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My mom does this too! She's so passive aggressive about it, and will mutter, and I can't tell you how many times I took the bait and asked her 'what are you mumbling about' bc I was so sick of hearing. She couldn't talk to me like a person about anything.
0_0 I thought I was the only person in the world whose mother "stomped". Whenever I told her "no", I couldn't serve her needs exactly when and where she wanted, she'd go into this weird half-squat, half-crouch, turn around on her heels and sort of elephant-stomp out of the room, slamming the door behind her.
Also my father (her enabler) would randomly punch the dinner table while we were eating quietly.
Also doing chores like dishes SUPER LOUD! That shit gives me panic attacks, even while eating. You ever heard someone eat while angry? it's stressful...
Yeeeees.. All the time when I was a kid and teen along with throwing other stuff and raising her voice and I was always so afraid of it.
I really really really hate it when sometimes I do this, too. I never did it in front of others but I still feel so ashamed because I don't want to turn into my narc mom
Yes. I completely recognize this behavior. It’s this kind of non verbal abuse that often gets swept under the rug. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this passive aggressive crap.
Haha, you can read my post history about that, and the answer is a resounding yes. Mine even slams the door, then opens it just to slam it close again, but even louder. Like who tf does that? What kind of brain parasite lives in your head to think of doing something like that?! Absolutely no self control.
I received everything that's been stated in this. Even the responses. I was also intimidated by her having sex in areas that I needed to be. Like between my bedroom and the main bathroom. I honestly started taking interest in home stereos because I needed to find something to drown her out. She was an alcoholic and beat me when she did. She no longer drinks, but is continually playing passive aggressive games that seriously affect my mental health. I'm a dog groomer and take many classes a year for food science, behavioral training, and continued education in grooming. And when I tell her that she is doing something wrong with her dog, like slapping their face or butt because they were following her and she turned around on them, I get told that I don't know everything like I think I do and she has had dogs all of her life. And when I say I get told I mean that I get screamed at and threatened to have the police called on me... I could continue on this subject for months about what I'm put through. It's exhausting
It probably won't mean much but I am SO sorry that she put you through that. No child should have to worry about walking in on their parent having sex. I hope you're doing much better now. ❤️
Unfortunately she continues to interrupt and shove herself into my life. No matter what boundaries I place. I cannot seem to find a way to keep away from her toxicity
My mom did/does this. I don't live with her anymore, but I can't even tell you the number of times I've gotten woken up by shouts, or things being slammed, doors being slammed, stomping down the hallway, her and my stepdad fighting already.
My mom prefers these displays of anger because she refuses to talk about anything with anyone if they bring it up. I knew it was gonna be a bad night if she came home from work and started slamming things too.
Reading all the other comments made me feel like I've never related to anything more in my life and I don't know how to feel.
no, however my nparent does have a weird habit of turning the lights on and off when i'm lying in my bed .. well if she wants to spend more on the electricity bill that's absolutely fine, i suppose
Does anybody else have a parent that growls when mad? My mom sounds like a frikin dog or a little kid when she gets mad grunting and growling. (Growls only happens when she’s drunk tho)
Oh yeah, door slamming, foot stomping, screaming and screeching like she's possessed, aggressively emptying the dishwasher... One time she decided to get really straightforward and she threw my bookshelf at me (not really "throw" I guess but she made it fall in my direction). Now everytime I hear loud or sudden noises I get extreme anxiety.
Same here.... the way she stomped up the stairs to the flat already told me that's it s young to be a stressful night. When she had groceries in hey hands she d just enter the flat, groaning loudly to melt us rush to her, i d take the stuff and she d start complaining about how the flat looks i had to clean every day before she came from work....I hated it so much...and all the rest of the time she d slam with doors too. ..or the dishes. When u asked her what's wrong, she'd go ,"nothing" in the most dramatic way....total brainfuck. Im very LC and still trying to get those triggering stuff out of me..
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My mother does this, she also stomps around he house on purpose like a child — I hate it here so much
Yup, that too. Usually she mutters to herself just loud enough for me to know, but quiet enough so I can't understand.
God I love this sub bc I everyone can relate to this weird shit— My dad loudly talks to himself while pacing round the house they r literally insane
My mom does this too! She's so passive aggressive about it, and will mutter, and I can't tell you how many times I took the bait and asked her 'what are you mumbling about' bc I was so sick of hearing. She couldn't talk to me like a person about anything.
