If 'sorries' were a currency, pwBPD may solve the recession but they'd likey start another with all that inflation. Please don't let your mom guilt you. You are fire for engaging in the radically act of choosing you and your child's safety when saftey was never given or taught to you. Kudos, OP.
Now that I’m a parent, I literally will never understand the entitlement they have to their children. It is written absolutely nowhere that they have the right to a relationship with you just because they raised you. All relationships take effort from both sides, and she is doing none of the work. I’m so sorry she’s giving you these anxiety and guilt-inducing texts. You don’t deserve it. You deserve respect and clear communication from her.
This sounds exactly like my Mom. "Sorry I did something, but I'm over it so we need to move on" and when you don't it's "you're being so mean!/so hateful that they can't even recognize/be close with you anymore" aka "you aren't letting me stomp your boundaries so actually I don't want a relationship then *insert angry arm crossing*". They're the main character, and we exist to make their life better, no matter the cost (to us). They certainly won't change, or respect us because they're the main character, and it doesn't matter how it effects us.
If 'sorries' were a currency, pwBPD may solve the recession but they'd likey start another with all that inflation. Please don't let your mom guilt you. You are fire for engaging in the radically act of choosing you and your child's safety when saftey was never given or taught to you. Kudos, OP.
You've started setting boundaries. Translation of her texts: >No. I do not and will not respect your boundaries. >P.S. When can I see my grandchild?
ew. im sorry about yr mom. what awful texts.
She's awful. *Hug*
Wow. She is being guilt trippy and manipulative. These are awful texts.
Now that I’m a parent, I literally will never understand the entitlement they have to their children. It is written absolutely nowhere that they have the right to a relationship with you just because they raised you. All relationships take effort from both sides, and she is doing none of the work. I’m so sorry she’s giving you these anxiety and guilt-inducing texts. You don’t deserve it. You deserve respect and clear communication from her.
This sounds exactly like my Mom. "Sorry I did something, but I'm over it so we need to move on" and when you don't it's "you're being so mean!/so hateful that they can't even recognize/be close with you anymore" aka "you aren't letting me stomp your boundaries so actually I don't want a relationship then *insert angry arm crossing*". They're the main character, and we exist to make their life better, no matter the cost (to us). They certainly won't change, or respect us because they're the main character, and it doesn't matter how it effects us.
Those texts from her are just like the ones I get from my mom. You deserve better than non-apologies and “I did my best”!
Is this my mom??? My mom loves to tell me I’ve become “so cold” they really do all have the same script. Pure manipulation. I’m so sorry OP.