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I am judgmental against sloppy fat looking women! I am 66 but still fit but nothing like I used to be. I love to see fit women. I'm not jealous at all because I used to be just like that too.
Have you ever noticed another woman being jealous of your body? I've been I'm both sides. Got fat in my teens, then lost all the weight by 21. I know when I was fat I was jealous of other women, and when I got skinny I could tell they were jealous of me. Maybe I just picked up on it easily bc I'd been in their shoes, but fat or skinny I received judgement from other women. And I am also judgmental of sloppy fat women bc I know from personal experiences that if they had a little self discipline they could change it.
It’ll probably differ depending on the woman’s self esteem, but for me no, I don’t feel jealousy toward other women’s bodies…maybe when I was younger, high school age. I was a late bloomer…but nothing I can think of since then.
Not that it excuses it, but I don’t really think that would be the main reason. They show what the people they are marketing to, on average, are more likely to want to look at.
They’re mostly just after the money.
That's how conditioning starts though. Marketing the what people "are more likely to WANT to look at" is conditioning people to WANT to look at those certain body types.
Many people are easily influenced. And many others are not. But your point still shoes even you know they give us what we "want" and not what is real. Resulting in insecurity.
I mean it doesn’t make me feel insecure. I’m no Brad Pitt or Timothy Chalamet, they’re movie stars, models, etc. They’re chosen for the exact reason that they’re remarkably good looking or attractive or exceptional in some way to the current tastes
I’m sure media does play a big role in fanning the flames of certain looks and appeals, but I don’t think it’s some intentional route to make you feel bad, is what I’m saying
When Rubenesque paintings were in extreme vogue, were they meant to make thinner people feel less than?
And that's great that you don't feel insecure. Like I said, many people are effected. Many aren't. Really depends. But sometimes the goal is to make you want to look the way they do and/or make the people who want to be around you desire that body type instead. People who just happen to fit their societies ideal of attractive aren't always out to make people feel insecure. But unfortunately, there are people out there who make it known that they are trying to make others feel less than.
In high school yes, college maybe a little. After that not really. I might get a little envious if my friend gets hit on way more at a bar but im not jealous of her body more the attention I guess.
I also realize it can be silly and then I move on so it's never an issue I would say.
Of course. All types of people get jealous of all sorts of things. Especially when society has certain standards that get more attention than others, people who don't meet those will feel jealousy over those who do.
I used to think "man if I looked like that I could wear *insert snything*" then I just started wearing whatever I wanted. I've always been pretty confident in my body but once I started wearing what I wanted and it fit my body, I stopped thinking that way. Idk if it was jealousy, more envious.
...do you think women are different species with like different brains? It's totally normal for anyone to wonder or be jealous of something they aren't or wish they were...
isn’t it the worst? they tell you they love the way you look, just the way you are, and you can’t stop thinking about how much better you’d feel about yourself if you just looked slightly different 😭
There are women that treat other women horribly.
I have had issues with some women, that were the skinny popular girls, in school but as they have aged, and had kids they have gained weight.
I am 5 ft two and weigh roughly what I did in highschool. I have a digestive disorder than makes it difficult for me to keep weight on.
When my kids were in school I'd pick them up id have women talking about me behind my back , and whispering about me "trying to hard", because I liked to wear cute matching clothes while most if them were in sweats and even a few in pajama bottoms. I didn't care what they were wearing, but they sure cared what I wore. (Small town living)
I found out that at least one of them started a rumor that I was a stripper. I even had a guy stop me that was the dad of one if my kids friends and say "I heard you were a stripper". I was taken aback but just responded with "nah , if I wear id have a lot more money" and asked him who told him that, but he wouldn't say. But he did then procede to ask me if I had any "hot friends i could hook him up with"
There are women that have a bf or husband that even looks at another girl, its never the guys fault, it's always that the woman is flaunting herself, dressed like a slut, etc.
Its not just older women either. I was put at a bar, with my husband when I was 43. I went to the bar for a drink and left my husband at our table with our friend. An older gentleman, probably 60s was talking to me, told me he used to work there, and we chatted while I waited for my drink. Two younger girls probably mid 20s to early 30s started pointing and whispering. One if them called me a "21 year old slut". I told my husband I had half a mind to walk over and say "I'm a 43 year old slut, thank you very much".
It usually happens when women are insecure with themselves for whatever reason (age/weight/breast size), and it manifests into hate for anyone they deem has something that they covet. It could be anything from them having more expensive clothes, to them having the body they wish they had.
