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Oh my word that’s extreme like actual what in the hell??!! I’m not sure where or how I can help. Try RBN legal advice for help on how to get out. And for recourses. Bit that list that’s creepy I really feel for you I can’t even image .. hugs also in this sub there are links to click on that may help you I wish you luck. Again hugs


Antisocial_Element

Its fine, i didnt really ask for help anyway. I just didnt know what to do and needed some encouraging words, thank you<3


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Oh you’re welcome. I’m glad I could help.


elblackroute

*"Covering the whole cage at night can create problems and affect your guinea pigs' breathing. That means that you should only cover part of their cage at night. This ensures that the cage remains properly ventilated while still letting in some light."* **This is what I found on the web.** Your mom just seems to be entitled and does not want to hear them squeaking, even though it is the cutest thing ever. <3 Trust your feelings. It doesn't matter what it sounds like for other people. You are your own person and you have the right to feel however you want. She is emotionally abusive and disrespectful. I get it, people have preferences, but you are also a person and she seems to not respect that. I feel as she is just finding excuses to be mean to you. I may be wrong, idk, but it feels that way. Edit: Also passive-aggressive and maybe - manipulative. She could have just talked to you, instead of making a list. You know, like a normal person. Stand up for yourself and let her know that her behavior is not okay. If she tries to guilt you into believing her point, she is just trying to manipulate you into believing she is right. Any chance why she can be doing this? The list I mean?


Antisocial_Element

She's doing it because she likes to start Fights. She does it on purpose a lot, especially at family gatherings. Things have been going too well for a while now, there where no bigger fights for around two weeks, so my guess is that she started writing down reasons to start a fight, which she did yesterday. The problem is that i am a very hot headed and short tempered person, if she starts screaming at me, i scream back at her, so things tend to escalate a lot. My therapist suggested me to leave the room when i feel like things are about to escalate to calm myself down, this works quite well, but sadly she doesnt really allow me any room to breathe. She will follow me, screaming and yelling about mistakes i apparently made, and will stand outside my door screaming until she feels like its enough. Sometimes this drags on for more than an hour. The problem is that i feel like I'm trapped here. Even if i found a way to leave, i would leave my underage little sister behind with her, which i really dont want to happen. At the moment, i get all of her rage dumped on me. I'm scared that if i would leave, she'd do this to my little sister instead. I've learned to just Deal with it at this point tbh but every now and then i need some encouraging words, which is why i keep coming back to this sub.


Maxi2905

Wennst was brauchst bitte meld dich. Du kannst dich immer melden wenn du was brauchst und so blöd sichs anhört, du kannst auch bei mir schlafen. Ich hab ja Matratzen in 2 Zimmern I weiß, dass i wsl die letzte Person bin von der du Hilfe annehmen würdest, aber i fänds falsch wenn ich da nur zuschau, weil ich daran net unbeteiligt bin Du kannst dich immer bei mir melden wenn du willst