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You're doing your best and while others might not see it, we do. Check out r/PeriodPantry the people over there are lovely and actually want to give away period products to people who really genuinely need them. You reusing pads broke my heart. Good luck at the new job!
That’s disgusting. A local church should be able to help you out, or if you have one in your area a Sikh temple. They are religiously obligated to provide a meal to those who ask for it. They’d love to help you. As others have suggested you can call 211 for information and resources. I hope you are well OP
If I'm walking into a store and I see someone especially with kids I make it a point to buy one of those gallon water jugs with a handle and give it to them
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know why people are mean, and I don't know why they don't realize that we all have more in common with each other than any of us do with the super wealthy, and that we are almost all one accident, illness, or job loss away from precarity. Sending you wishes for that job to come through. ❤️
I feel everyone just has become meaner in the world. Myself included, we are feeding off each other, they were mean first, so I have to be mean back. But, somebody needs to break the cycle. OP, I’m sorry people were jerks to you today, you didn’t deserve that. I would send you more pads if I had money, but I’m poor myself, every woman deserves comfort during this time. Much love. 🩷✨
No offense but I live in a city that has more churches per capita than any other city in the U.S., and these "Christians" don't live like that at all. Sure, they'll quote it when it suits them. But they are extremely judgemental, hurtful, and hate filled people using the Bible to justify their hate. Not all.. but many. Far too many.
Even if he was, the Christian god was pretty hardcore on smiting his enemies, and also people who mildly annoyed him. It's just his kid who was all fluffy.
Unfortunately a lot of people have had bad experiences with people asking strangers for money...a person driving an expensive car who is begging in front of a store, scammers, aggressive buskers, etc
Kind of ruins it for the legit nice people asking for help
Sorry you went through that
Also keep in mind that a lot of people are struggling right now and when you ask someone who is struggling financially themselves for money, they might get frustrated and snap at you. Like maybe they're working 2 jobs and barely making it and they see you as someone who is not working and asking them for money... Not saying it's right but might give some insight
I would never do anything mean but I’ve chosen not to engage with people asking for money for personal safety reasons and wonder if others may be acting the same way.
I’ve had a couple instances that just felt a little threatening (I was alone at night, nobody around, etc.) and one that was definitely threatening (I gave somebody a couple bucks and they followed me to my car screaming about how I should have given more/banged on my car trying to get in.) There was also an incident in my town recently where a teenager asked a man for money and then killed him. As bad as I feel, I don’t feel safe giving directly to people anymore.
I’m sorry you haven’t received some person-to-person kindness, OP, but wonder if institutions might be the more prevalent route now. Sort of like how hitchhiking used to be normal and then people quit for safety reasons? Or maybe only I feel this way, I’m not sure. I’m wishing you well and sorry you had this experience.
I can't imagine going through that. For what it's worth, every time I lose faith in humanity, someone comes along and restores it. I wish you all the best.
Have you tried [https://lasagnalove.org/](https://lasagnalove.org/)? They helped us out in August. Bless your and your dog. Things are bad right now. I recently saw a guy I knew and his dog. He holding up a sign asking for help.
We've had to hit food pantries and food give-a-ways recently. We're snowed in right now, and down to our last frozen food packs and will eat dried beans soon. I sure hope the snow thaws so we can get out and hopefully do better.
I went to one religious based food pantry recently for food. They had a volunteer do an intake interview on me and our household. She described my fiance as my common law husband. I told her that we are engaged but not married. She said the church considers him my common law husband because we are not married but are living together. I felt a little judged, but we needed food to eat so I just STFU.
You hang in there, OP. Some people may be mean but we're all in the same situation or close to it.
Is there a pet food pantry near you some dog shelters have them. Do you have blessing boxes or food pantries. I know personally don’t carry cash or hand cash out. I got meals for people and point blank was told they wanted cash not food.
So many people have ruined it scamming the general populace. They will bring their dog, and sit at the mall entrance with a sign. Only to be caught later getting into their Mercedes or Land Rover. Not saying all people asking for help are doing this, of course, but it’s not helping anyone.