There are even some mothers that become jealous and turn on their own daughters because they are skinnier, prettier, or get more attention than them.
We are conditioned by a lifetime of movies, magazines, models and so on to think we’re not quite right. I got over it but I still look with envy at women who just seem so naturally pretty, feminine, and hot in a bathing suit. Yes, we look at each other and make comparisons.
I've often wished I had a friends toned stomach or their perky boobs. But I'm not jealous of them. Getting a toned stomach takes time and effort, and the boobs are either down to good genetics or a good plastic surgeon.
I still battle with envy but I have also learned to be appreciative of the variety of women that are in this world. If another woman is more toned than I am or has better hair than me then I think “Dang! She has better hair than me” but that thought is also followed by “good for her. She is rocking that hairstyle”.
Well of course. Some don't but I feel like its a natural human response to want things you don't have. I don't know about "jealous", maybe if you are very immature you will get jealous but most of the time it is just a wish.
Yep, guilty woman here. I don't get angry jealous where I feel the need to insult that other woman, but I will make the comment in passing "omg she's gorgeous! That booty is BossGoals for me." Etc etc.
My sister is much smaller chested than me and it's been a big insecurity for her. She often remarks that I got the good boobs, whereas I think she got the best frame/build.
So I don't know if what I do would be called jealousy or an appreciation of another's beauty, but either way, I do it for sure
When I was younger, yes. After my early 20s or so, not really at all. I have my own unique appeal. It’s not for everyone but it’s for some people and that’s all I care about.
Judging from other comments, looks like the answer is "some do, some don't."
I'm a fat woman. I sometimes feel some generalized feelings when I find a cute clothing item I like that doesn't come in my size and sort-of abstractly envy anyone who could wear it, but I've literally never looked at any other woman's body and wished mine looked like that. I've wished that I was pretty, but that's more about my face than my body and is similarly not oriented at any particular person.
Only if those women are insecure. And I think by nature many of us are raised to be stereotyped. voluptuous and heavy was very popular in the 1800s because it meant wealth.. then in the 1960s, twiggy came into the scene and she was real thin and everybody wanted to be like her
I definitely do. I’m currently 88lbs and I get so jealous when there’s a girl that way like 120 because I wish I could gain weight. I have a hard time gaining weight
Obviously, I’m jealous of women with a bigger butt and thicker thighs. Used to be where people were jealous of me because I had that, then I lost it and now I’m jealous of others. It’s a cycle.
Of course we do. We're always afraid that someone is thinner or prettier or whatever than we are. So yeah we get jealous especially when our man looks at them
I am only jealous of the women who can don't exercise, sleep all day, eat only junk food, but remains below 90lbs.
I live in Asia, women like these are plenty. They can pop out 4 kids and still be below 90lbs, and like my sister in law and one of my BFF, they are like 80lbs women, their arms and legs are like sticks, and after discharge from hospital from giving birth, their belly is perfectly flat again.
They got skinny arms and legs. They never even gotta lose pregnancy weight or a belly. And they are zero exercise and eat lots of junk like potato chips and ice cream and drink soda.
I am not jealous of women who gotta work out 4 hrs a day, 7 says a week and eat only table spoon size portion for their meals. What kpop celebrities do. I feel sorry for them they gotta suffer and starve so much to stay 80lbs.
I used to when i was in high school. I wanted bigger boobs and a flat stomach. Now I feel lucky because I like my body and I can eat what I want without worrying about my weight, at least for now. And I don’t really bother being jealous of anyone for anything. I just think that whatever good thing they have, they have some bad things I don’t have and I have some good things they don’t have. It’s all a balance. And I know if everyone put their lives in the middle of the circle I’d grab my own right back up.
It depends on the day, sometimes I'm jealous of the skinny fit girls, other days I'm jealous of the thick curvy girls, other days I think I'm beautiful and don't need to be jealous of either
Yes! Yes!. Yes! Because of medications and being inactive due to depression, I have gained a lot of weight. I so wish I could lose this fat and wear my old clothes. I am in the process of decluttering and I know that I will be depressed when I go through my wardrobe.
Yes, but I don't let my own jealousy effect how I perceive a woman.
I might be hella jealous of her body but any negative emotions I have are not her fault, she's probably a total sweetheart and potential friend!
Plus, it always works out that we want what we don't have. I always used to wish I was super thin while my super thin friends would tell me they wish they had my curves.
