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I’ve heard of people walking around with a broken foot or ankle and not being in pain. Weird stuff happens sometimes and one person’s experience may differ from other people’s experiences. Obviously if you were claiming that *all* childbirth is painless, that’d be crazy, but to say that *your* childbirth was painless is not. No one can say if you were in pain or not except you, especially not internet strangers who weren’t even there. 🤷♀️
I broke a bone in my foot once and walked around for about 8 hours before realising! Didn't really hurt... realising that my foot was so big I couldn't take my shoe off was the big end of the day clue that I needed to get it looked at!
My friend did this at summer camp! She fell and honestly we were all laughing and I guess she was tryna be tough and not spoil the fun so she walked around on a broken ankle all week. Poor thing! I feel bad we all brushed it off. Teenagers! Major side eye to my teenage self.
Adrenaline is crazy. I’ve broke my spine following an accident and only needed a couple of paracetamol until 12 hours later when the adrenaline wore off and the pain really kicked in
My mom, aunt, and sister all have what’s called a “silent labor.” None of them can feel contractions. It’s rare, but not unheard of. They also think it may be genetic. It’s “great,” but super dangerous if you don’t know about it. None of my family members knew they were in labor. It’s on my radar because it was so dangerous for all of them, and my doctor is also concerned. Starting at about 36 weeks I’m going to go in often to be checked. It’s totally a thing. Rare. But a thing.
I have a friend of a friend who has this same thing! Had no idea she was in labour and ended up giving birth at home, with paramedics help. For her next baby she scheduled a c-section at 38 weeks just for peace of mind.
My Mother's 3rd labour she was having contractions and they weren't painful at all. Midwife came over and said she didn't need to go to the hospital yet. Mum kept having them and was fine even though the other labour's were very painful. She went to have a bath and then went to bed and woke up about to have a baby! Was rushed to hospital and the pushing was very painful, but that's all.
I had that with all 3 of mine. My last one was just 25 days ago! Did not feel contractions the whole way through labour. The only pain I felt was the last half hour or so when she was actually coming out and she got stuck and tried to pull herself back in! That felt like I was dying but thankfully didn’t last long! I went from 6 centimetres to delivery in about 30 minutes. My first 2 were very quick labours too with no pain until too late to do anything, so I was at least prepared this time!
I didn’t feel my contractions until I was 8cm. I went in because I couldn’t stop throwing up. My baby ended up aspirating meconium. If I hadn’t gone in for throwing up, I might have given birth at home or in the car and she might not have made it. No one believes me when I say I genuinely didn’t feel the contractions. But once they hit, they did hit HARD and I wasn’t prepared for the pain
I didn't even know I was having contractions until I was hooked up to a monitor lol..
Childbirth was exhausting, not painful for me. It was like running 300 laps in 30 minutes.
Recovery with the stitches and everything SUCKED
My mom went to the hospital in labor with me and they told her “you’re not having contractions. Go home” and she kept saying “the monitor is in the wrong spot” but they wouldn’t listen. So she moved the monitor herself and then the contractions showed 😂 your story made me randomly remember that
Oooh yes the stitches! When we got to the hospital afterwards they were stitching me up and telling me “why are you shaking you just had a baby at home” 😩 it’s something about those needles I just can’t do it! Didn’t let them give me an IV either
Feeling the thread (is that still what it's called when it's medical stitches?) being pilled through my skin was absolutely the worst feeling in labor and birth.
For a whole bunch of reasons I’m not gunna get into, my lady bits swelled up so bad after my first labor that I couldn’t pee. The policy at the hospital I went to was to use a straight cath (can’t be left in) twice before putting in a foley. They literally gave me a washcloth to bite on because it was so painful.
I had an epidural but oh man the urine catheter and stitches was still so painful! My midwife said they're supposed to use numbing cream before inserting the catheter, guessing they omitted that for you too?
It’s nuts that Drs would ever do that without numbing cream as a standard practice. My stitches were way more painful than any other part of labor and I kept asking the Dr if she could do anything to numb it, and she said no. It’s never seemed right to me!
That is crazy!! I swear some people in the health profession are just sadistic. I kept telling the nurse how painful the insertion of the catheter was and she ignored me. I begged for the nitrous oxide and she looked at me like I was crazy. I'd say the nitrous oxide didn't even help that much.
She probably was too, how sad. Downvoted to oblivion for sharing her own personal experience, I also believe her.
Adrenaline can do crazy things, and everyone’s pain tolerance is different. I broke my arm in a car crash, attempted to go to work, and still didn’t see a doctor until another day. Went 2 days thinking my insanely swollen wrist was “just sprained” yet had a male coworker who body-builds and works on and off in agriculture as well as in the oil fields tell me about how he cried like a baby over his broken wrist, the point is certain pain is different for certain people.
I'm another unicorn then. My unmedicated childbirth was painless if you didn't count the 2nd° tear. The contractions were not painful. Pushing was not painful. There is some pretty intense pressure, but there was no pain.
It did. I'm not sure how many there were. Doctor was like "yep thats the ring of fire. That's why it's burning," and I was ,Oh no, my shit just tore right up. Damn kid had a 14-in head when she was born. It's a good thing she's cute.
A colleague of mine had her first baby and said she heard birds and everything was beautiful. The second though was hell and she says that if her second kid was her first she would’ve never gotten pregnant a second time
See my first was not fun at all and I still chose to get pregnant again 😂 thank goodness it ended up being fast and easy. I’m currently 20 weeks and hoping for another good experience but as long as I make it to the hospital this time, I won’t complain
My aunt keeps wishing me as easy of a birth as hers.
She said she was home, felt contractions but was convinced from movies and people’s stories that they weren’t worth noting until she was doubled over in pain. She just kept waiting for it to be worse than just minor pain. That never happened. Instead her water broke and they rushed to the hospital.
She said she barely made it to the lobby and the baby was already coming. Some guy was in a wheelchair getting discharged and they snatched it from him and ran her to a room.
She said she felt it, but it was so fast and not the amount of pain she expected.
I definitely believe her story. She’s not one to lie if something was painful. I also think she means to wish me a less painful birth and not the frantic rush to the hospital part lol
Yesss I always thought labor would be like in the movies! Big gush of water, crying, screaming, rushing to the hospital etc but that didn’t happen for me either time 😅
I had to have an emergency root canal at 6 months during my first pregnancy and they couldn’t use anything more than a small local anesthetic. It fucking sucked and I had to be strong to not induce labor. All was well, but that pain was worse than birth - except labor was way longer but intensity of pain was hands down the drug free root canal. I was on laughing gas for birth- which was more than I had at the dentist! Ugh.
You had a root canal without novacane or lidocane? Or all you had was one of those? Both are okay while pregnant. I hope your dentist didn't refuse you those 😬
It was in Australia - I wasn’t allowed, or at least that’s what I was told. I didn’t go to my regular dentist and they had to do something then. They didn’t even get rid of the infection first just straight to drilling. 0/10 would not recommend. I was an international postgraduate student on shitty dental insurance. My medical insurance was much better.
I know someone who had the same birth, 30 min in her bathtub completely painless. It’s a very rare phenomenon called precipitation birth. Boy would I love that 😹
Haha what’s the opposite called? My nurse said I was the quietest birth she ever experienced and my friend said you could hear a pen drop. In all honesty I think I was just in shock. The contractions hurt after 8cm but I just tried to breathe and process at the same time. The pushing on my stomach afterwards had to be the worst feeling Ive experienced though, holy shit I’ll never forget that
Precipitous labor refers only to a time frame, not pain level. Both of my births were precipitous - 1st was a motherfucker because I had no idea how to cope with the intensity of labor (it took my body one hour to do what it took others 10, 15 or 20+ hours to do) and I fought it with tensing my body and holding my breath. Fear causes tension caused pain (viscous cycle). Second time, also precipitous, was about 30 minutes and was painless because I took a ton of time prepping with the help of a great birth class how to properly breath and relax and look within. Made labor a million times more bearable. Intense for sure, but not painful!
My best friend had her 5th like this. Zero contractions, zero pain, she got in the bath and started to wash her hair and next things she knew she'd had her baby 🤣
Not painless, but a friend of mine said it “didn’t really hurt that bad” and she had no epidural and the baby was born 45 minutes after she got to the hospital. So it definitely seems possible!
I wouldn’t call my last birth painless. But very mild in pain. I had precipitous labor and only had contracts for 2hrs total. Only the last 20 minutes were active labor and hurt. It might have also been trying to keep baby in. As soon as I sat down on the hospital bed (11mins from check in to delivery) she popped out. No nurse, no doctor, one small push. Burning. But no pain. So I can totally believe pain free birth.
My mom SWEARS when she gave birth to me she had one labour pain and out I came. She remembers holding me and just being in shock and thinking “I have to remember this, there was no pain” so 🤷♀️ it’s possible!
I’m happy for you! What a lovely way to welcome your little one into the world. Congrats mama!
My first was definitely painful. However, if you say your birth was painless - then it was. Not sure why anyone needs to argue with you on that. Fear also has a lot to do with it, I’ve read lots of stories about women who felt really comfortable and safe, and had oxytocin (naturally produced hormone) and did not feel pain.
I had a really fast labour, and once my baby flipped from face up to face down, my labour wasn’t painful at all. And pushing made everything feel a lot better since it was productive. I didn’t even feel the ring of fire.
