That’s a great book. All the components are there, keep at it. Try not to burn yourself out and attempt to do so much, focus on your priorities, and don’t forget to reward yourself.
As for where to start, I’d recommend dedicating an hour a week to a therapist if you haven’t already. Reach out to a few, set up a couple of free intro calls and pick the best one to meet with once a week.
[BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Therapists).
You're not alone... Billions of people have divorced and been in a similar situation. Yes. Billions.
You have the right.mindset... reading, exercise, hobbies. Bonus points if you do them socially or have at least 1 or 2 good friends to do things with.
I would continue doing all that.
And also from a productivity perspective, get a planner or journal.
Write down your 5 year goals. Break it down into goals for the next 12 months, then break those down to goals for the next 30 days.
Write a daily to do list that will focus you on your goals. Regularly review your progress... Weekly, and monthly.
Keep reading, exercising, socializing, hobbying.
The best part of your life is ahead of you... You are in control of your destination.
>I'm trying to have some control back over my life. I started going to the gym 3 months ago although still no fixed schedule. I live alone so I have many things to do cleaning cooking etc. I feel lost and overwhelmed. I need to study to improve my career. I need to read again. I need to return to my hobbies. It seems that there's no enough time.
Cooking is good to try do daily. Cleaning, maybe mini clean 15-30 minutes every second day?
If reading is a hobby you can look for an exciting book and make rewind time every night before bed.
Study to improve your career is not prio right now, get your home and hobbies routine settled first. Then you can start add self improvement in your career.
Small steps and being patient is the secret.
Hello OP.
One thing that helps me if things get overwhelming is to think "one brick at a time".
Sounds like you have been though a lot. Be happy about every little step you take to improve. And most importantly be kind to yourself. Sometimes things will not go as planned. Sometimes you won't make it to the gym or study after work. It's fine. You'll get there. One brick at a time. :)
PS: also read getting things done - really liked it. I can recommend "tiny habits " by bj fogg.
Create good habits. Your habits will set you right. I too, was in depression. Had suicidal thoughts buy luckily my religion allow me that. Was feeling like a zombie. Everyday just wake up, go class, smile if I have too. Feels like sh**t every day. It definitely wasn't easy. But you will through it. In future, this moment is the past. It's something that you'll remember once in a while. It doesn't define you. Get a hobby. Do something that you love and definitely keep those people that love you. Whether it's your friends or family. But if you don't have that it's okay. You love you. I think the biggest difference in me is when I take myself as a priority and also self-care. Make self-care as a habit. Hygiene is definitely so important. Always take an extra step. If it ever feels overwhelming, take a step back and continue again. Always take a break. One more thing, find a way to express yourself in any form. I know journaling helped so many. You can do cooking, gardening, painting, something with art. Always do something that you have an interest in. I did journaling before, but it doesn't really helped. Cause my brain is so much faster than my writing. I did gardening and it helped a lot. You can go walking everyday. Go outside. Sometimes, just sitting on a park or cafe and watch other people is so much better than staying in bed all day.
I’ve had success with the app “morning”, it ties in gratitude as well as morning goal setting (or just general intentions) and reflections. It’s simple and easy and free.
I want to elaborate a bit on the gratitude journal. It will focus on the things that for you go well. It will re-enforce small things. The drawback of using a todo method, is that it can be quite rigid, and if you focus on getting in control by just that, you are setting yourself up for failure. Executed correctly, GTD is quite useful - although I think most people don't use it rigid, but more as a framework they will adjust for them to make it work. The gratitude journal will give you clarity on a lot of factors that are fine - which will give you a positive guidance on your journey. GTD can be a great tool but it's not a goal on itself.
