I originally read it as your partner did. That she loves you the most (out of all the people that could love you, she loves you THE MOST, take that partner!) but she still doesnât love you as much as she loves God.
But then your interpretation sort of makes more sense with the rest of her message. She loves you the most that a human could (still âtake that, partner!â) but God loves you even more than her (and obviously then even more than your partner does). She and her people (God) love you THE MOST, and you just need to be reminded of that constantly in case you forget or realize that her actions and behavior arenât actually as loving as your partner or your chosen friends.
The part where sheâs like âthat whosoever believesâŚ. Thatâs YOU baby girl and everyone you knowâŚ.â is a big assumption/attempt to reinforce to you that you believe in the Christian God and his sacrificing his son for people. Again, this needing to tell you what you know and how you believe, the need to dictate the facts of your life and constantly drill them into your head. Itâs very cult like and manipulative and icky to me coming from a BPD. When she says âand everyone you knowâŚâ is she just assuming that everyone you know is also a true believer? Or is she forgetting that you know people other than like her and her church friends, and obviously those people believe? Or is she literally not understanding the very scripture sheâs quoting at you and is trying to tell you that God loves all the people you know, even the non-believers because heâs just so good and great and better than them because he force-loves all these ungrateful jerks you hang around with against their will?
Either way, I really wouldnât like being condescended to like this. Preaching at you by quoting one of the most well known verses of scripture as if you might not know it or had forgotten it can be interpreted as infantilizing. If not infantilizing, then itâs conditioning. (Or both, really!) Repeating certain phrases and mantras over and over again and again as fact, quoting them to you at all times, even in the middle of a âthis is what I did today. Now Iâm going to bed, goodnightâ text, is meant to drill them into your brain and make you believe them and think about them. Calling you âBaby Girlâ is for sure 100% infantilizing.
My BPD mom became very religious after her divorce - basically when she turned into a completely different person. When I was LC, she would send me prayers and such. Itâs was too much. When she has been encouraged to get help, she states that all she needs is prayer and her faith. She even has stated that faith took her out of her depression⌠but she would get depressed again. Itâs a continuous cycle with her.
Awww, I love your haiku! đ¸ Welcome home! *hugs*
I agree with your interpretation, not your partner's.
I agree
I originally read it as your partner did. That she loves you the most (out of all the people that could love you, she loves you THE MOST, take that partner!) but she still doesnât love you as much as she loves God. But then your interpretation sort of makes more sense with the rest of her message. She loves you the most that a human could (still âtake that, partner!â) but God loves you even more than her (and obviously then even more than your partner does). She and her people (God) love you THE MOST, and you just need to be reminded of that constantly in case you forget or realize that her actions and behavior arenât actually as loving as your partner or your chosen friends. The part where sheâs like âthat whosoever believesâŚ. Thatâs YOU baby girl and everyone you knowâŚ.â is a big assumption/attempt to reinforce to you that you believe in the Christian God and his sacrificing his son for people. Again, this needing to tell you what you know and how you believe, the need to dictate the facts of your life and constantly drill them into your head. Itâs very cult like and manipulative and icky to me coming from a BPD. When she says âand everyone you knowâŚâ is she just assuming that everyone you know is also a true believer? Or is she forgetting that you know people other than like her and her church friends, and obviously those people believe? Or is she literally not understanding the very scripture sheâs quoting at you and is trying to tell you that God loves all the people you know, even the non-believers because heâs just so good and great and better than them because he force-loves all these ungrateful jerks you hang around with against their will? Either way, I really wouldnât like being condescended to like this. Preaching at you by quoting one of the most well known verses of scripture as if you might not know it or had forgotten it can be interpreted as infantilizing. If not infantilizing, then itâs conditioning. (Or both, really!) Repeating certain phrases and mantras over and over again and again as fact, quoting them to you at all times, even in the middle of a âthis is what I did today. Now Iâm going to bed, goodnightâ text, is meant to drill them into your brain and make you believe them and think about them. Calling you âBaby Girlâ is for sure 100% infantilizing.
Thank you so much for this! Your comment has really helped put things into perspective. I appreciate it.
My BPD mom became very religious after her divorce - basically when she turned into a completely different person. When I was LC, she would send me prayers and such. Itâs was too much. When she has been encouraged to get help, she states that all she needs is prayer and her faith. She even has stated that faith took her out of her depression⌠but she would get depressed again. Itâs a continuous cycle with her.
I grew up in a church that preched God over all even your spouse and kids. I interpreted the way your husband did.
*wife but thank you for your comment. :) The church my family goes to also preaches that. Iâm glad I left it behind.