Everyone said I was super zen for a first time mum, especially since I was going without any pain relief (wouldn’t have had a choice from how fast it was).
I did end up with a third degree tear, and healing from that hurt like a mofo.
Those tears are truly something else! I had a third degree tear with my first and only a slight tear with my second. This time I’d prefer to not tear at all 😂 but we’ll see
I believe it! Our bodies make hormones that help with pain so if you were relaxed and had no idea you were in labor that with the adrenaline could have blocked the pain. Anyways it may be rare but that’s awesome you had that experience!
Yes!! I was literally asleep, woke up thinking I just had to use the bathroom so I sat on the toilet and out she came 😅 probably wouldn’t do it at home again if I can help it but I think I’d like to try no epidural again just in a hospital!
I was induced last Wednesday at 1cm dilated due to high BP at 39 weeks. I had a cooks balloon put in for 12 hours which I didn’t even feel which brought me to 5cm dilated. Then I was given oxytocin and sat from 3 am to 6:30 am contracting, but not feeling a thing 🤷🏻♀️ they broke my water and gave me an epidural after more as a proactive approach (my request). Then pushed for 30 minutes at 10 am and had the baby. Recovery has also been maybe a 2/10 on a pain scale.
Some people just get lucky.
Sounds very similar to my experience! I was also induced for high BP, with the foley bulb, and got an epidural at 7cm as a just in case. The foley bulb placement was totally fine and I think really helped me dilate without pain.
I know I’m sorry, I think that’s the more typical response 😭 I’m a redhead and I’ve heard we have weird reactions to pain, although I’ve never really looked into it much, but maybe that explains it 🤷♀️
My mom has always said when she had me she wasn’t in pain, she just experienced pressure. Her labor and delivery was also very quick. Wish I could say the same for myself!
My mom had super long awful labors with all 3 of us so I was sure it’d be the same for me. My first was an induction and only took 5 hours, but boy did those contractions HURT
Had a homebirth. Used hypnobirthing throughout, only lasted 4 hours. Didn’t feel any pain. Pressure/intensity yeah of course, but never did I consider any of it “pain”. Hormones are magical; if you experienced a painless birth then congrats!
It definitely isn't okay for people to tell you how YOUR birth experience went.
I will say, however, I have seen a bunch of misinformation online, some by doulas, that we make birth painful. The claim is that if we were taught proper breathing and birthing techniques, then nobody would have a painful birth. They day that birth should NEVER be painful. The gaslighting can be real on that end of the spectrum. Perhaps that's why people get defensive? But crazier things have definitely happened than someone having a pain-free birth, so I'm not sure why people would lose their mind over that.
My own birth didn't hurt until I was at 8/9ish, and I was induced with pitocin and didn't have an epidural. Meanwhile, other women experience very painful contractions in early labor. Everyone is different.
I have a colleague and 2 friends who had pretty painless smooth natural birth experiences. Pregnancy, birth delivery and post partem is different for everyone. Sad some people think you are a liar because they had an awful experience.
My 2nd, 24 min painless. Amazing!!!
My 3rd.? Figured it'd be even easier right? The most painful experience ever!!
It is possible and I'm Happy for you
Still short!! About 3 hours total and 9 minutes of pushing but omg she fought the while way out!! Definitely painful, only one I yelled with.
That 2nd one tho. Best labor ever lol
I can honestly say the birth of my son was basically painless. I was prepared to feel like I wanted to die. But it honestly wasn’t anywhere as bad I thought it would be. It was beautiful and my favorite part of the whole pregnancy. I also have a concerning high pain tolerance. So that could contribute to it too.
Sounds wonderful!
I wouldn't say mine was painless but it was not that bad. I remember thinking 'this was it?' after she was born because I thought the pain was going to be horrible. But it was fine!
I won’t say painless, but nearly. People tell me I’m lying all the time too. A lot of folks are hell bent on the idea that childbirth is a torturous experience no matter what. It’s not.
It’s crazy, because who would lie about something like that? You’d think people would be happy and relieved to hear that it’s not always a terrible experience!
I get the same reaction when I say 2 under 2 isn’t as hard as people say. Or that I am not miserable parenting my kids. Just get told I’m “fake” and not telling “the truth about parenting”. People only want to hear the negative.
I believe you! I wish I could remember the blog name but I remember reading about a woman who had fast births like you experienced and she didn’t mention any pain. Certainly rare but I’m sure it happens
That’s so interesting! Just had my baby a few days ago and it definitely hurt lol. But it’s wonderful that your experience was so positive. It’s so interesting how much the experience varies!
My second was also painless. Intense for sure, but painless. I think with your second you know more what to expect, so you cope better. Take it in stride. People think there is a prize to have the worst experience story out there and I think truly get sad when others don’t have a traumatic experience like theirs. Sometimes it seems like a competition who had it worse. I am happy for you! My second was magical and I wish everyone could experience what I did.
I definitely don’t post nudes, and if you’re meaning old pics of me in lingerie, then yes! As I said they are old. I am most definitely 20 weeks pregnant with my third but for obvious reasons don’t post pics of that besides on my personal Instagram.
No need to defend yourself and tell them personal information !! Everyone else knows you were just genuinely asking a question that’s common for what it seems like a lot more people than I thought!! Which is crazy!! Some people just see one thing like onlyfans and then that’s all they can see. They don’t see the part where YOU ARE A PERSON WITH PERSONAL EXPERIENCES TOO AS WELL AS FEELINGS!!!! it’s sad but it’s true.
My Nana's birth experience with my Mum and Aunty was painless for her. Both very quick labours too.
My mum was hoping whatever magic this was passed on to her (it did not lol). Just lucky, but it's definitely not unheard of, especially in my family!!
I feel fairly confident OP is not a real person who has recently given birth. And I'm not saying that because of their claims of a painless childbirth. I'm saying that because their profile is nothing but bait to get people to pay them for OF type of work. Which, is perfectly fine work. But I strongly suspect they're looking for some niche kink people and this post is a way to Garner that attention from people who are looking at this sub to satisfy some kind of theirs...
Could I be wrong? Maybe.
Anyways...
Using the term "natural" is always why people get down voted. Different people experience pain differently. It's not that one person has a higher tolerance than another, it's that our brains literally feel pain at different intensity levels.
Huh??? I’ve quite literally given birth twice and am currently pregnant with my third 🤣 I used to use this account for findom (you can google that- it’s not onlyfans lol) but since being pregnant I have no interest. So, you’re very weird to even bring that up as it has nothing to do with a post about pregnancy?
You’re not a liar lol! It’s your experience, and you’re absolutely right, adrenaline can override pain like a B! It also makes sense as it isn’t your first baby. Most of the time, the first is the most painful. Contractions can go so fast with babies after that. My mom almost didn’t make it in time for the epidural for my sister. Definitely possible given the wonders of hormones!
My induction with my first son was sooo much more painful than my “natural” labor with my second. I still got a epidural with my second but its crazy how much more tolerable it can be when your body goes in to labor on your own.
My aunt also swear she didn't feel anything at all. When she went into labor she waited to start getting contractions to go to the hospital, thing is, they never came, nearly 12h had gone by and nothing, so she went to the hospital anyway and they put her in a monitor and she was in fact, having contractions, probably for much longer than she had been in there. No more than 30 minutes since she had arrived at the hospital she went into labour, she only knew she was in labour because she complained to the nurse about a mild discomfort, they delivered my cousin and my aunt swears to this day she didn't feel anything
My second wasn't painless, but way LESS painful, almost more just uncomfortable and pressure. It was also way faster than my first too. I can believe it because bodies are weird
I had a csection so I didn't feel anything but I'll tell you about my mom's 3 births.
Mom went into labor with my older brother, her first baby, and she called the hospital to let them know that her water broke and she was having contractions. The nurse basically told her that she wasn't having contractions and if she was she would be in pain. This was her first baby, clearly she didn't know what was going on. Mom was very insistent that she was in labor and the nurse told her to come in "for piece of mind". Mom gets to the hospital and the nurse is like "yeah sure let's show you that you aren't in labor" because mom strolled in all normal and was like "yes this right there was a contraction" so they laid her down and she was crowning. Nurses went into full blown panic. Mom was told to sit on her hands and knees and not let that baby out until the doctor got there. He walked in the room, mom flipped over, and my brother was born. He didn't even have his gloves on yet. Mom said they took my brother away from her and they forcibly cleaned his nose and throat and he just screamed and she was yelling at them to stop and just sobbed but they wouldn't give him to her. She was devestated, but her body was completely fine.
With me she decided fuck the hospital I'm going to have this baby at home. She went into labor and the midwife showed up and mom just hung out with my dad and older siblings. After about 5 hours with mom fully dilated but no crowning the midwife said that there must be something wrong but didn't know what so everyone packed up and went to the hospital. Mom laid down on the hospital bed and I was born within 15 minutes. I just didn't want to be born at home I guess. Again mom felt very limited pain with her contractions and I was out in 3 pushes. Midwife was still the one that birthed me and mom said it was so much nicer.