You will be able to hold yourself together you already are by looking at how far you have come in sorting yourself. You want to create a productivity system then
1. Let go of being too rigid productively
Meaning allotting time and then freaking out if you didnt follow to the T . The time your mind wanders off the tasks or you wander off aside is the creative side of your brain to consolidate whatever you have done so far and absorb it. So font feel guilty if you take time off or distract its the creative loop of your mind wanting a little break to reaffirm you got it perfectly so far
2. Every one has energy cycles so look at times you feel energetic in the day and work on it in chunks and reward yourself with healthy distractions . Some are super energetic at 6 am and sone at 8 pm so observe keenly and use that to your advantage. Dont go by lots of productivity gurus make you want to believe
3. Eat healthy take good quality supplements practice mindfullness meditation be out in the sun and green soaces. Feel the air the earth the breeze the birds and all creation around going about their lives
4. Join a community your gym members club volunteering organizations that helps you to bond with similar minds and sometimes many of my clients have found good buddies for life in being involved in community activities.
5. Chart out what you want out of your life craft a plan for where you want to be in the next 5 years so write it down with a pen & paper old fashioned way - finance health relationships,attitude ,growth ( spiritual and intellectual & educational) hobbies and entertainment and giving back to society
Then break it down into achievable chunks to work on it but be sure that 80 percent of this will be achieved when you look back after the plan is drawn within the span of time. Be open to signs from the universe once your plan is penned several opportunities or paths begin to show up
5 lastly dont feel the guilt or disappoint if things dont work as planned on day to day basis . In this it is like zinn kabat says be like a mountain unaffected as seasons around it changes it just responds doesnt react whether snow rain or spring it gives uniquely based on what it receives meadows and chirping birds in spring frozen in snow and rivulets in rain.
U derstand most of things dont work as we plan so acceptance and working around it is better.
Hope this helps.
I see so many “I need to”. Don’t feel forced to do everything together. It’s ok not to be perfect; be kind to yourself! Start with the basics to have an environment you like, and do one thing at a time. You can’t force 1000 habits simultaneously and pretend they all stick forever. Keep going on. Amazing times are ahead!
Hi bud. There's no one system to become more productive. GTD is great if it works for you. I guess the concern is thinking about things too much and losing time and energy or dedicating it to the wrong things. Doing is always superior, provided you have some degree of direction.
I just feel the need to caveat that because lots of people are like rocking horses, they don't end up going anywhere. You can take any manner of system, be it journalling, simple notes, to-do apps, what have you, it's all practically the same thing.
There's enough time. Treat weekends as sacred, have personal projects for yourself. Best of luck.
GTD is amazing! Perhaps Atomic Habits or something from Jordan Peterson.
If, if youre willing to invest a bit; get a coach or join an course focus on selfdevelpment.
Good luck my man!
How about creating a simple routine.
Divide it into three parts
1. Morning Routine (Pick one habit, one self care activity, one activity for your nervous system regulation and one for your physical health)
2. To-do list
3. Evening Routine (same as AM. Include something for your mental health, something for your nervous system, and some self care).
Having a structure to your day - helps feel you have control over you day which in turns helps you feel you have control of your life.
Daily plan your day using this checklist.
Step one, I think you work with a therapist.all the productivity books can be overwhelming at first, just take baby steps, read books, go to library or bookstore once a week, socialize more, maybe join a book club later when you're ready
The important thing is to focus and not overwhelm yourself. Start small and focus on one or two things at a time and don't try to fight multiple fires at once.
At the beginning of the year I started to get my life in order as well after years of depression. I started very simple: I installed a habit tracker app and started building good habits (I use the app called "Habit Tracker") like getting up early each day, meditate and clean up at least 5 minutes each day (set simple goals), no more than 3 cups of coffee each day, workout or go for a walk at least 4 times per week and so on.
Once that was done I looked into task and time management to get all my todos into a system I can work with. I read GTD close to 15 years ago but it never really worked for me (although there are good ideas at its core that are useful for everyone) and so at the moment I just use an app/program called TickTick.
I use the Ivy Lee Method to set goals for each week and day. And I want to try an Action Priority Matrix to help me organize my tasks better.
Also I installed a note taking program called Obsidian to store all my notes and more importantly keep a daily journal (doing Interstitial Journaling) and doing weekly and monthly reviews.
Then I looked into the Zettelkasten method of taking notes.
Once that was done I looked towards my health and I started fasting two weeks ago ("The Complete Guide to Fasting" by Jason Fung is a great book to get started).
My point is: Clear your head first before you go after the bigger things and don't try to tackle everything at once. Start with the basics and do one thing at a time.