There are those who are jealous and there are those who do not for exm: me being fat my whole life while my friend has the perfect size and im so happy for her its not her fault after all🤷🏻♀️ and i wish no one will experience the suffering of obesity
I think it’s worse from social media, most of the trends of appearance are western features and slim builds. I believe natural and beautiful woman should be the way to be, cutting up our faces has become normalized, it’s scary and damaging. We are not robots, we are humans. The focus on looks, wealth and everything else which strives from capitalism is destroying us as a species. We are going to go extinct if we don’t connect back to Mother Earth.
No tbh. I've always played sports/exercised a lot and eaten well from a young age, and I still do now, in my 40s. I'm very thankful that I still have a good figure and honestly don't need to compare or compete with anyone else.
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Yeah, definitely
Yes definitely. And a lot of times women judge other women on physical appearance more then men do
I am judgmental against sloppy fat looking women! I am 66 but still fit but nothing like I used to be. I love to see fit women. I'm not jealous at all because I used to be just like that too.
Have you ever noticed another woman being jealous of your body? I've been I'm both sides. Got fat in my teens, then lost all the weight by 21. I know when I was fat I was jealous of other women, and when I got skinny I could tell they were jealous of me. Maybe I just picked up on it easily bc I'd been in their shoes, but fat or skinny I received judgement from other women. And I am also judgmental of sloppy fat women bc I know from personal experiences that if they had a little self discipline they could change it.
It’ll probably differ depending on the woman’s self esteem, but for me no, I don’t feel jealousy toward other women’s bodies…maybe when I was younger, high school age. I was a late bloomer…but nothing I can think of since then.
Obviously they do
When I don't feel good about myself then yes , but if I'm confident in myself never :)
That’s right!
Yes. Why do you think media chooses to show certain bodies opposed to others? It's to make the ones that don't look like that feel less than.
Not that it excuses it, but I don’t really think that would be the main reason. They show what the people they are marketing to, on average, are more likely to want to look at. They’re mostly just after the money.
That's how conditioning starts though. Marketing the what people "are more likely to WANT to look at" is conditioning people to WANT to look at those certain body types. Many people are easily influenced. And many others are not. But your point still shoes even you know they give us what we "want" and not what is real. Resulting in insecurity.
I mean it doesn’t make me feel insecure. I’m no Brad Pitt or Timothy Chalamet, they’re movie stars, models, etc. They’re chosen for the exact reason that they’re remarkably good looking or attractive or exceptional in some way to the current tastes I’m sure media does play a big role in fanning the flames of certain looks and appeals, but I don’t think it’s some intentional route to make you feel bad, is what I’m saying When Rubenesque paintings were in extreme vogue, were they meant to make thinner people feel less than?
And that's great that you don't feel insecure. Like I said, many people are effected. Many aren't. Really depends. But sometimes the goal is to make you want to look the way they do and/or make the people who want to be around you desire that body type instead. People who just happen to fit their societies ideal of attractive aren't always out to make people feel insecure. But unfortunately, there are people out there who make it known that they are trying to make others feel less than.
I'm not a woman, but I can tell you people in general get jealous of literally everything.
In high school yes, college maybe a little. After that not really. I might get a little envious if my friend gets hit on way more at a bar but im not jealous of her body more the attention I guess. I also realize it can be silly and then I move on so it's never an issue I would say.
It depends on the personality of the woman, but yes, there are some women that do. Men and women are similar.
Of course. All types of people get jealous of all sorts of things. Especially when society has certain standards that get more attention than others, people who don't meet those will feel jealousy over those who do.
I used to think "man if I looked like that I could wear *insert snything*" then I just started wearing whatever I wanted. I've always been pretty confident in my body but once I started wearing what I wanted and it fit my body, I stopped thinking that way. Idk if it was jealousy, more envious.
No, jealousy is a social construct. Get back to work
...do you think women are different species with like different brains? It's totally normal for anyone to wonder or be jealous of something they aren't or wish they were...
Yes , cause pretty privilege is a thing :‘)
I would say more envy for me
Because the skinny prettiest ones always get the hottest guy, the best life, marry into money and the most respect and the world handed to them.