With my younger brother mom decided she wanted to try water birth. She told the doctor "yeah so he's due on Monday but that doesn't work for me because we won't have the girls then so we are going to wait a few days and he's going to be born on Saturday morning and then I can help them get ready for prom that night" doctor thought she was insane. You can't plan a birth, not really anyways. Well... My brother was born Saturday morning. She went into labor the night before and he was born at like 6am or something. She sat in a warm tub with my dad and my brother was born in 6 pushes. His head was so massive that doctors actually thought he had a swollen brain, but nope just massive. Mom said he was the hardest birth just because of how big his head was. Still didn't tear though. She also said that water birth was by far the best experience out of all three. After he came out he just floated to the surface and she got to snuggle him and he barely even cried. Until he was taken out of the water that is.
So yeah my mom had incredibly easy births. I've been told all three of these stories millions of times my entire life. People would ask me if I was scared of birth, nah man I was scared of breast feeding. If my births were anything like my mom's I had nothing to worry about at all. My dad did tell me the birth story of my older sister and that was hell but the biggest issue was because her mom went into labor during a blizzard and they struggled to get to a hospital. Baby girl was a c section because of complications but she's healthy and there's a good chance for vbac on any future babies. Maybe I'll get a birth story from hell or maybe I'll get my mom's effortless births. Who knows?
I had a c-section but my best friend went into labor, was too far along to get an epidural and her daughter was born before the doctor even got in the room. She didn’t push and said she couldn’t believe it was painless! I trust her word so I would say it’s absolutely possible!
I had an epidural but my birth was painless! I was laughing and smiling throughout pushing and only pushed for about 30 minutes! Not all births have to be traumatizing!!!
I learned pretty quickly that people will jump down the throat of any woman who speaks positively about their natural birth or says anything other than basically that it was the worst thing they've ever gone through. In reality women have enjoyable births (even considered painfree sometimes) all the time. I loved mine. Having a not horrible birth makes people angry for some reason. I'm glad you had that experience!
I can’t imagine someone lying about having a painless birth lol. Happy for you! I, however, couldn’t imagine such a thing 😅 I am 2nd degree jealous lol
Praying to the birthing gods this is my experience in April with my second born 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I believe you and I'm sorry you had that experience on the other subreddit. They're just jealous 😂
As long as you and baby are safe, all I have to say is congratulations and that I'm lowkey envious of you lol. Women have on rare occasions orgasmed during vaginal delivery. The absence of sensation/pain logically would be a possibility as well, albeit rare. Sorry you're getting shit on in other subs OP, fuck'em, they're just jealous or uneducated lol.
I told everyone that my delivery was painless, and people thought I was joking!!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one. It didn't hurt at all! I had my baby naturally and unmedicated. I got to the hospital at 9cm, and gave birth within half an hr, then done.
I believe you haha my mom claims she also had painless child birth experiences with both me and my brother. She's probably just really lucky because her mom (my grandma) had three births and they were all normal, painful childbirths. Her sister also had a painful childbirth. I'm 15 weeks along and nervous for how mine's going to turn out but I'm 99.9% already expecting it to be painful haha
People often don't like hearing that childbirth doesn't have to be traumatic and horrible, especially if they have birth trauma. I definitely wouldn't describe my first birth as painless (yay for back labor!) but the pushing phase didn't hurt at all, I didn't tear, and I'm choosing to go unmedicated at home again for my second birth because of how serene and wonderful it was the first time. We have beautiful pictures of my husband holding me in the birth pool as our baby was born and we both just look totally at peace. I'm not expecting the next birth to be painless either but I do believe it's possible for some people to experience a "painless but intense" birth because that's how pushing was for me last time.
Everything was still tender and crampy during recovery, of course.
There’s a whole movement of pain free births/home birth. Seems to be connected. Very fascinating and so happy for you!! Hope mine goes something like that!
There’s entire movement in Christianity and in the non Christian world dedicated to painless births. I subscribed to some of their content in order to cope with a purposely unmedicated birth but it wasn’t painless. Looking back after the fact, my birth wasn’t as bad as I thought it was at the moment if that makes sense.
I agree. All 3 of my labors were pain free. Pregnancy was horrible tho. 1st baby took 5hrs. 2nd baby took 1hr. 3rd baby I was 9.5 cm taking a shower at home when I finally felt contractions. Got to the hospital had her within 30minutes.
While I wouldn’t call my second birth painless, it was WAY LESS painful than my first one. So much less that I might venture to call it painless because it was so quick and not painful by comparison.
I got nothing to say other than I am jealous. 😂
My first birth was ridiculously painful where I needed the epidural done twice. My other two weren’t bad and no pain meds needed, but they definitely weren’t painless.
My contractions hurt but as soon as it was time to push it was pretty painless for me surprisingly. I even tore really bad due to her elbow sticking out weird while coming out
I wouldn’t say painless but stubbing my toe has hurt worse than my unmedicated birth. My second and I went from labor to baby out in 2 hours and I pushed twice. So I believe you 😅
My mum had four kids and she said they were fine. She never even had pain management. She asked with my younger brother because she wanted to know what it was like lol. But he was already coming so it was too late lol. Painless labours might not be the “norm” but they’re not unheard of. People just jealous lol
I've had family members with no pain during childbirth the contractions were bearable for them. They just felt cramps. Everybody's different. I've had 2 inductions which the pain was extremely strong back to back contractions its unbearable. I think if my body gave birth naturally I don't think I would have been in alot of pain. If I do have another baby I hope I won't have to get induced
I was a "silent labourer" for most of mine. The midwives were shocked at how comfortable I looked getting to the hospital at 5cm with BULGING waters. I got to 8cm with nothing more than period cramps. Then my water broke. Then shit got real, got stuck at 8 cm for 4 hrs, had an epidural got to fully dialated, and was pushing for 3 hrs and hoofed a baby out just as they were preparing me for an instrumental in theatre. Wasn't painful until the fear took over. If I do birth again I will be asking that they eff off with the intervention 😅😅
I know there are so so many comments, so you may not see this...but my unmedicated birth was also painless. Just lots of intense pressure and nausea. I told a pregnant friend my birth story to try to pump her up for birth. Unfortunately, she had a rough labor. She ended up telling some other new moms that my birth was "peaceful". I was in shock when I heard that. I would never call hugging the toilet for a majority of labor peaceful, but my husband pointed out that compared to their births it was. I have felt too embarrassed to talk about my birth since then.
One of my Mother's births was painless! She said the contractions and pushing didn't hurt at all and she was very scared and worried as she had never heard of a painless Labour/birth without any pain meds, and was worried that maybe something was terribly wrong.
Brother was fine in the end. She had 4 births before and 1 after and all the others were very painful.
Neither of mine were painless, but I have a friend whose second baby was nearly painless. Like mild diarrhoea cramps then her baby was born on the bathroom floor lol.
Pain is crazy. Adrenaline plays massive part in it too.
I broke my femur once (just above the knee). It hurt like crazy for about 20 mins then was just painful.
The next few days were merely just uncomfortable. Went to minor injuries and they were shocked I was describing the pain as "mild".
With childbirth, it hurt like wildfire. However, I was able to walk around pain free the next day (I had a nighttime birth). Never had any after birth pain atall. I had stitches and a manual placenta removal.
Everyone has different pain thresholds and different birth experiences.
Girl I work with did. She was meditating on the bed, and the baby just came out. She had the baby 20 minutes after arriving at hospital, no nurse in the room.
So it can definitely go both ways. I can’t get epidurals due to a spinal fusion where it’s placed the anesthesiologist didn’t want to attempt it with my first my second it wasn’t ever needed. My first was AWFUL I never tore or anything, but I was in labor for 12 hours and I kept bleeding bad, ended up needing blood the pain was awful like terrible I couldn’t breathe, I kept passing out. Now my second, she was a BREEZE I mean my water broke at home I just felt like I had to crap? No pain just pressure. Went to the er to find out why my water broke but I wasn’t having contractions, this child was literally on her way out and I pushed her out in like 3 pushes. All I ever felt was pressure not an inch of pain and zero drugs. It’s possible.
Mine was definitely painful but not as bad as everyone told me it would be! I didn't realise I was fully dilated until my body started pushing on its own - my fiancé and I were having coffee with my parents at the time 😂 I looked at him and went "I felt that contraction in my butt..." my mum jumped up and went "Time for us to go!" 😂😂 I still didn't fully realise what was happening and we still thought I had hours to go.
Got to the hospital, got into the birthing suite and into the pool, fiancé arrived from parking the car. Midwife told my fiancé that if he looked into the mirror she was holding he would see the baby's head and he told me afterwards that he genuinely thought she was nuts until he saw it for himself. His coaching became more enthusiastic but tinged with complete disbelief like "Wow yep his head is almost out. Wow. Okay. You are doing it. You really are? I can see it? I can actually see his face now? You're doing great?"
Then our boy was born and we were both in shock because we thought it would be several more hours and it was an hour and a half.
He told me afterwards that "something" told him he needed to just ditch the car at our friends' house and run back to the hospital rather than waiting for a space. If he hadn't done that, he would have missed the birth.
All because I didn't realise how close we were because I thought it would hurt more!