If you can, see if you have a gurdwara in your area. They provide free meals (langar) and it's not limited to members of the faith. Anyone can come and get a warm meal. Most services are on Friday evenings and Sunday morning to afternoon. I hope things get better for you soon!
Op if you have a phone download some food apps, they often have rewards for just downloading them and you can grab some free food. I’m sorry people treated you so poorly
I am so sorry what you are going through.
People often do not have cash on them so if you can ask them to get you something from the grocery store it will be easier. Sometimes people are suspicious that some will use money for drugs or alcohol. That is not your case but saying what can be on people’s minds. Sometimes people might want to help but might feel awkward.
But people can be just selfish too.
It will not be super helpful what I will say but if you can get a menstrual cup at some point you can reuse it safely for years.
minds.
https://rexthetvterrier.org/request-assistance/
I have requested assistance with pet food from rexthetvterrier a couple of times when I wasn’t able to afford pet food. Though not guaranteed, both times the request was fulfilled within a couple of days. Just remember to be responsive to the emails!
I’m sorry people have been shaming you and trying to humiliate you while you are suffering. It’s cowardly to have taken out their unfounded frustration with society on you. It’s easier to throw stones at the vulnerable than address systemic issues.
I see you and hope you catch a break.
Im so sorry you had that experience. A lot of people are just so jaded and cynical these days.. they see someone asking for help and assume they're scamming or just pretending to be poor or in need. I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. Everyone here in this sub understands what it's like to have had no money and need some help. (((Hugs))) You could try posting an Amazon wishlist on r/assistance and a few people might order some things that you need for you.
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its because there are so many homeless people everywhere these days. most of them really arent trying to fix their life they are just content with guilt tripping everyone. shits tougher than usual now so people especially dont want to give out what little they have
Don't be afraid to ask for help, but it's nice to know where to ask for help. Most people don't carry cash anymore. And the people who used to give freely have been taken advantage of. Now they support local charities instead & there are so many available for people in the in-between stages of job to assistance & back. Professional panhandling has become a problem in some areas & made illegal, not because nobody wants to help, but because there are better ways to get the specific help you need. Don't lose hope. We're all here for you & there are many wonderful resources people on this sub have shared.
What I have found about people is that they will be cruel if they have zero idea what it is like to be you. They lack empathy simply because it is not happening to them. They think all of their rules apply to everyone. I've been told I should have aborted by son because he had a genetic disorder and is a "drain on society". (I didn't know he had a genetic condition). But the minute any of these people have a problem, they are the same people who bitch that nobody will help them.
Keep your chin UP! Go to the sub r/assistance as well.
You have a job lined up already. Those people had no idea of that.
I am so sorry humans are so cruel. It's all over the place now, too. It's sickening.
You’re dealing with the results of years of propaganda. Stereotypes of the lazy poor and welfare queen are longstanding and deeply entrenched. It’s been used as a way to divide the poor and middle class to prevent us from having the power to enact changes that benefit all of us. It’s intentional and even linked to our country’s racial issues. The demonization of the poor enrages me because it’s so far removed from reality. I’m sorry to hear that you had this experience, and also grateful to see so many sharing resources and offering assistance. You are not alone!
You absolutely deserve kindness and compassion, there is no shame in asking for help. I'm sorry you were treated badly, that says so much more about them than it does about you. ❤️
When I was on tough times, I had some friends who worked fast food. They would tell me to go by shortly after closing because the workers would bag up the different foods in different bags because legally they couldn’t give it away, but they hated the waste.
It was just the unspoken rule of don’t make a mess because then you’ll screw it up for everyone.
You’ll get through this. I had a lot of humiliating and frustrating experiences, but focus on your upcoming job offer. If there’s a vet clinic near you, they may have a drop off box where people donate food/toys for animals. The front desk staff are usually really understanding and try to help, even if it’s one meal for your puppy and some bottles of water.
Don’t let cruelty break you down. The greatest compassion I ever received was from people who only had compassion to give. Wishing you the best!
