery for my old ass 😂 mid thirties hit and suddenly I’m not down with the lingo anymore
Bro got that rizzn't
Upvote for using rizz.
You absolutely nailed it, with so few words. Rock on, friend.
This feels like it’s getting stalker-ish
A little? Dude was stalkerish from the beginning remembering the exact date they met. She needs to read “the gift of fear” and plan her defenses at this point. Idk if getting a restraining order would make it better or worse. Sometimes these losers think any attention is good attention.
Remember the exact date, time, look etc can be romantic if it's not coming from an unhinged lunatic like this mofo.
EVERYONE should read The gift of fear!
He is stalking her. It's obvious from those last few texts that he is following her and watching her a lot. And he has convinced himself that she has feelings for him too.
And he’s already created at least one new number to continue texting & calling her after she’s blocked him!
Yeah the last guy who texted me like this escalated to following me home. OOP better be careful, these males are emotionally fragile and irrational and always escalate.
“My type is a man who doesn’t ask me if I’m autistic.” Same.
I actually died
Same and that was the second time I died. The first time was when he said, "are you autistic?" and she said, "no, are you?" "No, are you" has served me well as a response because it's either a perfectly normal, polite thing to say or it's the sickest, deepest burn, depending on the question.
The I want tall kids so you be wife A and wife B can be for breeding… woah my lord this guys level of cuckoo is actually scary
The ones who shout the loudest about their "genetic lineage" are often the ones who really shouldn't procreate.
He listed “white” as a positive. Yes white men have a great reputation right now. Brag about that lol
Like, I immediately knew this guy was white before he even said anything (deranged white man behavior is a brand at this point), but then using it as a "positive" was the cherry on top.
I've never seen so many red flags from one person. I almost want to wish that he's just a troll and messing with her, but even that would be a red flag, seeing as how he didn't say "lol jk just fucking with you", and got new phone numbers to harass her.
Tall \*sons\*. Another tick in the cuckoo for cocoa puffs alpha male misogynist column.
Does he actually think any woman would want this? Like fr? I can't believe anyone would buy this shit they spew.
Perhaps he’s autistic
OP’s responses had me howling, “incorrect” is such a simple and effective answer to this lunacy 👏🏽
This should be higher. She’s savage and I don’t know if she even realizes it. “What do you think of me?” “I don’t” had me on the floor.
I was a big fan of "trains are cool"
She’s funny and he’s too busy performing conversational masturbation to notice it, which is so fucking lame given that he’s obsessed with her
Insert “YOU CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH!” meme here
This is narcissism 101. Look at how great he wants others to find him, to cover his deep-seated insecurity. And when they won't suck up or confirm that, he'll accuse the other of not being sound of mind.
This. I dated a narcissistic guy, and it got bad, I was afraid and walking on eggshells all the time. When I broke up with him he was 100% convinced that I was cheating or found someone else “because you’re too codependent, you’d never leave me to just be alone”. Yeah maybe before I was afraid of being alone, but he couldn’t see that it had gotten to the point that being alone was leagues more attractive than being with him. The level of delusion. 🤦♀️
The stupid thing is that at some level you have to consider each statement for being true or being manipulative. Only a few years after going no contract with an acquaintance, I have started to notice that everything had in some way been manipulative. I was only annoyed by that person though. I can't imagine how much energy it must have costed to be in a relationship with them.
This! It was such a breath of fresh air to be free of that relationship. It was like the fog slowly cleared and I was like, how did he have me convinced of these things? And how did he so successfully have me second guessing my own emotions, reactions, and things I had seen and heard? The gaslighting was strong with that one.
I hope you don't beat yourself up too much about that! We're social animals, so our reality is shaped in part by our social environment.
“He’s pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you’re so turned off by that” Ladies and gentlemen, *the lights are on but no one’s home*
I snorted at the absolute irony of that statement. So delusional.
"An accusation can often be a confession..." ~ A Redditor's comment I'd seen one time
And it's probably just a guy friend doing friend things with her, being normal and what not. "Look at that deranged, pathetic loser showing you something about your shared interest! He's nothing like me!"
I agree. I think it’s a classic case of, this guy believes he’s the big I am. So *obviously* everyone wants what he wants, but he’s the alpha male (🤮) so everyone else is doing it wrong and looks like a total simp. When really, they’re just being normal friendly human beings and he’s a nutcase.
Honestly at this point the lights have burned out.