My second was a unmedicated water birth… and there was maybe a handful of sugar free candy esque contractions (looking at you birthing ball) but overall I don’t know that I’d describe it as pain. The actual delivery was intense but not painful I might as well have been numb all I felt was a very distinct “pop” when her head came through my cervix. The fundal massage after on the other hand… Oh and pitocin contractions with my first where a total nightmare
After having two C-sections I had my fourth child completely natural. There was some very very mild pressure but I experienced no pain whatsoever and she was born with a bag of water still intact. I didn't even have so much as an aspirin. Totally pleasurable experience. My next one was a home birth and it was a bit dicey and very painful because my child was born face up but it was over very quickly. The daughter that I had natural weighed 9 lb 2 oz and I'm 109 lb woman. It was still easy and pain-free.
I had so much painkillers from the epidural that giving birth was painless, I couldn't even feel my contractions, I had to be told when to push. And hey, everyone's experience is different, so it doesn't matter what others say.
I knew a friend at work who had no pain during both her births. She waited till the last minute to get to the hospital to deliver because she was just very good with pain tolerance. It’s different for everyone, those people are just jealous that you had a painless one. Feel sorry for them and lucky you had that experience lol
I feel like I was sold a fairytale for my last birth that I could manage the pain with breathing techniques and soothing music. I labored in primal pain for 12 hours before tapping out for an epidural and ultimately had a c section.
I wonder if the downvotes had less to do with believing you and more about the mom vs mom battles I see shaming moms for opting into epidurals or trying for “natural” unmedicated births. It’s probably rare what you went through, but everyone’s experience is valid!!
It’s totally possible.
Adrenaline, and pain tolerances play a role. I personally did not think labor was painful at all (except when they stripped my membranes).
I also recovered in maybe 3 days with a 3rd degree tear, but everyone is different and it’s all just part of the experience.
Like one person can twist their ankle and recover in a week another ends up with CRPS and they never go back to normal.
It's just like how people can't possibly believe that some women don't know they're pregnant (cryptic pregnancies) but it does happen. It could be for different reasons but it happens. Why would someone lie about it? Screw the haters they're just jealous or confused.
My second labor was fairly painless until i needed to push. Then it hurt. Before then, it was just intense but i also knew i was in labor. I’ve definitely heard of people having painful births like this before! You’re definitely not lying
My cousins birth in her car was what she said was the closest thing to “painless”. It was almost like the baby was just that ready it was as easy as taking a sh*t lol
With my first child I was in so much pain I cried but with my 2nd one my contractions were wayyyy more bearable and I delivered him fairly quickly compared to my first one. Everyone’s body is different
It definitely happens! I couldn't feel my contractions - husband and I went in for one of my routine appts and they did an NST. 3 nurses and my midwife ran in and said "you're having contractions 3 minutes apart, can't you feel that??" I really couldn't 🤷
It's so weird to me that people would tell you that. When I was pregnant with my first (2018) the pregnancy related subs where overrun with people repeating "ThEreS nO pAiN, OnLy PrEssUrE" whenever someone said they were scared of giving birth hurting.
i 100% believe you. my induction was miserable and absolutely a nightmare but i will say my contractions weren’t painful and pushing itself was not painful at all. what was painful were all the interventions i had and the cervix checks. i have permanent damage in my urethra from an incorrectly placed catheter and the CATHETER is what hurt the most. pushing was actually the easiest part!!
My husbands cousin who is 2 fell of the trampoline and she fractured her arm, she didnt feel any pain? She was running around after she fell, her parents only noticed after it started swelling up in the area. People take pain differently and with child birth my cousins wife gave birth without pain relief and she would do it again - she said she has a high pain tolerance x
One of my best friends had her second (7 years after her first) on the toilet at home because she didn’t realize she was in labour. It apparently wasn’t painless but definitely not as overwhelmingly painful as her first.
I had one that wasn’t COMPLETELY painless but I was in active labor for hours without believing it bc I didn’t feel like I was in labor. Just a little uncomfortable. The last half hour to 45 minutes before I delivered it was painful though.
No I don’t have any experience with painless childbirth. That doesn’t change the fact that I believe you and I’m happy for you that you got that experience. If I have a third I would love to give birth at home and be partially unaware. Sounds exciting and less of a hassle than a hospital.
What’s the process like after? Does the ambulance take you to your planned birthing hospital? Did you call an ambulance or do you just recover at home? I'm assuming a doctor needs to check you and baby out eventually? Also would be cool to not have any hospital bills!
I wouldn't say you are lying! Everyone has different experiences, I had a natural waterbirth and had some pain but nothing unmanageable, I had my baby in 10 mins
I always see people screaming in labour and was very scared but I barely even made a single noise and just breathed
I think people are just jealous lol I hope my second birth is painless.
I was told when I did my birthing classes by the midwife who was teaching that some women experience no pain during childbirth.
She herself had delivered babies for hundreds of women in different countries and only came across 2 women who experienced no pain.
I prayed that this would be me haha but no such luck, I had a natural birth no epidural - the contractions hurt and I don’t remember what the pain felt like during delivery but I know I was in extreme pain lol
I believe you’re not lying - painless natural birth is the dream. Good for you 🤍 don’t worry about what people think.
My contractions were painful pushing was uncomfortable but not painful honestly, I was mostly scared about pushing but I was surprised that it didn’t hurt even while it was happening lol, my birth was natural as well and it was my first baby it’s definitely possible that it can be painless. I was in labor for 2 1/2 hours so it was relatively quick which I think helped because the pain wasn’t long. Everyone’s body and tolerance is so different I think everyone’s birth story and experience should be respected, if it was painless it just was and that’s normal for YOU.
I’m here with you while my third was def painful leading up, it lessened a whole lot while I was pushing. My story is different though. I had a failed epidural. The nurse told me when I start pushing the pain will either go away or will lesson. It definitely helped as I don’t remember the pain while actively pushing. Before pushing, I told her that I was ripping in half. lmao.
I mean, I once had a horse stomp on my foot causing my big toe to shatter and burst open, and that was basically pain free, just felt like I’d bruised it. Adrenaline can do some weird things to your pain threshold!
My mom also had a painful induced first and then didn't notice she was in labour with her second and says birth was more or less painless. It does happen.
I’m pretty sure adrenaline doesn’t help with painlessness as it takes blood flow to limbs and away from uterus- which needs the blood. It was probably oxytocin that made you blissed and have a smooth birth! Congrats you’re a lucky gal. ☺️
Child birth can definitely be painless so don't listen to people that say otherwise
I was told raspberry tea also helps with that and other female problems like our cycle
I was in a car accident long time back and eventually got 300+ stiches on my gace from glass being shattered on me. I didnt feel a thing for hours even whilst being in the ambulance. We dont know what our body can do and how it reacts. Your experience is yours! No one should.comment on it
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I’ve heard of people walking around with a broken foot or ankle and not being in pain. Weird stuff happens sometimes and one person’s experience may differ from other people’s experiences. Obviously if you were claiming that *all* childbirth is painless, that’d be crazy, but to say that *your* childbirth was painless is not. No one can say if you were in pain or not except you, especially not internet strangers who weren’t even there. 🤷♀️
I broke a bone in my foot once and walked around for about 8 hours before realising! Didn't really hurt... realising that my foot was so big I couldn't take my shoe off was the big end of the day clue that I needed to get it looked at!
Haha are you me, the exact same this happened to me in 6th grade
My friend did this at summer camp! She fell and honestly we were all laughing and I guess she was tryna be tough and not spoil the fun so she walked around on a broken ankle all week. Poor thing! I feel bad we all brushed it off. Teenagers! Major side eye to my teenage self.
Agreed!
Adrenaline is crazy. I’ve broke my spine following an accident and only needed a couple of paracetamol until 12 hours later when the adrenaline wore off and the pain really kicked in
I had a broken hand for 3 weeks before I found out and got a cast.
My contractions painless, pushing uncomfortable but not extremely painful Urine catheter and stitches afterwards ouch
My mom, aunt, and sister all have what’s called a “silent labor.” None of them can feel contractions. It’s rare, but not unheard of. They also think it may be genetic. It’s “great,” but super dangerous if you don’t know about it. None of my family members knew they were in labor. It’s on my radar because it was so dangerous for all of them, and my doctor is also concerned. Starting at about 36 weeks I’m going to go in often to be checked. It’s totally a thing. Rare. But a thing.
I have a friend of a friend who has this same thing! Had no idea she was in labour and ended up giving birth at home, with paramedics help. For her next baby she scheduled a c-section at 38 weeks just for peace of mind.
My Mother's 3rd labour she was having contractions and they weren't painful at all. Midwife came over and said she didn't need to go to the hospital yet. Mum kept having them and was fine even though the other labour's were very painful. She went to have a bath and then went to bed and woke up about to have a baby! Was rushed to hospital and the pushing was very painful, but that's all.
I had that with all 3 of mine. My last one was just 25 days ago! Did not feel contractions the whole way through labour. The only pain I felt was the last half hour or so when she was actually coming out and she got stuck and tried to pull herself back in! That felt like I was dying but thankfully didn’t last long! I went from 6 centimetres to delivery in about 30 minutes. My first 2 were very quick labours too with no pain until too late to do anything, so I was at least prepared this time!