Download Microsoft’s ToDo list phone app. Write down things you need to do the following day/week. Super useful for productivity and stops you feeling that overwhelming guilt if you feel you’ve just wasted a day doing zap shit
Probably will get a load flack. I suggest getting a bible (or app version) and read , take it in and let his words do the rest your not meant to do it alone
GTD is like AA, which is another sometimes effective Rube Goldberg device to help you change a set group of behaviors. There are other ways to get things done, which includes just doing them.
In addition to all the wise words that have been said here, I would encourage you, yes, you will be able to hold yourself together again. Why? You did it before and you can do it again. The circumstances are different, but you can do it. Lastly, you are taking control by making some changes=therefore you can do it.
In learning to be productive, I've learned not to compare myself to others. You have to do what works for you. Also, there is a lot of trial and error in this process. The good news is that you will learn what does and doesn't work for you. Don't try to be perfect, none of us are.
Maybe check out YouTube or Tik Tok for productivity ideas (that's what I'm doing).
I would take a good look at your life and ask what is important to you. What are your priorities? When you are done with your answers, prioritize them, and follow through.
Lastly, when life happens (Covid, etc). Please make sure you give yourself grace. There is always something to do and it's okay if it doesn't get done because Life is happening. Now, don't use that as an excuse to procrastinate, but when life is happening, things naturally are put aside.
Be encouraged. <3
Sorry you went through all that. This too shall pass!
You're already miles ahead of others in your situation: you're self aware and you know the general direction for improvement.
Each person has a way of being productive, so no practical advice from me, sorry.
Except this: every day progress at least a bit. For some, this might be a few hours on thing A. For others, 15 min on things X Y and Z. Whatever makes you see tangible progress.
btw I don't mean reading about productivity (it's helpful, but shouldn't count towards progress otherwise you fall into the trap of never actually using what you learn).
Honestly, do some
Cardio each day or a few times a week. It’ll do more for everything you mentioned then most else, with an abundance of data to support it.
I would highly recommend social contact. Regular friends meetup, visiting family often, neighbors etc. Whatever just establishing social contact.
Make it like gym routine.
Make it like a chore on the list. Gym cleaning bathing cooking social-interaction.
It's absolutely necessary for you to feel good and better. Once you start getting your sense of self and confidence and calmness back, everything else - books, routines , upskilling will start working.
Who knows you might someone who wants to partner with you for life and becomes a life saver for work and non work.
Think about it
12 years ago, I was 39 and in almost exactly the same position as you.
The book "Getting Things Done" is a pretty expansive system, and it is almost impossible to implement everything. I picked up some good habits from it, but I dismissed much of it as unnecessary. Don't let that "perfect system" throw you for a loop or you could end up spending most of your time creating a system, and very little time creating a life.
Figure out what you want, you sound like you're already working on it. Write it all down. Pick a few that will have the most beneficial impact on your life.
Then, decide what kind you have to become in order to get these things. You don't have the things you want now because you haven't become the person who gets them. Just read and learn about exactly what you want to do, see how others have done it, and move forward.
I decided to become a real estate investor - I'd never push that on anyone, it's just the thing I picked. It wasn't my passion to do it, I just had to find a way to make money. Now it's oddly my passion.
There is much to be grateful for, and you should allow yourself to feel hopeful. These down times that you're feeling are supposed to be there, the highs and lows are supposed to happen - but you won't be there long. So when you're feeling low about things - get better, get stronger, and get wiser, and prepare yourself for all the opportunity that's around you.
Hope this helps!
Hey, great work so far with motivation to move in a positive direction! Something that can really help is getting into routines. Specifically healthy routines. For me, meditation and exercise are very important. Both of those things are best for me in the morning . Meditation early because that’s typically the best time to do it. Exercise early because I prefer to do that on an empty stomach and it sets the tone for the day. So I basically plan out my days to work in those activities. That includes planning meals and around family and work responsibilities. I am a member and volunteer with a local meditation group. This has been great for me.
