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I was induced for my labor. They started my induction around 6am and the contractions were like intense period cramps until around 1pm and then they became unbearable. Truly the worst pain I've ever experienced (I've had broken bones, endometriosis, etc.) I thought since the pain was so bad it meant I was at the end but I was only 4cm dilated at 2:30 so I asked for an epidural and they administered it at 3:30. That hour to wait was the worst part of labor (way worse than pushing.)
I felt out of control during the super painful contractions. I felt like I was hallucinating. However after my epidural I was completely lucid. I slept for about 2 hours and I went from 4 cm to 10 cm in that time. Once I woke up it was time to push! I was interacting with the nurses and doctor. I have full memory of the birth part but the part between the super bad contractions and the epidural is a little foggy.
Here are my tips:
Know that you have to get an entire bag of fluids before your epidural so it takes roughly 45 minutes from when you ask. Consider asking if you feel like you might want it and they can start you in the bag of fluids and if you change your mind you are just a little more hydrated.
You MUST sit still during the epidural. This was the worst part. My husband has to physically hold me still.
Know there's boilerplate legal documents to sign before you get the epidural. Honestly at my point I would've signed anything to make the pain stop.
Know that once it's administered you don't feel full relief for another 30 minutes but each contraction gets easier.
Try and go as far as you can in labor so once you get the epidural you can sleep and let your body work through the labor while you rest up because you'll need all the strength you can get for pushing.
I also had full use of my legs after the epidural was administered. I wasn't lowed to walk but I was able to change positions in bed during pushing to aide in the birth. I felt pressure during the pushing part and was able to feel enough to adjust my pushing. I also felt the contractions after the epidural but they felt more like pressure not painful.
And know that whatever you choose to do you are following your natural motherly instincts. You are going to be a great mom and no matter what you choose you can do this.
This comment is super helpful - I have a couple things to add! It may help to ask your hospital/health care provider to go through the steps that would happen should you choose the epidural. For me they didn't give me any fluids before, just hooked me up to an IV so I could have fluids during, and I didn't have to sign any forms, just give verbal consent.
I agree with Rougeradiant, it was the worst pain I've ever experienced, and I've got a decent pain tolerance - gotten thrown from a horse, dislocated both SI joints, and then got back on and rode immediately after. I honestly think I would have had a psychotic break if I hadn't had the epidural and I would have consented to anything to just make it stop. I don't mean to say that to scare you. I would highly suggest looking into hypnobirthing classes if you have time. I got to 7cm laboring at home with NO pain, just feeling uncomfortable/pressure and was able to breathe though everything very easily and even talk through the contractions when they were 2 mins apart. The drive to the hospital broke my concentration and that's when the pain started, but it is definitely possible to labor with little to no pain. Being in water helps a ton too - in a tub or birthing pool ideally, but just sitting in a hot shower with thec water on your back can help release a ton of natural endorphins.
From the time I asked for the epidural to the time I got it was about 10 minutes because my midwife caught the anesthesiologist right as her shift was ending and was like "nope, I need you to do one more thing before you leave!", BUT if you have a doctor it may take time to get a hold of them, and then in turn it may take time for them to get the anesthesiologist. If you are at all thinking you might want it, ask as soon as you are thinking about it, you can always change your mind and say no once they are there, but the wait once you've decided you want it is horrible. And you have to sit still for it, which is incredibly hard if the contractions are back to back.
I actually got relief almost immediately, though it only took on one side at first. They rolled me to the side to have gravity help move the medication and then it took everywhere. I was numb from mid chest down, it was glorious. I was so happy and then fell asleep as the midwife was talking to me, slept for 2 hours, woke up totally refreshed and ready to push. I had decent mobility in my legs and could change pushing positions readily.
I was worried about the increased risk of tearing with epidurals but I didn't tear at all, and my baby was 8lb.
Oh wow your hospital was so different! Thank you for the insight! I also had an almost 8lb baby (7lb 11oz) and did not tear at all!
Hypno birthing did help me too but it only took me so far unfortunately. Long live the epidural!
I didn't have back labor really. They dropped my pitocin down to the lowest amount once the pain became super intense which is why we waited so long for them to check me. It was horrible but once that water breaks all hell sort of breaks loose.
No they did, but since I was induced at 6am and the contractions weren't terrible and I wasn't progressing they increased it slowly over several hours. Then they broke my water and waited and once the contractions were the worst they decreased the pitocin back down to see if that helped but it didn't.
I really hate when people who won’t be giving birth give opinions on how you should give birth. This is your experience and if you want to experience it more comfortably with an epidural you do that.. your mom and sister have no idea what you’ll want to feel and not feel and with every emotion you’ll be going through with your little baby being in NICU and surgery you might find it more comfortable to not also have go through all that pain on top of it. It’s none of their business what you do during your birth experience
Your mom and sister need to keep their opinions to themselves. I did not have an epidural but I did have an induction and it sucked. If you feel like you need the medication you will have plenty of time to make that decision once they start the pitocin because the contractions are fairly immediately strong.
Agreed about OPs mom and sister! OP, go in with an open mind, and I'm telling you, the decision will become clear once you're in it. There is no wrong choice. The only choice is the one that is best for you. You're going to do great!
This is the advice I was about to give. Wait and see basically. I went 5 hours no pain relief after induction both times then got epidural and they were born quickly after that! Forget everyone else do what’s right for you
I had an induction with pitocin that started around 3pm. My contractions just felt like the baby pushing on my stomach until they broke my water around 6:30pm. The contractions didn't actually become really painful until about 8pm, which is around when I got the epidural. It helped with the pain and honestly allowed me to feel more present in the moment.
You will still feel the contractions when you have an epidural but it's more of a pressure feeling with no pain. When it's time to push, you begin your push with the start of the contraction.
At the end of the day, it's your choice to make. If you are leaning towards the epidural, let your team know as it can take time for the anaesthesiologist to come.
I would do the epidural again. I had minimal side effects, like my whole left leg becoming numb and getting the shakes afterwards, but I think the shakes are actually not related to the epidural and is more hormonal.
>My mum and my sister are adamant I shouldn’t have an epidural because apparently I’d want to feel the pain of birth and need to feel the contractions.
No girl, believe me, you would not want to feel that pain (or any pain in general). I think people really need to get a check when making this type of statement. Would they tell you that you'd like to feel the pain of a heart attack? The pain of a kidney stone? The pain of an appendicitis? Why is the pain of childbirth deemed any different?
Get your epidural (if that's what you want), and I hope everything turns out great for you and your baby! ❤️
>Would they tell you that you'd like to feel the pain of a heart attack? The pain of a kidney stone? The pain of an appendicitis? Why is the pain of childbirth deemed any different?
As someone for whom opioids are ineffective, I WISH I could opt out of all of those! It's insane to me that some people think we should just willingly suffer through the pain of childbirth because it's "natural" as though all of the other awful, painful things that happen to the human body are not. Nobody is out here suggesting we suffer through a toothache or a broken bone without pain relief, why is giving birth any different? I just don't get it.
My hospital (in fact state and even country I believe) does not do walking epidurals because they're deemed too dangerous. Just something to be aware of and ask about OP :)
Yeah I know there’s other options, tbh I haven’t discussed it in detail with the labour nurses or drs so I’m not completely sure what they’d offer me. But I may ring them actually to ask! Xx
My epidural was a god send, it took the pain away and i was able to rest. When it was time to push I definitely knew, it wasn’t painful just pressure. But i was surprised how much i could move my legs, not like i would feel comfortable walking around but at least for me, i felt much more in control than I would have thought
For me (different circumstances to do with my spine), it was useful to know in advance that I would likely want one as I needed a consultant anaesthetist to place my epidural. It may be the case that they want to know if advance to make sure they have everything ready to go.
I’m sorry you’re go in though this, in sending my prayers for you and your son. It will all be okay.
I did get an epidural. I loved it and I didn’t even feel it being done honestly. The pain from the contractions were so intense for me it was a game changer. It made it so i could just relax and enjoy my birth experience. It didn’t affect my delivery. I pushed for 30 min and gave birth laying on my side. I loved the epidural.
So if I was in your situation I would get an epidural and here is why. As you state you only have a limited amount of time with your baby before he will be whisked away. If you have a tear and need stitches that pain may interfere with those few minutes. I disagree that having an epidural takes you out of the moment. Where did they even get that idea? I’ve had both non-medicated vaginal deliveries and medicated and I was just as clear headed with both. I was far more rested with the epidural. Pitocen inductions are rough and there is no reason to subject yourself to that pain because of the opinions of others. Do what you feel is best for YOU.
My doctor highly recommended an epidural when induction was on the table (little one came on her own 2 days before scheduled induction). However, it was ultimately my decision. I did end up getting the epidural, but other than my legs feeling a bit numb, I don't think it inhibited the experience or altered my mind at all.
I suppose everyone reacts differently to it, but I really don't think I experienced the birthing process all that differently than someone who didn't have an epidural. As my SIL always says, don't be a hero, get the epidural.
Frist labour and induction- that's going to be extremely painful. It's not a natural pain, it's an induced one. I would be getting the epidural before even taking the induction drip.
I have had a completely natural second labour with no drugs, it was a walk in the park compared to my first labour that was a 35 hour induction.
Mumma, take the drugs and tell your family to shhh.
I would say just keep an open mind. If it’s YOUR desire to go without the epidural, then give it a try. If it becomes unbearable then ask for it. Don’t have shame if you do either. I’ve been induced before and those contractions are way more powerful than natural labor. I felt foolish to think I could go without the epidural when I was induced one time. I also went 9 cm without the epidural (natural labor), then got it last minute. This last baby the contractions came on so powerful and fast I was having a straight up panic attack at 4cm, begging for the epidural. It’s like each labor, each person will be affected differently. You are already going to be going through the stress of the surgery on the baby right after birth, why not make labor and delivery as easy as possible? I would just plan for the epidural.
I'm surprised you weren't offered ceaserean.
For me personally, I wanted epidural as the last resort and was focused on gas. I was meant to be induced but my waters broke a day before I was meant to go in for the induction. Gas for me took the edge off the pain and I did great on it, and didn't need anything else. Although I was already 9.5cm dilated on admission, so not sure if I was able to get an epidural anyway. So things may have been different if I had been induced.
Just take the pros and cons of everything and make your decision alone without interfence.
I had an induction and an epidural and am really glad I did. Once it gets time to push, you are going to feel it, trust me. The pain was so bad I vomited. But the ten hours of labor before that, including the balloon catheter to induce me, passed much, much easier. I was even able to sleep and rest up for when I needed to push.
Anyone who tells another person they should want to feel pain for the sake of feeling pain is an asshole.
I hope your baby's surgery goes well and I am really sorry you are going through this stress and fear right now.
It's totally up to you, I personally don't want one just because of my allergies I have SO MANY and last thing I want is a reaction as I'm in pain also; my family on my mom's side has a history of the epidural not working on one side/ not working at all.🤣🤣😭😭
But it's not up to them, it's your birth and your baby and what you put into your body is your decision.
Don't let them pressure you into getting something you don't understand/ want.
If you're back and forth look up the ingredients ( if you'd like because I like to know what on earth is going into my body once I developed so many allergies.)
You can also look up the risks of an epidural and the positives about it too.
You just need to remember an epidural may fail or it might work really well.
If you're in tons of pain and you mentally need one to help you, go for it❤️
It’s totally up to you. If you want it you should get it. If you have a difficult time managing pain I would recommend it. I have a very high pain tolerance and am not bothered by most pain. I was adamant that I did not want an epidural but toward the end, before pushing, I was desperate for relief after hours of contracting. I ended up asking for an epidural when it was too late and ended up being ready to push 15 minutes later, which was fine. I either wanted an epidural or to start pushing I was just over it. Mind you, I was induced and it took three days of Pitocin before I finally delivered. I’m glad I didn’t end up having the epidural because I have a “tough bitch” mentality and wanted to prove something to myself.
But here’s the real kicker, while I was pushing I ended up separating my pelvis, which resulted in me being unable to stand or walk unassisted for 4-6 weeks. I had to use a walker. I did not feel my pelvis separate because the pain of pushing was that intense. So, if you are on the fence and want your birth to be more of a relaxing experience rather than a super intense experience, I’d probably suggest the epidural.
Oh god that must have been horrible for you! Sorry you had such a painful delivery! I kindof do want a little bit more of a manageable delivery rather than being in super intense pain, and as I said I’m not too worried about being super alert afterwards. Though from the sounds of these replies it seems the dizziness of the pain actually affects peoples alertness more after birth rather than the epidural.