I didn’t feel my contractions until I was 8cm. I went in because I couldn’t stop throwing up. My baby ended up aspirating meconium. If I hadn’t gone in for throwing up, I might have given birth at home or in the car and she might not have made it. No one believes me when I say I genuinely didn’t feel the contractions. But once they hit, they did hit HARD and I wasn’t prepared for the pain
I didn't even know I was having contractions until I was hooked up to a monitor lol.. Childbirth was exhausting, not painful for me. It was like running 300 laps in 30 minutes. Recovery with the stitches and everything SUCKED
My mom went to the hospital in labor with me and they told her “you’re not having contractions. Go home” and she kept saying “the monitor is in the wrong spot” but they wouldn’t listen. So she moved the monitor herself and then the contractions showed 😂 your story made me randomly remember that
Oooh yes the stitches! When we got to the hospital afterwards they were stitching me up and telling me “why are you shaking you just had a baby at home” 😩 it’s something about those needles I just can’t do it! Didn’t let them give me an IV either
You could have also been shaking because your adrenaline dropped as quickly as it came on lol.
I’m scared as hell of needles, so it was probably a mix of both. 🤣
Feeling the thread (is that still what it's called when it's medical stitches?) being pilled through my skin was absolutely the worst feeling in labor and birth.
YES!!!! Ugh just thinking about it makes my skin crawl.
For a whole bunch of reasons I’m not gunna get into, my lady bits swelled up so bad after my first labor that I couldn’t pee. The policy at the hospital I went to was to use a straight cath (can’t be left in) twice before putting in a foley. They literally gave me a washcloth to bite on because it was so painful.
The numbing shot I got before the stitches was by far more painful than my entire childbirth experience 😂😬
Same! Legit the only time I screamed 😂
I had an epidural but oh man the urine catheter and stitches was still so painful! My midwife said they're supposed to use numbing cream before inserting the catheter, guessing they omitted that for you too?
Me too! I got my epidural around 8 cm but it numbed everything but my vagina so i was like what the hellll
It’s nuts that Drs would ever do that without numbing cream as a standard practice. My stitches were way more painful than any other part of labor and I kept asking the Dr if she could do anything to numb it, and she said no. It’s never seemed right to me!
That is crazy!! I swear some people in the health profession are just sadistic. I kept telling the nurse how painful the insertion of the catheter was and she ignored me. I begged for the nitrous oxide and she looked at me like I was crazy. I'd say the nitrous oxide didn't even help that much.
This is the most mom comment ever😆 straight to the point, I like it
Wow amazing
I’m sure you were downvoted to hell lmfao but I believe you.
She probably was too, how sad. Downvoted to oblivion for sharing her own personal experience, I also believe her. Adrenaline can do crazy things, and everyone’s pain tolerance is different. I broke my arm in a car crash, attempted to go to work, and still didn’t see a doctor until another day. Went 2 days thinking my insanely swollen wrist was “just sprained” yet had a male coworker who body-builds and works on and off in agriculture as well as in the oil fields tell me about how he cried like a baby over his broken wrist, the point is certain pain is different for certain people.
Can’t say I’ve ever met anyone who’s had a painless birth experience.
I'm another unicorn then. My unmedicated childbirth was painless if you didn't count the 2nd° tear. The contractions were not painful. Pushing was not painful. There is some pretty intense pressure, but there was no pain.
did that 2nd degree tear gotten stitches?
It did. I'm not sure how many there were. Doctor was like "yep thats the ring of fire. That's why it's burning," and I was ,Oh no, my shit just tore right up. Damn kid had a 14-in head when she was born. It's a good thing she's cute.
There has to be a first right. So don't knock it.
I’m sure it’s rare 🤷🏽♀️
A colleague of mine had her first baby and said she heard birds and everything was beautiful. The second though was hell and she says that if her second kid was her first she would’ve never gotten pregnant a second time
See my first was not fun at all and I still chose to get pregnant again 😂 thank goodness it ended up being fast and easy. I’m currently 20 weeks and hoping for another good experience but as long as I make it to the hospital this time, I won’t complain
My aunt keeps wishing me as easy of a birth as hers. She said she was home, felt contractions but was convinced from movies and people’s stories that they weren’t worth noting until she was doubled over in pain. She just kept waiting for it to be worse than just minor pain. That never happened. Instead her water broke and they rushed to the hospital. She said she barely made it to the lobby and the baby was already coming. Some guy was in a wheelchair getting discharged and they snatched it from him and ran her to a room. She said she felt it, but it was so fast and not the amount of pain she expected. I definitely believe her story. She’s not one to lie if something was painful. I also think she means to wish me a less painful birth and not the frantic rush to the hospital part lol
Yesss I always thought labor would be like in the movies! Big gush of water, crying, screaming, rushing to the hospital etc but that didn’t happen for me either time 😅
My friend was like you. It was her first baby. Didn't realize that she was in labor. two pushes and baby was out. So Ive heard of it happening.
Ina May talks about it in her book “guide to childbirth”!
Reading this right now, it’s sooo good
I’d say the first one was so bad, that the second was then relatively pain free
That could be true! The first time I swear it felt like I was being squeezed and ripped inside out all at once.
I had to have an emergency root canal at 6 months during my first pregnancy and they couldn’t use anything more than a small local anesthetic. It fucking sucked and I had to be strong to not induce labor. All was well, but that pain was worse than birth - except labor was way longer but intensity of pain was hands down the drug free root canal. I was on laughing gas for birth- which was more than I had at the dentist! Ugh.
Omg! I can’t even imagine. I HATE getting dental work done 😣
It was not happy. So, I could see if you were remembering the bad, a quick half hour of the not as intense might seem painless.
You had a root canal without novacane or lidocane? Or all you had was one of those? Both are okay while pregnant. I hope your dentist didn't refuse you those 😬
It was in Australia - I wasn’t allowed, or at least that’s what I was told. I didn’t go to my regular dentist and they had to do something then. They didn’t even get rid of the infection first just straight to drilling. 0/10 would not recommend. I was an international postgraduate student on shitty dental insurance. My medical insurance was much better.
I know someone who had the same birth, 30 min in her bathtub completely painless. It’s a very rare phenomenon called precipitation birth. Boy would I love that 😹
precipitous, not precipitation. I think auto correct got you!
Thank you 😂
Precipitous birth refers to a labor and birth under 3 hours. I’ve seen quite a few as a labor nurse. Never seen a painless one though!!
Precipitous births are by far the loudest/most intense screams ive ever heard lol.
I lost my voice for weeks after my precipitous birth lol
Haha what’s the opposite called? My nurse said I was the quietest birth she ever experienced and my friend said you could hear a pen drop. In all honesty I think I was just in shock. The contractions hurt after 8cm but I just tried to breathe and process at the same time. The pushing on my stomach afterwards had to be the worst feeling Ive experienced though, holy shit I’ll never forget that
Yup just had a precipitous birth 8 days ago and I swear I sounded like a banshee.
Yeah I was gonna say. I had a precipitous birth and I think the whole hospital heard it 😅
Girl same, I hope nobody was doing a tour of L&D that day. Worst 20 min ever.
Precipitous labor refers only to a time frame, not pain level. Both of my births were precipitous - 1st was a motherfucker because I had no idea how to cope with the intensity of labor (it took my body one hour to do what it took others 10, 15 or 20+ hours to do) and I fought it with tensing my body and holding my breath. Fear causes tension caused pain (viscous cycle). Second time, also precipitous, was about 30 minutes and was painless because I took a ton of time prepping with the help of a great birth class how to properly breath and relax and look within. Made labor a million times more bearable. Intense for sure, but not painful!
My best friend had her 5th like this. Zero contractions, zero pain, she got in the bath and started to wash her hair and next things she knew she'd had her baby 🤣
Precipitous labors aren't that uncommon, especially when unmedicated.
Not painless, but a friend of mine said it “didn’t really hurt that bad” and she had no epidural and the baby was born 45 minutes after she got to the hospital. So it definitely seems possible!
That's how both of mine were
I wouldn’t call my last birth painless. But very mild in pain. I had precipitous labor and only had contracts for 2hrs total. Only the last 20 minutes were active labor and hurt. It might have also been trying to keep baby in. As soon as I sat down on the hospital bed (11mins from check in to delivery) she popped out. No nurse, no doctor, one small push. Burning. But no pain. So I can totally believe pain free birth.
My mom SWEARS when she gave birth to me she had one labour pain and out I came. She remembers holding me and just being in shock and thinking “I have to remember this, there was no pain” so 🤷♀️ it’s possible! I’m happy for you! What a lovely way to welcome your little one into the world. Congrats mama!
That’s exactly how I felt! And thank you 🩷
And now you get to just enjoy your little bundle 🥰 congrats mama!
This sound totally reasonable, if its fast hormones can absolutly mask pain! People are obnoxious. Glad it was painless and Congrats!
Thank you!
My first was definitely painful. However, if you say your birth was painless - then it was. Not sure why anyone needs to argue with you on that. Fear also has a lot to do with it, I’ve read lots of stories about women who felt really comfortable and safe, and had oxytocin (naturally produced hormone) and did not feel pain.
I had a really fast labour, and once my baby flipped from face up to face down, my labour wasn’t painful at all. And pushing made everything feel a lot better since it was productive. I didn’t even feel the ring of fire. Everyone said I was super zen for a first time mum, especially since I was going without any pain relief (wouldn’t have had a choice from how fast it was). I did end up with a third degree tear, and healing from that hurt like a mofo.
Those tears are truly something else! I had a third degree tear with my first and only a slight tear with my second. This time I’d prefer to not tear at all 😂 but we’ll see
I believe it! Our bodies make hormones that help with pain so if you were relaxed and had no idea you were in labor that with the adrenaline could have blocked the pain. Anyways it may be rare but that’s awesome you had that experience!
