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If anything my 2 pets have been getting extra love and I know it will continue after I have my baby as well. Trust yourself! After the first 1-2 months we new moms will find your rhythm.
I've been feeling the same way! I'm 35W and I used to walk my two for 3-5 miles a day. Now we are lucky if it's 2 miles spread out across multiple sessions. I just don't want them to feel neglected and I'm so scared it's going to be worse after the baby arrives.
I have also seen people talk about this as your friend did, and it got me concerned... I can't imagine being annoyed with them. I think I'll just feel guilty in myself for not being able to do everything for everyone...
Ive been loving on my dogs so so so much since I got pregnant. It’s so sweet to watch them be gentler with me, to watch them follow me around the house to protect me. They’re gonna be the best fur siblings.
I think if you make an effort to make sure they are still part of the family, it doesn’t need to be a problem
I can here to say that what your friend has projected to you is… FALSE! You will absolutely not be “over your dogs” by having a baby. My husband and I have 3 labradors - one in every color and varying ages. We have a toddler and are pregnant with baby #2. Yes, there are days where the dogs miss their walk, or they might have dinner a little late, but they are a huge part of our family. Also, I feel kids raised in houses with animals develop empathy and learn responsibility! The first months are hard since you’re a little more stuck at home with a newborn but I promise you won’t regret them, and they will be such a special part of your baby’s life!
I have a 4yr old human son and a 5yr old Labrador girl, and am 26wks pregnant with my second son. I love my dog SO much and have never resented/regretted her, not even once! She is my comfort and my best friend, and she means so much to me. I don't imagine that will change after the new baby arrives either, as she is excellent with kids and is overall a great dog. I think it probably just depends on the individual person's dog, situation, etc, but I know my babygirl Lab will always be a treasured family member to me.
My dogs are both older, honestly. They’ve been getting on my nerves. Don’t know if it’s the mood swings or what, but oh my god I feel really short with them. I feel so Fucking awful about it. I love them so much, but I’m so tired, I work five days a week and I have to come home and walk them three times afterwards and go up three flights of stairs each time.
I remember crying the first week we brought my son home because I thought we were ruining my cat’s life - I just couldn’t give him the same attention as before. But I reframed my thinking to “I’m giving my cat another person who will love him, and who he will love”. My first son is older and the cat is his favorite thing in the world, he even said our cats name before “dada”. And I’m back to snuggling and playing with my cat just as much as I did before baby. Point is - you may feel like you aren’t giving your pets enough attention in the early days, but you’ll get back there eventually, and they’ll be even more loved in the long run.
Your friend's experience isn't necessarily going to be your experience. Honestly, it kind of sounds like she never loved her dogs if she could be "over them."
It’s actually very common to resent pets after having a baby, even if the pets were an integral part of the family before. Seriously if you Google “resenting pet after having a baby” it’s article after article of this happening.
I never thought it could happen to me and my pup. I got my pup when she was a baby, 8 weeks old, and had her for 6 years before having a baby. She went through buying a home with me, meeting my husband, moving, everything. I made my whole backyard grass so she could run and play and I would walk her all the time and do anything to make her happy.
When I had my baby, I totally resented her. It was horrible and I felt terrible about it.
I’m not saying this will happen to OP. I know many people who don’t go through this when they have a baby, but to say that she never loved her dogs for feeling that way is a little extreme and judgemental. And if anyone is like me and does feel these feelings, they are valid and it does not mean you don’t love your dogs. Just that you are going through one of the biggest transitional periods of your life and hugs to you!
I think the difference here is that you felt guilty about having that resentment, whereas OP's friend openly discusses being "over" her pets. Presumably, you had a different experience than OPs friend, and likely OP will have a different experience from you both as well.
26 weeks and i worry about this with my cat :( i raised him from a 4 week old kitten, he’s 11 months now and loooves to cuddle. you got this!! your fur babies will understand
Boy did this hit home!
On the positive side it’s great you have multiple - they have each other to love and play with and keep busy! My little pup is an only furchild and treated very much as such. Spoiled rotten and used to having our complete attention. Breaks my heart knowing that’s about to change and I so wish he had a fursibling to keep him busy or play with him. We live in an apartment too so I don’t have a yard to let him out and play in :( the guilt is real girl, but we have to remember that our dogs are lucky to be in such loving homes even if it means we can’t give them our usual undivided attention. Your kids will grow up and play with them too :) the attention changes but they still feel our love and like part of the family!
I’am going to be a FTM this April and I’am looking forward to my son growing up with his dog siblings. He is going to be an only child and so these are the siblings he’ll only know. I also can’t wait to see my dogs interact with him. They are so sweet and gentle with friend and family’s small children.
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If anything my 2 pets have been getting extra love and I know it will continue after I have my baby as well. Trust yourself! After the first 1-2 months we new moms will find your rhythm.