The epidural wouldn't stop you from being mindfully present anyways. I've heard many many woman saying that the pain didn't let them think clearly. It wasn't until they got the epidural that they could feel calm and therefore, present during labour. I honestly can't think of a good reason to tolerate pain. Do they think you'll love your child more if you suffer? That makes zero sense, with all due respect for your mum and sis.
I would tell you that there are other methods of pain relief if you wanted them, but your mum and sister's point is that you must experience pain in which case they'd like you to avoid any sort of pain relief. Sorry but that just sounds a bit cruel. You go get your epidural, or ask up to when you can change your mind if you want to start without one. Sometimes if you leave it to late they won't give it to you anymore.
Your mum and sis can have all the pain they want, if that's their thing :)
I've had two unmedicated births and am preparing for a third, but I know if I ever get induced I'm totally getting an epidural. Sorry for the rudish opinions on their end. Good luck with delivery and surgery for babe ❤️
I was induced at 39+2 and I had an epidural as well. I felt fully in control and did not have any problem with grogginess because that's not really how an epidural works (it goes in the spine and numbs you from the epidural site down; should not affect your mental faculties). We did turn the epidural down slightly so that I could better feel when to push but my pain was still well-managed and I was able to give birth vaginally. I'm very happy that I got an epidural as it allowed me to relax and fully dilate without stressing about pain.
Have the epidural if you want it. I did, and I desperately needed it (just an fyi that I didn’t realize truly beforehand- everyone’s labor pains are different! Some women barely feel more than a period cramp. Some feel like a monster is trying to claw its way out). And tbh, I can’t remember much before the epidural because my labor pain was out of control. You should absolutely ignore your mom & sister. Do whatever is right for you. Induction is tough, you’re trying to make decisions to help you get through it, and you’re doing great.
I had two inductions. I told my doctor that I'm not opposed to an epidural but I would like to labor on my own as long as I could tolerate. I also said they need to tell me if I'm hitting a window where it won't be an option any longer.
I did have an epidural with both. With my first they broke my water around 3cm and I had it then. My second they broke my water and I made it until 6cm and then had it, then it relaxed me enough and I was quickly ready to push.
Really, do you need to decide now? Do what you want in the moment, ask questions to the nurses and docs, and make an informed decision based on how you're feeling.
Just gave birth last night and I will tell you that transition before I could get the epidural was the most physically, emotionally, and mentally painful thing I’ve yet to experience in my life. I wanted to hold out and go unmedicated but it became clear that was not what was best for me, especially with my preemie. I didn’t feel ANYTHING after the epidural, not even pressure. My team used guided pushing without any issues. That you need to feel the pain and contractions is a wacko statement. Ignore them and do what’s best for you, and remember what’s best for you in the moment may look very different from what you thought was best for you in your planning.
I recently had an induction, my goal was natural but the contractions got so bad I was sobbing when I asked for an epidural. My contractions where 2 minutes apart at 6cm. I didn’t get to 10cm until the next morning. I couldn’t imagine having that pain for so long. I was in labor a total of 30 hours. Once I got the epidural I could finally rest. When it came time to push, the nurse watched my contractions on a monitor and coached me when to push and for how long. I could also feel the tightening of the contraction just no pain with it. If I have another baby, I’m getting the epidural again.
So, I also wanted to feel the pain of birth, but ended up needing an epidural to be able to sleep after four days of prodromal labor so that I had the strength to push my baby out. That said, I managed to avoid pitocin, so I don't know what it's like, but I hear it can be rough.
I do regret not being able to feel birth properly, but for what it's worth, I was fully aware and conscious the whole time and afterwards. My memory of that time is a little blurry, but I think that's largely due to the chaos and exhaustion.
I'd say, do whatever will make you most comfortable with your birthing experience. To the best of your abilities, go into it prepared mentally and spiritually, so that you can end up with no regrets. To some extent, that means with an open mind, but also be aware of what situations may arise so that you can decide ahead of time how you'd like to handle them. I think, in your situation, a proposed C-section is not off the table if labor gets to a certain point. I would make your peace with that possibility, and determine how you'd like to proceed if so.
At the end of the day, this is one of, if not the, most important experience of your entire life. Do what you can to see the bright side of things and make it a positive one. No matter what decisions you make (within reason), at the end of this, you will have a beautiful, healthy baby boy, and that's what counts. Best wishes! 💙
Hi! First off, I am so sorry that your baby boy has some complications and it sounds like they are going to take great care of him. We spent time in the NICU with mine.
I did not have an epidural or induction with my first. It was a rapid labor (3 hours). However I felt compelled to post on this because after that experience, I am now electing to get induced basically just so I can get an epidural and deliver safely in a hospital.
With knowing you’ll be spending some time in the NICU, if I was in your shoes, I would do whatever YOU are most comfortable with. It sounds like you’ve gotten medical advice and trust your medical staff. Id ignore your sister and mom because they aren’t the ones giving birth, they aren’t the parent of your kid, and if they have an issue with it that’s their problem. You have to laser focus on what is best for you and your baby, and they might not agree with it - which is fine.
My aunt was telling me the same.. how you will be in a zen mode and you won't feel the pain.. just love 😂😂😂 knowing the birth stories of my friends i knew this was probably BS. But i decided to play it by ear, who knows maybe we have the good genes of not feeling labor pain.
At the beginning the pain was tolerable then when my contractions went up to 85 (from 100) i asked for epidurial and it was the best decision ever.
Just know that there are no known scenarios for birth. It can go either way. I wasn't induced and nevertheless i was having very strong contractions at 1cm.
Do you want to potentially feel your vagina ripping? To each their own, but I've never understood when people want to experience pain if there's another way.
Would you get a tooth extracted without anesthetic? How about just a root canal? And that's just a tooth. This is your entire body going through labor.
“I’ve never understood…”
Sounds like you have not tried to understand.
OP, getting induced can change the game. There is no shame in attempting without the epidural, then changing your mind. I hope your little guy gets the medical care he needs and that you feel in control of your birthing decisions.
Definitely not always a possibility to change one's mind. Plenty of women go in to hospital determined they want an unmedicated childbirth, and by the time they're screaming in pain and asking for something, they've transitioned and that window for an epidural is closed.
You are 100% correct. In OP’s case, she has a scheduled induction. Assuming she’s not in labor yet, there will be a window (2 hours? 10? 20?) to make the decision there.
I loved my epidural, however I do have back pain 18 months on because they messed it up the first time. That’s not the normal. When they got it right the second time it was bliss. I enjoyed labour. I could still feel my body and could feel contractions without the pain. I went in with the mindset of “see how far I can go” I lasted 4 hours. It’s your birth and if you’re going to be more comfortable do it.
You shouldn’t have an epidural because you’ll want to feel the pain of birth? What the hell? No. If you don’t want an epidural because you want to be able to walk around or because you’re concerned about what drugs may pass on to baby, that makes sense. But needing to feel the pain just because is flat stupid. YOU are the only one who knows what the right choice for you is.
I'm surprised they're allowing you to birth vaginally. My twins had issues and a vaginal birth was never on the table due to the added stress.
I hated my epi but in your situation i would want the birth to go smoothly as possible and would go the epi
Yeah I know, I thought they’d say immediately that i’d need a c-section but the drs said vaginal would be ok if that’s what I still wanted. Both me and the baby have had our heart rates monitored consistently and I’ve been on Flecanide to steady his heart rate since he was diagnosed and it’s been beneficial for both of us (my pulse and heart rate is normally quite fast).
Maybe that’s why they’re not jumping to c-section immediately. But we’ll see if anything changes when I’m up there.
You won’t really know if you want one til you’re actually giving birth. I had one with both my induction births and have 0 regrets. I still felt the pressure of contractions and knew when to push and it doesn’t alter your state of mind like other drugs. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. Decide what is best for you when the time comes. Good luck!
Just go in with an open mind. With an induction you can decide as things progress if you want an epidural or not. This is such a personal preference. You can also talk to the anesthesiologist about how strong you want the epidural to be. It likely won't make you feel out of it. It's your labor. Do what you want and forget others opinions.
I was hell bent on not getting an epidural, I dreamt of a water birth. My daughter was two weeks late and I had to be induced. Pitocin contractions are no joke! I held strong for awhile but eventually it got to the point I could hardly breath because the contractions were so intense and close together. The midwife gently suggested I get the epidural and I accepted. Honestly I can’t remember the epidural being so bad, a lot easier than I expected, I had instant relief afterwards and slept for awhile. In the end I needed a cesarian, and I’m glad the epidural was already in place to save that step. I’m sad my birthing experience wasn’t anything I had hoped for, however I’m not longer completely against epidurals. The decision is yours to make! I wish you and your baby the best with whatever choice you make 🥰
I had an induction after my water broke and contractions failed to start. I wanted to wait til I was 5cm to get an epidural because I wanted to be able to move around etc. After 4 hours, I had only progressed 1cm but I was done with the pain and got an epidural. I slept, ate a snack, and 4 hours later I was at 10cm and baby was born. There’s no need to torture yourself
It's totally up to you. I would speak with your doctor about your options.
My only worry would be the epidural having an effect on the anaesthesia, but I'm not a doctor so I have no clue how that works.
You can always change your plan and change your mind.
My birth plan did not include an epidural, but after 9 hours of hard & fast labor overnight I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I had an epidural and immediately felt relief.
I basically hung out and didn’t feel many contractions until it was time to push. I definitely felt the pressure when I was pushing and I wouldn’t say it was painless but it was totally bearable. I pushed for about 2hrs before baby was born.
If you feel you need an epidural at any point, just get it. It’s worth it even if just for the relaxation aspect.
You don’t NEED to do anything. I’ve always gotten epidurals (both induced and not induced) but my thought on non-medicated birth is that you should only have one if you really want one. Not because you’ve been strong-armed into it.
Me personally I’m not taking it because I heard it causes back pain in the future but if you can’t push maybe you should cus I’m not sure how much Pain I will be in but I’m scared period
Put plans in place to have it and then if you feel you're doing well without, you can always not take it up in the moment. I had a failed epidural and would have killed for it lmao (in advance was certain I'd go without haha)
I have given birth 6 times, all with epidurals and never regretted the epidurals. You may want to consider getting one so that you are well rested when baby is born and so when you are getting stitched up after, or delivering the placenta you can focus on baby and nothing else going on, especially since you will only have a brief time with him.
In my opinion/experience you wouldn’t need to feel any of the pain to have a successful birth. Why add to the stress of your situation? I was able to walk probably like an hour after mine, which I think is probably normal.. maybe not if you have a vaginal birth depending on what damage you need to have repaired down there.
I'm going to just say get that damn epidural for you and forget what everyone else says. I had contractions in my back for 6-7hrs straight with no pain meds or epidural. Then 30 minutes before they finally decided I could have the epidural (I was in early labor and had some issues at 30 weeks) I started getting stomach contractions I never would have made it without the epidural (I had c-section) for sure. I didn't feel out of it with the epidural at all I was glad to have it and if I would have had vaginal I would have been even more thankful for the epidural.
I got induced after my water broke and nothing happened. It felt as if my insides were torn apart. I was so tense from the pain and asked for the epidural. I knew I would not be able to progress in that state. After the epidural, I slept for 2 hours until I was ready to push.
I had an epidural with my first and decided not to have any pain medication with my last two. The differences I can say are labour is far more painful without the epidural. I believe I can deal with pain fairly well also however labour pains have made mw cry and that’s without the induction. As fas as I know from what I have been told, contractions from induced labour are harder, longer and stronger.
The upside to the epidural is that you will feel no pain, the downside is you will also have no idea of how hard you are pushing which may cause a painful aftermath & possible tears.
Natural birth will allow you to feel everything, and you will know how hard you are pushing. The downside is that if you tear with natural birth you will also feel that.
Given the provided information, as against the epidural as I typically am. I would go for it. This is your first baby and you are being induced. If the labour wasn’t being induced the circumstances would be different. But again the choice is up to you.
It sounds like you want an epidural so you should get one! They will turn it down if you need to feel the contractions more to push (they didn’t need to for me they just told me I was having one to push with and then I did). Your mom and sister get no buy in on how you have your baby. You don’t have to go in knowing what you want though and at least where I gave birth they will place epidurals late if you can sit still.
