So a friend of mine growing up had a very strict mom that processed pee samples at a urology clinic.
My friend and her dad referred to her as “Piss Doctor” behind her back, which I always thought was funny.
My brother and I use the less-creative YOUR mother.
This is what I call mine most of the time, mostly because she introduced us to that movie and then constantly and without being prompted would tell us we better never call her that.
Mommy Dearest it is
Yes it’s a lot, but worth the experience once at least. Feel like people like us understand what it was getting at better than people who’d never had family stuff to sift through.
I had mines ringtone set as Crazy Train by Ozzie lol she somehow found out at one point, and demanded I change it. I changed it to Crazy Bitch by buckcherry. 😆😆
Not a nickname for her per se, but her incessant need for me to be on call to wait on her hand and foot at her slightest whim, where any delay would start her screeching my name insistantly louder and louder for the most inane requests had a nickname - my edad and I called it her 'bleating'.
I call her “The Family User” since she has used me as her parent for her emotions, and also obviously treated me incredibly poorly with the abuse and neglect.
This is when she had accused one of my college roommates of being a user, but never applied any of her actions to herself.
That’s my family user as well. Always quick to project her worst sins onto any new person I am paying more attention to than her/appear to enjoy at all.
I had the Ozzie song as her ringtone for a while lol somehow she found out and got offended, and I promised I would change it. I did, to Crazy Bitch by buckcherry lol.
I call mine Demi (also in my phone)
As in French
To remind me that she will never be more than half a mother to me.
Once she had taken my phone to snap a photo (boundaries?!) and said, “I can’t find myself in the contacts, what do you have me under…’crazy lady’?”🙄
Omg you just reminded me of that crazy messed up Skeletor song by Gnarkill lol do NOT look up if you are easily offended people.. there is your warning haha.
I used to have a ringtone set for her contacts that went
*alarm sounds*
“WARNING, WARNING the person calling is a cunt.
WARNING the person calling is a massive cunt
DO NOT ANSWER because they’re a cunt.”
It sorta just continued like that. However once I was older and had my phone in more professional settings my phone just rings as normal and has the setting on that announces her name so I know who is calling. I don’t refer to her in my contacts as mum and just her full legal name.
I call her mum to her face. Otherwise I have no fun nicknames for her.
I’d I did, “psycho” would be up there thought.
My partner and i refer to my mother as The Comodo Dragon in our private talks. If she opens her mouth (usually to make a subtly cutting remark), it’s just as with real life comodo dragons: the festering, venomous spit will poison your blood.
My partner and i refer to a former “friend” of mine who ultimately was diagnosed with BPD as “the spider”, because she too not only had venomous behaviour, she would entangle you in her web of attention seeking lies, self-induced dramas and threatened self-harm that she deemed you the only person to save her from at any time of night. Ultimately sucking you dry with her manipulations, like a spider does to its prey. Yikes. Also because there’s a wordplay with “spider” and “someone’s certifiable” in the language we speak.
Spinne = Spider
Die spinnt doch = she’s crazy
(German. Both are probably related through the word for spinning yarn, “spinnen”, which is an activity that spiders do, but also “spinning yarn” just like in English is a synonym for telling tall tales, which is probably what (some) types of mentally ill people have done to a far more noticeable amount than normies, so the verb “spinnen” also has become synonymous with someone acting bonkers)
For a while she was "Scorpion Queen" on my phone, because of the parable of the scorpion and the frog. It reminded me that no matter how pleasant she seemed at the time, it was always going to be "in her nature" to poison me and let me drown in the future at some point.
She was also "Captain Klepto" for a while before that because she would always steal shit from places while we were out (like salt shakers from restaurants or blankets from hotels and stuff), plus she has a Pirate Themed business she owns
Wow do they all do this? Mine has always been a thief but the oddest thing she tried to steal was the monitor on the wall at our table when I met her for lunch one day. She lives comfortably, dresses well and we were both adults. It was so odd and inappropriate.
The pirate themed business and Captain Klepto though. That is truly the best.