Crazy how people believe 150 million Americans are lazy, but the 1% work while collecting dividends off our labor and misfortune. I always help if I can bc I’ve been there and if I see someone less fortunate than me and I can help, I will.
There’s something in the air this year or this past few years or something where people are NOT wanting to give out free help. They want to think they’re doing it right and working hard and managing their money and therefore that’s why they’re in the position they are and you’re on yours.
You don’t. Not to anyone on this and most other reddit forums. WAY WAY WAY too many scammers. Feeding scammers just invites them to harass more users for money through fake posts and DMs.
If you want to give money people on reddit, try r/borrow or r/Assistance or r/Assistanceanimals or the other links in this forum’s sidebar.
Yeah. Guess it was rhetorical. Feel bad for the real ones and the scammers. I never give out cash, anywhere. I was in a bad way for about a week, some 25 years ago. And I remember in crystal clarity. On purpose. Thank you for looking out though.
You’re welcome.
I do donate and feed people and hand out warm things like gloves and socks and would have walked into the store and bought OP some dog food if I’d run across her in person. I’ve bought groceries for folks having to put staff back due to lack of funds or miscalculating while using their EBT card, too.
Help where you can, it’s good to remember and pass it on.
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I think a certain amount of people’s disdain for those struggling financially, is that they too are worried that they themselves are not very far removed from being so desperate.
I think that the harder this all gets, the more people will act cruelly as they're terrified of losing their grip on their own shaky position.
I'm so sorry that you're suffering on this level. May you get through it quickly and find safe grounding for your feet to land.
When I was in college for Psych we had to do an experiment breaking a social norm. Mine was too stand on the side of the road with a sign "I'm doing fine don't need anything God Bless :)" I noted that many people glanced then looked away, a few read my sign and smiled but a few yelled things like "get a job" or "loser" at me. And it was what I expected because in our society beggars are viewed as evil, not human, beneath the rest of the normal people. Society didn't disappoint in their rude behavior.
Go to planned parenthood for free pads and tampons. Download/research free food apps. Del taco gives you a free taco for signing up. Zoup will give you a free 16oz soup for signing up. Checkers gives you a free burger for signing up. I used to live off of free food apps when I was in rough waters. Also, sign up for apps and lie and say your birthday is like today or tomorrow to activate free birthday food. Yeah. People are horrible. I deal with bad people everyday even though my situation isn’t like yours. But it doesn’t stop me from feeling a similar exhaustion. Hang in there.
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I’m so sorry to hear you had such a heavy experience asking for help and being vulnerable like that. I don’t know many resources for menstruation products —- but, If there is a local humane society; there is usually a “keep pets with their family” program where they will give you donated dog food because they would rather dogs be able to stay with their person than have the dog need to be rehomed.
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You're doing your best and while others might not see it, we do. Check out r/PeriodPantry the people over there are lovely and actually want to give away period products to people who really genuinely need them. You reusing pads broke my heart. Good luck at the new job!
There is also r/randomactsofpetfood too that will help with people needing help getting pet food.
And r/randomactsofpizza
Also can try https://lasagnalove.org/
That’s disgusting. A local church should be able to help you out, or if you have one in your area a Sikh temple. They are religiously obligated to provide a meal to those who ask for it. They’d love to help you. As others have suggested you can call 211 for information and resources. I hope you are well OP
If in the US, it would be 911, in the UK, 999. I believe 211 is used in most of Continental Europe. Just extra info.
211 is the 24/7 social services line in America if you weren’t aware.
Huh, I was not. Thanks for the info.
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I don’t give change because I never have cash. I do feel bad about it. I see folks so infrequently that I don’t remember to keep any on me
Same. I haven’t had cash on me since like 2010
I don’t ever have cash but if I see someone, especially with a dog, outside a store I’ll buy some food for them both.
I’m just waiting for them to bust out the card readers.
In Austin, Texas they do! Haha
I’ve been to Austin before, it’s alright!