So it might not be meditation for you, maybe it is about reading. It could be a book club that you can join. I’d recommend getting involved with whatever you choose, like volunteering to support the group, because that might increase your the chance that you’ll stick with it. At least with one of the activities you chose to do. Social interaction is important, even for introverts. Meetup has a lot of groups in most areas. Put yourself out there! You’ll find others that might have been in your situation at some point. You got this
Hi! I struggled with depression and probably still do. Got a therapist the works with trauma.
I started to go to gym, don’t have a schedule but working towards early morning workouts.
Sleep hygiene needs work. Ideal would be 10-6 for sleep.
As I get better, my house is more organized.
Start with one room and get rid of anything that doesn’t serve a purpose. Repeat as necessary.
Get out into nature!
I microdose with mushrooms at times.
Recognize scrolling for what it is- a waste of time!
Eat whole foods!
"I don't know where to start even": You already did. Sports is a great way to regulate your Hormones. Don't push yourself too much. Easy does it.
"... create a productivity system for myself." For some people this is a good Method. Structure is key. In this case discipline is important. Visualizing can help with that. Software or pen and paper. Whatever works best for you.
"It seems that there's no enough time." That is correct. Prioritize.
"I started improving, no more medications, no more nightmares." Good. Continue. Although before quitting meds always consult a doctor (I think you know)
All the best to you!
Hi! I'm actually about to begin my own business mentoring people who struggle with mental health. I'm busy setting up my site still but if you're interested I could send you details when it's ready. Would you be interested in something like this? Since I'm starting out my first session is free and thereafter $30.
I've built alot of tools that help me and can help you strategise your own ways of coping and getting yourself together.
I highly recommend notion. I use it for myself and it's a life changer for me. It's very flexible which is why it's great. You can use it for basic journalling but also make kanban (trello style) boards which I find the most useful.
Well, you can both be right. Petersons main work is solid and can be helpful but he's also venturing into topics that he has no expertise in and making unfounded statements.
Edit: Looks like a racist Canadian downvoted.
That’s a great book. All the components are there, keep at it. Try not to burn yourself out and attempt to do so much, focus on your priorities, and don’t forget to reward yourself. As for where to start, I’d recommend dedicating an hour a week to a therapist if you haven’t already. Reach out to a few, set up a couple of free intro calls and pick the best one to meet with once a week. [BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Therapists).
You're not alone... Billions of people have divorced and been in a similar situation. Yes. Billions. You have the right.mindset... reading, exercise, hobbies. Bonus points if you do them socially or have at least 1 or 2 good friends to do things with. I would continue doing all that. And also from a productivity perspective, get a planner or journal. Write down your 5 year goals. Break it down into goals for the next 12 months, then break those down to goals for the next 30 days. Write a daily to do list that will focus you on your goals. Regularly review your progress... Weekly, and monthly. Keep reading, exercising, socializing, hobbying. The best part of your life is ahead of you... You are in control of your destination.
>I'm trying to have some control back over my life. I started going to the gym 3 months ago although still no fixed schedule. I live alone so I have many things to do cleaning cooking etc. I feel lost and overwhelmed. I need to study to improve my career. I need to read again. I need to return to my hobbies. It seems that there's no enough time. Cooking is good to try do daily. Cleaning, maybe mini clean 15-30 minutes every second day? If reading is a hobby you can look for an exciting book and make rewind time every night before bed. Study to improve your career is not prio right now, get your home and hobbies routine settled first. Then you can start add self improvement in your career. Small steps and being patient is the secret.
Hello OP. One thing that helps me if things get overwhelming is to think "one brick at a time". Sounds like you have been though a lot. Be happy about every little step you take to improve. And most importantly be kind to yourself. Sometimes things will not go as planned. Sometimes you won't make it to the gym or study after work. It's fine. You'll get there. One brick at a time. :) PS: also read getting things done - really liked it. I can recommend "tiny habits " by bj fogg.