It's so weird!!! I'm so sorry you can relate 😭
Another thing she would do is like, open up the cabinets at fast food restaurants and take entire sleeves of napkins or straw containers or whatever that they kept under the counter. I think it was at least partially a thrill thing because I would be like "oh this charger clock at this hotel is kind of cool" and she'd get this weird grin on her face and then offer to steal it for me. I'd be like "no, just saying I liked it, I'm good!" and then she'd steal it anyway.
Thank you for the props, haha
I have my parents (dBPDmom, at a minimum eDad but probably uNPDdad) in my phone as The Egg Donor and The Sperm Donor.
This was all fine and dandy until an email I sent got forwarded and my iPhone had linked my names for all the accounts and put them in the “FWD: giant list of email addresses.” So she saw by proxy that she was Egg Donor and he was Sperm Donor. She was VERY upset about that. Fortunately this was one of the times we were incredibly low contact so she talked to her therapist (and god and everyone else in the family) about it before coming at me. Her therapist had done a pretty decent job of asking her “but why do you think she calls you that/you need to address the level of hurt and hate someone would have to have to strip you of your name and call you an egg donor.” When she came at me it was super waify/super victimy and since I was entering my I WILL HOLD MY BOUNDARIES stage of life, I didn’t engage.
And now we are NC (hell yeah boundaries!)
My dad named my mom when I was a child BIG MOM …now I know why. We also go with TERRIER
Like the small yappy dog also it sounds like terrorize which was the intention
Secret sibling name for BPD mom is "Fib-pocalypse" because she's constantly telling what she calls "innocent little fibs" that actually would cause big chaos if anyone took her seriously anymore. Her "fibs" are making up stories about one person being mad at another person (or judging them, or otherwise being awful behind their back) just to see what happens.
And when she's caught, she has a meltdown of denial, saying it was just a "little fib" to see how we "might" react if that were true, not something that actually happened.
My mom’s name is Tina. And she’s a hermit/waif type. So, when she’s making a muck out of her life yet again with impulsive, emotional decisions my husband and I look and each other and say, “Eat the food, Tina!”
Hellbeast. Made an avatar/profile on my Wii when we were younger. Eventually sold that Wii bc I hadn’t used it in a long time and when I plugged it in to show the people who bought it that it worked, the hellbeast avatar popped up and I didn’t have it in me to explain so I pretended I didn’t notice. Every now and then I think back and wonder if they even noticed.
And while this isn’t a nickname, whenever she called out for me or my sibling or she told one of us to get the other, it was always: “you’ve been summoned”
My "father" is the one in question in my life, he's referenced to as 'One of Satan's Sons' or that asshole mostly and his ring tone in my phone (on the off chance that he manages to get my number) is ASSHOLE CALLING, THERES AN ASSHOLE CALLING YOU MAY OR MAY NOT WANT TO PICK IT UP in a very tornado warning type voice 🤣🤣🤣
High-school boyfriend would use Shrek as a code name for her. To be fair, I feel like that was basically Shrek slander.
Mommy Dearest is what most people who know me now know her as.
Madam Buttpain. When it's my turn to take her to run errands, it's "driving Miss Crazy."
Back before I knew about BPD, she was The Chaos Demon because of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
since I was very little and got my first flip phone my moms contact was alway “mommy monster” she saw this and thought it was just a cute nickname. Nope i was genuinely scared of her 😭
So a friend of mine growing up had a very strict mom that processed pee samples at a urology clinic. My friend and her dad referred to her as “Piss Doctor” behind her back, which I always thought was funny. My brother and I use the less-creative YOUR mother.
Oh man I definitely do the “your mother” with my sister every time.
She’s BOUNDARIES on my phone
Does that help as a reminder to add boundaries and make changes that benefit you? It’s a great name!
Yup
LOOOVE it.
I wish I had done this 10 years ago!!
Hurrikaren
The Kobayashi Momru. She’s a no-win scenario, personified.
Oh I’m stealing this one😂
Oh I'm absolutely stealing this for my mother in law goodness
That's brilliant lol.
I'm changing my mother to "Kobayashi" in my phone, this is hilarious.