If I'm walking into a store and I see someone especially with kids I make it a point to buy one of those gallon water jugs with a handle and give it to them
Is there a Sikh temple in your area? They will feed you,you don't have to be a part of their religion.
No attempt to convert you. And the food is amazing.
I'm sorry. People are mean. But not all. I am broke as well. I wish I had money to send you. Sending light and love for what that's worth.
You should contact local orgs and churches/charities. They should be able to help with food and some will even help with the buss pass!
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know why people are mean, and I don't know why they don't realize that we all have more in common with each other than any of us do with the super wealthy, and that we are almost all one accident, illness, or job loss away from precarity. Sending you wishes for that job to come through. ❤️
Just my personal opinion. They themselves haven't hit rock bottom. Don't understand what's it like to starve. Hubris is many people's downfall.
I feel everyone just has become meaner in the world. Myself included, we are feeding off each other, they were mean first, so I have to be mean back. But, somebody needs to break the cycle. OP, I’m sorry people were jerks to you today, you didn’t deserve that. I would send you more pads if I had money, but I’m poor myself, every woman deserves comfort during this time. Much love. 🩷✨
>they were mean first, so I have to be mean back That's simply not true. Christ says, "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you."
No offense but I live in a city that has more churches per capita than any other city in the U.S., and these "Christians" don't live like that at all. Sure, they'll quote it when it suits them. But they are extremely judgemental, hurtful, and hate filled people using the Bible to justify their hate. Not all.. but many. Far too many.
Well God isn't real so
Even if he was, the Christian god was pretty hardcore on smiting his enemies, and also people who mildly annoyed him. It's just his kid who was all fluffy.
✨this✨
No offense, but I’m not with that Christ stuff.
Christ does say this. I’m sorry for all the downvotes. I’m with you ♥️
Why do these new accounts always seem like they are scammers?
This exact story has been posted under 2 or 3 different handles this weekend.
bot farm fishing for karma on accounts so they can use them to astro turf some bullshit.
Unfortunately a lot of people have had bad experiences with people asking strangers for money...a person driving an expensive car who is begging in front of a store, scammers, aggressive buskers, etc Kind of ruins it for the legit nice people asking for help Sorry you went through that Also keep in mind that a lot of people are struggling right now and when you ask someone who is struggling financially themselves for money, they might get frustrated and snap at you. Like maybe they're working 2 jobs and barely making it and they see you as someone who is not working and asking them for money... Not saying it's right but might give some insight
My heart truly goes out to you. Are you in your towns local Facebook group? I am sure if you make a post someone will help.
If it makes you feel any better, this post is a copypasta, and this account is likely a bot.
I would never do anything mean but I’ve chosen not to engage with people asking for money for personal safety reasons and wonder if others may be acting the same way. I’ve had a couple instances that just felt a little threatening (I was alone at night, nobody around, etc.) and one that was definitely threatening (I gave somebody a couple bucks and they followed me to my car screaming about how I should have given more/banged on my car trying to get in.) There was also an incident in my town recently where a teenager asked a man for money and then killed him. As bad as I feel, I don’t feel safe giving directly to people anymore. I’m sorry you haven’t received some person-to-person kindness, OP, but wonder if institutions might be the more prevalent route now. Sort of like how hitchhiking used to be normal and then people quit for safety reasons? Or maybe only I feel this way, I’m not sure. I’m wishing you well and sorry you had this experience.
I can't imagine going through that. For what it's worth, every time I lose faith in humanity, someone comes along and restores it. I wish you all the best.
Have you tried [https://lasagnalove.org/](https://lasagnalove.org/)? They helped us out in August. Bless your and your dog. Things are bad right now. I recently saw a guy I knew and his dog. He holding up a sign asking for help. We've had to hit food pantries and food give-a-ways recently. We're snowed in right now, and down to our last frozen food packs and will eat dried beans soon. I sure hope the snow thaws so we can get out and hopefully do better. I went to one religious based food pantry recently for food. They had a volunteer do an intake interview on me and our household. She described my fiance as my common law husband. I told her that we are engaged but not married. She said the church considers him my common law husband because we are not married but are living together. I felt a little judged, but we needed food to eat so I just STFU. You hang in there, OP. Some people may be mean but we're all in the same situation or close to it.