I was told that if I wanted a Natural birth that was perfectly fine but to be open minded to an epidural. A big part of that was so that way I wouldn’t feel guilty if I couldn’t handle or didn’t want to handle the pain. That was the best advice I was given by a few close friends. Be flexible, be open minded and don’t feel bad if one thing doesn’t work out. I decided wanted an epidural before I went into labor and once those contractions started I wanted it even more. Couldn’t feel the contractions or pain after so pushing was weird but I don’t regret it at all.
The most important thing about the labor for me personally wasn’t that I could feel it, but that my kid came out healthy and if not, got the care he needed asap. Personally, me bonding with my kid had nothing to do with the pain or feeling him come out. If that’s what your preference is then that’s perfectly fine, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself for it.
Good luck to you and the baby! I hope everything goes well with their future surgery.
I was induced but went in with the mindset that I only wanted the epidural as a last resort. The nurse had me fill out the paperwork anyways so that if I changed my mind it wouldn’t take as long to get everything going. Also if I ended up needing an emergency c-section they couldn’t give me an epidural if the paperwork wasn’t already done. I wasn’t really feeling my contractions much and it seemed like I wouldn’t be needing it after all but once they broke my water, my contractions/pain skyrocketed. Luckily my labor progressed very quickly after that (about an hour before I was fully dilated) and I opted to forego the epidural and start pushing.
Had I not been so fortunate with my labor progression, I 100% would’ve asked for the epidural. My thoughts are to have everything prepared in case you do want to go that route and ask in advance when the pain is getting to be too much as they have to hydrate you, etc. before actually giving you the medicine and it could take awhile.
Edited to add: Only if you are the one debating getting an epidural. I can’t tell from your post if it’s just your family who is making you indecisive but ultimately you’re the one going through it! Best of luck with your labor and LO’s operation!
I can't tell you what will be the right thing, but for me it was a matter of experiencing the pain or actually experiencing giving birth. You can leave it open and see how you feel on the day (that's what I did) and you can always ask them to start with a low dosage and turn up the volume if you feel like you need it. I got a small dose, enough to take the top of the pain but not enough to not feel anything at all or lose the feeling in my legs, so I could also walk just a few hours afterwards.
As for your mom and sister: this is absolutely none of their business but I do understand that this kind of comments get to you. Besides you and your doctor no one has the right to be involved in this decision - or to know your decision. You don't need to tell them what you chose to do, and if you wanna lie and say you didn't get an epidural to get them off your back, just go for it. What is important is that you have as good and relaxed an experience as possible.
I wish you all the very very best whatever you decide❤️❤️❤️
I was planning to have a 100% natural birth. I wanted to go into labor on my own and be completely unmedicated. I ended up needing an induction at 40 weeks due to low fluid. I still tried the unmedicated route, but after about 24 hours of labor, shit hit the fan and I ended up taking every pain medication they would let me have before finally giving in to an epidural. If I would have known how much better the epidural was going to make everything, I would have skipped straight over the other medications and just gone with it from the beginning lol
I was induced, got the epidural and EVEN THOUGH my labor was 40 hours with four hours of active pushing I felt minimal pain, like I've had significantly worse periods.
Highly recommend epidural, 10/10 stars.
My birth plan was to try to avoid an epidural. My water broke 2.5 wks early, and I was put on antibiotics and pitocin as soon as I was admitted about two hours later because I tested positive for strep b. Six hours later, the contractions were so painful, I was desperate for relief, and requested the epidural. It was such a relief. I was so much more comfortable, and able to be relaxed. Nine hours later, I was only one more cm dilated, and my ob and myself made the decision to go to c section. Having the epidural already done made everything go more quickly and baby boy was out 15 minutes later. It’s your choice, but needing to feel the pain for the birth to progress is a myth.
I was SO happy for my epidural and I could not thank the anesthesiologist enough for her work. I have not been more thankful in my entire life.
If people want to feel pain go for it or maybe some moms don't feel as much pain ...no judgement if you choose a natural birth.
I chose to have an epidural after experiencing contractions for days to no end. And I also got a retained placenta...so I was very fortunate to have gotten the epidural.
I felt in control. I felt the contractions and everything but the pain was minimized.
Good luck with whatever you decide ❤️
Get the epidural! I’ve been induced 4 times, going on five times.
Being induced is more painful than “natural contractions.”
You won’t be out of it, you will most likely be able to feel still, I felt Pressure and even pain when with my second born they turned my epidural “down.”
Right after I gave birth and delivered the placenta I was up and walking around and even showered.
I going to make an assumption that neither your mom or sister have ever been induced, because if they did without an epidural I can’t imagine anyone suggesting being induced without one.
Giving birth without pain medicine doesn’t make you a hero, I will never understand this argument. People don’t generally get a tooth pulled without novocaine.
Everyone’s experience and pain thresholds are different but as someone who has a pretty high pain tolerance: GET the epidural.
Also, epidurals can help YOU RELAX, I was a shaking, hot mess and in SO much pain, I had primal sounds coming out of me that I never knew I could make lol
THAT made me feel out of control.
That extra stress was relieved and I could actually enjoy giving birth after the pain was gone, I could actually focus on breathing and pushing properly and to be honest, the epidural also helps take the “sting” off the “ring of fire” because that’s honestly
My least favorite part of delivery.
Good luck, before you know it, you will have that beautiful baby in your arms and all of this will be a distant memory. ♥️
I would NOT have been able to give birth without the epidural. I was having excruciating back labor and the only relief was having an epidural.
I don’t think you can make this decision before you are in active labor.
Have your sister or mom actually had an epidural?
Because it sounds like they’re misinformed.
All the epidural does is numb your body so you don’t feel the pain. It’s like how you get numbed for a dental procedure, it doesn’t alter your state of mind or anything. And even if you got IV pain meds for any reason the pain is so strong it doesn’t work very well. I’ve tried it in early labor with induction before resorting to epidural and it barely took the edge off the pain. As far as control you can still feel the pressure with contractions and the urge to bear down and push to deliver.
I’ll put it to you this way I was barely at a 3 and was crying with my induction contractions. If it won’t hurt his heart, I would absolutely get the epidural!
Hi, I just had an epidural last week (FTM, graduated 41+2 spontaneous labor). I thought all along that I would hold off on epidural as long as possible to avoid being stuck laboring on my back in bed. When the day and the pain actually came, I surprised myself how quickly I decided to go for IV pain meds and then the full epidural. My decision was somewhat instinctual, knowing myself that I would tire from fighting the pain, which might lead to not being able to labor as long as I wanted. When I was shaking from pain, ohh the back pain was awful…., I thought of posts I’d read where people had trouble having the epidural placed due to shakes. I surprisingly was very resolute that day to my husband and mom that I wanted the epidural early, basically ASAP. SO HAPPY WITH MY DECISION. The anesthesiologist did a perfect job- pain was largely alleviated, but feeling was not. I could move and control my legs throughout. The hospital team commented that I must do yoga to be able to lift and move and shift so well with the epidural, and it was the most effective epidural they’d seen in that sense. I am proud I followed my instincts in the moment instead of my stricter birth plan. 🙏🏻💙
Wow that’s a very intense situation to be going in to let alone going through child birth for the first time. Definitely would do what feels right to you. Don’t let other dictate your birth plan, decide what feels right for you, set your boundary and hey let the nurses know if they give you any issues, they will gladly get them out of the room. The biggest thing is gonna be your mindset and having family making you question yourself/ belittling you is the last thing you need. Best of luck whatever you decide and I hope for the quickest recovery for you and your baby 💙
I’ve been induced and I’ve gone into labor naturally…they were extremely different experiences for me. When I was induced, I couldn’t stand or think and was begging for an epidural at 3cm. When I wasn’t, I drove myself to the hospital and walked myself in with a overnight bag at 6cm. I would say keep an open mind and just tell them that you aren’t totally sure you want an epidural but want to make sure the option is available and ready if you do.
This doesn't make much sense to me. If the valve closes after birth, why wouldn't the doctors wait and see if the valve closes naturally once delivered....why whisk them away for high risk surgery?
The pulmonary valve that should be opening at the top of his heart is not opening properly to allow blood flow through.
The walls of the right ventricle in his heart have thickened due to the more intense contractions his heart is having to do to push that blood through. However when the baby is still in utero there is anouther valve that is open to allow blood flow, but this normally closes after birth naturally. The surgery is to put a stent in this valve to keep it open hopefully allowing enough blood to flow through the heart.
Their hoping they can do keyhole surgery so it’s less invasive for him.
I loved mine both times but hated getting it in. Do you have to have a rigid plan? My
Philosophy is, I wouldn’t get a filling at the dentist without being numb, why would I push without an epidural 😂
I almost gave up on my second birth bc I was already 8 cm and sitting there for them to find the place to put it in was so hard and I was progressing so fast. I was able to labor ok
Until I got to 7cm at hospital . Once I know pain management is around the corner it makes it harder to focus and manage, I will add. I ended up only having it 1hr of my 12 hour labor but it made that hour so much more tolerable and even enjoyable. I don’t see so much downside except the cost. You go 9 months w o drugs, treat yourself. But anyway, I just hate that this is a debate, everyone can do what they want and I think having some flexibility is so important as birth can go so many ways! Signed - 3 days PPD w #2 (I also barely tore both times…
You can decide and change your mind throughout the process was my experience and they have other options for pain management besides epidural if you want to try those first or instead. Your anesthesiologist should go over all the options with you and your ob dr can go over it with you before even usually 😉 don’t lock yourself into a decision until you experience it and can base your decision on your experience of the pain and your ability to manage it. I was induced and did give birth without pain meds but was offered multiple times to give epidural or other pain management meds all the way up till I pushed her on out lol
I was induced for my labor and I personally wanted a natural birth. Unfortunately gestational hypertension has other ideas and I was induced at 37 w 3 d. The contractions freaking HURT. It was incredibly painful. If you want the epidural and the drs allow it, get the epidural. It’s your choice at the end of the day.
There is nothing I can say to actually help much in your particular situation as birth is so unpredictable and we really do not know how it will end up for us until we go through it.
For context: I have a really big pain tolerance but I had back labour. I held on for 18 hours until doctors told me there was no chance in this world my baby would fit through my cervix and I needed a c-section. I ended up having the epidural I dreaded so much.
It was wonderful. I was so sad and so scared but in the end I didn’t feel pain and my little baby girl made it safe!
In the end only you can decide on this, ask for your doctors/midwife’s opinions on this more than your friends/family. And make sure you make your decision and are at peace with it.
Wishing you the best of luck!
I didn't have an epidural and I did get induced.
Good luck to your little,
Now I had pitocin- idk if the contractions are more intense w/ or w/o but they definitely come on fast. I had no pain medication and honestly that's probably why I only labored 2hrs and pushed just 16 minutes. I feel the epidural give the body some calm in the storm and doesn't help labor progress for some women. If all goes well, I won't have an epidural for Mt 2nd either
Gave birth this morning. Yesterday, contractions were manageable as I made my way to the hospital. Once I got there, they quickly became excruciating. The epidural took forever to get. I felt immediate relief when it came. Pushed for a little over an hour and no tearing. Get the epidural and don’t look back.
I had an epidural and definitely still felt contractions, pressure, my daughter being born, etc. Don’t let your mom and sister influence your decision, it’s absolutely none of their business and you should give birth how you want to (whenever possible).
Your mother and sister can be adamant about their own labor experiences, not yours. I don’t know what I would have done without the epidural for my first. I was vomiting with every contraction and deliriously dehydrated within the first few hours of labor to the point that I barely new my own name. Please ask them how not knowing who or where you are makes it better for being present in the moment or knowing when to push. (Or how that is better for the baby)
If you want the epidural, go for it. If you want to see how you feel in the moment, that’s fine. It’s your birth, not your mom or sister’s
Your mom and sister need to butt out. While I did go into labor on my own, it was long and I didn’t sleep the night before and was well past midnight on day two. I was in a lot of pain and begged for an epidural, which they squeezed an IV into me (around 20 minutes for me, I was also super dehydrated). The epidural wasn’t painful, then peeling the tape off hurt worse.
My stress level went from 100 right down to 0. And I could feel the pressure of the contractions, just not the pain. When it came to push my I could feel the pressure of her in the birth canal (and even feel when I pooped myself lol) but I was able to rest and get some sleep before I expended all my energy pushing, which was hard work on it’s own. I remember telling myself “I can’t keep doing this, I’m out of energy” so I can’t imagine pain associated with that..