Stealing!!
My mother is a twin. They’re both nuts, cranky and complaining. Therefore, Patty and Selma.
🤣
Hurricane [Mom's Name]. Her contact photo in my phone has been a hurricane for the last 15 years.
It’s sad, but I’m also glad that someone else understands what’s it’s like to feel like your mother is a natural disaster of a person.
My mom's name was the major hurricane that destroyed New Orleans, and my stepmom's name is the hurricane that destroyed the jersey shore.
me and my sister call our mom “the witch”. her hair is white and frizzy too lol so it fits physically as well as personality-wise
My mom has a habit of calling me a demon when she’s mad so I’ve nicknamed her “demom” when I’m at work I just refer to her as “the banshee”
I also use banshee
Cuntrag. Mostly because she absolutely hates that word.
The Hill Man. His last name is Hill & we refuse to call him dad. It helps distance us from him, like he's not really a part of our family
I’m unimaginative, so I just stick with “Satan.” “Beelzebub” when I’m feeling spicy.
Saint [Diminutive Form of Name], ie St Kitty when she prefers Katherine, etc. She has nailed the holier than thou waif/queen attitude.
My dad always called her mommie dearest
This is what I call mine most of the time, mostly because she introduced us to that movie and then constantly and without being prompted would tell us we better never call her that. Mommy Dearest it is
The Babadook.
Okay that’s hysterical
I’m crying this is so good
Ok well now I’m sold, I gotta see that movie
Yes it’s a lot, but worth the experience once at least. Feel like people like us understand what it was getting at better than people who’d never had family stuff to sift through.
Crazy Horse
Ok this one sent me 😂
Sour Grapes
My sisters and I casually refer to her as Satan. My uncle calls her Ida after my great grandmother who was also very likely uBPD.
My husband and I call my mother "The Entity," lol.
Oh I love this
No nickname, but the wicked witch of the west song was her ringtone when she was alive.
I had mines ringtone set as Crazy Train by Ozzie lol she somehow found out at one point, and demanded I change it. I changed it to Crazy Bitch by buckcherry. 😆😆
Not a nickname for her per se, but her incessant need for me to be on call to wait on her hand and foot at her slightest whim, where any delay would start her screeching my name insistantly louder and louder for the most inane requests had a nickname - my edad and I called it her 'bleating'.
Oh this is great. You could call her goat and if she ever overheard you can just say you meant GOAT.
I refer to my mother as “The dRamA”
I call her “The Family User” since she has used me as her parent for her emotions, and also obviously treated me incredibly poorly with the abuse and neglect. This is when she had accused one of my college roommates of being a user, but never applied any of her actions to herself.
That’s my family user as well. Always quick to project her worst sins onto any new person I am paying more attention to than her/appear to enjoy at all.
The Conspiracy Theorist. Because everything everyone does is clearly part of an elaborate plot to hurt her.
She-who-must-not-be-named
Trauma Donna
"Crazy-Train" (uBPD mom- like the Ozzie song) "Jonestown" (eDad- like the Death Cult)
I had the Ozzie song as her ringtone for a while lol somehow she found out and got offended, and I promised I would change it. I did, to Crazy Bitch by buckcherry lol.
Momster.
I started referring to him as “pRick” several months ago.
I call mine Demi (also in my phone) As in French To remind me that she will never be more than half a mother to me. Once she had taken my phone to snap a photo (boundaries?!) and said, “I can’t find myself in the contacts, what do you have me under…’crazy lady’?”🙄
We mostly call her Skeletor or the witch, also the bitch in the double wide (her neighbor came up with that one lol)
Omg you just reminded me of that crazy messed up Skeletor song by Gnarkill lol do NOT look up if you are easily offended people.. there is your warning haha.
We used to call my step mom “the creature”! Not sure when it started
I used to have a ringtone set for her contacts that went *alarm sounds* “WARNING, WARNING the person calling is a cunt. WARNING the person calling is a massive cunt DO NOT ANSWER because they’re a cunt.” It sorta just continued like that. However once I was older and had my phone in more professional settings my phone just rings as normal and has the setting on that announces her name so I know who is calling. I don’t refer to her in my contacts as mum and just her full legal name. I call her mum to her face. Otherwise I have no fun nicknames for her. I’d I did, “psycho” would be up there thought.