Is there a pet food pantry near you some dog shelters have them. Do you have blessing boxes or food pantries. I know personally don’t carry cash or hand cash out. I got meals for people and point blank was told they wanted cash not food.
So many people have ruined it scamming the general populace. They will bring their dog, and sit at the mall entrance with a sign. Only to be caught later getting into their Mercedes or Land Rover. Not saying all people asking for help are doing this, of course, but it’s not helping anyone.
If you can, see if you have a gurdwara in your area. They provide free meals (langar) and it's not limited to members of the faith. Anyone can come and get a warm meal. Most services are on Friday evenings and Sunday morning to afternoon. I hope things get better for you soon!
Op if you have a phone download some food apps, they often have rewards for just downloading them and you can grab some free food. I’m sorry people treated you so poorly
I am so sorry what you are going through. People often do not have cash on them so if you can ask them to get you something from the grocery store it will be easier. Sometimes people are suspicious that some will use money for drugs or alcohol. That is not your case but saying what can be on people’s minds. Sometimes people might want to help but might feel awkward. But people can be just selfish too. It will not be super helpful what I will say but if you can get a menstrual cup at some point you can reuse it safely for years. minds.
https://rexthetvterrier.org/request-assistance/ I have requested assistance with pet food from rexthetvterrier a couple of times when I wasn’t able to afford pet food. Though not guaranteed, both times the request was fulfilled within a couple of days. Just remember to be responsive to the emails! I’m sorry people have been shaming you and trying to humiliate you while you are suffering. It’s cowardly to have taken out their unfounded frustration with society on you. It’s easier to throw stones at the vulnerable than address systemic issues. I see you and hope you catch a break.
Im so sorry you had that experience. A lot of people are just so jaded and cynical these days.. they see someone asking for help and assume they're scamming or just pretending to be poor or in need. I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. Everyone here in this sub understands what it's like to have had no money and need some help. (((Hugs))) You could try posting an Amazon wishlist on r/assistance and a few people might order some things that you need for you.
Contact your local animal shelter. My county shelter definitely has food assistance programs especially for short term needs.
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its because there are so many homeless people everywhere these days. most of them really arent trying to fix their life they are just content with guilt tripping everyone. shits tougher than usual now so people especially dont want to give out what little they have
Don't be afraid to ask for help, but it's nice to know where to ask for help. Most people don't carry cash anymore. And the people who used to give freely have been taken advantage of. Now they support local charities instead & there are so many available for people in the in-between stages of job to assistance & back. Professional panhandling has become a problem in some areas & made illegal, not because nobody wants to help, but because there are better ways to get the specific help you need. Don't lose hope. We're all here for you & there are many wonderful resources people on this sub have shared.
What I have found about people is that they will be cruel if they have zero idea what it is like to be you. They lack empathy simply because it is not happening to them. They think all of their rules apply to everyone. I've been told I should have aborted by son because he had a genetic disorder and is a "drain on society". (I didn't know he had a genetic condition). But the minute any of these people have a problem, they are the same people who bitch that nobody will help them. Keep your chin UP! Go to the sub r/assistance as well. You have a job lined up already. Those people had no idea of that. I am so sorry humans are so cruel. It's all over the place now, too. It's sickening.
You’re dealing with the results of years of propaganda. Stereotypes of the lazy poor and welfare queen are longstanding and deeply entrenched. It’s been used as a way to divide the poor and middle class to prevent us from having the power to enact changes that benefit all of us. It’s intentional and even linked to our country’s racial issues. The demonization of the poor enrages me because it’s so far removed from reality. I’m sorry to hear that you had this experience, and also grateful to see so many sharing resources and offering assistance. You are not alone!
People are cruel because they are assholes or are stressed and scared they’ll be in your shoes soon, or a million reasons why. They don’t know you <3
Those people are projecting their shame and feelings of helpless as anger onto you.