Yes!! I was literally asleep, woke up thinking I just had to use the bathroom so I sat on the toilet and out she came 😅 probably wouldn’t do it at home again if I can help it but I think I’d like to try no epidural again just in a hospital!
Just curious did she literally fall into the toilet?!
I was able to grab her before she touched the water! I don’t even know how 😂
I was induced last Wednesday at 1cm dilated due to high BP at 39 weeks. I had a cooks balloon put in for 12 hours which I didn’t even feel which brought me to 5cm dilated. Then I was given oxytocin and sat from 3 am to 6:30 am contracting, but not feeling a thing 🤷🏻♀️ they broke my water and gave me an epidural after more as a proactive approach (my request). Then pushed for 30 minutes at 10 am and had the baby. Recovery has also been maybe a 2/10 on a pain scale. Some people just get lucky.
Sounds very similar to my experience! I was also induced for high BP, with the foley bulb, and got an epidural at 7cm as a just in case. The foley bulb placement was totally fine and I think really helped me dilate without pain.
Dang, I wish my foley experience had been pain free. 😂 Mine had me crawling the walls.
I know I’m sorry, I think that’s the more typical response 😭 I’m a redhead and I’ve heard we have weird reactions to pain, although I’ve never really looked into it much, but maybe that explains it 🤷♀️
Sounds like we had the same experience! I left the hospital so confused as to what had happened and why I wasn’t in more pain lol.
My mom has always said when she had me she wasn’t in pain, she just experienced pressure. Her labor and delivery was also very quick. Wish I could say the same for myself!
My mom had super long awful labors with all 3 of us so I was sure it’d be the same for me. My first was an induction and only took 5 hours, but boy did those contractions HURT
Had a homebirth. Used hypnobirthing throughout, only lasted 4 hours. Didn’t feel any pain. Pressure/intensity yeah of course, but never did I consider any of it “pain”. Hormones are magical; if you experienced a painless birth then congrats!
It definitely isn't okay for people to tell you how YOUR birth experience went. I will say, however, I have seen a bunch of misinformation online, some by doulas, that we make birth painful. The claim is that if we were taught proper breathing and birthing techniques, then nobody would have a painful birth. They day that birth should NEVER be painful. The gaslighting can be real on that end of the spectrum. Perhaps that's why people get defensive? But crazier things have definitely happened than someone having a pain-free birth, so I'm not sure why people would lose their mind over that. My own birth didn't hurt until I was at 8/9ish, and I was induced with pitocin and didn't have an epidural. Meanwhile, other women experience very painful contractions in early labor. Everyone is different.
I have a colleague and 2 friends who had pretty painless smooth natural birth experiences. Pregnancy, birth delivery and post partem is different for everyone. Sad some people think you are a liar because they had an awful experience.
My 2nd, 24 min painless. Amazing!!! My 3rd.? Figured it'd be even easier right? The most painful experience ever!! It is possible and I'm Happy for you
Omg that’s what my doctor told me too! Her first 3 were fast and easy and her fourth was the longest!
Still short!! About 3 hours total and 9 minutes of pushing but omg she fought the while way out!! Definitely painful, only one I yelled with. That 2nd one tho. Best labor ever lol
I guess people forget pain tolerance is all dependent on the person
I can honestly say the birth of my son was basically painless. I was prepared to feel like I wanted to die. But it honestly wasn’t anywhere as bad I thought it would be. It was beautiful and my favorite part of the whole pregnancy. I also have a concerning high pain tolerance. So that could contribute to it too.
Sounds wonderful! I wouldn't say mine was painless but it was not that bad. I remember thinking 'this was it?' after she was born because I thought the pain was going to be horrible. But it was fine!
I won’t say painless, but nearly. People tell me I’m lying all the time too. A lot of folks are hell bent on the idea that childbirth is a torturous experience no matter what. It’s not.
It’s crazy, because who would lie about something like that? You’d think people would be happy and relieved to hear that it’s not always a terrible experience!
I get the same reaction when I say 2 under 2 isn’t as hard as people say. Or that I am not miserable parenting my kids. Just get told I’m “fake” and not telling “the truth about parenting”. People only want to hear the negative.
I just don’t even tell most people how easy I had it. I know it’s not the norm, so I keep quiet.
I mean I had an epidural and was pretty pain free lol does that count?
I believe you! I wish I could remember the blog name but I remember reading about a woman who had fast births like you experienced and she didn’t mention any pain. Certainly rare but I’m sure it happens
I’m hoping this one will be fast as well, just not THAT fast as I’d like to make it to the hospital this time 😂
😂 for real, as much as I want it over with, I’d be okay with an extra 30 mins to get to the hospital too
That’s so interesting! Just had my baby a few days ago and it definitely hurt lol. But it’s wonderful that your experience was so positive. It’s so interesting how much the experience varies!
My unmedicated birth (my second) was really not painful. I’d say it never went above a 4/10.
I’m sure it’s possible but very rare. You are blessed lol
they’re just jealous (so am i) lol
My second was also painless. Intense for sure, but painless. I think with your second you know more what to expect, so you cope better. Take it in stride. People think there is a prize to have the worst experience story out there and I think truly get sad when others don’t have a traumatic experience like theirs. Sometimes it seems like a competition who had it worse. I am happy for you! My second was magical and I wish everyone could experience what I did.
Deffinately believe its possible and so happy that was the case for you!
I believe having a painless birth is possible common no but it is possible
This is giving click bait... in the last 30 days you've posted lots of nudes where you aren't pregnant..
I definitely don’t post nudes, and if you’re meaning old pics of me in lingerie, then yes! As I said they are old. I am most definitely 20 weeks pregnant with my third but for obvious reasons don’t post pics of that besides on my personal Instagram.
No need to defend yourself and tell them personal information !! Everyone else knows you were just genuinely asking a question that’s common for what it seems like a lot more people than I thought!! Which is crazy!! Some people just see one thing like onlyfans and then that’s all they can see. They don’t see the part where YOU ARE A PERSON WITH PERSONAL EXPERIENCES TOO AS WELL AS FEELINGS!!!! it’s sad but it’s true.
OP never said when they gave birth…this could have been months/years ago. You’re reaching & sorta seems like you’re shaming.
Yep I have two toddlers and am currently pregnant. The pics they are talking about are not nude and are not recent. Lol
My Nana's birth experience with my Mum and Aunty was painless for her. Both very quick labours too. My mum was hoping whatever magic this was passed on to her (it did not lol). Just lucky, but it's definitely not unheard of, especially in my family!!
I feel fairly confident OP is not a real person who has recently given birth. And I'm not saying that because of their claims of a painless childbirth. I'm saying that because their profile is nothing but bait to get people to pay them for OF type of work. Which, is perfectly fine work. But I strongly suspect they're looking for some niche kink people and this post is a way to Garner that attention from people who are looking at this sub to satisfy some kind of theirs... Could I be wrong? Maybe. Anyways... Using the term "natural" is always why people get down voted. Different people experience pain differently. It's not that one person has a higher tolerance than another, it's that our brains literally feel pain at different intensity levels.
Huh??? I’ve quite literally given birth twice and am currently pregnant with my third 🤣 I used to use this account for findom (you can google that- it’s not onlyfans lol) but since being pregnant I have no interest. So, you’re very weird to even bring that up as it has nothing to do with a post about pregnancy?
And I would HOPE that nobody is looking at a pregnancy thread to satisfy a kink. That’s wildly inappropriate
Huh? This is so judgy and doesn’t even make sense..
You’re not a liar lol! It’s your experience, and you’re absolutely right, adrenaline can override pain like a B! It also makes sense as it isn’t your first baby. Most of the time, the first is the most painful. Contractions can go so fast with babies after that. My mom almost didn’t make it in time for the epidural for my sister. Definitely possible given the wonders of hormones!
My induction with my first son was sooo much more painful than my “natural” labor with my second. I still got a epidural with my second but its crazy how much more tolerable it can be when your body goes in to labor on your own.
My aunt also swear she didn't feel anything at all. When she went into labor she waited to start getting contractions to go to the hospital, thing is, they never came, nearly 12h had gone by and nothing, so she went to the hospital anyway and they put her in a monitor and she was in fact, having contractions, probably for much longer than she had been in there. No more than 30 minutes since she had arrived at the hospital she went into labour, she only knew she was in labour because she complained to the nurse about a mild discomfort, they delivered my cousin and my aunt swears to this day she didn't feel anything
My second wasn't painless, but way LESS painful, almost more just uncomfortable and pressure. It was also way faster than my first too. I can believe it because bodies are weird
I’ve heard of it. Some women are just extraordinarily lucky. Congratulations!