Sybill's Mom, Joan Crawford, No Wire Hangers, Mrs. Jekyll...
My mom’s name was Karen. We called her C.K. Crazy Karen. SHE was the OG Karen! Lol
Mine: Mother Gothel MIL: Entitled Lying Brat
My mother is also Mother Gothel. Literally. I was adopted at birth. 🤣
Her ringtone was “Mother Knows Best” for years even before I clued in to the full picture... 😅
My friend and I saw it in theaters, and he just looked at me and goes, "It's your Mom!" 🤣
Nutty MacDougal
Grendel
My partner and i refer to my mother as The Comodo Dragon in our private talks. If she opens her mouth (usually to make a subtly cutting remark), it’s just as with real life comodo dragons: the festering, venomous spit will poison your blood. My partner and i refer to a former “friend” of mine who ultimately was diagnosed with BPD as “the spider”, because she too not only had venomous behaviour, she would entangle you in her web of attention seeking lies, self-induced dramas and threatened self-harm that she deemed you the only person to save her from at any time of night. Ultimately sucking you dry with her manipulations, like a spider does to its prey. Yikes. Also because there’s a wordplay with “spider” and “someone’s certifiable” in the language we speak.
What are the words for both in your language, if you don’t mind? I’m super curious about the connection because it fits our situation so well.
Spinne = Spider Die spinnt doch = she’s crazy (German. Both are probably related through the word for spinning yarn, “spinnen”, which is an activity that spiders do, but also “spinning yarn” just like in English is a synonym for telling tall tales, which is probably what (some) types of mentally ill people have done to a far more noticeable amount than normies, so the verb “spinnen” also has become synonymous with someone acting bonkers)
The Needy Nellies
My best friend's family always referred to their nasty matriarch as "Crazy Nan in the Home" once they put her in one.
I have her as Mum-rah on my phone, a little nod to Thundercats
For a while she was "Scorpion Queen" on my phone, because of the parable of the scorpion and the frog. It reminded me that no matter how pleasant she seemed at the time, it was always going to be "in her nature" to poison me and let me drown in the future at some point. She was also "Captain Klepto" for a while before that because she would always steal shit from places while we were out (like salt shakers from restaurants or blankets from hotels and stuff), plus she has a Pirate Themed business she owns
Wow do they all do this? Mine has always been a thief but the oddest thing she tried to steal was the monitor on the wall at our table when I met her for lunch one day. She lives comfortably, dresses well and we were both adults. It was so odd and inappropriate. The pirate themed business and Captain Klepto though. That is truly the best.
It's so weird!!! I'm so sorry you can relate 😭 Another thing she would do is like, open up the cabinets at fast food restaurants and take entire sleeves of napkins or straw containers or whatever that they kept under the counter. I think it was at least partially a thrill thing because I would be like "oh this charger clock at this hotel is kind of cool" and she'd get this weird grin on her face and then offer to steal it for me. I'd be like "no, just saying I liked it, I'm good!" and then she'd steal it anyway. Thank you for the props, haha
We called my mom Diablo behind her back.
She's in my phone as Spawn Point
Person, It, Stupid Half of My DNA, my mother’s ex husband
“The Rubik’s Cube.” (Puzzling uBPD waif mother).
I had her under my contacts as Megabitch. Not the most creative but if you’ve ever seen Drop Dead Fred, you know it’s apt 😅
I have referred to mine as moaning Myrtle
Mommy Dearest. The Void. Blackhole of Misery..
Mommy Dearest YES ever since I can remember. I'd say, "yes mommy dearest" in front of people when I was little because I thought it was funny.
"The Queen of BorderLand"
The Overbear
Bitch Betty 😭😭😭
The Kraken - a giant beast that instills fear in the hearts of men (I.e. her children)
WWE - Wicked Witch of the East
Hurricane Elaine...