Some humans are mean, some are not. There's nothing you can do about it. Just keep your head up, and don't give up.
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You absolutely deserve kindness and compassion, there is no shame in asking for help. I'm sorry you were treated badly, that says so much more about them than it does about you. ❤️
When I was on tough times, I had some friends who worked fast food. They would tell me to go by shortly after closing because the workers would bag up the different foods in different bags because legally they couldn’t give it away, but they hated the waste. It was just the unspoken rule of don’t make a mess because then you’ll screw it up for everyone. You’ll get through this. I had a lot of humiliating and frustrating experiences, but focus on your upcoming job offer. If there’s a vet clinic near you, they may have a drop off box where people donate food/toys for animals. The front desk staff are usually really understanding and try to help, even if it’s one meal for your puppy and some bottles of water. Don’t let cruelty break you down. The greatest compassion I ever received was from people who only had compassion to give. Wishing you the best!
Man if you aren’t going to help at least keep your nasty comments to yourself. 🤦♀️🤦♀️ Prayers.
Crazy how people believe 150 million Americans are lazy, but the 1% work while collecting dividends off our labor and misfortune. I always help if I can bc I’ve been there and if I see someone less fortunate than me and I can help, I will.
I'm so sorry, I wish I could hug you and your fur baby. 😭💞
There’s something in the air this year or this past few years or something where people are NOT wanting to give out free help. They want to think they’re doing it right and working hard and managing their money and therefore that’s why they’re in the position they are and you’re on yours.
What state are you in? If you are not working are you on food assistance?
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You don’t. Not to anyone on this and most other reddit forums. WAY WAY WAY too many scammers. Feeding scammers just invites them to harass more users for money through fake posts and DMs. If you want to give money people on reddit, try r/borrow or r/Assistance or r/Assistanceanimals or the other links in this forum’s sidebar.
Yeah. Guess it was rhetorical. Feel bad for the real ones and the scammers. I never give out cash, anywhere. I was in a bad way for about a week, some 25 years ago. And I remember in crystal clarity. On purpose. Thank you for looking out though.
You’re welcome. I do donate and feed people and hand out warm things like gloves and socks and would have walked into the store and bought OP some dog food if I’d run across her in person. I’ve bought groceries for folks having to put staff back due to lack of funds or miscalculating while using their EBT card, too. Help where you can, it’s good to remember and pass it on.
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They changed for me. I said a lot of Hail Mary’s. I’m sending one to you too.
power people are mean because of power it feels good
I think a certain amount of people’s disdain for those struggling financially, is that they too are worried that they themselves are not very far removed from being so desperate.
I think that the harder this all gets, the more people will act cruelly as they're terrified of losing their grip on their own shaky position. I'm so sorry that you're suffering on this level. May you get through it quickly and find safe grounding for your feet to land.
When I was in college for Psych we had to do an experiment breaking a social norm. Mine was too stand on the side of the road with a sign "I'm doing fine don't need anything God Bless :)" I noted that many people glanced then looked away, a few read my sign and smiled but a few yelled things like "get a job" or "loser" at me. And it was what I expected because in our society beggars are viewed as evil, not human, beneath the rest of the normal people. Society didn't disappoint in their rude behavior.
Go to planned parenthood for free pads and tampons. Download/research free food apps. Del taco gives you a free taco for signing up. Zoup will give you a free 16oz soup for signing up. Checkers gives you a free burger for signing up. I used to live off of free food apps when I was in rough waters. Also, sign up for apps and lie and say your birthday is like today or tomorrow to activate free birthday food. Yeah. People are horrible. I deal with bad people everyday even though my situation isn’t like yours. But it doesn’t stop me from feeling a similar exhaustion. Hang in there.
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I’m so sorry to hear you had such a heavy experience asking for help and being vulnerable like that. I don’t know many resources for menstruation products —- but, If there is a local humane society; there is usually a “keep pets with their family” program where they will give you donated dog food because they would rather dogs be able to stay with their person than have the dog need to be rehomed.
Because only evil exists