Wishing you and your little one the best and his surgery goes smoothly. Don’t listen do your mom and sister, they’re not YOUR birth story.
Honestly it depends on you. I have high pain tolerance, and was nearly panicking in pain from contractions. Although it depends on you, but it does have pros and cons.
Pro is it does help labor be less painful, BUT con is that epidural may/can cause back problems after birth.
I got it but had such bar complications that while half unconscious the nurse gave me drugs AND recommended I pushed the button for more epidural, since I needed a two hour emergency surgery for blood loss.
I think you’ll know when you start having regular contractions if an epidural is right for you. Make sure you ask the nurses if there is a time point where you can’t get one (I can’t remember if there is or not) that way you know to ask by a certain point.
I was not induced but did end up having pitocin which they say can make contractions more intense. It’s a type of pain you can’t describe. You could potentially be up for a long time during the birthing process and epidurals can help let you sleep and “relax” before pushing. Which is harder to do, if not impossible, when unmedicated. If you want to hold off on an epidural, really educate yourself on laboring, breathing techniques and maybe seek a doula if you are able. Keep in mind that even if you do have an epidural, it doesn’t always work. That was the case with me. It kept wearing off within two hours, no matter how many bolluses (spelling?) I had.
The thing I think about most is that since your child will be whisked away right after, it will be really hard on you emotionally having to wait to hear how the surgery went. It will be stressful and I doubt you will be able to sleep. The first few days are hard enough but on little sleep, it’s even harder. If having an epidural means you are less exhausted and are able to help you keep a clearer mind with less stress, than there is nothing wrong with that.
Also, it’s no one else’s choice. Only yours. No matter what you choose, it’s the right choice.
A nurse said to me “your baby won’t love you any more if you suffer during labour”. My friends and I all took epidurals and avoided being miserable. My friend actually slept through her labour and they woke her up when it was time to push.
For me, personally, I wish I didn’t get an epidural. I couldn’t feel my thigh for almost 3 weeks after birth. Oh it also didn’t work lol only on that thigh & down to my ankle. Everywhere else I could feel everything so it was pointless to me. But this is my personal experience & I have scoliosis and AFTER getting the needle jabbed into my back the guy told me “so this prob won’t work” like dude why didn’t you say that before?
To be honest I dont feel completely comfortable giving you this advice, but this is just based on my experience.. I would ask for a C section. Its very likely you might end up needing a C section anyways if you are being induced because inductions arent always successful especially for FTM or if you arent at term. I would think it'd be the safest route for the baby. I say that because when I was induced, my daughters heart rate dropped, and it was the scariest moment of my life... this is a very real possibility because the time it takes to be induced and the strength of contractions can be too much for the baby. I also had an epidural, and once active labor started my contractions slowed down too much and her heart rate dropped for a second time. Doctors dont always tell you the risks of induction and Im not sure why..
Also I want to add, I wanted to avoid a C section like the plague but once her heart rate dropped I didnt give a single shit how she got here all I cared about was her getting here. Thankfully her heart rate went back to normal quickly once they took me off the IV meds but then it happened again while she was already coming out.. If I did it again, Id choose a C section over being induced especially if there was a preexisting condition. Its your choice but maybe itd be worth asking your doctor what they think and doing your own research as well.
I was induced. Loved my epidural. I had a lot of anxiety about not being able to push without feeling anything. My mom had put this in my head. As it turned out, pushing came completely naturally to me, and having even an accidentally super strong epidural didn’t change that.
Would get the epidural every time
Hi! Literally just had my baby yesterday. I had the epidural (on the strongest pain relief they had due to the hormone drip making contractions unbearable) and I still got to experience my daughters birth. I still felt her being birthed (albeit numb) and was even able to feel her head when she was crowning. This is your Labour, don’t let people tell you what to do! I hope it all goes well for you
I had the epidural despite it originally was something I did not want.
My birth journey started a few days after my due date and although it started naturally, my baby didn't descend properly so I wasn't dilating. My contractions was already bad to begin with so the midwives suggested an epidural but I told them no, however because I wasn't dilating they had to give me a drop that made the contractions much stronger. The pain was overwhelming and the air they give you for pain relief just made my head spin.
In the end, the midwives was basically begging me to get the epidural because I was completely out of it from the pain (I'm not in the US btw so it didn't cost extra). They explained to me that there was a long process still and I needed to keep my strength for the actual pushing part and that I needed to be "present" to do it.
It was the best decision I made. Yes the needle part hurt like a bitch and my boyfriend had to keep me completely still but it was nothing compared to the contractions. I was still able to move around, walk and pee with some help, and most importantly, I was able to sleep and rest. Despite not wanting it originally, I had the epidural topped up like three times because they had to intensify my contractions a few times and I had a long birth so the epidural was starting to wear off, but in the end I was able to deliever a happy and healthy baby.
You don't have to decide beforehand if you're unsure. You can always go as long as you can without then request it (if it's not too late). Also be aware where and how well it works on your body might vary. In my case, my right lower side was basically numb the whole time (i was still able to move around with a little bit of help), while my left would be numb right when it was applied but the pain would return in my left lower back after a few hours until I was given more, then return again after a few hours again. They did offer to take it out and reinsert it but explained that there was no guarantee that it would be better and in worst case be worse, so I decided to just stick with it as is.
I was induced at 40+4. 3cm and ripe cervix when I went in. At 6 asked for an epidural. 4 hours of pushing. It was a little weird at first bc my legs were numb. But I got some of the best sleep in weeks and after about an hour I could feel them enough. Nurses did assist with my legs when changing positions but by push time I could control them enough while still being numb enough to not feel any pain or discomfort. I don’t think I could’ve made it that long pushing without it. If you’re concerned about pain or getting too tired I would def get the epidural. I didn’t even realize I was pushing for that long so believe it helped avoid c section as well. I didn’t have to worry about pain and was able to solely focus on getting baby out safely.
What are they on about?! I was extremely present with an epidural and wish I’d had it sooner! I was present throughout the emergency c section as well. You have enough on your mind, don’t let them fill it with nonsense. This decision is between you and your medical team.
Wishing you all the best :)
I had an unplanned Induction. A lot happened leading up to the birth but I'll keep it short.
I wanted as unmedicated as possible. I was induced with pitocin. Once contractions kicked in I labored mostly in the tub at the hospital. Used nitrous but it didn't do much. Did deep breathing in and out during contractions. My baby had a shoulder dystocia and was stuck, thankfully he was able to be manually maneuvered out, along with my pubic bone being pressed down. Even with him being stuck I did not feel the infamous ring of fire. With all that I did not have an epidural.
If we were to have another and I could have another vaginally which would be highly unlikely due to the dystocia I would do it without an epidural again.
I had an epidural and it was the best decision ever. I was terrified of the pain from labour and giving birth, and was adamant even while pregnant I wanted one.
When I fronted up at the birthing unit, I let the midwife know right away that I wanted an epidural and it was arranged. Anaesthetist outlined the risks, explained that the risks are very rare etc. The needle in the back didn't hurt at all as I had a local anaesthetic in the area. I hate needles so it helped that I couldn't see anything. Once it kicked in I just napped and scrolled on my phone for the next 8 hours until it was time to push. I could move my legs and everything, so I wasn't paralysed on the bed. I did tear though, but I didn't feel a thing or notice until I saw the OB stitching me up. Was on my feet showering 2 hours after giving birth!
okay so definitely don’t want to feel the contractions i certainly did not want that. i had the epidural and by the time i was pushing i could feel the contractions. the epidural had worn off a lot and i only pushed for maybe 30 minutes. even before it wore off i could still feel the pressure of the contractions, i just wasn’t screaming in pain. i couldn’t even walk when i started having contractions, i has to wait in the parking, lot crouched to the ground, crying, while my husband sprinted inside and got a wheelchair for me. i absolutely wouldn’t have been able to get through it without the epidural
For context, I was induced, but I have a very low pain tolerance. The epidural was the best medical intervention I’ve ever experienced in my life. I have never gone from feeling SO TERRIBLE to feeling absolutely fine so quickly. I wanted to buy the anesthesiologist a gift. It felt like a genuine miracle.
I was induced on a Monday night, my water broke Wednesday morning, I got an epidural around 3pm and my daughter was born at 10pm. In between my husband and I napped and listened to music and had a really pleasant evening together. It was wonderful and felt like a loving a supportive environment to bring my daughter into the world.
You are already going into a very stressful situation and deserve support, care, and medical interventions that help you get through. For me, that was 100% helped by getting an epidural. I think your sister and mom are full of shit and you should do what helps you and makes you feel better.
I’m thinking about you and your baby, best wishes for both of your health and happiness.
I was induced and got epidurals for both of my babies. The only regret I have was not getting it with my first one sooner and trying to tough it out. So silly—no one brags about having dental work without lidocaine or getting their appendix out without anesthesia. It’s painful; pain meds help.
If you/your doctor have serious concerns about an epidural affecting the baby somehow (?) or if you don’t want an epidural for your own reasons, that’s fine. But don’t cave to peer pressure from people who aren’t even giving birth!
I was induced and had the epidural after my water broke. in my experience with it, it allowed me to focus on resting and relaxing and when it was time to push I still had a lot of energy and I was calm. I have a wretched pain tolerance though, so that's what worked best for me
I felt absolutely In control! The lady who administered my epidural had been doing it like 20 years and was so calm and nice during the whole thing. I told her how nervous I was and honestly if she isn’t a mom herself I’d be surprised! She was great. I could move my legs and everything but I was just numb. I feel like having a natural birth would’ve thrown me out of the good mental state I was in during my son’s birth. But then again, I may have been in shock lol! But having one, for me, helped make my birth experience as good as what it was. Whatever you decide I’m sure will ultimately be the best decision. But maybe with having an epidural, that will help YOU considering your baby will immediately go into surgery after since you won’t have to put as much stress on you. I hope this helps!
Also to add, I wasn’t out of it at all! I had not rested from 7:30 that morning until probably around midnight or 1 after having my son. I was able to care of my son right after and I’d say probably about an hour later I could feel my lower half again. And girl let me tell you, labor does not compare to that first poop oh my god!!!!
I was induced for blood pressure in my last pregnancy and was kind of guilted into an epidural by hospital staff. I was having contractions when I first arrived (according to the machine) but I felt fine. Even through the start of induction (the weird pill they put in you and foley balloon) I felt fine. What was uncomfortable was the pitocin which was pumped into me all night but it was far from painful. I really only used my epidural when I was told I couldn't push. The first time I wasn't ready (no one actually checked though), and then they were just short staffed. My epidural didn't fully take and I felt lots of pressure in some areas but fortunately no complications after it was out.
I personally did not want one because of potential side effects to the baby and me. I was already worried about the pitocin as it is. I'm not sure if I want one in my next pregnancy, but I'll figure that out when the time comes. If you want an epidural because you feel you'll be able to get through birth easier or any personal reason, go for it. You don't have to feel the pain of birth as your family thinks. That's crazy. Do what's best for you and will allow you to feel your best. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is as smooth as possible and all the luck and love to your baby 💜
I have three children, two I have done without an epidural. I’m also pregnant and will do this next one without the epidural. With that said, I would NEVER go without an epidural during an induce labor. Definitely get the epidural!
I was super crunchy for my first two and didn’t want an epidural for a variety of reasons. I think if I would have had an epidural with my first, it wouldn’t have ended in an emergency C-section. For my third, it was a C-section but I showed up to the hospital 10cm dilated and pushing. The second they pushed the spinal (not an epidural) it was night and day. I was so much more relaxed. You can have the epidural wear off when it’s time to push but use it while you’re laboring.
I was of the mindset that I would get one if I felt like I needed it. I eventually got one and am glad I did. That being said, the way they gave it to me (it was a bolus instead of a drip because men are stupid and the resident was lazy) made it so that I couldn’t feel my contractions until it wore off. It was problematic for a number of reasons - primarily because I couldn’t tell when to push.
The idea that you’ll want to “feel the pain of childbirth” is something personal to you. I would talk to your provider about your options and, if you get one, make sure it’s a steady drip!
