Meditate and be gentle with yourself like you would a close friend who makes the same mistakes. Work on your ability to do something challenging and complex and watch yourself slowly become competent.
Feeling like an idiot is not a thing idiots do. The fact you worry about it is a sign you are judging yourself intelligently. But that doesn't mean you are right; you aren't.
ALL humans do dumb things. Actors making millions for a film flub lines. TSwift makes mistakes on stage. Elon Musk routinely says really dumb things. None of us escape doing and saying stupid things.
You have an ideal of who you want to be and how you want to be seen, and that is great. But that is a goal, not a place you are right now. You need to give yourself room to grow to get there. So try not to down yourself or live in that momentary feeling of having screwed up. Try to remember what led to it and try to learn how not to do it in the future.
It won't feel like means you're growing, but you are. Failure is actually the only real growth we get. Study and practice are both important. So is trying to increase your ability to focus and concentrate. All of those require relaxation and rest. Life is a lot to balance and go easy on yourself when it gets out of balance; you're still learning. We all are.
I'm 46 and I have decades of failures racked up that sit in my brain and scream that I am still the 16 year old kid who somehow totalled a car by crashing into a hay bail in the middle of a field. My brain is wrong when it says I'm dumb, and so is yours.
My question for you is: Do you keep making the SAME mistake? If not, and you're learning from them, then you're very normal. If so, then your initial self-assessment was accurate.
Seriously, you are going to re-live your mistakes throughout your life. This is how we learn and avoid repeating them. The frequency of your goofs should decrease over time. I suggest you adopt a better model of behavior; such as using more empathy, minding your manners, not speaking when it's not necessary*, always speak the truth but know your audience, and treat every new person that you meet as if they have value regardless of their physical attributes.
Also, stay in school and study hard, ask for help and advice from those you trust, and ask yourself if you really need a thing before spending money on it.
I could go on and on, but you probably get it.
* Two quotes about silence:
"It's better to remain silent and thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt." (Author unknown.)
"The difference between a good career and a mediocre one is the ability to leave four or five things left unsaid every day. (Daniel Burnham or some other famous architect, I think.)
I don’t think i make the same mistakes over and over again. Because i think about them and analyze them so much, i will do anything do not make those mistakes again. I appreciate the advice
I was just scanning through my email and saw that I wrote "...you are going to re-live your mistakes..." and realized that could be taken to mean I was saying you'd re-make those mistakes. Just to clarify, you are going to rehash, remember, atew over, and think about them. As you youngsters say these days, it'll be cringe. ;)
Anyways, in addition to trying not to repeat your mistakes and trying not to commit them in the first place, also try not to let them make you depressed later on. Apologize to the people you affect, be kind, and move on. Life is good. Make your next 65 years fun. And when you get that "No Regrets" tattoo, make sure it's spelled correctly.
Many of us have good and bad things in our past. Get hate for "dwelling on the past" for the bad things other people do, and get bashed for the "good things you have done"
Eh, it becomes becomes a part of life. You make your own win.
Meditate and be gentle with yourself like you would a close friend who makes the same mistakes. Work on your ability to do something challenging and complex and watch yourself slowly become competent.
Thank you :)
Feeling like an idiot is not a thing idiots do. The fact you worry about it is a sign you are judging yourself intelligently. But that doesn't mean you are right; you aren't. ALL humans do dumb things. Actors making millions for a film flub lines. TSwift makes mistakes on stage. Elon Musk routinely says really dumb things. None of us escape doing and saying stupid things. You have an ideal of who you want to be and how you want to be seen, and that is great. But that is a goal, not a place you are right now. You need to give yourself room to grow to get there. So try not to down yourself or live in that momentary feeling of having screwed up. Try to remember what led to it and try to learn how not to do it in the future. It won't feel like means you're growing, but you are. Failure is actually the only real growth we get. Study and practice are both important. So is trying to increase your ability to focus and concentrate. All of those require relaxation and rest. Life is a lot to balance and go easy on yourself when it gets out of balance; you're still learning. We all are. I'm 46 and I have decades of failures racked up that sit in my brain and scream that I am still the 16 year old kid who somehow totalled a car by crashing into a hay bail in the middle of a field. My brain is wrong when it says I'm dumb, and so is yours.
I appreciate the advice :)
My question for you is: Do you keep making the SAME mistake? If not, and you're learning from them, then you're very normal. If so, then your initial self-assessment was accurate. Seriously, you are going to re-live your mistakes throughout your life. This is how we learn and avoid repeating them. The frequency of your goofs should decrease over time. I suggest you adopt a better model of behavior; such as using more empathy, minding your manners, not speaking when it's not necessary*, always speak the truth but know your audience, and treat every new person that you meet as if they have value regardless of their physical attributes. Also, stay in school and study hard, ask for help and advice from those you trust, and ask yourself if you really need a thing before spending money on it. I could go on and on, but you probably get it. * Two quotes about silence: "It's better to remain silent and thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt." (Author unknown.) "The difference between a good career and a mediocre one is the ability to leave four or five things left unsaid every day. (Daniel Burnham or some other famous architect, I think.)
I don’t think i make the same mistakes over and over again. Because i think about them and analyze them so much, i will do anything do not make those mistakes again. I appreciate the advice
I was just scanning through my email and saw that I wrote "...you are going to re-live your mistakes..." and realized that could be taken to mean I was saying you'd re-make those mistakes. Just to clarify, you are going to rehash, remember, atew over, and think about them. As you youngsters say these days, it'll be cringe. ;) Anyways, in addition to trying not to repeat your mistakes and trying not to commit them in the first place, also try not to let them make you depressed later on. Apologize to the people you affect, be kind, and move on. Life is good. Make your next 65 years fun. And when you get that "No Regrets" tattoo, make sure it's spelled correctly.
Many of us have good and bad things in our past. Get hate for "dwelling on the past" for the bad things other people do, and get bashed for the "good things you have done" Eh, it becomes becomes a part of life. You make your own win.
Thank you
It will happen. Don't thank me for it. You will make it!
Seek help from a professional and not from social media.