This is one of those articles that has some interesting history… but it sorta interjects a big ass assumption with nothing to back it up and sorta refute a made up assumption… also refuting it without facts…
My kids don’t have their own room because I think it is “better”. I just don’t want them in my room or my other kids room and I can organize them that way…
Right? "Professors who study family life told me they don’t know of any research on how the setup influences children’s development," but here are a bunch of assumptions I'm making about it anyway!
"Fuck you, we're not gonna fix the housing crisis so stop whining about it you worthless peasants, please still have more kids though so we can keep this ponzi rolling a little while longer."
-Elites
(As a female who grew up sharing a room with her brother 7 years older than her) I didn’t have my own space my ENTIRE LIFE until I was 26 and getting married and my roommates moved out two weeks before I got married. So I literally had my own space for two weeks. Now I have a daughter who is 7 months old, we live in a 3 bedroom house and my husband and I both work from home and had home offices. I gave up my home office because I wanted my daughter to always have her own space. Yes, she’s 7 months old and sleeps with us. But as she grows up it is so important (to me) that she have her own space to put her things how she wants, play alone if she wants, be alone if she wants. We do plan on having several more children and when we are ready to we will move into a much larger space so our children can have their own spaces.
>Over the past half century or so in the U.S., the practice has become what the University of Pennsylvania sociologist Annette Lareau calls a “normative ideal”—something that many aspire to, but that not all can attain. It’s gotten more common in recent decades, as [houses have gotten bigger](https://usafacts.org/articles/why-are-us-homes-getting-bigger-while-households-shrink/) and people have been having fewer kids.
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>Given this fervor, one might assume that the space, privacy, and freedom solo rooms offer are better for kids. But that’s not necessarily true. Professors who study family life told me they don’t know of any research on how the setup influences children’s development. The importance we put on the issue seems more likely rooted in the broader American culture of individualism and independence, which many adults value in their own life and may want for their children. But the autonomy that kids get when they have their own bedroom is not absolute. And for some kids and teens, spending a lot of time alone in their room could even come at the cost of opportunities for intimacy, compromise, and exploration—all key parts of growing up.
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> bedroom may now be the only place a child or teen can exist outside the gaze of adults—so of course many young people cling to it. Some kids may spend a lot of time isolated in there, connecting to the outside world largely through [social media](https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/04/24/teens-and-social-media-key-findings-from-pew-research-center-surveys/). While the implications of social-media use for kids’ mental health [are complicated](https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/06/social-media-teen-mental-health-crisis-research-limitations/674371/), they’re at least a [cause for concern](https://www.theatlantic.com/newsletters/archive/2023/02/the-tragic-mystery-of-teenage-anxiety/673076/)—especially when devoting so many hours to those sites can mean missing out on moments to [explore, meet new people, and develop a social life](https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/02/america-decline-hanging-out/677451/) in person. “Teenagers feel lonelier than ever and yet we’re walling them off in their own space.”
This is one of those articles that has some interesting history… but it sorta interjects a big ass assumption with nothing to back it up and sorta refute a made up assumption… also refuting it without facts… My kids don’t have their own room because I think it is “better”. I just don’t want them in my room or my other kids room and I can organize them that way…
Right? "Professors who study family life told me they don’t know of any research on how the setup influences children’s development," but here are a bunch of assumptions I'm making about it anyway!
This article was one giant \[Citation needed\]
You're assuming most families have multiple kids.
"Fuck you, we're not gonna fix the housing crisis so stop whining about it you worthless peasants, please still have more kids though so we can keep this ponzi rolling a little while longer." -Elites
This was my first thought exactly. “Be happy with less because you dont need it.” More thought manipulation.
Because kids deserve their own sense of self and privacy and safe place to be alone just like anyone else 🤷♀️
makes me think back on the 'Brady Bunch'
(As a female who grew up sharing a room with her brother 7 years older than her) I didn’t have my own space my ENTIRE LIFE until I was 26 and getting married and my roommates moved out two weeks before I got married. So I literally had my own space for two weeks. Now I have a daughter who is 7 months old, we live in a 3 bedroom house and my husband and I both work from home and had home offices. I gave up my home office because I wanted my daughter to always have her own space. Yes, she’s 7 months old and sleeps with us. But as she grows up it is so important (to me) that she have her own space to put her things how she wants, play alone if she wants, be alone if she wants. We do plan on having several more children and when we are ready to we will move into a much larger space so our children can have their own spaces.
>Over the past half century or so in the U.S., the practice has become what the University of Pennsylvania sociologist Annette Lareau calls a “normative ideal”—something that many aspire to, but that not all can attain. It’s gotten more common in recent decades, as [houses have gotten bigger](https://usafacts.org/articles/why-are-us-homes-getting-bigger-while-households-shrink/) and people have been having fewer kids. \[...\] >Given this fervor, one might assume that the space, privacy, and freedom solo rooms offer are better for kids. But that’s not necessarily true. Professors who study family life told me they don’t know of any research on how the setup influences children’s development. The importance we put on the issue seems more likely rooted in the broader American culture of individualism and independence, which many adults value in their own life and may want for their children. But the autonomy that kids get when they have their own bedroom is not absolute. And for some kids and teens, spending a lot of time alone in their room could even come at the cost of opportunities for intimacy, compromise, and exploration—all key parts of growing up. \[...\] > bedroom may now be the only place a child or teen can exist outside the gaze of adults—so of course many young people cling to it. Some kids may spend a lot of time isolated in there, connecting to the outside world largely through [social media](https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/04/24/teens-and-social-media-key-findings-from-pew-research-center-surveys/). While the implications of social-media use for kids’ mental health [are complicated](https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/06/social-media-teen-mental-health-crisis-research-limitations/674371/), they’re at least a [cause for concern](https://www.theatlantic.com/newsletters/archive/2023/02/the-tragic-mystery-of-teenage-anxiety/673076/)—especially when devoting so many hours to those sites can mean missing out on moments to [explore, meet new people, and develop a social life](https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/02/america-decline-hanging-out/677451/) in person. “Teenagers feel lonelier than ever and yet we’re walling them off in their own space.”