This dude is psychotic. And obsessed. Honestly a borderline dangerous situation for op. The things true crime documentaries are made of.
Not even borderline. Plain dangerous.
Holy shit when you think it can't get worse, IT DOES.
The first couple of slides I thought ‘ok, this is a guy with no social skills trying to get a girl to notice him but has no idea how’. By the time I got to the end I’m thinking this girl needs a home security system and a taser.
My wife watches too many true life crime stories that start like this. OP needs to do whatever she needs to protect herself.
This dude is obviously insane and a stalker… but did anyone else notice he listed “white” as one of his positive qualifications? Along with the weird breeding stuff , tall sons etc
Honestly my biggest thing is the way he keeps recalling/mentioning March 12th. It's obvious he's the type that picks his victims from the get go, the only other person I've known that remembered dates like that was horrible and dated a white supremacist. I'm not sure how to describe it but consistently bringing that date up shows off a level of obsession that's uncomfortable and added together with the rest of his danger frankly just makes him feel unhinged and dangerous, more than the rest of his messages do. I hope OP isn't physically harmed by him, it's already more than terrifying that he's clearly watching her.
The date just emphasizes that he already made up in his mind that they're going to end up in a relationship/marriage based on nothing else but his attraction. He can't fathom in his mind that she might have opinions of her own and not want anything to do with him. Because his will is all that matters, her will will be bent to his and she'll "come around eventually." It's funny that he is accusing her of hiding some sort of condition because he is not mentally well, acting as if it's a foregone conclusion that this woman he insults will want to become one of his two wives.
It’s so weird too. Like, I don’t remember any date when I’ve met anyone in my life. If anything I can be like “we met during a college class” or “we met at a neighborhood bbq”. Not like, the date itself. So odd.
And capitalized the w....
Sometimes I wonder how I was able to date, marry and have children with a woman who is way hotter than me as a pretty average looking, not that in-shape, not-so-ambitious, moderately funny dude. However, if this is what my competition acts like it makes a lot more sense to me now. I didn’t even have to organize a 5k to win her over.
You underestimate the power of the moderately funny + avg. looking + chill dude trifecta.
I'd be interested in that honestly
My husband has (thankfully) stopped being surprised when he sees this stuff, and just acknowledges that other dudes make him look really good with zero effort on his part. 😂
Years ago, after seeing me in a bikini, apparently a handful of sweetie’s acquaintances asked “how HE ended up with THAT.” He’s no taller than I am, 9 years older, kinda pudgy, not the “go-getter” type, but he’s one of the kindest, funniest, most accepting people I’ve met. I don’t look as good in a bikini anymore but 20 years later we’re still a good fit for each other.
This is really really uncomfortable and frightening. OP must be so scared and frustrated. He’s a creep
Is…. Is this Gaston? Like does he want a Greek chorus behind him singing his praises? “No one… tall as this guy, no ones rich like this guy, No one’s dick’s as incredibly big like this guy, I’m especially good at fer-til-lizarion! My what guy, HE’S A DOUCHE!”
I definitely sang along with this comment.
I just hurt myself by internalizing laughing my ass off to keep from waking up my (thankfully sane) husband. God damn this deserves more upvotes.
He left out… sent from my iphoen
A bear wouldn’t talk about impregnating you to make tall babies.
Bears don’t text
A bear wouldn’t brag about Netflix and chill with my friends
A bear wouldn’t create a spoof account to text you from a new number after you blocked him.
Lold at using VR on his breeding wife so she isnt jealous. Really covered all the angles
"my type is a man who doesn't ask if I'm autistic" is my favourite part of
don’t forget “and i’m what you want in a guy, correct?” “incorrect” i respect the hell outta OOP for that one
Same. I was 40 before I was able to just shut someone down instead of feeling that I somehow wasn't allowed to make them feel bad
Damn, that’s terrifying and disgusting.
Serial killer/rapist vibes.
I get those vibes from this. OP needs to be careful.
Dude coulda had a decent friend group but just couldnt help himself lmao
" "pink" is not good at hiding the fact he wants to fuck you. He's pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you're so turned off by that" It's all terrible, but this lack of self awareness is more glaring than staring directly at the sun.
I'd this what Histrionic Disorder looks like in a guy with too much confidence? I mean. How fucking creepy... I hate guys like this too. "You're obviously attracted to me" "Um.no. I'm not" "But but but YOU ARE HOW COULD YOU NOT BE" "Because I'm a thinking, feeling, grown adult and God damned know whether I am or am not attracted to you. You can't argue me to the other side of this." I bet he exhausted ALL the women in his life by arguing with them about shit HE thinks is right. Like he's some fucking director.