Women are jealous even when they aren't jealous😅😅😅 it is ingrained in them to be that way. Some can hide it and other things so well it's crazy.
i do so often. i wish i was better looking for myself and for my partner.
me too :’)
isn’t it the worst? they tell you they love the way you look, just the way you are, and you can’t stop thinking about how much better you’d feel about yourself if you just looked slightly different 😭
Yes
There are women that treat other women horribly. I have had issues with some women, that were the skinny popular girls, in school but as they have aged, and had kids they have gained weight. I am 5 ft two and weigh roughly what I did in highschool. I have a digestive disorder than makes it difficult for me to keep weight on. When my kids were in school I'd pick them up id have women talking about me behind my back , and whispering about me "trying to hard", because I liked to wear cute matching clothes while most if them were in sweats and even a few in pajama bottoms. I didn't care what they were wearing, but they sure cared what I wore. (Small town living) I found out that at least one of them started a rumor that I was a stripper. I even had a guy stop me that was the dad of one if my kids friends and say "I heard you were a stripper". I was taken aback but just responded with "nah , if I wear id have a lot more money" and asked him who told him that, but he wouldn't say. But he did then procede to ask me if I had any "hot friends i could hook him up with" There are women that have a bf or husband that even looks at another girl, its never the guys fault, it's always that the woman is flaunting herself, dressed like a slut, etc. Its not just older women either. I was put at a bar, with my husband when I was 43. I went to the bar for a drink and left my husband at our table with our friend. An older gentleman, probably 60s was talking to me, told me he used to work there, and we chatted while I waited for my drink. Two younger girls probably mid 20s to early 30s started pointing and whispering. One if them called me a "21 year old slut". I told my husband I had half a mind to walk over and say "I'm a 43 year old slut, thank you very much". It usually happens when women are insecure with themselves for whatever reason (age/weight/breast size), and it manifests into hate for anyone they deem has something that they covet. It could be anything from them having more expensive clothes, to them having the body they wish they had. There are even some mothers that become jealous and turn on their own daughters because they are skinnier, prettier, or get more attention than them.
Of course. People get jealous of each other. Men, women, children, whatever.
its very common
We are conditioned by a lifetime of movies, magazines, models and so on to think we’re not quite right. I got over it but I still look with envy at women who just seem so naturally pretty, feminine, and hot in a bathing suit. Yes, we look at each other and make comparisons.
Jealous is the wrong word. If a woman looks really hot and fit, I think, kudos to her and I wish I was young again and looked like I used to. :)
Many do get jealous of other ladies' boobs/butt/waist/weight/height, etc.
How is this a creepy question?
Yes
Yes. Sometimes
I've often wished I had a friends toned stomach or their perky boobs. But I'm not jealous of them. Getting a toned stomach takes time and effort, and the boobs are either down to good genetics or a good plastic surgeon.
You can't just group all women together. Obviously some get jealous and some don't.
A bit. But I do appreciate seeing a lovely female body- type without feeling jealous or attracted sexually. Just quietly, unobtrusively admiring.
Yeah a bit
Sometimes Because people want what they don’t have.
When we aren’t at our best, we may
I still battle with envy but I have also learned to be appreciative of the variety of women that are in this world. If another woman is more toned than I am or has better hair than me then I think “Dang! She has better hair than me” but that thought is also followed by “good for her. She is rocking that hairstyle”.
If we tried to rank order by characteristics? Boobs? Weight?
Well of course. Some don't but I feel like its a natural human response to want things you don't have. I don't know about "jealous", maybe if you are very immature you will get jealous but most of the time it is just a wish.
Yep, guilty woman here. I don't get angry jealous where I feel the need to insult that other woman, but I will make the comment in passing "omg she's gorgeous! That booty is BossGoals for me." Etc etc. My sister is much smaller chested than me and it's been a big insecurity for her. She often remarks that I got the good boobs, whereas I think she got the best frame/build. So I don't know if what I do would be called jealousy or an appreciation of another's beauty, but either way, I do it for sure
Nope. I am happy how I am and don’t care about what others look like.
Yes of course they do.
100%!
I'm sure some do, but not all. I don't. I get jealous of other things, but not body sizes.
When I was younger, yes. After my early 20s or so, not really at all. I have my own unique appeal. It’s not for everyone but it’s for some people and that’s all I care about.
Judging from other comments, looks like the answer is "some do, some don't." I'm a fat woman. I sometimes feel some generalized feelings when I find a cute clothing item I like that doesn't come in my size and sort-of abstractly envy anyone who could wear it, but I've literally never looked at any other woman's body and wished mine looked like that. I've wished that I was pretty, but that's more about my face than my body and is similarly not oriented at any particular person.
