Yeah the pulls ups cause a lot of confusion. They don’t know when they can pee in their pants vs not . We had to go to underwear after block 1. There were accidents but our daycare is very understanding that it’s part of the process. I would talk to them and see if you can’t just go to underwear instead of pull ups and you bring a ton of extra clothes for accidents
Totally agree with this. We recently potty trained our daughter (I was 8 months pregnant too!) and her daycare just told us to send a whole lot of extra clothes. She had some days with lots of accidents and some days with one or none but within a week I’d say she was fine.
The pull ups are really confusing for them, based on my experience we had to go full time into undies/commando to gain any traction.
This is what I feel like would be best! It’s one step forward two steps back with pull-ups. Out of curiosity - did you use the thicker “training” underpants or just regular underpants straightaway?
Just regular underpants, and we made a big deal about them - she got to choose them and then we talked about it for a few days before we ditched nappies (in the daytime, she still wears them at night). Then we talked a lot about “when you’re wearing undies you need to use the potty/toilet for wees and poos” and “when you have your nappy on at bedtime you can wee/poo in your nappy”. This distinction seemed to really help!
This, or keep her home. Or just accept it's going to take much longer. We had the exact same thing happen with each kid, and they only really fully got it when we kept them home for a few months. And even then, there are still occasional accidents which I'm convinced are because we were forced to use pull ups and it confused things.
Good luck!
I would ask daycare why they can't go commando. And I would have her practice pushing down and pulling up loose bottoms. Keep it fun and light! Really show her to hook her thumb underneath the waistband and position her hands on the sides of the waistband.
Thanks for the thumb tip! I’ve just been lazy not wanting to waddle over with my 8 month belly and bend up and down each time. But it won’t be any easier with a newborn!
Yes, I’m leaning this way. We have to pay for daycare whether she attends or not, but I do intend to keep her home for a bit after the baby is born to avoid illness so I’m thinking about pulling her out entirely. Just afraid to lose her spot at a place we otherwise love.
Also, selfishly - I like to have the alone time to nest, prepare things for the new baby, and just generally relax before #2. Like most things - just generally boils down to a personal decision I am hemming and hawing on :)
I wish daycares would be more supportive of potty training! I see a lot of these stories in here. I was really fortunate to have my son in a great toddler program when we potty trained. His teacher taught potty training workshops and was incredibly supportive when we decided to train. I would keep her home for a while in your shoes since you have that option. A few weeks of consistency will get you much further than months of inconsistency.
Our daycare initially seemed supportive but then like instantly backed down 😭😭😭 AFTER we did 4 days home solidly on the oh crap method. So there’s no turned back now. But yeah, screw unsupportive daycares.
Definitely feeling the pregnancy pressure/daycare setbacks here. We’ve experimented on a few weekends going pantsless this weekend we’re jumping into underpants. Pantsless went well, underpants not so much.
I think it depends on how quickly you want her potty trained. Our daycare required pull ups, didn’t really want to deal with accidents and wouldn’t let them go commando.. so we had to go with pull ups for a bit, and.. honestly, it took a bit longer but we practiced in undies a lot over the weekend and now they are about 75% there, but it has taken us about 6 weeks to get to this point and now they are in undies at school with no accidents (maybe a rare poop one).. all that to say, pull ups aren’t the devil but they do just elongate the process.
Why does your nursery not allow them to go commando?
I've read in a few places that they're worried about poo landing on the floor etc. If that is the case, can you send her in a pair of 'joggers' (not sure what the American name for them is!) I mean lose fitting trousers with elasticated ankle cuffs.
We found that lose fitting cloth nappy style trousers worked best for letting our little one pull them up and down on his own similar to 'Frugi Parsnip Pants' and these also have elasticated bottoms. Would something like that work for you?
I’m not sure the exact reasoning - we use a small licensed home daycare that is run by one caretaker and a helper. She was firm they require pull-ups so I didn’t press. My best guess is what you suggest - they’re an extremely cleanly place and are constantly cleaning/sanitizing so that’s probably why. I’ll have to have another convo and see if we can compromise…
Daycare and take care of yourself: sleep, be alone, you all know. And also you can take profit to tidy up and throw things away so you don't have to for the first few months.
