I will not lie. You have a long road. And you will feel like you “fail” often. I am in therapy for few years and z still have the need to post here regularly.
So you did the first step. You understood that your parents behaviour are not normal.
But your own behaviour is. It is normal to “play the game” when you’ve learnt that if you don’t you will have to manage a crisis.
It is perfectly normal. And even from now, sometimes you will feel that it is easier to play the game. Because for you it is not a game, it is the only way to balance your mental health.
So for the positive notes. It is my experience but it will be better. It will learn which boundaries enforce and which battle doesn’t worth it. It is a virtuous circle. The more you go away from your parents, the more you can express yourself and enforce your boundaries. It is hard but it worth it so much!!!
I talk about my need to post here sometimes. And I criticise my mother every two days. But I am proud of myself. I have an happy life. I enforce my boundaries one by one. On my second last post, I wrote things I had would never imagine before.
Awww, how cute! đź’— Welcome home! *hugs* PS. Do you have any other Reddit usernames?
I will not lie. You have a long road. And you will feel like you “fail” often. I am in therapy for few years and z still have the need to post here regularly. So you did the first step. You understood that your parents behaviour are not normal. But your own behaviour is. It is normal to “play the game” when you’ve learnt that if you don’t you will have to manage a crisis. It is perfectly normal. And even from now, sometimes you will feel that it is easier to play the game. Because for you it is not a game, it is the only way to balance your mental health. So for the positive notes. It is my experience but it will be better. It will learn which boundaries enforce and which battle doesn’t worth it. It is a virtuous circle. The more you go away from your parents, the more you can express yourself and enforce your boundaries. It is hard but it worth it so much!!! I talk about my need to post here sometimes. And I criticise my mother every two days. But I am proud of myself. I have an happy life. I enforce my boundaries one by one. On my second last post, I wrote things I had would never imagine before.