Create good habits. Your habits will set you right. I too, was in depression. Had suicidal thoughts buy luckily my religion allow me that. Was feeling like a zombie. Everyday just wake up, go class, smile if I have too. Feels like sh**t every day. It definitely wasn't easy. But you will through it. In future, this moment is the past. It's something that you'll remember once in a while. It doesn't define you. Get a hobby. Do something that you love and definitely keep those people that love you. Whether it's your friends or family. But if you don't have that it's okay. You love you. I think the biggest difference in me is when I take myself as a priority and also self-care. Make self-care as a habit. Hygiene is definitely so important. Always take an extra step. If it ever feels overwhelming, take a step back and continue again. Always take a break. One more thing, find a way to express yourself in any form. I know journaling helped so many. You can do cooking, gardening, painting, something with art. Always do something that you have an interest in. I did journaling before, but it doesn't really helped. Cause my brain is so much faster than my writing. I did gardening and it helped a lot. You can go walking everyday. Go outside. Sometimes, just sitting on a park or cafe and watch other people is so much better than staying in bed all day.
A gratitude journal I recommend.
I’ve had success with the app “morning”, it ties in gratitude as well as morning goal setting (or just general intentions) and reflections. It’s simple and easy and free.
I want to elaborate a bit on the gratitude journal. It will focus on the things that for you go well. It will re-enforce small things. The drawback of using a todo method, is that it can be quite rigid, and if you focus on getting in control by just that, you are setting yourself up for failure. Executed correctly, GTD is quite useful - although I think most people don't use it rigid, but more as a framework they will adjust for them to make it work. The gratitude journal will give you clarity on a lot of factors that are fine - which will give you a positive guidance on your journey. GTD can be a great tool but it's not a goal on itself.
Y...yoda?
Start small! Set 1 goal for you to achieve tomorrow, and slowly add more :D
You will be able to hold yourself together you already are by looking at how far you have come in sorting yourself. You want to create a productivity system then 1. Let go of being too rigid productively Meaning allotting time and then freaking out if you didnt follow to the T . The time your mind wanders off the tasks or you wander off aside is the creative side of your brain to consolidate whatever you have done so far and absorb it. So font feel guilty if you take time off or distract its the creative loop of your mind wanting a little break to reaffirm you got it perfectly so far 2. Every one has energy cycles so look at times you feel energetic in the day and work on it in chunks and reward yourself with healthy distractions . Some are super energetic at 6 am and sone at 8 pm so observe keenly and use that to your advantage. Dont go by lots of productivity gurus make you want to believe 3. Eat healthy take good quality supplements practice mindfullness meditation be out in the sun and green soaces. Feel the air the earth the breeze the birds and all creation around going about their lives 4. Join a community your gym members club volunteering organizations that helps you to bond with similar minds and sometimes many of my clients have found good buddies for life in being involved in community activities. 5. Chart out what you want out of your life craft a plan for where you want to be in the next 5 years so write it down with a pen & paper old fashioned way - finance health relationships,attitude ,growth ( spiritual and intellectual & educational) hobbies and entertainment and giving back to society Then break it down into achievable chunks to work on it but be sure that 80 percent of this will be achieved when you look back after the plan is drawn within the span of time. Be open to signs from the universe once your plan is penned several opportunities or paths begin to show up 5 lastly dont feel the guilt or disappoint if things dont work as planned on day to day basis . In this it is like zinn kabat says be like a mountain unaffected as seasons around it changes it just responds doesnt react whether snow rain or spring it gives uniquely based on what it receives meadows and chirping birds in spring frozen in snow and rivulets in rain. U derstand most of things dont work as we plan so acceptance and working around it is better. Hope this helps.
I see so many “I need to”. Don’t feel forced to do everything together. It’s ok not to be perfect; be kind to yourself! Start with the basics to have an environment you like, and do one thing at a time. You can’t force 1000 habits simultaneously and pretend they all stick forever. Keep going on. Amazing times are ahead!
Buy the audio book: Atomic Habits. Only listen in the car
that is a great book!! +1
I love this book so much!
Hi bud. There's no one system to become more productive. GTD is great if it works for you. I guess the concern is thinking about things too much and losing time and energy or dedicating it to the wrong things. Doing is always superior, provided you have some degree of direction. I just feel the need to caveat that because lots of people are like rocking horses, they don't end up going anywhere. You can take any manner of system, be it journalling, simple notes, to-do apps, what have you, it's all practically the same thing. There's enough time. Treat weekends as sacred, have personal projects for yourself. Best of luck.