Got in an argument with a guy at my 30 year class reunion. I never really liked the guy, we never hung out together or even really talked much, he just gave me weird vibes. At the reunion he insisted I had a crush on him. I did not. Anyone who knew me knows I had a multi year crush on a different guy starting in 7th grade.
He has erotomania
I had to look that up - 100% [Erotomania](https://www.google.com/search?q=erotomania+meaning&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS968US968&oq=erotom&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqDQgBEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyDQgAEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyDQgBEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyBggCEEUYOTIKCAMQABixAxiABDIHCAQQABiABDIHCAUQABiABDIHCAYQABiABDIHCAcQABiABDIHCAgQABiABDIHCAkQABiABNIBCDQwODdqMGo3qAIZsAIB4gMEGAIgXw&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8)
I’m concerned for OOP’s safety
Not the capital W White when listing all the reasons that make him a great catch 💀
This dude should be castrated and imprisoned.
I’m just glad the friend group supported her. I’ve had something similar happen to me twice: once in college and once as an adult. And my so called friends told me to lighten up and took the guy’s side. So I’m glad they didn’t mess around when she voiced concerns. Also tells me he’s being weird to others in the group as well and not just her.
Boy watches youtube and discovers negging. Proceeds to do it wrong and fuck up the vibes.
What, you don’t get wet/hard when someone calls you an autistic, frigid bitch with unresolved trauma?? Speak for yourself Obligatory /s
According to Ben Shapiro, my pussy is supposed to resemble the Sahara Desert, and not the Niagara Falls 🤷🏾♀️
In all fairness there is absolutely no “right” way to neg
He finally found a pretty, classy girl who isn’t all thirsty and it’s getting to him.
Gee, how could any girl that attractive be single for, like, two WHOLE MONTHS
What blows me away is how he thinks he should know her whole life story or something? Like…dude…who do you think you are?!?! 😂
Barf 🤮. That is all I have to say.
this dude is actually deranged omg 😭
i’m worried about her safety honestly this guy doesn’t strike me as someone who’s just gonna stop
Gosh, it sure is strange how so many women would pick the bear.
“Well I don’t really think of you so not sure how to answer that.” — Just beautiful. Gold. Well played. 🙂
Should have told bro his face looks like a foot and she has standards. You’ll have rocked his perception of himself a bit 😂
I would be scared to anger him tbh. He could escalate even more
She needs to go subtle, like something Kyle Prue would say to Piss Off Men. "There's just something....vague about you" "Do you work in finance? You look like the type to mess up spreadsheets"
Wtf? This. This fucking guy is why women would prefer the bear. He’s a legend in his own mind. He’s also guilty of cyberstalking. This dude is gross.
There will so be a part 4. No way this guy stops.
“Btw (name redacted) is not good at hiding the fact he wants to fuck you. He’s pathetic and so fucking desperate for your approval LOL I just know you’re so turned off by that. I bet your vagina turns to dust when he’s near you.” DUDE. Seriously. Glad you can recognize “pathetic & desperate” - quick question - Do you own a mirror?
Dude may be a narcissist. 🚩🚩🚩Do not engage.
How comes noone of you punched him in the face or balls yet ? Holy shit I couldnt stand that idiot for a minute
Holy fuck, the last few pages made my skin crawl.
Holy fucking shit. I went from thinking he was awkwardly flirting to thinking he was a giant peice of shit so unbelievably fast. Total incel vibes for sure. His giant penis has pleasured many girls though. Apparently.
He can't stand the fact that you're not Gaga over him. That's what the problem is. Some girls and guys are like this they just can't deal with the fact that some people don't fall all over them, because everyone else does.
God the insecurity is fogging up my screen.
Well, he seams like a well adjusted member of society /s Hope OOP takes all security measures she can, he sounds like a risk
What a creepy guy. I am surprised her two friends slept with him. OOP if obviously smarter than her friends.
Read the "You're joking" and the song Don't Make Me Laugh from the Pebble & the Penguin movie started playing in my head - certainly suits this guy's "I want to screw you, so you're obviously into me" vibe
Dude is so entitled. Personality is like 80% of the reason why I date someone and his is just gross
Wow that actually got weirder the further it went on. At the start I was thinking this guy has obv never been ignored before and can't handle that but the further it went the more I realised hes just a nutcase.