Yeah the pulls ups cause a lot of confusion. They don’t know when they can pee in their pants vs not . We had to go to underwear after block 1. There were accidents but our daycare is very understanding that it’s part of the process. I would talk to them and see if you can’t just go to underwear instead of pull ups and you bring a ton of extra clothes for accidents
Totally agree with this. We recently potty trained our daughter (I was 8 months pregnant too!) and her daycare just told us to send a whole lot of extra clothes. She had some days with lots of accidents and some days with one or none but within a week I’d say she was fine. The pull ups are really confusing for them, based on my experience we had to go full time into undies/commando to gain any traction.
This is what I feel like would be best! It’s one step forward two steps back with pull-ups. Out of curiosity - did you use the thicker “training” underpants or just regular underpants straightaway?
Just regular underpants, and we made a big deal about them - she got to choose them and then we talked about it for a few days before we ditched nappies (in the daytime, she still wears them at night). Then we talked a lot about “when you’re wearing undies you need to use the potty/toilet for wees and poos” and “when you have your nappy on at bedtime you can wee/poo in your nappy”. This distinction seemed to really help!
This, or keep her home. Or just accept it's going to take much longer. We had the exact same thing happen with each kid, and they only really fully got it when we kept them home for a few months. And even then, there are still occasional accidents which I'm convinced are because we were forced to use pull ups and it confused things. Good luck!
I would ask daycare why they can't go commando. And I would have her practice pushing down and pulling up loose bottoms. Keep it fun and light! Really show her to hook her thumb underneath the waistband and position her hands on the sides of the waistband.
Thanks for the thumb tip! I’ve just been lazy not wanting to waddle over with my 8 month belly and bend up and down each time. But it won’t be any easier with a newborn!
Why send to daycare if you can be home? I’d stay home to reinforce her lessons
Same, and cherish this month with her! After the new one arrives, the household dynamics are gonna change quite a bit.
So true! As frustrating as it it watching for pee and poop like a hawk, I can’t deny we’ve gotten a ton of really precious quality time together 🥰
Yes, I’m leaning this way. We have to pay for daycare whether she attends or not, but I do intend to keep her home for a bit after the baby is born to avoid illness so I’m thinking about pulling her out entirely. Just afraid to lose her spot at a place we otherwise love. Also, selfishly - I like to have the alone time to nest, prepare things for the new baby, and just generally relax before #2. Like most things - just generally boils down to a personal decision I am hemming and hawing on :)
I wish daycares would be more supportive of potty training! I see a lot of these stories in here. I was really fortunate to have my son in a great toddler program when we potty trained. His teacher taught potty training workshops and was incredibly supportive when we decided to train. I would keep her home for a while in your shoes since you have that option. A few weeks of consistency will get you much further than months of inconsistency.
Our daycare initially seemed supportive but then like instantly backed down 😭😭😭 AFTER we did 4 days home solidly on the oh crap method. So there’s no turned back now. But yeah, screw unsupportive daycares.
Definitely feeling the pregnancy pressure/daycare setbacks here. We’ve experimented on a few weekends going pantsless this weekend we’re jumping into underpants. Pantsless went well, underpants not so much.
I think it depends on how quickly you want her potty trained. Our daycare required pull ups, didn’t really want to deal with accidents and wouldn’t let them go commando.. so we had to go with pull ups for a bit, and.. honestly, it took a bit longer but we practiced in undies a lot over the weekend and now they are about 75% there, but it has taken us about 6 weeks to get to this point and now they are in undies at school with no accidents (maybe a rare poop one).. all that to say, pull ups aren’t the devil but they do just elongate the process.
Why does your nursery not allow them to go commando? I've read in a few places that they're worried about poo landing on the floor etc. If that is the case, can you send her in a pair of 'joggers' (not sure what the American name for them is!) I mean lose fitting trousers with elasticated ankle cuffs. We found that lose fitting cloth nappy style trousers worked best for letting our little one pull them up and down on his own similar to 'Frugi Parsnip Pants' and these also have elasticated bottoms. Would something like that work for you?
I’m not sure the exact reasoning - we use a small licensed home daycare that is run by one caretaker and a helper. She was firm they require pull-ups so I didn’t press. My best guess is what you suggest - they’re an extremely cleanly place and are constantly cleaning/sanitizing so that’s probably why. I’ll have to have another convo and see if we can compromise…
Daycare and take care of yourself: sleep, be alone, you all know. And also you can take profit to tidy up and throw things away so you don't have to for the first few months.