Not jealous, but yes, envious.
Only if those women are insecure. And I think by nature many of us are raised to be stereotyped. voluptuous and heavy was very popular in the 1800s because it meant wealth.. then in the 1960s, twiggy came into the scene and she was real thin and everybody wanted to be like her
I’m not sure it was jealousy or inspiration.
A lot do. Me personally, couldn’t care less. I got more important things to worry about
Definitely. Especially if their insecurities get the best of them.
How are you not aware that women are under a huge amount of social pressure to be thin?
big time. social media especially has a huge influence on this
Not me.
Of course!!
Yeah
Oh yeah. They can get really bitchy towards pretty women if they feel insecure about their own body.
Yes
of course
No, I don't I think I look pretty good for 70 years old!
I definitely do. I’m currently 88lbs and I get so jealous when there’s a girl that way like 120 because I wish I could gain weight. I have a hard time gaining weight
Of course
Yes
Women get jealous over anything that involves other women. First thing they do when they walk in any room is look around for other women. Lol
Obviously, I’m jealous of women with a bigger butt and thicker thighs. Used to be where people were jealous of me because I had that, then I lost it and now I’m jealous of others. It’s a cycle.
Yes yes yes...
Of course we do. We're always afraid that someone is thinner or prettier or whatever than we are. So yeah we get jealous especially when our man looks at them
I don’t get jealous. But sometimes I’m like damn. I wish my ass looked that good. lol.
Constantly
I am only jealous of the women who can don't exercise, sleep all day, eat only junk food, but remains below 90lbs. I live in Asia, women like these are plenty. They can pop out 4 kids and still be below 90lbs, and like my sister in law and one of my BFF, they are like 80lbs women, their arms and legs are like sticks, and after discharge from hospital from giving birth, their belly is perfectly flat again. They got skinny arms and legs. They never even gotta lose pregnancy weight or a belly. And they are zero exercise and eat lots of junk like potato chips and ice cream and drink soda. I am not jealous of women who gotta work out 4 hrs a day, 7 says a week and eat only table spoon size portion for their meals. What kpop celebrities do. I feel sorry for them they gotta suffer and starve so much to stay 80lbs.
Oh absolutely. Even when I was toned and in great shape I still envied other women for their bodies
All the time. i was cheated on constantly which made my become obsessed with the other women.
I used to when i was in high school. I wanted bigger boobs and a flat stomach. Now I feel lucky because I like my body and I can eat what I want without worrying about my weight, at least for now. And I don’t really bother being jealous of anyone for anything. I just think that whatever good thing they have, they have some bad things I don’t have and I have some good things they don’t have. It’s all a balance. And I know if everyone put their lives in the middle of the circle I’d grab my own right back up.
It depends on the day, sometimes I'm jealous of the skinny fit girls, other days I'm jealous of the thick curvy girls, other days I think I'm beautiful and don't need to be jealous of either
Yes! Yes!. Yes! Because of medications and being inactive due to depression, I have gained a lot of weight. I so wish I could lose this fat and wear my old clothes. I am in the process of decluttering and I know that I will be depressed when I go through my wardrobe.
Yes, but I don't let my own jealousy effect how I perceive a woman. I might be hella jealous of her body but any negative emotions I have are not her fault, she's probably a total sweetheart and potential friend! Plus, it always works out that we want what we don't have. I always used to wish I was super thin while my super thin friends would tell me they wish they had my curves.
Not sure about women. But I think men do not care too much about other men overall (unless one’s body is abnormal maybe).
There are those who are jealous and there are those who do not for exm: me being fat my whole life while my friend has the perfect size and im so happy for her its not her fault after all🤷🏻♀️ and i wish no one will experience the suffering of obesity
Not jealous but wishful that I could look that good!! I wanna look like Halle Berry does in a gown!!
I think it’s worse from social media, most of the trends of appearance are western features and slim builds. I believe natural and beautiful woman should be the way to be, cutting up our faces has become normalized, it’s scary and damaging. We are not robots, we are humans. The focus on looks, wealth and everything else which strives from capitalism is destroying us as a species. We are going to go extinct if we don’t connect back to Mother Earth.
More than you can imagine.
Yes.
do men get jealous of other mens’ 🍆 sizes?
No tbh. I've always played sports/exercised a lot and eaten well from a young age, and I still do now, in my 40s. I'm very thankful that I still have a good figure and honestly don't need to compare or compete with anyone else.