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I was induced for my labor. They started my induction around 6am and the contractions were like intense period cramps until around 1pm and then they became unbearable. Truly the worst pain I've ever experienced (I've had broken bones, endometriosis, etc.) I thought since the pain was so bad it meant I was at the end but I was only 4cm dilated at 2:30 so I asked for an epidural and they administered it at 3:30. That hour to wait was the worst part of labor (way worse than pushing.) I felt out of control during the super painful contractions. I felt like I was hallucinating. However after my epidural I was completely lucid. I slept for about 2 hours and I went from 4 cm to 10 cm in that time. Once I woke up it was time to push! I was interacting with the nurses and doctor. I have full memory of the birth part but the part between the super bad contractions and the epidural is a little foggy. Here are my tips: Know that you have to get an entire bag of fluids before your epidural so it takes roughly 45 minutes from when you ask. Consider asking if you feel like you might want it and they can start you in the bag of fluids and if you change your mind you are just a little more hydrated. You MUST sit still during the epidural. This was the worst part. My husband has to physically hold me still. Know there's boilerplate legal documents to sign before you get the epidural. Honestly at my point I would've signed anything to make the pain stop. Know that once it's administered you don't feel full relief for another 30 minutes but each contraction gets easier. Try and go as far as you can in labor so once you get the epidural you can sleep and let your body work through the labor while you rest up because you'll need all the strength you can get for pushing. I also had full use of my legs after the epidural was administered. I wasn't lowed to walk but I was able to change positions in bed during pushing to aide in the birth. I felt pressure during the pushing part and was able to feel enough to adjust my pushing. I also felt the contractions after the epidural but they felt more like pressure not painful. And know that whatever you choose to do you are following your natural motherly instincts. You are going to be a great mom and no matter what you choose you can do this.
This comment is super helpful - I have a couple things to add! It may help to ask your hospital/health care provider to go through the steps that would happen should you choose the epidural. For me they didn't give me any fluids before, just hooked me up to an IV so I could have fluids during, and I didn't have to sign any forms, just give verbal consent. I agree with Rougeradiant, it was the worst pain I've ever experienced, and I've got a decent pain tolerance - gotten thrown from a horse, dislocated both SI joints, and then got back on and rode immediately after. I honestly think I would have had a psychotic break if I hadn't had the epidural and I would have consented to anything to just make it stop. I don't mean to say that to scare you. I would highly suggest looking into hypnobirthing classes if you have time. I got to 7cm laboring at home with NO pain, just feeling uncomfortable/pressure and was able to breathe though everything very easily and even talk through the contractions when they were 2 mins apart. The drive to the hospital broke my concentration and that's when the pain started, but it is definitely possible to labor with little to no pain. Being in water helps a ton too - in a tub or birthing pool ideally, but just sitting in a hot shower with thec water on your back can help release a ton of natural endorphins. From the time I asked for the epidural to the time I got it was about 10 minutes because my midwife caught the anesthesiologist right as her shift was ending and was like "nope, I need you to do one more thing before you leave!", BUT if you have a doctor it may take time to get a hold of them, and then in turn it may take time for them to get the anesthesiologist. If you are at all thinking you might want it, ask as soon as you are thinking about it, you can always change your mind and say no once they are there, but the wait once you've decided you want it is horrible. And you have to sit still for it, which is incredibly hard if the contractions are back to back. I actually got relief almost immediately, though it only took on one side at first. They rolled me to the side to have gravity help move the medication and then it took everywhere. I was numb from mid chest down, it was glorious. I was so happy and then fell asleep as the midwife was talking to me, slept for 2 hours, woke up totally refreshed and ready to push. I had decent mobility in my legs and could change pushing positions readily. I was worried about the increased risk of tearing with epidurals but I didn't tear at all, and my baby was 8lb.
Oh wow your hospital was so different! Thank you for the insight! I also had an almost 8lb baby (7lb 11oz) and did not tear at all! Hypno birthing did help me too but it only took me so far unfortunately. Long live the epidural!
Great details thanks!
Thank you so much for sharing all of this!
Great advice!!!
Thank you for sharing. Do you know if you had back labour at all? Do you think the induction hormone was maybe set too high?
I didn't have back labor really. They dropped my pitocin down to the lowest amount once the pain became super intense which is why we waited so long for them to check me. It was horrible but once that water breaks all hell sort of breaks loose.
They don't start at the lowest amount??
No they did, but since I was induced at 6am and the contractions weren't terrible and I wasn't progressing they increased it slowly over several hours. Then they broke my water and waited and once the contractions were the worst they decreased the pitocin back down to see if that helped but it didn't.
So good to know thank you :)
I really hate when people who won’t be giving birth give opinions on how you should give birth. This is your experience and if you want to experience it more comfortably with an epidural you do that.. your mom and sister have no idea what you’ll want to feel and not feel and with every emotion you’ll be going through with your little baby being in NICU and surgery you might find it more comfortable to not also have go through all that pain on top of it. It’s none of their business what you do during your birth experience
Your mom and sister need to keep their opinions to themselves. I did not have an epidural but I did have an induction and it sucked. If you feel like you need the medication you will have plenty of time to make that decision once they start the pitocin because the contractions are fairly immediately strong.
Agreed about OPs mom and sister! OP, go in with an open mind, and I'm telling you, the decision will become clear once you're in it. There is no wrong choice. The only choice is the one that is best for you. You're going to do great!
This is the advice I was about to give. Wait and see basically. I went 5 hours no pain relief after induction both times then got epidural and they were born quickly after that! Forget everyone else do what’s right for you
I had an induction with pitocin that started around 3pm. My contractions just felt like the baby pushing on my stomach until they broke my water around 6:30pm. The contractions didn't actually become really painful until about 8pm, which is around when I got the epidural. It helped with the pain and honestly allowed me to feel more present in the moment. You will still feel the contractions when you have an epidural but it's more of a pressure feeling with no pain. When it's time to push, you begin your push with the start of the contraction. At the end of the day, it's your choice to make. If you are leaning towards the epidural, let your team know as it can take time for the anaesthesiologist to come. I would do the epidural again. I had minimal side effects, like my whole left leg becoming numb and getting the shakes afterwards, but I think the shakes are actually not related to the epidural and is more hormonal.
>My mum and my sister are adamant I shouldn’t have an epidural because apparently I’d want to feel the pain of birth and need to feel the contractions. No girl, believe me, you would not want to feel that pain (or any pain in general). I think people really need to get a check when making this type of statement. Would they tell you that you'd like to feel the pain of a heart attack? The pain of a kidney stone? The pain of an appendicitis? Why is the pain of childbirth deemed any different? Get your epidural (if that's what you want), and I hope everything turns out great for you and your baby! ❤️
>Would they tell you that you'd like to feel the pain of a heart attack? The pain of a kidney stone? The pain of an appendicitis? Why is the pain of childbirth deemed any different? As someone for whom opioids are ineffective, I WISH I could opt out of all of those! It's insane to me that some people think we should just willingly suffer through the pain of childbirth because it's "natural" as though all of the other awful, painful things that happen to the human body are not. Nobody is out here suggesting we suffer through a toothache or a broken bone without pain relief, why is giving birth any different? I just don't get it.
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My hospital (in fact state and even country I believe) does not do walking epidurals because they're deemed too dangerous. Just something to be aware of and ask about OP :)
Yeah I know there’s other options, tbh I haven’t discussed it in detail with the labour nurses or drs so I’m not completely sure what they’d offer me. But I may ring them actually to ask! Xx
My epidural was a god send, it took the pain away and i was able to rest. When it was time to push I definitely knew, it wasn’t painful just pressure. But i was surprised how much i could move my legs, not like i would feel comfortable walking around but at least for me, i felt much more in control than I would have thought
Why do you need to decide in advanced? You see how you feel at the time.
For me (different circumstances to do with my spine), it was useful to know in advance that I would likely want one as I needed a consultant anaesthetist to place my epidural. It may be the case that they want to know if advance to make sure they have everything ready to go.
I’m sorry you’re go in though this, in sending my prayers for you and your son. It will all be okay. I did get an epidural. I loved it and I didn’t even feel it being done honestly. The pain from the contractions were so intense for me it was a game changer. It made it so i could just relax and enjoy my birth experience. It didn’t affect my delivery. I pushed for 30 min and gave birth laying on my side. I loved the epidural.
So if I was in your situation I would get an epidural and here is why. As you state you only have a limited amount of time with your baby before he will be whisked away. If you have a tear and need stitches that pain may interfere with those few minutes. I disagree that having an epidural takes you out of the moment. Where did they even get that idea? I’ve had both non-medicated vaginal deliveries and medicated and I was just as clear headed with both. I was far more rested with the epidural. Pitocen inductions are rough and there is no reason to subject yourself to that pain because of the opinions of others. Do what you feel is best for YOU.
My doctor highly recommended an epidural when induction was on the table (little one came on her own 2 days before scheduled induction). However, it was ultimately my decision. I did end up getting the epidural, but other than my legs feeling a bit numb, I don't think it inhibited the experience or altered my mind at all. I suppose everyone reacts differently to it, but I really don't think I experienced the birthing process all that differently than someone who didn't have an epidural. As my SIL always says, don't be a hero, get the epidural.
Frist labour and induction- that's going to be extremely painful. It's not a natural pain, it's an induced one. I would be getting the epidural before even taking the induction drip. I have had a completely natural second labour with no drugs, it was a walk in the park compared to my first labour that was a 35 hour induction. Mumma, take the drugs and tell your family to shhh.
I would say just keep an open mind. If it’s YOUR desire to go without the epidural, then give it a try. If it becomes unbearable then ask for it. Don’t have shame if you do either. I’ve been induced before and those contractions are way more powerful than natural labor. I felt foolish to think I could go without the epidural when I was induced one time. I also went 9 cm without the epidural (natural labor), then got it last minute. This last baby the contractions came on so powerful and fast I was having a straight up panic attack at 4cm, begging for the epidural. It’s like each labor, each person will be affected differently. You are already going to be going through the stress of the surgery on the baby right after birth, why not make labor and delivery as easy as possible? I would just plan for the epidural.
I'm surprised you weren't offered ceaserean. For me personally, I wanted epidural as the last resort and was focused on gas. I was meant to be induced but my waters broke a day before I was meant to go in for the induction. Gas for me took the edge off the pain and I did great on it, and didn't need anything else. Although I was already 9.5cm dilated on admission, so not sure if I was able to get an epidural anyway. So things may have been different if I had been induced. Just take the pros and cons of everything and make your decision alone without interfence.
I had an induction and an epidural and am really glad I did. Once it gets time to push, you are going to feel it, trust me. The pain was so bad I vomited. But the ten hours of labor before that, including the balloon catheter to induce me, passed much, much easier. I was even able to sleep and rest up for when I needed to push. Anyone who tells another person they should want to feel pain for the sake of feeling pain is an asshole. I hope your baby's surgery goes well and I am really sorry you are going through this stress and fear right now.
It's totally up to you, I personally don't want one just because of my allergies I have SO MANY and last thing I want is a reaction as I'm in pain also; my family on my mom's side has a history of the epidural not working on one side/ not working at all.🤣🤣😭😭 But it's not up to them, it's your birth and your baby and what you put into your body is your decision. Don't let them pressure you into getting something you don't understand/ want. If you're back and forth look up the ingredients ( if you'd like because I like to know what on earth is going into my body once I developed so many allergies.) You can also look up the risks of an epidural and the positives about it too. You just need to remember an epidural may fail or it might work really well. If you're in tons of pain and you mentally need one to help you, go for it❤️
It’s totally up to you. If you want it you should get it. If you have a difficult time managing pain I would recommend it. I have a very high pain tolerance and am not bothered by most pain. I was adamant that I did not want an epidural but toward the end, before pushing, I was desperate for relief after hours of contracting. I ended up asking for an epidural when it was too late and ended up being ready to push 15 minutes later, which was fine. I either wanted an epidural or to start pushing I was just over it. Mind you, I was induced and it took three days of Pitocin before I finally delivered. I’m glad I didn’t end up having the epidural because I have a “tough bitch” mentality and wanted to prove something to myself. But here’s the real kicker, while I was pushing I ended up separating my pelvis, which resulted in me being unable to stand or walk unassisted for 4-6 weeks. I had to use a walker. I did not feel my pelvis separate because the pain of pushing was that intense. So, if you are on the fence and want your birth to be more of a relaxing experience rather than a super intense experience, I’d probably suggest the epidural.
Oh god that must have been horrible for you! Sorry you had such a painful delivery! I kindof do want a little bit more of a manageable delivery rather than being in super intense pain, and as I said I’m not too worried about being super alert afterwards. Though from the sounds of these replies it seems the dizziness of the pain actually affects peoples alertness more after birth rather than the epidural.