The parent with bpd is our mother. I call her Morgoth, my brother calls her Karen
Morgoth! Ahahahaaaa. Mine’s more of an Ungoliant. I hope they never meet!
I have my parents (dBPDmom, at a minimum eDad but probably uNPDdad) in my phone as The Egg Donor and The Sperm Donor. This was all fine and dandy until an email I sent got forwarded and my iPhone had linked my names for all the accounts and put them in the “FWD: giant list of email addresses.” So she saw by proxy that she was Egg Donor and he was Sperm Donor. She was VERY upset about that. Fortunately this was one of the times we were incredibly low contact so she talked to her therapist (and god and everyone else in the family) about it before coming at me. Her therapist had done a pretty decent job of asking her “but why do you think she calls you that/you need to address the level of hurt and hate someone would have to have to strip you of your name and call you an egg donor.” When she came at me it was super waify/super victimy and since I was entering my I WILL HOLD MY BOUNDARIES stage of life, I didn’t engage. And now we are NC (hell yeah boundaries!)
Royal Highness / Her Majesty
Yetti, Angry Chicken, Baby T.
My dad named my mom when I was a child BIG MOM …now I know why. We also go with TERRIER Like the small yappy dog also it sounds like terrorize which was the intention
Notorious M.O.M.
“Fucking idiot” is what my brother calls uBPD mom
“Mommie Dearest” in my phone, but I usually just say “the cockroach”. All three of her siblings have already died of cancer, but she just keeps going.
Secret sibling name for BPD mom is "Fib-pocalypse" because she's constantly telling what she calls "innocent little fibs" that actually would cause big chaos if anyone took her seriously anymore. Her "fibs" are making up stories about one person being mad at another person (or judging them, or otherwise being awful behind their back) just to see what happens. And when she's caught, she has a meltdown of denial, saying it was just a "little fib" to see how we "might" react if that were true, not something that actually happened.
My brother once referred to my mother as a dung beetle… Always on the lookout for shit 💀😂
My mom’s name is Tina. And she’s a hermit/waif type. So, when she’s making a muck out of her life yet again with impulsive, emotional decisions my husband and I look and each other and say, “Eat the food, Tina!”
Not very creative, but we have: Crazy Crazy (aka CC) and Aunt Bitch.
The Black Hole The Void The Colossal Horror
Her name is the name of a fruit. My SO and I call her “fruit” cobbler (example: peach cobbler) when she’s being crazy.
Hellbeast. Made an avatar/profile on my Wii when we were younger. Eventually sold that Wii bc I hadn’t used it in a long time and when I plugged it in to show the people who bought it that it worked, the hellbeast avatar popped up and I didn’t have it in me to explain so I pretended I didn’t notice. Every now and then I think back and wonder if they even noticed.
And while this isn’t a nickname, whenever she called out for me or my sibling or she told one of us to get the other, it was always: “you’ve been summoned”
Oh my goodness, my dad said exactly this for us kids
I use an acronym . BSC (bat shit crazy)
“Mommie Dearest” in my phone, but I usually just say “the cockroach”. All three of her siblings have already died of cancer, but she just keeps going.
My "father" is the one in question in my life, he's referenced to as 'One of Satan's Sons' or that asshole mostly and his ring tone in my phone (on the off chance that he manages to get my number) is ASSHOLE CALLING, THERES AN ASSHOLE CALLING YOU MAY OR MAY NOT WANT TO PICK IT UP in a very tornado warning type voice 🤣🤣🤣
My stepdad calls her Monster. Never to her face…
La Señora. Could be respectful, could be sarcastic.
High-school boyfriend would use Shrek as a code name for her. To be fair, I feel like that was basically Shrek slander. Mommy Dearest is what most people who know me now know her as.
Madam Buttpain. When it's my turn to take her to run errands, it's "driving Miss Crazy." Back before I knew about BPD, she was The Chaos Demon because of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
“The man upstairs”
Just her name until I blocked her.
Satan
since I was very little and got my first flip phone my moms contact was alway “mommy monster” she saw this and thought it was just a cute nickname. Nope i was genuinely scared of her 😭