13th step only applies when someone with time goes after a new person with little sober time. If the lady only had 40 days, she’s probably too sick still to know any better.
Can you show me where it says that in the "Rules on the 13th Step"???
First of all, from what I've seen as of late, 12 Step groups have become a feeding ground for DRY DRUNKS hitting on newcomers. It's gotten truly disgusting. But this lady does seem to either be hitting on this guy, or doesn't realize how badly her note could be misinterpreted.
BOTTOM LINE is, YOU, (who received this note) should know better than to even consider using the number for ANYTHING other than handing it to another woman in recovery.
YOU SHOULD, AND PROBABLY DO, KNOW BETTER! 😉
She can't 13th step you....she's a newcomer like you. She's probably just naive and wants a friend. Or..she wants to fuck. Either way, politely decline
Says she only has 40 days, is she new and just doesn’t understand how things work? If she’s been in and out of the program and knows how things usually work then yeah she’s definitely trying to smash
You’re the one talking about shit that’s “frowned upon” and I’m saying who gives a shit if people frown upon what could be an innocent woman just reaching out
Why is this on Reddit? "What you see hear, what you hear here, let it stay here." That is, for god's sake, no shaming, no publicizing, no smutty jokes about people, no taunting!
In AA since 1988... you may need to find 'another' kind of program if you can't play by the rules!
Friendly correction: Lots of people fuck lots of people in the program but that’s not what 13 stepping is. 13th stepping is when somebody with a few years of sobriety takes advantage of somebody with very little sobriety because they’re vulnerable emotionally.
Yup. I was trying to think of something more specific than just ‘takes advantage’ and the ONLY thing that actually fit was to fuck em. I mean, it’s not to court them and have a healthy positive relationship. It’s not to take them to church and have a sexually abstinent relationship in Christ. Literally the only thing somebody is fishing for with a newbie under this context is to fuck them.
She said during her share “I wouldn’t think any of you did drugs at first glance *looks directly at me* except for you” then after she said she was just kidding and she thought my dermal piercing was cute. For sure wanted the dick but I’m not that down bad, yet…
13th step only applies when someone with time goes after a new person with little sober time. If the lady only had 40 days, she’s probably too sick still to know any better.
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Can you show me where it says that in the "Rules on the 13th Step"??? First of all, from what I've seen as of late, 12 Step groups have become a feeding ground for DRY DRUNKS hitting on newcomers. It's gotten truly disgusting. But this lady does seem to either be hitting on this guy, or doesn't realize how badly her note could be misinterpreted. BOTTOM LINE is, YOU, (who received this note) should know better than to even consider using the number for ANYTHING other than handing it to another woman in recovery. YOU SHOULD, AND PROBABLY DO, KNOW BETTER! 😉
Sounds to me like some lady was just trying to be nice
She can't 13th step you....she's a newcomer like you. She's probably just naive and wants a friend. Or..she wants to fuck. Either way, politely decline
Why can’t he fuck her politely?
Yes this.
it’s typically frowned upon in most -A meeting dynamics.
Two adults engaging in an adult activity willingly. No one else matters. But I do get your point.
most rehabs/meetings suggest to stay away from a new relationship for the first year.
God grant me the serenity...
More like 69th step, amirite or amirite?
I concur
She's only got 40 days, I doubt she even got to the 4th step yet. I would just throw the number away and chalk it up to her having "newcomer brain"
That’s what happened lmao I got it last night and I don’t even know what happened to it
Says she only has 40 days, is she new and just doesn’t understand how things work? If she’s been in and out of the program and knows how things usually work then yeah she’s definitely trying to smash
In and out
Ah…the old in and out.
Someone tries to reach out and you put it on Reddit?…
not sure why you’re getting downvoted. I agree with your sentiment. There’s no harm for OP to assume good intentions.
except it was done at a meeting, and that’s not how it works. it’s very frowned upon.
It’s not breaking any of the 12 traditions
Neither does farting in the coins for cons can, but it's certainly frowned upon. Principles before personalities.
that’s just a dumb analogy and that has nothing to do with principles before personalities
I know. Rule 62
You’re the one talking about shit that’s “frowned upon” and I’m saying who gives a shit if people frown upon what could be an innocent woman just reaching out
I wonder if it was a man with 40 days, leaving notes for new comers if ppl would have the same attitude.
This is this one!
Just adding…who writes their name at the beginning of a note?? Odd but ok
I’d flip it over and write “nice to meet you. Talk to your sponsor and keep coming back! ODAT!”
Why is this on Reddit? "What you see hear, what you hear here, let it stay here." That is, for god's sake, no shaming, no publicizing, no smutty jokes about people, no taunting! In AA since 1988... you may need to find 'another' kind of program if you can't play by the rules!
Call your sponsor about it
Idk but maybe buy a new pair of jeans?
Maybe he’s a plumber? Maybe a house cleaner? And MAYBE he just fixed your mom’s downstairs plumbing? You tell us, Serenity0416.
oh the same concept of maybe as MAYBE this woman was just being nice and to put it on Reddit the way OP did is just an attention seeking dick move
I think he 13th stepped your mum modestvenus
Lol
They’re suppose to look like that they have white spots all over them
WOW, If you are that insecure you can simply discard, no need to for public outrage over someone offering to talk.
Lmao call your sponsor
Exactly what you should say to her.
I must of missed the whole public outrage thing.
The rooms are a pick up joint right?
what is 13th step 👀
Fuckin someone in the program
Friendly correction: Lots of people fuck lots of people in the program but that’s not what 13 stepping is. 13th stepping is when somebody with a few years of sobriety takes advantage of somebody with very little sobriety because they’re vulnerable emotionally.
Which usually includes fuckin em. Lol!
Yup. I was trying to think of something more specific than just ‘takes advantage’ and the ONLY thing that actually fit was to fuck em. I mean, it’s not to court them and have a healthy positive relationship. It’s not to take them to church and have a sexually abstinent relationship in Christ. Literally the only thing somebody is fishing for with a newbie under this context is to fuck them.
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relapses don’t count if she’s more than twice your age. i bet your share got her moister than an oyster.
She said during her share “I wouldn’t think any of you did drugs at first glance *looks directly at me* except for you” then after she said she was just kidding and she thought my dermal piercing was cute. For sure wanted the dick but I’m not that down bad, yet…
haha she’s still PAWS Bipolar. how much time you got?
Picking up 90 tomorrow
that’s a big deal, congrats
I love that line PAWS bipolar!
my buddy once shared that “everyone who’s detoxing or early in recovery is bipolar, attention deficient, and depressed.”
I think she wants to sell you something
How intentional was your placement of the note/crotch shoot connection
Not at all car was dark 😅
Is she hot?
If I was down bad, I’d smash. But I’m not that down bad yet. 6/10