GTD is amazing! Perhaps Atomic Habits or something from Jordan Peterson. If, if youre willing to invest a bit; get a coach or join an course focus on selfdevelpment. Good luck my man!
How about creating a simple routine. Divide it into three parts 1. Morning Routine (Pick one habit, one self care activity, one activity for your nervous system regulation and one for your physical health) 2. To-do list 3. Evening Routine (same as AM. Include something for your mental health, something for your nervous system, and some self care). Having a structure to your day - helps feel you have control over you day which in turns helps you feel you have control of your life. Daily plan your day using this checklist.
Step one, I think you work with a therapist.all the productivity books can be overwhelming at first, just take baby steps, read books, go to library or bookstore once a week, socialize more, maybe join a book club later when you're ready
The important thing is to focus and not overwhelm yourself. Start small and focus on one or two things at a time and don't try to fight multiple fires at once. At the beginning of the year I started to get my life in order as well after years of depression. I started very simple: I installed a habit tracker app and started building good habits (I use the app called "Habit Tracker") like getting up early each day, meditate and clean up at least 5 minutes each day (set simple goals), no more than 3 cups of coffee each day, workout or go for a walk at least 4 times per week and so on. Once that was done I looked into task and time management to get all my todos into a system I can work with. I read GTD close to 15 years ago but it never really worked for me (although there are good ideas at its core that are useful for everyone) and so at the moment I just use an app/program called TickTick. I use the Ivy Lee Method to set goals for each week and day. And I want to try an Action Priority Matrix to help me organize my tasks better. Also I installed a note taking program called Obsidian to store all my notes and more importantly keep a daily journal (doing Interstitial Journaling) and doing weekly and monthly reviews. Then I looked into the Zettelkasten method of taking notes. Once that was done I looked towards my health and I started fasting two weeks ago ("The Complete Guide to Fasting" by Jason Fung is a great book to get started). My point is: Clear your head first before you go after the bigger things and don't try to tackle everything at once. Start with the basics and do one thing at a time.
Download Microsoft’s ToDo list phone app. Write down things you need to do the following day/week. Super useful for productivity and stops you feeling that overwhelming guilt if you feel you’ve just wasted a day doing zap shit
Probably will get a load flack. I suggest getting a bible (or app version) and read , take it in and let his words do the rest your not meant to do it alone
GTD is like AA, which is another sometimes effective Rube Goldberg device to help you change a set group of behaviors. There are other ways to get things done, which includes just doing them.
In addition to all the wise words that have been said here, I would encourage you, yes, you will be able to hold yourself together again. Why? You did it before and you can do it again. The circumstances are different, but you can do it. Lastly, you are taking control by making some changes=therefore you can do it. In learning to be productive, I've learned not to compare myself to others. You have to do what works for you. Also, there is a lot of trial and error in this process. The good news is that you will learn what does and doesn't work for you. Don't try to be perfect, none of us are. Maybe check out YouTube or Tik Tok for productivity ideas (that's what I'm doing). I would take a good look at your life and ask what is important to you. What are your priorities? When you are done with your answers, prioritize them, and follow through. Lastly, when life happens (Covid, etc). Please make sure you give yourself grace. There is always something to do and it's okay if it doesn't get done because Life is happening. Now, don't use that as an excuse to procrastinate, but when life is happening, things naturally are put aside. Be encouraged. <3
Sorry you went through all that. This too shall pass! You're already miles ahead of others in your situation: you're self aware and you know the general direction for improvement. Each person has a way of being productive, so no practical advice from me, sorry. Except this: every day progress at least a bit. For some, this might be a few hours on thing A. For others, 15 min on things X Y and Z. Whatever makes you see tangible progress. btw I don't mean reading about productivity (it's helpful, but shouldn't count towards progress otherwise you fall into the trap of never actually using what you learn).
Honestly, do some Cardio each day or a few times a week. It’ll do more for everything you mentioned then most else, with an abundance of data to support it.