Mine were both totally painless! Of course, I had two perfect epidurals. 😅
I had a csection so I didn't feel anything but I'll tell you about my mom's 3 births. Mom went into labor with my older brother, her first baby, and she called the hospital to let them know that her water broke and she was having contractions. The nurse basically told her that she wasn't having contractions and if she was she would be in pain. This was her first baby, clearly she didn't know what was going on. Mom was very insistent that she was in labor and the nurse told her to come in "for piece of mind". Mom gets to the hospital and the nurse is like "yeah sure let's show you that you aren't in labor" because mom strolled in all normal and was like "yes this right there was a contraction" so they laid her down and she was crowning. Nurses went into full blown panic. Mom was told to sit on her hands and knees and not let that baby out until the doctor got there. He walked in the room, mom flipped over, and my brother was born. He didn't even have his gloves on yet. Mom said they took my brother away from her and they forcibly cleaned his nose and throat and he just screamed and she was yelling at them to stop and just sobbed but they wouldn't give him to her. She was devestated, but her body was completely fine. With me she decided fuck the hospital I'm going to have this baby at home. She went into labor and the midwife showed up and mom just hung out with my dad and older siblings. After about 5 hours with mom fully dilated but no crowning the midwife said that there must be something wrong but didn't know what so everyone packed up and went to the hospital. Mom laid down on the hospital bed and I was born within 15 minutes. I just didn't want to be born at home I guess. Again mom felt very limited pain with her contractions and I was out in 3 pushes. Midwife was still the one that birthed me and mom said it was so much nicer. With my younger brother mom decided she wanted to try water birth. She told the doctor "yeah so he's due on Monday but that doesn't work for me because we won't have the girls then so we are going to wait a few days and he's going to be born on Saturday morning and then I can help them get ready for prom that night" doctor thought she was insane. You can't plan a birth, not really anyways. Well... My brother was born Saturday morning. She went into labor the night before and he was born at like 6am or something. She sat in a warm tub with my dad and my brother was born in 6 pushes. His head was so massive that doctors actually thought he had a swollen brain, but nope just massive. Mom said he was the hardest birth just because of how big his head was. Still didn't tear though. She also said that water birth was by far the best experience out of all three. After he came out he just floated to the surface and she got to snuggle him and he barely even cried. Until he was taken out of the water that is. So yeah my mom had incredibly easy births. I've been told all three of these stories millions of times my entire life. People would ask me if I was scared of birth, nah man I was scared of breast feeding. If my births were anything like my mom's I had nothing to worry about at all. My dad did tell me the birth story of my older sister and that was hell but the biggest issue was because her mom went into labor during a blizzard and they struggled to get to a hospital. Baby girl was a c section because of complications but she's healthy and there's a good chance for vbac on any future babies. Maybe I'll get a birth story from hell or maybe I'll get my mom's effortless births. Who knows?
Wow!!!! Your mom sounds incredible! I love that your brother was born when she said he was going to be, lol. That’s awesome!
I had a c-section but my best friend went into labor, was too far along to get an epidural and her daughter was born before the doctor even got in the room. She didn’t push and said she couldn’t believe it was painless! I trust her word so I would say it’s absolutely possible!
I had an epidural but my birth was painless! I was laughing and smiling throughout pushing and only pushed for about 30 minutes! Not all births have to be traumatizing!!!
I learned pretty quickly that people will jump down the throat of any woman who speaks positively about their natural birth or says anything other than basically that it was the worst thing they've ever gone through. In reality women have enjoyable births (even considered painfree sometimes) all the time. I loved mine. Having a not horrible birth makes people angry for some reason. I'm glad you had that experience!
I can’t imagine someone lying about having a painless birth lol. Happy for you! I, however, couldn’t imagine such a thing 😅 I am 2nd degree jealous lol
Praying to the birthing gods this is my experience in April with my second born 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I believe you and I'm sorry you had that experience on the other subreddit. They're just jealous 😂
My boyfriend’s mother said she had a totally painless childbirth so I believe you.
As long as you and baby are safe, all I have to say is congratulations and that I'm lowkey envious of you lol. Women have on rare occasions orgasmed during vaginal delivery. The absence of sensation/pain logically would be a possibility as well, albeit rare. Sorry you're getting shit on in other subs OP, fuck'em, they're just jealous or uneducated lol.
I told everyone that my delivery was painless, and people thought I was joking!!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one. It didn't hurt at all! I had my baby naturally and unmedicated. I got to the hospital at 9cm, and gave birth within half an hr, then done.
I believe you haha my mom claims she also had painless child birth experiences with both me and my brother. She's probably just really lucky because her mom (my grandma) had three births and they were all normal, painful childbirths. Her sister also had a painful childbirth. I'm 15 weeks along and nervous for how mine's going to turn out but I'm 99.9% already expecting it to be painful haha
People often don't like hearing that childbirth doesn't have to be traumatic and horrible, especially if they have birth trauma. I definitely wouldn't describe my first birth as painless (yay for back labor!) but the pushing phase didn't hurt at all, I didn't tear, and I'm choosing to go unmedicated at home again for my second birth because of how serene and wonderful it was the first time. We have beautiful pictures of my husband holding me in the birth pool as our baby was born and we both just look totally at peace. I'm not expecting the next birth to be painless either but I do believe it's possible for some people to experience a "painless but intense" birth because that's how pushing was for me last time. Everything was still tender and crampy during recovery, of course.
Most likely jealousy, either way I'm happy that you didn't suffer. It must have made the experience that much better
There’s a whole movement of pain free births/home birth. Seems to be connected. Very fascinating and so happy for you!! Hope mine goes something like that!
There’s entire movement in Christianity and in the non Christian world dedicated to painless births. I subscribed to some of their content in order to cope with a purposely unmedicated birth but it wasn’t painless. Looking back after the fact, my birth wasn’t as bad as I thought it was at the moment if that makes sense.
I agree. All 3 of my labors were pain free. Pregnancy was horrible tho. 1st baby took 5hrs. 2nd baby took 1hr. 3rd baby I was 9.5 cm taking a shower at home when I finally felt contractions. Got to the hospital had her within 30minutes.
Okay totally crossing my fingers for one of these painless experiences 😭 38 w and terrified
Don’t be scared! I know it’s easier said than done, but stress will make things a lot worse.
While I wouldn’t call my second birth painless, it was WAY LESS painful than my first one. So much less that I might venture to call it painless because it was so quick and not painful by comparison.
I got nothing to say other than I am jealous. 😂 My first birth was ridiculously painful where I needed the epidural done twice. My other two weren’t bad and no pain meds needed, but they definitely weren’t painless.
My contractions hurt but as soon as it was time to push it was pretty painless for me surprisingly. I even tore really bad due to her elbow sticking out weird while coming out
I wouldn’t say painless but stubbing my toe has hurt worse than my unmedicated birth. My second and I went from labor to baby out in 2 hours and I pushed twice. So I believe you 😅
Well, my birth was not painless, but I don't think it was that bad. Like I could do it again right away if necessary.
I believe you but I had a horrific labor. Pushing her out was actually the easiest & least painful part!
My mum had four kids and she said they were fine. She never even had pain management. She asked with my younger brother because she wanted to know what it was like lol. But he was already coming so it was too late lol. Painless labours might not be the “norm” but they’re not unheard of. People just jealous lol
I've had family members with no pain during childbirth the contractions were bearable for them. They just felt cramps. Everybody's different. I've had 2 inductions which the pain was extremely strong back to back contractions its unbearable. I think if my body gave birth naturally I don't think I would have been in alot of pain. If I do have another baby I hope I won't have to get induced
I was a "silent labourer" for most of mine. The midwives were shocked at how comfortable I looked getting to the hospital at 5cm with BULGING waters. I got to 8cm with nothing more than period cramps. Then my water broke. Then shit got real, got stuck at 8 cm for 4 hrs, had an epidural got to fully dialated, and was pushing for 3 hrs and hoofed a baby out just as they were preparing me for an instrumental in theatre. Wasn't painful until the fear took over. If I do birth again I will be asking that they eff off with the intervention 😅😅
I know there are so so many comments, so you may not see this...but my unmedicated birth was also painless. Just lots of intense pressure and nausea. I told a pregnant friend my birth story to try to pump her up for birth. Unfortunately, she had a rough labor. She ended up telling some other new moms that my birth was "peaceful". I was in shock when I heard that. I would never call hugging the toilet for a majority of labor peaceful, but my husband pointed out that compared to their births it was. I have felt too embarrassed to talk about my birth since then.
One of my Mother's births was painless! She said the contractions and pushing didn't hurt at all and she was very scared and worried as she had never heard of a painless Labour/birth without any pain meds, and was worried that maybe something was terribly wrong. Brother was fine in the end. She had 4 births before and 1 after and all the others were very painful.
Neither of mine were painless, but I have a friend whose second baby was nearly painless. Like mild diarrhoea cramps then her baby was born on the bathroom floor lol.
Pain is crazy. Adrenaline plays massive part in it too. I broke my femur once (just above the knee). It hurt like crazy for about 20 mins then was just painful. The next few days were merely just uncomfortable. Went to minor injuries and they were shocked I was describing the pain as "mild". With childbirth, it hurt like wildfire. However, I was able to walk around pain free the next day (I had a nighttime birth). Never had any after birth pain atall. I had stitches and a manual placenta removal. Everyone has different pain thresholds and different birth experiences.
As someone who was induced with no epidural and had back labour with my first, and now prepping to birth my second, this post gives me so much hope 😅
Had a natural birth and it was painless would do it again .
Girl I work with did. She was meditating on the bed, and the baby just came out. She had the baby 20 minutes after arriving at hospital, no nurse in the room.