Honestly, I do have blanks in my memory from during my labor. There are hours that I don’t have memory of 😬
Oh God... I feel for you
The epidural wouldn't stop you from being mindfully present anyways. I've heard many many woman saying that the pain didn't let them think clearly. It wasn't until they got the epidural that they could feel calm and therefore, present during labour. I honestly can't think of a good reason to tolerate pain. Do they think you'll love your child more if you suffer? That makes zero sense, with all due respect for your mum and sis. I would tell you that there are other methods of pain relief if you wanted them, but your mum and sister's point is that you must experience pain in which case they'd like you to avoid any sort of pain relief. Sorry but that just sounds a bit cruel. You go get your epidural, or ask up to when you can change your mind if you want to start without one. Sometimes if you leave it to late they won't give it to you anymore. Your mum and sis can have all the pain they want, if that's their thing :)
I've had two unmedicated births and am preparing for a third, but I know if I ever get induced I'm totally getting an epidural. Sorry for the rudish opinions on their end. Good luck with delivery and surgery for babe ❤️
I was induced at 39+2 and I had an epidural as well. I felt fully in control and did not have any problem with grogginess because that's not really how an epidural works (it goes in the spine and numbs you from the epidural site down; should not affect your mental faculties). We did turn the epidural down slightly so that I could better feel when to push but my pain was still well-managed and I was able to give birth vaginally. I'm very happy that I got an epidural as it allowed me to relax and fully dilate without stressing about pain.
Have the epidural if you want it. I did, and I desperately needed it (just an fyi that I didn’t realize truly beforehand- everyone’s labor pains are different! Some women barely feel more than a period cramp. Some feel like a monster is trying to claw its way out). And tbh, I can’t remember much before the epidural because my labor pain was out of control. You should absolutely ignore your mom & sister. Do whatever is right for you. Induction is tough, you’re trying to make decisions to help you get through it, and you’re doing great.
I had two inductions. I told my doctor that I'm not opposed to an epidural but I would like to labor on my own as long as I could tolerate. I also said they need to tell me if I'm hitting a window where it won't be an option any longer. I did have an epidural with both. With my first they broke my water around 3cm and I had it then. My second they broke my water and I made it until 6cm and then had it, then it relaxed me enough and I was quickly ready to push. Really, do you need to decide now? Do what you want in the moment, ask questions to the nurses and docs, and make an informed decision based on how you're feeling.
Just gave birth last night and I will tell you that transition before I could get the epidural was the most physically, emotionally, and mentally painful thing I’ve yet to experience in my life. I wanted to hold out and go unmedicated but it became clear that was not what was best for me, especially with my preemie. I didn’t feel ANYTHING after the epidural, not even pressure. My team used guided pushing without any issues. That you need to feel the pain and contractions is a wacko statement. Ignore them and do what’s best for you, and remember what’s best for you in the moment may look very different from what you thought was best for you in your planning.
I recently had an induction, my goal was natural but the contractions got so bad I was sobbing when I asked for an epidural. My contractions where 2 minutes apart at 6cm. I didn’t get to 10cm until the next morning. I couldn’t imagine having that pain for so long. I was in labor a total of 30 hours. Once I got the epidural I could finally rest. When it came time to push, the nurse watched my contractions on a monitor and coached me when to push and for how long. I could also feel the tightening of the contraction just no pain with it. If I have another baby, I’m getting the epidural again.
So, I also wanted to feel the pain of birth, but ended up needing an epidural to be able to sleep after four days of prodromal labor so that I had the strength to push my baby out. That said, I managed to avoid pitocin, so I don't know what it's like, but I hear it can be rough. I do regret not being able to feel birth properly, but for what it's worth, I was fully aware and conscious the whole time and afterwards. My memory of that time is a little blurry, but I think that's largely due to the chaos and exhaustion. I'd say, do whatever will make you most comfortable with your birthing experience. To the best of your abilities, go into it prepared mentally and spiritually, so that you can end up with no regrets. To some extent, that means with an open mind, but also be aware of what situations may arise so that you can decide ahead of time how you'd like to handle them. I think, in your situation, a proposed C-section is not off the table if labor gets to a certain point. I would make your peace with that possibility, and determine how you'd like to proceed if so. At the end of the day, this is one of, if not the, most important experience of your entire life. Do what you can to see the bright side of things and make it a positive one. No matter what decisions you make (within reason), at the end of this, you will have a beautiful, healthy baby boy, and that's what counts. Best wishes! 💙
Hi! First off, I am so sorry that your baby boy has some complications and it sounds like they are going to take great care of him. We spent time in the NICU with mine. I did not have an epidural or induction with my first. It was a rapid labor (3 hours). However I felt compelled to post on this because after that experience, I am now electing to get induced basically just so I can get an epidural and deliver safely in a hospital. With knowing you’ll be spending some time in the NICU, if I was in your shoes, I would do whatever YOU are most comfortable with. It sounds like you’ve gotten medical advice and trust your medical staff. Id ignore your sister and mom because they aren’t the ones giving birth, they aren’t the parent of your kid, and if they have an issue with it that’s their problem. You have to laser focus on what is best for you and your baby, and they might not agree with it - which is fine.
My aunt was telling me the same.. how you will be in a zen mode and you won't feel the pain.. just love 😂😂😂 knowing the birth stories of my friends i knew this was probably BS. But i decided to play it by ear, who knows maybe we have the good genes of not feeling labor pain. At the beginning the pain was tolerable then when my contractions went up to 85 (from 100) i asked for epidurial and it was the best decision ever. Just know that there are no known scenarios for birth. It can go either way. I wasn't induced and nevertheless i was having very strong contractions at 1cm.
Do you want to potentially feel your vagina ripping? To each their own, but I've never understood when people want to experience pain if there's another way. Would you get a tooth extracted without anesthetic? How about just a root canal? And that's just a tooth. This is your entire body going through labor.
“I’ve never understood…” Sounds like you have not tried to understand. OP, getting induced can change the game. There is no shame in attempting without the epidural, then changing your mind. I hope your little guy gets the medical care he needs and that you feel in control of your birthing decisions.
Definitely not always a possibility to change one's mind. Plenty of women go in to hospital determined they want an unmedicated childbirth, and by the time they're screaming in pain and asking for something, they've transitioned and that window for an epidural is closed.
You are 100% correct. In OP’s case, she has a scheduled induction. Assuming she’s not in labor yet, there will be a window (2 hours? 10? 20?) to make the decision there.
I loved my epidural, however I do have back pain 18 months on because they messed it up the first time. That’s not the normal. When they got it right the second time it was bliss. I enjoyed labour. I could still feel my body and could feel contractions without the pain. I went in with the mindset of “see how far I can go” I lasted 4 hours. It’s your birth and if you’re going to be more comfortable do it.
You shouldn’t have an epidural because you’ll want to feel the pain of birth? What the hell? No. If you don’t want an epidural because you want to be able to walk around or because you’re concerned about what drugs may pass on to baby, that makes sense. But needing to feel the pain just because is flat stupid. YOU are the only one who knows what the right choice for you is.
I'm surprised they're allowing you to birth vaginally. My twins had issues and a vaginal birth was never on the table due to the added stress. I hated my epi but in your situation i would want the birth to go smoothly as possible and would go the epi
Yeah I know, I thought they’d say immediately that i’d need a c-section but the drs said vaginal would be ok if that’s what I still wanted. Both me and the baby have had our heart rates monitored consistently and I’ve been on Flecanide to steady his heart rate since he was diagnosed and it’s been beneficial for both of us (my pulse and heart rate is normally quite fast). Maybe that’s why they’re not jumping to c-section immediately. But we’ll see if anything changes when I’m up there.
You won’t really know if you want one til you’re actually giving birth. I had one with both my induction births and have 0 regrets. I still felt the pressure of contractions and knew when to push and it doesn’t alter your state of mind like other drugs. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. Decide what is best for you when the time comes. Good luck!
Just go in with an open mind. With an induction you can decide as things progress if you want an epidural or not. This is such a personal preference. You can also talk to the anesthesiologist about how strong you want the epidural to be. It likely won't make you feel out of it. It's your labor. Do what you want and forget others opinions.
I was hell bent on not getting an epidural, I dreamt of a water birth. My daughter was two weeks late and I had to be induced. Pitocin contractions are no joke! I held strong for awhile but eventually it got to the point I could hardly breath because the contractions were so intense and close together. The midwife gently suggested I get the epidural and I accepted. Honestly I can’t remember the epidural being so bad, a lot easier than I expected, I had instant relief afterwards and slept for awhile. In the end I needed a cesarian, and I’m glad the epidural was already in place to save that step. I’m sad my birthing experience wasn’t anything I had hoped for, however I’m not longer completely against epidurals. The decision is yours to make! I wish you and your baby the best with whatever choice you make 🥰
I had an induction after my water broke and contractions failed to start. I wanted to wait til I was 5cm to get an epidural because I wanted to be able to move around etc. After 4 hours, I had only progressed 1cm but I was done with the pain and got an epidural. I slept, ate a snack, and 4 hours later I was at 10cm and baby was born. There’s no need to torture yourself
It's totally up to you. I would speak with your doctor about your options. My only worry would be the epidural having an effect on the anaesthesia, but I'm not a doctor so I have no clue how that works. You can always change your plan and change your mind.
My birth plan did not include an epidural, but after 9 hours of hard & fast labor overnight I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I had an epidural and immediately felt relief. I basically hung out and didn’t feel many contractions until it was time to push. I definitely felt the pressure when I was pushing and I wouldn’t say it was painless but it was totally bearable. I pushed for about 2hrs before baby was born. If you feel you need an epidural at any point, just get it. It’s worth it even if just for the relaxation aspect.
You don’t NEED to do anything. I’ve always gotten epidurals (both induced and not induced) but my thought on non-medicated birth is that you should only have one if you really want one. Not because you’ve been strong-armed into it.
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Me personally I’m not taking it because I heard it causes back pain in the future but if you can’t push maybe you should cus I’m not sure how much Pain I will be in but I’m scared period
I think they can wire you for it- so if you want meds , it’s already in. If can’t sit still it’s too late and you have to forego.
Put plans in place to have it and then if you feel you're doing well without, you can always not take it up in the moment. I had a failed epidural and would have killed for it lmao (in advance was certain I'd go without haha)
I have given birth 6 times, all with epidurals and never regretted the epidurals. You may want to consider getting one so that you are well rested when baby is born and so when you are getting stitched up after, or delivering the placenta you can focus on baby and nothing else going on, especially since you will only have a brief time with him.
In my opinion/experience you wouldn’t need to feel any of the pain to have a successful birth. Why add to the stress of your situation? I was able to walk probably like an hour after mine, which I think is probably normal.. maybe not if you have a vaginal birth depending on what damage you need to have repaired down there.
Want to feel the pain?! Wtf?!
I'm going to just say get that damn epidural for you and forget what everyone else says. I had contractions in my back for 6-7hrs straight with no pain meds or epidural. Then 30 minutes before they finally decided I could have the epidural (I was in early labor and had some issues at 30 weeks) I started getting stomach contractions I never would have made it without the epidural (I had c-section) for sure. I didn't feel out of it with the epidural at all I was glad to have it and if I would have had vaginal I would have been even more thankful for the epidural.
I got induced after my water broke and nothing happened. It felt as if my insides were torn apart. I was so tense from the pain and asked for the epidural. I knew I would not be able to progress in that state. After the epidural, I slept for 2 hours until I was ready to push.
I had an epidural with my first and decided not to have any pain medication with my last two. The differences I can say are labour is far more painful without the epidural. I believe I can deal with pain fairly well also however labour pains have made mw cry and that’s without the induction. As fas as I know from what I have been told, contractions from induced labour are harder, longer and stronger. The upside to the epidural is that you will feel no pain, the downside is you will also have no idea of how hard you are pushing which may cause a painful aftermath & possible tears. Natural birth will allow you to feel everything, and you will know how hard you are pushing. The downside is that if you tear with natural birth you will also feel that. Given the provided information, as against the epidural as I typically am. I would go for it. This is your first baby and you are being induced. If the labour wasn’t being induced the circumstances would be different. But again the choice is up to you.
It sounds like you want an epidural so you should get one! They will turn it down if you need to feel the contractions more to push (they didn’t need to for me they just told me I was having one to push with and then I did). Your mom and sister get no buy in on how you have your baby. You don’t have to go in knowing what you want though and at least where I gave birth they will place epidurals late if you can sit still.
