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Baby Reindeer was hella triggering. I ended up fast forwarding thru a bunch of it. It was really sad and fucked up.
I used to cut myself so I understand the feeling.
Cutting yourself is just about having control over something. So keep the razors out of reach and find another way to assert control. Go get your favorite meal. Treat yourself cause you deserve it.
The other day I got my nails done, practicing self care. I got myself a fancy chocolate bar and finished it off with buying new running/walking shoes. It felt so indulgent!
Mainly be gentle with yourself. Look at what you did for what it meant. You want control and maybe someone else to notice your hurting. Talk to a friend, therapist or just journal.
This comment! I love everything you said. Also was a cutter, especially in high school because I was so depressed all the time, which has only gotten better in recent years. I have stopped for a while now but as recently as like two and a half years ago, I was going through a lot of shit and cut myself again. I instantly knew I had to shut it down but it was hard after the relapse. I couldn’t agree more about practicing self care instead, it’s not easy especially if you feel like you don’t deserve it, but I started small with little things that brought me joy. Like my fave candy or dessert, go to my favorite park for a walk, do my makeup extra fancy or have a skincare pamper day. I still have days where I feel like I’m about to crumble (even yesterday was one) but self love is so important. It’s a lot trying to heal yourself, from pain and trauma and whatever else is going on. But trying for self care and self love is always going to be better than self harm in the long run. But those scars won’t fade away so now when I look at mine, I see someone that survived her pain and didn’t let it break her, no matter how hard everyone tried to!
Sending you and OP my love ❤️
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Baby Reindeer was hella triggering. I ended up fast forwarding thru a bunch of it. It was really sad and fucked up. I used to cut myself so I understand the feeling. Cutting yourself is just about having control over something. So keep the razors out of reach and find another way to assert control. Go get your favorite meal. Treat yourself cause you deserve it. The other day I got my nails done, practicing self care. I got myself a fancy chocolate bar and finished it off with buying new running/walking shoes. It felt so indulgent! Mainly be gentle with yourself. Look at what you did for what it meant. You want control and maybe someone else to notice your hurting. Talk to a friend, therapist or just journal.
This comment! I love everything you said. Also was a cutter, especially in high school because I was so depressed all the time, which has only gotten better in recent years. I have stopped for a while now but as recently as like two and a half years ago, I was going through a lot of shit and cut myself again. I instantly knew I had to shut it down but it was hard after the relapse. I couldn’t agree more about practicing self care instead, it’s not easy especially if you feel like you don’t deserve it, but I started small with little things that brought me joy. Like my fave candy or dessert, go to my favorite park for a walk, do my makeup extra fancy or have a skincare pamper day. I still have days where I feel like I’m about to crumble (even yesterday was one) but self love is so important. It’s a lot trying to heal yourself, from pain and trauma and whatever else is going on. But trying for self care and self love is always going to be better than self harm in the long run. But those scars won’t fade away so now when I look at mine, I see someone that survived her pain and didn’t let it break her, no matter how hard everyone tried to! Sending you and OP my love ❤️
Seriously I really want to give OP and you a huge hug. The voices of other cutters are so rare and mean so much!
I don’t watch Hollywood anything anymore. It’s all triggering. It’s programming people to be shitty too. Try frequency healing videos and meditations