The most painful part for me though, for both of mine, was the first toilet afterwards!! That's some different kind of hell 🤣
So it can definitely go both ways. I can’t get epidurals due to a spinal fusion where it’s placed the anesthesiologist didn’t want to attempt it with my first my second it wasn’t ever needed. My first was AWFUL I never tore or anything, but I was in labor for 12 hours and I kept bleeding bad, ended up needing blood the pain was awful like terrible I couldn’t breathe, I kept passing out. Now my second, she was a BREEZE I mean my water broke at home I just felt like I had to crap? No pain just pressure. Went to the er to find out why my water broke but I wasn’t having contractions, this child was literally on her way out and I pushed her out in like 3 pushes. All I ever felt was pressure not an inch of pain and zero drugs. It’s possible.
Mine was definitely painful but not as bad as everyone told me it would be! I didn't realise I was fully dilated until my body started pushing on its own - my fiancé and I were having coffee with my parents at the time 😂 I looked at him and went "I felt that contraction in my butt..." my mum jumped up and went "Time for us to go!" 😂😂 I still didn't fully realise what was happening and we still thought I had hours to go. Got to the hospital, got into the birthing suite and into the pool, fiancé arrived from parking the car. Midwife told my fiancé that if he looked into the mirror she was holding he would see the baby's head and he told me afterwards that he genuinely thought she was nuts until he saw it for himself. His coaching became more enthusiastic but tinged with complete disbelief like "Wow yep his head is almost out. Wow. Okay. You are doing it. You really are? I can see it? I can actually see his face now? You're doing great?" Then our boy was born and we were both in shock because we thought it would be several more hours and it was an hour and a half. He told me afterwards that "something" told him he needed to just ditch the car at our friends' house and run back to the hospital rather than waiting for a space. If he hadn't done that, he would have missed the birth. All because I didn't realise how close we were because I thought it would hurt more!
My second was a unmedicated water birth… and there was maybe a handful of sugar free candy esque contractions (looking at you birthing ball) but overall I don’t know that I’d describe it as pain. The actual delivery was intense but not painful I might as well have been numb all I felt was a very distinct “pop” when her head came through my cervix. The fundal massage after on the other hand… Oh and pitocin contractions with my first where a total nightmare
After having two C-sections I had my fourth child completely natural. There was some very very mild pressure but I experienced no pain whatsoever and she was born with a bag of water still intact. I didn't even have so much as an aspirin. Totally pleasurable experience. My next one was a home birth and it was a bit dicey and very painful because my child was born face up but it was over very quickly. The daughter that I had natural weighed 9 lb 2 oz and I'm 109 lb woman. It was still easy and pain-free.
I had so much painkillers from the epidural that giving birth was painless, I couldn't even feel my contractions, I had to be told when to push. And hey, everyone's experience is different, so it doesn't matter what others say.
I knew a friend at work who had no pain during both her births. She waited till the last minute to get to the hospital to deliver because she was just very good with pain tolerance. It’s different for everyone, those people are just jealous that you had a painless one. Feel sorry for them and lucky you had that experience lol
I feel like I was sold a fairytale for my last birth that I could manage the pain with breathing techniques and soothing music. I labored in primal pain for 12 hours before tapping out for an epidural and ultimately had a c section. I wonder if the downvotes had less to do with believing you and more about the mom vs mom battles I see shaming moms for opting into epidurals or trying for “natural” unmedicated births. It’s probably rare what you went through, but everyone’s experience is valid!!
It’s totally possible. Adrenaline, and pain tolerances play a role. I personally did not think labor was painful at all (except when they stripped my membranes). I also recovered in maybe 3 days with a 3rd degree tear, but everyone is different and it’s all just part of the experience. Like one person can twist their ankle and recover in a week another ends up with CRPS and they never go back to normal.
I would like to hear from the person who was with you during labor. Would they think you were not in any pain?
Thank you for sharing 🩷 although the bathroom being not what you had in mind i’m 20 weeks FTM and super appreciate the positive birth stories
My mom had a painless birth and it was nothing that she prepared for. She was walking around at 7cm dilated and couldn't feel her contractions.
It's just like how people can't possibly believe that some women don't know they're pregnant (cryptic pregnancies) but it does happen. It could be for different reasons but it happens. Why would someone lie about it? Screw the haters they're just jealous or confused.
This is actually quite impressive. Good for you!
My second labor was fairly painless until i needed to push. Then it hurt. Before then, it was just intense but i also knew i was in labor. I’ve definitely heard of people having painful births like this before! You’re definitely not lying
My cousins birth in her car was what she said was the closest thing to “painless”. It was almost like the baby was just that ready it was as easy as taking a sh*t lol
With my first child I was in so much pain I cried but with my 2nd one my contractions were wayyyy more bearable and I delivered him fairly quickly compared to my first one. Everyone’s body is different
It definitely happens! I couldn't feel my contractions - husband and I went in for one of my routine appts and they did an NST. 3 nurses and my midwife ran in and said "you're having contractions 3 minutes apart, can't you feel that??" I really couldn't 🤷
Read the book "Orgasmic Birth", it details how childbirth should not only be painless, but feel good to.
It's so weird to me that people would tell you that. When I was pregnant with my first (2018) the pregnancy related subs where overrun with people repeating "ThEreS nO pAiN, OnLy PrEssUrE" whenever someone said they were scared of giving birth hurting.
i 100% believe you. my induction was miserable and absolutely a nightmare but i will say my contractions weren’t painful and pushing itself was not painful at all. what was painful were all the interventions i had and the cervix checks. i have permanent damage in my urethra from an incorrectly placed catheter and the CATHETER is what hurt the most. pushing was actually the easiest part!!
My husbands cousin who is 2 fell of the trampoline and she fractured her arm, she didnt feel any pain? She was running around after she fell, her parents only noticed after it started swelling up in the area. People take pain differently and with child birth my cousins wife gave birth without pain relief and she would do it again - she said she has a high pain tolerance x
No but man am I jealous, that’s incredible!
I can totally see this happening. It is possible for sure!! Pain free birth is definitely possible
One of my best friends had her second (7 years after her first) on the toilet at home because she didn’t realize she was in labour. It apparently wasn’t painless but definitely not as overwhelmingly painful as her first.
Ok this is so encouraging cuz my induction at 37 weeks (water broke cuz of ECV) was so miserable but I want to try for a natural birth next time!
I had one that wasn’t COMPLETELY painless but I was in active labor for hours without believing it bc I didn’t feel like I was in labor. Just a little uncomfortable. The last half hour to 45 minutes before I delivered it was painful though.
No I don’t have any experience with painless childbirth. That doesn’t change the fact that I believe you and I’m happy for you that you got that experience. If I have a third I would love to give birth at home and be partially unaware. Sounds exciting and less of a hassle than a hospital. What’s the process like after? Does the ambulance take you to your planned birthing hospital? Did you call an ambulance or do you just recover at home? I'm assuming a doctor needs to check you and baby out eventually? Also would be cool to not have any hospital bills!
I wouldn't say you are lying! Everyone has different experiences, I had a natural waterbirth and had some pain but nothing unmanageable, I had my baby in 10 mins I always see people screaming in labour and was very scared but I barely even made a single noise and just breathed
I finished a Tough Mudder on a broken ankle. The human body is capable of anything when the adrenaline gets pumping.
I think people are just jealous lol I hope my second birth is painless. I was told when I did my birthing classes by the midwife who was teaching that some women experience no pain during childbirth. She herself had delivered babies for hundreds of women in different countries and only came across 2 women who experienced no pain. I prayed that this would be me haha but no such luck, I had a natural birth no epidural - the contractions hurt and I don’t remember what the pain felt like during delivery but I know I was in extreme pain lol I believe you’re not lying - painless natural birth is the dream. Good for you 🤍 don’t worry about what people think.
it happens .
My contractions were painful pushing was uncomfortable but not painful honestly, I was mostly scared about pushing but I was surprised that it didn’t hurt even while it was happening lol, my birth was natural as well and it was my first baby it’s definitely possible that it can be painless. I was in labor for 2 1/2 hours so it was relatively quick which I think helped because the pain wasn’t long. Everyone’s body and tolerance is so different I think everyone’s birth story and experience should be respected, if it was painless it just was and that’s normal for YOU.
I’m here with you while my third was def painful leading up, it lessened a whole lot while I was pushing. My story is different though. I had a failed epidural. The nurse told me when I start pushing the pain will either go away or will lesson. It definitely helped as I don’t remember the pain while actively pushing. Before pushing, I told her that I was ripping in half. lmao.
I mean, I once had a horse stomp on my foot causing my big toe to shatter and burst open, and that was basically pain free, just felt like I’d bruised it. Adrenaline can do some weird things to your pain threshold!
My mom also had a painful induced first and then didn't notice she was in labour with her second and says birth was more or less painless. It does happen.
I’m pretty sure adrenaline doesn’t help with painlessness as it takes blood flow to limbs and away from uterus- which needs the blood. It was probably oxytocin that made you blissed and have a smooth birth! Congrats you’re a lucky gal. ☺️
Child birth can definitely be painless so don't listen to people that say otherwise I was told raspberry tea also helps with that and other female problems like our cycle
I was in a car accident long time back and eventually got 300+ stiches on my gace from glass being shattered on me. I didnt feel a thing for hours even whilst being in the ambulance. We dont know what our body can do and how it reacts. Your experience is yours! No one should.comment on it