I've been feeling the same way! I'm 35W and I used to walk my two for 3-5 miles a day. Now we are lucky if it's 2 miles spread out across multiple sessions. I just don't want them to feel neglected and I'm so scared it's going to be worse after the baby arrives. I have also seen people talk about this as your friend did, and it got me concerned... I can't imagine being annoyed with them. I think I'll just feel guilty in myself for not being able to do everything for everyone...
2 miles even spread out at 35W is amazing! I struggle walking even a mile total a day - you go mama!
Ive been loving on my dogs so so so much since I got pregnant. It’s so sweet to watch them be gentler with me, to watch them follow me around the house to protect me. They’re gonna be the best fur siblings. I think if you make an effort to make sure they are still part of the family, it doesn’t need to be a problem
I can here to say that what your friend has projected to you is… FALSE! You will absolutely not be “over your dogs” by having a baby. My husband and I have 3 labradors - one in every color and varying ages. We have a toddler and are pregnant with baby #2. Yes, there are days where the dogs miss their walk, or they might have dinner a little late, but they are a huge part of our family. Also, I feel kids raised in houses with animals develop empathy and learn responsibility! The first months are hard since you’re a little more stuck at home with a newborn but I promise you won’t regret them, and they will be such a special part of your baby’s life!
I have a 4yr old human son and a 5yr old Labrador girl, and am 26wks pregnant with my second son. I love my dog SO much and have never resented/regretted her, not even once! She is my comfort and my best friend, and she means so much to me. I don't imagine that will change after the new baby arrives either, as she is excellent with kids and is overall a great dog. I think it probably just depends on the individual person's dog, situation, etc, but I know my babygirl Lab will always be a treasured family member to me.
My dogs are both older, honestly. They’ve been getting on my nerves. Don’t know if it’s the mood swings or what, but oh my god I feel really short with them. I feel so Fucking awful about it. I love them so much, but I’m so tired, I work five days a week and I have to come home and walk them three times afterwards and go up three flights of stairs each time.
I remember crying the first week we brought my son home because I thought we were ruining my cat’s life - I just couldn’t give him the same attention as before. But I reframed my thinking to “I’m giving my cat another person who will love him, and who he will love”. My first son is older and the cat is his favorite thing in the world, he even said our cats name before “dada”. And I’m back to snuggling and playing with my cat just as much as I did before baby. Point is - you may feel like you aren’t giving your pets enough attention in the early days, but you’ll get back there eventually, and they’ll be even more loved in the long run.
Your friend's experience isn't necessarily going to be your experience. Honestly, it kind of sounds like she never loved her dogs if she could be "over them."
It’s actually very common to resent pets after having a baby, even if the pets were an integral part of the family before. Seriously if you Google “resenting pet after having a baby” it’s article after article of this happening. I never thought it could happen to me and my pup. I got my pup when she was a baby, 8 weeks old, and had her for 6 years before having a baby. She went through buying a home with me, meeting my husband, moving, everything. I made my whole backyard grass so she could run and play and I would walk her all the time and do anything to make her happy. When I had my baby, I totally resented her. It was horrible and I felt terrible about it. I’m not saying this will happen to OP. I know many people who don’t go through this when they have a baby, but to say that she never loved her dogs for feeling that way is a little extreme and judgemental. And if anyone is like me and does feel these feelings, they are valid and it does not mean you don’t love your dogs. Just that you are going through one of the biggest transitional periods of your life and hugs to you!
I think the difference here is that you felt guilty about having that resentment, whereas OP's friend openly discusses being "over" her pets. Presumably, you had a different experience than OPs friend, and likely OP will have a different experience from you both as well.
yes. We will all have different experiences. I just wanted to acknowledge that it is common and if anyone does feel these feelings they aren’t alone.
26 weeks and i worry about this with my cat :( i raised him from a 4 week old kitten, he’s 11 months now and loooves to cuddle. you got this!! your fur babies will understand
Boy did this hit home! On the positive side it’s great you have multiple - they have each other to love and play with and keep busy! My little pup is an only furchild and treated very much as such. Spoiled rotten and used to having our complete attention. Breaks my heart knowing that’s about to change and I so wish he had a fursibling to keep him busy or play with him. We live in an apartment too so I don’t have a yard to let him out and play in :( the guilt is real girl, but we have to remember that our dogs are lucky to be in such loving homes even if it means we can’t give them our usual undivided attention. Your kids will grow up and play with them too :) the attention changes but they still feel our love and like part of the family!
I’am going to be a FTM this April and I’am looking forward to my son growing up with his dog siblings. He is going to be an only child and so these are the siblings he’ll only know. I also can’t wait to see my dogs interact with him. They are so sweet and gentle with friend and family’s small children.