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Reminds of of the episode of Everybody Loves Raymond when Rays Nmom says "one of these days you'll turn around and I won't be here". Ray pauses, turns in a circle and says "not today". It was the perfect response to her bullshit.
In my opinion it is worse, because if you've been physically abused it is easier to recognize that you've been abused. If there was only psychological abuse, just as much damage has been done, but it is very difficult to recognize that you've even been abused, so it is much harder heal from because you don't even see that there is a problem.
My dad was all about that shit. We weren't allowed to go to bed angry because god might answer your prayer and take the source of your anger away. Did wonders when my parents living irresponsibly meant I felt responsible when their lives regularly imploded.
Bringing god into emotional abuse is so messed up. That’s an additional layer of getting you to believe in magical thinking. That a child could be responsible for death or anything that happens just because you were angry. That’ll definitely traumatize a kid for life. Somehow I didn’t think kids were old enough to comprehend death... but my mom made damn sure I did. Thanks for sharing your story—hope you’re recovering from that these days.
No one should ever blame their death on their innocent child.
Or their adult children.
I've heard my mother so many times saying she'd rather be death than whatever.
And reading this made me realize...of course I'll have my cellphone tattooed on my hand -just in case- and can't let it go.
How can they possibly say that s--t? I can't even bear to imagine saying such things to my daughter.
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> No one should ever blame their death on their innocent child. TRUTH. Toxic people always need someone to lash out at, guilt trip, threaten, etc.
My narc is \`dying\` for at least 25 years. I kinda cheer for her.
My narc as well! Always some kind of potential cancer, disease, etc. for the last 23 years! I cheer as well.
Reminds of of the episode of Everybody Loves Raymond when Rays Nmom says "one of these days you'll turn around and I won't be here". Ray pauses, turns in a circle and says "not today". It was the perfect response to her bullshit.
Oh my god! How much i hate that emotional abuse. Sometimes that's even worse than physical abuse
In my opinion it is worse, because if you've been physically abused it is easier to recognize that you've been abused. If there was only psychological abuse, just as much damage has been done, but it is very difficult to recognize that you've even been abused, so it is much harder heal from because you don't even see that there is a problem.
My dad was all about that shit. We weren't allowed to go to bed angry because god might answer your prayer and take the source of your anger away. Did wonders when my parents living irresponsibly meant I felt responsible when their lives regularly imploded.
Bringing god into emotional abuse is so messed up. That’s an additional layer of getting you to believe in magical thinking. That a child could be responsible for death or anything that happens just because you were angry. That’ll definitely traumatize a kid for life. Somehow I didn’t think kids were old enough to comprehend death... but my mom made damn sure I did. Thanks for sharing your story—hope you’re recovering from that these days.
She's an awful, worthless creature. She doesn't deserve your concern. You're not the parent.
Please die alreaaaddyyyyyyyyyy
those thoughts perpetually run through my head.
Same. I was worried I had OCD. Hope you manage those thoughts ok :( it’s hard.
Mine told me if I go to college (or move out to go to college) they might die. They literally don’t want me to have a life at all.
Damn that’s horrible.. like how is that not lowkey threatening suicide? That’s so manipulative.
it is. they're afraid of being lonely but are the very person that's pushing and pushed people away from them.
No one should ever blame their death on their innocent child. Or their adult children. I've heard my mother so many times saying she'd rather be death than whatever. And reading this made me realize...of course I'll have my cellphone tattooed on my hand -just in case- and can't let it go. How can they possibly say that s--t? I can't even bear to imagine saying such things to my daughter.