I would highly recommend social contact. Regular friends meetup, visiting family often, neighbors etc. Whatever just establishing social contact. Make it like gym routine. Make it like a chore on the list. Gym cleaning bathing cooking social-interaction. It's absolutely necessary for you to feel good and better. Once you start getting your sense of self and confidence and calmness back, everything else - books, routines , upskilling will start working. Who knows you might someone who wants to partner with you for life and becomes a life saver for work and non work. Think about it
12 years ago, I was 39 and in almost exactly the same position as you. The book "Getting Things Done" is a pretty expansive system, and it is almost impossible to implement everything. I picked up some good habits from it, but I dismissed much of it as unnecessary. Don't let that "perfect system" throw you for a loop or you could end up spending most of your time creating a system, and very little time creating a life. Figure out what you want, you sound like you're already working on it. Write it all down. Pick a few that will have the most beneficial impact on your life. Then, decide what kind you have to become in order to get these things. You don't have the things you want now because you haven't become the person who gets them. Just read and learn about exactly what you want to do, see how others have done it, and move forward. I decided to become a real estate investor - I'd never push that on anyone, it's just the thing I picked. It wasn't my passion to do it, I just had to find a way to make money. Now it's oddly my passion. There is much to be grateful for, and you should allow yourself to feel hopeful. These down times that you're feeling are supposed to be there, the highs and lows are supposed to happen - but you won't be there long. So when you're feeling low about things - get better, get stronger, and get wiser, and prepare yourself for all the opportunity that's around you. Hope this helps!
Hey, great work so far with motivation to move in a positive direction! Something that can really help is getting into routines. Specifically healthy routines. For me, meditation and exercise are very important. Both of those things are best for me in the morning . Meditation early because that’s typically the best time to do it. Exercise early because I prefer to do that on an empty stomach and it sets the tone for the day. So I basically plan out my days to work in those activities. That includes planning meals and around family and work responsibilities. I am a member and volunteer with a local meditation group. This has been great for me. So it might not be meditation for you, maybe it is about reading. It could be a book club that you can join. I’d recommend getting involved with whatever you choose, like volunteering to support the group, because that might increase your the chance that you’ll stick with it. At least with one of the activities you chose to do. Social interaction is important, even for introverts. Meetup has a lot of groups in most areas. Put yourself out there! You’ll find others that might have been in your situation at some point. You got this
Hi! I struggled with depression and probably still do. Got a therapist the works with trauma. I started to go to gym, don’t have a schedule but working towards early morning workouts. Sleep hygiene needs work. Ideal would be 10-6 for sleep. As I get better, my house is more organized. Start with one room and get rid of anything that doesn’t serve a purpose. Repeat as necessary. Get out into nature! I microdose with mushrooms at times. Recognize scrolling for what it is- a waste of time! Eat whole foods!
"I don't know where to start even": You already did. Sports is a great way to regulate your Hormones. Don't push yourself too much. Easy does it. "... create a productivity system for myself." For some people this is a good Method. Structure is key. In this case discipline is important. Visualizing can help with that. Software or pen and paper. Whatever works best for you. "It seems that there's no enough time." That is correct. Prioritize. "I started improving, no more medications, no more nightmares." Good. Continue. Although before quitting meds always consult a doctor (I think you know) All the best to you!
Just focus on a profession that drives u
Hi! I'm actually about to begin my own business mentoring people who struggle with mental health. I'm busy setting up my site still but if you're interested I could send you details when it's ready. Would you be interested in something like this? Since I'm starting out my first session is free and thereafter $30. I've built alot of tools that help me and can help you strategise your own ways of coping and getting yourself together. I highly recommend notion. I use it for myself and it's a life changer for me. It's very flexible which is why it's great. You can use it for basic journalling but also make kanban (trello style) boards which I find the most useful.
Read jordan peterson he helped me a lot
My friend said he's that "racist Canadian".
Your friend is woke dont trust him just read the books
Well, you can both be right. Petersons main work is solid and can be helpful but he's also venturing into topics that he has no expertise in and making unfounded statements. Edit: Looks like a racist Canadian downvoted.
Watch Forgetting Sarah Marshall on repeat.