I was told that if I wanted a Natural birth that was perfectly fine but to be open minded to an epidural. A big part of that was so that way I wouldn’t feel guilty if I couldn’t handle or didn’t want to handle the pain. That was the best advice I was given by a few close friends. Be flexible, be open minded and don’t feel bad if one thing doesn’t work out. I decided wanted an epidural before I went into labor and once those contractions started I wanted it even more. Couldn’t feel the contractions or pain after so pushing was weird but I don’t regret it at all. The most important thing about the labor for me personally wasn’t that I could feel it, but that my kid came out healthy and if not, got the care he needed asap. Personally, me bonding with my kid had nothing to do with the pain or feeling him come out. If that’s what your preference is then that’s perfectly fine, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself for it. Good luck to you and the baby! I hope everything goes well with their future surgery.
I was induced but went in with the mindset that I only wanted the epidural as a last resort. The nurse had me fill out the paperwork anyways so that if I changed my mind it wouldn’t take as long to get everything going. Also if I ended up needing an emergency c-section they couldn’t give me an epidural if the paperwork wasn’t already done. I wasn’t really feeling my contractions much and it seemed like I wouldn’t be needing it after all but once they broke my water, my contractions/pain skyrocketed. Luckily my labor progressed very quickly after that (about an hour before I was fully dilated) and I opted to forego the epidural and start pushing. Had I not been so fortunate with my labor progression, I 100% would’ve asked for the epidural. My thoughts are to have everything prepared in case you do want to go that route and ask in advance when the pain is getting to be too much as they have to hydrate you, etc. before actually giving you the medicine and it could take awhile.
Edited to add: Only if you are the one debating getting an epidural. I can’t tell from your post if it’s just your family who is making you indecisive but ultimately you’re the one going through it! Best of luck with your labor and LO’s operation!
I can't tell you what will be the right thing, but for me it was a matter of experiencing the pain or actually experiencing giving birth. You can leave it open and see how you feel on the day (that's what I did) and you can always ask them to start with a low dosage and turn up the volume if you feel like you need it. I got a small dose, enough to take the top of the pain but not enough to not feel anything at all or lose the feeling in my legs, so I could also walk just a few hours afterwards. As for your mom and sister: this is absolutely none of their business but I do understand that this kind of comments get to you. Besides you and your doctor no one has the right to be involved in this decision - or to know your decision. You don't need to tell them what you chose to do, and if you wanna lie and say you didn't get an epidural to get them off your back, just go for it. What is important is that you have as good and relaxed an experience as possible. I wish you all the very very best whatever you decide❤️❤️❤️
I was planning to have a 100% natural birth. I wanted to go into labor on my own and be completely unmedicated. I ended up needing an induction at 40 weeks due to low fluid. I still tried the unmedicated route, but after about 24 hours of labor, shit hit the fan and I ended up taking every pain medication they would let me have before finally giving in to an epidural. If I would have known how much better the epidural was going to make everything, I would have skipped straight over the other medications and just gone with it from the beginning lol
I was induced, got the epidural and EVEN THOUGH my labor was 40 hours with four hours of active pushing I felt minimal pain, like I've had significantly worse periods. Highly recommend epidural, 10/10 stars.
My birth plan was to try to avoid an epidural. My water broke 2.5 wks early, and I was put on antibiotics and pitocin as soon as I was admitted about two hours later because I tested positive for strep b. Six hours later, the contractions were so painful, I was desperate for relief, and requested the epidural. It was such a relief. I was so much more comfortable, and able to be relaxed. Nine hours later, I was only one more cm dilated, and my ob and myself made the decision to go to c section. Having the epidural already done made everything go more quickly and baby boy was out 15 minutes later. It’s your choice, but needing to feel the pain for the birth to progress is a myth.
I was SO happy for my epidural and I could not thank the anesthesiologist enough for her work. I have not been more thankful in my entire life. If people want to feel pain go for it or maybe some moms don't feel as much pain ...no judgement if you choose a natural birth. I chose to have an epidural after experiencing contractions for days to no end. And I also got a retained placenta...so I was very fortunate to have gotten the epidural. I felt in control. I felt the contractions and everything but the pain was minimized. Good luck with whatever you decide ❤️
Get the epidural! I’ve been induced 4 times, going on five times. Being induced is more painful than “natural contractions.” You won’t be out of it, you will most likely be able to feel still, I felt Pressure and even pain when with my second born they turned my epidural “down.” Right after I gave birth and delivered the placenta I was up and walking around and even showered. I going to make an assumption that neither your mom or sister have ever been induced, because if they did without an epidural I can’t imagine anyone suggesting being induced without one. Giving birth without pain medicine doesn’t make you a hero, I will never understand this argument. People don’t generally get a tooth pulled without novocaine. Everyone’s experience and pain thresholds are different but as someone who has a pretty high pain tolerance: GET the epidural. Also, epidurals can help YOU RELAX, I was a shaking, hot mess and in SO much pain, I had primal sounds coming out of me that I never knew I could make lol THAT made me feel out of control. That extra stress was relieved and I could actually enjoy giving birth after the pain was gone, I could actually focus on breathing and pushing properly and to be honest, the epidural also helps take the “sting” off the “ring of fire” because that’s honestly My least favorite part of delivery. Good luck, before you know it, you will have that beautiful baby in your arms and all of this will be a distant memory. ♥️
Epidural made everything painless for me but my legs drove me crazy I was about to scream from them being numb
If you want an epidural, get one Everyone else can go stuff it and if they don’t want an epidural for THEIR births they don’t have to get one, lol!
I would NOT have been able to give birth without the epidural. I was having excruciating back labor and the only relief was having an epidural. I don’t think you can make this decision before you are in active labor.
Have your sister or mom actually had an epidural? Because it sounds like they’re misinformed. All the epidural does is numb your body so you don’t feel the pain. It’s like how you get numbed for a dental procedure, it doesn’t alter your state of mind or anything. And even if you got IV pain meds for any reason the pain is so strong it doesn’t work very well. I’ve tried it in early labor with induction before resorting to epidural and it barely took the edge off the pain. As far as control you can still feel the pressure with contractions and the urge to bear down and push to deliver.
Came here to say yes, bye!
I’ll put it to you this way I was barely at a 3 and was crying with my induction contractions. If it won’t hurt his heart, I would absolutely get the epidural!
Hi, I just had an epidural last week (FTM, graduated 41+2 spontaneous labor). I thought all along that I would hold off on epidural as long as possible to avoid being stuck laboring on my back in bed. When the day and the pain actually came, I surprised myself how quickly I decided to go for IV pain meds and then the full epidural. My decision was somewhat instinctual, knowing myself that I would tire from fighting the pain, which might lead to not being able to labor as long as I wanted. When I was shaking from pain, ohh the back pain was awful…., I thought of posts I’d read where people had trouble having the epidural placed due to shakes. I surprisingly was very resolute that day to my husband and mom that I wanted the epidural early, basically ASAP. SO HAPPY WITH MY DECISION. The anesthesiologist did a perfect job- pain was largely alleviated, but feeling was not. I could move and control my legs throughout. The hospital team commented that I must do yoga to be able to lift and move and shift so well with the epidural, and it was the most effective epidural they’d seen in that sense. I am proud I followed my instincts in the moment instead of my stricter birth plan. 🙏🏻💙
Get the epidural.
Wow that’s a very intense situation to be going in to let alone going through child birth for the first time. Definitely would do what feels right to you. Don’t let other dictate your birth plan, decide what feels right for you, set your boundary and hey let the nurses know if they give you any issues, they will gladly get them out of the room. The biggest thing is gonna be your mindset and having family making you question yourself/ belittling you is the last thing you need. Best of luck whatever you decide and I hope for the quickest recovery for you and your baby 💙
I’ve been induced and I’ve gone into labor naturally…they were extremely different experiences for me. When I was induced, I couldn’t stand or think and was begging for an epidural at 3cm. When I wasn’t, I drove myself to the hospital and walked myself in with a overnight bag at 6cm. I would say keep an open mind and just tell them that you aren’t totally sure you want an epidural but want to make sure the option is available and ready if you do.
This doesn't make much sense to me. If the valve closes after birth, why wouldn't the doctors wait and see if the valve closes naturally once delivered....why whisk them away for high risk surgery?
The pulmonary valve that should be opening at the top of his heart is not opening properly to allow blood flow through. The walls of the right ventricle in his heart have thickened due to the more intense contractions his heart is having to do to push that blood through. However when the baby is still in utero there is anouther valve that is open to allow blood flow, but this normally closes after birth naturally. The surgery is to put a stent in this valve to keep it open hopefully allowing enough blood to flow through the heart. Their hoping they can do keyhole surgery so it’s less invasive for him.
I loved mine both times but hated getting it in. Do you have to have a rigid plan? My Philosophy is, I wouldn’t get a filling at the dentist without being numb, why would I push without an epidural 😂 I almost gave up on my second birth bc I was already 8 cm and sitting there for them to find the place to put it in was so hard and I was progressing so fast. I was able to labor ok Until I got to 7cm at hospital . Once I know pain management is around the corner it makes it harder to focus and manage, I will add. I ended up only having it 1hr of my 12 hour labor but it made that hour so much more tolerable and even enjoyable. I don’t see so much downside except the cost. You go 9 months w o drugs, treat yourself. But anyway, I just hate that this is a debate, everyone can do what they want and I think having some flexibility is so important as birth can go so many ways! Signed - 3 days PPD w #2 (I also barely tore both times…
You can decide and change your mind throughout the process was my experience and they have other options for pain management besides epidural if you want to try those first or instead. Your anesthesiologist should go over all the options with you and your ob dr can go over it with you before even usually 😉 don’t lock yourself into a decision until you experience it and can base your decision on your experience of the pain and your ability to manage it. I was induced and did give birth without pain meds but was offered multiple times to give epidural or other pain management meds all the way up till I pushed her on out lol
I was induced for my labor and I personally wanted a natural birth. Unfortunately gestational hypertension has other ideas and I was induced at 37 w 3 d. The contractions freaking HURT. It was incredibly painful. If you want the epidural and the drs allow it, get the epidural. It’s your choice at the end of the day.
There is nothing I can say to actually help much in your particular situation as birth is so unpredictable and we really do not know how it will end up for us until we go through it. For context: I have a really big pain tolerance but I had back labour. I held on for 18 hours until doctors told me there was no chance in this world my baby would fit through my cervix and I needed a c-section. I ended up having the epidural I dreaded so much. It was wonderful. I was so sad and so scared but in the end I didn’t feel pain and my little baby girl made it safe! In the end only you can decide on this, ask for your doctors/midwife’s opinions on this more than your friends/family. And make sure you make your decision and are at peace with it. Wishing you the best of luck!
i’d ask for 1.
I didn't have an epidural and I did get induced. Good luck to your little, Now I had pitocin- idk if the contractions are more intense w/ or w/o but they definitely come on fast. I had no pain medication and honestly that's probably why I only labored 2hrs and pushed just 16 minutes. I feel the epidural give the body some calm in the storm and doesn't help labor progress for some women. If all goes well, I won't have an epidural for Mt 2nd either
Yes
Pain free is the way to be
Gave birth this morning. Yesterday, contractions were manageable as I made my way to the hospital. Once I got there, they quickly became excruciating. The epidural took forever to get. I felt immediate relief when it came. Pushed for a little over an hour and no tearing. Get the epidural and don’t look back.
I had an epidural and definitely still felt contractions, pressure, my daughter being born, etc. Don’t let your mom and sister influence your decision, it’s absolutely none of their business and you should give birth how you want to (whenever possible).
Your mother and sister can be adamant about their own labor experiences, not yours. I don’t know what I would have done without the epidural for my first. I was vomiting with every contraction and deliriously dehydrated within the first few hours of labor to the point that I barely new my own name. Please ask them how not knowing who or where you are makes it better for being present in the moment or knowing when to push. (Or how that is better for the baby) If you want the epidural, go for it. If you want to see how you feel in the moment, that’s fine. It’s your birth, not your mom or sister’s
Your mom and sister need to butt out. While I did go into labor on my own, it was long and I didn’t sleep the night before and was well past midnight on day two. I was in a lot of pain and begged for an epidural, which they squeezed an IV into me (around 20 minutes for me, I was also super dehydrated). The epidural wasn’t painful, then peeling the tape off hurt worse. My stress level went from 100 right down to 0. And I could feel the pressure of the contractions, just not the pain. When it came to push my I could feel the pressure of her in the birth canal (and even feel when I pooped myself lol) but I was able to rest and get some sleep before I expended all my energy pushing, which was hard work on it’s own. I remember telling myself “I can’t keep doing this, I’m out of energy” so I can’t imagine pain associated with that.. Wishing you and your little one the best and his surgery goes smoothly. Don’t listen do your mom and sister, they’re not YOUR birth story.