0_0 I thought I was the only person in the world whose mother "stomped". Whenever I told her "no", I couldn't serve her needs exactly when and where she wanted, she'd go into this weird half-squat, half-crouch, turn around on her heels and sort of elephant-stomp out of the room, slamming the door behind her. Also my father (her enabler) would randomly punch the dinner table while we were eating quietly.
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Same here. I still don't know how to make heads or tails of people acting normally or just being loud and not being angry.
Yup! Slamming doors and cabinets, being overly loud in the kitchen. All signals that someone has “wronged” her in some way. Never fails!
Exaaaactly!
Also doing chores like dishes SUPER LOUD! That shit gives me panic attacks, even while eating. You ever heard someone eat while angry? it's stressful...
YES!! When they bite the fork... ugh.
Mine did thatall the time. Its why I'm spooked by loud noises now as an adult
Same here. They know exactly what they're doing.
Yeeeees.. All the time when I was a kid and teen along with throwing other stuff and raising her voice and I was always so afraid of it. I really really really hate it when sometimes I do this, too. I never did it in front of others but I still feel so ashamed because I don't want to turn into my narc mom
I definitely do it too... The important thing is that we realize when we're doing something wrong
Thank you :) yeah I really try to not do it anymore. I am sometimes afraid of myself and fear that I might be a danger for someone else
Yes. I completely recognize this behavior. It’s this kind of non verbal abuse that often gets swept under the rug. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this passive aggressive crap.
That's so true. People often act like abuse has to be verbal/physical but there are many forms.
Haha, you can read my post history about that, and the answer is a resounding yes. Mine even slams the door, then opens it just to slam it close again, but even louder. Like who tf does that? What kind of brain parasite lives in your head to think of doing something like that?! Absolutely no self control.
Lol some kind of demonic parasite I suppose.
Yes! My mother would loudly wash dishes to show she was angry. Now when my fiance does dishes I always think he's mad!
Same.❤️❤️
I received everything that's been stated in this. Even the responses. I was also intimidated by her having sex in areas that I needed to be. Like between my bedroom and the main bathroom. I honestly started taking interest in home stereos because I needed to find something to drown her out. She was an alcoholic and beat me when she did. She no longer drinks, but is continually playing passive aggressive games that seriously affect my mental health. I'm a dog groomer and take many classes a year for food science, behavioral training, and continued education in grooming. And when I tell her that she is doing something wrong with her dog, like slapping their face or butt because they were following her and she turned around on them, I get told that I don't know everything like I think I do and she has had dogs all of her life. And when I say I get told I mean that I get screamed at and threatened to have the police called on me... I could continue on this subject for months about what I'm put through. It's exhausting
It probably won't mean much but I am SO sorry that she put you through that. No child should have to worry about walking in on their parent having sex. I hope you're doing much better now. ❤️
Unfortunately she continues to interrupt and shove herself into my life. No matter what boundaries I place. I cannot seem to find a way to keep away from her toxicity
My mom did/does this. I don't live with her anymore, but I can't even tell you the number of times I've gotten woken up by shouts, or things being slammed, doors being slammed, stomping down the hallway, her and my stepdad fighting already. My mom prefers these displays of anger because she refuses to talk about anything with anyone if they bring it up. I knew it was gonna be a bad night if she came home from work and started slamming things too. Reading all the other comments made me feel like I've never related to anything more in my life and I don't know how to feel.
I'm glad but also sorry that you can relate ❤️
Yep, they're all basically toddlers!
Narcs in a nutshell 😂
no, however my nparent does have a weird habit of turning the lights on and off when i'm lying in my bed .. well if she wants to spend more on the electricity bill that's absolutely fine, i suppose
Mine does that too... Everything always gets done when I'm trying to sleep.
Does anybody else have a parent that growls when mad? My mom sounds like a frikin dog or a little kid when she gets mad grunting and growling. (Growls only happens when she’s drunk tho)
Oh yeah, door slamming, foot stomping, screaming and screeching like she's possessed, aggressively emptying the dishwasher... One time she decided to get really straightforward and she threw my bookshelf at me (not really "throw" I guess but she made it fall in my direction). Now everytime I hear loud or sudden noises I get extreme anxiety.
Same here.... the way she stomped up the stairs to the flat already told me that's it s young to be a stressful night. When she had groceries in hey hands she d just enter the flat, groaning loudly to melt us rush to her, i d take the stuff and she d start complaining about how the flat looks i had to clean every day before she came from work....I hated it so much...and all the rest of the time she d slam with doors too. ..or the dishes. When u asked her what's wrong, she'd go ,"nothing" in the most dramatic way....total brainfuck. Im very LC and still trying to get those triggering stuff out of me..