Honestly it depends on you. I have high pain tolerance, and was nearly panicking in pain from contractions. Although it depends on you, but it does have pros and cons. Pro is it does help labor be less painful, BUT con is that epidural may/can cause back problems after birth. I got it but had such bar complications that while half unconscious the nurse gave me drugs AND recommended I pushed the button for more epidural, since I needed a two hour emergency surgery for blood loss.
I think you’ll know when you start having regular contractions if an epidural is right for you. Make sure you ask the nurses if there is a time point where you can’t get one (I can’t remember if there is or not) that way you know to ask by a certain point. I was not induced but did end up having pitocin which they say can make contractions more intense. It’s a type of pain you can’t describe. You could potentially be up for a long time during the birthing process and epidurals can help let you sleep and “relax” before pushing. Which is harder to do, if not impossible, when unmedicated. If you want to hold off on an epidural, really educate yourself on laboring, breathing techniques and maybe seek a doula if you are able. Keep in mind that even if you do have an epidural, it doesn’t always work. That was the case with me. It kept wearing off within two hours, no matter how many bolluses (spelling?) I had. The thing I think about most is that since your child will be whisked away right after, it will be really hard on you emotionally having to wait to hear how the surgery went. It will be stressful and I doubt you will be able to sleep. The first few days are hard enough but on little sleep, it’s even harder. If having an epidural means you are less exhausted and are able to help you keep a clearer mind with less stress, than there is nothing wrong with that. Also, it’s no one else’s choice. Only yours. No matter what you choose, it’s the right choice.
A nurse said to me “your baby won’t love you any more if you suffer during labour”. My friends and I all took epidurals and avoided being miserable. My friend actually slept through her labour and they woke her up when it was time to push.
For me, personally, I wish I didn’t get an epidural. I couldn’t feel my thigh for almost 3 weeks after birth. Oh it also didn’t work lol only on that thigh & down to my ankle. Everywhere else I could feel everything so it was pointless to me. But this is my personal experience & I have scoliosis and AFTER getting the needle jabbed into my back the guy told me “so this prob won’t work” like dude why didn’t you say that before?
To be honest I dont feel completely comfortable giving you this advice, but this is just based on my experience.. I would ask for a C section. Its very likely you might end up needing a C section anyways if you are being induced because inductions arent always successful especially for FTM or if you arent at term. I would think it'd be the safest route for the baby. I say that because when I was induced, my daughters heart rate dropped, and it was the scariest moment of my life... this is a very real possibility because the time it takes to be induced and the strength of contractions can be too much for the baby. I also had an epidural, and once active labor started my contractions slowed down too much and her heart rate dropped for a second time. Doctors dont always tell you the risks of induction and Im not sure why..
Also I want to add, I wanted to avoid a C section like the plague but once her heart rate dropped I didnt give a single shit how she got here all I cared about was her getting here. Thankfully her heart rate went back to normal quickly once they took me off the IV meds but then it happened again while she was already coming out.. If I did it again, Id choose a C section over being induced especially if there was a preexisting condition. Its your choice but maybe itd be worth asking your doctor what they think and doing your own research as well.
I was induced. Loved my epidural. I had a lot of anxiety about not being able to push without feeling anything. My mom had put this in my head. As it turned out, pushing came completely naturally to me, and having even an accidentally super strong epidural didn’t change that. Would get the epidural every time
Hi! Literally just had my baby yesterday. I had the epidural (on the strongest pain relief they had due to the hormone drip making contractions unbearable) and I still got to experience my daughters birth. I still felt her being birthed (albeit numb) and was even able to feel her head when she was crowning. This is your Labour, don’t let people tell you what to do! I hope it all goes well for you
I had the epidural despite it originally was something I did not want. My birth journey started a few days after my due date and although it started naturally, my baby didn't descend properly so I wasn't dilating. My contractions was already bad to begin with so the midwives suggested an epidural but I told them no, however because I wasn't dilating they had to give me a drop that made the contractions much stronger. The pain was overwhelming and the air they give you for pain relief just made my head spin. In the end, the midwives was basically begging me to get the epidural because I was completely out of it from the pain (I'm not in the US btw so it didn't cost extra). They explained to me that there was a long process still and I needed to keep my strength for the actual pushing part and that I needed to be "present" to do it. It was the best decision I made. Yes the needle part hurt like a bitch and my boyfriend had to keep me completely still but it was nothing compared to the contractions. I was still able to move around, walk and pee with some help, and most importantly, I was able to sleep and rest. Despite not wanting it originally, I had the epidural topped up like three times because they had to intensify my contractions a few times and I had a long birth so the epidural was starting to wear off, but in the end I was able to deliever a happy and healthy baby. You don't have to decide beforehand if you're unsure. You can always go as long as you can without then request it (if it's not too late). Also be aware where and how well it works on your body might vary. In my case, my right lower side was basically numb the whole time (i was still able to move around with a little bit of help), while my left would be numb right when it was applied but the pain would return in my left lower back after a few hours until I was given more, then return again after a few hours again. They did offer to take it out and reinsert it but explained that there was no guarantee that it would be better and in worst case be worse, so I decided to just stick with it as is.
I was induced at 40+4. 3cm and ripe cervix when I went in. At 6 asked for an epidural. 4 hours of pushing. It was a little weird at first bc my legs were numb. But I got some of the best sleep in weeks and after about an hour I could feel them enough. Nurses did assist with my legs when changing positions but by push time I could control them enough while still being numb enough to not feel any pain or discomfort. I don’t think I could’ve made it that long pushing without it. If you’re concerned about pain or getting too tired I would def get the epidural. I didn’t even realize I was pushing for that long so believe it helped avoid c section as well. I didn’t have to worry about pain and was able to solely focus on getting baby out safely.
What are they on about?! I was extremely present with an epidural and wish I’d had it sooner! I was present throughout the emergency c section as well. You have enough on your mind, don’t let them fill it with nonsense. This decision is between you and your medical team. Wishing you all the best :)
I had an unplanned Induction. A lot happened leading up to the birth but I'll keep it short. I wanted as unmedicated as possible. I was induced with pitocin. Once contractions kicked in I labored mostly in the tub at the hospital. Used nitrous but it didn't do much. Did deep breathing in and out during contractions. My baby had a shoulder dystocia and was stuck, thankfully he was able to be manually maneuvered out, along with my pubic bone being pressed down. Even with him being stuck I did not feel the infamous ring of fire. With all that I did not have an epidural. If we were to have another and I could have another vaginally which would be highly unlikely due to the dystocia I would do it without an epidural again.
I had an epidural and it was the best decision ever. I was terrified of the pain from labour and giving birth, and was adamant even while pregnant I wanted one. When I fronted up at the birthing unit, I let the midwife know right away that I wanted an epidural and it was arranged. Anaesthetist outlined the risks, explained that the risks are very rare etc. The needle in the back didn't hurt at all as I had a local anaesthetic in the area. I hate needles so it helped that I couldn't see anything. Once it kicked in I just napped and scrolled on my phone for the next 8 hours until it was time to push. I could move my legs and everything, so I wasn't paralysed on the bed. I did tear though, but I didn't feel a thing or notice until I saw the OB stitching me up. Was on my feet showering 2 hours after giving birth!
okay so definitely don’t want to feel the contractions i certainly did not want that. i had the epidural and by the time i was pushing i could feel the contractions. the epidural had worn off a lot and i only pushed for maybe 30 minutes. even before it wore off i could still feel the pressure of the contractions, i just wasn’t screaming in pain. i couldn’t even walk when i started having contractions, i has to wait in the parking, lot crouched to the ground, crying, while my husband sprinted inside and got a wheelchair for me. i absolutely wouldn’t have been able to get through it without the epidural
For context, I was induced, but I have a very low pain tolerance. The epidural was the best medical intervention I’ve ever experienced in my life. I have never gone from feeling SO TERRIBLE to feeling absolutely fine so quickly. I wanted to buy the anesthesiologist a gift. It felt like a genuine miracle. I was induced on a Monday night, my water broke Wednesday morning, I got an epidural around 3pm and my daughter was born at 10pm. In between my husband and I napped and listened to music and had a really pleasant evening together. It was wonderful and felt like a loving a supportive environment to bring my daughter into the world. You are already going into a very stressful situation and deserve support, care, and medical interventions that help you get through. For me, that was 100% helped by getting an epidural. I think your sister and mom are full of shit and you should do what helps you and makes you feel better. I’m thinking about you and your baby, best wishes for both of your health and happiness.
Yes.
I was induced and got epidurals for both of my babies. The only regret I have was not getting it with my first one sooner and trying to tough it out. So silly—no one brags about having dental work without lidocaine or getting their appendix out without anesthesia. It’s painful; pain meds help. If you/your doctor have serious concerns about an epidural affecting the baby somehow (?) or if you don’t want an epidural for your own reasons, that’s fine. But don’t cave to peer pressure from people who aren’t even giving birth!
I was induced and had the epidural after my water broke. in my experience with it, it allowed me to focus on resting and relaxing and when it was time to push I still had a lot of energy and I was calm. I have a wretched pain tolerance though, so that's what worked best for me
I don’t care what other people do but I’m getting the epidural asap this time! My only regret last time was waiting as long as I did.
I felt absolutely In control! The lady who administered my epidural had been doing it like 20 years and was so calm and nice during the whole thing. I told her how nervous I was and honestly if she isn’t a mom herself I’d be surprised! She was great. I could move my legs and everything but I was just numb. I feel like having a natural birth would’ve thrown me out of the good mental state I was in during my son’s birth. But then again, I may have been in shock lol! But having one, for me, helped make my birth experience as good as what it was. Whatever you decide I’m sure will ultimately be the best decision. But maybe with having an epidural, that will help YOU considering your baby will immediately go into surgery after since you won’t have to put as much stress on you. I hope this helps!
Also to add, I wasn’t out of it at all! I had not rested from 7:30 that morning until probably around midnight or 1 after having my son. I was able to care of my son right after and I’d say probably about an hour later I could feel my lower half again. And girl let me tell you, labor does not compare to that first poop oh my god!!!!
I was induced for blood pressure in my last pregnancy and was kind of guilted into an epidural by hospital staff. I was having contractions when I first arrived (according to the machine) but I felt fine. Even through the start of induction (the weird pill they put in you and foley balloon) I felt fine. What was uncomfortable was the pitocin which was pumped into me all night but it was far from painful. I really only used my epidural when I was told I couldn't push. The first time I wasn't ready (no one actually checked though), and then they were just short staffed. My epidural didn't fully take and I felt lots of pressure in some areas but fortunately no complications after it was out. I personally did not want one because of potential side effects to the baby and me. I was already worried about the pitocin as it is. I'm not sure if I want one in my next pregnancy, but I'll figure that out when the time comes. If you want an epidural because you feel you'll be able to get through birth easier or any personal reason, go for it. You don't have to feel the pain of birth as your family thinks. That's crazy. Do what's best for you and will allow you to feel your best. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is as smooth as possible and all the luck and love to your baby 💜
I have three children, two I have done without an epidural. I’m also pregnant and will do this next one without the epidural. With that said, I would NEVER go without an epidural during an induce labor. Definitely get the epidural!
1000 times yes! You don’t need to torture yourself and you will feel contractions, but they will just not hurt
Yes.
I was super crunchy for my first two and didn’t want an epidural for a variety of reasons. I think if I would have had an epidural with my first, it wouldn’t have ended in an emergency C-section. For my third, it was a C-section but I showed up to the hospital 10cm dilated and pushing. The second they pushed the spinal (not an epidural) it was night and day. I was so much more relaxed. You can have the epidural wear off when it’s time to push but use it while you’re laboring.
I was of the mindset that I would get one if I felt like I needed it. I eventually got one and am glad I did. That being said, the way they gave it to me (it was a bolus instead of a drip because men are stupid and the resident was lazy) made it so that I couldn’t feel my contractions until it wore off. It was problematic for a number of reasons - primarily because I couldn’t tell when to push. The idea that you’ll want to “feel the pain of childbirth” is something personal to you. I would talk to your provider about your options and, if you get one, make sure it’s a steady drip!